This is breaking my heart. My father walked out. I just don't understand why so many black men just refuse to take responsibility. I don't excuse women who have children with these men but the fact of the matter is they have this mentality that the man is supposed to lead and they don't. They just don't. I'll never forget my father just walking away. My mother did everything she could and he just walked away. She wasn't happy either but she was committed and that made all the difference to me.
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Well, there is a good black man that is watching this video and I know other brothers that are educated and handle their business. My comment is that if a man like this approaches you and you date him, in due time you should tell whether this individual is worth your time. I can listen to a few sentences and tell what kind of man he is. Stop making excuses and stop having sex with men like this.
This has little to do with race, and more to deal with maturity and hometraining. Child support court does not discriminate based on race or gender. This goes to being mindful of who you bind yourself to. He can't stand his childrens' mothers which means he did not choose someone to give his seed too. He is shiftless and always has been apparently, which means she did not choose the proper person from whom to accept the gift of a child. Judge Toler says it all though.
I hate to see things like this. How can you not care for your own children? Children that are more connected to you than any woman or person could ever be? And have such a disrespectful and WHATEVER attitude for the woman who was your wife. Even if the two of you don't see the same as you once did, how can you not care about where the woman that used to be "your all" lay her head at night....especially if she's the one taking care of the child? Just shameful. And that is what it is to be a man?
lmao he talk like he a pretty boy and all that..lol he find women wit low selfeteem but when they loose wieght and feel better about theyself or get a job they run...
Juanita made a good decision. It would be difficult for her 2 go preach with a bruised face and a broken heart. All she needs is time 2 heal, and with God on her side she'l be well....otherwise theres no big issue, God allow certain things 2 happen for a reason. This will be a testimony, one day shes goin 2 help millions of pple with that testimony. Jus like "No more sheets", it brought many 2 their sanity; the testimony in that sermon is powerful, its still serving souls out there.
I can so understand the Judges' frustration and anger. The man is an ignorant fool and the woman should know better but at the end of the day many of these women don't respect themselves and most of these men don't respect them. Such a sad state of affairs that so many of us allow men to trest us this way and it needs to stop. I feel sorry for the the children that he produced what kind of example is this?????/
@ChristinePadillaELA I do not agree, I treat them both equally because when the woman accepts it is only her responsibility then it handicaps the black man and teaches them they are not accountable for their actions nor do we expect anything from them as men, we regulate them to being children. I am African American, no kids, college educated and happy but I see what is happening in the community as being equally at fault. We must ALL be responsible for our action, we are not children.
It was so hard for me to understand what the couple was stating in the beginning (poor speech and grammar)... they where talking like they had a lot of water in their mouths'... It would be wonderful if they would take the opportunity to go and see a speech and language pathologist, hopefully then an understanding can be reached between the two of them. However, great message judge Toler!
I understand her anger for this mans honesty about how he just goes from one female to the other but. I must say that the problem is both of them not just him females like his ex are constantly doing the same thing getting with the wrong person so it is their own faults of their bad decission making. And also his as well because she is no good for him either both of them need to grow up and be both a man, & a woman, neither of them should even be allowed to have children.
I'm glad that Judge Lynn read him. The only problem is, he didn't really get it. There are millions of good Black men out there that are respecting and taking care of their wives and their children. When we chose the wrong people, we have difficult relationships.
Btw the Game will be over soon Lynn. There's plenty of good men but we're just not very desirable. So we wait for the emotionally battered women to come our way. We project nothing but goodness but eventually it translates to 'not meeting needs' for partner. The lack of need causes partner to cheat with a more badder/desirable individual leaving the good man to wonder. Why? Maybe if I was bad; my heart wouldn't hurt so much...
This is why manhood is destined to do nothing but crumble... How sad
Judge Lynn hit the nail on the head and it's a shame he doesnt get it. Women that have bad relationships, i know its isnt easy but if we keep trying to make that bad man good, all we are really doing is running ourselves down in the end. we have to learn when to STOP trying and let it go.
