That's the world we currently live in, pal. Get used to it. You can't have two Captains of a ship. Someone has to be first mate. It only leads to confusion and division - but nobody seems to comprehend this. High break-up and divorce rates are to be expected.
@lawshorizon But you realise that people's relationships can become a very big part of their life, would you like that to be lead/conrolled by somebody else than yourself?
@somehowjinxed If a Woman can do something better than me then I couldn’t be more delighted for her to take care of that part of the relationship. At least she’s useful.
It's really not hard to pick up girls. You just need to educate yourself and luckily, there's some sick guides out there. "The Game" by Neil Strauss started things off for me and most recently, I've been using the techniques from P.Box.
Here's what you need to do:
Step 1: Go to MackMethods. com
Step 2: Get the "pandoras box" program
Step 3: Use the tips and blend it in with your own twist
Picking up girls is a skill. Educate yourself and you'll laugh at how easy it is.
It's so simple a woman has her role and a man has his. The more they are in tune with their role the more appealing they are. Now days there's a development of women act more like men and men are becoming too feminine. This results in low number of marriages.
@greenbutterfly101 I disagree. Men and women are marrying much at much older ages than they used to, waiting until their mid to late 20's on average as opposed to late teens and early 20's. Also, the perception of what constitutes a family is changing. Many people no longer believe that marriage is necessary for a stable household and choose not to marry.
He should be talking about the law of complimentary instead of opposites. That is, two things that are different but share a direct relationship. (Like a fork and spoon of the same set and design. They have different functions but compliment each other.)
the real problem is not in women. I see tons of very beautiful and feminine females all around me but there are almost no guys that catch my eye. except the gays - they really take care of themselves and have manners. but not the average straight man. all he does is request - femininty, high heels, Cindy Crawford!
Arkady, why the videos you make for men are about rising self esteem and feeling better for who they are, but for women it's only about changing themselves? are you that intimidated?
Being feminine does not mean you are weak, stupid, or shallow. Being GIRLY is.
Being feminine means being proud of your gender and your feminine charms. Most girls would not be attracted to an ultra-feminine guy.
The problem with western women nowadays is that they are essentially men with vaginas. Guys simply don't care anymore, they're nothing more than sex every now and again.
Being feminine and still remaining strong makes you the yin to his yang, which is where the true passion beings.
@kipkayify that isn't true. the meaning of girly is feminine. girly is the adjective of girl. So, what you basically just said is that all girls are weak, stupid, or shallow.
@izzabel123456789 Well, then this conversation stops here, because we can't have a solid argument if you twist my words. All it does it make you look uneducated.
And yes, you are being a typical rude bitch. Are you wondering why men say women don't understand logic? Look at your last post.
Don't bother replying, I'll delete it before I read it. I don't have time for nasty, illogical people like yourself.
@izzabel123456789 And being that you openly stated that you can't come up with even a simple rebuttal to what I said, and that you'd rather lie, manipulate, and twist really shines a light on your intelligence and morals. You are barely treading water in even the simplest intellectual discussion. Go watch some reality TV or makeup tutorials if you can't.
Goodbye. And grow up, while you're at it. You sound like one of those nasty bitches from New Jersey.
@kipkayify It's not that i 'can't come up with even a simple rebuttal to what u said, and that i'd rather lie, manipulate, and twist really shines a light on my intelligence and morals.' It's that I'm not going to sit on my ass all day and have an argument with someone that does. Im not going to waste my time. I got better things to do, and obviously you don't.
@kipkayify that isn't true. the meaning of girly is feminine. girly is the adjective of girl. So, what you basically just said is that all girls are weak, stupid, or shallow.
I agree with you to a certain extent. I will enhance and hone my feminine qualities within the boundaries of reason. I will never let it get to the point where it begins to take a toll on my mental or emotional well-being. I will never dumb myself down for another guy, or suppress my opinion.
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uh well then how come guys want us girls to do guy stuff with them? They're angry when we diet, or say that we like shopping, and do the normal girl stuff? Some guys don't even like us to wear make up, etc.
@shallownot yeah i have to admit this is a bit vague. Men DO want all the benefits that a woman's femininity offers, but don't want to deal with the costs and inconveniences of our femininity.
i don't agree with the idea that woman should give up feminine qualities in order to be "equal" to men since that whole idea is pretty sexist to begin with since it is assuming that masculine qualities and qualities that are "natural" to men are inherently superior. both men and women should be free to act however they feel most comfortable. i believe women can do ALL the same things men do while still being... well, women. and i think men can do things traditionally associated for women too.
I consider myself a feminist and I still appreciate this video. I often hear women say to other women, "don't take this the wrong way but your kind of girly". Like its an insult. Smh. Feminism is about empowering women to run their lives not to become men.
Sounds like something along the lines of Islam--you keep men and women apart like nuclei to let them collide once (marriage)--and make all those sparks and get a powerful reaction...And maybe this works for cultures where the initial attraction isn't dumbed or watered down like in today's Western societies. Polarity may be true for initial attraction, but it won't last because men want women who'll be walking on the same road in life with them--figuratively.
@beachpeach08 Wow you're completely way out in left field...on some far distant planet. He was absolutley correct. I think you don't have any clue what you're talking about. Enjoy outer space.
