Accidental Celibacy on Purpose?

[afronutz]

Boo ! Too much sugar !

[atlzprincezz00]

Is that a sew in put into a ponytail??:)

[Glendon007]

Just because you are not having sex does make you and good girl. I know a lot of chicks holding out for karats, that are evil as hell! Could be the lack of vitamin D is the reason those dispositions are so poor!

If a chick is a dude's friend, they get along great and she can cook- MOST men would not have a problem with waiting ( hold up if they are get along that well there is no wait) sex, but for many women that is the ONLY thing they got going on.

[Glendon007]

@pOeROsesyadig - it is amazing, many women want a guy to come correct but have not ideal what a being a woman is about nor their idea what their role is in a relationship. Men are expected to maintain their roles ( be a protector, provider, problem solver) yet  women are clueless, for me cooking is part of the deal, I will keep my end of the bargain, and so shall she! You are right not all women are going to cook for a man, because so many can't cook! I am not so sure about the clean part..

[Glendon007]

@Onegurrrlrev -actually it doesn't I know my role in a relationship, this tit for tat shit is the reason so many relationships are in trouble. I don't cook, but I make money, trust it has NEVER been a problem. Now how many chicks who make money , but can't cook are manless??????????

[Glendon007]

@Onegurrrlrev - I know a lot of women like that too who are lonely as hell, because they focused on the career and not much else. On the other side I know a successful surgeon who is married and expecting. many women can't balance it out and finding out all that glitters is not gold. As for your father and mother, that is atypical as hell and you know it. I love when people toot the exception as the rule. Listen to yourself "I love to cook but not for a man" sounds like so straight man hate...

[Glendon007]

@Onegurrrlrev -apparently someone doesn't like your comments HAHA keep thinking that way I hope it works out for you. People who love and care for each other do things like that, ( cooking for their man) women were designed by the grand order to have babies I know a lot of women do not like to hear that but it is the truth......My love is from NYC and she cooks for me 4-7 times a week and she is a professional, so there goes your theory. All women are not as obtuse as you are.

[Onegurrrlrev]

@Glendon007 I deleted my comments. There's no point in debating with someone who has old fashioned ideas about what a woman should do for a man. All I know is I don't want a commonplace life. To me that is boring. That's great you found someone who doesn't mind doing that for you but that's not what I want. I moved from New York to Hawaii and really enjoying my life as is. We can agree to disagree. What works for you may not work for someone else.

[Glendon007]

@Onegurrrlrev - I kinda of figured it was you. Yeah it is hard to change 70,000 years of encoded DNA in less than a 100 years. What you fail to understand, what you find boring now, you may long for when you are older. Since you are so progressive how many men have you asked on a date? I gather none, why because you like the old fashion method of boys asked girl out, so who is really old fashioned?

[Glendon007]

@Onegurrrlrev -conversation??? What conversation you never answered one of the question I put to you, why the answer would be very revealing of how you feel. Typical start some crap you can't finish. Enjoy the island, I use to live there for three years, it open my eyes to many thing hopefully it will do the same for you.

[NajavoSon]

@Glendon007 I like to cook for my lady. As mentioned by the other poster, it goes both ways. It doesn't have to be one sided. Just because I work doesn't mean I can't cook once in a while. In this econmy both partners need to work. When she is tired, I will cook.

[Glendon007]

@NajavoSon -who said anything about it being one sided? My whole point is so many women want a man to be on point with dating and a great many women have no ideal of what it is to be lady. Historically there were certain hallmarks of femininity and being a woman, all that has been turned on its head. But you better still be a man in the traditional sense, which is kinda crazy.

[gotcakexo]

yu have prettyyyyy

hair mama!!

[THEREALSPEAKIN]

yea ima dude and i aint lookin 4 da Clappin sound u be doin lol im lookin 4 a wife and marriage den the quote on quote clappin sound sex before marriage is sin god made sex after marriage 4 a reason so u atcually know and love the person first

[blagosov]

finally created a you tube account and

 subscribed to Dreaontv

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Girl i have been watchin your videos and though you may think they are shannanigans i really enjoy watchin them.

Believe it or not you give some great advice-

im a huge Jill scott fan like you :)..

.im actually

[Sh0rtyByNatur3]

i agree... im 19 bout to b 20an wit every guy i talk 2 from the get go i tel them i dont have sex or wen they ask if im a virgin i simply say yes an im stayn that way. the thing that makes me mad is they always say they don't believe me or im "IM TOO THICK TO BE A VIRGIN" wat the hell is that! jus good genes honey! jus cuz a girl got curves doesnt mean she fn to get them.that jus shows how ignorant they are.

an wen u been sayin no for so long its not hard...jus say no an leave it at that...

