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  • got it

  • This only works for smart and mature women Lol. Tried this on a girl once and she brought her friends Hahaha

  • I can see what he is saying but you run the risk of not letting her know that you are interested. Sure she might pick up on that or whatever but when its ambigous like that it can cause confusion and hurt later. And you might fall into the "friend zone."

  • Pure technical thinker. They guy knows how the mind works. Its all psychological and without her even knowing. Its all in in her sub-concious! Arkady is the best

  • i asked this girl out and then a friend of hers overheard it and wanted to join us.... ugh, just my luck

  • What if she asks to bring a friend with her to the place where you're meeting? If you say yes then it's not a date anymore, and if you say no it's like you're trying to isolate her.

  • @leb3186 Say yes and pay attention to her friend. It'll give the impression that you're interested in her friend while actually trying to get to know the one that you like.

  • Makes sense thanks

  • A girl talks to me at school and if I go near her she talks to me and if I'm in front of her she asks me to wait for her... Does she like me?

  • @hypercon64 most likly, ive had freinds that do that and later on i find out they like me

  • @370046Byakuya What should I do now then?

  • @hypercon64 well if you like the girl , talk to her more, if she ask to wait or put something away for her do it or even offer her that ull do it,. when your with her flirt with her ,touch her (in not a creepy way) if you guys hang out and end up going to a store offer a drink, theres so much stuff you can do, just be yourself,be flirty but polite ask her how is her day if she says bad then ask whats wrong to show that you care,if your goin to movie with friends invite her if she wants to come

  • hahaha

    sexual encounter

  • A girl I know talks to me alot, waves at me from other sides of the room and comes up too me, is she interested?, what should I do?

  • cool thx

  • any advise for a 14 yr. old? lol

  • @haloslayer1333 stick with ur hand brotha..... and start steering away from halo. but try this line out it works everytime..... "Hey do you have any raisins? (she should say no, if she does have raisins run) well how about a date"

  • @haloslayer1333 I'm 15 and this works great aswell.

  • Master, what if she asks if it is this café thing is a date? What do I answer?

  • i concur

  • I used out. She said no :( lol

  • @arkady39 but what if she says something like "as a date?" or "just as friends?" what do i say ?

  • But what if she thinks you were just going to hang out as friends? then its better to avoid that by asking them out on a date, no chick who wants you as a friend would ever go on a date with you so if you ask them out and they say yes then they probably isn't interested in you as a friend but as something more awesome. ;)

  • @SlaughterMezz make sure its not something too casual, like to a party, or out with other friends or something. if you really want her to think you like her take her somewhere alone, like out for dinner, or to the movies alone or something. (: hope i helped

  • so i cant ask her out got it

  • @kimimaru34 lols

  • I like a lot of your advice, but i think this peticular video might land a few people in the friend zone if there not careful. Just my opinion, keep up the great advice though!

  • @Acydwater You're sooo right!

    The person must ask in a way it looks like a date invitation, but not saying the word.

  • Not using the word date IS beating around the bush, and it shows that you are trying to protect your ego if the girl is not interested in you so that you could brush it off as it was just hanging out and not a date. Be direct, stop being a little boy, and ask her out on a date. You keep tension and mystery by not revealing too much and keeping it playful on the DATE.

  • A lot of the time if you do the method described in this video the girl will ask you "Like a date?" a good response would be "No, Strictly business" this will make her laugh if shes not an idiot and you still haven't told her if its a date or not!

  • arkady the pimp.

  • .... is there a good way of asking a girl out directly? if she says no then atleast i know my answer and will just have to deal with it.

  • @nettoblaster

    the best thing to do is wait... she might be avoiding you, because she's uncomfortable that you're going so strong.

    patience is a good thing at this point. and if for any reason she decides not to ride with you... there's another dream girl out there coming towards you.

  • yeh, i think i'm going to take your advice and back off for a while, i think it might jut be the case that she finds it daunting meeting up with me by herself. she seems to like the attention though so if i take it away from her she might get withdrawl symptoms and want it back, thanks man.

  • i've tried asking this girl to join myself, or myself and my firends numerous times and at numerous locations; for coffee, at his new bar etc. but shes always busy. now, i'm not naive and i'm pretty sure her excuses where genuine (exams the next day, got tickets to a show etc.) as i've checked them out to see if they were legit (yeh i'm pretty fond of this girl). i've got to the point were i can't keep repeating the same subtle lines: "i'm going into town, you should come join me... etc."....

