Stop Comparing Yourself To Other People from www.sociallypositive.com

[xWhatManCanDox]

all i can say is thank you :)

[Taurusaud]

How come a little girl knows more about this stuff than me... oops I'm comparing again.. Thanks.

[HedgehogRebellion]

There is no point to comparing yourself to others. We are who we are becasue luck made us who we are (DNA, how educated our parents were, the school we went to...etc)

[pidigrimerde]

it makes me soo happy to hear somebody say that to me.. it helps.. thank you soo much! i'm really going to work on myself.. and think positive and smile.. thank you....

[arsalan522]

nice way of speaking ....

[AllStar123445]

you helped me so much its unreal thank you :D <3

[LSpear76RCN]

I disagree with your advice. It is important to compare yourself with other people. Other people are also human. I am human. Therefore I compare myself to other humans and not something else (like a dog). Animals can't compare themselves to others because they are not intelligent like humans are, they don't have the ability to rationally and logically think and process information. Also, saying things like "You're precious" is just trying to make people feel better and has no basis in reality.

[HedgehogRebellion]

@LSpear76RCN I think it can be useful to compare yourself to others...but only to a point. Other people may posses natural gifts that you don't and you may posses gifts that others dont...so it's not an exact science, right?

If I decide that I'm ready to live my life alone and turn my back on other people and then I decide that I should view myself as precious...if only to myself...then who are you to say otherwise. I think, therefore I am. I think Im valuable to myself, therefore I am.

[metallica04100]

I'm socially solid until I walk into a sweet, attractive girl like you. Then I freeze up.

[biganthole]

Wow im in awe

[SolidMike84]

Wow...Made me think

[ashleyhasOJD]

now im thinking, i dont even know how to enjoy myself

[pamzizu]

I love you

[madhavanuk]

Thank u ... s much but can i ask you to cange the word `share` instead of `advice` because no one likes taking advice but we love to share what ever it is. i like that word ...because it gets ito me easily .. so ......

cheers

bye

[agrl20]

I've experienced enough pain and I can see myself helping people, (I'm 24 years old) but I'm not completely over all my problems caused by my past. So, I can't help people the way I want to right now. Eventually, I'll get there.

[WickedKnight07]

@agrl20 Join the club, I'm also troubled by my past and how it always finds a way to creep up on me when I least expect it. She's right, we are our own worst enemy, me I'm constantly at my own throat. I wish it can stop, but after watching her videos, I'm determined to make it stop.

[Aries25x]

Your so Gorgeous would u be my Girlfriend , I'm like a animals sometimes :)

[rogermercader]

You are not only massively cute...you have a big heart. Thanks for helping :)

[andrei3600]

are you retarded?

[ChrisKroeger17]

@andrei3600 I could ask you the same question

[andrei3600]

@ChrisKroeger17 Fuck off!

[poohpooh678]

hey everyone if u need advice write or add me on facebook ebony.white27@yahoo.com u can feel safe with me i promise

Best advice here i have a picture with meh and my boyfriend on my profile pic and its meh so just add or inbox me

[DracoHermione]

The top comments are stupid. Emily gives AMAZING advice, her site has tons of it and she constantly adds more. She knows what it is like to have SA because she's dealt with it herself ever since she was very young. And as for her advice on this video it is LOGICAL. There are some people out there that have been living out on the streets their whole lives. There are others who never get the opportunity to go to school or work at a job. No matter what, there ALWAYS something to be thankful about

[hellyw08]

My past relationship killed all my confidence. Always having to look at who looked good, and then try and be like that. I find that going out and being with other people is my personal hell. The advice that people give, similar in the video makes me feel as though the way I feel is all my own fault, and that I am an idiot. :/ I also feel like an idiot when I try and change my thinking/ behaviour. What then?

[Flamestar1989]

@NoSocialAnxiety You make a LOT of sense, but you're so beautiful and that can help. My social anxiety was caused by people bringing me down about my looks or intelligence. i would walk down the street and someone would say that I am ugly. Then I started feeling so annoyed at the world for making me, me. And it's funny, now that I look good no one is putting me down and I have no anxiety.