[Dreaontv]

@Sh0rtyByNatur3 you hear the rubbish that comes out of some folks mouths?! lol laaawd stay pure suga.

[SexySharrain]

Is That You Real hair

[Dreaontv]

@SexySharrain yes.

[Princ3s51]

So tru girl u speaking d truth. Preach girl Preach!!!!

[abender08]

THIS VIDEO IS THE TRUTH!!!

@ 56sec idk why the last guy I talked was talking to didn't understand that?!

@4:04 this is why I subscribed I LOVE UR CHANNEL

[tabbykat329]

I agree!!! I've been celibate for a lil over 9 months and I will continue. Men need to respect women more.

[ShaunieceCooks]

I must say i am sooooo very happy you subscribe to my site if you did not then I would not have heard this topic. Last month at church some one that I know shared with me that she is having SEX I was In a state of shock because we are ONLY 14yrs old, I did not know how to respond to her because I AM A VIRGIN. I will remain that way until I do get married. I told my mom about this conversation & she told me I could no longer talk to her because we have nothing in common.

however we only speak.

[lemmieatit]

@Dreaontv

Most Black women are as promiscuous as Black men are. Its not often a topic of discussion, but it is the truth. Smart men, who really know women can attest to this. Marriage or a good relationship will not stop her from from falling to the advances of others. Men don't usually find out, 'cause they want to believe their woman is exclusively theirs. But when they do find out, they're crushed.

[ananse77]

@lemmieatit What's with the "Black" ish? Can't we just talk about men and women,period? All the white women that I have been close to were waaaay more promiscuous than I, or any of my close black friends. When I was a virgin (until my 20s) or celibate, they were moving from man to man with an ease that amazed me. And it wasn't because of their race, it's because they were raised differently from me, and had different values. That's all that counts.

[hourglas39]

Your hair looks so cute in this video !

Some how I missed this video ? WTF ? :)

Good Video !

My girlfriend is constantly being dumped because she won't "put out" the minute she tells the guys she is a virgin, they don't want to hear it and they end up going off on her. Mind you she does tell them when the moment comes but dam.

Me I just tell them straight up and if they don't like it, then see ya ! It's my body and if I feel the relationship is going anywhere then why should I bother?

[05Godschild]

SOOO, SOOO true!! Great video!!

[sstupidssmile]

You're so pretty!!

I love your hair. Is it yours?

[blueeyes5221]

I think you are so right! And by the way, you are sooo pretty!!!!

[morenalamixmamii704]

i wasent finished. buh haha i love this topic. idnt have sex with jst anyone. n like u said lng term ., im lookn for someone who cn respect my des. i always say the more you wait the sweeter the better.lol buh u made good point n i wish men could see this on tv n say damn we are hard headed. n if u think about it. some men make them selves seem easy like they call somewomen hoes n wuh nt. buh ummm look at them.

[morenalamixmamii704]

thank you thank you. imagen a relationship without sex. is that so bad. and almost every guy ask about why do u have to be in a relationship to have sex or they jst cnt wait. and they get so deffensive like sayn that im old skoo.lol why cnt a girl be a good girl. and have my morals ,prioratys intact. how i feel things should go. its my kittykat . if u cnt deal then goout the door u came in.lol the truth sex does change things idc what anyone says.

[ShortyOh5]

Tell it girl, I wish every man would watch this video!

[veilyourdesire]

lmao i love the sound effects. u r so crazy. glad ur back making vids.

[Shyloh8]

Wow.. I ran into this video through Nothinbuttreble1220's channel, and I can't believe I've been missing out! You're awesome.. I love your realness.. and I actually sat through this whole video lol! There are FEW people on here that I can actually sit and listen to. Bless you..

[butterfli78]

good video

[ExtendedStudent4Real]

Best Youtube video ever. I am celibate and lot of my friends don't understand that. Dating any man, even married men is ever rampant; however I know that by being celibate you may miss out on alot of men but you will never miss out on a real man. Keep up the positive-progessive life.

[MsEEvaM]

I feel you! I hit my year mark in June. And if a man cant come correct then he needs to keep it moving, period. Surprisingly a few have been lingering around for months waiting for a moment of weakenss...Not gonna happen lol.

