@DanW900 well, I have the same mark on that exact same place, and its from a surgery. I had my appendix taken away and I think that she had the same thing.
even in the middle - just listening to his remarkable patience and the calm manner he deals with the filtered thoughts she's battling on being tortured or feeling belittled by their offers.... his peaceful yet strong to help her see the distortion and separate the guilty/shaming emotions she *feels* instead of a hopeful gesture on their part....it made my eyes spontaneously well with tears. my dad, or mom, would never -on any subject- speak to me that way.
the worst thing parents can do ... is fuking stare!!! why the fuk would u stare at her eating, treat her like a normal person for fuk sake, and sit there and eat with here instead of watch her every bite!!!
if is was the parent i WOULD administer her to a psych ward. too bad if she would lose her career, but maybe with the pressure of her facing that in the future she will start eating, invite hordes of good looking guys in to the house saying she should gain weight or otherwise people would never find her attractive. i know it is the hard way, but sometimes you have to.
Most depressing sentence in the English language, curtesy of Vicky's father: I've started going into her bedroom again in the morning, just to make sure she's still warm and still alive.
i kind of rlly hate this girl i'm anorexic/ bulimic, myself and i do not get angry at ppl if they're eating in front of me it's hard but i mean it's my own fault that i can't eat
I remember when my stepfather tried to force me to eat an apple and I cried, I really didn't want to eat any dessert, I'd already eaten too much calories for that day. He asked angrily in front of my mother if I was anorexic. I was shocked I didn't want my mother to know that I was loosing weight, I was so afraid to be forced to eat & gain weight. I strongly refuted suffering from anorexia at that time. 4 months later, I started suffering from bulimia but with the same anorexic mind.
@catkittenlove Bulimia was worse for me than anorexia. When I was anorexic, I had the powerful feeling that I was able to control my weight and my life. But it was no more the case under bulimia, and the nightmare really began for me.
@catkittenlove I completely relate to that. In my worst bulimic periods, I just wanted to die. Not because I didn't want to live, but because I didn't want to live with bulimia. Rather dead then to live with that hell. In anorexic periods, I do feel better, because you at least have some sort of control. Not saying anorexia is less serious then bulimia, but in general, bulimics are way more depressed then anorexics.
@sodabeentjes Yes I completely agree with you. For me, anorexia and bulimia are the 2 ends of the same disorder. Like a straight line where anorexia on a side, bulimia on the other side, and we can be anywhere in between. When I was anorexic, at first I didn't experience bulimic period, but after some months, my body was starving and I started experiencing bulimic periods more and more often to the point where I had 4 or 5 bulimic crisis per day. And then I punished myself...
...by stopping eating completely during a week, until I failed and then the bulimic crisis came back...I was so depressed and ashamed to loose control to this point.
her dad is so more understanding than my parents. she is reacting the same as I, and her dad is calmly exlpaining himself.....thats hard for a parent to do and not go mental like a lot of parents.
I also think her dad is amazing, he really cares about her so much! Only I completely agree about Nerdfighter21... he doesn't really listen to her. I think they should tell her more that they love her and really listen to what she has to say!
Vicky's dad, when they're in the park with ice cream, doesn't seem intent on letting her speak. He interupts her every time she opens her mouth, and anything she does get in, he immediately contradicts. I understand he wants her to get better, but there's....a better way.
Her dad is making it a big issue, which is really giving this girl the negative attention she desires. You can tell that he cares, but staring her down and talking about food all of the time just makes it worse for her. The family discussions need to be focused on other things besides food. The girl has no responsibilities, so she doesn't really have a reason not to change her habits. I wouldn't want to eat that gross food at the fair, either. It's all chemicals. Yuck.
@meOisOme It's because you don't want people to see you as fat, to be judged as being a pig, you don't want to spend money on food or have other people spend money on food for you, all the weight you lost is for nothing if you gain it back etc
I am anorexic and sometimes I just wish my mum would care a little more and actually moniter and supervise my eating. Because I can't be trusted, but she doesn't understand and doesn't watch what I eat and don't eat. Even though she knows about my ED.
This is a disease. Parents cannot be the therapists. People need to treat her who don't care if she gets angry with them or even if she hates them. There can be no negotiating with an anorexic.
I'm so glad that the narrator of this documentary explains that anorexia is not just about being thin (because it's NOT - it's about CONTROL).
