I have come to the conclusion I'm completely able to be in a poly relationship recently. It's sad it will probably never happen, most I meet that are open to it are more the type to sleep with anything that will let them. I would want everyone involved in the relationship to care for each other completely, and be committed to making it work. To bad. I would love to be in a love sandwich between another guy, and girl. ^^
Hmm, in Islam, a man is allowed up to 4 wives, provided he can provide for them all equally, and love each equally. Its fair, because what if his first wife is unable or unwilling to have children? Then he has the right to take another. But there's a trick behind this, its impossible, no matter how honorable your intentions, to love two women equally. One will always be closer to you, maybe its the first, maybe its the second, either way, you'll eventually fall.
Hahaha, the best part about this video is when you hesitantly suggest that we don't see people as property anymore. I really identify with that. Whenever I'm comparing The Olden Days to modern society and this comes up, I do the exact same thing; I get all tense and my mind starts shouting "NO! NO! NO! YOU'RE WRONG!"
I admire your ability to remain on the topic, even though I could FEEL how hard it was for you to say that and not clarify.
so if polyamorus relationships are "normal" then how do you change your mind set from only being with one person to being with many or being ok with your partner being with many people? I love someone very very much and he is with 3 other women and I say its ok because I really love him but sometimes it hurts knowing he is with others.
@bluegoth Given the number of single people in the world, why not look for someone without anyone? I mean, whatever qualities that person has, somebody else has too? Ordinary relationships are complicated enough. That said, its a free country.
@bluegoth The most important thing you can do is talk about it with them. Sometime just talking about how you feel can help kill that green monster. What works for one relationship may not work for you, so you need to figure out what will work better for you.
i understand but i believe that if you really love someone that they dont need anyone else but you.and you dont need anyone else then them. polyamory seems to complicated. I respect everyone though hey its your life you should do what you feel comfortable doing!
Fun Polygamy Fact: In a lot of those cultures they didn't/don't have reliable medicine which means they get a high rate of child death, AND boys are 3x more likely to die young in childhood which means you end up with 3x as many adult women as adult men. So it makes sense for one man to marry 3 women just so you can have all of the uteruses in your village pumpin' out babies. Many of whom will die.
Imo, why I have no problem with polygamy, I just don't get it. It seems to cheapen love. I mean, ya there are multiple times of love and I think most people confuse them. I think REAL love can only be between two people. That is, truly deep love with the perfect person (and yes, as much as there are many that we do relate with, from a statistical stand point, there's going to be 1 person that stands out to the rest for you). But ya, I think most who think they love multiple people actually don't
I make it a point to look women in the eyes when I talk to them, but I could not stop staring at her boobs...I think I have a problem haha. I believe I'd b willing to try a polyamorous relationship, but I'd feel uncomfortable knowing that my gf would be out sleeping with other people cuz I wouldn't b able to cuz I'd b so in love with her :)
One of the best books out there on the subject of polyamory being a natural human state is SEX AT DAWN. Highly, highly, highly recommend. p.s. anyone notice that "polyamory" isn't in the computer dictionary, aka has a red line under it asking for the word to be spell checked?
This is sooo interesting! I'm in love with the idea; however, I doubt it would ever be something for me. Once I have fallen for someone, I only have eyes for that someone {aaaand I have a HUUUUGE green monster in my closet}. Nevertheless, I believe this type of Love to be all so possible. would love to meet a "group of lovers" :) Love is beautiful , why not express it in the way that suits your soul best!!!
ps: I'd bombard them with a million and 19 questions ;D
I'm open to the idea of polyamory. You know, just experiment with it. See where it goes. I'm curious to the concept of falling for two or more people and all of us being in love with one another. I find the thought fascinatingly curious.
Polygamous relationships are interesting, but I'm far too clingy and selfish in a relationship for that. I believe in multiple forms of love and relationships, but when I fall for someone, I like for that person to love me the same way I love them and only me that way while they cling to others in a different sort of love and caring. Does that make logical sense?
She didn't say there was anything wrong with monogamy, she was just presenting ethical non-monogamy. Love is about enjoying another person, not about treating their sexuality as your personal property. Also, a lot of relationships fall apart because people have this notion that one person is supposed to be a perfect match in every area. Perhaps instead they could just enjoy a person for who they are and look at making a different connection with a different person.
@Keovar Commite doesnt mean match in every area you have to be open to the person correctly and you cannot put that much energy in a 4 relation couple
People can, people do, and it happens every day... But hey, if being in denial of reality is your thing, there's a creationism 'museum' in Kentucky you might like.
You were making a claim that something is not possible, when it is demonstrably possible for many people. Saying things are one way because you like the idea, as opposed to the evidence that shows them to be another way you may not like... that's being in denial. Most people are pretty bad at strict monogamy, and there are other relationship structures that have led many to happy lives. If monogamy is what works for you, great, just don't assume it's 'right' or 'better' than poly.
It's not all about the sex, so your "if you wanna get fucked by many" statement is not only a strawman fallacy, it's judgemental. If you don't want people to think your view is narrow-minded, then you need to think about the words you choose and make sure they aren't judgemental like that.
Lust and sex are great, but I don't feel lust or have sex with everyone I love.
But seriously it's not everyone that would be in a polygamy relation if it wouldnt be of the sex in the current over sexualized society we live in.
Good if it work for you but keep an eye on the real motive of your partner...+ it's so much of energy to know 1 person correctly and be open with her or him ..so i couldnt imagine myself in a multiple one but hey that's me sorry again for the sexual point i pointed.
Polygamy, polygyny, and polyandry are not quite the same thing as polyamory, as she mentions in the video. I know she talks fast, so maybe it'll take a few times to catch everything if English isn't your primary language.
