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  • @cunningminx Mr Warren is behind bars. The Poly community dosen't need this radical destroying it's image. But I suppose the damage has been done; this is what people see in the news about Poly. This reminded me about those Canadian anti-poly laws. If I understand correctly, they seem to unfairly target all Polys for the actions of these over-the-top radicals. Good luck, I hear its constitusionality is being challenged. Does your web page follows stories like that?

  • Bill SB48 in CA has passed. Due to its nature, charged atmosphere & the fact that involves all children, I think it might be better to start off as optional, rather than mandate it. This I think would allow non-LGBT families w/ sensitive moral/values a better chance to prepare. I suppose Poly communities &/or organizations are following the story, since this bill is 'a historical event.' Any thoughts?

  • Hi - I'm Guus and Polyamorous too

    Its good to spread the word.

    Guus K, The Netherlands

  • 1) Stop calling women whores. It's a meaningless and oppressive word.

    2) Even by the traditional sense, these women would not qualify as being whores.

    3) The difference is respect and communication.

  • Basically you're sophisticatedly gay, right?

  • Awwww!!!! Help! I'm lost! I was looking for the Breaking Benjamin song when this pops up! Most of these comments confuse me deeply.... The only reason I watched this is cuz the pic looked cool

  • u r not the real minx - Hannah Minx rules!!!

  • World Polyamory Association? I chked the site; began familiarizing w/ this/your community. Clever by being HQed in Hawaii. As Same Sex Marriage spreads, I have begun understand that it is futile to fight to preserve the 1M/1W traditional definition Marriage. Therefore I decided to support Poly, & will stand as an ally should this/your community becomes politically active. Thank you.

  • Good intro Minx! I'm a big fan of the podcast, but I think this is now my favorite way to introduce the topic.

  • thankx 4 this. it is really helpful. i'm just exploring for the first time and have already met a couple online. we'll see how it turns out.

    thank you so much, this video means a lot to me.

  • Say one partner becomes pregnant, and another is the father. Do they both abandon the third?

  • @NuclearXmas Not unless that was what everyone wanted. Polyamory isnt just about sex, its about real bonds of affection between people. It would not be very caring to shut someone out just because something exciting has happened. Children raised with unusual but loving family situations often turn out to be more intelligent and understanding people. Plus, imagine parenting with three parents. How much easier would that be?

  • @brynneth

    I understand it isn't just about sex, I'm not narrow-minded. But a child can be a life-changing event. I just can't imagine being in a relationship with three people, and one of them gets pregnant and the other is the father. And then I'm stuck being the uncle? That would make me feel very irrelevant.

    Also, I can't imagine that being too easy, I would imagine many disputes going on between mother-mother, and father-father.

  • @NuclearXmas Well then, yes, it could be difficult and very confusing, especially if it wasn't previously planned or discussed. I just meant, no one would necessarily need to be excluded in that situation. There can be three parents, or two parents and an uncle, or two parents and a friend who occasionally stays over. It would depend on the comfort levels of everyone involved. Its possible they would choose to part ways. I can personally imagine enjoying such a situation, with the right people.

  • @brynneth

    My point is that wouldn't the Aunt/Uncle have feelings of exclusion or irrelevancy during the growth of the child? Every milestone would be an accomplishment between the mother and the father. Sure, you could express enthusiasm, and try and be apart of the situation. But their wouldn't be that same sense of reward as watching your own kin develop and grow.

  • @NuclearXmas That could be, for sure. I think it would depend very much on the individuals involved, and their expectations. If they have expectations of the situation which arent met, then theyre going to be upset, yes. But I dont think that everyone is going to feel excluded, or that everyone would have the same expectations. Really it would come down to those involved. Some people may truly be a parent to the child, blood relation or not, and some may be fine with not having that.

  • @brynneth I see nothing wrong with polyamorous relationships, however I think there would be so many complications if children were involved. Mostly from society's view of such situations, but also because there would be a struggle for control of the situation. With whom would the child live? What about if two parents decide that the child should go to school A and the other parent(s) would prefer school B? How much money would the non-biological parent be willing to invest etc?

