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  • sorry to use words that ruin the mood your video set, but i used to have a friend that had a mullet and he would wear douchbag sunglasses and a spedo at the beach whilst wearing socks with flip flops, he looked ridiculous but he just didn't give a FUCK. There are several people i've met who just don't give a fuck. Although i have no interest in changing who i am now, for i am fairly happy me. i figure if i somehow changed, i would keep this "Doesn't give a fuck" attitude. I think every1 should

  • @75egcg fairly happy WITH me* ...but yeah i think everyone should just stop giving a fuck about everything it sounds bad, but it helps your psyche out a lot

  • i want to be normal to 

  • Wonderful video,,thanx

  • @Jenna08848 And thank you  in return.

  • Dear Sarah,

    I've just watched this again, because of an email that my father sent me, and i wanted to send him your Answer to what's being normal... i'm again struck by how poetic this text is, and immediately respond reciting Gary Snyder: Everything in the universe is natural, even cities are natural ooh.. i don't know it by heart ...well anyway it WAS MEANT from the heart!!!

    ahem, it's late; sorry...but i just wanted to say that i so agree with Michifox...Love, Rickie

  • @loetje Ooooo, you know about Gary Snyder! But then, that shouldn't surprise me, given how amazing you are. Are you all settled in now? Or still ever the traveling troubadour? Miss you Rickie......♡ Sarah

  • Very well said! You have a talent for saying what others think- but don't posess your talent with words to speak so eloquently! That deserves a standing ovation! Bravo!

  • Blushes

    :">

  • thank you

  • My pleasure.

  • You are just beauiful, I just saw your inner core, and its magnificent. Thanks for showing those thoughts

  • You are most welcomed.

  • me too! Categorization is for the mindless. People who cannot process individuals as they encounter them have a lack of mental capacity or are lazy or whatever. But I have little interest in it.

  • Agreed!

  • i'm not homosexual but i completely agree with you so thank you for this little message

  • You are most welcomed. And there is certainly no need to be homosexual or otherwise to feel the pressures to fit into some preconceived mold.

  • I think you're wonderful. (If you need anything from Paris, just hollar.)

  • And I you....thanks!

  • Best of luck to you in life my friend. Subscribed

  • Why thank you! Welcome aboard.

  • I love this video!!!!

  • Why thank you!!

  • I would hate to be "normal"

    Whats so great about it?

  • Nothing I can think of.

  • There's no such thing as 'normal'. Normal is boring.

  • I couldn't agree more.

  • I am so excited to see you in a couple weeks!

  • oooh! I'm so glad for you, Erin, and also very jealous...just hug her for me...!!!! Love, Rickie.

  • I just came across your video..moving, thoughful and couldn't agree with you more..thanks for sharing..

  • And here I am just now coming across your comment! Thanks for letting me know what you thought.

  • "Normal" is a setting on a washing machine; it's not a life.

    I'm straight, but I'm not stupid or intolerant.

    Humanity is not "normal"; it's too diverse for that.

    Henrik

  • Hi Henrik! What a wonderful thought and image! Not sure if I will ever do laundry quite the same again. : )

  • there is no such thing as not normal. EVERYTHING in life is already here, so calling it not normal is ignorance.

  • Agrred.

  • Wow, thank you for that insight. I've never looked at it in the way that you put it when you said "too much of our freedoms is built on the back's of those people's pain and deaths".

    Its very inspiring, thank you. :)

  • Sorry this is so late, but wanted to thank you for your comment. I appreciate the thoughts and knowing this piece meant something to you.

  • Couldn't agree more.

  • Thank you, this was really beautiful. I completely agree. I feel like this opinion is often one that is ostracized in the trans community, so I'm so glad you've expressed it.

  • Just wanted to say thanks - some five months late!! - for your comment and coming by to watch.

  • You're forcing me to comment by disabling 'rating': 5 stars. :) There is no normal - the idea of it is wrong, it causes wrongs. I love what you say at the end of the video - "we all go to sleep and dream" - is that a quote from some awesome poet, or an original piece, if you will?

  • Hi....I am SO sorry to have taken SO long to reply!! Especially to such a lovely note. In any case, wanted to pass along my appreciation, belated or not. As for the quote....its mine. So glad you liked it.

  • Wow - you are very strong, confident and stable, yet incredibly kind and gentle...I have always heard that every snowflake unique to its own, is seen and forgotten, yet with unity, can bring an entire city to a halt. Your individuality and your efforts to be steadfast and united in a such a complicated and fiercely populated society is above and beyond reproach...Thank you and God Bless!