I've been in monogamous and open relationships, and always stuck by the 'rules' of the particular relationship. Cheating is about deception, not a particular action.
My current girlfriend is actually married, but her husband approves, and he's my friend anyway.
I don't understand what you're trying to say. Maybe you misunderstood me too. Sorry if it sounded like I was trying to be superior. Monogamy is fine for those who choose it and follow it ethically. I was just pointing out that polyamory isn't all about the sex. That's even the motto of the Polyamory Weekly podcast. Also, loving more than one person doesn't mean a lesser form of love, because love isn't an object that would need to be divided in order to be shared.
maybe 4 people can buy a house easily. sure house prices would rise (they are currently very anti-single owner), but more resources are better.
not everybody is conditioned to be able to deal with jealousy and the like, but it's very awesome. I love loving people. Why should I be limited to who I can love?
I have been in polyamorous relationships. it never worked. one person always got jealous and started crossing bad lines. swinging (not emotional) has always worked out better when appropriate. To anyone that can make polyamorous work, good for you.
I think it's an incredible idea. I've always thought, as a lesbian, I would love to be a part of a multiple person relationship with multiple lesbians, but not like your typical one person with many wives thing, but wives with many wives, where everyone shares the same love. That would be awesome. I'm in a sort of polyamorous relationship where I date this bi-sexual girl who is also in a relationship with a guy who is cool with it. We all went on a date together once. I'm pro-Polyamory
Makes perfect sense to me, if you think about it it's only natural, human's aren't monogomous by nature hence the existence of cheating. I never really understood why the idea of monogomous relationships was invented nor do I agree with it so I can honestly say that I wouldn't care if someone cheated on me
i used to spam the comments for your videos with stuff like: boobs, tities, and 'i wanna have POLYAMORY with your tites', the i got an arrow to the knee...
So it requires great trust, great communication, great support from everybody... That's already so difficult to find in a single person... I hardly believe equilibrium can be found in polyamory.
@nickst0ne Yup, you nailed it. From a believer's perspective, I have to note this: the Bible doesn't explicitly condemn polygamy, it doesn't endorse it either, it just allows for it. What it does show us that whenever there is more than one wive, disaster is always close behind. Seriously - it happens every. freaking. time. in scripture.
I'm so glad that she brought up the fact that it takes time and energy to get to know and love people and sustain close and intimate relationships with them. For me, this is the main reason why I am a monogamist since it's so very energy draining to get to know people. REALLY get to know people. I don't have that much energy to spend :c
I've always had a problem with exclusiveness in relationships. Life should be about exploring, meeting people and sharing with them. Many people are lonely and can't find another single person to date. Polyamory would allow more people to benefit from intimacy, which sex plays a role in. Intimacy helps others lead healthy lives and it works best without all the added stress imposed by exclusivity. Essentially, monogamy=exclusivity=selfishness=stress=unfulfilled lives
Thanks for posting this video, Laci, and bringing to light this alternative to monogamy. I've been happily married for years and I have 2 other partners--a live-in boyfriend and a now-long-distance one. I do feel that it brings a lot of balance and helpfulness to all of our lives. It's definitely not for everyone, but it works for us! You're definitely right that it's hard work and not an easy escape.
You either believe in true love or you don't. Doesn't make one thing "alien" or not. But the idea that you can't have deep committed loving meaningful relationships with various people of both sexes simultaneously without *fucking* them is a dim and immature perspective. If you *need* to be having sex with more than one person in a given week or month, you are either in a terrible relationship or you need to get a fucking hobby, grow up and for find some other way of dealing with your crippling
"Western Hemisphere" The U.S. - terms people may accept better would be - non-exclusive - and open relationship - in a general meaning or sense at least. I have theory or reason to believe that having non-exclusive (meaning to be in some way sexually or romantically or otherwise involved with multiple people at one time) relationships can accommodate (to help) to one's good health and well being. Of course that means all participants are aware of such encounters as you stated.
I actually got in a discussion on this with some friends over the TLC show. I don't think any of us wanted to be one of the people who were in the position of the wives in the show because of how it seems like one would always end up being given more attention. I'm not saying that it can't work cause like you said it has, but maybe it was that even through seeing it on TV, none of us actually have been in a position like that, I guess you can't 100% know unless that's how you were brought up.
I heard a scary fact that 1 in 5 kids does not belong to the father who is on the birth certificate. That is A LOT. Thats like, one kid in every second family doesnt belong to the father on the birth certificate. Scary eh?
First thought off the top of my head after watching this video is that we are, in a sense, living in a polyandrous society with a monogamous structure. People tend to experience many lovers on an exclusive basis over time before settling (although not necessarily indefinitely).
Wow, I find myself sounding more and more like Sheldon Cooper on a regular basis.
You're missing the simple explanation. In polygamous relationships, the guy always knows it's his child. In polyamory, neither guy is sure that it's his, so there's no incentive for him to pursue a polyamorous relationship. At least that was the case before paternity testing was possible. On a practical level, I just can't see polyamory working out beyond having a threesome.
@j1mmyZeta Except there are 500,000 polyamorous people in the U.S. alone, maybe more since reporting is low. I've been polyamorous for four years now and it's worked out fine so far. People don't HAVE to have children and don't have to be sexually involved with everyone they're dating/in love with, either. You're drawing unnecessary conclusions.
I don't think I could do polyamory (or any of those other polys), myself. I'm afraid I wouldn't be able to give the same amount of intimacy to more than one person. 'Just a feeling.
