i have autism and i think it's greet to see that people understand it and and the eye contact is true but people still don't know not to make eye contact with someone who has autism
i have autism and i think it's greet to see that people understand it and and the eye contact is true but people still don't know not to make eye contact with someone who has autism
I have ASD and I find haircuts horrible. I am a girl so the buzz cut thing doesn't work for me (not that my parents haven't threatend in desperation). It is really a combination of many things.1) The hairdressers (and the mall in general) is a very noisy place.2) When the hair hits my skin, or worse still is trapped down my shirt, it's awful.3) You are forced to sit still for a long time.4) The fact that someone is touching you. My parents cut my hair for years and even then it was excruciating.
This is the best video I have seen. I did a similar thing with my son. We caught the ferry and went to the zoo many times. We would always visit the elephants. One day he finally said 'elephant' unprompted. I was so happy. Since then I indulge him in anything that interests him. He has an astronaut outfit and helmet and has learnt all about the planets and galaxies.
Encouraging, engaging and utilising their interests is the best way to start to break through the fog of autism in my opinion.
This is the best video on Autism by an NT (no offense) EVER. I hope all parents with autistic kids watch this and TAKE NOTES. You're a credit to your son and to our (spectrumites) hope of being understood and accepted. Kudos!
I recently attended an annual training through my job. (I work in childcare) The morning session was dedicated to having a better understanding of autism. The speaker showed this clip & it touched my heart, and I found myself sobbing almost uncontrollably. I can tell that Chase is a very lucky boy to have a mother like you. Thank you for making such a touching clip.
@kayleesmommyj That is GREAT! Chase is six years old now, speaking very clearly in full sentences and attending blended kindergarten, reading, spelling, everything. making an effort to understand IS the key! Yaaaaay!
I love your video. Our daughter loves animals as well. Again, her speech developed around animals. She is getting an Autism Service Dog in October we can't wait to see how this will help her. She is so calm around dogs.
My friends tell me that I could write a book on the 101 amazing things about my children with autism. I say the funny things. they are always into something which makes me smile! My fridge is also the most organized fridge in Nova Scotia right now. hehe
Omigod that brought tears. Lucky for Chase that he has a great mum, you should be so proud. I'm an adult 'aspy' and two of my boys have the same thing.
Someone here said happy children learn. Yes, so true! Tom :)
i was very moved by this video. i am thinking of becoming a speech-language pathologist and this kind of information could be very valuable in my career. thank you.
this is a wonderful video! and i love how you look at all the good in autism! you can teach so many other parents out there on just how to love their child for who they are and not to be so sad because of autism... autism is who your child is and parents need to stop and learn to love autism...
Hi! been watching your vids and must say I totally agree with you... You're describing me and my son. good somebody else has my point of view, I had to struggle with many contrary opinions that made me unsure of my instincts. We are very attached and our relatives tried to separate us to make way into his life but If they want his love and atention (wich is wonderfull) they have to live up to the high standards I set for him. They have to understand him as I do. its working. Thank you
yes I also agree with you.I also have a 6 yrs old boy with autism.His kindergarden teacher found out that my son has autism.I never knew what is autism is.Now he is gonna be in 1st grade next month.He is a very talented boy.We are blessed to have them.God loves you and your son.
Spot on with this video. Using your love and instincts to teach your child you listen with your heart. My son and I communicate without words. I just had to set aside my expectations and allow him to teach me. He learns when he is loved and happy. I too have seen the pain that forcing autistic children can cause. Once I stopped trying to force him, we didnt need speech. Words and speech only caused confusion. My son is starting now to vocalise he is teaching me! Happy children learn :D
Mom, YOU are awesome!! So is Chase! The things you say here ring so true, not just about autism, but about children in general. Thank you! (and, yes, I do have to admit, I got tears in my eyes when he spelled Mom...)
I love what you said at the end.. use a child's interest to teach them.. as I too is doing that. i've been using a loving, non-judgemental, non forceful method and it's been working wonders for my son and for me.
I love what you said at the end.. use a child's interest to teach them.. as I too is doing that. i've been using a loving, non-judgemental, non forceful method and it's been working wonders for my son and for me.
I love what you said at the end.. use a child's interest to teach them.. as I too is doing that. i've been using a loving, non-judgemental, non forceful method and it's been working wonders for my son and for me.