  • Sorry for the belatedness of my reply, but did want to say thank you for your words. I don't know how strong and stable I am - like everyone I have my moments and challenges - but I do fiercely believe in life and love and freedom. Thank you again.

  • i love this. i tend to chafe at the word normal for all the shame it implies, all the limitation. but your re-definition of normal (really, just being human!) is a lovely one. thanks.

  • Well, only six months late in replying, but your thoughts and comment are still appreciated. Thanks for having stopped by.

  • maybe normality is, as juduth butler said about gender, a copy without an original...like something so many people aim for but which doesnt really exist because whats considered "normal" changes all the time

  • A ridiculously late reply, but wanted to say thanks for your thoughts. I always liked that thought of Judith Butler's - it rings true for me, as so much of her work does.

  • I completely agree

    Being normal is overrated

    -Sam

  • It certainly is! :)

    Thanks for taking the time to watch and leave a comment.

  • A very powerful and moving speech i personally feel. I am proud to be a normal queer.

  • And I am proud to stand alongside you.

  • Dear Sarah, I came across your vlogs recently and love all your videos.This one especially. I think you are incredible. I am not trans, or know any trans people, but I have learned so much from you. What an awesome spirit you are. Words fail me now, but all I can say is just continue to be you. We are all normal.

  • Fightdog, thank you SO much....that means an incredible amount to me. And we ARE all normal, all part of so many larger communities that defy barriers and definitions - trans, non-trans, in the end little of that really matters. Good to meet you.

  • So, I can actually understand you! I'm deaf, so I usually can't understand movies, but you're really easy to lipread and I can hear your voice. Yay!

    I completely agree with this video and I'm subscribing to it.

  • I'm so glad you can understand it! I also loved your first vid and can't wait to see more.

  • you are very wise.

  • Oh, not so sure about that, but....well, let me stop while I'm ahead and simply say 'thanks'.

  • well put!! thank you!

  • You are SO welcome.

  • wow

  • Thank you!

  • I always wanted to be 'normal', wanted to be save. But what's life when you're always following someone else's ass just to keep in line..

    So hooray for being happy. Hooray for things that matter.

    And thank you for this video (: love it.

  • And hooray for you and your songs and the sweetness and smiles they give to me. Truly...I think you a simply wonderful!! And I am so glad you stopped by and commented.

  • Oh dear, I so agree and disagree with you simultaneously.

    Something like "normal" does - and can - not exist in the same world as individuality!

    Therefore, we're all free to be who we are, and go together well, and to accept each other.

    Every one is different in their own way, not good or bad, yet simply individual,

    and that is why love is free.

    Much love to you :)

  • I think we agree more than you think! :) Seriously. And in any case, I love what you wrote. Much love to you in return :)

  • Thank you very much :) And I didn't mean to say that I think you would disagree :)

    The love should be give- accept- and returnable more easily, it's sad how so many think they have to make and name boxes they can stuff people into to justify they don't have to interact with them. I really don't understand such kinds of "individuals"

  • "The only abnormality is the inability to love," --Anais Nin

    I love this video.

    Congrats on your wedding.

  • Thank you! The Anais Nin quote is precious. I have always loved her and actually use another quote from her on my channel description.

  • I saw that. That's why I shared the other quote. Nin is very quotable. Now that I think of it, I think I'll add this one to my own channel:

    "I will not be just a tourist in the world of images, just watching images passing by which I cannot live in, make love to, possess as permanent sources of joy and ecstasy."

    Seems apt given the forum.

    Take care.

  • To put it simply..this moved me to tears.

    The way you word these things makes me feel as if I've known you forever.

    When you talked about "the legacy", I finally felt as if by finding out who my real self was, that there was like..a family around. A community. Even if I didn't know them, that there were people out there just like me a lot closer than I had thought.

    Thank you for sharing your outlook with the world, because it is a certainly wise and intelligent speech.

  • Well, first things first - that is one wild background on your channel! Ouch! :D

    More seriously though - comments like these make all the difference in the world for me. They touch me in ways you might not realize. So thank you in return.

    I truly have come to love all of us - all of our wacky precious messed-up beautiful souls and selves. And yes, there is a family of sorts that, while spread out, is always there for you.

    Keep in touch...hugs ♥

  • Being "Normal" is a waste of life (just in my opinion), to be just another sheep in a herd is like going through life sleepwalking.

  • Couldn't agree more!!

  • Amen.