@missmaggiemay19 Mormons were polygamous, it's still in the D&C, although they change their "unchangeable" policy constantly when they get under fire from political correctness. They also believe that polygamy will again be the way it is in the celestial kingdom. There are many sects of fundamentalist mormons who practice the religion as it was in the 1800s in Utah and around the United States, Mexico and Canada. Whether or not the church acknowledges them or not is irrelevant.
polyamory was encouraged in the 1960's..what do you think their mentality of love and peace to everyone meant. i found this out from people from those times, and it went down like a woman gets pregnant and all the men she slept with congratulated eachother and they took bets on who was the father. it's hard for us to understand but if it makes you happy then awesome lol
I have heard a lot of discussions using evolution as arguments why people are not faithful. And at first it seemed plausible. But when you discuss with many people about polyamory, then you pretty soon discover a series of people that are purely monogamous too. These people need a predictable and secure one person relationship. These people also tend to only fall in love with one person at a time. And it is OK for them to be like that.
I actually know one mono-poly combination where the man is pure monogamous but lets his polyamorous wife free because he loves her. I never thought this could be a stable relationship but it is. And he himself does not feel like polyamorous at all. He clearly stated that he is monogamous.
I just got done reading Christopher Ryan & Cacilda Jetha's Sex at Dawn; very good book. It is important to be honest with yourself, your partner(s), as well as re-evaluate what you exactly want. Good video.
I have always been interested in the idea of polyamory. how do you suggest i find someone who is also interested in the same relationship style? or how would i bring this up tto a future partner? love you much Laci!
- I have always been interested in the idea of polyamory. how do you suggest i find someone who is also interested in the same relationship style? -
This is the million dollar question without solution. You can only find out by talking. But if you start a new relationship, talk about it BEFORE going further because it only gets harder later on. The term "open relationship" may be used since this is something most people understand and is less freaky.
-- Wait, so is it not ok to be polyamarist (or, whatever you call someone who uses polyamary) is the people you are with don't know about it? --
You are not polyamore if you hide it for your other partners. Before you start they should have had at least a say in this and give you a go. If you hide it then this is cheating and polyamore people really hate cheating, more than monogamous people do.
Its actually MULTIamory. Polyamory mixes a greek prefix "poly" with a latin suffix "amor". THIS IS A LANGUAGE NO NO!!! Its either Polyphilia or Multiamory.
trust, honesty, communication, in a group where all are satisfied, Geez!! I think you would have better odds being in a car accident..LOL but i didnt know about this and found it very informative, only reason i saw your channel is a mutual subscriber had commented on it and of course the title , had me clicking out of curoiusity
Sometimes I sit in waiting rooms and listen to young people mumble when they talk. Their mouths barely move at all, like they just don't care to even try. What I love about Laci is the way she enunciates. She really gets her mouth around those words. That's a great trick for people who have to speak, like radio show hosts, narrators, podcasters, and, of course, people on YouTube. Good on you, Laci.
Polygamy's time is come and gone. At one point, the difference in the amount of men compared to the amount of women was pronounced enough on the small group/tribal scale to make one man-multiple wives a workable social situation.
However, social polygamy defies the laws of natural selection. No female looking to support offspring is going to voluntarily choose a mate who already has responsibilities.
It's not wrong, it's just atypical, and it's atypical for a reason.
@zEropoint68 Actually I know alot of women being Muslim who are open to the idea and have even married in a Polygamy relationship. It's becoming more and more excepted by the younger crowds in the middle east. Even though a few years back it was a no no thing for younger women to accept it. People are more open to the idea. So it hasn't come and gone. You just have to know where to look.
@ValleyGurlFrmHell That's interesting. I wonder why. I know there's some cultural history of plural marriage and concubinage in the Middle East, so maybe it's that there's actually a higher comfort level with the whole idea, even in spite of what looks right now like a very sexually repressed society.
@zEropoint68 Responsibility is a social construct not a natural one. It is still natural for multiple people to want the same mate to produce strong offspring. In truth natural selection is more supportive of polygamy than monogamy.
How come this young lady isn't stupid like the vast majority of bloggers(that I've seen) on YouTube? She DESTROYS stereotypes. It's great that she blows my mind. I'm generally not here to be cerebrated upon but I can get to liking this. GOGREEN!
For anyone who wants to learn more about prehistoric human sexuality, or what things were like 'back in the day' check out the book 'Sex at Dawn' it's available on ebook and in paperback... really well written and it discusses a lot of info that Laci discusses in this video! Great read, and some tasty food for thought!
its a strange world. Women have certain advantages. Though sex isn't the end goal is a relationship... its more of a process of how to endure As a male, you have to be either super successful or super fixer. drag ass men don't last long in poly relationships. the best poly group I knew had 1 male... he was an athletic figured man who owned the mercedes dealership. The worst and predictable break up was for a group whose income dried up from social security... but the ladies stayed together.
One reason polygamy was back then, and still today; is because some people can't afford to live alone. Mostly, back then were women. They couldn't do much on their own. So, their best option marry someone. If he happens to have another wife, so what. It was more a financial need back then.
Polyamory, to me, is more the ability to have romantic feelings for more than one person at a time. It isn't necessarily within a "relationship" - neither an open or closed one - but more about how you feel. I'm quite polyamorous in that I, at the moment, have very strong feelings for two persons and some kind of romantic feelings for two more - even though I don't have a _relationship_ with either of those. In fact, I prefer not to have relationships at all, prefering simply (cont)
I have come to the conclusion I'm completely able to be in a poly relationship recently. It's sad it will probably never happen, most I meet that are open to it are more the type to sleep with anything that will let them. I would want everyone involved in the relationship to care for each other completely, and be committed to making it work. To bad. I would love to be in a love sandwich between another guy, and girl. ^^
SimaraSunlight 22 hours ago
you have some awesome tits
darthcollosus 6 days ago
Hmm, in Islam, a man is allowed up to 4 wives, provided he can provide for them all equally, and love each equally. Its fair, because what if his first wife is unable or unwilling to have children? Then he has the right to take another. But there's a trick behind this, its impossible, no matter how honorable your intentions, to love two women equally. One will always be closer to you, maybe its the first, maybe its the second, either way, you'll eventually fall.
nashwa1nosha1smokey 1 week ago
I think you are really hot i don't care to be one of your 2 man, kisses from Mexico
olivanderss 2 weeks ago in playlist Uploaded videos
can't even get one gf let alone 2 or more whaha
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0:03 Agreed, I like to go nuts with the contrast.