I love what you said at the end.. use a child's interest to teach them.. as I too is doing that. i've been using a loving, non-judgemental, non forceful method and it's been working wonders for my son and for me.
I'm so happy Chase finally told you he loves you! My little girl is autistic too and, although I don't need to hear it from her to know, I can't wait till she says those magical words to me =) Love n smiles 2 U both, persephone xxx
Loved this video. I don't know if you've heard about Lovaas, Koegel, or Schreibman. Basically they started with asking for eye contact (1970s), but don't anymore (Koegel quit in the 80s & Lovaas late 90s). Now they reinforce it naturally when it occurs rather than try to request it.
Schreibman & Koegel has taken behaviorism & ID'd motivational variables - you might want to research them.
My sister is highly autistic. And, as a brother, I haven't been very supportive. I got angry with her, told her that she was lazy and useless.
This video has really made me more tolerant of my sister. When I realised just how hurtful I must seem to her, it brought me to tears. I just can't believe, comprehend, understand what she must be going through. What she has gone through. What she will go through. She's breaking into the work force now, and I'm backing her 100%.
Communication can be a big barrier. I know that when I talk with people who are from the South, I tend to judge them as dull or ignorant because they talllllkkk ssssoooooo slllloooooow! I have to remind myself that you can't judge someone by their communication skills.
I have a 10 year old kid who is totally non verbal and uses his talker to talk. He can do academics at high school level and beyond. Dont understimate your kids. The experts do not know anything since he was declared mentally retarded before he learned to type.
I really like your video, wish there were more Moms like you!
From what other autistics have mentioned on discussion groups, the haircut issue could be upset at the hair being "hurt", or sensory (how the scalp feels, noise of scissors/clippers, feel of hair being moved that way, scent if it's not at home, etc.). Some parents (like mine re: my NT brother) I've known just let it grow, no harm done!
OK I'm tearing up about the spelling Mom!! This is a beautiful Video! I wish we could figure the haircut thing out to... it is getting to be about that time and I am dreading it!
People are a little more aware of it in the US. There are a lot of politics involved with it here. A primary care doctor might not be able to tell you much about it, but the specialists know a lot more.
As far as my own characteristics, I had a lot of "obsessions" when I was a child, and I have a really good memory for numbers and certain other things. I had a really hard time with certain fabrics and clothing. (also tags in clothing.)
he is getting an overload, when he is getting a haircut, and that's why he is so upset about it I guess. That wouln't be unusual, I didn't liked them too as a child. The only thing who helps, is not so much touching and noise (maybe) and so on, while cutting his hair I would guess.
He doesn't like to be touched anywhere the head or the ears. He even throws a huge fit when I try to tuck his long hair behind his ears. He also has a terribly hard time with getting his nails/toenails clipped.
does he only hate the "soft" touthing or the "strong" one too? When something touthes me very softly I hat it, because I feel it all over my body and it kind of hurt, but when there is a toutch with a bit pressure, I is all right with me, becaus I don't get irritated be that. It's a sensory problem.
No. But that's funny, because my son's father does have this problem. (he is not autistic - or at least he's not diagnosed and would think the suggestion of it is preposterous.)
Oh man, I was just reading through my old comments and found out, that my english is terrible, but anyway... to your comment: Hans Asperger said, that he had absorved over 200 families of individuals with autism and in EVERY SINGLE case he found similar trades in the parents.
So, his father doesn't have to be autistic nessecerily, because it is a specrum we are talking about, who every one of us is in and reaches from rainman to paris hilton for example. And on some point it is drawn the line and said: "everything on this side is caled autistic and on the other side NT (or is given another name)". At least this is one theory.
Well, as far as I can see from your channel, English is your second language to German, so I think you're doing pretty well. I shudder to think how terribly I would murder the German language if I tried!
And yes, I too have many characteristics of autism. The more I learn about it, the more things I recognize in myself. So I just don't get caught up in the labels, we're all very different.
Yes english is my 2nd language and sadly the german autism comunity is veeeery small, so I think about translating my videos, but that's not that easly...
In Germany, when I go to the doctor and say, that I am autistic, it might be, that he has never heard something about autism before (exept from the one film, called rainman). can this happen to me in the US too, or do the population and the doctors more about it?
What are the characteristics of you, where you think, that those are autistic?
Hello.
I wanted to say that I like this video very much!
Thank you for sharing.
PS.
