Don't be a boring date! www.practicalhappiness.com

[MrHav1k]

And what if all of this shit is inconsistent with your normal personality?? WHAT THE FUCK THEN??

I've come to the conclusion that the whole dating "game" is one giant act and everyone has this goddamn mask on all the fucking time. No wonder the divorce rate is so high.

[TheWhopperTinger]

Sense of humor is by far the most attractive thing a man can have, personality wise, it's handy to learn young how to be funny and witty, especially one liners.

[Dominos5000]

Your good, these videos help a lot :D

[mslovelyKors1]

So cute how he always says "thank you" :)

[Schneewittchen09]

Doesnt this affect your dating life ?

If you date a girl and she looks up your advices here, arent u scared of her thinking you kind of learned how to behave with her?

This is not ment in a rude way ;) it just run into my head watching this.

[thisisrachels]

truth!

[7575047]

Go out with girls that you have LOTS of similar interests/things in common otherwise your wasting your time.

[JoeCaliforniah]

You forget an important one. U SHULD LISTEN. COZ TALKING ALL TIME IS GONNA BORED THE FUCK OUT OF HER

[d260]

lol @ 1:34-44

[CariagaXIII]

just like a elementary teacher said learn to say no :)

[luckyvidoes]

what you are saying ... hmmm actually.. is. making ...... sense!

thanks bro!

keep up the good work!

[WalterRodriguez93]

most boring guys are the shy guys..and im shy

[rubikscube10111]

Women are so complicated GAHHH

[hwcvh]

You are kinda genius ! Thanks for all the tips !

[davidattends]

Pure gold. I think we should build a science on "conversation techniques", because I've seen there are repetitive situations and forms of reaction that can be identified.

[jlwelch]

I'm actually REALLY glad I started watching videos like these and reading books. I almost wish I hadn't ever dated until now because I must have made every single one of these mistakes with each gf. I've said "I like you" too early, I was hesitant to kiss or make any kind of move, I was boring, etc... Honestly, there is a lot to learn. One wonders why they don't teach this during sex ed in school lol

[cluelessrae]

I enjoy discovering the interior of your house through each video.

[Nutrient16]

im guy and i find him charming lol

[edhusse]

what if i am just a boring person? i am. how do i become more interesting and fun, when most of the time, i feel like i have nothing to say?

[wutangforeva36]

@edhusse dude pick up a hobby, go to the gym regularly, join a club you'll have plenty to talk about. Also pursue a passion of yours you'll have hella shit to fall back on if it get quite. quite's not such a bad thing awkwardness is but make the convo about her interests in relationship to yours, and let her talk throwing in your two cents every once and a while... listen to other music too (wu tang- its artistic if you have an open mind) dont change yourself just expand

[edhusse]

@wutangforeva36 thanks for your reply dude, yea wu-tang is sick - check out bonobo

[jlwelch]

@wutangforeva36

I couldn't agree more. If you think you are a boring person, it is probably because you don't have enough outside interests. Leave the office/lab/video games/etc... aside and develop more interests in life. Then, seek out women who share these interests.

[Ojokernegro]

@edhusse Live life bro. Get out, meet people, make friends, do stupid stuff (not so stupid you'll go to jail for it), watch movies, read books, talk to strangers once in a while (that's different from meeting new people), hear people's stories. Be alive.

You'll never be a boring guy that way, because with each day you live you get a story to tell.

[MrPeast]

@Ojokernegro amen

[edhusse]

@Ojokernegro thank you. I needed that

[alexluvpug]

i like this one

[KillerCracker69]

You know, there's a lot of fucking boring ass girls out there, too. Be yourself, and focus on not trying too hard (I know, Boris must me jumping up and down right now with disagreement), because from my experience, most of them are only worth their vaginas. 

[FastMovinTrain]

This is so right. There's this good lucking guy I know but he is UNBELIEBVABLY boring. It just kills the attraction.

[2CSST2]

@FastMovinTrain you'r a girl watching these videos? I've got a question for you, how can that guy get less boring for you now you think he is boring, without appearing as trying to be someone else? Cause I might be that guy you talk about with some girls, but it's just hard to me not to be boring cause I lose all sense of humour when I feel attraction, the stress kills imagination, creativity, which are inevitable to not being boring!

[FastMovinTrain]

@2CSST2 Hey let me help you out. The 'boring' guy that I was talking about literally has no expression on his face, that's what makes him so utterly dull. I've never seen him laugh or even smile. He just sits there in class next to me and remains frozen like a stone. My advice to you is, if you get stage freight, you don't have to say anything, all you have to do is SMILE.

And btw, dude, I'm a dude, who likes dudes.