Vicky also says she sees her thin body as ugly. I saw that too - in myself - yet I still couldn't eat. Somehow many people think that anorexia is about glamour and beauty.... It's so not...
i COMPLETELY agree. my dad is like that .. he is really supportive and he had a brief obsession with calories and weight i mean not as bad as mine but he has somewhat of an idea and i think that helps. sometimes i feel like he's more help that y doctors. i just wish my parents understood a bit more
when i was like this, i was never made uncomfortable, i was lucky my dad really tried to help me, he didnt force me, he knew i wanted to recover so at first he would make very healthy home made meals even though i would only eat a tiny bit (things like baked fish brown rice and steamed veg) and get things like raw nuts and fruit and granola, and if he got something i was afraid to eat, i would just hav a bite... u just hav to be understanding, i just hav to stop thinking im fat..
in fairness i think the both of her parents are AMAZING the way theyre dealing with this.theyre only human and by god they are doing a far better job than what my emotions would allow for when my twin had anorexia
@lessismore44 Erm, try having an ED. The loved ones devastation is nothing in comparison. People can be so selfish. Try & think of how the sufferer is feeling inside. I can assure you, it's much worse. People commit suicide because of how much pain they're in. I'd know, I've tried.
Ze is zo'n mooi en lief meisje. Vind het echt verdrietig om dit te zien.. ben blij dat het nu veel beter gaat!
BenoOtety 1 month ago
what's that mark on her stomach at 6:18?
DanW900 3 months ago
@DanW900 well, I have the same mark on that exact same place, and its from a surgery. I had my appendix taken away and I think that she had the same thing.
xUnholyConfessions1 1 month ago
OMG it's quiet during their meal, and Vicky is the only who eat... It's why I eat my meals very quickly
justemoikmie 3 months ago
ugh, the sound of food being swallowed, so disgusting xD
TheSnuffy1994 3 months ago
even in the middle - just listening to his remarkable patience and the calm manner he deals with the filtered thoughts she's battling on being tortured or feeling belittled by their offers.... his peaceful yet strong to help her see the distortion and separate the guilty/shaming emotions she *feels* instead of a hopeful gesture on their part....it made my eyes spontaneously well with tears. my dad, or mom, would never -on any subject- speak to me that way.
Her dad.. is an EXTRAORDINARY man.
motionlesssndtrk 4 months ago
the worst thing parents can do ... is fuking stare!!! why the fuk would u stare at her eating, treat her like a normal person for fuk sake, and sit there and eat with here instead of watch her every bite!!!
NeverEndingBattle1 4 months ago 4
@NeverEndingBattle1 They're fuCking staring because she's proven herself to be untrustworthy, so they HAVE to watch her every move.
AndeeSmith89 3 months ago
wow. her sister's wedding was all about her. wow. I'm not being rude. I recovered..."recovered".
I did NOT go around making everyone's birthdays and weddings all about me.
shapescake 5 months ago 2
if is was the parent i WOULD administer her to a psych ward. too bad if she would lose her career, but maybe with the pressure of her facing that in the future she will start eating, invite hordes of good looking guys in to the house saying she should gain weight or otherwise people would never find her attractive. i know it is the hard way, but sometimes you have to.
23viktor23 5 months ago
awww the dads so cute!!
EsmeXLee 6 months ago 3
Most depressing sentence in the English language, curtesy of Vicky's father: I've started going into her bedroom again in the morning, just to make sure she's still warm and still alive.
:( Sadface forever :(
majikpaige 7 months ago
What an amazing dad/ familiy
HoiYiHeartAttack 8 months ago
i kind of rlly hate this girl i'm anorexic/ bulimic, myself and i do not get angry at ppl if they're eating in front of me it's hard but i mean it's my own fault that i can't eat
lunaissoawesome 9 months ago
I love her dad and his words: "You have to be lovingly tough"
Monis188 9 months ago 5
I wish my stupid dad cared about me like that
fushadragon 9 months ago 6
I remember when my stepfather tried to force me to eat an apple and I cried, I really didn't want to eat any dessert, I'd already eaten too much calories for that day. He asked angrily in front of my mother if I was anorexic. I was shocked I didn't want my mother to know that I was loosing weight, I was so afraid to be forced to eat & gain weight. I strongly refuted suffering from anorexia at that time. 4 months later, I started suffering from bulimia but with the same anorexic mind.