  • @Gwyndalor2010 Well, those are all complications that come up in two parent families as well. There is always a struggle for control on topics close to heart. Mom wants one school, Dad wants another. Moms strict, Dads a softie, step-dad isnt sure how to connect to another man's children... Those are all things that happen in any relationship. The addition of a third or more people could be a blessing or a complication depending on the people. Its certainly not a reason to dismiss it out of hand.

  • @Gwyndalor2010 as for society's view of the situation. "regular" relationships fail dramatically all the time, and often the children are the ones who get clobbered emotionally. No one ever says monogamous parents shouldn't have kids because they frequently get divorced or break up. ALL relationships have their failings and all people sometimes screw up, or fight. If poly parenting is what works for a family, then they should work it. If not, then they shouldn't.

  • @NuclearXmas Sorry to chime in on a year-old comment, but I'd like to voice one thought on your question regarding children in polyamorous relationships: the semantics of the question is based on the concept of children as property... each child gets a designated mother and father, based on genetic "ownership", and anyone else gets lessor titles, like aunt or uncle, and as such have lessor involvement and reward. These ideas absolutely do NOT have to be true. Also, (cont)

  • @suzbailey23 (cont) Also, kinship is not limited to blood relationships. Kinship bonds are formed in many different ways and are absolutely as meaningful and real as blood kinship bonds. As the saying goes, there's a big difference between being a father and being a dad. In polyamorous circles it's not "Mom and Dad and uncle George", they're called co-parents, and everyone participates fully and enjoys the reward of watching their kin develop and grow.

  • how come all of her book references are from ugly women who wrote them? where are her book references from a male's perspective?

    AND why do women need to be polyamourous except for to be a whore? What dude in his right mind would knowingly be boyfriend #2 to some chick's boyfriend #1 and they both know it?

    PLEASE. The most famous Polyamorous person in the world is Hugh Hefner.

  • @dailynewscenter being poly doesnt make a woman a whore, you douche. We dont exist to make men feel good. We can seek things that make us feel good just as much as guys, even though it is more socially acceptable for guys to sleep around. Also, I know several men who are in happy relationships with women who also date other men. I also know a married woman with a very happy husband and they both date other people when it suits them.

  • @brynneth

    1. ANY woman who willingly goes around fucking 2 or more men for sport IS a whore.

    2. Women ARE NOT men and most do not share the same natural appetite for numerous sex-partners as males....Every male mammal (humans are mammals) whether it's a lion, giraffe, dog etc. are designed by nature to be with multiple female partners.

    female mammals are monnogamous by nature

    3. Just because you know women who date outside their relationships don't mean they're not whores.

  • @dailynewscenter except none of that is true. Many female mammals in many species have multiple partners, observe any species for a few weeks. Female cats and dogs mate with many many male partners; so do most of our closest relatives, the apes. Even though most ape cultures are patriarchies, you can see females going off to do their own thing with males of their own choosing, its a natural urge. Women are not monogamous by nature, just because you dont like it doesn't make me a whore.

  • @dailynewscenter Also, Bonobos are some of our very closest relatives, and in their case, females run the show. They are the dominant ones, and all bonobos use sex as a sort of calming ritual when things get tense, instead of fighting. Females mate with many many partners. If you want to support your sexism with animals, you should know what youre talking about.

  • @dailynewscenter Call someone a name for long enough and eventually they become it. There are multiple boxes in our hearts for multiple loves. From birth we already have many different types of love. Family, parental, friends. Sex is only an add on. Just because you say something does not make it true

  • @dailynewscenter it's 8 months later, and you're still an idiot.

  • @brynneth

    also i'm so sick and tired of people blaming society for all their problems. it's "society's" fault for this and that.

    how about it's your fault cause you think it's okay for a woman who has a boyfriend to go around fucking two or more dudes and a woman and most people in the world frown on that...as they should.

    just like you think it's your right to live your lifestyle as you choose...it's other people's right not to like, accept or tolerate it and frown upon it.

  • @dailynewscenter You have almost as much right to criticize as I do to defend my lifestyle and that of others. And so, to conclude, I will simply point out that unless me having a fiance and a still dating other people is hurting him, them, or you, you can pretty much get over it. Obviously a great many women DO feel that natural urge, or we wouldnt do it, now would we? And since we do it with the blessing of our partners, and they with ours, where do you find the hubris to insult me?