[Alimatuwurie]

I happy im not the only one doing this

[mamimusic28]

I love ur make up look its so natural -N- I love your examples and Im running with your advice, I agree with you rite now we are in the same boat... Thanks a lot... Stay Diva!

[shethewriter]

You're very natural with your thought process, it's very honest

[missbrownsuga444]

Omg!!!!!!!! A year! That's freakin crazy! I had a minor break-down for a minuet. Um, ok. Good for you! I missed you!

[BrownEy3dBabii]

who sings the song? i missed it

[satoriea]

You always talk sense. I like that. I like listening to what you have to say.

[1helluvawomen]

beautiful....

[iamhonestjohn]

Whoa... I just got schooled and I so wasn't expecting that!

Excellent video queen, that was certainly the best video I've seen on YT for a good while. Seriously. I had a lady friend in my scope but now I think I'll "put it on ice" for a minute and show her more respect with regards to my motive.

Thanks for making a brother think twice.

Peace & Love.

[charlycheer]

luv it!

[thedirtypeachatl]

Loves it!! btw you're so beautiful girlfriend (no homo) I was celibate for 3 years and now that I have my boo it's so on and on and on! LOL

[rollsthepaul]

About 5-10% of males are monogamous; girl look for one of these and hold out until you find one. It takes 3 years to get to know a potential mate and you don't have to have intercourse. Marriage combines the greatest temptation with the greatest opportunity. In a good marriage you can have casual sex with your partner. A lot of guys are great pretenders, so take the time to find out what you are dealing with.

Good post, use your head and make the right decision.

[chik252]

I understand where your coming from 100% more people should try being celibate while there single instead of sleeping with every person they meet in order to find that right one.

[TaShar16]

Ok, I'm going to tell ole' boy "go put that dick on ice"

"LMAAAAAAAAAAAO

[tikibabyt]

I really needed to hear this Dre you hit the nail right on the head im in that EXACT situation, now I have the reassurance that Im doing the right thing, since im solo i may need to hit up your website LoL

[allnyamouth619]

i like what your saying...but what about the ones that pull you in with sex and then cut you off...am i wrong for tripping

[beautieeo8]

OMG UR SPEAKING TO MEEEE lol

THANK U FOR THIS SOOOOO MUCH

NEEDED TO HEAR IT

[pinkybooblue]

OMG You're SOOO right! I recently had this guy in my life...He was really feeling me and so was I him...But it's like the minute he heard I wasnt having sex right now HE SWITCHED and started acting very odd....I'm just like Love does not S.E.X.!

[watermelonkisses]

I Love Amiel ( i think thats how you spell her name) from Groove Theory. That CD was banging... She needs to drop another Cd.

Oh, and I totally agree with you.

[SexySensi]

Everything u said is so true!! These guys don't know how to wait!!

Lol@ the hand clapping! Too funny

[cindasing]

i love the hand clapping gesture lol :)

[ATLiCandee]

lol @ hand gestures =)

[bearr7]

I WILL MAKE RESPONSE!

[lovlyme1]

I wish all women across the nation would go on a strike for a week. Hahahahahaha it would tense hahahahahaha.

[tymurren5]

A whole year no (hand clappin)??? das wassup..

[Onegurrrlrev]

@tymurren5 try 24 years.

[macNC40]

AAAAAAAMEN!!!

[CYRINTHIA212]

yes((clapping)) i've been celibant for over a year. and i believe i've grown to vaule myself much more. i am in no rush to have sex eithier...i want the next time i make love to a man i want him to be my HUSBAND. so i understand completely what you are saying. i even talk to my daughter who is 18 that she should be selective on who she shares herself with.

[gaboy260]

Just like women, always wanting what they want out of a relationship but not willing to do anything themselves. they want u to be perfect and a gentleman doeverything for them but not no sex cause thats disrespectful? cmon if the guy takes her out pays the rent and treats the kid like hes his the least she could do is lat on her back for 10 minutes...

[CaramelRain331]

@gaboy260 10mins? Seriously? Woooooooooooooooooooow! That's sad!

[ananse77]

@gaboy260 I think what you're looking for is a prostitute.

[strike8490]

Surprisingly women aren't the only ones waiting for a long term relationship or marriage to have sex. Men (although a slightly smaller percentage) have chosen this path as well. Matter fact, I know a guy who is in his mid 20's and not having sex until marriage. Hes struggling to find a woman who will respect that. He meets many girls (who believe it or not) turn him down, because they want sex now) It works both ways. When two people meet whatever they decide, they have to be on the same page.

[MsHoneee]

Damn where do I sign up??