I think it's important to find out what you're looking for and what works for you. Sure, if you want a guy to like you because you're feminine, do as you please. I personally am not soft spoken nor am I terribly elegant. I want someone who views me as an equal, not a fine piece of china. You have to keep in mind that even though this may attract guys, you might not be attracting the sort of guy that's ideal for you. Opposites do not always attract, it's different for everyone.
@RussX5Z Perhaps it's not right for you, but I'd like to kindly remind you that you aren't the only person in the human species and that what works for you maybe not work for others.
i was workin today... i was more feminie and try to be attractive and didn't work!!! he is super attractive towards me... but as for today he totally ignored me and pretend im not around, what is that suppose to mean????? im all natural did i do something wrong??? or is he just playing hard to get??? please HELP!
@ComedianNicky He's probably the typical man whore. Make him jealous and flirt with other studly men. Ha ha =) Nah I don't know, I hate to say this but coming from a guy he's either shy or not really into you. If it was me and a girl that I am interested or attracted to is dressed up in a dress looking all pretty and I myself am looking decent and I feel confident within my own self I would compliment her in a heartbeat even though I take my risk of rejection.
Tell them! Been trying to fight on one man army to turn this whole "equality movement craze" around to no avail! I call it a craze because it is. Feminism has given breed to feminised males and masculined women. You therefore find the ones who don't get-it acting like men while men think its cool to have a girly-like look bordering on gay. What this equality was supposed to stand for (which I agree with btw) is equal human and civil rights. Anything else should be governed by the law of nature!
yes opposites attract but sometimes you have to maintain that balance, therefore it's always better if activities are liked between the couples as opposed to there being a huge gap that separates their world. Keep in mind that opposite people most often have opposing interests.
there was this girl i saw at school i instantly loved her she sw me too she smiled at me and she liked me too but i never asked her out cuz i didnt know how to handle the situation cuz it felt weird approaching her while she was talking to her friends and now she will be changing schools and i will never see her again I FUCKED UP MY WHOLE LIFE !!!! ; ( ;( ;(
I am a girl and I don't want to sound sexist in any way.. But whatever happened to chivalry?? .. Is true that we can take care of ourselves, but is great when the guy you likes hugs you, and you feel protected and warm next to him...
@1955stefanie sorry but most of the time a women brings up chivalry is when a man doesn't do a manual laborer like carry bags or jump like a lap dog at her whims. Every women has a different idea of what chivalry.
@1955stefanie The problem is right there, the girls show too much confidence and independence therefore the guys feels like he would take that away from her if he does hug and protect her, and may have her get offended. You Might Win some, But you really lost some.
@mattmun12 Now that's a lie if I ever heard one. Maybe some guys are like that, but I happen to be best friends with high quality guys. One of them in particular always gets hit on, and he always turns the girls down because he doesn't really care what they look like. He's got requirements for possible girlfriends beyond just looks. Not to mention, if all he cared about was looks, he wouldn't be dating the girl he is. Don't put all other guys in that category with you.
@mattmun12 Not completely true, I went out with this pretty girl for about 3 months, (not a 10, but about 7.5-8 for looks) but she had no personality what so ever, and was extremely boring, at times I wanted to shoot myself.
@AsianAlaskan Yeh but if you could choose between two girls with an amazing personality, one a 6 out of 10 in looks, and the other 10, you would choose the ten. It's completely natural for humans to choose the more geneticly healthy partner, whether that be by looking for someone with a good personality (good brain health), or someone that has an amazing physique.
@mattmun12 Definitely many would agree, but luckily every man/woman defines "ugly" in a different way, or better said people have different prefferences reg. looks and therefore there is a chance for everyone, even the "uggly ones". I for example don't feel really attracted to obviously handsome men but the ones who are "different" ergo interesting.
webcams shouldn't be so easily available, especially to men. there needs to be an IQ test for males before they're allowed to upload videos to youtube too.
Both sexes have both sexual traits within them. Thus, all have polarity that is from within...if only a subject such as this were this simple. :-) To be in balance...well...that is it in a nutshell...
Ive always liked athletic boys which is sorta the opposite of me but yet i like them alittle shy.Its cute to see a guy blush or get nervous.I like it when they get jelouse too.
Why waste your time being someone you're not if he likes you sweet, if he doesn't like you don't sweat it. There's plenty more fish in the sea, and being fake is unattractive to me it is.
I think you have a point there, I'm a shy and intelligent girl and I like outgoing guys who have a flair for communication whereas I'm more stand offish and I don't like being around ditzy airheads who just talk about make up and boys eugh! I like intelligent guys, this reminds me of that movie where that chick tries to be more feminine and attractive, then realises that it's like she's putting on a facade and decides to just be herself. I think that's the main point be yourself.
People seem to be misunderstanding the point of what he's communicating. It's not that "opposites attract" that actually tends to be false based on research. He's talking about adrogony. For instance, a male who tends to be on the more masculine side of the adrogony scale, will tend to seek out a more feminie partner, opposite for females. Males and females that are more neutral on the adrogony scales, tend to seek out neutral partners. It's not an exact science, just tendancies found in resarch
PART 1 ...i dont know why the fuck i dont have a boyfriend.
Im 16 and im a cool girl, i often wear smtg like sweatpants and nike shoes, but with a cute, tight and feminine shirt. I love makeup, but i never put too much. My hair are black, so it compliments my pale skin tone and my big green eyes.