  • when people ask for equal rights they often only want the good shit, i doubt many women are to keen about buying a man diamond engagement ring lol.

  • I notice a contradiction here. On one video he said that not beating around the bush shows confidence. And in this video, he's suggesting something that is like beating around the bush?. Tell women like it is. I want to take you on a date. Simple as that. Say it in a confident manner and it should be ok.

  • @Milas19962002

    Thanks for your note. I don't think that simply not using the word "date" makes it beating around the bush, but adds a little tension and mystery that both people will enjoy when they go out.

  • hey wassup man what if you keep inviting her out and she realizes its a date

  • yeah thx man good advice

  • just simply smile and stare into her eyeza little while.. "so..will you do me the honor of goin out with me?"

  • yeah,my past girlfriend i never really asked them out.The only one that i did do so:The results were horroble!Now i want to ask a girl out but i dont know what and how to do it.I barely talk to her

  • ok guys i am only 10 and i have a HUGE crush on a girl named marli and we are in the same class but ... how do i ask HER out all my past girl friends had allready asked me out so what do i do i need answers fast so plz help me!

  • what is she into? Ask her out relating to that!

  • your only 10? sorry to say most girls your age want someone with a bigger dick.

  • LOL

  • haha. 10. You make me smile kid, You'll enjoy high school lil' playa.

  • um weird first off your 10 and i can see you havign a crush but having a girlfriend at that age isnt usualy a girlfriend and second girls dont usualy ask guys out like in your case your past "girlfriends" asking you out is ratehr weird because they probably mean a play date or something, and if you wanna ask her out find out mreo about her, hobbies favorite food kind of movies, reply back to me and i can give much more detailed advise on how to ask her out based on what she lieks, bye bye

  • i can count my A B Cs!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Hahaahhha Funny Sparrow ^.^ but totally right

  • your are  right!

  • it's either "you are" or "you're"

  • I get the part about camouflaging the question . . but why always trying to make mystery? I understand an open book wouldn't be that romantic but why do I have to kinda 'hide' the fact that I like her?

  • because doing that make you a smarter guy

  • best way I've it's ever been put is that women are like cats and a ball of string. Dangle the string in front of the cat and they go crazy and chase but if you just give them the string they tire of it quickly

  • Hey that was brilliant. Did you make that one up yourself :)

  • I have an imporatant question that driving me crazy. on the first date and also your firt phone conversation (these can both be very awkward situations) , what do you suggest as conversation starters, and how do you keep her interested throughout the date?? do you flirt a little or do you show more of your serious side???

    i appreciate your attention and all suggestions are very much appreciated.

  • flirt, but not too much, it can be weird for some girls, just be yourself

  • lol . this guy is halarious but good." i like it when he said Hey they sereve great coffee." its just halarious because im a muscular dude and for me to say something so modest and humble like that. it would make me seem like a giant teddy bear and i could just imagine me doing that. thats why its funny. wow lol.

  • haha that would be pretty funny now that i picture it

  • dude you're a genius!

  • i wish ive seen this vid 10 days ago

  • btter late than never :)

  • Dude, how the hell did you figure out all this stuff? I already know some of the advice you give to be true from experience, but some it never even occurred to me. What do you read?

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  • REALLY GREAT!

  • well...... i speak spanish...... so im not going to say those words....

  • thx arkady!

  • this is spot on

  • near this bar.???? getting her drunk later on i see lolz :)

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  • Well actually, those two words are intimidating. Also, his example statement also implies that it is a date, though it does not say the two words. You should really analyse the words the speaker chooses before you call him or her an 'asshole'. Also, please do not flame me, because I am merely stating the facts.

    Thanks, TheSilentCommentor

  • Thanks guy. Absolutely right. Because girls are used to saying no automatically even before you even ask. So, If you say something different than that, than at least automatically there is less chance for her to say no. Great advice!