Junglerotica 2 weeks ago
When power isnt involved, in general most relationships were ordinary two people ones. Marriages exist in every culture we can name.
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What consenting adult people do with eachother that isn't hurting anyone else, is all ok.
lordchaos3819 2 weeks ago
Poly FTW!!! :D
ChloeFaery 3 weeks ago 3
That's very interesting, I think that that's a smart idea actually. It'd just be hard to adjust to that style of relationship.
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you rock. very well spoken. Soooo glad you did this work - joy to you and really happy you addressed all the myths
DIAMONdKEEN 3 weeks ago 2
Hahaha, the best part about this video is when you hesitantly suggest that we don't see people as property anymore. I really identify with that. Whenever I'm comparing The Olden Days to modern society and this comes up, I do the exact same thing; I get all tense and my mind starts shouting "NO! NO! NO! YOU'RE WRONG!"
I admire your ability to remain on the topic, even though I could FEEL how hard it was for you to say that and not clarify.
melissahburt 4 weeks ago 3
ur so beautiful :$ :( i wish u were mine n i love how u talk LMAO it makes me laugh (A) (L)
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do you have any advice,
bluegoth 1 month ago
so if polyamorus relationships are "normal" then how do you change your mind set from only being with one person to being with many or being ok with your partner being with many people? I love someone very very much and he is with 3 other women and I say its ok because I really love him but sometimes it hurts knowing he is with others.
bluegoth 1 month ago
@bluegoth Given the number of single people in the world, why not look for someone without anyone? I mean, whatever qualities that person has, somebody else has too? Ordinary relationships are complicated enough. That said, its a free country.
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@bluegoth The most important thing you can do is talk about it with them. Sometime just talking about how you feel can help kill that green monster. What works for one relationship may not work for you, so you need to figure out what will work better for you.
SimaraSunlight 23 hours ago
Do you mind me asking your boob size? Please and thank you!
bautistajade 1 month ago
@bautistajade if you have to ask if its okay for you to ask you probably know that you shouldn't ask
morteledraco 3 weeks ago
wow just noticed your wearing a red bow for aids awerness :D
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I want one partner... Which I have... Polyamory wouldn't work for me.. I'm happy with the one :D
mirroredguitarist 1 month ago
i understand but i believe that if you really love someone that they dont need anyone else but you.and you dont need anyone else then them. polyamory seems to complicated. I respect everyone though hey its your life you should do what you feel comfortable doing!
allylovedance 1 month ago
Fun Polygamy Fact: In a lot of those cultures they didn't/don't have reliable medicine which means they get a high rate of child death, AND boys are 3x more likely to die young in childhood which means you end up with 3x as many adult women as adult men. So it makes sense for one man to marry 3 women just so you can have all of the uteruses in your village pumpin' out babies. Many of whom will die.
This fact isn't very fun, it turns out.
yetidetective 1 month ago 2
Imo, why I have no problem with polygamy, I just don't get it. It seems to cheapen love. I mean, ya there are multiple times of love and I think most people confuse them. I think REAL love can only be between two people. That is, truly deep love with the perfect person (and yes, as much as there are many that we do relate with, from a statistical stand point, there's going to be 1 person that stands out to the rest for you). But ya, I think most who think they love multiple people actually don't
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@Vicioussama That is, I think many of them do love them, but in different ways.
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I make it a point to look women in the eyes when I talk to them, but I could not stop staring at her boobs...I think I have a problem haha. I believe I'd b willing to try a polyamorous relationship, but I'd feel uncomfortable knowing that my gf would be out sleeping with other people cuz I wouldn't b able to cuz I'd b so in love with her :)
mayabulletized 1 month ago
its epic when u listen for 4:33 and dont remember anything because ur watching her boobs.
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One of the best books out there on the subject of polyamory being a natural human state is SEX AT DAWN. Highly, highly, highly recommend. p.s. anyone notice that "polyamory" isn't in the computer dictionary, aka has a red line under it asking for the word to be spell checked?
ageofa 1 month ago
This is sooo interesting! I'm in love with the idea; however, I doubt it would ever be something for me. Once I have fallen for someone, I only have eyes for that someone {aaaand I have a HUUUUGE green monster in my closet}. Nevertheless, I believe this type of Love to be all so possible. would love to meet a "group of lovers" :) Love is beautiful , why not express it in the way that suits your soul best!!!
ps: I'd bombard them with a million and 19 questions ;D
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I'm open to the idea of polyamory. You know, just experiment with it. See where it goes. I'm curious to the concept of falling for two or more people and all of us being in love with one another. I find the thought fascinatingly curious.
Reaper478 1 month ago
One word: Twilight
THEhilariousaquarius 1 month ago in playlist SEX+ Episodes
Polygamous relationships are interesting, but I'm far too clingy and selfish in a relationship for that. I believe in multiple forms of love and relationships, but when I fall for someone, I like for that person to love me the same way I love them and only me that way while they cling to others in a different sort of love and caring. Does that make logical sense?
TraRobins234 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
Boobs.......
Nanorfub 1 month ago 2
Whats the story, Polyamory?
Binkophile 1 month ago
Ok gentleman, be honest, who kept pressing 0 in this video? XD
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BOobs i was staring at them till the end.