[jasonbear72]

Spice things up guys I reccomend having your balls out of your fly just like woman use boobs to attract you! It works I do it when I go to local malls,etc Give it a try and report back with results!

[ubking777]

@jasonbear72 Great Idea! We need some wonderballbra's with ball cleavage.

Then give her grief when she glances in direction instead of your face.

If only our balls were closer to our face (not invite ladies) like cleav/breasts.

It's really great when women not only have the exposed cleavage but a neclace

w/pendant that moves & distracts in that direction & of course as the man are the pig for looking. ... I'm breaking out my singer to whip up a wonderballbra now. I'll report back soon guys

[sNaYkE15]

1:33 made me lol X)

[ppooler]

thanks arkady I have already watch all of your videos and Ive applied these hints into practise and it all worked out...how do you know all of these things ? I wish i would know these things much earlier...it was so simple cause i just didnt know that, it was all about knowing these things, really ...

[iNNeViTable1]

Fellas use these tips on grenades & landminds for practice of coarse...you don't wanna just go up to a beautiful woman & totally blow it. lol Most guys are nervous as heck around a very beautiful girl, its much easier to talk to a girl thats less attractive bcuz she wont be as entertaining to your mind...XD Talk to her as if she IS the girl you really want, and if you mess up you'll learn for next time. No need to worry if she becomes uninterested bcuz she was a "test dummy" (no offense)

[vanessafarmfresh]

small pee pees are actually the biggest turnoff.... but a boring date does come in second....

[prettypink2100]

nice, you are a very smart guy who has a lot of insight on womens perspectives towards guys in general. gotta like that lol

[MrYayo22]

i think you should just be yourself, if your date thinks your boring well i guess she is not the right one for you

[reshapejoker]

@MrYayo22 I agree.

[Shoei6m9]

u can see why he had to study all of this... it didnt come natural from the beginning, and still after all this treatment he sounds like a parrot (aspbergers syndrom) abnormal fascination with the simplist things and a studdering speech...

[ladodger1992]

just be urself

[Isabella1210]

oh yes, there is nothing more annoying (and finally more boring) than a guy who is always like "oh, yeah, thats true, you are so right bla bla bla" no matter what you say........always needs at least a little challenge ;)

[sharkdudeintegra]

What he said made perfect sense...you need to bring your own thoughts and ideas to the table, and not agree with everything she says. I usually bring up a topic, then get her opinion or a response to it, basically try and keep her talking...because women LOVE to talk. When speaking, I enjoy talking while using hand gestures, it keeps the person listening awake and attentive, but overdoing it may cause you to knock your drink over and feel dumb lol

[Maratrushka]

u r so smart 

[Mujahidwolf]

"You don't have to fight and argue with everything she says" LMFAO

[eL3ctr1c4L]

This video is the most important of them all.

[HeyYouPMme]

Helped a lot thank you =P

[IMarriedGeorgL]

nice! i hate boring dates! altho dude u shud realy get urself someone to stop the camera for u. it looks less funny so u dont have to stop it urself

[ElchinMendes]

i have a friend who helps me with stuff like this, and she told me to use the idea of sometimes disagreeing and having your own opinion, and it actually works really well ;d

[bubasvaba8]

respects! real talk!

[nskaile]

my date said im looking good and i wanted to argue about it cuz like thi sguy said, i dint wanna say yes yes yes to evething, when she keep saying im not bad lookin as i think i am, i smashed her face with my car door and she loved it! :)

[icanshoot06]

@nskaile u what lol ? car door? smashed ?

[DjKDM7000]

Good ways to not have a boring date! Skydiving... Taking flying lessons together... In a hot air balloon... bungee cord testing.. etc. And if you EVER feel the need to ask boring questions about where she works or her mom or talk about the weather, be sure to only do so AFTER you've already exited the plane during a sky dive, and be sure you're done BEFORE you reach the ground!

[anonymousllll]

thank u for the advice u are very helpful

[Meepeyful]

It's so true...I hate guys who agree with me just for the sake of agreeing...I've only been on 2 really boring dates in my life...and guys should avoid excessively talking about something that the girl clearly has no interest in!!

[DjKDM7000]

@Meepeyful I know, huh!!! By the way, have you heard 50 Cent's new CD? (Get it? I agreed and talked about something no one is interested in!!)

Ok just kidding. I actually like 50. I love how he rhythmically... ...(Oops... Damn it! Now I REALLY think I'm already messing up with Meepeyful!)

[nuggitron]

Guys listen to this man he knows what he's talking about!!!

(...Now to find the female equivalent...)