[woxiedowg]

Lovely video!

[Relugus]

For me, my pain stems from the knowledge that I was prevented from being the person I truly am by my parent's selfish and idiotic decisions (my shyness was compunded by my mother's paranoid keeping me indoors, followed by not helping me at all with entering the adult world). I cannot help but compare myself and know I could have been so much more; when I see other people I sometimes see what I could have been and weep.

[jainsworr]

Where are you from? Thank you for this.

[Stacey353]

You are such a little blessing you just don't even know! =)

[ervina19]

gr8 video :)......

[szmako]

Mature thoughts from a pretty girl! I wish I had someone like you who is there when hard times come!

[RB902050]

Animals not only love but I feel they may have a stronger love than we humans have. Animals also don't go on killing sprees. I can't be for certain, but animals don't reject other animals or feel rejected like humans do. Animals don't feel so rejected by society that they go on killing sprees. Animals don't have members like George Sodini or Chu, the shooter of Virginia tech. It disappoints me that we allow some people in society to get so down in themselves because we have expectations.

[andrew19vato]

your a nice girl i like you x

[sphynx105]

i cant believe i was trying to be someone else :[

[drshaligram]

i wish i has a friend like u..!!

[RawrSaveme123]

Are you australian? its beautiful:)

[SucidalTendency]

im precious? i thought i was lucious.

[WatchinVide0]

you apparently didn't anticipate that there are people with bodies that doesn't work yet watching your video....just saying

good advice though

[SocialShockMusic]

Thank you. I recently figured out that I -probably- have avoidant personality disorder. I'm 23 years old. Haven't made a new real friend besides coworkers since highschool. I even went to college and graduated...didn't really make any friends. I've always been a bit of a loner, but I recognize now that i have intense fear of rejection and a really hard time connecting with people. I hope someday that I can meet a woman who understands me (and others with this disorder) like you seem to.

[RB902050]

@SocialShockMusic At least you have age on your side. I'm 36 years of age and believe I have much stronger issues like Asperger's or fetal alcohol syndrome that has made me seem odd and makes people repell away from me. It seems like I have lived all my life trying to impress others so I can make friends. I wonder if I'll ever make friends in this life, or if I'll find my way wishing for an early death.

[7thMaggot]

thank you

[duckdongable]

she is such a hard-ass. I like it!! :D

[Gindeshanghai]

oh my god! you are such an angel! and funny too. Im both laughing and crying :)

xo.

[maxinpains]

You don't help us! You are just talking & showing up infront of video. Don't play with people who has a problems with out not being in same shoes!!! Freaks

[Gindeshanghai]

@maxinpains

Are you kidding? She's helping herself too, she's been diagnosed as Severe Social Anxiety.

Please research before criticize! =)

Love.

[maxinpains]

@Gindeshanghai well, doctor wants to make money from insurance too. Guess wot they gonna say?

[maxinpains]

It's easy to say if she is making money on you tubes!!!!! They don't know. They have no clue of what & who we are! Don't play with us without knowing thier back ground!!! Sheeesh!

[sspoke]

this tips cant help me out you look hoot and i dont it's a condition with the brain you shouldnt be feeling this way and go on with your day socializing even if it makes u feel bad cuz u cant fix it it's like a headache its a mental illness and you gotta just learn to learn with it you forget about it in a few minutes its a disease pretty much these tips dont help anyone.

Only thing that may help is getting fucked so if you are in the NYC area let me know never tired it out might help me out

[jsr9422]

Hi, cute nose :) .....australian mum, american dad? lol. 

[Metsada007]

How lucky to have severe social anxiety, I might rot alone without ever having a wife and kids and without any friends. I guess I'm really lucky.

[Donatello97]

@Metsada007

lol you and me both bud!