Preach Judge Lynn. I am forever grateful for my black father. He taught be and showed what a man should be, not just black men, but what a man should be period and yes as a single woman I can say the blk men that are available arent the good ones. There are plenty of fish in the sea, stop swimming in swamps. You should never expect more when you settle for less! Its okay to have high standards. Know your worth. BW its okay to be open to possiblites. Change your mind, change your life!
@Canm4 So its okay to not to date someone who has mutiple children all over..male or female. Its okay to want someone whose educated, ambitious, goal-oriented, responsible, accountable, without a prison record and its okay to accept someone that isnt AS LONG AS THEY TREAT YOU RIGHT AND RESPECT YOU. Women are taught to accept flawed men to begin with, especially women of color. You dont have to settle for less. There's a big difference in man that has good intentions and one that doesnt.
One of you say all these bw don't want good bm. If that's true than wouldn't it mean most bm are no good if that's all bw date? Besides where are these supposed good bm? Hiding somewhere? Cause 72% of our children are without fathers. So tell us where bw can find these alleged good bm.
This is not my generation, I do not understand how or why we got to this state as a people. My father was my father, he married mama first then got her a house then started a family. My examples of black men were great when I was growing up but like the judge said the definition of manhood shifted to the left and down. Too many black men have fallen or jumped backwards and do not take responsiblity. I am happy this is not part of my inner reality.
This sucks. Judge Lynn basically pours her heart out and drops some serious knowledge on this man and he don't get it. I hope some other brothers heard this.
This boy not man is what black girls want, so the blame goes on the black girls for choosing these boys to father their children making the children suffer. these girls The good black men are not wanted by black girls watch the ungratefull woman video by this judge you will see an example.
There is a large % of black men like that who have no clue how to prepare a child for the world but i blame the black women for chosing these BOYS to father their children, they had a choice, most of the times the black women dont even want the kids what they want is these boys so they have its children as a way of trying to hold on to it. The children grow up with no life skills and fail. later these "parents" have no one to look after them in their old age because their children FAILED! CYCLE
I blame them both, this can not be done with the participation of one. The disentergration of the Black family, the lost of pride and self-worth, the endless making of babies with no stable family structure, the lack of education, the acceptance that it is not important to have guidelines and rules applied to our lives is gone. My mom and dad married then had us kids. My dad taughtwhat a good black man does, and that it take responsibility for their lives. Both are to blame.
i dont see any of them defending you", then you say, "when i say "you' i mean bw in general". i was talking about black MEN, so why the hell would black WOMEN "defend" me? clearly, YOU are the one that's getting tired. shoo, fly, shoo!
Wow, this is one truly sad man. He can't speak, talks like a idiot and when someone is trying to school him it goes right over his head. I hope the judge knows someone out there heard her, this message was not said in vain.
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that is sad. Big ups to the moms AND dads out there that love their kids and want to spend time with their kids and build relationships with their kids even if they dont have the funds to buy them EVERYTHING they want. Big ups to the ones that make sure their child still knows they love the shit out of them.
U've made the best possible statement on this subject and being a good parent isnt about giving ur kids everything they ask for cause as much as we'd like to we cant promise to give the world but sometimes all kids really need is for the parents to love and take care of them.
This is breaking my heart. My father walked out. I just don't understand why so many black men just refuse to take responsibility. I don't excuse women who have children with these men but the fact of the matter is they have this mentality that the man is supposed to lead and they don't. They just don't. I'll never forget my father just walking away. My mother did everything she could and he just walked away. She wasn't happy either but she was committed and that made all the difference to me.