[ksasaki]

your videos are really helpful! Thanks, I like your accent :P

[stacytang]

dude! your good. I just got from a date where the guy was SO boring! no good conversation.

[jackbliss]

This guy's girlfriend or wife is probably the luckiest woman alive :)

[Milas19962002]

Another contradiction advice. One video he says don't disagree with what women says and in this video he says don't agree. Which one is it?

[clubbizarre]

@Milas19962002

only agree if you are fed up discussing with her ;-) she'll feel confirmed and shut up :D

[foodstooge]

women are dull and uninteresting. Why? because they are accustomed to being courted and pursued. Even after "women's lib" and "equal rights," women don't want to pay for themselves or engage in a 2 way conversation on dates. They want to be either cajoled and entertained, or they want to bore YOU with the trivia of their dreary lives.

[ffdff]

seems you only met the wrong women? i don't want to say that i don't kinda agree, but there are some that are different. the one i had a date with today for example.

[12freax]

what about when women are as boring as hell?

A lot of goth women out there are the most boring women ever, give men some slack, they have to put up with so much bulllshit.

[BigAssROMAN]

@12freax I dated a girl who was so boring. After I broke it off, i referred to her as the wet blanket when I told my friends. goth chicks have a reason... drugs clog up their brains.

[TitanSubZero15]

@12freax Then you're a lucky bastard

[MrHav1k]

@12freax

True. This fucking society and all the PUA gurus put women on a pedestal as if they can do no wrong and are perfect while its the man who must always be doing everything.These cunts are so picky, its getting to the point where to even get a number you have to be 6'4'' or taller, look like Brad Pitt, and be the next Dave Chapelle in the humor department. This world is fucked up.

[Silvafdf]

Thanks arkady i agree with you ;)

I'm serious xD

[theman10069]

haha ill say something like u look nice tonight but idk about ur shoes haha even tho they might "look nice"

[MrsupRambo]

this is one of the main problems i have, thnx im gonna fix it, just a while ago i got ditched SHITTY GIRL, but i forgive her

[jrion2]

woah wait. this guy actually made a video to tell guys that they shouldnt be boring on a date? lol... im pretty sure that goes without saying....

[SunSatlON]

personal experience: women will keep arguing until they hear us say, "OK! You're right"

[ko0wal]

@SunSatlON fucking true man

[Skatolotodo]

@SunSatlON that what humor is for, you can jsut change their attention with jokes

[tabadot]

@SunSatlON Then u say - no matter what facts u are trying to provide (and women rarely can provide at good facts) i cannot agree with you. May be you are not so experienced on the matter. If a woman respects u , she will agree with you. If she insists on being stubborn for nothing even to the degree of becoming ridiculous, may be she is just a trouble maker and drama queen. In my experience, I leave such women without my presence.

[dogjohnny]

agreeing with a woman all the time is an easy way to participate a conversation without listening to what she's saying...

[IamInYourClosett]

genius, but tell us things to talk to women about, thats my problem

[CountDOODOO]

Yeah, this is one of my problems too - being boring. Thanks for the video! I gotta work on my humor.

[iCornerbacKi]

this is probably my number one problem :(

[N0LiMiT23]

I know, I need to work on this also.

[teacherman1903]

Arkady is great. One poster said he's straight and wants to date him. Make that two straight people who want to date him. Now what happens when everybody watches Arkady's videos and they all become interesting? Will that mean all the interesting people will start becoming boring and the few boring people will now start to look interesting?

[micoscopic]

When you frist meet a girl......In the beginning you have to be just a hint of an asshole to the girl but in a playful way, it sparks their attention and takes you away from being the nice boring guy. Works every time.

[icanshoot06]

very true, but WHY?

[Infiniteuphorix]

it really is very complicated isnt it.. the whole dating/partner world.. you can see how many people just give up lol

[Kitsune81]

If you have a problem with this download the E-book "Double your dating" by David DeAngelo, he talks about a concept called cocky & funny, it's great stuff, and very helpful, it certainly helped me ALOT.

[lampard554]

How do you make conversation with a bit of an unresponsive girl?

[Necro13Spaaw]

my question exactly

[chrl007]

if she doesnt respond to u, that's mean she is not into u :)

[lampard554]

thats what i thought at 1st but at this party when she was a bits tipsy she kept on wanting to dance with me and get my attention. Then as soon as shes sober again she talks to me but shes just abit agreeable, if that makes sense.? like shes not that orginal so i think maybe shes shy? idk

[GeeDrummer]

yes i'd like to know too.

