I was with this guy who cheated on me everyday and always used me as a rebound. The reason why he cheated was I wouldn't have sex with him for many reasons. The main one was I wanted to wait till marriage. He treated me like I was a toy. The day he broke up with me for the last time I was going through MRI's, EKG's, and Ct Scans and he told me he got drunk and cheated. After that I was done. Now I am engaged to a guy in the Military. (: He's amazing & I love the emotion you put into your videos.
Thank god that i found someone who loves me better than he did!!! my ex husband was abusive in every way, broke me and tore me down...thank god i got smart and walked away before i ended up dead. THANK GOD that i found a good man, a real man who is not a douchebag and treats me the way i deserve.
Mine was mentally abusive to me. Telliing me I would never do better and if I left him he would kill himself. He constantly cheated on me and never introudce me to his family after four years. He did everything you said at the end he became a stalker. He was super harrassing to me . I finally got out of that miserable relationship and am currently just married to an airman who is the total opposite. My husband is my best friend and I am glad I got to marry him
I was with a guy on n off for almost 5 years who would keep running back to me then forgetting about me when another girl came along and i was always there for him when shit when wrong. Then I had a choice move n b with him bc he "CHANGED" or to move with someone else n i chose the one who kept fucking me over. Then when im there he messages exs tellin him he loves them n misses them cant wait till i leave for vacation so he can be out till when ever. then messaging girls for pics.
just to add my douche bag ex laughed at my major and says il get nowhere but my current amazing man always says how smart and intelligent i am and supports me. my douche bag ex also used to disrespect me and treat me like crap but my current even holds me when i cry and wipes my tears like really???...LADIES YOU CAN DO BETTER!trust me!
oh crap i've dated enough douche bags now am with the most amazing man ever who makes me feel like a queen...i thought i'd never find a good man WRONG!!!!!!!YOU CAN DO BETTER!
yes i have left a guy who would yell at me all the time cuz he lived far away from me and he would yell at me for going to school events cuz there r other guys tthere and i have guy friends that he dident on me to hang out with and now i am with a guy who is amazing and people have been jelouse of are relationship and have tryed to sstartt rumers to get up so break up but we r to close and it did nothing <3
Continued... The man I am with now is the one who would come and pick me up from my ex's place when he would lock me in his apartment. He eventually broke my two lower ribs and acted like nothing ever happened to me. After that I got harassed for months. I am very happy now despite his deployment in the next few months
My ex told me what to wear when to leave what time i had to be back by and made me do his work if i said no he would basically tackle which he called "wrestling" me to the ground. I got tired of it after almost a year of it, and when i said no to something he got to the point of actually hitting me.
@kymberlymlara i was in about the same kind of situation exept he controled wat i wore that made me over weight and punched me. i even feared bald ppl; wen i see them i freeze up. i just got use to Jovan14606 haha. it got to the point where i hated all men UNTIL i met my bf now he is also becoming a marine and he is the sweetest guy ever. it took me a really long time to trust him i was just so traumatized but he waited. now i am willing to go anywhere with him. sorry had to share with yu hehe
Thank you, thank you, thank you. I lived through a brutal marriage for many years, waiting until it was SAFE to get my kids and me to get out. He would through that "nobody will love you, you will be on welfare, etc. It took many years to overcome all the crap he beat into my head. I am now married to the most wonderful, loving, caring, christian man on the planet. I wish I had heard a message like yours back then.
A YEAR AND A HALF LATER:: i have met someone new, the person I'm currently falling in love with. hes sweet, adorable, kind, a gentlemen, smart, funny, nerdy and worth all my time in the world. i tested our feeling for each other while he was at bootcamp. i waited 3 months for him and never did he leave my mind. we are now in relationship. he's a Marine. so i wait until he can have liberty for me too see him. he's worth the wait . :)))
i was in a two year relationship that consisted of ; my first love. him calling me fat or the nickname Tubby. slapped me. was controlling.stalked me. ruined my friendships. always made fun of me for something. criticized everything i wore. made me feel ugly on the outside as well as inside. made it sooo hard to move on when i started to date and he harassed me and this other person. made me cry so many times, where i cried 7 times in one day.
I was in a relationship for 3 years, It ended with permit damage to my ribs, legs ending my dancing and gymnastics life. I stayed with him because I felt like I couldn't get out of it. At one point I thought the only way out was suicide. The man I am with now helped me get out of that relationship. He made me feel like I was worth something. I'm lucky I had him to help me. He's been though multiple issues since then with me and he accepts everything and care for me.
I was married to a soldier he treated me like shit and always talked down to be a basically treated me exactly like your friend in this video. I left him after four years and started dating this other guy that i thought was great but he ended up being just as bad as my exhusband. I recently found a great guy who loves me for me treats me like a queen and my daughter like his own.I want all girls to know there are great guys out there that will respect you and treat you amazingly.
I wish I saw this video during my previous relationship.Luckily I'm with someone now who knows just how lucky he's got it. Luckily I'm with someone now who'll never treat me like that other jackass ever again. Keep up the videos :)
TO THE WOMEN WHO ARE IN AN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP:
Loving someone is not possible until you love yourself FIRST. In order to be in a healthy relationship, you have to be in a healthy relationship alone. Being happy alone and loving yourself is the only way it will work. And a part of loving yourself, is letting go of what is hurting you for your own good.
This video helped me fully get over my last. Thank you so much. I absolutely love you & your videos! The last relationship I was in was unhealthy. I was way to forgiving & kind with all the bullshit & lies. I gave that guy way too many chances. There was something between us, & he respected me. Though I reached breaking point & couldn't continue hurting from his bad habits. I did keep him out of trouble though, & helped him turn around, now he hasn't drunk or partied in 3 months but he lost me.
Thank you for helping me realize I was in an unhealthy relationship. I just recently moved on after my bf broke up with me a few weeks ago cause he believed his family that cause I was long distance from him that I was probably cheating on him. Though I called him every night and was always there when he needed me the most even at 4am. He told me " You're never gonna find someone like me". Well I realized that I can do better. I getting back out there and staying strong
Part 10 *Final part*] break down. On May 12th he broke up with me. Via Facebook Relationship status change. He called me that night while I was out with friends. He argued with me until I was physically ill from it. Throwing up, sobbing, gasping, and pleading with him. I have never felt sorry in my life [In both senses of the word] but nothing was changing his mind. He asked me "What did you ever do for me other than screw me over?" I guess he forgot everything I'd done. I didn't. Still can't.