  • Short but to the point - thanks!

  • Exactly! What is normal? I think it's so sad how society sets out to make us feel "not normal." We're all ppl with feelings. Loving, breathing human beings. Thanks for posting this. I really liked it! You seem like a sweet genuine person. Take care! =]

  • And thank you for such a lovely response!! I also want to say how much I love the e.e. cummings quote on your channel. It has been a favorite of mine for a long time.

  • Oh yes, I love that quote. It's a personal favorite of mine as well. Great minds think alike! Hope all is well! =]

  • Important news for many in their bunkers, ... Come out of your holes and live for the now, for soon we are stardust again...

  • Beautiful..simply beautiful.

  • You have alot of good things to say and you are very admirable. I'm not a trans girl, but I've been told all my life how abmormal I am and that I don't belong around other people for different reasons. And, what you say in this video is so important to know and remember. Thank you.

    -Annie (JAnnOMal)

  • Hi Annie: Trans or not, as you so clearly know, makes little difference. Any of us that are judged not to 'fit'- for whatever reason - know the same pain of rejection and isolation. So ultimately we ALL need to join hands in fellowship and friendship and love. Take care....Sarah

  • "Normal people ... believe that if it ain't broke, don't fix it. Engineers believe that if it ain't broke, it doesn't have enough features yet."

    ~Scott Adams

  • I adore Scott Adams....thanks for that!

  • Thank you for your beautifull video, it means a lot to me. I favourited this one and I finally subscribed.

  • That it connected with you at this level - well, that means a ton in return. I appreciate it dearly.

  • This is the first video on youtube I've ever seen that has made me teary eyed and sniffly. Thank you so much for sharing - you have no idea how much your words mean to me.

  • And your comments are like precious gifts in return - I am truly humbled by your words. Thank you.

  • the way you speak is so beautiful, thank you. :)

  • You are so sweet to say so....thank YOU!

  • are you jewish? you look jewish a bit.

  • I am, but not sure why that would matter.

  • it doesn't make a difference just making small talk. You just look like a jewish woman i know that is all. wanted to see if my hunch was right.

  • No problem then :)

  • Normal...is being Yourself.

    No matter what You are.

  • Amen to that.

  • Normal is a distribution.

  • Are you like from another country? you have a nice voice.

  • Eloquent, astute, ultimately empathetic. Thanks so much for this message. My life is enriched by it and hopefully others are enlightened.

  • What a SWEET response - thank you! It means so much to me when people can take away something positive and feel enriched. It makes so much of this worthwhile and is by far the deepest compliment.

  • What is normal?...

    Everything in this box of normal is simply being judged in a subjective view.

    Normal is relative, nothing more...

    It is sad thought, that people become so obscessed with differences, they are blinded to the truth.

    we are all human, and our collective differences are what shapes the notion of normality.

    To say, "I am normal", Is and always will be a self-rightous lie.

    Transgender is not a state of being, just an explaination of how you got to be who you are...

  • Normal is normal... Man, Woman, Children...normal

  • Beautifully, BEAUTIFULLY said!! Thank you!

  • There's NO such thing as 'normal'!!Normal is what 'the masses' wanna be...and personally,i can't think of a lot else i'd rather NOT be!!Fuk labels,of EVERY description!!!!You just be YOURSELF babes,an FUK anyone that doesn't 'approve'!!!!Yo GO girl...!!Chin UP an stand PROUD!!!!Love Maz,X...

  • Well, you have no argument here! I agree whole heartedly!!!

  • that's so true... we are all just people. and this should apply to everyone..of any race or gender or age. no one should think they have the right to judge someone and classify them as 'normal' or not. we are all humans and we all have just as much right to have a part in the human race as the next person. i wish more people could see the world this way. thank you for posting this.

  • You are most welcome. I've been so pleased by the responses to this vid - from the number of people who, like you, embrace the full range of what it means to be human. Thank you for responding.

  • Wow, this is not the first time my comments have been quoted but I was inspired by the greatness on this page. I hope you will continue to inspire others. It is far easier to share the sun than to avoid the rain.

  • Thank you.

  • I accidentally deleted this comment left by 'themanyone' - apologies!! The delete and reply buttons are so close together:

    "Thank you for having the courage to say what needs to be said. Although I am often mistaken for a normal person I don't consider myself to be any more normal than anyone else. In this respect, I am not and will never be. I am something else, something universal and timeless. My true identity sleeps while I'm awake and awakens while I dream."

