"What to Wear on My Hair?" - Jew in the City Episode 1

[digbee100]

A "Kiddush HaShem" and timely considering the many misunderstandings surrounding Torah Judaism today.

[dmwdevil]

Is any of this a learned reaction rather than something innate in nature? To use your (clearly creepy) example, the reason there was a desire to see your hair was because it was hidden (learned reaction). In a society where men regularly see married women's hair (or, for example, women wearing non-skin-tight pants), it no longer a lecherous fantasy to see a woman in such dress. Or is there an objective level (i.e., nature) where a woman's hair, legs, etc. definitively arouses improper thoughts?

[jewinthecity]

@dmwdevil the way i see it, the reason that Judaism values modesty is so that excitement can exist. when you cover, you have the chance to uncover. in our society, where you see almost everything nowadays, i think it's harder and harder to have that excitement and there's a real loss there.

[RedFlower26]

I love your honesty! :)

[VictorLepanto]

Now I was watching a video by this other woman & she was insisting that wigs weren't actually appropriate.

[jewinthecity]

@VictorLepanto there are different opinions. in some communities they do not believe in wigs. in others they do. you can guess which one i'm part of! :)

[MsOmeGa29]

I love your videos

[blacksheep3703]

Absolutely right! קל הכבוד!!!!

[KingOystar]

Very well done! my wife wears a hat or a scarf to cover her hair. it sorta makes me feel special knowing that I am the only man who can see her hair.

[hasqas123]

I am a muslim and I deeply deeply respect you. It's strange but we are more alike than different.

[truemirror]

This is great, I can understand this, I am completely a gentile (christian), but for the public, my hair is mostly pulled up, but when I am with my husband at home I will wear it down, my hair is totally for my husband, even though he asks me why I don't wear it down in public.. in my heart it just feels too personal. I think this is something that is built into a woman. Unfortanatly he doesn't want me to cover it completely in public.

[AllahCreatedMe]

I am a hijabi Muslim women and I am proud of any woman anywhere who dignifies herself through modesty <3

[sukkubusx]

do you pick your wig close to your actual hair or do you sometimes like to switch it up? :)

[jewinthecity]

@sukkubusx i personally go with close to my own hair (i think most people do!), but i borrowed my sister blond wig for "The Jewish Secret to Financial Freedom" episode!

[lachefderouge]

I'm not Jewish, but i totally agree. It's about respect and honor.

[humanity6fl9]

i like the custom, simple yet speaks volumes. your a very good girl, keep it up.

[JGT318]

Thank you.  I never knew what this custom was about. Now I know.

[mandycole100]

thank you! My mother wears a wig too and i will follow too when i get married. And its hard to explain it to my friends that are not jewish!

[quemacha]

Do the modesty rules apply in medicial situations such as with male doctors?

[jewinthecity]

@quemacha a medical doctor can see whatever part is necessary to see for whatever the ailment is, and many orthodox women have male ob-gyns. however, while they're delivering their babies, they'll still usually keep their hair covered, for instance, since the head has nothing to do with the delivery.

if a woman had a rash on her head, though, she would totally be allowed uncover her hair/head to show a dermatalogist

[pccrazy1000]

There is kind of something nice about respecting yourself,

but just one question, you were wearing a wig now? I mean, your hair looked pretty real

[jewinthecity]

@pccrazy1000 yup, it's a wig. but the idea is that even if it looks good, and even if it looks real, it's still a barrier between me and every other guy, other than my husband.

[rlam86]

I'm chinese, but I totally agree with the wisdom in reserving yourself. Men can be very wolfy. Beside it shows a lot about modesty, and that's what good men wants. Bless!

[pccrazy1000]

@rlam86 I agree with you, but men should reserve themselves for their wives too

[VictorLepanto]

"Stolen water is sweet." Perhaps that is the whole value of such a custom. Making something forbidden makes it all the more enticing.

[Suki278]

I'm a young gentile woman and I completely agree. There is something nice about keeping somethings just to myself.

[strox0113]

thanx so much. its a realy inspiring story and does give chizuch

[donniganclan123]

that was put perfectly i also had the same thing happen it scares me...... like ur video

[HAZIDEAD]

Enlightening point. So many thanks.