Im short for my age, and i have a baby face, but i have curves.
he has a point. I am older and wiser and can tell you that he is right. physically, opposites attract. psychologically, thats a whole different story. but har men do love soft women, and aggressive bad boys always like good girls as girlfriends - something that does not work well for the good girl. there is a subconscious need for balance. ultimately, the best relationships are those where people can find a good balance without power struggles.not carbon copies.
"Therefore women should not suppress their traditionally feminie qualities, they should be proud of them... they should hold them and emphasize them..." I can't help but think he's talking about something else... =/
I disagree. I know "tough guys," who want "tough girls," because they want someone who can keep up with them, who can be just as physically capable and emotionally aggressive so that they know that if they were in a "difficult," situation they could handle themselves and get out of trouble. Some guys like girls with deep, mellow, subtly masculine voices cause the tone is assertive, strong and carries control and authority. Opposites don't ALWAYS attract!
I can't say I agree with this. I am not a typical guy, and I am not attracted to the typical woman. I don't like girly girls, they get boring. I am a geek that is attracted to geeks.
@veronicachic na don't believe that. i mean you sorta should, like, grr this is frustrating. everyone is different. Enough said. Some guys like tomboys while others enjoy the preps,or geeky sorta one,or just the soft spoke, and/or the super crazy gurls XD Every guy,just like every girl, is different. so be you want to be and boys will love you for who you are! If it doesn't seem like any guy around you doesnt like you then talk to others or move away for a bit!
Hm, what if, like myself, you are a female who doesn't much like being feminine? Like, I enjoy things like wrestling, am rather outspoken, and am not too keen on dolling myself up. I tend to get on better with men because I find their conversations and activities more engaging. Thing is, I don't really like prettyboys, either. In a way what you say is true, as I like the shyer intellectual types, but I don't really fit into the idea of being "feminine" very well.
Not all men (just as not all women), engage in relationships with individuals with personalities that are polar opposites to their own. Some tough guys would love to be in a relationship with a tough girl, who is just as aggressive, assertive, confident and in control as they are. The guy in this video generalized tremendously, even if the majority of men went for "opposites," that doesn't mean you need to change your behaviour to increase your chances of being in a relationship.
Cause even if you did change your behaviour to increase the probabilities of you being in a relationship, because-according to the logic in this video-it seems the majority of men seek out polar personality opposites-this doesn't mean that when you enter into a relationship you will be happy, because you won't even be able to be yourself cause you'll be repressing things you are used to doing, saying and even sometimes feeling.
There are basic female Attributes, that make her attraktive. This has not to do with opposites. If youre a skinny, pale guy with a high voice and your buddy is terribly fat, dark and has a low voice, you`ll both be attracted to the same beautiful woman walking into the room if she has big breasts, a small waist a pretty face etc.
also being feminine is not a tradition, but just the way women have evolved and even western society isnt gonna change much
100% True! Thrilled to see guys talking about it. I see this in so many women who come to me. Basically women need to "unlearn" what they have learned (due to the equal rights & feminist movement). This is easier said than done, but there are 9 simple ways a woman can be natural AND instantly supermagnetic to high quality men. - MagneticWoman [dot] com
arkady, I think you are right about the polarity, but you might have simplified the nature of men and women. Not all men are tough, and not all ladies are soft. I myself am a lady with a considerably dominant behaviour, therefore often attracting 'soft, elegant' boys. 'Feminine' and 'masculine' should be very broad terms, and tbh, they usually serve no purpose but to blur the truth - that we are freakishly ALIKE on many occasions!!! :P
Theory: True. Usually the main attraction is obviously from first impressions, so a
"tough" guy might meet a "soft, elegant women" and like her, then fall in love with her after seeing she can also get "down and dirty." (not suppose to be sexual :P) The first attraction or liking is usually based on what is different about them, but then fall in love based on what they then share.
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attention, everyone out there, that very "thing" he is talking about that is opposite that attracts a partner to someone initially, is the very "thing" that can wind up being what they dislike about you most later Think back to past relationships and I bet you will find an example. People need to quit leaving the way they pick a mate to instinct and START USING YOUR FREAKIN BRAIN AND LOGIC
I like how he described women having equality as a "new trend".
DestinylovesDubstep 3 days ago
The best what i know is be urself no matter what other ppl says,as long as u dont hurt anyone
Murrr22 1 week ago
That's the world we currently live in, pal. Get used to it. You can't have two Captains of a ship. Someone has to be first mate. It only leads to confusion and division - but nobody seems to comprehend this. High break-up and divorce rates are to be expected.
lawshorizon 1 month ago
@lawshorizon But you realise that people's relationships can become a very big part of their life, would you like that to be lead/conrolled by somebody else than yourself?
somehowjinxed 1 month ago
@somehowjinxed Less work for me!
lawshorizon 1 month ago
@somehowjinxed If a Woman can do something better than me then I couldn’t be more delighted for her to take care of that part of the relationship. At least she’s useful.
lawshorizon 1 month ago
i just like big ass and big tits
19danflo 1 month ago
women in western europe act like man,its so pathetic and stupid,and the guys act gay uhhhhhh
arktana 1 month ago
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Guys,
It's really not hard to pick up girls. You just need to educate yourself and luckily, there's some sick guides out there. "The Game" by Neil Strauss started things off for me and most recently, I've been using the techniques from P.Box.
Here's what you need to do:
Step 1: Go to MackMethods. com
Step 2: Get the "pandoras box" program
Step 3: Use the tips and blend it in with your own twist
Picking up girls is a skill. Educate yourself and you'll laugh at how easy it is.