Damn i am perverted! :/
crisislord00 1 month ago
Eeeh, well if you wana get fucked by bunch of guy go a head, but we are not NARROW for so, we just commit ourself to 1 person and that's it.
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@QCBEC
She didn't say there was anything wrong with monogamy, she was just presenting ethical non-monogamy. Love is about enjoying another person, not about treating their sexuality as your personal property. Also, a lot of relationships fall apart because people have this notion that one person is supposed to be a perfect match in every area. Perhaps instead they could just enjoy a person for who they are and look at making a different connection with a different person.
Keovar 1 month ago
@Keovar Commite doesnt mean match in every area you have to be open to the person correctly and you cannot put that much energy in a 4 relation couple
QCBEC 1 month ago
@QCBEC
People can, people do, and it happens every day... But hey, if being in denial of reality is your thing, there's a creationism 'museum' in Kentucky you might like.
Keovar 1 month ago
@Keovar Okay but that's you that say that.
Me i am not denial and i know my reality.
QCBEC 1 month ago
@QCBEC
You were making a claim that something is not possible, when it is demonstrably possible for many people. Saying things are one way because you like the idea, as opposed to the evidence that shows them to be another way you may not like... that's being in denial. Most people are pretty bad at strict monogamy, and there are other relationship structures that have led many to happy lives. If monogamy is what works for you, great, just don't assume it's 'right' or 'better' than poly.
Keovar 1 month ago
@Keovar I never said it was wrong what the fuck?
I said you wana get fucked by many guy go a head i cannot judge this but personaly i couldnt be in that kind of relation
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QCBEC 1 month ago
@QCBEC
It's not all about the sex, so your "if you wanna get fucked by many" statement is not only a strawman fallacy, it's judgemental. If you don't want people to think your view is narrow-minded, then you need to think about the words you choose and make sure they aren't judgemental like that.
Lust and sex are great, but I don't feel lust or have sex with everyone I love.
Keovar 1 month ago
@Keovar Good point about sex sorry.
But seriously it's not everyone that would be in a polygamy relation if it wouldnt be of the sex in the current over sexualized society we live in.
Good if it work for you but keep an eye on the real motive of your partner...+ it's so much of energy to know 1 person correctly and be open with her or him ..so i couldnt imagine myself in a multiple one but hey that's me sorry again for the sexual point i pointed.
( sorry for my english )
QCBEC 1 month ago
@QCBEC
Polygamy, polygyny, and polyandry are not quite the same thing as polyamory, as she mentions in the video. I know she talks fast, so maybe it'll take a few times to catch everything if English isn't your primary language.
I've been in monogamous and open relationships, and always stuck by the 'rules' of the particular relationship. Cheating is about deception, not a particular action.
My current girlfriend is actually married, but her husband approves, and he's my friend anyway.
Keovar 1 month ago
@Keovar Dude that is you it's not because you got all sudden enlightement on how to behave sexualy.
I don't feel any "RULE" ..
It's you, not me.
QCBEC 1 month ago
@QCBEC
I don't understand what you're trying to say. Maybe you misunderstood me too. Sorry if it sounded like I was trying to be superior. Monogamy is fine for those who choose it and follow it ethically. I was just pointing out that polyamory isn't all about the sex. That's even the motto of the Polyamory Weekly podcast. Also, loving more than one person doesn't mean a lesser form of love, because love isn't an object that would need to be divided in order to be shared.
Keovar 1 month ago 2
@Keovar We just have different perception dude i've thought about every sense of being in mutiple relation and i wouldnt like this..it's me
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QCBEC 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
maybe 4 people can buy a house easily. sure house prices would rise (they are currently very anti-single owner), but more resources are better.
not everybody is conditioned to be able to deal with jealousy and the like, but it's very awesome. I love loving people. Why should I be limited to who I can love?
piecharthosen 1 month ago
wow,your tits are giant
MrZombiekiller23 1 month ago
holy titty batman
1996killerman 1 month ago in playlist More videos from lacigreen
ponce likes them titties :D
ZUMMY61 1 month ago
tits or gtfo.
im sorry, i've never said that before and i just wanted to.
iAteTheTwitterBird 1 month ago
damn them big boobies
HateFenians 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
Always bring up us Mormons. <.< was that like a joke...
IplayToph 1 month ago
I have been in polyamorous relationships. it never worked. one person always got jealous and started crossing bad lines. swinging (not emotional) has always worked out better when appropriate. To anyone that can make polyamorous work, good for you.
remixfa 1 month ago
I think it's an incredible idea. I've always thought, as a lesbian, I would love to be a part of a multiple person relationship with multiple lesbians, but not like your typical one person with many wives thing, but wives with many wives, where everyone shares the same love. That would be awesome. I'm in a sort of polyamorous relationship where I date this bi-sexual girl who is also in a relationship with a guy who is cool with it. We all went on a date together once. I'm pro-Polyamory
KazziKolorZz 1 month ago 3
dude i want to try polyamory
amicizia369 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
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mostmusicisbad 1 month ago
thank you for breaking it down now strangers might understand my life
apolism 1 month ago 46
Makes perfect sense to me, if you think about it it's only natural, human's aren't monogomous by nature hence the existence of cheating. I never really understood why the idea of monogomous relationships was invented nor do I agree with it so I can honestly say that I wouldn't care if someone cheated on me
AntiMatterWave 1 month ago
Love your vids keep 'em comin!
RainbowJx4 1 month ago
Pause @0:00
Javante344 1 month ago
you are brilliantly smart as you are beautiful thanks for the upload love you thoughts on life.
hdmfba 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
i used to spam the comments for your videos with stuff like: boobs, tities, and 'i wanna have POLYAMORY with your tites', the i got an arrow to the knee...