@bittengrl Gurl u need to get over that jackass!! He's not at home or wherever he is cryin over u!! So why waste another tear or emotion crying over his worthless behind?!?! You need to see that all dat stuff u did for him, someone else out there would appreciate that so much more than that a**hole! Don't waste ur time thinking about that idiot cuz it'll keep u in a place of depression and ur worth more than that gurl. Before a man can see ur worth, u have to see how much ur worth first :)
[Part 9] was PISSED. He wrote me two letters on the subject. One of them saying "I forgive you" I wish he hadn't lied. I flew out to his graduation. I was so happy to see him again. Every day on the way to see him I would just get butterflies. he didn't argue with me because he didn't really speak to me at all. When it was time for him to leave again I cried. When I landed back in NC on May 10th my grandmother was in the hospital and he wanted to talk. So much pressure. I was on the verge of a
[Part 8] him posted on everything. BEAST week [timing is everything I guess] a letter brought him bad news. A mutual friend of ours had invited me over. He had offered me alcohol. I refused but he proceeded to bitch until I accepted. I was too fucked up to drive home. So I stayed there. I slept in his bed. Let me make something very clear : NOTHING HAPPENED. I slept in his bed and he woke me up once which pissed me off so I dug my nails deep in to his back and left welts across it. My Airman
[Part 7] cry his mother and father jumped to my immediate defense which only served to get me bitched at even more when they went to sleep. But I loved him, So I took the harsh words and the tears and did everything in my power to make him happy again. when he left for BMT I cried. I have never cried like that in my life. It was so hard for him to be so far away. I missed him so much. I wrote him 52 letters ranging from1-5 pages each. I told him everything that was going on in my life. I kept
[Part 6] just sat in the hotel room floor and sobbed my eyes out for three hours while he was sleeping. Then I crawled into his arms to sleep and he woke up and said "Hell yes I love you" and I started crying again and he got instantly pissed that I had been crying and hadn't talked to him about it. And then more pissed when I tried to talk to him about it then to calm him down. As if nothing I did was right. That was my first visit. the second one we stayed with his parents and when he made me
[Part 5] So he forgave me that one thing that I can't even remember doing and then I proceeded to forgive him his faults on a day to day basis. Especially the lying. He was a compulsive liar and it was so hard for me to take sometimes but I didn't want to lose him. So he leaves my home state to go back to his a few weeks before he ships out. And I came to visit his twice. Once for his birthday and once the week before he shipped to BMT. He fought with me the entire time both visits. One night I
[Part 4] him to come hang out with me. But he said no. So I hung out with the guys at my house and their friends and I ended up getting black out drunk. I to this day don't remember a thing that happened that night but I am TOLD that I did some stupid shit. Now I was hesitant to tell him that at first because I didn't rememeber it. But I ended up telling him. And he was mad but he forgave me.
That was prior to him moving in and all the drama.
[Part 3] want to see that so I just ignored it because I loved him and i was going to fight to keep him. So through all the fights. All the bullshit with his ex girlfriend. All the drama, everything I continuously forgave him. Now I am not saying I am perfect, and that as it turns out is the problem, I have issues. don't we all? Well mine are with Alcohol. I can't handle it well and I don't know my limits so I black out. A few days after this guy and I got together was new years and I begged
[Part two] Point this out he would make it a joke of some kind or other. And he also never made me feel worth much. H ewould tell stories about all these girls in his past and how they were so "gorgeous" and yet he would get so pissed at me if I would show signs of low self esteem due to that, as if that wasn't a normal reaction, but he never made me feel beautiful at all. From an outside perspective it was said he treated me like a friend rather than a girlfriend. But I couldn't or maybe didn't
I was with this guy and he was going into the Air Force. He moved in with me. I cooked for him. [And every one else in the house] He helped me clean. I bought him Cigarettes. I bought him food. I did everything in my power for him. And there were days when he treated me decently and he did boyfriend like things. But most days he just wanted to hang out with the other guys in the house and made me feel like I was kinda an intrusion. And when I would...
This is great! i was in a relationship like this for 5 years! i had chance after chance to get out but i kept going back. i dont know why. He would always tell me "no one will love you the way i do" and "you're too fat...you need to lose some weight" at that time...i weighed 130lbs!!!! i gained weight because i was eating to "make myself feel better". but he would also hit me, and bruise me up. i never told anyone. but im out now..and i couldn't be happier! i haven't found a new guy yet..
but i know he's out there! im just taking it day by day....and hanging out with my friends...which he prevented me from doing, and i lost ALL of them but one. she stuck with me through everything and we're best friends now! i couldn't have left him without her by my side!! but he told me i was stupid, i was a bitch, that i didn't appriciate him...it was horrible! but he's out of my life now and it's sooo much better! :) too all the girls out there that think you can't get out of an unhealthy...
relationship...you're wrong. you can! and you need to! if not it will ONLY get better!! thank you so much for posting this video!!! i really needed to see this!!! :)
I don't feel comfortable talking about my previous relationships but, I was in one like that, and I am so glad i got out. I'm still affected by the way he treated me even though i'm in a much better relationship. I am so grateful that you made this video. It makes me feel less alone and like I did the right thing. After I left i felt like I had betrayed him, i left him when he needed me. But now, i feel like I did the right thing. Thank you so much.
i can totally relate to this cuz i just found out 2 weeks ago that my bf whos in the military was cheatin by doing "webcam" with tons of girls..i dont blame the military cuz the army didnt do this apparantly it had been happening a year before he even joined and i had no idea i feel like such an idiot but hey shit happens and i ended it cuz i deserve better than that and until i blocked him on fb he was askin me who this was and what that status was about....but iv realized i can do better
I absolutely Love this video. It's really made me think about my current relationship, and how I think it is going. You are amazing Lexi! Thanks for posting such helpful videos!!<3
I honestly love this video! I was in a verbally, emotionally, mentally abusive relationship (he almost got to the point of physical abuse.) Breaking up with him was the single best decision I've ever made. I was dumb enough to buy all of his mistreatment until I woke up. Now I'm with the love of my life. He is everything I idealize in a partner and he is everything my ex wasn't. It's exactly like you said, I couldn't give my current man a chance without leaving my first.
I honestly don't know where life would take me if I hadn't met him but I am very thankful I have him in my life. There are parts of my story that I did leave out but those parts are just too painful for me & I just don't want to remember them. But ladies, if you are in a relationship that a man treats you like absolute shit, get out of it.(Men, this goes for you too) Sorry for all of the posts I just had to get my story out there. If anyone needs advice or anything, I'm here!
He tells me everyday that I am beautiful. He treats me how I am supposed to be treated, equal. In fact we just bought our own house together. We moved in on the 5th. =) Not once has he even thought of laying a hand on me. Not once has he called me ugly, fat, worthless or anything like that. He tells me everyday that he loves me. (cont)
and he'd grab a pillow and shove it over my face to try to suffocate me. Everyday he would tell me I was ugly, fat, and worthless. And that I would never find a man to love me. That no one could love anyone like me...But now, 4 years down the road I have been with the best man I have met in my entire life. I've been with him for two years since August 30th of this year. (cont)
If I was caught talking to any of my old guy friends, I'd get hit. Day by day this went on for a year. I'd have bruises up and down my legs, which I'd always have covered up because I was too scared if anyone found out they'd call the cops or something. I didn't want that to happen. He had me terrified. He'd always use the threats like "If you tell, I'll kill you or your family." There were even a couple of times that he really made me mad and I threatened to tell (cont)
About a year into the relationship it got to the point if he caught me even talking to one of my old friends he didnt like when we got home from school he would hit me continuosly. He didn't start hitting me until about a year into the relationship. That's when he really started showing his true colors. I wasn't allowed to call anyone. Not even my own sister. He'd take my cellphone away from me and hide it so I couldn't use it. (continued)
Heres my story... Back in 2006 I ended up getting with this guy, Shane. He was really sweet & kind at first. We dated for about 4 months & then I ended up moving in with him & his grandmother Everything was fine until about 2 months after me moving in. He started getting really jealous of me hanging out with all of my girl friends and even some of my family. I wasn't even allowed to talk to them while we were around eachother at school. (I was about 15/16 at the time) (continued)
but I guess that's because all, and I mean ALL of her previous boyfriends cheated on her. idk what to do...and she did say, "well, until I found someone better, I'll still stick with this guy." and I dont think that's going so well. what ever happens, I hope someone finds her.