BillTheTrainer 1 month ago
It's so simple a woman has her role and a man has his. The more they are in tune with their role the more appealing they are. Now days there's a development of women act more like men and men are becoming too feminine. This results in low number of marriages.
greenbutterfly101 1 month ago
@greenbutterfly101 I disagree. Men and women are marrying much at much older ages than they used to, waiting until their mid to late 20's on average as opposed to late teens and early 20's. Also, the perception of what constitutes a family is changing. Many people no longer believe that marriage is necessary for a stable household and choose not to marry.
BiologicalClock 1 month ago
He should be talking about the law of complimentary instead of opposites. That is, two things that are different but share a direct relationship. (Like a fork and spoon of the same set and design. They have different functions but compliment each other.)
lawshorizon 2 months ago
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lawshorizon 2 months ago
Well said!
danit44 2 months ago
the real problem is not in women. I see tons of very beautiful and feminine females all around me but there are almost no guys that catch my eye. except the gays - they really take care of themselves and have manners. but not the average straight man. all he does is request - femininty, high heels, Cindy Crawford!
Arkady, why the videos you make for men are about rising self esteem and feeling better for who they are, but for women it's only about changing themselves? are you that intimidated?
MsYperite 2 months ago 2
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MMArtist99 3 months ago
I understand polarity, dude. I'm ugly and I want a top model; I'm smart and I want to date a woman.
Albertolo1928 3 months ago
Oh dear.. how on earth do videos like this ever get featured on YouTube?
wks1978 3 months ago
Being feminine does not mean you are weak, stupid, or shallow. Being GIRLY is.
Being feminine means being proud of your gender and your feminine charms. Most girls would not be attracted to an ultra-feminine guy.
The problem with western women nowadays is that they are essentially men with vaginas. Guys simply don't care anymore, they're nothing more than sex every now and again.
Being feminine and still remaining strong makes you the yin to his yang, which is where the true passion beings.
kipkayify 3 months ago
@kipkayify that isn't true. the meaning of girly is feminine. girly is the adjective of girl. So, what you basically just said is that all girls are weak, stupid, or shallow.
izzabel123456789 3 months ago
@izzabel123456789 You are sadly mistaken. Girly implies a more "girlish" nature, or younger, meaning more immature.
Being feminine is more womanly. It means being kind, nurturing, receptive, compassionate, and sensual.
I did say that girls are weak, stupid, and shallow. Please, do not twist my words.
kipkayify 3 months ago
@kipkayify im not trying to be a rude bitch, but i'll 'twist' all i want.
izzabel123456789 3 months ago
@izzabel123456789 Well, then this conversation stops here, because we can't have a solid argument if you twist my words. All it does it make you look uneducated.
And yes, you are being a typical rude bitch. Are you wondering why men say women don't understand logic? Look at your last post.
Don't bother replying, I'll delete it before I read it. I don't have time for nasty, illogical people like yourself.
kipkayify 3 months ago
@izzabel123456789 And being that you openly stated that you can't come up with even a simple rebuttal to what I said, and that you'd rather lie, manipulate, and twist really shines a light on your intelligence and morals. You are barely treading water in even the simplest intellectual discussion. Go watch some reality TV or makeup tutorials if you can't.
Goodbye. And grow up, while you're at it. You sound like one of those nasty bitches from New Jersey.
If you are, I'd lol.
kipkayify 3 months ago
@kipkayify It's not that i 'can't come up with even a simple rebuttal to what u said, and that i'd rather lie, manipulate, and twist really shines a light on my intelligence and morals.' It's that I'm not going to sit on my ass all day and have an argument with someone that does. Im not going to waste my time. I got better things to do, and obviously you don't.
Oh, and by the way, Louisiana, not New Jersey.
Thanks.
izzabel123456789 3 months ago
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@kipkayify that isn't true. the meaning of girly is feminine. girly is the adjective of girl. So, what you basically just said is that all girls are weak, stupid, or shallow.
izzabel123456789 3 months ago
Men should not be poor then they would dramaticaly more atractive to any menber of the opposite sex.
JMFVECU 4 months ago
I agree with you to a certain extent. I will enhance and hone my feminine qualities within the boundaries of reason. I will never let it get to the point where it begins to take a toll on my mental or emotional well-being. I will never dumb myself down for another guy, or suppress my opinion.
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dhide14 4 months ago
not true dude.
Shavy8312 4 months ago
you're welcome?
jennabennabby 4 months ago
dude,,,shut up!
asemanenilgoon 5 months ago
loser.
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tyuiwas 5 months ago
sorry... dont get it....
TheDumBitches 5 months ago
The only exception:
An academically intelligent girl will not accept anyone who cannot derive euler's formula at one in the morning :)
MonicaKn17 5 months ago 2
uh well then how come guys want us girls to do guy stuff with them? They're angry when we diet, or say that we like shopping, and do the normal girl stuff? Some guys don't even like us to wear make up, etc.
shallownot 5 months ago
@shallownot if you're guys angry when you diet & go shopping (provided it's with your money), get rid of him - he's controlling & just...weird :S
TheBgoz 5 months ago
@shallownot yeah i have to admit this is a bit vague. Men DO want all the benefits that a woman's femininity offers, but don't want to deal with the costs and inconveniences of our femininity.