My little brother has autism too and on his 3th, he didn't like haircuts too! ;)
liyanc 6 months ago
i have autism and i think it's greet to see that people understand it and and the eye contact is true but people still don't know not to make eye contact with someone who has autism
thepeomman 8 months ago
i have autism and i think it's greet to see that people understand it and and the eye contact is true but people still don't know not to make eye contact with someone who has autism
thepeomman 8 months ago
I HAVE AUTISM XD
I'm soo happy after watching this, you understand me completely.
what u say at 1:48 is soo true... I have trouble making eye contact with people sometimes
Thank you. That was brilliant>
Oh, and by the way....
CHASE IS SOO CUTE!!
meagzincamross 8 months ago
I had a lump in my throat watching this, my son has autism.
manuelnegrete 9 months ago
that was so amazing <3
beautyl0vin 10 months ago
This has been flagged as spam show
Won't let me watch on my iPod...why?
Johannes1955 10 months ago
I have ASD and I find haircuts horrible. I am a girl so the buzz cut thing doesn't work for me (not that my parents haven't threatend in desperation). It is really a combination of many things.1) The hairdressers (and the mall in general) is a very noisy place.2) When the hair hits my skin, or worse still is trapped down my shirt, it's awful.3) You are forced to sit still for a long time.4) The fact that someone is touching you. My parents cut my hair for years and even then it was excruciating.
crazyelephantofdoom 11 months ago
He definitely loves you, and he thanks you for being so loving and supportive.
AutisticWhoLives4God 1 year ago
Great vid with an even more awesome song! :D
gunmoon2 1 year ago
I knew wispering was a good thing!!! I will do it even more now that i know it works for your son too!
viellemamanpourie 1 year ago
This is the best video I have seen. I did a similar thing with my son. We caught the ferry and went to the zoo many times. We would always visit the elephants. One day he finally said 'elephant' unprompted. I was so happy. Since then I indulge him in anything that interests him. He has an astronaut outfit and helmet and has learnt all about the planets and galaxies.
Encouraging, engaging and utilising their interests is the best way to start to break through the fog of autism in my opinion.
MrAstronautElephant 1 year ago
This is the best video on Autism by an NT (no offense) EVER. I hope all parents with autistic kids watch this and TAKE NOTES. You're a credit to your son and to our (spectrumites) hope of being understood and accepted. Kudos!
alikidry 1 year ago
I recently attended an annual training through my job. (I work in childcare) The morning session was dedicated to having a better understanding of autism. The speaker showed this clip & it touched my heart, and I found myself sobbing almost uncontrollably. I can tell that Chase is a very lucky boy to have a mother like you. Thank you for making such a touching clip.
kayleesmommyj 1 year ago
@kayleesmommyj That is GREAT! Chase is six years old now, speaking very clearly in full sentences and attending blended kindergarten, reading, spelling, everything. making an effort to understand IS the key! Yaaaaay!
drmaier 1 year ago
Not gonna lie, this video made me tear up a little bit.
Shade7889 2 years ago
I love your video. Our daughter loves animals as well. Again, her speech developed around animals. She is getting an Autism Service Dog in October we can't wait to see how this will help her. She is so calm around dogs.
My friends tell me that I could write a book on the 101 amazing things about my children with autism. I say the funny things. they are always into something which makes me smile! My fridge is also the most organized fridge in Nova Scotia right now. hehe
paws4katie 2 years ago
I am a spanish moteher with a 6 years old boy ...we arrived to autism and Cordelia de lange syndrome three weeks ago thank you for your words
MYWHAY 2 years ago
you sound so much like my own mom and shes dragged me kicking and screaming through all my 23 years of life
even though now offcourse, im also able to learn from other and absorb their knowledge as well
i really hope you can this positive stimulus up, as it will really help him get his bearing and allow him to learn in such a big way from others ...
i think no non-autist (no offence) would ever understand the amount we can learn, even in a single day, or conversation for that matter
gamiezion 2 years ago
This was beautiful to watch. Very inspirational, thanks!
suzannebwilson 3 years ago 3
Omigod that brought tears. Lucky for Chase that he has a great mum, you should be so proud. I'm an adult 'aspy' and two of my boys have the same thing.
Someone here said happy children learn. Yes, so true! Tom :)
tamathemaori 3 years ago 3
i was very moved by this video. i am thinking of becoming a speech-language pathologist and this kind of information could be very valuable in my career. thank you.
lgoldbe3 3 years ago 2
That was so awesome. I totally agreed with everything you said. Great perspective.