catkittenlove 10 months ago
@catkittenlove Bulimia was worse for me than anorexia. When I was anorexic, I had the powerful feeling that I was able to control my weight and my life. But it was no more the case under bulimia, and the nightmare really began for me.
catkittenlove 10 months ago
@catkittenlove I completely relate to that. In my worst bulimic periods, I just wanted to die. Not because I didn't want to live, but because I didn't want to live with bulimia. Rather dead then to live with that hell. In anorexic periods, I do feel better, because you at least have some sort of control. Not saying anorexia is less serious then bulimia, but in general, bulimics are way more depressed then anorexics.
sodabeentjes 9 months ago
@sodabeentjes Yes I completely agree with you. For me, anorexia and bulimia are the 2 ends of the same disorder. Like a straight line where anorexia on a side, bulimia on the other side, and we can be anywhere in between. When I was anorexic, at first I didn't experience bulimic period, but after some months, my body was starving and I started experiencing bulimic periods more and more often to the point where I had 4 or 5 bulimic crisis per day. And then I punished myself...
catkittenlove 9 months ago
...by stopping eating completely during a week, until I failed and then the bulimic crisis came back...I was so depressed and ashamed to loose control to this point.
catkittenlove 9 months ago
*faint not fail, sorry
catkittenlove 9 months ago
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catkittenlove 10 months ago
"I've started to go into her bedroom in the morning to see if she's still warm and still alive."
How heartbreaking :'(
lorraineistheeggman 11 months ago 5
her dad is so more understanding than my parents. she is reacting the same as I, and her dad is calmly exlpaining himself.....thats hard for a parent to do and not go mental like a lot of parents.
indyanajones 1 year ago 10
I also think her dad is amazing, he really cares about her so much! Only I completely agree about Nerdfighter21... he doesn't really listen to her. I think they should tell her more that they love her and really listen to what she has to say!
gestoordegitarist 1 year ago 2
Vicky's dad, when they're in the park with ice cream, doesn't seem intent on letting her speak. He interupts her every time she opens her mouth, and anything she does get in, he immediately contradicts. I understand he wants her to get better, but there's....a better way.
Nerdfighter21 1 year ago 2
Her dad is making it a big issue, which is really giving this girl the negative attention she desires. You can tell that he cares, but staring her down and talking about food all of the time just makes it worse for her. The family discussions need to be focused on other things besides food. The girl has no responsibilities, so she doesn't really have a reason not to change her habits. I wouldn't want to eat that gross food at the fair, either. It's all chemicals. Yuck.
CastleOfButterflies 1 year ago
I can't believe people are bashing on her parents, what do you expect them to do in that situation, they can't watch her die.
PuffyAmiYumi 1 year ago 9
I wish I had a father like him....
missvirtuality13 1 year ago 5
I feel so bad for her family. Especially her younger sister I hope she doesn't get anorexia as well.
kiara282 1 year ago
I really don't understand this disease.. How can you feel so guilty by just eating food? I just can not imagine
meOisOme 1 year ago 3
@meOisOme It's because you don't want people to see you as fat, to be judged as being a pig, you don't want to spend money on food or have other people spend money on food for you, all the weight you lost is for nothing if you gain it back etc
kiara282 1 year ago
i wondering how vicky is doing right now!
Loeskedegexte 1 year ago
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Stupid father.... Oh that stuff is JUST in your head, just eat....PRICK.
fleurdesneiges99 1 year ago
Saying "Thats rubbish" when a anorexia patients tells them how she feels .. is probably the worst thing to say.
gleymmerei 1 year ago
this is so sad...
lunachi007 1 year ago
aww the poor dad :(
FixMeThin7 1 year ago 3
What language is this one?
puccakarito 2 years ago
@puccakarito it is dutch!^^
KawaiiHelloKitty911 2 years ago 2
Dutch
sjannekebono 2 years ago
@puccakarito
Dutch
AykutBoy 2 years ago
I am anorexic and sometimes I just wish my mum would care a little more and actually moniter and supervise my eating. Because I can't be trusted, but she doesn't understand and doesn't watch what I eat and don't eat. Even though she knows about my ED.
anaelisebeth 2 years ago 6
@anaelisebeth horrible! :( i feel sorry for you
aFlowerInYourHair 1 year ago
I'd hate to have people sit and stare at me watching me eat.
tempercita 2 years ago 10
This is a disease. Parents cannot be the therapists. People need to treat her who don't care if she gets angry with them or even if she hates them. There can be no negotiating with an anorexic.