DontForgetIran2010 5 months ago 9
i don't agree with the idea that woman should give up feminine qualities in order to be "equal" to men since that whole idea is pretty sexist to begin with since it is assuming that masculine qualities and qualities that are "natural" to men are inherently superior. both men and women should be free to act however they feel most comfortable. i believe women can do ALL the same things men do while still being... well, women. and i think men can do things traditionally associated for women too.
selphiexfairy 6 months ago 42
OMG, this is probably the most helpful piece of advise ive heard on a youtube video ! Thaaaank you
ItsEsmeeBitchez 6 months ago
I consider myself a feminist and I still appreciate this video. I often hear women say to other women, "don't take this the wrong way but your kind of girly". Like its an insult. Smh. Feminism is about empowering women to run their lives not to become men.
fistfullacrisco 6 months ago
105 dislikes from a bunch of stubborn feminist. =)
RussX5Z 6 months ago
Ladies,
You are perfect just the way you are. The most attractive quality in anyone is love and respect for the self.
Should, should, should....beware this word.
=o)
canopygallery 6 months ago
Sounds like something along the lines of Islam--you keep men and women apart like nuclei to let them collide once (marriage)--and make all those sparks and get a powerful reaction...And maybe this works for cultures where the initial attraction isn't dumbed or watered down like in today's Western societies. Polarity may be true for initial attraction, but it won't last because men want women who'll be walking on the same road in life with them--figuratively.
beachpeach08 6 months ago
@beachpeach08 Wow you're completely way out in left field...on some far distant planet. He was absolutley correct. I think you don't have any clue what you're talking about. Enjoy outer space.
bg11215 6 months ago
@beachpeach08 You think men want a MASCULINE woman??? Geez, get a friggin clue. And leave your politics out of any discussion on sexuality.
bg11215 6 months ago
I think it's important to find out what you're looking for and what works for you. Sure, if you want a guy to like you because you're feminine, do as you please. I personally am not soft spoken nor am I terribly elegant. I want someone who views me as an equal, not a fine piece of china. You have to keep in mind that even though this may attract guys, you might not be attracting the sort of guy that's ideal for you. Opposites do not always attract, it's different for everyone.
kelseeeycakes 6 months ago 2
@kelseeeycakes Wrong wrong wrong!!!
RussX5Z 6 months ago
@RussX5Z Perhaps it's not right for you, but I'd like to kindly remind you that you aren't the only person in the human species and that what works for you maybe not work for others.
kelseeeycakes 6 months ago
i was workin today... i was more feminie and try to be attractive and didn't work!!! he is super attractive towards me... but as for today he totally ignored me and pretend im not around, what is that suppose to mean????? im all natural did i do something wrong??? or is he just playing hard to get??? please HELP!
ComedianNicky 6 months ago
@ComedianNicky He's probably the typical man whore. Make him jealous and flirt with other studly men. Ha ha =) Nah I don't know, I hate to say this but coming from a guy he's either shy or not really into you. If it was me and a girl that I am interested or attracted to is dressed up in a dress looking all pretty and I myself am looking decent and I feel confident within my own self I would compliment her in a heartbeat even though I take my risk of rejection.
RussX5Z 6 months ago
@ComedianNicky continue- (Which that rarely happens in that case)
RussX5Z 6 months ago
@RussX5Z LOL, thanks!!!
ComedianNicky 6 months ago
ooooooo i see now why i end up with shy guys,sensitive, cuz iam the so not that! thx
actressin2008 6 months ago
His name a Borat
miniminx1234 6 months ago
Tell them! Been trying to fight on one man army to turn this whole "equality movement craze" around to no avail! I call it a craze because it is. Feminism has given breed to feminised males and masculined women. You therefore find the ones who don't get-it acting like men while men think its cool to have a girly-like look bordering on gay. What this equality was supposed to stand for (which I agree with btw) is equal human and civil rights. Anything else should be governed by the law of nature!
MzeeMoja1 6 months ago
@MzeeMoja1 You are SO right.
CiaooooBella 6 months ago
This makes so much sense! Thank you!
salsibee 6 months ago 2
And you speak for all women because....?
nadi1010 6 months ago 3
yes opposites attract but sometimes you have to maintain that balance, therefore it's always better if activities are liked between the couples as opposed to there being a huge gap that separates their world. Keep in mind that opposite people most often have opposing interests.
caramelili 6 months ago
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there was this girl i saw at school i instantly loved her she sw me too she smiled at me and she liked me too but i never asked her out cuz i didnt know how to handle the situation cuz it felt weird approaching her while she was talking to her friends and now she will be changing schools and i will never see her again I FUCKED UP MY WHOLE LIFE !!!! ; ( ;( ;(
agony202 7 months ago
this is bullshit
artie2099 7 months ago
Like Adrian and Rocky. Ha.
I totally see this in life, I know a very soft-spoken guy who has told me he likes girls who speak up and are opinionated.
idividedbyzer0 7 months ago
@idividedbyzer0 Good comment. Makes perfect sense=)
hoghash78 7 months ago
Great, so what do you do when you're not at all petite and feminine?
Life sucks for tall women.
poekie 7 months ago
so a guy who is skinny and weak and quiet.. wants a big, load and over poweringly strong woman!!!!
TheAgnesjane 7 months ago 8
@TheAgnesjane Yes, that is exactly what he meant.
kelborn24 5 months ago
I am a girl and I don't want to sound sexist in any way.. But whatever happened to chivalry?? .. Is true that we can take care of ourselves, but is great when the guy you likes hugs you, and you feel protected and warm next to him...