[MrCheapSuits]

you don't, if she is unresponsive she doesnt like you

[MarktheSharkSheehan]

play a small little game

[vincent4500]

I disagreed with a girl about her interest in X Factor/Big Brother, I just jokingly said that there's more talent in a bag of manure/fertilizer, with a wry smile to keep it light..and she got upset, in fact she dumped me at the end of that date...WHAT I LEARN'T= TELL THEM WHAT THEY WANT TO HEAR JUST TO GET THEM IN THE SACK, fuck being honest or being a 'challenge', at least for the majority of dumb fucking bitches out there it doesn't work..for them their whole world revolves around x factor!!

[martymars]

Give her booze.

[lampard554]

lol THANKS .

[raikkonen85]

yes gilrs want ppl to challenge. like my g/f, she likes arguemnts, one timew i try hard not to, but she wanted one and i couldnt take anymore so we had a massive arugemnt over nothing. lol. point being, dont agree with her just cause you like her etc.

[TheRobpowerfull]

Sarcasm, good humor and personality, I got it !!! .. Thanks !!!

[eatme00o00]

this is right on~I totally can't stand a boring guy

[NoShit12]

O RLY ? Maybe you should stick a Dildo inside your stincky pussy and hire a clown for your self, little princess.

"i just CANT stand boring guys" - little spoiled girl.

[collegeboy360]

WOW that was uncalled for lmao

[NancyNancy1387fuh]

Nor do I!

[goppy408]

why cant i be funy im a sexy guy but so boring once with a girll fuckk its so hardd i get so nervous....what do i doooo my life is ruinedddddddddd.

[SupaAbzyBall]

do something thats fun! Go on fun dates, where you can be interactive, then go for a drink/dinner etc.

For example, I have taken girls to go-karting, quirky restaurants (eg ethopian) or even a game or 2 of pool. I would even try ice skating, but I suck at that! haha!

[samazn20]

there this girl hitting on me and we going to have a date at start buck in an hr. i'm not really into her, because i can't read her lol i dont know what she wants from me...lol usually i make the moves on the girl now it's the opposite

[Ali2m]

how did the date go?

[samazn20]

to be honest, i felt really relieve after 2 hours date with her...lol i really dont like her traits..her quality didn match me.:( I told her to take a walk with me parkthen after that i just wanted to go home to study..but she wanted to go eat lunch, eventhough i wasn't hungry, so we went.She just kept talking about herself that wasn't relevant to our dateI already finished my plate before she did l We parked she put her feet on my dash board.:( This girl even texting when she was with me :(

[samazn20]

Plus when we were at restaurant (thai food) she's a blondy..lol anyway i don't mind paying for the date since i'm a guy that's in my nature. But she was just stood there didn't even try to get her wallet out and pay for the tap expecting me to pay for it when we barely know each otherWe met in the gym never in college never really spoke but we text sometime If a girl atleast trying to pay for it it's just a common courtesy, i would really like that quality Beside i'm going to pay anyway

[kaymany]

i always realise the rude and careless guys always get it better . i think the best thing is just to be yourself and let her decide . if she stays you re lucky . if not then move on .

[jimmiej69]

cool, thanks man!

[kdjfnvjvd]

flirt,funny,serious,and a lil disagree!! Guys, That's a recipe for a long-term relationship and SEX obviously. I believe it's also been referred to as "The push/pull" theory. It's the backbone of all relationships.

[jannevellamo]

I've discovered that anything I say without confidence is judged as either boring, creepy or suspicious. Even when I'm hilariously funny, I'm considered ridiculous, not witty or amusing. Well, I had my confidence surgically removed by a team of experts 30 years ago and I never saw it again. Means I'm doomed, I guess. What if you have a severe trauma that strangles all hope? Got a solution? Ultimate confidence patch 6.2a?

[Sk8tingLearner]

Just think the following: I' am much more intelligent than her so if she wants me she deserves me if she doesn't then she is not intelligent enough for you.

[Fierysasuke]

Now that was funny

[floss16]

wow i've been flirting for a long time and lots of girls have flirted wit me lol

[kufudokungfu]

thanks mate

[pauljames00]

this doesn't apply to me...fuck, im boring.

[eddym1975]

You are already funny!!!

[iagoseilaoqmais]

great advice Arkady, i´ll keep that in mind always, ur youtube videos have been helping me VERY MUCH, never stop posting them! good luck

[nestoloco]

This guy is awesome. But hey just a quick story: I completely disagreed with a girl about a subject. It was a big matter, but I just wanted to get my point across, without appearing rude, so I kept smiling while speaking my mind. Was that the right thing to do?

[Ko252]

depends on how she took it. as long as you dont had to be right (no matter what), and was able to explain your opinion, i guess you're just fine.