  • all i say is "hey i really like you and i was wondering if you wanted to be my girlfriend ;) "

  • that was so great :) asking out is not always so dramatic, right? and if they think you're stupid then they are not worth it ^_^

  • hey there's this girl i like at school she is into the same stuff as me and i've talked to her on msn just recently and got to know each other and i sometimes talk to her face to face at school and i dont have the guts to ask her out i need tips more tips on how =S

  • Burrow a book from her and give it to her back after 3 days in a cafeteria, then make it a friendly hangout. Do ask her some questions related to the subject. Oh yeah, I know is very scary when you actually do it, but don't make it a big deal, stay relax and look like you are determined to get an A. And when you are around with her do not focus entirely on your interest on her. Remember women is just 1/4 of our concern. LOL 1/2 is to our career the remaining 1/4 is about our personal problems.

  • a great way of asking her out is by saying: how about you and i get together for a cup of tea and a stimulating conversation ?

    THAT IS GOLD !

  • oh rly?

  • ya rly

  • so something like : "you're ugly, i'm ugly , do you want to date me? " can be just fine!

  • lol :)

  • also zack3mire, if you wait to do it, you are digging a hole for yourself because you never know if you might get a chance to ask her out again. what if shes not at school on the last day? your next chance to ask her out is the next time you see her, and pretend like its the last chance you have so be a man and ask her out. dont make excuses or say ill do it later. u make excuses becuz u r scared and no girl likes a guy who is afraid and a wuss. the choice is yours. do it now, now or never

  • that was actually very good

  • ok i cant drive and cant go to places my self how do i ask a girl thats taller and 2 yrs older than me please help!

  • Don't Be Shy And Act A Little Older If she's older than you and don't try to be taller just go with the flow and ask her out at a right time like when you 2 are alone talking but NEVER interupt hercand then ask her out

  • i kinda like this girl in my school whos around 10 cm taller than me.. she's from the other class and i dun think she know my name. So i plan to ask her out at the last day of school, what do you think ? kinda late? pls reply asap

  • if she doesn't know your name she will probably won't go out with you but hey if you speak to her often and try to have like this kind of connection most importatntly eye contact with her then you will be able to ask her out.

  • hey thx for the advice, but , she's actually 1 year younger than me ! haha

  • just act like your 2 inches taller than her and pop the question its really not that hard

  • He's actually giving great advice because he's assuming the close. That's what great sales people do.

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  • i say " lets chill together" or lets hang out

  • Like you got a better idea? If yes..then tell us!

  • u r a really cute guy and u should smile more in ur vidoes u would look even better :) Btw ur advices are great but do u have any for girls? I mean for approaching guys?

  • doll yourself up and show off your legs.. and that's it.

  • Haha nice

  • also don't text her it make you sound weak and gutless.

  • I see where you're getting at, you're basically trying to be mysterious so she'll stay intrested in you. Which will set you apart from other males.

  • What if I'm not friends with the girl to begin with, then is it more likely that she'll see it as a date, and is it more likely that she'll reject me?

  • Yeah bro , I did try that .... she thought I was gay.

    Attempt # 2 - Excellent success.

    Keep up the good work.

  • guys a good way: Hey me and my mates are going into town at the weekend, want to come along?

    It ensures that you're not forcing a woman into a relationship, because you are offering, not asking, and it takes the tension, because it's a social gathering.

  • so just go like "lets do something this weekend"

  • make it specific

  • i want to date this nigga

  • he is mine.... lol

  • man this guy knows everything!!!

  • Years and years of dating experience all at our finger tips. This guy is doing us all a major service.

  • isn't it kind of telling them what to do if you're like," hey let's go to the movies."

    girls might not like that

  • no it's not

  • THIS guy is so right i mean when i ask my girl friend out i didnt even think of using date or out because it doesnt soud right, i got her to admit who shes likes then ask hes to be my girl friend like that

  • What if I asked her to have lunch with me and she said if this is a date... How can I respond to her question?

  • just tell her.....you can put it that way.

  • I did that once and the girl freaked. She tried to bring a friend and it was obvious she was uncomfortable.

  • ohhh that sucks.

  • No, it's not a date, why you want to date me?

  • that will happen just if she dont know your intention and she thinks you are just a gay friend or don't really like you

    you NEED to be a man and show interest since your firt met her in life

    but you dont need to pick her up, i have A LOT

    of friends that know i could make out with them, but i always be friendly and still get sexual tension on them b'cause she knows I'm not afraid and I'm a confident guy, girls WANT that

    cheers

  • thanks man I've messed up a lot with that! holy shit, i didn't know that those 2 words when asking out could totally backfire at you.

  • Well I'm going to be asking a girl out that I just got her phone number. She is shy, but I will invite her to go walking with me on such and such avenue and hit up some of the shops. She will love it!