[iwubyou00]

It is so hard to find a guy who is willing to wait....

[fudgeguerl]

you look mad pretty...no rainbows :)

[misjaguar]

I HAVE always believed in waiting a very long time. when i told my hubby i was not ready he waited and we have been married 4 years now. we waited a year before we jumped in the sac.

[ccino45]

Yeah that a difficult thing usually but I was blessed because I didn't wait very long when I met my husband I just thought he was sexy and I knew what I wanted at that time and now it's been like 5 years and we still together

[soni408]

True... Not all vagina feels the same.

[Blacklogic203]

who ain't had no bunz in some years and they pretty crabby dudes. either that or they 40 yr old virgin mommas boys or ugly as shit so u wouldn't want dat type of dude neway. so c'mon u really expecting ur knight and shining armour 2 really wait on u. cause if he is a knight and shining armour another damsel in distress is gonna snatch em up right from under ya nose. real talk. but hey dats just a different perspective.

[Volupt24]

@Blacklogic203 : Women r not necessarily w8n for a man 2 marry her before she give up the pussy, shes asking for security in that you be exclusively hers because then she'll know your serious about pursuing her. Thats what most women with standards who want a man for the long haul require. If your a man looking for the same thing, this should be no problem; if not then your just not in that state of mind or at that point in ur life yet.

[Blacklogic203]

oh another fact. he's not gonna sit there and wait around cause....WE HAVE NEEDS. idk mayb ya'll got some type of chemical dat can control them urges but we sure as hell don't. i mean think of it. when ur askin for a man to wait on u until marriage, ur asking him 2 ignore that voice in his head that sayin every 30 seconds...damn i need some pussy. U start ignoring dat voice and u start it jus seems lik ya whole outlook on life just turns negative and aggie. dats real shit. ya'll know somebody

[Blacklogic203]

and if we break up? then i did all that waiting for??????? i mean we listen 2 our friends as much as ya'll do. n the homies always gone say go for the pumpum.

[Volupt24]

@Blacklogic203: If your doing what gives u credibility amongst ur friends u have some growing to do mentally. Cause a man doesnt need to listen to or consult wit his friends, he know what he wants. Its as simple as this, the sooner you show her she can trust you & your serious about her, the sooner youll get the pussy and hopefully your not doing it just for that but thats all! After that youll get all the pussy you want, buffet style lol but see guys with your mental cant get to that point

[ladytexas88]

quotin devin the dude aww shucks

[brownshuga24]

I've also gone through no-sex fasts. The first time I went 2 years and the next time I did it for 5 years. It was hard in the beginning, but became much easier as time went on.

[imanisankofa]

You're on point. If you give up the booty right away, he will not respect you. If he does not respect you, he will not want a serious relationship with you. Hold out for the right guy for you. Jumpoffs make it hard for the good women out there.

[gaboy260]

i swear i will never understand women....

[1SimplYounique]

I co-sign!

And I am so mad at the sound effects. I don't want to hear anyone clapping around me cause that's what's going to pop into my head now. Thanks Drea... lol... BTW, that color shirt is so pretty on you.

Great vid!

[strike8490]

omg lmao me too, now when ppl clap, I'll think of THAT!! instead of applause! thanx Drea sigh* lol

[NikkiiDior]

Well said Drea, and you are so on point!!

[ohsodiverse]

That's why I'm staying a virgin bc I CAN'T find a guy I feel comfortable to do that with. And I WANT to wait until marriage. That is my goal. But guys need to understand that it's SO SIMPLE. Don't cheat, give us security, talk to us, cake it with us and let us know you'll always be there and they WILL get the "cooch". It's like they don't understand. DREA, the problem is, is that MEN do NOT want to work for ANYTHING. When it all comes down to it that's what it is. Until then my legs are CLOSED.

[hazelsimone]

same here im not waiting for marriage to loose my virginity but im waiting on love real love not that bullshit thats there in the beginning but real trust, respect, commitment, and friendship all i want is to not regret my first guys always respect me but they cant handle it im just waiting on someone who will sacrifice for me like she said weed out the weak men till you find a strong one

[ohsodiverse]

That is what I'm looking for too. but also that is the reason I'm waiting until marriage.. because I can't trust that a guy will give me that stability and love that I need.

and I'm tired of guys saying they can't wait. just because you can't wait doesnt mean you have to be a DOG about it. is it that hard to work for a woman and make her feel comfortable with even having sex with you? it's crazy. they just want sex and no work.

