I was bread for death and destruction. I grew up with violence all around me.There was never peace in my life.Pain and suffering always came for me.
Violent behavior is very difficult to suppress! I am that jock, that street fighting maniac! I have over 20 stitches of my face, broke my nose 2 times, busted lip 4 times, many black eyes, nose bleeds.
I am glad I am no father, i would be a terrible one for sure!
I was scarcity's omega child. I had the killer body, sought intellectual engagement (how I found FDR). Thanks to you I'm not a cop. Thanks to misdirected therapy and meds, I lost my mind and body. Am I bred for war? Yes; I chose non-violence.
Picking up the pieces is hard, frustrating, and almost fruitless. I desire vengeance upon my destructors. I desire that which I was denied: recovery, love, fitness, my mind, independence.
The golden rule applies. Time is finite. I do not forgive.
I disagree w/ur outlook 2 a point I had no father & a absent mother!i was highly abused & neglected....i am amost thankful for this because I am stronger because of this! Yet it made me be opposite when it coms 2 family I am a faithful & true I have 2 daughters which I devote as much time as possible 2 thm yet.......when it comes 2 every other aspect I am the alpha male I dominate over most,not necessarily in a bully sort of way now that im older I rule with what knowledge & values ive learned
My dad was the epitome for this; While my mom was pregnant he denied fatherhood and ran away. He eventually married my mom but was never there, evenetually divorced and then pretty much disappeared. I was antithetically never into muscles (wrestling or w/e), toughness of any kind (thug life or w/e), cars (I don't know any cars still), and I held logic, philosophy, and math as the most important things in life from like 10 years old without ever knowing an adult who remotely did.
Interesting. I always feel like im built for war. But i had my father around. However i went to violent schools and lived in a violent town. However before i was even exposed to these schools or the people of my town i loved Monkey(martial art show), and i loved that movie big trouble in little china.
This hypothesis is weak. Living in Denmark, with the 5th highest divorce rate in the world, might is not right. Quite the contrary. Read Roosh's Bang series on Denmark and none of PUA tactics that work on American women seem to apply to Danish women. Every single Dane I know comes from a divorced family, none are aggressive or even body build.
Wow, seems to me like a gross generalization based on observations of a degenerated modern culture, superimposed on on an ultimately complex, variable ridden issue. Historically the data available for such conjecture is so limited, its understandable that such conclusions would be made. However, to assume there isn't so much more to it than that is silly...not to mention ethnocentric. Especially in a time where cultural, and racial ignorance is somthing that effects us all as a species.
Have you observed that in humans, stef ? I am asking an honest question. Because I will definitely start to observe what you said, in people, and look at their childhood. I want to know if this is really true. Thank you for the video, very clear and great info.
This is part of the weakness of libertarians, most of us are so war/fighting averse that we do not "attack" our enemies and their ideas, even those we see clearly as horribly evil. Look at Ron Paul in the debates, he should have such intelligent, virtuous, righteous, justified, holy, sacred rage that his gaze alone would melt the other contenders.
So of course he went off and married a woman 20 years younger than him, now lives off his lifes investments and has routinely told me I'm not getting a penny of his money. Now, I'm not a greedy person after his fathers cash like the menendez kids or anything, but to hear that your own flesh and blood refuses to support, educate, or gift you in any way brews a special kind of distrust and hatred for most other men in the world. I didn't inherit his womanizing feature though thankfully.
I actually tried having a conversation along these lines with my father a few weeks ago. He worked basically 90% of my childhood and my parents divorced when I was 11, so I really didn't get a chance to know the guy. He is basically of the mindset that his responsibility to me was to provide financial support for medical bills and see me maybe once a month if we were lucky. Needless to say without a male to learn from I grew up lacking many of the basic skills a young man should have...
@shamz0rz I had a very similar experience with my father. Seeing me once a month was only during a good year. Really when I was 16 he pretty much stopped seeing me (and supporting me). About 10 years later, however, he was very old and not able to walk really. So he decided he wanted me to come see him. I went to see him and he was full of regret and crying. He then wanted to support me to go back to school, I have yet to take him up on his offer.