[teartaye]

Ew! What a creep!

Questions up until "Well I'd like to see your hair" were acceptable (not meant in an innocent way, in this case, but could be asked in honest curiosity) but that just totally crossed the line!

[stealthkiller2107]

The thing I like about religious women is that they are loyal. They respect themselves and don't go giving up their body to many men.

God bless you.

[lelov1]

wow, i really like that one. you give real chizuk!!!

[Freedomvoicenews]

Very True

[dn2021]

You are amazing. Keep up the good work- it is a Kiddush Hashem!

[chickflick12]

I am not Jewish but I totally agree and wish Christianity took on some of these practices. It makes total sense....

[deadpope1]

Well stated and informative! Well done.

[videomission]

I love these vids! Good job, girl!

[channahbatchayimlabe]

Does that mean I would have to shave my head before wearing a sheitel?

[jewinthecity]

No, most women do not. It's just a small group within the Chasidic world that does and it's based on mystical ideas rather than a matter of Jewish law.

[pepperwel]

What a beautiful thing for a husband and wife! How does that work when you have children, do always cover in front of them?

[jewinthecity]

There are different opinions, but the letter of the law is just to cover it in front of adult males that you're not related to by blood (so most pple would say, sons, brothers, fathers are all OK) as well as all women and children.

[jewinthecity]

yes she is!

[Michalbasavraham]

I would have just told him point blank, "too bad, you're not going to." For those of us who've had more exposure to men who try to cross the line, we understand that men often don't think you mean business.

I love the examples of what you can wear.

[malekeh]

Great vid Sister!

Im Muslim, and that is one of the BIG reasons Muslim Women Wear the Hijab (headscarf). Only Close male relatives can see there hair ( son, brother, father, grandfather, uncle, Husband, and father in law) :)

we are very similar in our belifes - but Muslim women are supposed to wear the hijab as soon as they get mature - or around the age of 9 years old.

We wear Hijab for Many reasons - but ONE is exactly the same as this one!

[fatima130784]

you are right many woman dont relise that showing off hair and wearing tight clothes there not respecting themselfs and keeping some thing special for there husband .its normal here

[Musicofthissphere]

I meant to write saving a beautiful part of themselves for their *husbands,* not men in general

[Musicofthissphere]

The thing I have never understood about this is that women wear the most beautiful wigs which completely detracts from the idea that religious Jewish women are saving a beautiful part of themselves for men. Also, why the comment that guy made to you may have been a little sleazy, you really need to get a grip. He's a guy and he thought you were attractive: that's human nature for 90 percent of the men out there

[shalombabyy]

that guy was rude!

i was just wondering why some women where wigs that are probably a lot nicer than there natural hair? it defies the purpose.

[jarvisel]

I do think it's a lovely gesture. I rather wish Catholic women had the same thing, but we only have mantillas, which we only wear in Church. What a great expression of marital devotion and modesty, made even better by your love of the custom.

[mouster333]

Some Catholic women do cover in public. Also many women of the Orthodox traditions. :)

[electrolove1]

Really? im catholic but i have never seen a catholic woman cover her hair..

Btw i love this video its really interesting cant wait to see some more. =)

[PreserveDiversity]

What a great idea covering hair for married women is. I wish I women of my tribe behaved like this. What if the goyim copied you ?

[b5kalad]

Hey, when are you doing more videos??

[jewinthecity]

I made five more...the first one will be released soon after my new website goes up.... which should be any day now...

[dsarah3]

great! thanks for sharing. hope you do some more. yasher koach.

[y2rock]

We r still waiting for the "NEXT WEEK"!

WHEN IS IT COMING?

[jewinthecity]

actually, i'm in the process of filming some new episodes now that you ask! i'm hoping to release the first one within another month or so!

[y2rock]

What's the next one going to be on?

Perhaps may I suggest "Skirt vs Pants"

BTW You are very funny & cool!

[michellepia007]

are you wearing a wig in this video?

[jewinthecity]

yup - a wig, a fall, some hats, bandanas - none of it is my real hair.

[FramerCid]

yay very good point! well explained!