1955stefanie 7 months ago 70
@1955stefanie chivalry is another word for a man who knows how to treat women. In north america, men have been too feminized for that...
Trelli28 7 months ago
@1955stefanie and he picks up the tab on the first, date, VERY important!!!!!!
caramelili 6 months ago
@1955stefanie
Where have you been in my life? ...oh USA
Ratiug163 6 months ago
@1955stefanie sorry but most of the time a women brings up chivalry is when a man doesn't do a manual laborer like carry bags or jump like a lap dog at her whims. Every women has a different idea of what chivalry.
ssk0 6 months ago
@1955stefanie feminism killed chivalry
patriciacarrasco 6 months ago 2
@1955stefanie Women's equal rights happened.
grumthol 5 months ago
@1955stefanie You can't demand equality and still be given special treatment.
MaximilianMontesa 4 months ago
@1955stefanie protected from what LOLOL
Hiphopisntdead1 3 months ago
@1955stefanie It's called equality, the thing you women nag on about.
jayc342009 3 months ago
@1955stefanie The problem is right there, the girls show too much confidence and independence therefore the guys feels like he would take that away from her if he does hug and protect her, and may have her get offended. You Might Win some, But you really lost some.
Claviale 2 months ago
I agree!!
1955stefanie 7 months ago
WOW finally someone who makes sense!
rclikes2go 7 months ago
I agree
Olivia2011ish 7 months ago
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SexyRaww 7 months ago
Guys are only attracted by looks. I would NEVER go out with an ugly girl in my whole life. Any other guy would agree.
mattmun12 7 months ago 7
@mattmun12 Now that's a lie if I ever heard one. Maybe some guys are like that, but I happen to be best friends with high quality guys. One of them in particular always gets hit on, and he always turns the girls down because he doesn't really care what they look like. He's got requirements for possible girlfriends beyond just looks. Not to mention, if all he cared about was looks, he wouldn't be dating the girl he is. Don't put all other guys in that category with you.
Imherefortheanime 7 months ago 2
@Imherefortheanime LOL well your buddy is that 2 in 10 young guy ratio that wants mostly personality
wisewarrior7 6 months ago
@mattmun12 It's not that guys are only attracted by looks, it's more that looks are a must.
DontShakeItUp 7 months ago
@mattmun12 Not completely true, I went out with this pretty girl for about 3 months, (not a 10, but about 7.5-8 for looks) but she had no personality what so ever, and was extremely boring, at times I wanted to shoot myself.
AsianAlaskan 3 months ago
@AsianAlaskan Yeh but if you could choose between two girls with an amazing personality, one a 6 out of 10 in looks, and the other 10, you would choose the ten. It's completely natural for humans to choose the more geneticly healthy partner, whether that be by looking for someone with a good personality (good brain health), or someone that has an amazing physique.
mattmun12 2 months ago
@mattmun12 yeah but after you chose the 10 and realize she's a complete bitch, you'll break up and go for the 6.
kittycatcarley 2 months ago
@mattmun12 Definitely many would agree, but luckily every man/woman defines "ugly" in a different way, or better said people have different prefferences reg. looks and therefore there is a chance for everyone, even the "uggly ones". I for example don't feel really attracted to obviously handsome men but the ones who are "different" ergo interesting.
albee6774 3 months ago
couldn't be more agreed
naeemiqbal1000 7 months ago
So true...I agree as a male...
mahdadzarafshan 7 months ago
That is so true
whitemama21 7 months ago
i agree
msdancingqueen11 7 months ago
Fucking Packy
ChampionsGamez 8 months ago
soo true
jasperpaws24 8 months ago
@lishbarett20 u read my mind!
Ilovederek7 8 months ago
thanks borat.
webcams shouldn't be so easily available, especially to men. there needs to be an IQ test for males before they're allowed to upload videos to youtube too.
karlsmith00 8 months ago
Both sexes have both sexual traits within them. Thus, all have polarity that is from within...if only a subject such as this were this simple. :-) To be in balance...well...that is it in a nutshell...
inspirediam 8 months ago
Ive always liked athletic boys which is sorta the opposite of me but yet i like them alittle shy.Its cute to see a guy blush or get nervous.I like it when they get jelouse too.
silversong57 8 months ago
Why waste your time being someone you're not if he likes you sweet, if he doesn't like you don't sweat it. There's plenty more fish in the sea, and being fake is unattractive to me it is.
lishbarrett20 8 months ago 23
I think you have a point there, I'm a shy and intelligent girl and I like outgoing guys who have a flair for communication whereas I'm more stand offish and I don't like being around ditzy airheads who just talk about make up and boys eugh! I like intelligent guys, this reminds me of that movie where that chick tries to be more feminine and attractive, then realises that it's like she's putting on a facade and decides to just be herself. I think that's the main point be yourself.
lishbarrett20 8 months ago
i know the coward guy who is thin like a 'sheet', and he wants a feminine woman..
what to say??
midz500 8 months ago
I am a nice shy girl but i like masculine boys. and i thin its sweet when they get jelous xD
sexygeek07 8 months ago
scam...checker...nuff said!
sw33tnl 8 months ago
That's not true. I'm a female and I don't look for stereotypically masculine characteristics when I like guys.