@SlaveryEvolves You should go for it man, I know it's hard to take help from people who have done you wrong in the past, but at least he's trying to make up for some of his shortcomings. Hope you give it a shot man.
I don't thin much has changed since Bogart days. Hot girls with hour glass figures/big chests, along with brick jawed, tall dark and handsome men have always dominated cinema
There are still starring roles for average looking men like Morgan Freeman because the industry is still male dominated.
Nerdy guys have always had cliched roles, with average looking women playing second fiddle, however, there's more opportunity today for these types to play bigger parts because there's so much choice.
Nice and interesting! I was grown up for peace world, though I'm preparing for a crazy world. But if people come to fuq up with me, I'll kill them, as simple as that. Peaceful and kind until serious stuff is going on.
And what sort of legal system incentivizes women to rake men over the coals for half their assets and get a check for a child until the kid is 18, make absurd false domestic violence accusations, etc? A toxic feminist one.
Fatherlessness is inevitable with this screwed up marriage and family system we have.
Stef, you begin by discussing the two reproductive strategies for the human male. This is your first false dichotomy. Significant numbers of men fall into both categories, as well as outside either of them completely. You begin with the false premise that pair-bonding is natural for humans (an idea pushed by social philosophers and religious nutjobs for centuries, often resulting in the demise of those who didn't find it natural at all). Examine your biases.
Choices have been restricted and a 'chimp' culture superimposed - and this absolutely coincides with agriculture ->property ->the shift to angry male, controlling deities -> and the state
i kinda agree with both of you. Evolution would favour those who have the capacity for both mating strategies (short term/long term). The most effective way to pass on your genes would be to use a mixture of both strategies, adopting to the environment. I think Stefan overpsychologises in this one, yet there might be something to it : the gerenal level of fear and insecurity regarding future and resources, is enhaced by statism and that could therefore lead to an A-male mentality
Mira Kirshenbaum has an international reputation as a therapist for individuals, couples, and families. She is co-founder and clinical director of The Chestnut Hill Institute. In her book, "Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay," she described Stef very well.
He is an abusive person. He seems nice enough, but that's just a facade. He is a Power Person, and all he cares about is power. His primary tactic is "Yes Man," where he agrees with everything you say, but goes on to do what he will anyway.
@LeksServices - It's important to understand how this works. It's not just an occasional thing. He will tell you "I will consider it," or "I agree with you." Then he will go ahead and defy what he said and do what he wants anyway.
I would not be surprised if he does this to his family all the time. "We need groceries." "I will get us some." {Comes back later without groceries.} "Where are the groceries?" "Oh ... something came up / I forgot / some other excuse."
I don't suppose getting exercise has more to do with me wanting to live longer and not require nurses to carry my urine away? True freedom is independence, and sorry, but this requires exercise.
i was born into a horrible marriage. i'm told it was abusive, and my mother ran away with my little brother and I when I was 4. I never knew my father, but I grew up to be an extremely sensitive (most times too sensitive) person who is very unlike the war bred asshole you describe to be the result of fatherlessness. Any ideas as to why the conditions of my upbringing suggest that I should be bred for war, but i find myself moreso lost than on any distinguishable side of the playing field?
@wunncoolguy The explanation he gave is a rough statistical overview of the whole population - there will always be individual exceptions to the average as environment isnt the ONLY factor - genetics play a role too - so for example most of your grandfathers and great grandfathers may have been "nice guys" and so your genetic makeup may be strongly predisposed that way - so much so that the "warlike" environment as Stef calls it - ie. asshole AWOL father - wasnt enough to make you so too.
@BiggerThinking1 'rough statistical overview' = 'biased bullshit' in this case.
in broad terms, the more the parents (single or paired, male or female) are able to think for themselves, speak for peace in the home, communicate lovingly and attentively - and model self-respecting behavior - the better off the children are. PERIOD.