AutisticWhoLives4God 3 years ago 2
wow, great video my daughter was non verbal until horses came into our lives. You are so right. what a wonderful perspective on autism.
When she is on her horse she can do anything and talk about anything..Animals are therapy...
Sheba252 3 years ago 2
This woman is truely a beautiful mother...strong in the love for her son,they are very lucky to have each other.
angelinaisbackagain 3 years ago 2
this is a wonderful video! and i love how you look at all the good in autism! you can teach so many other parents out there on just how to love their child for who they are and not to be so sad because of autism... autism is who your child is and parents need to stop and learn to love autism...
AutismNET 3 years ago 3
Hi! been watching your vids and must say I totally agree with you... You're describing me and my son. good somebody else has my point of view, I had to struggle with many contrary opinions that made me unsure of my instincts. We are very attached and our relatives tried to separate us to make way into his life but If they want his love and atention (wich is wonderfull) they have to live up to the high standards I set for him. They have to understand him as I do. its working. Thank you
ritacatitarita 3 years ago
yes I also agree with you.I also have a 6 yrs old boy with autism.His kindergarden teacher found out that my son has autism.I never knew what is autism is.Now he is gonna be in 1st grade next month.He is a very talented boy.We are blessed to have them.God loves you and your son.
Vangie1965 3 years ago
I just want you to know I love all the video's that you have out with you and your son.
pheynixx 3 years ago
Spot on with this video. Using your love and instincts to teach your child you listen with your heart. My son and I communicate without words. I just had to set aside my expectations and allow him to teach me. He learns when he is loved and happy. I too have seen the pain that forcing autistic children can cause. Once I stopped trying to force him, we didnt need speech. Words and speech only caused confusion. My son is starting now to vocalise he is teaching me! Happy children learn :D
MzTruthSeerUK 3 years ago
Mom, YOU are awesome!! So is Chase! The things you say here ring so true, not just about autism, but about children in general. Thank you! (and, yes, I do have to admit, I got tears in my eyes when he spelled Mom...)
knoturgirl 3 years ago
I love what you said at the end.. use a child's interest to teach them.. as I too is doing that. i've been using a loving, non-judgemental, non forceful method and it's been working wonders for my son and for me.
jsjourney 4 years ago
I love what you said at the end.. use a child's interest to teach them.. as I too is doing that. i've been using a loving, non-judgemental, non forceful method and it's been working wonders for my son and for me.
jsjourney 4 years ago
I love what you said at the end.. use a child's interest to teach them.. as I too is doing that. i've been using a loving, non-judgemental, non forceful method and it's been working wonders for my son and for me.
jsjourney 4 years ago
I love what you said at the end.. use a child's interest to teach them.. as I too is doing that. i've been using a loving, non-judgemental, non forceful method and it's been working wonders for my son and for me.
jsjourney 4 years ago
I'm so happy Chase finally told you he loves you! My little girl is autistic too and, although I don't need to hear it from her to know, I can't wait till she says those magical words to me =) Love n smiles 2 U both, persephone xxx
deserttwilight 4 years ago
Loved this video. I don't know if you've heard about Lovaas, Koegel, or Schreibman. Basically they started with asking for eye contact (1970s), but don't anymore (Koegel quit in the 80s & Lovaas late 90s). Now they reinforce it naturally when it occurs rather than try to request it.
Schreibman & Koegel has taken behaviorism & ID'd motivational variables - you might want to research them.
ABAisSCIENCE 4 years ago
My sister is highly autistic. And, as a brother, I haven't been very supportive. I got angry with her, told her that she was lazy and useless.
This video has really made me more tolerant of my sister. When I realised just how hurtful I must seem to her, it brought me to tears. I just can't believe, comprehend, understand what she must be going through. What she has gone through. What she will go through. She's breaking into the work force now, and I'm backing her 100%.
Or trying too ;)
Jatich 4 years ago 3
That's the coolest thing I've heard all day.