121fobabcd 8 months ago 3
hearing these words coming from a guy are very eye opening, i really liked what you had to say
TRIAL7213 8 months ago
88 ppl are men
123pixieboo 9 months ago
People seem to be misunderstanding the point of what he's communicating. It's not that "opposites attract" that actually tends to be false based on research. He's talking about adrogony. For instance, a male who tends to be on the more masculine side of the adrogony scale, will tend to seek out a more feminie partner, opposite for females. Males and females that are more neutral on the adrogony scales, tend to seek out neutral partners. It's not an exact science, just tendancies found in resarch
Counseloration 9 months ago 3
This does not apply to all guys, I'm a shy guy and I'm not in any way looking for a more out going woman.
EkaruceTV 9 months ago
so opposites attract? a black attracts to a white? a Jewish attracts to a Muslim? like that?
ezgarl1 9 months ago
Please disregard all the bra burning macho he she's
Stingingrae 9 months ago
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lol This is the most funnest video I've saw.Such full of lies as well.Here I write what they really mean. "quality that makes you attractive to men "
1.women keeping their mouths shut and obey men.
2.learn to be their slave and like it.
3.keep your fingers off the male's wallet.
4. All women stay in the shadows of all males
5.Allows any man do what he wants,when he wants and how he wants.
Those are what male's look for in the quality that makes women attractive to men
ashatbulaparanormal 10 months ago
serious smart people want fun charismatic outgoing partners.. lol
KashshaptuAnaEnki 10 months ago
Hahaha this is so true this certain guy has a crush on me... He has blue eyes I have brown he's really tall, I'm average,
swimdestiny 10 months ago
Miss executive
How tall are you may I ask?
samweller96 10 months ago
im a tall girl...
but i dont think i want a short guy ;s
MissExecutive 10 months ago 3
I find this vid somewhat true :) I usually attract tall guys since I'm short -.- but they r shy like me :3
Miyukichan14 10 months ago 4
so u mean a tall guy tends to attract short girls.....nice......
zack19891 10 months ago
Arkady39, though some points you make are obvious, I find them useful and informative.
Onslaught2k3 11 months ago
You have a very sexy voice :)
MissCynicalRomantic 11 months ago
PART 2 ... i have a lot of friends (boys and girls), im outgoing, i like to meet new people, im happy, i love life.
Whats the problem with me ? I take care of my friends, im kind to others, i have great values, I take care of myself..
WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH MEE ?
nickierainbow 11 months ago
PART 1 ...i dont know why the fuck i dont have a boyfriend.
Im 16 and im a cool girl, i often wear smtg like sweatpants and nike shoes, but with a cute, tight and feminine shirt. I love makeup, but i never put too much. My hair are black, so it compliments my pale skin tone and my big green eyes.
Im short for my age, and i have a baby face, but i have curves.
nickierainbow 11 months ago
some people are so mean...
he has a point. I am older and wiser and can tell you that he is right. physically, opposites attract. psychologically, thats a whole different story. but har men do love soft women, and aggressive bad boys always like good girls as girlfriends - something that does not work well for the good girl. there is a subconscious need for balance. ultimately, the best relationships are those where people can find a good balance without power struggles.not carbon copies.
joanofarcxxi 11 months ago
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LostMyEevee 11 months ago
Sorry but this is such crap! Where do you get these ideas? You sound like Dr. Laura, and that's not a compliment..
HappyColouredMarbles 11 months ago
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you are so full of shit. Look at your bachelor wardrobe there behind you. FAIL
123Leigh123 11 months ago
shut the fuck up you bellend
TheJoes21 11 months ago
I don't think any guy is attracted to a girl who is not feminine. who wants a girl who can bench press more than themselves?
terryowah 1 year ago
:) hee is so cleaver and hot his voice is super sexy 2 xx
luuabb 1 year ago
Iol I'm essentially a tomboy, who is attracted to tough guys...so i guess this is bad news for me...
eurasianempress 1 year ago
"Therefore women should not suppress their traditionally feminie qualities, they should be proud of them... they should hold them and emphasize them..." I can't help but think he's talking about something else... =/
Ireneluvsfanfics 1 year ago 49
@Ireneluvsfanfics i thought he said 'hone' like making them better
Goldlucky13 7 months ago
@Ireneluvsfanfics lol
caramelili 6 months ago
@mirmis13 pfff dude i've been rejected so many times i dont even care about what a girl looks like
TheEtirus 1 year ago
um for men to be attracted to you all you need to do is one thing: BE FEMALE. Unless you have a penis we men will love you eternally
TheEtirus 1 year ago
i agree with everything you just said. gosh everything you say is so interesting. i'll stay tuned !! ;-)
jollyette21 1 year ago
I disagree. I know "tough guys," who want "tough girls," because they want someone who can keep up with them, who can be just as physically capable and emotionally aggressive so that they know that if they were in a "difficult," situation they could handle themselves and get out of trouble. Some guys like girls with deep, mellow, subtly masculine voices cause the tone is assertive, strong and carries control and authority. Opposites don't ALWAYS attract!
lovelyladynostalgic 1 year ago
Thank you
SillyWiskerz 1 year ago
what's next hungry hungry hippo?
aabbcc5631 1 year ago
So does that mean a girl who isa tom boy has no chance?
stephstull 1 year ago
I can't say I agree with this. I am not a typical guy, and I am not attracted to the typical woman. I don't like girly girls, they get boring. I am a geek that is attracted to geeks.