@BiggerThinking1 I understand that environment is not the only factor, but I'm not sure how much of a role genetics play in determining whether or not someone is sensitive or aggressive, dominant or submissive. I don't know much about genetics so if you could elaborate on how that is possible that'd be great. My mother is a very confusing subject as well, for half my childhood (up until age 11) she was "supermom", did anything and everything to make me happy and successful. The latter half -
@BiggerThinking1 - she was severely depressed, agoraphobic, unemployed, suicidal, abusive, the list goes on and on. it goes without saying that I have had a very unstable upbringing (i am now 19). I live by myself, am severely depressed, insecure, SUBMISSIVE. Just trying to make sense of what has led me to be the way that I am. I definitely lacked male role models, but had a great mother for most of my younger years. Thoughts?
@wunncoolguy His Judeo-Christian bias is showing that's all. Monogamous pair-bonding is just as unnatural (and statistically no better) than single parenthood for humans. I raised a son who is amazing - non-violent, sensitive and kind. He had good male role models (I'd have no other kind around) and I trust that he will do well in life. Most of human history had us living like Bonobos - ideally we'd still live in close-knit social groups - and genetic paternity would be unimportant.
@immayhem I would agree that single parenthood can produce brilliant people and that if one has a pair bonded upbringing that it is definitely no guarantee that they will be raised properly. I had absolutely no male role models growing up; that can account for my over sensitivity, and lacking masculinity. I definitely wish that I had a father growing up, I feel as though I have missed out on so much crucial experiences that are irreplaceable.
@wunncoolguy I personally had neither ... My life story reads like a freaking Dickens novel. I learned a valuable lesson over the years (the thing that actually made me a great parent): YOU get to create your own life. :) We may be products of our environment, but the environment is always shifting. You've missed nothing that you can't provide yourself with now. Be your own dad. Find a male-bonding group that values sensitivity and awareness, as well as strength. They're out there.
@wunncoolguy - I know the feeling. I hate war, and I grew up with an activist mother. She was very very outspoken. I also grew up in an abusive community, where everyone felt you had to be THIS way and do THAT thing. Deviation from the norm was completely unacceptable. And yes, this community was in the United States.
I treat my partner as well as I am able to, and she does wonders for me. I'm very happy to have her and we live a very settled life.
@wunncoolguy - Stef's wrong about lots of things. But he keeps preaching the "truth" of his wrong ideas even long after he has been shown they're wrong. This makes him no better than Kirk Cameron or Ray Comfort.
If I could get Matt Dillahunty and other famous atheists to pay attention to this guy, he'd be denounced by some of the most visible people in our community and would be mentioned right along side Kent Hovind.
@wunncoolguy - Pat Condell has greater legitimacy in his opinions than Stef does. Stef's outright lying, but Pat is at least saying what he truly believes, and he's willing to admit when he's wrong - provided you can show him he's wrong. Stef behaves more like a Young Earth Creationist than a true skeptic. Show him evidence that proves him wrong, he says, "I will consider it," then goes on preaching his bullshit.
@LeksServices Get a boner for him or something???? You went on a multiple comment troll here. Look you don't agree with the guy. Ok. So why the aggressive stance against him? Does he hurt you? Or others you care about?
@LeksServices I don't know any of the names that you mentioned in your comments, or what their relevance is. I also don't know much about Stef, my friend just showed me this video after a discussion we had about fatherlessness and the effects it has on growing up. You mentioned you had an activist mother; did you grow up to be similar to her in that regard?
@LeksServices My mother raised me roman-catholic, and in respect to her awareness of the world around her, she was extremely ignorant. Her main source of information was oprah, and other toxic talk shows that serve only to pervert the minds of parents and anyone else stupid enough to watch them. I eventually grew to reject religion because of her abuse of it. I'm very aware of the state of the world, and enjoy talking about metaphilosophy and things like that.
@wunncoolguy There are many factors contributing to a person's psychological makeup. Like Bigger said, you may be genetically predisposed. Or perhaps you had other factors, like the intelligence it takes to choose peace.