ADenny12 2 years ago 8
Her dad words were so touching | almost cried
He cares so much He doesn't want to lose his little girl:(
Monis188 2 years ago 4
I know I got teary eyed.
Lisa13245 2 years ago
thier parents wont let her talk ughh frustating
wickedwatwat1 2 years ago
6:02 damn that's a sexy stomach 6:20 You're physically attractive to me. Hell yeah.
Eldathik 2 years ago
7:09 gotta love it
Eldathik 2 years ago
omg the words of her dad.. aahww he cares so much! does anybody know how vicky is doing now??
snibjah 2 years ago 3
I love the Dutch language. Used to want to be fluent in German, but this language makes more sense to me than the latter.
cryingforashadow 2 years ago 2
I'm so glad that the narrator of this documentary explains that anorexia is not just about being thin (because it's NOT - it's about CONTROL).
Vicky also says she sees her thin body as ugly. I saw that too - in myself - yet I still couldn't eat. Somehow many people think that anorexia is about glamour and beauty.... It's so not...
misstiggykins 2 years ago 8
"But now, four years on, Vicki, from Offerton, is a beautiful and healthy young woman who says she will never starve herself again."
thefirsttaste 2 years ago
i love her hair lol.
smellyfish555 2 years ago
This video was nearly heart-breaking. Her dad cares for her so much, but he seems to feel so helpless.
judithk 2 years ago 4
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shove a spoonful in her mouth and there. She makes her own life shitty.
cositalinda861 2 years ago
i think her dad's amazing..he's really a great man,a wonderful person and seems really sensitive..
vicky's lucky to have such a wonderful person around her
extensa08 2 years ago 123
i COMPLETELY agree. my dad is like that .. he is really supportive and he had a brief obsession with calories and weight i mean not as bad as mine but he has somewhat of an idea and i think that helps. sometimes i feel like he's more help that y doctors. i just wish my parents understood a bit more
sweetiepie456 2 years ago 3
@extensa08 I really do wish the best for the family. I wish I had a father like that
kiara282 1 year ago
@extensa08 i agree, he seems to be the only parents who's truly trying. her mother just sits there exasperated
nesqualomimocho 1 year ago 6
when i was like this, i was never made uncomfortable, i was lucky my dad really tried to help me, he didnt force me, he knew i wanted to recover so at first he would make very healthy home made meals even though i would only eat a tiny bit (things like baked fish brown rice and steamed veg) and get things like raw nuts and fruit and granola, and if he got something i was afraid to eat, i would just hav a bite... u just hav to be understanding, i just hav to stop thinking im fat..
Cherinbrook 2 years ago 6
its funny to note the way they are all sitting on the grass-her opposite the rest of the family as if shes on her own:(:(
yvonnem1987 2 years ago 5
thanks for uploading this video!xx
yvonnem1987 2 years ago 3
Her mom is so annoying , she doesnt understand and she is quite selfish.
me2u2like 2 years ago
in fairness i think the both of her parents are AMAZING the way theyre dealing with this.theyre only human and by god they are doing a far better job than what my emotions would allow for when my twin had anorexia
yvonnem1987 2 years ago 7
Yeah but her mom is really selfish i think.Its her child.
me2u2like 2 years ago
wnneer hebben ze deze reportage gemaakt?
hoiiooiiooiiooiiooii 2 years ago
In 2000
sodabeentjes 2 years ago 4
ik vindt het zielig maar ook gwn dom
ze vindt het niet leuk dat er eten voor de neu nee rwordt gelegt moet niet zeuren want zemag eten x]
yendo2201 2 years ago
Her Dad's reaction at the end--heartbreaking. Sometimes a loved one's devastation can seem harsher than ones own suffering.
lessismore44 3 years ago 82
@lessismore44 Erm, try having an ED. The loved ones devastation is nothing in comparison. People can be so selfish. Try & think of how the sufferer is feeling inside. I can assure you, it's much worse. People commit suicide because of how much pain they're in. I'd know, I've tried.
MyLifeMyEverything92 1 year ago
omg!!!
olrs20 3 years ago 2