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MenWinningDivorce 2 months ago
Lord Jesus, mm m
Mommo42 2 months ago
Well, there is a good black man that is watching this video and I know other brothers that are educated and handle their business. My comment is that if a man like this approaches you and you date him, in due time you should tell whether this individual is worth your time. I can listen to a few sentences and tell what kind of man he is. Stop making excuses and stop having sex with men like this.
mostsincere 3 months ago
Two fruitcakes. This poor judge has wasted her time and breathe.
serpentinecreature 3 months ago
Two fruitcakes.
serpentinecreature 3 months ago
the wife///she picked him and had his baby!! shame on her!!!
rozozzy 4 months ago
Don't worry women. They are plenty of good men out there taking care of their business
buddaman200522 4 months ago in playlist buddaman200522's favorites
The speech that the judge gave the guy was completely lost on him.
teachateacha 4 months ago
This has little to do with race, and more to deal with maturity and hometraining. Child support court does not discriminate based on race or gender. This goes to being mindful of who you bind yourself to. He can't stand his childrens' mothers which means he did not choose someone to give his seed too. He is shiftless and always has been apparently, which means she did not choose the proper person from whom to accept the gift of a child. Judge Toler says it all though.
MsYBBG 6 months ago
This isn't just an insult to black men...but every single man living & deceased should be ashamed that this person is part of their gender...SMH
MsSooRandom 7 months ago
@MsSooRandom agreed!
Cheatalia 6 months ago
Men, (Black, white, latin, all men, handle your business)
buddaman200522 7 months ago
God forgive me, I wanted to beat this fool till my arms got tired. Men like him make it hard for descent black men like me.
pitmascus 8 months ago
I hate to see things like this. How can you not care for your own children? Children that are more connected to you than any woman or person could ever be? And have such a disrespectful and WHATEVER attitude for the woman who was your wife. Even if the two of you don't see the same as you once did, how can you not care about where the woman that used to be "your all" lay her head at night....especially if she's the one taking care of the child? Just shameful. And that is what it is to be a man?
LadyBug3314 9 months ago
The judge is very heartfelt.... But the women have to be responsible too.
TriaMaxwell 9 months ago 3
Damn they are country as hell. Whooo...
summerbaby727 9 months ago
lmao he talk like he a pretty boy and all that..lol he find women wit low selfeteem but when they loose wieght and feel better about theyself or get a job they run...
patjose100 10 months ago
God bless the Judge, she put her heart and soul into that speech of hers. She has SOUL.
MEDSEC20 10 months ago 2
Juanita made a good decision. It would be difficult for her 2 go preach with a bruised face and a broken heart. All she needs is time 2 heal, and with God on her side she'l be well....otherwise theres no big issue, God allow certain things 2 happen for a reason. This will be a testimony, one day shes goin 2 help millions of pple with that testimony. Jus like "No more sheets", it brought many 2 their sanity; the testimony in that sermon is powerful, its still serving souls out there.
zecification 11 months ago
Now, with a face like that, he need not say anything.
Lipsandass 11 months ago
She shouldn't be a judge. Menstrous woman lol
cisjay 11 months ago
there is good pepole out there
nvccpuller 1 year ago
I can so understand the Judges' frustration and anger. The man is an ignorant fool and the woman should know better but at the end of the day many of these women don't respect themselves and most of these men don't respect them. Such a sad state of affairs that so many of us allow men to trest us this way and it needs to stop. I feel sorry for the the children that he produced what kind of example is this?????/
croydongurl 1 year ago
EWWW.. This is sad.
lovingwife13proudmom 1 year ago
@ChristinePadillaELA I do not agree, I treat them both equally because when the woman accepts it is only her responsibility then it handicaps the black man and teaches them they are not accountable for their actions nor do we expect anything from them as men, we regulate them to being children. I am African American, no kids, college educated and happy but I see what is happening in the community as being equally at fault. We must ALL be responsible for our action, we are not children.
kimrabb 1 year ago
awww man judge toler got do emotional
3669angel 1 year ago
It was so hard for me to understand what the couple was stating in the beginning (poor speech and grammar)... they where talking like they had a lot of water in their mouths'... It would be wonderful if they would take the opportunity to go and see a speech and language pathologist, hopefully then an understanding can be reached between the two of them. However, great message judge Toler!