I have a friend who sticks with this dick who completely ignores her, yells at her. and I keep telling her to break up with this guy, because he obviously doesn't give a shit about her. makes her cry because he never replies her text and doesn't apologize. seriously, I told her "do you think that's love? do you even know what love is?" and her reply was, "yeah, he's faithful. he doesn't cheat on me." which is true, tho that hasn't been proven wrong (YET) BUT HE'S A TOTAL ASSHOLEEE!!!
you are a mad mad genius. seriously. talking about you, I feel like my dad talking about some politician he likes. and he doesn't even like politics. and I'm not even into relationships much myself. if anyone wants to be my boyfriend, he better prove himself worthy. tho I like some guys, come on, can't help it if they're born with that face, but I'm not gonna go and idk, "do whatever it takes to make them mine" the pathetic lame desperate kind of way. if it'll happen, it'll happen.
every girl falls for a douche at least once in their life.. but not all stay with them. you're so right, its easy for the douche to stay in the relationship and he makes us girls feel dependent on them..
Your videos are getting better and better. I am a little older than you and sometimes I feel a little silly going to your videos for inspiration because you are so young. But that's ignorant of me, because every time I get some type of insight that opens my eyes or puts words to my emotions. You need to be a life coach, minister, etc.. Real Talk!
i remember i was in a relationship where the guy i dated wanted to control everything i did. he hated when i did something and didn't tell him i did it. we had gotten engaged and that is when it got bad. we would yell at eachother all the time. but i ended up taking the advice from someone at my church and tell the mother fucker to bounce. now i'm engaged to a sweet guy and we are working towards a better future together. but he wants to kill my ex for things my ex said to me lol :)
My trust is still screwed up because of my ex, but I'm rebuilding it because I need to learn not to freak out or leave my newfound guy over small situations. Thanks so much for your insight Jovan!
You are a freakin' PHILOSOPHER!! My ex boyfriend treated me like crap, had anger issues and always took his anger out on me, made me feel really insecure about myself, always checked out other girls every second whenever we were together, and he didn't even understand me. I stuck with him for 8 months, we broke up, I found someone MUCH MORE understanding and sweeter. My ex came back to me telling me that he could make me happier than anyone else could and that he loved me but I did NOT buy it!!!
You are such an inspiration. Thank you so much for your strong words and kind heart. I share these videos with everyone I know. Everyone needs a friend like you. These videos helped me with my relationship problems so thank you but mostly thank you for being bold enough to say the things others are afraid to.
The first douchebag and I were together for 5 months and then I found out that he was using me to cheat on his girlfriend of a year and a half...she stayed with him. The second douchebag is the biggest douchebag in the Navy. He told me that my only purpose is to take of my clothes and do what makes him happy and to have sex with him. I left him. I have a deployed soldier. He's 7,000 miles away and I've never been treated better or been happier. I can't wait until he comes home. :)
Omg it reminds me of my ex I put up with him for 5 yrs while he beat me cuz we had to daughters & when I left him he went crazy then I dated another douche bag I dated him for 2 yrs& when I got pregnant with my twins he cheated on me& said no one would love me. I worked 2 jobs& went to school& he sat on my couch& did nothing! I went shopping on day meet a old friend from high school& I told him about my problem they begged me to leave but I was dumb & scared I didn't want to b alone. But then I
This video really makes me think about my relationship.. I think for a lot of girls, we don't realize we're in this kind of relationship, nor do we want to. It's pretty hard for me to figure out just super hard for me to really take action for myself since my relationship hasn't been like this (video) for a long time, just worried if it ever comes back again if I could finally do what is right for me.
I'm one of the luckiest that got of a bad relationship. The guy used to hit me and use me for sex. I knew I was tired of it but I wouldn't leave. Then I might the guy that I'm with now. If it wasn't for him I wouldn't have left that other guy. Trust me ladies it is not worth the brutalities and abuse. If you can get out of a situation like this then do it cause take it from someone who's been there. It's not worth going through all that cause there's always someone that will treat you so much b
This video made me think about my ex and I can believe how right you are with everything. It actually hit me like a ton of bricks how much he was like this. It made me realize that I CAN do so much better than him.
sounds like an airman i know..i waited for him for 4 months and was with him for 4 months before he left for training one day he txts me and tells me he doesnt have time for me anymore i felt like i was being selfish for asking for a phone call every once and awhile while hes at tech school. but he now i realize he wasnt treating me right anyway he stopped trying and its probably best this way. some men in the going into the military are afraid that their gf or wife wont treat them right or stay
I dated my ex for around ten months. It got to the point where he stopped being sweet and just stopped caring. I kept trying, but our relationship was dead. I got tired of not feeling like I mattered, and needless to say, we're not together anymore. I now have a boyfriend who is in the USAF that I never get to see that treats me better than my ex did.
My ex treated me like SHIT all the time. I stayed with him for 3 years. He told me I couldn't do better, that no one would love me like he did. He did anything to make me stay. Finally I hated him enough to end it. It took him raping me for me to leave. But I did, and he did stalk me and still try to act like we were together telling ppl we would go to their party, or dinners. I threaten a restraining order and he finally left me alone after my new boyfriend (now husband) stood up for me.
im glad you always say the right things about these kind of situations, but for some girls all the advice in the world wont be taken, its that inner strength that pulls them out from this dead relationships.& besides, these girls at some point have them selves to blame for turning into someone they dont want, get out the relationship before its to late. & for those good guys, at some point turn into jerks could of no chances.
Thank you very much for this. There is something very powerful about a man saying this. A lot of women hear these things from their girlfriends but make excuses for their "men."
I left a douchebag boyfriend. I thought he was perfect, but the farther the relationship got the more he showed how mean he was. He would tell me my major was stupid, my fears of him hanging out with a bunch of flirty girls was stupid, "wouldn't it be cool if you were a Double D instead of a B cup?" or "wouldn't you look sexy if you had red hair." Now I have a man who tells me every day I'm beautiful just the way I am and to follow my dreams. :]
Idk if my boyfriend is one of these d-bags or not. He kinda ignores me and ditches me for his friends sometimes, but it's not like he does anything to intentionally hurt me. Once I tried to break up with him and he point blank told me no, I can't break up with him. Help? Advice? Tell me what's going on in my life!
"you won't find anyone better"- I DID. "your not goin to find anyone that love you like i do'- I DIDN'T, HE LOVES ME BETTER THAN YOU DID. Honestly im glad that my ex left me cause it made me realize what i deserve and how big of an a**hole he is. And now im in a relationship with this wonderful& adorable guy. & my ex is sitting on the sideline jealous of what he used to have.
I was a douche bag for a year and a half who was in the air force, he told me everyday that I was a piece of shit, a cunt, a bitch everything in the book. and I always thought I needed him in my life just cause I was scared of him. Every time we fought he always told me to shut up and let him talk, and he never let me talk about my feelings. I couldn't see or talk to any of my friends and I developed an eating disorder. I'm just so happy hes out of my life now, it wasn't worth my time anymore.
i was in a relationship where he told me you cant find better and no one will love you WELLLL guess what now im with a MAN who says i know you could find better but the fact you dont is why i love you
My ex-fiance cheated on me with another guy. He told me I wasn't good enough, and thats why he did it. Well, bullshit on him. He took my virginity, my faith, my friends and my family away from me. Over a year later, I am living with the most amazing man in the world who doesn't hit me, doesn't fight with me, and doesn't cheat on me. I had to go through all of this pain to find out what a healthy relationship is.
I used to go out with a guy who always made me feel like I was never enough, and that everything I did was wrong and it was always my fault. Now, my boyfriend treats me like a lady, to the point in which i feel its almost too much. As a matter of fact, today I woke up and received a bouquet of calla lilies from him, something i know my ex would've never ever done. So ladies, there is hope!
But then again, he has never told me that I couldn't find someone better than him, and he actually has told me that he couldn't find anyone better than ME. You're going to have conflicts, because you are NOT the same people (you have your own ideas and so does he) but recognize WHAT is done and said to you. Notice if it is negative to you, or just to the situation. If it is ATTACKING you while you argue, and not the SITUATION (and it happens multiple times), then chances are, he is a jackwagon.