Communication can be a big barrier. I know that when I talk with people who are from the South, I tend to judge them as dull or ignorant because they talllllkkk ssssoooooo slllloooooow! I have to remind myself that you can't judge someone by their communication skills.
drmaier 4 years ago
I have a 10 year old kid who is totally non verbal and uses his talker to talk. He can do academics at high school level and beyond. Dont understimate your kids. The experts do not know anything since he was declared mentally retarded before he learned to type.
apotnis97 4 years ago
UPDATE:
He said it. ("I love you.")
drmaier 4 years ago
He said it. ("I love you.") excellent.
My son shows he loves me constantly. Sometimes words are not enough - more than words!
Peace
MzTruthSeerUK 3 years ago
Wonderful and so true..... speech is only a small part of communication
my daughter sings and we used music to reach her... her names Sam she has a video on here called sam i am :)
RadioRuderham 4 years ago
I really like your video, wish there were more Moms like you!
From what other autistics have mentioned on discussion groups, the haircut issue could be upset at the hair being "hurt", or sensory (how the scalp feels, noise of scissors/clippers, feel of hair being moved that way, scent if it's not at home, etc.). Some parents (like mine re: my NT brother) I've known just let it grow, no harm done!
moggymania 4 years ago 2
Yes, that was one of the last times I ever cut his hair. You gotta pick your battles, ya know? The shaggy look doesn't bother me a bit!
His dad buzz cuts his hair about every four months now.
drmaier 4 years ago
OK I'm tearing up about the spelling Mom!! This is a beautiful Video! I wish we could figure the haircut thing out to... it is getting to be about that time and I am dreading it!
momto2miracles 4 years ago
OMG. Your video was beautiful. I have been working with ppl w/ disabilities for years and it touched my heart!
kincin 4 years ago
People are a little more aware of it in the US. There are a lot of politics involved with it here. A primary care doctor might not be able to tell you much about it, but the specialists know a lot more.
As far as my own characteristics, I had a lot of "obsessions" when I was a child, and I have a really good memory for numbers and certain other things. I had a really hard time with certain fabrics and clothing. (also tags in clothing.)
drmaier 4 years ago
he is getting an overload, when he is getting a haircut, and that's why he is so upset about it I guess. That wouln't be unusual, I didn't liked them too as a child. The only thing who helps, is not so much touching and noise (maybe) and so on, while cutting his hair I would guess.
GingerAutie 4 years ago
He doesn't like to be touched anywhere the head or the ears. He even throws a huge fit when I try to tuck his long hair behind his ears. He also has a terribly hard time with getting his nails/toenails clipped.
drmaier 4 years ago
does he only hate the "soft" touthing or the "strong" one too? When something touthes me very softly I hat it, because I feel it all over my body and it kind of hurt, but when there is a toutch with a bit pressure, I is all right with me, becaus I don't get irritated be that. It's a sensory problem.
GingerAutie 4 years ago
No. But that's funny, because my son's father does have this problem. (he is not autistic - or at least he's not diagnosed and would think the suggestion of it is preposterous.)
drmaier 4 years ago
Oh man, I was just reading through my old comments and found out, that my english is terrible, but anyway... to your comment: Hans Asperger said, that he had absorved over 200 families of individuals with autism and in EVERY SINGLE case he found similar trades in the parents.
GingerAutie 4 years ago
So, his father doesn't have to be autistic nessecerily, because it is a specrum we are talking about, who every one of us is in and reaches from rainman to paris hilton for example. And on some point it is drawn the line and said: "everything on this side is caled autistic and on the other side NT (or is given another name)". At least this is one theory.
GingerAutie 4 years ago
Well, as far as I can see from your channel, English is your second language to German, so I think you're doing pretty well. I shudder to think how terribly I would murder the German language if I tried!
And yes, I too have many characteristics of autism. The more I learn about it, the more things I recognize in myself. So I just don't get caught up in the labels, we're all very different.
drmaier 4 years ago
Yes english is my 2nd language and sadly the german autism comunity is veeeery small, so I think about translating my videos, but that's not that easly...
In Germany, when I go to the doctor and say, that I am autistic, it might be, that he has never heard something about autism before (exept from the one film, called rainman). can this happen to me in the US too, or do the population and the doctors more about it?
What are the characteristics of you, where you think, that those are autistic?
GingerAutie 4 years ago
great video drmaier! now this--this is your best work i've seen by far!
simplyimagineit 4 years ago
nice vid! i've been called an autism whisperer too! (but not in a good way LOL!)
yeah, if you can get down and communicate on their level and in their world youre half way there! great advice.
PhilCommander2 4 years ago