[TheSoctress]

Good for you! Seriously! Stay true to what you believe in and don't back down from that until you've reached that goal. Don't let anyone talk you out of it. If marriage is the goal, then marriage it is! There are guys and there is someone out there who will appreciate your virginity!

[MrRellieonred1]

@ohsodiverse you wish you was a virgin

[Fernandez218]

@ohsodiverse it's just confusing. you might be fucking someone else and using that dude who's waiting as a tool, from his perspective. i'm not sayin' you aren't right; just why it might be a road least travelled on... because you aren't be travelled on.

[1989Bootiful]

Thanks for the advice i really needed it i kno what to do kno with my situation....

[queennie79]

I met him almost 8 years ago thru a dating site. It took four years of e-mailing and chatting. We weren't living in the same country, but the chemistry was there. After four years I met the love of my life at an airport in Europe. We've been together ever since. And I;ve been patient. To make a long story short...we had SEX on the first day when we got from the airport with my bags still in his car. A lot of handclapping! It was GREAT. Still is!

[authentic810]

i dnt get the leave you fa sho for sum mo' lol

[Dreaontv]

@authentic810 in a nutshell it means don't leave your good thing at home just for a roll in the hay with someone new.

[JaidaHeaven]

I just recently started this celibacy thing like this month so wish me luck LMAO

[rosadavismusic]

i feel you sister its been 7 years for me and I'm wanting till god sends me my husband!

[Ginavaclose]

thank you for the advice and the laughs lol.

[kweencessX]

Lol you are so funny. This vid is nothing but the truth. Omg, No One Else is my WEDDING SONG! Have you heard her new one, Don't Let Me Down. It's on here if you haven't. EPIC!

[ladythickythick]

Great video... so many people today are so sexually charged that they forget what it takes to actually get to know a person and make a relationship work. If the relationship starts off based strictly on sex then that is all you have, and eventually someone is going to get bored. But if you take sex out of the equation in the beginning and actually build on really knowing the other person, then your relationship has a strong foundation to stand on. Its all a matter of where you are in your life.

[khamikins]

I'm a guy and I feel you on that security. I mean after we flip it, twerk it, and drop it like it's hot, then what? do I call you in morning? are we supposed to say thanks? what ? I need to know it's just you and me boo

[theoneandthree]

I have been celibate since 2003.

[khamikins]

Girl I'm a 25 yr old male Virgin. I think I win lol

[khamikins]

you just posting up a storm huh?

[JustJordanTV]

homo or straight. #putitonICE things comes to those who wait and mental intimacy coupled w/ love making...later turns out to be the most powerful thing of all.

[authentic810]

i like how u put tht

[MissOSoPRETTY]

I agree!

[xaasda]

Amen

[divamcdiva]

I agree with you! The things that come easy in life are easy to abuse. When you have to wait on somethings and put your time and effort in, you can see its worth and appreciate it.

[GorgeousBee86]

But that D on ICE HAHAHA LOL =Truth i like that 2 i want it all i dont share. I believe Real Men are still around . Where they r who knows LOL :)

[thruthealcove]

Amen sis!!!

[cityonfire31811]

Dats wassup. my wifey made me wait while we wuz dating and now she my wifey ya know. in that waiting time yours eyes are open and you find out about that person. thats where all the falling in love takes place in a man's mind!

[anotharemix]

Yes for putting the dick on ice! chill out...before shyt heats up. #imjustsayin

[MissChriss82]

Well said mama. I'm with you babygirl. You're a commodity (hope I spelled that right, lol) and more PEOPLE not just women, need to carry themselves in that respect. It's nothing wrong with getting your "groove back" or "your freak on" or (palms clap, clap, clap, lol) but it's all about what you're trying to get OUT of the situation that you're in. Don't expect a warm, loving, trusting, long term relationship with a person when you saw that person's backside before you knew their last name y'know

[MissChriss82]

There are SOME exceptions to the rules, but it's so rare that...is it really worth taking that chance? For some it is...

[ThePoeticflava]

I agree, but isnt just in their nature for smashing to be their ultimate goal? LMAO @ the hand gestures,Please tell me u hv toys @ least..Honneeee thats a long ass time

[mamimusic28]

I agree with you, I am on the same page w. u rite now.... 4real, some guys aren't with your decisions but hey!! There is someone out there for everyone

[TRACEIIAM]

Drea it sure does weed out the triffling mo fos. I am celibate, when they hear that at first they say ok cool, but eventually they disappear. I am not no piece of ass, booty call..not

[tduffjackson]

The hand clapping thing is hilarious!!