I actually never gave my bf's second chances (after a break up) until recent years, so I'm a bit backwards, I guess. I always thought "There's a reason I'm not with that person anymore" While, yes, this is true, I've also found extenuating circumstances in my previous two relationships in which it wasn't fair to say that to myself. I love the man I'm with right now, and while, yes, he does have problems, I know I have my own and and have done some not so nice things too, and he's forgiven me.
Hehe I've only ever had one boyfriend who I eventually married <33 He's an amazing guy who loves me and takes care of me, and he was like that all through our dating relationship, engagement, and our first year of marriage. He has issues expressing himself sometimes, and can be a bit stubborn over silly things, but when it comes down to it, he'd crawl through hell and back for me.
My ex fiance cheated on me and got someone else pregnant around the same time he got me pregnant. He denied his other child and doesn't even bother seeing ours. He would believe everyone else over me and when I would confront him about his cheating he would hit me. I put up with it because he would cry and begged for me to stay. I finally had enough when I was 8 months pregnant and he beat me so bad I was scared for my life and my child. I called the cops on him and he was arrested.
I stayed in a dead relationship for 6 years. The guy I was with was an ok person, but a terrible boyfriend. We were on the verge of getting married, I was actually about to the guy who made me feel like shit on a daily basis. But then I met my current (long distance) boyfriend. I broke up with the douchebag when I realized that I'd rather be with the guy 700 miles away who made me feel amazing than stay with the guy in my town who made me feel terrible.
6 months ago I was in a bad relationship.He made fun of my weight said no guy would ever want me and put down my dreams.One night my best friend cried on the phone telling me how much it hurt him that I was with this douchebag.He made me realize I could do SO much better.I left my ex and blocked him from everything.Now Im dating an amazing guy that makes me feel better in one day than my ex did our whole relationship.There are so many GREAT guys out there for you girls.Just let the douchebag go.
Two douchebags have told me that no one would ever love me as much as they do and I left them. I have yet to find a better guy but I've found better...I've found God.
Thank you for putting these videos up. Its crazy how well you understand women. I can relate to her in some ways, although I haven't found the good guy yet. Thought of a song that would go good with this video, it's called "had enough" by breaking Benjamin. Might be kinda intense but the lyrics are good.
my sons sperm doner aka dad cheated on me and mentally abused me hungout with this female my entire pregnancy . 3 months after my son passed away i threw his dumb ass to the trash . and now happy with my new man who is truely amazing . Girls dont stay with a dumb ass guy who treats you like a piece of trash not cool at all and not respecting yourself at all !
U mind if I post this on my facebook page because I know people who need to hear this..............and I'm about to reveal my secret identity *dramatic music*
I love this! I posted this on facebook in hopes some of my best friends see.
I have dated a few douches myself. One of my ex's did something extremely bad and then skipped states the next day. Another ex decided he wanted to hit me, and I took it and took it until he did it in front of a room mate. Another one cheated on me... There are a lot of these guys out there. Sometimes its hard to get away from these types of people, but there ARE good guys out there. :)
You are so right, my hubby and i were together in hs, when he left for the navyi couldnt do it and decided to date someone else, after a year of being verbally abused, kicked out 3 times and pushed down a few times i finally decided i was done and went back to the one that really cared and always treated me like his princess i am so happy now and the douchebag made me appreciate what i know have.
I can relate to this and I did leave, recently actually. So far I'm doing a good job because there have been previous times where I left and I caved. It takes time to get over someone you've been with for so long...but at least I'm not looking back anymore. MOVING FORWARD!! :)
Yo Alexis u have no idea how much I can relate to this. I'm currently a reallly close friend with this girl only because her ex was an asshole and shes scared to give me the chance.
@sigmabeta4life dont give up, just show her how special she is and treat her like the princess you know she is and she'll one day wake up and realize what she has in you. Just stick by her side. But at the same time don't wait forever.. if she doesnt wake up and realize it, u need to find someone who will appreciate you and will love you as much as you do them. But for her sake i hope she realizes it before its to late.
I was with this guy who cheated on me everyday and always used me as a rebound. The reason why he cheated was I wouldn't have sex with him for many reasons. The main one was I wanted to wait till marriage. He treated me like I was a toy. The day he broke up with me for the last time I was going through MRI's, EKG's, and Ct Scans and he told me he got drunk and cheated. After that I was done. Now I am engaged to a guy in the Military. (: He's amazing & I love the emotion you put into your videos.
Adorkable421 1 week ago
Thank god that i found someone who loves me better than he did!!! my ex husband was abusive in every way, broke me and tore me down...thank god i got smart and walked away before i ended up dead. THANK GOD that i found a good man, a real man who is not a douchebag and treats me the way i deserve.
mommashaybay 1 month ago in playlist Uploaded videos
Mine was mentally abusive to me. Telliing me I would never do better and if I left him he would kill himself. He constantly cheated on me and never introudce me to his family after four years. He did everything you said at the end he became a stalker. He was super harrassing to me . I finally got out of that miserable relationship and am currently just married to an airman who is the total opposite. My husband is my best friend and I am glad I got to marry him
BIGBEAUTIFUL24 1 month ago in playlist Main Episodes
Who on earth would dislike this video!? Must be a douchebag guy who treats his girlfriend like trash.
twuvic2006 1 month ago 2
I was with a guy on n off for almost 5 years who would keep running back to me then forgetting about me when another girl came along and i was always there for him when shit when wrong. Then I had a choice move n b with him bc he "CHANGED" or to move with someone else n i chose the one who kept fucking me over. Then when im there he messages exs tellin him he loves them n misses them cant wait till i leave for vacation so he can be out till when ever. then messaging girls for pics.
ilovemymarine691 2 months ago
@ilovemymarine691 all bc i txted the guy i could have had saying i missed him.... N thats not EVEN all of it.
Truth to this story.....
Ass holes like this NEVER CHANGE
ilovemymarine691 2 months ago
just to add my douche bag ex laughed at my major and says il get nowhere but my current amazing man always says how smart and intelligent i am and supports me. my douche bag ex also used to disrespect me and treat me like crap but my current even holds me when i cry and wipes my tears like really???...LADIES YOU CAN DO BETTER!trust me!
ivoryqueen100 2 months ago
oh crap i've dated enough douche bags now am with the most amazing man ever who makes me feel like a queen...i thought i'd never find a good man WRONG!!!!!!!YOU CAN DO BETTER!
ivoryqueen100 2 months ago
yes i have left a guy who would yell at me all the time cuz he lived far away from me and he would yell at me for going to school events cuz there r other guys tthere and i have guy friends that he dident on me to hang out with and now i am with a guy who is amazing and people have been jelouse of are relationship and have tryed to sstartt rumers to get up so break up but we r to close and it did nothing <3
jnhardy16 2 months ago in playlist More videos from Jovan14606
Continued... The man I am with now is the one who would come and pick me up from my ex's place when he would lock me in his apartment. He eventually broke my two lower ribs and acted like nothing ever happened to me. After that I got harassed for months. I am very happy now despite his deployment in the next few months
MadHotDancer 2 months ago in playlist Uploaded videos
My ex told me what to wear when to leave what time i had to be back by and made me do his work if i said no he would basically tackle which he called "wrestling" me to the ground. I got tired of it after almost a year of it, and when i said no to something he got to the point of actually hitting me.