I think the main cause for anxiety is being insicure about a certain part of you appearance which then leads to being super self concious. When it gets to this point, you really start to worry about what other people are thinking, if they're judging you, staring at you as if you're doing something weird or if it's because there's something they find negative about your appearance. that's how it works for me anyways. ;p

[cdutta1990]

Some ppl compare themselves to others sometimes to motivate themselves, cuz its probably a group of people that they compare to that they'd like to fit in.

[btez31]

Your cute!!

[mohammadshukri]

Generally girls/women have a lower selfesteem than the boys/men.

[gemini0118]

great message i see wat ur trying to say but animals are very territorial and kill other animals for there territory and other mates all the time just watch animal planet even our genetic cuzins the chimps kill for mates and territory daily were do u think we get it from for humans are animals too

[brackishnz]

gee

you

are

you

TM

[SanguineUltima]

You're doing a good thing here.

[IglesiasMusica]

Great video, thx 4 posting :)

[heartoftheisland]

You have such a kind heart and such compassion for someone so young, and also the face of an angel and that beautiful accent--thank you for spreading your light in a world full of darkness.

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[borgduck]

Listen, my Aussie Angel, animals don't compare themselves to each other they kill & eat each other. As for me being totally diffrent from other people. Yes, I am an evil meglomaniac like the Master.

[TruthBeyond]

Do you see animals comparing themselves? YES, it's called mate selection. What good can comparing one's self , do a for person? It can drive one to excel and improve. Remember just because life isn't fair, holding your hands over your eyes and pretending otherwise, will not change that fact.

[minotaur3004]

In solviet Russia, other people compare you

[kandafuryx3]

i wish i was as pretty as you

[sdgdsgs]

is it ok if i compare you to others, cause compared to others you are super hot!

[1repoort]

Sorry, But i don`t think you are experienced, Qualified or understand enough about the cause and symptoms of Social Anxiety to give advice. Your video appears to trivialize what this extremely debilitating disease can do to a human being. Come back when you have suffered with this disease for about thirty years, By then you should be better qualified to give advice to Social Anxiety sufferers. I think you should choose a different topic for your videos, Regards repoort.

[agrl20]

@1repoort Excuse me, but you don't have to be 60 years old to give advice to people. She has experienced this and she has a heart for helping people. Thank you very much. I think it's wonderful that she wants to help people who suffer the same thing she suffered from. Just think! The older she gets the more she learns!! and she will be totally PRO. Better to start when your young!! =PPPP

[jaberwocky6669]

Is that why animals that are obviously different from the other animals will be left to die?

[jazzoidz]

I really think you should be in at least next Harry Potter's movie if that's not good, then at least a part in The Hobbit.

[MaCe313]

id hit it...

[pbhushanbsb]

Thanks..

there is a story of a boy who finds two flowers on the roadway.He throws one flower after walking down through a garden.This thrown away flower was immediately used by mother nature for its pollen.The other one(which was still with the boy)felt upset."what a waste of life",it said . But eventually the boy takes that flower and puts it inside a temple..right at the feet of the divine idol.And even in detached state, it remained fresh.

Everyone of us will do something magnificent in life.

[borgduck]

@pbhushanbsb I was hoping for a punchline there.

[TheMundanes]

didn't know positive was another word for completely disillusional

[gelliebEe24]

I'm not like that during my high school days,I have lot of friends and they know me as very talkative girl, happy person, .

I think the reason why I get those "social anxieties" because I thought I'm late for socialization to my new classmates,because,they are already close to each other when I met them, ,what should I do to stop this feeling? until now,I can't express myself to them, ,I am shy and afraid that they will not like me, ,please response,thank you very much. :)

[gelliebEe24]

hi, ,Ive'd watch your videos, and I thought all your videos are directing me,

like the "don't compare yourself to others","shyness","negative thinker",all of that.

I'm a college student, I stopped studying for 1 year, and when I go back again to school

I become an irregular student.

when I become irregular due to changing of curriculum of my course,

I experienced all the "social anxiety" you've thought.

[woodwhips]

great videos I feel the same.

what do you want to do when your older? I'm starting my first year of philosophy, you would love it.