@rockoutmichigan it definitely is a very convoluted topic. i don't know much about genetic predisposition, but intelligence and comprehension definitely has allowed me to make important decisions for myself, such as peace over war.
I really appreciate these insights. I am happier now to understand how differently I am "wired up", from your opinion, for what I found/find attractive. I am different than other family members.. my mother when through many marriages.. her father died about 9 months after I was born, my father's father, died 9 months before I was born. I think deeply now, they were both thrown into emotional turmoil resulting in my life..I am the legacy of their grief & yet I'm a pair bond type; a happy mother.
I think the difference is that its not about war, but the grief that made me immune to tacky type.. I guess what I'm trying to say is my friends always thought I sought up "nerd" types.. when I see so much beauty in all types. I recall watching "My Favourite Martian" as a child & finding the face of Ray Walston very attractive...just my first absolute "crush" but not really.. sort of just this easy going naive smart type: the unusual, definitely possibly perceived as weak, but brave in spite.
My parents divorced when I was two and I had violent step fathers since then until I ran away. I now box. I love it. I often wonder why everyone doesn't box. Is my brain really changed? I think it may be. But I am a good father to my two children. I respect them. I realize that if I want them to be happy I can't hit them, and I don't. I am still learning. Thanks mostly to a review of my past that only happened because of you Stef. I really love you. Thanks as always. I donate!
@sthnwatch Thanks for the sentiment, but in my review I realized that god was a big part of the problem. Turns out he doesn't exist. And what's even greater was the realization that there is no Original Sin. It's all a fairytale. We can love ourselves! It's OK! I no longer apologize for being alive. Sometimes I catch myself in the middle of apologizing and then remember that part of my life is over. I'm a free man now, and I can masturbate with a free conscience. lol.
this was an amazing video, so much revelations for me. even though i don't get along w/ my parents, they do argue/my personality is very different then theirs, i am lucky that they pair bounded and i'm pro-cooperation.
thank you stef. this actually helped me understand why i got into karate when i was about 6, i really wanted to go to it. it was as a result of my parent;s divorce, and my dad's absence.
@stefbot what do you think about adding some spice to the sales pitch for the long term strategy? Maybe an alternative to nerds vs jocks - healthy confident, sometimes dominant masculinity that is guided by long term planning. Make it look good. You did some of this in your series on masculinity but it seems like you've not been promoting the need for nerds to be more in tune with their aggressive sides. From memory you said that the nerd strategy also comes from pretty but insecure single moms?
I agree with a lot of this. It kind of sounded like you were saying "If you play sports or like fast cars you must not of had a dad." I don't think that's what you meant but that's how it sounded to me. I think there were some generalizations made. I get a lot out of most of your videos though. I appreciate the hard work.
Maybe I'm not paying enough attention or misinterpreting Stefan but I'm hearing that fatherlessness is driving men to be more masculine (or something of this sort). This does not match up to reality at all IMO. All of the fatherless males I have ever met were not jocks they were slightly or fully nerdy momma's boys or at least 1/3 of the way there.
damn so true and rly impressive video and ive watched 15+ of ur vids...this is by far most interesting and explanatory vid of the world that surrounds me ... now i know why i wanted to make big muscles and why culture has such dominant motives
Gentle masculinity before the 70s? Except for Wayne, westerns, and generations fantasizing about gun-slinging and cowboys? You're just fundamentally wrong.
@shaunconnell Cowboy movies were family drama's with the outsider coming to aid a struggling homestead against landowners, Indians or rustlers - Shane is the perfect example. This represented the father figure taking control of his destiny against symbols of modern life - the banks, the outsider or the enemy within. Also in the 70's cowboys changed from these almost wistful tales about struggling family units into 'the man with no name' and Peckinpah.
Stef, I would so much like you to clarify one thing for me. Is there a warlike world and a peaceful world that somehow exists simultaneously? Are you saying that it's possible to live in a peaceful bubble surrounded by a warlike world? Is there a world of peace, where people are living just next to me? That one can step into?