1C9J9S5 1 month ago
Sometimes it sounds like she got a cold :S lol
SephirotHeRe 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
So it requires great trust, great communication, great support from everybody... That's already so difficult to find in a single person... I hardly believe equilibrium can be found in polyamory.
nickst0ne 1 month ago in playlist SEX+ Episodes
@nickst0ne Yup, you nailed it. From a believer's perspective, I have to note this: the Bible doesn't explicitly condemn polygamy, it doesn't endorse it either, it just allows for it. What it does show us that whenever there is more than one wive, disaster is always close behind. Seriously - it happens every. freaking. time. in scripture.
Halo4Lyf 1 month ago
@Halo4Lyf "the Bible doesn't explicitly condemn polygamy, it doesn't endorse it either, it just allows for it."
It does specifically say that God *gives* multiple wives to people as rewards. At the least, this is actively condoning polygamy.
BailiffQuimby 1 month ago in playlist laci green videos
Polyamory? I'm not nearly that good at time management.
shamidkpzd 1 month ago
@shamidkpzd There's usually one in a group that is.
seivren 1 month ago
Watch the TV Show Big Love to get a better understanding of Polyamory and be entertained :)
CollinBPage 1 month ago
I can just imagine trying to pose such a relationship:
Me: "Hey, uh... If we said you had a nice body, would you hold it against us?"
Her: (O__O!) "I have mace!"
EmoYaoiFangirl 1 month ago
She looks ugly...
amanapart2001 1 month ago
@amanapart2001 What a horrible person you are.
TrollieTrollerson 1 month ago
@amanapart2001 Obvious flamebait is obvious...
DeleteSystem32Faggot 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
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Wonderful video, Laci. Thanks for sharing. :)
killingjanni 1 month ago
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Wonderful video, Laci. Thanks for sharing. :)
killingjanni 1 month ago
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Wonderful video, Laci. Thanks for sharing. :)
killingjanni 1 month ago
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Wonderful video, Laci. Thanks for sharing. :)
killingjanni 1 month ago
Wonderful video, Laci. Thanks for sharing. :)
killingjanni 1 month ago
holy crap, your boobs are hgue as hell(;
tony675434 2 months ago
I'm so glad that she brought up the fact that it takes time and energy to get to know and love people and sustain close and intimate relationships with them. For me, this is the main reason why I am a monogamist since it's so very energy draining to get to know people. REALLY get to know people. I don't have that much energy to spend :c
Megaloonen 2 months ago 24
I've always had a problem with exclusiveness in relationships. Life should be about exploring, meeting people and sharing with them. Many people are lonely and can't find another single person to date. Polyamory would allow more people to benefit from intimacy, which sex plays a role in. Intimacy helps others lead healthy lives and it works best without all the added stress imposed by exclusivity. Essentially, monogamy=exclusivity=selfishness=stress=unfulfilled lives
rogueguitarist 2 months ago
Thanks for posting this video, Laci, and bringing to light this alternative to monogamy. I've been happily married for years and I have 2 other partners--a live-in boyfriend and a now-long-distance one. I do feel that it brings a lot of balance and helpfulness to all of our lives. It's definitely not for everyone, but it works for us! You're definitely right that it's hard work and not an easy escape.
welfy 2 months ago 2
@EPR89 Damn I just stated an opinion no need to get all offensive -_-
Punana1992 2 months ago
i thought polygamy was that you marry more than one person over your life ... i didn't think it meant marrying more than one person at a time ...
Tara13050 2 months ago
If a girl had to boy friends I would think she's a whore ... Just saying
Punana1992 2 months ago
@Punana1992 What about men who marry two women? What a slag
KoRnyGirlx 2 months ago
@Punana1992 Go to a brothel and educate yourself before making statements on subjects you have no idea about.
EPR89 2 months ago
You either believe in true love or you don't. Doesn't make one thing "alien" or not. But the idea that you can't have deep committed loving meaningful relationships with various people of both sexes simultaneously without *fucking* them is a dim and immature perspective. If you *need* to be having sex with more than one person in a given week or month, you are either in a terrible relationship or you need to get a fucking hobby, grow up and for find some other way of dealing with your crippling
MYUproductions 2 months ago
lol, I'm like this... Never had a word for it though, I just describe myself as promiscuous or a swinger... or someone partial to cuckholding.
XXTheRealMcCoyXX 2 months ago
"Western Hemisphere" The U.S. - terms people may accept better would be - non-exclusive - and open relationship - in a general meaning or sense at least. I have theory or reason to believe that having non-exclusive (meaning to be in some way sexually or romantically or otherwise involved with multiple people at one time) relationships can accommodate (to help) to one's good health and well being. Of course that means all participants are aware of such encounters as you stated.
Yokisano 2 months ago
hmm. i really wanna persue a polyamorous relationship with a guy i really like...but he's not okay wid it ): poop.
cuterocker98 2 months ago
I actually got in a discussion on this with some friends over the TLC show. I don't think any of us wanted to be one of the people who were in the position of the wives in the show because of how it seems like one would always end up being given more attention. I'm not saying that it can't work cause like you said it has, but maybe it was that even through seeing it on TV, none of us actually have been in a position like that, I guess you can't 100% know unless that's how you were brought up.
Nightman221k 2 months ago
4:19.
IAmRootin 2 months ago in playlist Uploaded videos
she's single.
jungaar 2 months ago
Dammit, I really want to date a Caucasian woman like her.............but I'm so afraid : [
tripdeezy 2 months ago
@tripdeezy
WTF?
XXTheRealMcCoyXX 2 months ago
You are amazing, I love your open mind. Let's make more of you :)
MrKoshak 2 months ago in playlist Uploaded videos
she can curse/swear full 10 minutes for all l care , just thumbs up and move to the next video is what lm thinking
antonkhuu 2 months ago
@renfroe1981 Well you're missing out.