Do you meditate?

[58mohit]

thank you ..

[centoguzzi]

You are very pretty, and you have a very sweet voice.

[gemini29ism]

I SEEM TO DO THIS ALOT, I THINK THATS WHERE I GET MY SOCIAL ANXIETY. I REALLY FEEL LIKE THIS IS ALL LINKED TO HAVING LOW SELF ESTEEM. IT'S LIKE WHEN YOU COMPARE YOURSELF TO PEOPLE YOU ACTUALLY ARE HOLDING YOURSELF BACK TO OVERCOMING SOCIAL ANXIETY. I JUST WANT TO BE COMFORTABLE IN MY OWN SKIN AND FEEL GOOD ABOUT MYSELF. AND I FEEL THESE TIPS WILL WORK, GOOD JOB ON THE VIDOES EMILY, YOU MAKE ME FEEL LIKE I CAN GET OVER SOCIAL ANXIETY, AND EACH DAY THAT I THINK HEALTHY, EACH DAY IT WILL DISAPPER.

[MrBackpacker66]

@gemini29ism beleve in your self

[SoraInuyashaAsh]

btw you look like a cute bunny rabit

[SoraInuyashaAsh]

this video really helps me thank you but i wonder how can i stop thinking negative about myself?

[hannaremnant]

I love your channel! So wonderful:)

[iluvyouwyatt]

wow this actually helped me, thank you deary!

[RB902050]

I believe we can learn from animals on how to be more friendly with one another and stop judging others. Personally, I feel the human race is pathetic when it comes to love and friendliness.

[elfe1982]

Very beautiful messages my friend! I love your vids sweet! Keep on going...

[kreativedevelopments]

Im liking this positivity, your amazing girl.. it gave me a lift thanks

[menonfire12]

You're cute :)

[fl4shb4ck]

have you overcome social anxiety?

[simtube83]

Thank you so much for a very refreshing video. I think we are all guilty of comparing ourselves to other people at some point in our lives e.g .So and so has a better car or a better house, lost their virginity at a younger age, travelled the world. The list is almost endless but as we keep dwelling on negative thoughts we lose track of ourselves and who or what we have around us that makes us happy in the first place.

[emmalillianrossi]

aw you're so gorgeous, not just you're face but you're personality. you're videos make me so happy. did you make up all these theroes by yourself?

[stoppersan]

all life equal and one HERE on earth and the entire existance, no one is special, we are stopping the MIND that that we have allowed to define us as

[disneyboymax]

My Comparsion to me and other people:

WOODSIDE AIN'T NO GOODSIDE!!

[dirtypaper]

don't be anxious, you look great, and i bet you have a nice personality and you have something mysterious witch is a compliment. :-) I also have social anxiety, but for a reason, i'm ugly and uninteresting.

[chrisspinella]

great advice. For me some days are good and some days are bad. I've always had self esteem issues, despite countless people saying i have no reason too. but Its always good to hear from people who choose to stay positive and stray from their fears. On a side note, don't mind if I say how beautiful you are and what a gorgeous accent you have. :)

[Sivels]

It's great to think this way, and we all 'should'. However, 'society' seems to discourage that. This is why it is so difficult to be an individual and not a third-rate-mind sheep, especially in school. So if you don't live up to certain standards that are 'expected', you're going to be lonely.

[UNSAMANEOY]

i have social phobia can u give some advice

[CHIP08081993]

my anxiety was brought on because i have rosacea and its very noticeable so Im constantly aware of it

[NoSocialAnxiety]

@CHIP08081993 brought on by rosacea or your thoughts & attitude about rosacea?

[CHIP08081993]

Well, its kind of like, if when I got seriously anxious and nervous, if it didn't show so much through my face, it wouldn't be as bad

[NoSocialAnxiety]

Can you think of reasons why you can feel relaxed & confident & think well of yourself in those situations, & reasons to not feel anxious or nervous in that situation?