  • @brynneth

    No. You don't have any natural urge. You like to have imitative behaviour. Most women who get into things that's male invented for males like:

    1. playing sports

    2. doing constuction jobs

    3. joining the military fighting in combat

    4. becoming rappers

    4. cheating on their spouse

    5 seeking out multiple partners to fuck

    Do so with this in mind "Men do it. Why can't I?" Simple. Because God didn't make woman, man and he didn't give her his natural tendencies.

  • @dailynewscenter Aaaand now we see the most hilarious argument ever. I am Right because My imaginary friend in the sky said so in a book that is extremely old and outdated! God doesnt exist you sad sad little troll.

  • @brynneth

    And even if you don't believe that God "doesn't exist"...Divine forces working through nature...do and they work the exact same way.

    What nature intended is what nature intended and it didn't intend for woman to be polyamorous or rule the world. It intended for the male human species to behave in such a manner which is why he is and does.

  • @dailynewscenter There is no compelling evidence for a divine force of right and wrong running the universe, or influencing it. Nature is not a sentient force. People should do what feels right for them in a responsible way. Polyamory harms no one as long as communication is open and everyone gives their full consent. If a woman or a man feels it is right for them, then it is.

  • @brynneth

    First of all polyamory is very harmful. WithIn your "primary relationship" who initiated the polyamory lifestyle? You or your boyfriend? I bet it was you and him being supressingly hurt and not wanting to lose you consented to YOUR wishes cause he's a bitch of a man.

    You wanted to be out there whoring around with other people and prob. gave him an ultimatum. Does he have a second girlfriend(s)? Or is it just all about your selfish ass wanting to fuck 2-3 people on the side?

  • @dailynewscenter I started dating him when he had two other girlfriends. We have both dated other people. Now it is just us and his second relationship who is a very dear friend of ours, and long distance at the moment. And you stopped being funny when you insulted my fiance like that. I will no longer respond.

  • @brynneth

    try again liar. you stated: "that unless me having a fiancee and still dating other people is hurting him or you and since we (women) do it with the blessings of our partners who are you to insult me? "

    LOL. Busted!

    AND we're on the video page of a polyamorous woman who claims that most of the pioneers of polyamory are women...women who are seeking out multiple long term relationships with dif. partners.

    i don't give a shit about you or your faggot fiance. fuck off bitch.

  • @dailynewscenter Wow, do you kiss your Bible with that mouth? Or recite your prayers with that dirty mind from that hateful heart? Way to represent your faith there. Jesus would be so proud to know you're out there representing him so well.

  • @dailynewscenter

    Wow... You make God sound racist and sexist... I despise when so-called "Christians" push this trolly attitude about God. You live your life how you want and let others live theirs. They aren't YOUR responsibilty.

  • @dailynewscenter Polyamory was invented by a woman in the 1970s.

  • @RatedRepublican

    Sorry...the practice of polyamory began thousands of years ago by men long before the word was invented. Guess you never heard of King Solomon and his 300 concubines (girlfriends).

    That means men invented polyamory.

  • @dailynewscenter I wouldn't seek your video about your ordinary male driven relationship and call it morally wrong. But, since we are here, consider that in your relationships, as long as you come from this view that women are different and should be treated without complete sexual equality, you will never be a with a woman who is being completely open with you, or who feels totally safe. Any minute you could judge her for being too kinky, for being too sexual, and people feel that.

  • @brynneth

    When are you going to learn. Men and women. We are NOT equals.

    1. When has a civilization of women built a country from her mind with her own two hands and ran it?

    2. When has woman ever produced technological advancements for the whole of humanity?

    3. When has woman built a weapon of mass destruction and used it to enslave a race of humans (men, women and children?)

    Men are born with the natural ability to invent technologies for the progression or destruction of life.

  • @dailynewscenter Women have been handicapped by the bad luck of having to deal with consequences of reproduction for almost our entire history. Women have literally had slave status for the entirety of human history because all it takes to degrade and often kill a woman is to have sex with her and make her pregnant. Men are terrified of what a free woman can do, always have been. Anytime women have gotten control, they have done an equal or better job than men.