ExtremelyClassy 1 year ago
I understand her anger for this mans honesty about how he just goes from one female to the other but. I must say that the problem is both of them not just him females like his ex are constantly doing the same thing getting with the wrong person so it is their own faults of their bad decission making. And also his as well because she is no good for him either both of them need to grow up and be both a man, & a woman, neither of them should even be allowed to have children.
SuperZeitGeist1 1 year ago
I'm glad that Judge Lynn read him. The only problem is, he didn't really get it. There are millions of good Black men out there that are respecting and taking care of their wives and their children. When we chose the wrong people, we have difficult relationships.
SuperTruthful 1 year ago
@SuperTruthful you are so right my sista!
Super00112287 1 year ago
Btw the Game will be over soon Lynn. There's plenty of good men but we're just not very desirable. So we wait for the emotionally battered women to come our way. We project nothing but goodness but eventually it translates to 'not meeting needs' for partner. The lack of need causes partner to cheat with a more badder/desirable individual leaving the good man to wonder. Why? Maybe if I was bad; my heart wouldn't hurt so much...
This is why manhood is destined to do nothing but crumble... How sad
Chuckwunoso 1 year ago
Because you go for bad boys... full stop
Then you say you want to make this bad man into a good man;
Here's an idea why not go for a good man in the first place and cut out the pain and suffering. Logic doesn't work though, it probably never will...
Chuckwunoso 1 year ago
get em JUDGE!
Judge Lynn hit the nail on the head and it's a shame he doesnt get it. Women that have bad relationships, i know its isnt easy but if we keep trying to make that bad man good, all we are really doing is running ourselves down in the end. we have to learn when to STOP trying and let it go.
MsDelanda 1 year ago
get em JUDGE!
MsDelanda 1 year ago
Who taught these people English? No girl you're not fabulous.
TheBlackLesbian 1 year ago
Preach Judge Lynn. I am forever grateful for my black father. He taught be and showed what a man should be, not just black men, but what a man should be period and yes as a single woman I can say the blk men that are available arent the good ones. There are plenty of fish in the sea, stop swimming in swamps. You should never expect more when you settle for less! Its okay to have high standards. Know your worth. BW its okay to be open to possiblites. Change your mind, change your life!
Canm4 1 year ago 3
@Canm4 So its okay to not to date someone who has mutiple children all over..male or female. Its okay to want someone whose educated, ambitious, goal-oriented, responsible, accountable, without a prison record and its okay to accept someone that isnt AS LONG AS THEY TREAT YOU RIGHT AND RESPECT YOU. Women are taught to accept flawed men to begin with, especially women of color. You dont have to settle for less. There's a big difference in man that has good intentions and one that doesnt.
Canm4 1 year ago 2
One of you say all these bw don't want good bm. If that's true than wouldn't it mean most bm are no good if that's all bw date? Besides where are these supposed good bm? Hiding somewhere? Cause 72% of our children are without fathers. So tell us where bw can find these alleged good bm.
impatientwithdesire 1 year ago 2
@impatientwithdesire ther are goo black men out there... you just have to be willing to look for them and have higher standards.
avastacia 1 year ago
This is not my generation, I do not understand how or why we got to this state as a people. My father was my father, he married mama first then got her a house then started a family. My examples of black men were great when I was growing up but like the judge said the definition of manhood shifted to the left and down. Too many black men have fallen or jumped backwards and do not take responsiblity. I am happy this is not part of my inner reality.
kimrabb 1 year ago 4
This sucks. Judge Lynn basically pours her heart out and drops some serious knowledge on this man and he don't get it. I hope some other brothers heard this.