MadHotDancer 2 months ago in playlist Uploaded videos
@kymberlymlara i was in about the same kind of situation exept he controled wat i wore that made me over weight and punched me. i even feared bald ppl; wen i see them i freeze up. i just got use to Jovan14606 haha. it got to the point where i hated all men UNTIL i met my bf now he is also becoming a marine and he is the sweetest guy ever. it took me a really long time to trust him i was just so traumatized but he waited. now i am willing to go anywhere with him. sorry had to share with yu hehe
XxMuffinPuffin0227xX 2 months ago
Thank you, thank you, thank you. I lived through a brutal marriage for many years, waiting until it was SAFE to get my kids and me to get out. He would through that "nobody will love you, you will be on welfare, etc. It took many years to overcome all the crap he beat into my head. I am now married to the most wonderful, loving, caring, christian man on the planet. I wish I had heard a message like yours back then.
harringtond63 2 months ago
my boyfriend has like. three other girlfriends. and i was okay with it? but i saw this and it made me laugh[: thank you
AlligaterrX 3 months ago
(continuation):
A YEAR AND A HALF LATER:: i have met someone new, the person I'm currently falling in love with. hes sweet, adorable, kind, a gentlemen, smart, funny, nerdy and worth all my time in the world. i tested our feeling for each other while he was at bootcamp. i waited 3 months for him and never did he leave my mind. we are now in relationship. he's a Marine. so i wait until he can have liberty for me too see him. he's worth the wait . :)))
kymberlymlara 3 months ago
i was in a two year relationship that consisted of ; my first love. him calling me fat or the nickname Tubby. slapped me. was controlling.stalked me. ruined my friendships. always made fun of me for something. criticized everything i wore. made me feel ugly on the outside as well as inside. made it sooo hard to move on when i started to date and he harassed me and this other person. made me cry so many times, where i cried 7 times in one day.
kymberlymlara 3 months ago
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Dude, right on.
thatmustangguy67 3 months ago
I was in a relationship for 3 years, It ended with permit damage to my ribs, legs ending my dancing and gymnastics life. I stayed with him because I felt like I couldn't get out of it. At one point I thought the only way out was suicide. The man I am with now helped me get out of that relationship. He made me feel like I was worth something. I'm lucky I had him to help me. He's been though multiple issues since then with me and he accepts everything and care for me.
Remember you are worth more.
StarFangz 3 months ago
I think your videos are the Best!
17joker1 3 months ago
Dude, you're awesome.
TrueMusicGirl5 3 months ago
Dont give up and settle for some loser
njfhtxf 4 months ago
I was married to a soldier he treated me like shit and always talked down to be a basically treated me exactly like your friend in this video. I left him after four years and started dating this other guy that i thought was great but he ended up being just as bad as my exhusband. I recently found a great guy who loves me for me treats me like a queen and my daughter like his own.I want all girls to know there are great guys out there that will respect you and treat you amazingly.
njfhtxf 4 months ago
I wish I saw this video during my previous relationship.Luckily I'm with someone now who knows just how lucky he's got it. Luckily I'm with someone now who'll never treat me like that other jackass ever again. Keep up the videos :)
kirstenbrks 4 months ago
TO THE WOMEN WHO ARE IN AN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP:
Loving someone is not possible until you love yourself FIRST. In order to be in a healthy relationship, you have to be in a healthy relationship alone. Being happy alone and loving yourself is the only way it will work. And a part of loving yourself, is letting go of what is hurting you for your own good.
Make yourself a priority.
raychelrampage 4 months ago
This video helped me fully get over my last. Thank you so much. I absolutely love you & your videos! The last relationship I was in was unhealthy. I was way to forgiving & kind with all the bullshit & lies. I gave that guy way too many chances. There was something between us, & he respected me. Though I reached breaking point & couldn't continue hurting from his bad habits. I did keep him out of trouble though, & helped him turn around, now he hasn't drunk or partied in 3 months but he lost me.
hannahmichellebrown 4 months ago
Thank you for helping me realize I was in an unhealthy relationship. I just recently moved on after my bf broke up with me a few weeks ago cause he believed his family that cause I was long distance from him that I was probably cheating on him. Though I called him every night and was always there when he needed me the most even at 4am. He told me " You're never gonna find someone like me". Well I realized that I can do better. I getting back out there and staying strong
52BooBleu 4 months ago in playlist Main Episodes
That one dislike must be from a douchebag boyfriend that is mad that you are tipping his girlfriend on to his games :)
mrsvashton 4 months ago 2
EVERY girl needs to see this video.
Vannaiscoolerthanyou 4 months ago 2
Part 10 *Final part*] break down. On May 12th he broke up with me. Via Facebook Relationship status change. He called me that night while I was out with friends. He argued with me until I was physically ill from it. Throwing up, sobbing, gasping, and pleading with him. I have never felt sorry in my life [In both senses of the word] but nothing was changing his mind. He asked me "What did you ever do for me other than screw me over?" I guess he forgot everything I'd done. I didn't. Still can't.
bittengrl 4 months ago
@bittengrl Gurl u need to get over that jackass!! He's not at home or wherever he is cryin over u!! So why waste another tear or emotion crying over his worthless behind?!?! You need to see that all dat stuff u did for him, someone else out there would appreciate that so much more than that a**hole! Don't waste ur time thinking about that idiot cuz it'll keep u in a place of depression and ur worth more than that gurl. Before a man can see ur worth, u have to see how much ur worth first :)
trinifarlyfe 4 months ago
@bittengrl Have you ever heard the phrase, "Keep moving forward?"
UnbeatableAndy 4 months ago
[Part 9] was PISSED. He wrote me two letters on the subject. One of them saying "I forgive you" I wish he hadn't lied. I flew out to his graduation. I was so happy to see him again. Every day on the way to see him I would just get butterflies. he didn't argue with me because he didn't really speak to me at all. When it was time for him to leave again I cried. When I landed back in NC on May 10th my grandmother was in the hospital and he wanted to talk. So much pressure. I was on the verge of a
bittengrl 4 months ago
[Part 8] him posted on everything. BEAST week [timing is everything I guess] a letter brought him bad news. A mutual friend of ours had invited me over. He had offered me alcohol. I refused but he proceeded to bitch until I accepted. I was too fucked up to drive home. So I stayed there. I slept in his bed. Let me make something very clear : NOTHING HAPPENED. I slept in his bed and he woke me up once which pissed me off so I dug my nails deep in to his back and left welts across it. My Airman
bittengrl 4 months ago
[Part 7] cry his mother and father jumped to my immediate defense which only served to get me bitched at even more when they went to sleep. But I loved him, So I took the harsh words and the tears and did everything in my power to make him happy again. when he left for BMT I cried. I have never cried like that in my life. It was so hard for him to be so far away. I missed him so much. I wrote him 52 letters ranging from1-5 pages each. I told him everything that was going on in my life. I kept
bittengrl 4 months ago
[Part 6] just sat in the hotel room floor and sobbed my eyes out for three hours while he was sleeping. Then I crawled into his arms to sleep and he woke up and said "Hell yes I love you" and I started crying again and he got instantly pissed that I had been crying and hadn't talked to him about it. And then more pissed when I tried to talk to him about it then to calm him down. As if nothing I did was right. That was my first visit. the second one we stayed with his parents and when he made me
bittengrl 4 months ago
[Part 5] So he forgave me that one thing that I can't even remember doing and then I proceeded to forgive him his faults on a day to day basis. Especially the lying. He was a compulsive liar and it was so hard for me to take sometimes but I didn't want to lose him. So he leaves my home state to go back to his a few weeks before he ships out. And I came to visit his twice. Once for his birthday and once the week before he shipped to BMT. He fought with me the entire time both visits. One night I
bittengrl 4 months ago
[Part 4] him to come hang out with me. But he said no. So I hung out with the guys at my house and their friends and I ended up getting black out drunk. I to this day don't remember a thing that happened that night but I am TOLD that I did some stupid shit. Now I was hesitant to tell him that at first because I didn't rememeber it. But I ended up telling him. And he was mad but he forgave me.