Agent1478963 2 months ago in playlist More videos from lacigreen
I heard a scary fact that 1 in 5 kids does not belong to the father who is on the birth certificate. That is A LOT. Thats like, one kid in every second family doesnt belong to the father on the birth certificate. Scary eh?
tubester4567 2 months ago
@tubester4567 Surely that isn't 1 in 5 white people though. Its probably inflated by all the roodypoos
ShadowBasker 2 months ago
First thought off the top of my head after watching this video is that we are, in a sense, living in a polyandrous society with a monogamous structure. People tend to experience many lovers on an exclusive basis over time before settling (although not necessarily indefinitely).
Wow, I find myself sounding more and more like Sheldon Cooper on a regular basis.
Bazinga!
smallpercentile 2 months ago
your really hot and smart
31keni 2 months ago
You're missing the simple explanation. In polygamous relationships, the guy always knows it's his child. In polyamory, neither guy is sure that it's his, so there's no incentive for him to pursue a polyamorous relationship. At least that was the case before paternity testing was possible. On a practical level, I just can't see polyamory working out beyond having a threesome.
j1mmyZeta 2 months ago
@j1mmyZeta Except there are 500,000 polyamorous people in the U.S. alone, maybe more since reporting is low. I've been polyamorous for four years now and it's worked out fine so far. People don't HAVE to have children and don't have to be sexually involved with everyone they're dating/in love with, either. You're drawing unnecessary conclusions.
sakurabaka 2 months ago
@j1mmyZeta I wouldn't even have a threesome with 2 guys. I wouldn't gain anything from it, and I'm too jealous to share.
ShadowBasker 2 months ago
ok ... how many are checking out her boobs ?
mba2ceo 2 months ago
I don't think I could do polyamory (or any of those other polys), myself. I'm afraid I wouldn't be able to give the same amount of intimacy to more than one person. 'Just a feeling.
Jaybird196 2 months ago
Woah...there are other countries that arent like the US?! My mind was just blown...
btylerm28 2 months ago
What straight guy haven't had fantasies about having two bisexual girlfriends? =P
KaptenN 2 months ago
Interesting.
KittCattStarr 2 months ago
Could not imagine having to propose / commit to 2 or more women. Holy jewelry bills Batman.
Atarius 2 months ago 20
@Atarius that's silly. just buy cheaper jewels
piecharthosen 1 month ago
@missmaggiemay19 Mormons were polygamous, it's still in the D&C, although they change their "unchangeable" policy constantly when they get under fire from political correctness. They also believe that polygamy will again be the way it is in the celestial kingdom. There are many sects of fundamentalist mormons who practice the religion as it was in the 1800s in Utah and around the United States, Mexico and Canada. Whether or not the church acknowledges them or not is irrelevant.
TrollieTrollerson 2 months ago
laci i love ya but i get lost in your.............eyes lot
darthkilligma 2 months ago
I wanna have POLYAMORY with your tittes
docthemac 2 months ago 35
@docthemac That was awful.
ShadowBasker 2 months ago
@docthemac You are disgusting.
Mackerni 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
@docthemac People like you are why women think men are idiots.
grimmrheraldthefrenc 1 month ago
polyamory was encouraged in the 1960's..what do you think their mentality of love and peace to everyone meant. i found this out from people from those times, and it went down like a woman gets pregnant and all the men she slept with congratulated eachother and they took bets on who was the father. it's hard for us to understand but if it makes you happy then awesome lol
tamithomas 2 months ago
...boobs...
Quirkification 2 months ago
@obaeyens especially because you said "..choose to be monogamous, it is how they are"
Sundriesandetc 2 months ago
@obaeyens that makes me wonder if people deal with relationships the way they do due to society or something biological..
Sundriesandetc 2 months ago
@Sundriesandetc
I have heard a lot of discussions using evolution as arguments why people are not faithful. And at first it seemed plausible. But when you discuss with many people about polyamory, then you pretty soon discover a series of people that are purely monogamous too. These people need a predictable and secure one person relationship. These people also tend to only fall in love with one person at a time. And it is OK for them to be like that.
obaeyens 2 months ago
@Sundriesandetc
I actually know one mono-poly combination where the man is pure monogamous but lets his polyamorous wife free because he loves her. I never thought this could be a stable relationship but it is. And he himself does not feel like polyamorous at all. He clearly stated that he is monogamous.
obaeyens 2 months ago
I just got done reading Christopher Ryan & Cacilda Jetha's Sex at Dawn; very good book. It is important to be honest with yourself, your partner(s), as well as re-evaluate what you exactly want. Good video.
Sweetzweirdo 2 months ago
Awesome shirt XD
oXDemonXo 2 months ago
I have always been interested in the idea of polyamory. how do you suggest i find someone who is also interested in the same relationship style? or how would i bring this up tto a future partner? love you much Laci!
devlinralph 2 months ago
@devlinralph
- I have always been interested in the idea of polyamory. how do you suggest i find someone who is also interested in the same relationship style? -
This is the million dollar question without solution. You can only find out by talking. But if you start a new relationship, talk about it BEFORE going further because it only gets harder later on. The term "open relationship" may be used since this is something most people understand and is less freaky.
obaeyens 2 months ago
Wait, so is it not ok to be polyamarist (or, whatever you call someone who uses polyamary) is the people you are with don't know about it?