  • Thank you so so much for such a positive and wonderful response. And your last phrase about true identity - beautiful. Thank you for connecting and being who you are as well.

  • Beautifully spoken and wholeheartedly agreed with! I enjoyed your sharing very much, especially the lines about all of us going to sleep and dreaming. What a great commonality to bring light to! I hope I never experience societies 'normal', I much prefer life to consistantly be inconsistant with as many changes and experiences as I can fit into it!

  • Why thank you!! And I enjoyed your sharing this response with me....it means a lot when I can connect with others, so I appreciate your taking the time to comment. I like your phrase "constantly inconsistent".....reminds me of my life! :D

  • i think the only abnormal thing is your accent

  • I've actually had an 'accent' since I was very young because of a hearing defect which made it difficult to learn how to pronounce many sounds...so while it is perhaps 'unusual' I would never think of it as 'abnormal'

  • What a very moving video. Made me think about the labels we apply to ourselves. Here are mine, white, married, Mormon, mother, British, Republican. Those labels may make you think I think of you as "not normal" but that isnt true. I think you are lovely, I hear your soft voice and think , this is someone I could have read my children to sleep at night, I have never thought of myself as "normal" , there really is no such thing . Bless you in all you do....

  • And what an utterly lovely response - I am SO thankful you watched and connected! People like you are a blessing....may you have the sweetest of days.

  • Good on you unmeasuredinstances for posting this

    No one is normal, but it's a very sad thing that for some of society, their particular abnomality does not get the respect it deserves, whilst for others, they were born lucky in that their abnormality is allowed to exist, with the dignity and support it requires.

  • Thank you very much - I truly appreciate your taking the time to watch and comment. It means a lot.

  • Interesting. You thought this out- thanks for your time and thoughts.

  • Glad you found it interesting - thanks so much for stopping by.

  • Only the normal want to be special. The only thing that annoys me is defining yourself by being Transexual. I dunno how people should define who they are but, religion, sexuality and politics aren't good ones to go by in my view.

    Good for you for wanting to be different :D.

  • I'm not sure if you meant this part for me: "The only thing that annoys me is defining yourself by being Transexual." I certainly don't define myself in that way - or at least I see that as only one part. If asked, I would more quickly say I am a painter and writer....in fact being trans hardly ever comes up in my life. But obviously I belong to that community here and so do often focus on that theme. Anyway, thanks for taking the time to comment and stop by - I appreciate it!!

  • Love the video... :) thanks!

  • And thank you!!

  • i know exactly what you mean - you're excellent at speeches. x

  • Thank you Antohney  - its nice to know you stopped by.

  • your word are so powerful...amazing. There's a comfort for me in what you say; my eyes were welling up towards the end. You're really amazing, keep it up!

    Lauren

  • Lauren -

    Thank you hun - that means the world to me and I never tire of saying that. It is so sweet to hear.

  • Thank you. That was very sweet. :)

  • You are SO welcome. Thank you for stopping by.

  • I'm totally embarrassed to say that I just now stumbled on your channel by way of the lovely Grishno. I was floored by this video! You are a beautiful person. Just wonderful. I'm sorry I didn't find you sooner : )

  • Lu - Thank you so, sO, SO much!!

    And later, sooner....that you found my channel and this vid, and connected with them, that is the only thing that matters. And I am so grateful for your gifts in return - the warmth of this comment and the recent vid.

  • Who wants to be "NORMAL" anyway?

    Look AROUND you. You DON'T want to be that. :)

  • [looking around]

    "Mmmm.....no one here but me......yikes!!"

    Taking the other side for a moment, there are folks who truly desire to go unnoticed, to simply relax and no longer worry about being judged, and I want to respect that as well. I understand and can sympathize. But ultimately, as you obviously know, we should not have to justify ourselves - we ARE as fully authentic and genuine and real as anyone else. We deserve a place at the table.

    "Um, when you can, please pass the butter ....";)

  • Thank you for those inspiring words.

  • Thanks Michael! I also noticed, from your channel, that you are a fan of Diana's vids - isn't she wonderful?! So many people in return inspire me as well.

  • Normal ..... Means Avarage! The people I have met in the Trangender community are way above average! I was transexual, now I'm just a girl! But I respect the crossdresser exploring their sexual identiy and any other variation! In alot of ways we are better than normal because we take the time to understand each other. Sexual identity is not fixed it is fluid! We should have a "hug a crossdresser day" Big hugs, Crystal.

  • Hugs to you as well Crystal

  • you are a remarkable Lady i will remember this video for a long time. You are an inspiration.