CybernautZero 1 year ago
ohh dang so i can't be myself?
Im not really "soft" or "elegant", I am more of a tomboy, so does this mean i will never get a guy?
veronicachic 1 year ago
@veronicachic na don't believe that. i mean you sorta should, like, grr this is frustrating. everyone is different. Enough said. Some guys like tomboys while others enjoy the preps,or geeky sorta one,or just the soft spoke, and/or the super crazy gurls XD Every guy,just like every girl, is different. so be you want to be and boys will love you for who you are! If it doesn't seem like any guy around you doesnt like you then talk to others or move away for a bit!
kimmy13r 1 year ago
@veronicachic absolutely!!! men like girls not men
toyu17 1 year ago
Hm, what if, like myself, you are a female who doesn't much like being feminine? Like, I enjoy things like wrestling, am rather outspoken, and am not too keen on dolling myself up. I tend to get on better with men because I find their conversations and activities more engaging. Thing is, I don't really like prettyboys, either. In a way what you say is true, as I like the shyer intellectual types, but I don't really fit into the idea of being "feminine" very well.
Syncitic 1 year ago
@Syncitic
Not all men (just as not all women), engage in relationships with individuals with personalities that are polar opposites to their own. Some tough guys would love to be in a relationship with a tough girl, who is just as aggressive, assertive, confident and in control as they are. The guy in this video generalized tremendously, even if the majority of men went for "opposites," that doesn't mean you need to change your behaviour to increase your chances of being in a relationship.
lovelyladynostalgic 1 year ago
@Syncitic
continuation of 1st reply.
Cause even if you did change your behaviour to increase the probabilities of you being in a relationship, because-according to the logic in this video-it seems the majority of men seek out polar personality opposites-this doesn't mean that when you enter into a relationship you will be happy, because you won't even be able to be yourself cause you'll be repressing things you are used to doing, saying and even sometimes feeling.
lovelyladynostalgic 1 year ago
There are basic female Attributes, that make her attraktive. This has not to do with opposites. If youre a skinny, pale guy with a high voice and your buddy is terribly fat, dark and has a low voice, you`ll both be attracted to the same beautiful woman walking into the room if she has big breasts, a small waist a pretty face etc.
also being feminine is not a tradition, but just the way women have evolved and even western society isnt gonna change much
Aronvs99c 1 year ago
Errr... I would have to say I'm more extremely attractive to masculine work-a-holic women then I am to "soft" and "tender" women lol.
TheMolaRola 1 year ago
so if i want a sensitive, geeky guy i should act like a cavewoman???
InsanityOfTheFuture 1 year ago
@InsanityOfTheFuture strangely yah.
matchbox2022 1 year ago
@InsanityOfTheFuture Sounds more like "Chevalier".
TheMolaRola 1 year ago
Hmm so a fat black deep voiced blonde girl with huge hands is my true love.
dismo77 1 year ago
i like your accent(;
caggret9596 1 year ago 2
100% True! Thrilled to see guys talking about it. I see this in so many women who come to me. Basically women need to "unlearn" what they have learned (due to the equal rights & feminist movement). This is easier said than done, but there are 9 simple ways a woman can be natural AND instantly supermagnetic to high quality men. - MagneticWoman [dot] com
RhondaCort 1 year ago
I agree!!
avamilan 1 year ago
arkady, I think you are right about the polarity, but you might have simplified the nature of men and women. Not all men are tough, and not all ladies are soft. I myself am a lady with a considerably dominant behaviour, therefore often attracting 'soft, elegant' boys. 'Feminine' and 'masculine' should be very broad terms, and tbh, they usually serve no purpose but to blur the truth - that we are freakishly ALIKE on many occasions!!! :P
alltalknodo 1 year ago
Theory: True. Usually the main attraction is obviously from first impressions, so a
"tough" guy might meet a "soft, elegant women" and like her, then fall in love with her after seeing she can also get "down and dirty." (not suppose to be sexual :P) The first attraction or liking is usually based on what is different about them, but then fall in love based on what they then share.
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TheMitchellWhite 8 months ago
hmm well thats an interesting theory....
MsIBite 1 year ago
Pfffff...what makes you attractive to men? BOOBS. Let's not over-complicate the issue...
Cytochr0me 1 year ago
@Cytochr0me ooooooooooooooh yeahhhh :D
yehhbitch 1 year ago
sometimes guys are shy and they like shy girls !!not always necessary opposite
crazymano4eva 1 year ago
Man in general like explicit sexuality.
soultrail7 1 year ago
so basically short skirt, high heels and cleavage ?!
stunnah0o 1 year ago
how did u make your closet inside your wall.. i gotta do that!
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MavsGirl4132 1 year ago
very good !!
Hayuhi91 1 year ago
attention, everyone out there, that very "thing" he is talking about that is opposite that attracts a partner to someone initially, is the very "thing" that can wind up being what they dislike about you most later Think back to past relationships and I bet you will find an example. People need to quit leaving the way they pick a mate to instinct and START USING YOUR FREAKIN BRAIN AND LOGIC
whatinthewerld 1 year ago
fair point i guess? xoxo
l3londel3arbie 1 year ago
wow if i was a guy i guess i'd have to go find a stupid idiot to date then?
DrKirstie 1 year ago
I LIKE GIRLS .period.
PrinceLotus1 1 year ago
@estherinator Too many times!!! Lol
chocoholic88dx 1 year ago