That was prior to him moving in and all the drama.
bittengrl 4 months ago
[Part 3] want to see that so I just ignored it because I loved him and i was going to fight to keep him. So through all the fights. All the bullshit with his ex girlfriend. All the drama, everything I continuously forgave him. Now I am not saying I am perfect, and that as it turns out is the problem, I have issues. don't we all? Well mine are with Alcohol. I can't handle it well and I don't know my limits so I black out. A few days after this guy and I got together was new years and I begged
bittengrl 4 months ago
[Part two] Point this out he would make it a joke of some kind or other. And he also never made me feel worth much. H ewould tell stories about all these girls in his past and how they were so "gorgeous" and yet he would get so pissed at me if I would show signs of low self esteem due to that, as if that wasn't a normal reaction, but he never made me feel beautiful at all. From an outside perspective it was said he treated me like a friend rather than a girlfriend. But I couldn't or maybe didn't
bittengrl 4 months ago
Okay so this is my story, [Part one]
I was with this guy and he was going into the Air Force. He moved in with me. I cooked for him. [And every one else in the house] He helped me clean. I bought him Cigarettes. I bought him food. I did everything in my power for him. And there were days when he treated me decently and he did boyfriend like things. But most days he just wanted to hang out with the other guys in the house and made me feel like I was kinda an intrusion. And when I would...
bittengrl 4 months ago
Can I just have you? Fucking please?
bittengrl 4 months ago
I absolutely love you. Hahaha. I agree with everything you post and you make me laugh.
divaisbored 4 months ago
This is great! i was in a relationship like this for 5 years! i had chance after chance to get out but i kept going back. i dont know why. He would always tell me "no one will love you the way i do" and "you're too fat...you need to lose some weight" at that time...i weighed 130lbs!!!! i gained weight because i was eating to "make myself feel better". but he would also hit me, and bruise me up. i never told anyone. but im out now..and i couldn't be happier! i haven't found a new guy yet..
renerhodes51 4 months ago
but i know he's out there! im just taking it day by day....and hanging out with my friends...which he prevented me from doing, and i lost ALL of them but one. she stuck with me through everything and we're best friends now! i couldn't have left him without her by my side!! but he told me i was stupid, i was a bitch, that i didn't appriciate him...it was horrible! but he's out of my life now and it's sooo much better! :) too all the girls out there that think you can't get out of an unhealthy...
renerhodes51 4 months ago
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renerhodes51 4 months ago
relationship...you're wrong. you can! and you need to! if not it will ONLY get better!! thank you so much for posting this video!!! i really needed to see this!!! :)
renerhodes51 4 months ago
@renerhodes51 it will only get WORSE!!! not better!
renerhodes51 4 months ago
I don't feel comfortable talking about my previous relationships but, I was in one like that, and I am so glad i got out. I'm still affected by the way he treated me even though i'm in a much better relationship. I am so grateful that you made this video. It makes me feel less alone and like I did the right thing. After I left i felt like I had betrayed him, i left him when he needed me. But now, i feel like I did the right thing. Thank you so much.
KawaiiDustBunny 4 months ago
i can totally relate to this cuz i just found out 2 weeks ago that my bf whos in the military was cheatin by doing "webcam" with tons of girls..i dont blame the military cuz the army didnt do this apparantly it had been happening a year before he even joined and i had no idea i feel like such an idiot but hey shit happens and i ended it cuz i deserve better than that and until i blocked him on fb he was askin me who this was and what that status was about....but iv realized i can do better
kissler1 4 months ago
I absolutely Love this video. It's really made me think about my current relationship, and how I think it is going. You are amazing Lexi! Thanks for posting such helpful videos!!<3
megabooalix 4 months ago
LEAVE THE DOUCHE BAG! I DID!! AND I AM IN LOVE WITH AN AMAZING MAN NOW!!!
SoildersSweetheart12 4 months ago
I honestly love this video! I was in a verbally, emotionally, mentally abusive relationship (he almost got to the point of physical abuse.) Breaking up with him was the single best decision I've ever made. I was dumb enough to buy all of his mistreatment until I woke up. Now I'm with the love of my life. He is everything I idealize in a partner and he is everything my ex wasn't. It's exactly like you said, I couldn't give my current man a chance without leaving my first.
binny922 4 months ago
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Im SO G L A D I Left tht douchebagg!!!! and he downgraded aswell lmaaooo (saw yur vud on tht) too funny !!!!
Ill Find Better , But Im Not Single Im Currently In A Relationship With God For The Rest Of My Life ;)
tinyxe14 4 months ago
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tinyxe14 4 months ago
dude you might as well be twins...some very true words!
VinniToosmooth 4 months ago
I honestly don't know where life would take me if I hadn't met him but I am very thankful I have him in my life. There are parts of my story that I did leave out but those parts are just too painful for me & I just don't want to remember them. But ladies, if you are in a relationship that a man treats you like absolute shit, get out of it.(Men, this goes for you too) Sorry for all of the posts I just had to get my story out there. If anyone needs advice or anything, I'm here!
AliciaMarieBaby 4 months ago
He tells me everyday that I am beautiful. He treats me how I am supposed to be treated, equal. In fact we just bought our own house together. We moved in on the 5th. =) Not once has he even thought of laying a hand on me. Not once has he called me ugly, fat, worthless or anything like that. He tells me everyday that he loves me. (cont)
AliciaMarieBaby 4 months ago
and he'd grab a pillow and shove it over my face to try to suffocate me. Everyday he would tell me I was ugly, fat, and worthless. And that I would never find a man to love me. That no one could love anyone like me...But now, 4 years down the road I have been with the best man I have met in my entire life. I've been with him for two years since August 30th of this year. (cont)
AliciaMarieBaby 4 months ago
If I was caught talking to any of my old guy friends, I'd get hit. Day by day this went on for a year. I'd have bruises up and down my legs, which I'd always have covered up because I was too scared if anyone found out they'd call the cops or something. I didn't want that to happen. He had me terrified. He'd always use the threats like "If you tell, I'll kill you or your family." There were even a couple of times that he really made me mad and I threatened to tell (cont)
AliciaMarieBaby 4 months ago
About a year into the relationship it got to the point if he caught me even talking to one of my old friends he didnt like when we got home from school he would hit me continuosly. He didn't start hitting me until about a year into the relationship. That's when he really started showing his true colors. I wasn't allowed to call anyone. Not even my own sister. He'd take my cellphone away from me and hide it so I couldn't use it. (continued)
AliciaMarieBaby 4 months ago
Heres my story... Back in 2006 I ended up getting with this guy, Shane. He was really sweet & kind at first. We dated for about 4 months & then I ended up moving in with him & his grandmother Everything was fine until about 2 months after me moving in. He started getting really jealous of me hanging out with all of my girl friends and even some of my family. I wasn't even allowed to talk to them while we were around eachother at school. (I was about 15/16 at the time) (continued)
AliciaMarieBaby 4 months ago
but I guess that's because all, and I mean ALL of her previous boyfriends cheated on her. idk what to do...and she did say, "well, until I found someone better, I'll still stick with this guy." and I dont think that's going so well. what ever happens, I hope someone finds her.
heartfulloftattoos 5 months ago
I have a friend who sticks with this dick who completely ignores her, yells at her. and I keep telling her to break up with this guy, because he obviously doesn't give a shit about her. makes her cry because he never replies her text and doesn't apologize. seriously, I told her "do you think that's love? do you even know what love is?" and her reply was, "yeah, he's faithful. he doesn't cheat on me." which is true, tho that hasn't been proven wrong (YET) BUT HE'S A TOTAL ASSHOLEEE!!!