Austin101123 2 months ago in playlist More videos from lacigreen
@Austin101123 No, of course not. Polyamory is about consent.
sitakaliism 2 months ago
@sitakaliism oopsy, i didn't know that. D:
Austin101123 2 months ago
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@Austin101123
-- Wait, so is it not ok to be polyamarist (or, whatever you call someone who uses polyamary) is the people you are with don't know about it? --
You are not polyamore if you hide it for your other partners. Before you start they should have had at least a say in this and give you a go. If you hide it then this is cheating and polyamore people really hate cheating, more than monogamous people do.
obaeyens 2 months ago
damn shes pretty hot
cheat123 2 months ago 3
Its actually MULTIamory. Polyamory mixes a greek prefix "poly" with a latin suffix "amor". THIS IS A LANGUAGE NO NO!!! Its either Polyphilia or Multiamory.
CharlotteSometimes00 2 months ago
@CharlotteSometimes00 In that case, please explain the following: aquaphobia, automobile, electrocution, homosexual, hexadecimal, liposuction, neonatal, sociology, Tyrannosaurus rex.
piperson314 2 months ago 24
@piperson314 Nice
mohan2 2 months ago
@CharlotteSometimes00 Also, please explain television.
sitakaliism 2 months ago
great vid... and blouse .. won't make me any less of a dyke at least..
lynild 2 months ago
Lacigreen you are a Scorpio sign aren't you ?
theman4130 2 months ago
Sounds like a lot of work
Doublicon 2 months ago
Sorry i didnt hear anything you said cause your boobs were giggling. :)
metahelix 2 months ago
@metahelix lolol. 'giggling' haha that's cute :)
Sundriesandetc 2 months ago
trust, honesty, communication, in a group where all are satisfied, Geez!! I think you would have better odds being in a car accident..LOL but i didnt know about this and found it very informative, only reason i saw your channel is a mutual subscriber had commented on it and of course the title , had me clicking out of curoiusity
baza1701 2 months ago
sup with the red bow?
razzah1337 2 months ago
@razzah1337 its for aids awareness
JarrodCanHasSinging 2 months ago
i would get too jelly >.>
jonathan85211 2 months ago
@jonathan85211 me too bro :(
JarrodCanHasSinging 2 months ago
did she said "except for Mormons?" because i am one and sorry but i dont get to have more thn one husband .
MzzDanzer 2 months ago
@MzzDanzer that was sarcasm silly
mavishill 2 months ago
@MzzDanzer *facepalm*
KinguNoKin 2 months ago
TITS OR GTFO!
TheAcetheboss 2 months ago in playlist Uploaded videos
did i get blocked?
halo4019 2 months ago in playlist Uploaded videos
Sometimes I sit in waiting rooms and listen to young people mumble when they talk. Their mouths barely move at all, like they just don't care to even try. What I love about Laci is the way she enunciates. She really gets her mouth around those words. That's a great trick for people who have to speak, like radio show hosts, narrators, podcasters, and, of course, people on YouTube. Good on you, Laci.
burntham77 2 months ago
Polygamy's time is come and gone. At one point, the difference in the amount of men compared to the amount of women was pronounced enough on the small group/tribal scale to make one man-multiple wives a workable social situation.
However, social polygamy defies the laws of natural selection. No female looking to support offspring is going to voluntarily choose a mate who already has responsibilities.
It's not wrong, it's just atypical, and it's atypical for a reason.
zEropoint68 2 months ago
@zEropoint68 Actually I know alot of women being Muslim who are open to the idea and have even married in a Polygamy relationship. It's becoming more and more excepted by the younger crowds in the middle east. Even though a few years back it was a no no thing for younger women to accept it. People are more open to the idea. So it hasn't come and gone. You just have to know where to look.
ValleyGurlFrmHell 2 months ago
@ValleyGurlFrmHell That's interesting. I wonder why. I know there's some cultural history of plural marriage and concubinage in the Middle East, so maybe it's that there's actually a higher comfort level with the whole idea, even in spite of what looks right now like a very sexually repressed society.
zEropoint68 2 months ago
@zEropoint68 Responsibility is a social construct not a natural one. It is still natural for multiple people to want the same mate to produce strong offspring. In truth natural selection is more supportive of polygamy than monogamy.
Eginyn 2 months ago
How come this young lady isn't stupid like the vast majority of bloggers(that I've seen) on YouTube? She DESTROYS stereotypes. It's great that she blows my mind. I'm generally not here to be cerebrated upon but I can get to liking this. GOGREEN!
BlueSun1971 2 months ago
For anyone who wants to learn more about prehistoric human sexuality, or what things were like 'back in the day' check out the book 'Sex at Dawn' it's available on ebook and in paperback... really well written and it discusses a lot of info that Laci discusses in this video! Great read, and some tasty food for thought!
Rhiannon22 2 months ago in playlist Uploaded videos
its a strange world. Women have certain advantages. Though sex isn't the end goal is a relationship... its more of a process of how to endure As a male, you have to be either super successful or super fixer. drag ass men don't last long in poly relationships. the best poly group I knew had 1 male... he was an athletic figured man who owned the mercedes dealership. The worst and predictable break up was for a group whose income dried up from social security... but the ladies stayed together.
granddad2002 2 months ago
One reason polygamy was back then, and still today; is because some people can't afford to live alone. Mostly, back then were women. They couldn't do much on their own. So, their best option marry someone. If he happens to have another wife, so what. It was more a financial need back then.
UnbiasedGiraffe 2 months ago in playlist Uploaded videos
Polyamory, to me, is more the ability to have romantic feelings for more than one person at a time. It isn't necessarily within a "relationship" - neither an open or closed one - but more about how you feel. I'm quite polyamorous in that I, at the moment, have very strong feelings for two persons and some kind of romantic feelings for two more - even though I don't have a _relationship_ with either of those. In fact, I prefer not to have relationships at all, prefering simply (cont)
lordbaver 2 months ago in playlist Uploaded videos