[CHIP08081993]

I have my good days, where i couldn't give frick. And i dont notice it, but most it just keeps going on in my head, self conscious thoughts... Damn its annoying lol

[NoSocialAnxiety]

@CHIP08081993 you can choose a thought or attitude, thoughts in our head can only bother us if we have a bad attitude. Think about the reasons why what you're worrying about isn't important etc, think about a better attitude you could have, think about reasons why you can feel confident about yourself and think well of yourself

[theboombody]

@CHIP08081993

My mom had that at one point. She hated it.

[poshdelux]

@CHIP08081993 red cheeks are hot! i wish i would its sexy!

[Virtueman1]

Read some Eckhart Tolle, and Ayn Rand.

Put em together - go get what you want -problem solved.

[victormania2008]

Img! Those true things you said really inspired me! by the way, o love your accent and your have beautiful eyes :)

[manufile04]

i agree with you everything u said is true

[brundleseth]

this is very good, its really powerful,

[philosophyheal]

so cute

[ukusau]

AWESOME ACCENT!!

[KirstiieKam]

Very pretty.

[gezkah]

how do you know animals don't compare? Good Video tho

[itzahazylife]

my cat laps at his own ass with his tongue and then looks me right in the eyes while he proceeds to sprawl out and stretch..i doubt he's comparing himself to anyone or anything :-D

[gezkah]

Im glad your cat is so secure in himself.

You should be proud!

[CountDOODOO]

I think I see a flaw within your logic...

You say "Don't compare yourself to others", but you say at the end that we need to find out something positive that we have that they don't have. If you're finding something that you have (even if its positive) that others don't have, doesn't that mean that we will have to compare ourselves to others to find that positive quality?  Thus, your ending advice is actually a contradiction of your theme.

do you understand? :-)

[sniffytuna]

I GUESS what she's trying to say is compare yourself in a GOOD way..

[gothdolly84]

Awesome advice!

[Bluesage2009]

Beautiful!, and genuinly helpful.... almost like the universe speaks through you....

May good karma follow you your whole life!

Cheers.

[tubular209]

man you are cute! I wish I could go back in time an meet you! its amazing the wisdom a young women like your self can impart. Thank you for the blessing you are!

[youbananabuoy]

short and simple sentences . . . it's hard to argue with such common sense logic

[rome877]

Wise words from a very wise lady.

[dave24ie]

verry true!

[OMGFFSLOLBBQ]

Wow... You have really pretty eyes. :)

[dikydavis]

you should see yourself as i do

you are smart and pretty and kind

[NoSocialAnxiety]

Thank-you Dikydavis! I feel best when I think of myself highly, while also respecting each and every person as they are.

[Thesterness]

Very interesting accent you have there. It sounds like a mix between Australian and Irish, or something like that.

[NoSocialAnxiety]

Really? I shouldn't sound Irish! I hope my accent and voice is easy to understand for everyone.

[Thesterness]

It's perfectly understandable. Just a little different from what I usually think of as an "Aussie" accent.

But of course, I'm not Aussie so I wouldn't know. :-P

[dikydavis]

Yes i agree

I think you are just about the most intelligent lady i have ever spoken to.you are incredibily smart like me :)

[NoSocialAnxiety]

Thank-you for the kind words dikydavis =)

[dikydavis]

You disappoint me girl because with monkeys there is an alpha male and lower ones.the lower monkeys actually have more stress then the higher ones.

also i compare myself because others have taught me to .they pointed out where they were better then me

probably ecause they were insecure themselves

i did order the downloads though.i hope they work

x

[NoSocialAnxiety]

Now that I think about it, Animals wasn't the best example! Some animals do care about appearance perhaps (some birds and parrots) The point is, most animals I think don't stress about these things & are pre-occupied with others & what they are doing & don't really compare them-self to others & are not internally focused about them-self very much & this is a good emotional state to be in. All the best with the download!

[ClockworkSublime]

Great videos

Im breakin free

[NoSocialAnxiety]

Thanks =) That's awesome I am really glad to hear that