    Love from me x

  • Thank you Tigzie! People like you - and so many others I have met here - inspire me in return.

  • I cried.

    Actually, I'm still crying.

    I agree with kkirsten1's comment about your channel. You're not normal--you're absolutely amazing. I'm so glad that you post videos because they mean so much to me.

  • What an incredibly sweet comment! Thank you so so much - responses like yours are very dear to me and touch me deeply in return.

  • Right on! Im with you.

  • And nice to have you on board! Thank you!

  • I feel much the same as I do after watching an inspirational movie. you're awesome!

  • Ah Jenny, now look what you've done, gone made me blush! :=)

  • I think this is the best channel on youtube.

  • Wow!...well, I'm not sure if I can live up to being called the best channel on YouTube, but for right now I'll take the compliment! I definitely appreciate the vote!

  • what a stunning presence you have.

    mm. this video really touched me. & i agree 100%. thank you.

  • :=) Thanks Melissa. I'm always touched in return when people leave such sweet responses.

  • well said

  • Thank you.

  • this is so eloquent. A pleasure to have heard you speak. We're all due a seat at the table :D

  • And a pleasure to have you stop by and comment. Thank you!

  • normal is just what is more common there is nothing to it jus live your live with happienies.

  • Of course you are right - but 'normal' has also become a loaded term for many. And yes - live, definitely live, and be happy.

  • what a cool video

  • Arianna - thank you SO much! For both the comment AND for making it a favorite. I appreciate it.

  • no thank you for your words i mean it.

  • "We all go to sleep and dream."

    Such a simple statement, and yet one of the most powerful arguments in your video.

    If everyone in this world could just focus on that statement for a second they would get it.

    Beautifully put.

  • I agree, its one of the strongest images of what connects us, this fact that we all yearn, we all desire something that will complete us, make us whole. Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and to comment. I truly appreciate it.

  • Sarah: I remember an old "Outer Limits" TV show that highlighted exactly what you're explaining. In this old TV episode it was the "monstrous" looking beings who were the "normals" and the "normal" looking person was viewd the "freakish abnormal" creature. Who, for heaven's sake is the arbiter of what's normal? Call me anything, but don't call me normal!!!!

  • I remember exactly the episode you mean! Oh my, that does date us a bit, doesn't it : )

    Anyway, its always lovely to hear from you Gene...to know that you stopped by.

  • Lovely video! I agree wholeheartedly. The way the word 'normal' is used is so wretched, judgemental, and hateful.

  • Thanks! And yes, 'the way' it is used and who is doing the defining makes all the difference in how we see the concept.

  • Perfect!

    You said that so well, I am floored, your message can be translated to many issues non gender as well.

    Here's a saying I keep close...

    "It's better to aim at the moon and miss, than aim at the gutter and hit!"

  • Thank you so much - for listening, for connecting.

    And here is one I know in return:)

    "It is better to aim for the stars and reach the moon then not to aim at all".

  • I'm speechless. Your words are very heartfelt and sincere and the ending was beautiful. It was like a beautfilly written piece of literature about a protagonist addressing the antagonist, providing him with insight that they are not different but alike; the antagonist learns from the protagnoist.

    Sorry for lengthy analogy, it's how I understand things in my mind.

  • Hi Red - thank you so much. And no apologies for the lengthy analogy. It means a lot to me when people really connect to these vids - and obviously that was the case with you.

  • my friend, you do not look like a boy at all. if you didnt say that you were trans, I'd just think that you were a lady.

  • Why thank you....that is always sweet to hear.

  • this is so touching.

    i know you give hope to people just by being an example : )

    <3

  • Thanks Shelly....I hope that is true. If it is, well, that means a lot to me.

  • Sarah, this video hit me hard and deep, especially the end. *tears*

    Thank you so much for making it.

  • Tania, you are so welcomed. I hope it also gave you things that lift the spirit from those depths. With hugs and caring ~Sarah

  • I spent the evening being told I was abandoning all prospects of a normal life with transition... and I simply thought: wtf, then normal is dull, to hell with it - I want me!

    As always, Sarah, a very nic and thoughtful video :)

  • Ah yes, the 'abandon all hope ye who enter here' strategy. And like you I always thought normal sounded like bland fair. What ever happened to striving for an extraordinary, remarkable, exceptional, and singularly magical life? I mean, its not exactly like we are aiming low...to do what we do is to attempt to stretch our sense of the possible, to make real that which was dream. How can anyone oppose that?