  • @brynneth

    Oh be quiet. You're a babbling idiot of a white woman. You're not beautiful, pretty a gorgeous model or even attractive cause beautiful women don't think like you. You're a common everdyay average loooking white woman on some female enpowerment b.s. complaining

    If women are equal to men...shut up and prove it. Invent technologies that enslave, rule over and control us. You don't need our permission to be equal to us. Dominate us. Go on, just do it.

  • @dailynewscenter Except thats insane... Ok, bye bye troll man.

  • @dailynewscenter And that life wouldn't be there without Women. Not to mention nowadays it is almost impossible to work and support your own home without two people working, sometimes thats not even enough. Women have an emotional logic that can work for and against them, but men don't have it. It ends up making them very very intelligent.

  • @gamnalila Misandry, or bigotry against men, doesn't make you seem very very intelligent.

  • @brynneth

    so since man is born with the natural ability to invent weapons to destroy human

    man can invent to destroy the life of every woman on the planet. but if he has any common sense...he wouldn't...

    but man can however invent techonologies to enslave and control all women. in either case..this means that man is the more dominant and superior gender to woman.

  • @dailynewscenter Fortunately for me, you will be a slave soon. Women actually run the world, you see. Behind the scenes of every major event and important figure are scores of women, manipulating events. It is better to be effective then well known, yes? The more bumbling, noisy and arrogant sex will soon be obsolete.

  • @brynneth I't don't hurt to check things out before you decide on one thing or person. Perhapes one can"t keep you happy sexaly and one can"t keep you happy emionaly or what ever the case maybe. Shop around before you decide to keep the very first one.

  • Actually, polyamory doesn't have to mean multiple partners but rather love for many things as well. I'm polyamorous and I don't feel like having multiple partners. :)

  • Great video minxx! I'm reposting to FB. I love how you make your points so clear and with such humour and humility.  Well done. ;)

  • @4:12 I think that this is why it's so important that we be open about our poly relationship status... (well, outside of the workplace!) So many people just accept that the only relationship option is monogamy and it's really important to let people know that this is an life option that is available.

  • Very yes. So great to see the word getting out about Polyamory and that it's a realistic conscious choice for a loving life. You also have a great radio voice. Thanks!

  • God help us

  • with respect comes love and out of love comes trust out of trust comes honesty i really 2 like poly making my combo as i go lol going with the flow nothing its static it is all emergent thx minx

  • wow i look up breaking benjamin polyamorous n this comes up... i wish i had alota chicks haha

  • Have to disagree on one point, polygamy is not 1 man with a harem, that's polygyny. Polygamy is any number of husbands and wives. Otherwise spot on, I'm fellow atheist and poly evangelist, mostly debating other atheists about monogamy.

  • all atheist should be polyamorous

  • the "I'm just a normal person who likes polyamory, you can be too" reasoning, while certainly well-done and tasteful, would be helped if you picked a SN other than "Minxx." Like it or not, there are too many strippers, dancers, and escorts who use similar monikers for it to have respectability, which is ultimately what the mainstream audience you are targeting is going to notice.

    This is just my take as a layperson, I still rate 5 stars for a reasonable, unvitriolic presentation of your views.

  • Good video. Well presented and tasteful.

  • Great video, thanks!

  • i still have not found a female counterpart for myself why is it so hard to find a woman who would want only half of th3e realationship with the man and then the whole thing for another woman

  • i watched on mtv true life the episode with polyamorous people

    so being gay is wrong but having 2 or more partners is right?

    not trying to be mean just...weirded out

  • lol, neither is wrong....that's the point trying to be made! Consider this....what truely is "wrong" who makes that choice? Killing is wrong, we all know that but not if you're defending yourself! Lieing is wrong, most can agree on that but usually when you're doing it with good intentions people tend to give you a break! Like beauty, what's wrong and right is ultimately in the eye of the beholder! Right or wrong?

  • Wow, I know a cute geeky poly gal named Minx....thought you were her! Nice video by the way :)

  • Lovely video... Thanks for share...

  • I am totaly with you, most monamorys are people who wan't to feel speacal. Polyamorys however have a more broder sens on things. They reconiz a wold biger than all of theme, and seek only to hame the needs meet and not to feel speacal.