heartfulloftattoos 5 months ago
you are a mad mad genius. seriously. talking about you, I feel like my dad talking about some politician he likes. and he doesn't even like politics. and I'm not even into relationships much myself. if anyone wants to be my boyfriend, he better prove himself worthy. tho I like some guys, come on, can't help it if they're born with that face, but I'm not gonna go and idk, "do whatever it takes to make them mine" the pathetic lame desperate kind of way. if it'll happen, it'll happen.
heartfulloftattoos 5 months ago
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heartfulloftattoos 5 months ago
every girl falls for a douche at least once in their life.. but not all stay with them. you're so right, its easy for the douche to stay in the relationship and he makes us girls feel dependent on them..
vanessaclavijo 5 months ago
Your videos are getting better and better. I am a little older than you and sometimes I feel a little silly going to your videos for inspiration because you are so young. But that's ignorant of me, because every time I get some type of insight that opens my eyes or puts words to my emotions. You need to be a life coach, minister, etc.. Real Talk!
andreagritala 5 months ago
i remember i was in a relationship where the guy i dated wanted to control everything i did. he hated when i did something and didn't tell him i did it. we had gotten engaged and that is when it got bad. we would yell at eachother all the time. but i ended up taking the advice from someone at my church and tell the mother fucker to bounce. now i'm engaged to a sweet guy and we are working towards a better future together. but he wants to kill my ex for things my ex said to me lol :)
midnightroza 5 months ago
My trust is still screwed up because of my ex, but I'm rebuilding it because I need to learn not to freak out or leave my newfound guy over small situations. Thanks so much for your insight Jovan!
TeaLavender 5 months ago
You are a freakin' PHILOSOPHER!! My ex boyfriend treated me like crap, had anger issues and always took his anger out on me, made me feel really insecure about myself, always checked out other girls every second whenever we were together, and he didn't even understand me. I stuck with him for 8 months, we broke up, I found someone MUCH MORE understanding and sweeter. My ex came back to me telling me that he could make me happier than anyone else could and that he loved me but I did NOT buy it!!!
TeaLavender 5 months ago
i can relate to this.. but i was a douchebag too in different ways to my old boyfriend...
emaoneluv 5 months ago
You are such an inspiration. Thank you so much for your strong words and kind heart. I share these videos with everyone I know. Everyone needs a friend like you. These videos helped me with my relationship problems so thank you but mostly thank you for being bold enough to say the things others are afraid to.
roseaholic09 5 months ago
EVERYONE needs to see this...this is why I love you Lexy!!!
LibelleRotts 5 months ago
i love u
guachilonga237 5 months ago
The first douchebag and I were together for 5 months and then I found out that he was using me to cheat on his girlfriend of a year and a half...she stayed with him. The second douchebag is the biggest douchebag in the Navy. He told me that my only purpose is to take of my clothes and do what makes him happy and to have sex with him. I left him. I have a deployed soldier. He's 7,000 miles away and I've never been treated better or been happier. I can't wait until he comes home. :)
sydneyleigh93 5 months ago in playlist Videos from Jovan14606
Omg it reminds me of my ex I put up with him for 5 yrs while he beat me cuz we had to daughters & when I left him he went crazy then I dated another douche bag I dated him for 2 yrs& when I got pregnant with my twins he cheated on me& said no one would love me. I worked 2 jobs& went to school& he sat on my couch& did nothing! I went shopping on day meet a old friend from high school& I told him about my problem they begged me to leave but I was dumb & scared I didn't want to b alone. But then I
mrsvanessa86 5 months ago
This video really makes me think about my relationship.. I think for a lot of girls, we don't realize we're in this kind of relationship, nor do we want to. It's pretty hard for me to figure out just super hard for me to really take action for myself since my relationship hasn't been like this (video) for a long time, just worried if it ever comes back again if I could finally do what is right for me.
clee646 5 months ago
I'm one of the luckiest that got of a bad relationship. The guy used to hit me and use me for sex. I knew I was tired of it but I wouldn't leave. Then I might the guy that I'm with now. If it wasn't for him I wouldn't have left that other guy. Trust me ladies it is not worth the brutalities and abuse. If you can get out of a situation like this then do it cause take it from someone who's been there. It's not worth going through all that cause there's always someone that will treat you so much b
lil27pooh 5 months ago
This video made me think about my ex and I can believe how right you are with everything. It actually hit me like a ton of bricks how much he was like this. It made me realize that I CAN do so much better than him.
iheartdw5 5 months ago
with them but i was faithful the whole time...just remember its a two way street you both have to work at it.
this video made me feel like hey maybe im not selfish...or crazy lol thank you :)
lilcurls1 5 months ago
sounds like an airman i know..i waited for him for 4 months and was with him for 4 months before he left for training one day he txts me and tells me he doesnt have time for me anymore i felt like i was being selfish for asking for a phone call every once and awhile while hes at tech school. but he now i realize he wasnt treating me right anyway he stopped trying and its probably best this way. some men in the going into the military are afraid that their gf or wife wont treat them right or stay
lilcurls1 5 months ago
I dated my ex for around ten months. It got to the point where he stopped being sweet and just stopped caring. I kept trying, but our relationship was dead. I got tired of not feeling like I mattered, and needless to say, we're not together anymore. I now have a boyfriend who is in the USAF that I never get to see that treats me better than my ex did.
Allisonluvsyou45 5 months ago
My ex treated me like SHIT all the time. I stayed with him for 3 years. He told me I couldn't do better, that no one would love me like he did. He did anything to make me stay. Finally I hated him enough to end it. It took him raping me for me to leave. But I did, and he did stalk me and still try to act like we were together telling ppl we would go to their party, or dinners. I threaten a restraining order and he finally left me alone after my new boyfriend (now husband) stood up for me.
RMDsWifey 5 months ago
im glad you always say the right things about these kind of situations, but for some girls all the advice in the world wont be taken, its that inner strength that pulls them out from this dead relationships.& besides, these girls at some point have them selves to blame for turning into someone they dont want, get out the relationship before its to late. & for those good guys, at some point turn into jerks could of no chances.
EstrellaStar101 5 months ago
Thank you very much for this. There is something very powerful about a man saying this. A lot of women hear these things from their girlfriends but make excuses for their "men."
zerogeisha 5 months ago
I left a douchebag boyfriend. I thought he was perfect, but the farther the relationship got the more he showed how mean he was. He would tell me my major was stupid, my fears of him hanging out with a bunch of flirty girls was stupid, "wouldn't it be cool if you were a Double D instead of a B cup?" or "wouldn't you look sexy if you had red hair." Now I have a man who tells me every day I'm beautiful just the way I am and to follow my dreams. :]
RosetteGunslinger 5 months ago
Idk if my boyfriend is one of these d-bags or not. He kinda ignores me and ditches me for his friends sometimes, but it's not like he does anything to intentionally hurt me. Once I tried to break up with him and he point blank told me no, I can't break up with him. Help? Advice? Tell me what's going on in my life!
IAmARandomPerson466 5 months ago
u are awesome u aways make me think twice about things :)
MrWilsonres5 5 months ago
"you won't find anyone better"- I DID. "your not goin to find anyone that love you like i do'- I DIDN'T, HE LOVES ME BETTER THAN YOU DID. Honestly im glad that my ex left me cause it made me realize what i deserve and how big of an a**hole he is. And now im in a relationship with this wonderful& adorable guy. & my ex is sitting on the sideline jealous of what he used to have.
SimiplyLiz 5 months ago
*clap clap clap* You tell 'em! Nobody should have to live with that CRAP!