  • Q:

    I work PT in a store and there's a girls I really like. I told a friend at work and I asked her not to tell anyone.

    So she went and told the girl.

    Her response has got me wondering, she said thats made her day.

    I've only spoken to her 2x for a few seconds here and there. I'm totally bricking it, what do I say to her if I run into her tomorrow.

    I'm sure she could do better then me ???

  • what if they say "no i cant im busy" or make a shit excuse, how do you face them the next day if you really like them, do you do the same thing again or just ignore her. i need to know the answer to this

  • just dont act like it bothers you she that she cant go, there could be many reasons why, just blow it off and then continue as normal the next time you see her, its only a big deal if you make it a big deal.

  • You face them proudly, like nothing bad or embarrassing happened, because it hasn't.

  • would saying " What about if we go to the movies on friday?" be considered like a question i shouldn't ask? or should i say "let's go to the movies on friday"

  • "Hey, theres a few good movies out (or a certain movie) that I've been wanting to see. (We Should) watch this (time and day), it will be fun"

    or something along those lines

  • Classic! Great stuff...like usual.

  • man your good, ur definitly my role model, i look up to you man.

  • Holy shit! I messed up a few just by saying those words. I'll always remember that.

  • you are a Freakin Genious--- who inspired u to start all this?

  • I love how Arkady presents his advice, this style allows me to feel good about dating as I'm young and inexperienced. These videos present it as it is, the most natural thing in the world, lets me feel good and safe in my own skin about dating, . . unlike advice from some of these pickup "artists" which just feels creepy.

  • Thanks, I appreciate it!!

  • dude! you are a genius! I am subscribing :), what if after I told her to go to this cafe and whatnot and she asks "Kinda like a date?" how/what could I answer?

  • Thanks a lot. You just say: "No, it's strictly business" playfully and wink.

  • Thanks buddy!!! OMG you genius lol!!

  • Thx

  • he's hot lol

  • this is good advice

  • Dude, i appreciate it, Keep goin strong buddy.

  • i watched most of your videos arkady39 , and all r great & i love your simple advices , very thanks mate , i hope i will be like u in the future and giving ppl advices , hehehe

  • arkady, those are great pieces of advice. What country do you live in??

  • Thanks! I live in San Francisco, California

  • You've got some great advice Arkady, I'll subscribe and check out your site.

  • Thanks!

  • ur reali gud at this

  • Hey Arkady! Just wanted to say I watched many of your videos and checked out your website. You're doing some realy great work and your advice is very concise and helpful. Thanks a lot for all these videos!

    If I happen to catch an interesting story about all of this later I'll drop by the forums. Be well!

  • Thanks, Veredei. I appreciate it!

  • Thanks a lot for your support and do share with us your experiences on the forum.

  • Good for you!

  • ur a genius and a god of relationship advice!!!!

  • You are far too kind! :)

  • There's a video for every situation. WTF, this is almost too easy anymore.

  • :) Thanks. I hpe you find it useful.

  • all the tips i get from this guy. they work nealy all the time:) thanks for the tips

  • My pleasure.

  • hi arkady! ur so handsome! :) anyway, I like ur simple tips and they are very true and effective... ur tips finally makes me think that my guy friend is interested in me... lol..

  • Thanks for your support and the kind words. I appreciate it.

  • good...thanks. i enjoy all of your videos. quality stuff indeed.

  • Thanks a lot. I appreciate your support.

  • what about hang "out"?

  • What do you mean?

  • "I know this place that serves blah blah. Lets hang out there this thursday...."

    I am trying to not use the word "out", but I tend to say "hang out" often. would it be ok to use "out" in that way?

  • I personally dislike "hang out" term very much. It suggests something very passive, it suggests boredom and ... lack of spice if I may say so. "Hanging out" sounds like sitting and wasting time. Put a positive spin on it by avoiding those words. "Lets go to this place, pick something up to drink and take a walk together. It will be fun" or something like that.

  • i don't drink coffee hehe

  • There is tea, apple cider, hot chocolate for you to choose from. I am sure you drink one of the above, right?

  • i injected a bit of humor

  • excellent points again, and let's be honest - I'm also very envious of your great looking apartment furnishings! Great stuff, even I have learnt a few things. Ciao & good luck Arkady and all readers/viewers.