[VWmanGTI]

Mix david with mystery. You are the offspring. lol i know you know exactly what i mean

[zehanwang]

This guy should write a book about how to be succeeded with women. I really like most of his videos! Good job, man.

[Northposeyrox]

You got that right, boring is a turnoff.

[taniashmania]

I disagree, the more you say Yes! I know what you mean! the more attractive you are for me. I am looking for soulmate, wich is already difficult to find, so if you are going to follow his advice and disagree with me just for fun, I don't think it's attractive. the man that disagrees with me from the begining looks agressive and stubborn. But if I see that you are trying hard to agree with me even if I am not always right, to me it means that you are trying your best and that is attractive.

[Pepinoni2006]

You are the man. As i hear you I see the things with women... more... you know... easier, more natural, it cheers me and invites me to approach to women the next night in the clubs :) thanks a lot¡¡

[dapez77]

I love you BROOOOOOOOO!!! U make me feel so confident and u fill me with hope!!

[johnrambot]

I AGREE. Nah seriously good advice keep them coming.

[kublkun]

alright i just thought of this because i do it all the time

when a girl asks you your age is it alright to lie about your age by say a year a head or a year behind and does it really matter if im older or younger then her?

[mairsil]

Being deceitful in a relationship is a death knell. Age is only relevant if both people consider it so.

[psychedelicsoul]

You just sound so fresh and not like the others that I've heard who sound so phony and just give me this bad vibe.Kudos!

[0B0B9B8B]

ARe you HITCH? You know from the movie or something? Watchin your videos has made me so confident and talking to women doesent make me nervous as it used to...I am very happy now because i have the confidence to smile at them and i noticed that this makes me feel happier and shows them that I am more interesting of a person!My everyday life and interaction with other people has improved drammatically since I started watching your vids.. THANK YOU MAN...AND HONESTLY YOU ARE SO ADDICTING! :)

[collegeboy360]

addicting even today...in 2009!!

[unrealboot1]

best advice i heard from people is to chat shit lol.But i guess you gotta learn the skill if you aint got it naturally

[mateor09]

shit man i used to do that all the time... agree with this one girl but it was only because she talked about useless things to me like her friends dumping her... lol

[nachoexpresso]

I found out that the time, and the practice will make you more confident as arkady , explain on their videos, I m putting my effort and arkady help, and I can tell you that it really works!! a lot, like 90%, thank so much for your help you are great, keep up your excelent work. :)

[arkady39]

Thank you. These kinds of comments make me feel proud of my work.

[chinosister]

LOL This guy really knows what women want. I totally agree.

[arkady39]

Thanks, I am glad you find this useful.

[TonicEnergy]

(part 2of2) ...of making Sangria, ordering dinner (a pizza maybe)and maybe invite a couple friendly to lighten the pressure. Also, perhaps rent a comedy movie. I want to spend time and have fun with her but i don't have ideas/activities that will help me to be more physical with her. Thank you so much for you time Arkady! :D You are the best! Ciao!

[TonicEnergy]

(part 1of2) I need some help! lol I've gone on two dates here in San Francisco with Mandy and they both went very well, we connected almost immediately. The things is... i'm a rather shy guy when it comes to physical interaction, and she noticed this. I don't want to come across as boring or uninterested in her simply because i'm nervous to caress and touch her. I have not kissed her yet, hugged once, and that's it so far. It's saturday today she lives next door to my apt. I'm thinking of...

[ralphmiel88]

you're right dude!

[mastoor32]

so we should not agree with you in every isue .. to learn how not to be bored when we are on a date :-)

thanke you for that benefits advices ..keep up ..i'm still learning from you ..

[arkady39]

Thanks!

[holyangel888]

I think what is the most important is to be yourself in a relationship,not to try to be someone else to please the person,because one day or another the person is going to discover who u really are and may be disappointed... another reason is that the benefits to stay yourself is that if the person get interested in you,is really for yourself,otherwise,it is a waste of time...

[arkady39]

Good advice. However, what does "being yourelf" really mean? We behave and act so differently depending upon who we are with and what we do?

Also, for many people "being yourself" means continuing being unattractive. For them "being yourself" is a justification not to do anything to improve their communication skills and their personality.

[mercilessgladiator]

i like how you alway say thank you the end lol

anyway great advice man, good work

oh yea but still the problem is HOW to apporach a girl you find attractive at mall that you dont know and she doesnt know you.

Andd how to get out on a date or number with out comming out like a stalker/creepo and have done this to many other womans.

Thank you.

[kenx213]

Please keep these coming, great tips for anyone to follow.

[arkady39]

Thanks, a lot. I will keep those coming!