7KnotHeads 5 months ago
I was a douche bag for a year and a half who was in the air force, he told me everyday that I was a piece of shit, a cunt, a bitch everything in the book. and I always thought I needed him in my life just cause I was scared of him. Every time we fought he always told me to shut up and let him talk, and he never let me talk about my feelings. I couldn't see or talk to any of my friends and I developed an eating disorder. I'm just so happy hes out of my life now, it wasn't worth my time anymore.
MISZJELLO1 5 months ago
classic example of how my husband, well soon to be ex, treated me !
ohitssteelers 5 months ago
i was in a relationship where he told me you cant find better and no one will love you WELLLL guess what now im with a MAN who says i know you could find better but the fact you dont is why i love you
klee52724 5 months ago
My ex-fiance cheated on me with another guy. He told me I wasn't good enough, and thats why he did it. Well, bullshit on him. He took my virginity, my faith, my friends and my family away from me. Over a year later, I am living with the most amazing man in the world who doesn't hit me, doesn't fight with me, and doesn't cheat on me. I had to go through all of this pain to find out what a healthy relationship is.
ladymorose1990 5 months ago
I used to go out with a guy who always made me feel like I was never enough, and that everything I did was wrong and it was always my fault. Now, my boyfriend treats me like a lady, to the point in which i feel its almost too much. As a matter of fact, today I woke up and received a bouquet of calla lilies from him, something i know my ex would've never ever done. So ladies, there is hope!
flufinsky 5 months ago
But then again, he has never told me that I couldn't find someone better than him, and he actually has told me that he couldn't find anyone better than ME. You're going to have conflicts, because you are NOT the same people (you have your own ideas and so does he) but recognize WHAT is done and said to you. Notice if it is negative to you, or just to the situation. If it is ATTACKING you while you argue, and not the SITUATION (and it happens multiple times), then chances are, he is a jackwagon.
mindsfrozen 5 months ago
I actually never gave my bf's second chances (after a break up) until recent years, so I'm a bit backwards, I guess. I always thought "There's a reason I'm not with that person anymore" While, yes, this is true, I've also found extenuating circumstances in my previous two relationships in which it wasn't fair to say that to myself. I love the man I'm with right now, and while, yes, he does have problems, I know I have my own and and have done some not so nice things too, and he's forgiven me.
mindsfrozen 5 months ago
Hehe I've only ever had one boyfriend who I eventually married <33 He's an amazing guy who loves me and takes care of me, and he was like that all through our dating relationship, engagement, and our first year of marriage. He has issues expressing himself sometimes, and can be a bit stubborn over silly things, but when it comes down to it, he'd crawl through hell and back for me.
DestinyMarkov 5 months ago
Seriously you seem like such an amazing person. Your so young but know so much! I wish I had a friend like you.
nggirl 5 months ago
Love your vid. Im curious have you ever made a mistake?
Msyummerable 5 months ago
bro, later on in youtube ur gunna be famouse ... or atleast u better be cuz ur vids are fuckin awwesome :]
goddog1023 5 months ago 2
omg..I just opened my eyes
LOTRfreak13 5 months ago
My ex fiance cheated on me and got someone else pregnant around the same time he got me pregnant. He denied his other child and doesn't even bother seeing ours. He would believe everyone else over me and when I would confront him about his cheating he would hit me. I put up with it because he would cry and begged for me to stay. I finally had enough when I was 8 months pregnant and he beat me so bad I was scared for my life and my child. I called the cops on him and he was arrested.
RubyD03 5 months ago
@RubyD03 *hugs*
ladymorose1990 5 months ago
"you need to learn to let go" i needed to hear that. thank you.
omgitsvictoriaxD 5 months ago
you're exactly 100% right on the dot.
I stayed in a dead relationship for 6 years. The guy I was with was an ok person, but a terrible boyfriend. We were on the verge of getting married, I was actually about to the guy who made me feel like shit on a daily basis. But then I met my current (long distance) boyfriend. I broke up with the douchebag when I realized that I'd rather be with the guy 700 miles away who made me feel amazing than stay with the guy in my town who made me feel terrible.
darknight0dc 5 months ago
6 months ago I was in a bad relationship.He made fun of my weight said no guy would ever want me and put down my dreams.One night my best friend cried on the phone telling me how much it hurt him that I was with this douchebag.He made me realize I could do SO much better.I left my ex and blocked him from everything.Now Im dating an amazing guy that makes me feel better in one day than my ex did our whole relationship.There are so many GREAT guys out there for you girls.Just let the douchebag go.
KBreanne2011 5 months ago
damn dude. this was awesome, but I get the sense that you've been put through all this stuff before. Really good advice.
Mantzerbation69 5 months ago
Two douchebags have told me that no one would ever love me as much as they do and I left them. I have yet to find a better guy but I've found better...I've found God.
CherriezSweet 5 months ago 17
Thank you for putting these videos up. Its crazy how well you understand women. I can relate to her in some ways, although I haven't found the good guy yet. Thought of a song that would go good with this video, it's called "had enough" by breaking Benjamin. Might be kinda intense but the lyrics are good.
mmd05001 5 months ago 2
POWERFUL WORDS!
SillyMe4You 5 months ago
my sons sperm doner aka dad cheated on me and mentally abused me hungout with this female my entire pregnancy . 3 months after my son passed away i threw his dumb ass to the trash . and now happy with my new man who is truely amazing . Girls dont stay with a dumb ass guy who treats you like a piece of trash not cool at all and not respecting yourself at all !
082010jessica 5 months ago
Elmo...
swordjojo 5 months ago
U mind if I post this on my facebook page because I know people who need to hear this..............and I'm about to reveal my secret identity *dramatic music*
sigmabeta4life 5 months ago
@sigmabeta4life
Share away, I want it to help people :)
Jovan14606 5 months ago 2
I love this! I posted this on facebook in hopes some of my best friends see.
I have dated a few douches myself. One of my ex's did something extremely bad and then skipped states the next day. Another ex decided he wanted to hit me, and I took it and took it until he did it in front of a room mate. Another one cheated on me... There are a lot of these guys out there. Sometimes its hard to get away from these types of people, but there ARE good guys out there. :)
SandraCheree 5 months ago
@SandraCheree
I love the end of that comment =] You listed so many horrible experiences for you, but you still know that there are good guys out there :)
Jovan14606 5 months ago 2
You are so right, my hubby and i were together in hs, when he left for the navyi couldnt do it and decided to date someone else, after a year of being verbally abused, kicked out 3 times and pushed down a few times i finally decided i was done and went back to the one that really cared and always treated me like his princess i am so happy now and the douchebag made me appreciate what i know have.
rebeccavliet2011 5 months ago
" i like taking it up the butt.. anybody else?" lmfao
kbsdotcom 5 months ago
I can relate to this and I did leave, recently actually. So far I'm doing a good job because there have been previous times where I left and I caved. It takes time to get over someone you've been with for so long...but at least I'm not looking back anymore. MOVING FORWARD!! :)
Tay0307 5 months ago 10
Yo Alexis u have no idea how much I can relate to this. I'm currently a reallly close friend with this girl only because her ex was an asshole and shes scared to give me the chance.
sigmabeta4life 5 months ago
@sigmabeta4life
You see! Thats the second chance stuff. A-hole used them all up and now the good guys get no love!
Jovan14606 5 months ago 5
@sigmabeta4life dont give up, just show her how special she is and treat her like the princess you know she is and she'll one day wake up and realize what she has in you. Just stick by her side. But at the same time don't wait forever.. if she doesnt wake up and realize it, u need to find someone who will appreciate you and will love you as much as you do them. But for her sake i hope she realizes it before its to late.
rebeccavliet2011 5 months ago
@rebeccavliet2011 I know, and I'm not giving up
sigmabeta4life 5 months ago