  • Or perhaps they just feel complete in a relationship with one person. If you don't want to be judged for being polyamorous, don't judge people who are monogamous. I'm glad that the video says, "Monogamy is fine for lots of people." The comment from josylnandy should be as generous.

  • i am the woman of a poly want to be i gyess would be the best way to say it i am bi sexual and want and need the realationship of another woman more so for me than him but i cant seem to find the right woman to want to be with me aned my long term boyfriend i dont want a one night stand i want a lasting realtionship for myself and the other woman and we can share him does that souind so bad?

  • Doesn't sound bad at all! I'll tell you this though, in my time living polyamorously I see just how blind the world is! Many are afraid to change and rarely fly far from the nest, living only based on the foundation their family gave them! It's hard finding free thinkers, especially in America because we're all pressured to follow the pack and stand together! Stand alone though and you're considered an outcast but this is supposed to be land of the free right???? I don't see that happening!!!!

  • This is a great video. I was having trouble explaining polyamory to a friend and this helped alot. thanx

  • typically, what I have found in poly relationships is not the jealousy factor so much as the attention that is subtracted from one or the other,usually,most couples seek a female third hardly ever a male third.what I also found in observance is how often the third are rotated.let's face it, most everyone wants to be a primary partner. you got to have one before you can even claim to be poly.

  • Actually, one of the wonderful aspects of poly is that you don't "have" to have anything (besides honesty and consent) in order to be poly. I know plenty of polys without a primary partner--I'm one of them, in fact!

  • I don't think you NEED to have a partner to be poly! As far as a third....well it's just majorly agreed upon that most men aren't mature enough to exsist in such an arrangement! Being a male myself I wouldn't mind being in a MFM poly relationship but seriously....they just have to be in the right mind set, most are not though! I see that ever time I speak about poly to a friend....they say HELL NO lol! Women however seem to be more open-minded to the ideal....must be a homophobic thing I guess!

  • polyamorous is great thing now shut up

  • For a while, I've had an image of a young man who accidentally stowed away in other world and meets one brunette with a streak of bubble-gum-pink-dyed hair, a brunette with a heartlike face & bangs dyed green on the left & pink on the right, a brit with mousy brown hair, a blonde, one with tomato-red hair and one with black hair, and a 70s hip attitude, then all six have an attraction towards the young man, and vice versa. Would that be the example of "polyagamy"?

  • This is a great video.

    Easy to watch and understand.

  • Housechores--

    I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope that your new relationships give you what you want and bring you joy.

    Minx

  • @cunningminxx i'm very interested in a poly relationship but would like to meet before we decide on the right ones to poly with or contract with consent. wife needs a change in partners to help keep sex drive going after 33 years of marrage

  • My wife is polyamorous...I'm not. I'm aiming for a divorce even though we are the best of friends.

    Why? Because of the STD factor. Also I have only a limited amount of love to give. So when I found out about her other ongoing relationship, my love for her was cut in half. If I had someoone walk into my life to make up for the 1/2 lost then problem solved. But most women won't touch a married man, so I have to be single again.

  • I love the tone of your vid!

    Really well done.

    I am currently without a relationship outside my marriage though my husband has been seeing his girlfriend for almost four years. I am having some issues but she and I had a great visit over lunch this week and I hope to get to a more content, even happy place soon!

  • Funny how groups like Mormons are allowed to have multiple spouses simply because their religion allows it.

  • Even Mormons are no longer legally allowed to have multiple spouses.

  • true.

  • This is a great intro to polyamory. Your show is really informative and funny also. Thanks for making and posting this! xo

  • Very clear and informative. Thanks!

  • Thanks!

  • Great! I love it! Go Minx!!!

  • I loved this! Thank you for sharing!

  • Great video Minx. Thanks for helping the poly community! Keep up the great work.

  • Well done!

  • It's a nice primer on polyamory, with useful info for further learning. Monogamy is culturally ingrained, other relationship styles are not. A video for the masses!

  • Well done, Minx. Thorough, comprehensive... and I love the part about the 'prairie dresses.' So THAT's what they're called!

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