Alanboy395 1 year ago
I can actually see all the words she saying go over his head!
bornid1913 1 year ago
This boy not man is what black girls want, so the blame goes on the black girls for choosing these boys to father their children making the children suffer. these girls The good black men are not wanted by black girls watch the ungratefull woman video by this judge you will see an example.
ukblk121 1 year ago
lord i caint believe that this dude aint felt the judge
jesusyarrup 1 year ago
There is a large % of black men like that who have no clue how to prepare a child for the world but i blame the black women for chosing these BOYS to father their children, they had a choice, most of the times the black women dont even want the kids what they want is these boys so they have its children as a way of trying to hold on to it. The children grow up with no life skills and fail. later these "parents" have no one to look after them in their old age because their children FAILED! CYCLE
ukblk121 1 year ago
@ukblk121 lol are you stalking me we watching this clip at the saame time lol
jesusyarrup 1 year ago
I blame them both, this can not be done with the participation of one. The disentergration of the Black family, the lost of pride and self-worth, the endless making of babies with no stable family structure, the lack of education, the acceptance that it is not important to have guidelines and rules applied to our lives is gone. My mom and dad married then had us kids. My dad taughtwhat a good black man does, and that it take responsibility for their lives. Both are to blame.
kimrabb 1 year ago
@kimrabb whoa! watch your mouth! not all black families have lost pride and self worth, sir. speak for yourself on that one!
avastacia 1 year ago
@avastacia yea there aregood bm but so what
i dont see any of them defending you
impatientwithdesire 1 year ago
@impatientwithdesire i don't need "defending". what the hell does that have to do w/ what i said?
avastacia 1 year ago
@avastacia - when i say "you' i mean bw in general
impatientwithdesire 1 year ago
@impatientwithdesire that makes no sense whatsoever...
avastacia 1 year ago
@avastacia yay
now go please
this is getting tired
impatientwithdesire 1 year ago
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@impatientwithdesire first you say," yea there aregood bm but so what
i dont see any of them defending you", then you say, "when i say "you' i mean bw in general". i was talking about black MEN, so why the hell would black WOMEN "defend" me? clearly, YOU are the one that's getting tired. shoo, fly, shoo!
avastacia 1 year ago
@impatientwithdesire shut up, fool!
avastacia 1 year ago
my dad is a punk ass bitch if i see him i might punch him in the face, but im gonna have to lose weight first im to big to throw fast combos lol
gwa56 1 year ago
Wow, this is one truly sad man. He can't speak, talks like a idiot and when someone is trying to school him it goes right over his head. I hope the judge knows someone out there heard her, this message was not said in vain.
actright512 1 year ago
Does he floss with a jump rope or a telephone pole?
October3074 1 year ago
wow judge lynn that was passionate and compleatlly right....shes my fav tv judge
lickmaclitt 2 years ago 2
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lickmaclitt 2 years ago
Cordell & Cordell P.C. knows how to maket their company towards men. They do not fight for the rights of men by fighting for justice in state laws. Instead they tell the client they fight for you then do what it takes to keep the fight going......
Remember: There is only one winner in a divorce; the lawyer!
.
CoffeeRick1 2 years ago
:-(
AlsoKnownAsTruth 2 years ago
we lost that game long time ago. lucky for us there are new rules written for the current game. thanks to progressive white people and obama
kidcanman 2 years ago
I dunno where the rest of the good black men are but I can tell u that I got 1 @t home workin' his ass off 2 support me & our children.
DaAngelGurley 2 years ago 17
that is sad. Big ups to the moms AND dads out there that love their kids and want to spend time with their kids and build relationships with their kids even if they dont have the funds to buy them EVERYTHING they want. Big ups to the ones that make sure their child still knows they love the shit out of them.
SHiDAB00 2 years ago 25
U've made the best possible statement on this subject and being a good parent isnt about giving ur kids everything they ask for cause as much as we'd like to we cant promise to give the world but sometimes all kids really need is for the parents to love and take care of them.
faithfulmonkey 2 years ago