[gbjew]

Wow. Great story, and great telling.

I'm unmarried but still cover and tie up my hair because it's waist long and I don't want strange men playing with it.

[laerwen]

The way you explained it, I have to say, that guy was *really* gross. Eugh. I don't follow any one religion at this point in my life, but I'm open to learning about everything I can. This vid was very helpful and illuminating this religious view. :D

[shalom1973]

Thats a total boundary violation, esp after you kindly explained to him the halakhically justification as stated in the Tanakh. That guy should have his butt kicked.........

[Airlightf]

The covering of the hair.Very nice!So I saw your covering hair so I turned to that way.

[straygypsy]

I must admit, when I first started watching your vid, I thought, "O dear. Here is an annoying materialistic Jewish gal with an annoying New York accent". But then I found your vid to be very spiritual and quite Biblically educational.

More!

[YacovMenashe]

Great!

[Descendone]

Peace/shalom/salaam,

Pretty gross on the guy who asked to see your hair.

Now a days Jews and Muslims unfortunately dont get a long and I doubt we will be singing kumbaya any time soon but it is nice to see something that we Muslims actually share with Jews.

Much respect to your following the commands of Ha-Shem.

[rivpom]

thumbs up to you

[LittleGigiK]

Great video, explains it simply so it's easy to understand.

[EvanChaim]

why havent you made more videos?

[jewinthecity]

i've been trying to raise money to make more, but in the meantime, i'm going to start vlogging...first vlog should be out next week! stay tuned!

[muminah3]

Hi there,

Wonderful video! As a Muhajabah (Muslim woman who wears hijab) I can totally relate to your comment about leaving somethings for yourself.

It's the ultimate expression of control over your body. But most importantly, this is a commandment from God AlMighty for all women to follow.

Doing it for His pleasure alone is the most rewarding feeling and you will reap the benefits in this life and the hereafter :)

[poogyz]

what kinda sheital is that? it looks soooo goood!!

[jewinthecity]

I'm not getting paid for product placements :) (although maybe I should!) But it's a Freeda wig.

[y2rock]

Cute!

[proisraeli]

Very Lovely :-)! Good luck! :-)

[tngoatee]

Baruch HaShem!

[saulboyjt]

Beautiful and Good luck.

Hashem be with you!

[CuteFluffyPuff]

Im 16 years old and converting to judaism and this video. ROCKS I have strong viewpoints on society today and this is definetly something I am willing to do. ^^ thanks for this vid

[Yeeren]

Let me congratulate you on your decision! Baruch ha-ba :)

Might want to consider making Aliyah while you're at it.

[elperez3]

Great video, looking forward to more!

[MichelleATX]

I'm just starting to cover my hair and cannot wait to share this video with my husband. Very well done and very well explained! Look forward to more JITC episodes.

[chaiyah12]

i personally dont get the whole wearing a wig thing . ive already decided that when im married(B''H)ill wear tichel or scarf.ive done a few practise days of covering my hair and i know hw hard it can be. i think your message here is fantastic and i wish more of my friends understood and that more girls could hear . i hope Hashem grants you a long and happy marriage full of blessings. please make more videos like this,

[eretzsus]

very nice . Liked this video. My wife loves hats and uses her Jewish beliefs to justify wearing hats .

[rivkah]

yes this is great...very inspiring, love it thanks so much!! looking foreward to more..

[Rachmielah]

This is great! I look forward to more segments!

[Wadj1]

I liked this alot. I'm widowed, so it's a kind of halachic grey area (not that I'm grey yet!) and I'm trying to decide whether to cover or not. My community for the most part aren't that frum, so it would be swimming against the tide a little, but I totally get where you're coming from and I think I'll at least give it a try. Thanks!

[Runnernumberone]

Terriffic! Really liked all the head coverings!

[yls]

Great video. Cant wait till the  next1

[smaakaker]

Keep it kosher:) Great work.

[yls]

I thought the initial segment with the hats/falls/bandanas was charming!

[yls]

Humorous, but the point came across. The story definately added.

[allkiva]

can't wait to see the next one!

[jewinthecity]

FYI - the video quality is best if you click on the box to the right of the volume icon. Enjoy!