How to STOP Arguments and Fights from Killing a Relationship

[XxMATTYH2K10xX]

my girlfriend gets into moods that she cant help where she finds it hard to show affection towards people including me her boyfriend, it doesn't change how she feels towards me it just makes her really depressed, this makes me very frustrated and angry when i try and cheer her up and she cant appreciate it. i know she does inside but i still get angry and we have an argument every time about . how can we solve this and get around this problem :( anyone help please?

[jbizzel100]

arguments makes great make-up sex!!!!

[piRatEjo3]

me and my gf fight alot and over stupid things how do i prevent these kind of fights,or how do i get her back and stop being mad at me?

[lilsweeti13]

respect your partner

[maleslave1]

one other way is DIVORCE kick her to the curb...yea she does all the talking and i get no time with counlser..been there done it doesnt work just kick her to the curb and be happy she gone

[HylyJrdn]

So, what if your significant other deletes messages and you happen to catch them and then they lie. And they do this many times. And they seem to be defensive from the moment you catch them. If they have nothing to hide, why delete your conversation? And I have never been dishonest or given that person any reason to believe otherwise. Any advice on that?

[MrShane737]

DONT ASK IF SHES PMS-ING!! YOURE JUST GOING TO GET YOURSELF 3 HOURS NO TALKING ON THE PHONE....

[baroness1983]

What do you guys think are the big things? things that are really worth arguing for?

[easytimes1967]

The agree to disagree only works to a certain degree.The examples given here about one liking blue and hte other, likes red. Or action movies to chcik flix.That's easy. But when your wife puts you down about everything you do or say.Then you verbally defend yourself, you're called a liar, that's only when she has ALLOWED you to speak.When she gets done with one of her lectures of who and what I am, if it were true what she was saying, I'm almost want to go shoot myself and do her a favor.

[peterpetersnbg]

if you love someone and the other one loves you.sacrifice is easier.. its worth doing ...but if someone is manipulating you its a totaly  different kettle of fish.

[sarahhammock78]

Me and my significant other constantly argue and fight...he's constantly saying things under his breath insinuating he will move out or cut the relationship off. I have gotten to the point where I just say ok. It seems as if he says these things right after he doesnt get his way. Thus...making me want to challenge him or simply tell him go ahead and leave.I keep hoping that he will get past this.Will he ever stop this behavior?

[InstructionalGecko]

Well my concept is between My Step dad, and My Mom. They're arguing because my dad has been promising that he'll come earlier than he says. He's basically one of the Top bosses of his bussiness. He has to meet a lot of people but my mom understands that he has to do that. But everynight he does it, She just wants him at least 1 night to be at home and be a Family. She has been yelling, ect. And he said he's has enough, He's now thinking of moving and we have to move. He makes all the money ect.

[xXImegamanIXx]

I have these problems with my gf, Your advice has been very helpfull but what if your partner doesnt agree to disagree and the arguments carry on? any advice on that?

[DanAndJenn]

It takes 2 to argue (unless you're the guy in Fight Club)...

So if you stop arguing, your partner will have no one to fight with.

The trick is to keep your ego in check - it's not your heart that needs to be right, only ego! Recognize that you will not die if your partner thinks they are right and you are wrong. It's OK to be considered wrong by another person...

[jdfodio]

This is somewhat true. Some people have the amazing ability to argue with the wall or the back of a person. How do you deal with the person who responds to silence with continuing to argue?

[hugonohemi]

@jdfodio More silence, I would say. I mean, seriously, they HAVE to get tired of doing so at some point.

[perrywinkle24]

what if its a fight with your friend?

[ParallelSolutions]

You couldnt be more right! me and my gf were arguing and she got really mad over nothing really well thats what I thought and after watching this I just accepted it and even thought I thought i was right I said sorry and told her I was wrong and it was all my fualt and that i dont want to fight. now we are making up.

Thank you (:

[mu86neer]

guys, you r totally right ,, unfortunately, i realised that after i reached the point in which i hated to see any one around me , even once i thought to live in a world where no one else lives with me,,, people are always bullshit ,, i guess i shouldn't ever have shared any thoughts with them

[NubNizzle]

Its because we always want to be right

[HyperBuu]

An argument can be good if it's productive, but it then stops becoming productive when the emotions of the 2 parties gets too involved. Then it just transcends into a fight. If it starts to head in that direction, it's better to stop before it becomes something stupid.

[hahayouarefunny]

Smart Dan! My boyfriend likes chick flicks, and I like mob movies. :)

[CoolnessLink]

Not in my case. If i stop, she goes like "What? You're not gonna talk? Wtf is wrong with you?! Blah blah blah blah!"

[tantalus45]

when yousit still and give the silent treatment that is a way of manipulating the conversation... you want her to stop yelling at you so you dont listen... real smart

[hugonohemi]

@CoolnessLink Yes, but.. I guess trying to keep a cool head can also work. Don't give her reasons to keep the argument alive. If she wants you to reply, do it calmly. Eventually she'll have to get tired of being the only one getting worked up over nothing. At least, that's what I would do, it usually works with the people that get on my nerves and biseverse.

[invista360]

No.

To women romantic love is a constant power play.

This is about sexual tension.

It always appears as something else.

We as humans arent the only ones. Observe lions on the savannah before they get it on. Many other animals as well. It is engraved in our primal being. A smooth calm relationship is not what women want all the time.

[dfcurran]

Arguments can be a good way to learn what is important to each other. Arguments about silly things are actually about power and control and it is a much better idea to openly discuss what is actually going on. i.e. "Why is winning this argument so important to you?"

[BradW59]

Seems you both haave, experience with thiiiiis??? =-)