Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

[11940ful]

With me it was a combination of narcissism and jealousy...She could not stand me moving on with my life, she couldn't stand ppl thinking i'm nice, when she did not need me anymore it's like i was free to go... She treats me like nothing and turns around and buy me a purse, i was not the golden child but i was the only one that had birthdays celebration...I just don't get it! I was the cause of every problem in her life, she hated me bcuz i look like my father and as i grew up it's something else

[paragshah2112]

i love how you explain everything. its so crystal clear.

[djx1993]

Daughter of Narcissus: A family's struggle to survive their mother's

narcissistic personality disorder : this is the site ; dynastypress.co.uk/books-daugh­ter.html

[mikhail1549]

Thank you for your information. I wish that you would give information on how a narcissistic mother's husband (although a good father) can stand by silently and not know or understand and let this happen.

[alliecollier619]

My mother over protected me. More as a punishment I feel. I felt like Cinderella, and eventually I sought out a prince to rescue me. I did everything to please my mother; who was also a gambling addict. I am a codependent for sure and I am in therapy and go to al anon. I have separated myself from my ex spouse and my mom has passed away. I have noticed that old boyfriends are have narcissistic traits as well. Those traits have become very undesirable to me!

[Hawaiiansky11]

Also, it's no wonder that as long as someone said, "I love you," to me, I believed I had to forgive them treating me badly / cheating / being abusive, etc... My mother taught me that. (grew up believing love = pain / posession / owing someone something)

[Hawaiiansky11]

I had always felt like my mother 'enjoyed' my failures - so she could 'swoop in' and make things better (expect me to be dependent on her and her alone).

Also, she seemed pi**ed that I was a daddy's girl...She was supposed to be my favorite! And for a loooonng time, it has felt like she would only do nice things / give gifts so that I owed her...many times, she would remind me that she bought me something if I dared stand up to her / ask for respect. Gifts = strings.

[MoJo7Crow]

I think there are many more narcissistic women then are accounted for on this.

Just like society think automatically that it is males who physically & sexually abuse children & spouses & not women or make light of it when women are the abusers. Like yer video that says children get away with or a forgiven narcissistic behavior, so are women me thinks. (I am a female by the way)

[patriciacarrasco]

wow...so true ..im wondering now if i am a "covert narcissist" or "codependent" because of my narcissistic mother....

[xxxXGuNzXxxx]

I can't take it anymore. I'm not allowed to leave the house or have any friends at all. No matter what, i'm wrong, I am an adult. by the way.

[Hawaiiansky11]

@xxxXGuNzXxxx - Cut off contact.

[aaaaaaaars]

1% of the general population.. what heavenly country is that? I'd estimate 5-10% here.

[TRU2myHEART]

Thanks for explaining this it helps alot. It makes alot of sense now.

[TheAfroQween]

What about subtleties of the NR symptoms? Constant meddling- I think my mother is more of a covert narcissist - my mother would try to scare away any of my significant others in dating/love relationships- she'd undermine my friendships- etc. relationship with my children, undermine my parental authority with my children esp. my daughter. THANK YOU THIS HAS BEEN SO VERY HELPFUL AND CONFIRMING- VALIDATING WHAT MY SUSPICIONS I'VE ALWAYS HAD~

[changingmyself]

@TheAfroQween My mom does that same exact thing.

[TheAfroQween]

@changingmyself Shameful...much love to you my dearheart- it's a constant struggle, I cut mine off for good.

[molinmusic]

Thank you sincerely! More love!

[Lunnazull]

can u upload, something about sons of narcisistic mothers..