You may find this interesting to read. Because not in every society is the same as how you describe it. The book is called Geert Hofstede: Dimensions of national Cultures or just Google for power dimension and the masculinity dimension and you get a better view of how it is in other cultures.
@MaikUniversum No you're wrong "bread" is food as in a loaf of bread. "bred" is to do with breeding. You should look up a dictionary before trying to be smart.
I am curious about what 'men' are actually bred for. As a professional in the field, I am aware that even if men are not spreading seed by parachutes, a great percentage are doing it by any other means, not the actual seed- mind- but by 'sport sex' not with their pair bonded chosen. This is a huge disconnect most women do not even KNOW about and is Flagrant, across the board in every economic and cultural sector. It is a great Hidden reality.There are no stereotypes, but sex is a driving factor.
@SonjaSmith Some say, I like variety, some say, my wife is ill, in menopause or pregnant! Many say, I can have outside sex without love and it's no big deal. They usually dont leave their wives, girlfriends, but have sport sex in droves. It's one of societies biggest secrets, all the outside sex going on. It's not only big business, driven by male demand, but also affairs, strip clubs, asian massage parlors etc.
So, is this a Male War scenario? Seems to have been going on a long time.
@SonjaSmith And BTW, these are the 'good guys'. Their wives and girlfriends never suspect. They have families, they have great jobs, highly educated and have done the right thing by their children and their wives, but they fuck around. They pay to do it. They consider this thing like going to the gym, a male privilege.
The idea is that their wives are now fat, old, but they love them, but buying another human body for sex is ok. And of course, women are ok with this, some mutual understanding.
@SonjaSmith Good comments... 60% of people in monogamous pair bonds cheat on their SO's. Men and women are equal in this. All this says to me is that we live in an unnatural social construct. A majority of 'uncivilized' tribes (our origins) don't consider the reproductive capacity of women (or the earning capacity of men) a controlled resource. sexual freedom. all men are fathers to all children. Some believe it takes many different men to get a woman pregnant. Macho isn't hardwired.
:p Oh sure blame the welfare state but Capitalism creates a permanent under caste constantly bred for war.
Addressing scarcity is an important part of addressing the problem and as long as you have a system based on competition in which business owners have power over the very means of survival of working people, in a system designed to maximize power and profit for business owners over everyone else while reducing workers to disposable commodities, the problem will be unresolved.
@Laughingblades Strange that he failed to mention that during his talk of the "win-lose" mentality. Capitalism breeds more violence than a society that shares resources ever could. He always talks about abstract violence, as in taxation equals theft argumentation. Capitalism has driven actual violence, such as in wars fought for oil. Wars that boost privately owned businesses, like Halliburton, using the poor to do violence, and be victims of violence. Blood for oil is free trade
@lazerbeam134 Yeah I know, I mean compare the violence of the town of Mondragon in Spain to any capitalist town anywhere in the world, they have an odd mix of cooperative socialism and anarcho syndicalism with more personal freedom than the working class in a capitalist system could ever dream of, a completely worker owned corporation made up of over 90,000 people, earning over 34 billion a year, with no poverty or homelessness in a country ravaged by unemployment
@Laughingblades As a plus, Spain isn't attacking poorer countries to steal their resources for the benefit of multinational corporations. Imperialism is a practice that our academic friend Stef seems to overlook. It existed before the "welfare state" and has continued on to the present day. He can't blame welfare for imperialism, that is all the work of capitalism.
@lazerbeam134 Of course, and welfare and/or imperialism is practically necessary to keep capitalism from collapsing every 20 years or so because without the constant influx or redistribution of capital the rich end up hoarding all the money until there's not enough circulating through the system to keep working people alive.
@lazerbeam134 Halliburton could never be what it is today if it wasn't for it's connections with state power. Free market anarchists do not want a world run by corporations, it would not even be possible.
@Zerafinel Imperialism existed before Halliburton. Capitalism is not the same as free market anarchy, but the implementation of free market anarchy could cause some of the same problems. You would replace the authority of the state with a rigid class structure. Competition being the driving force, you still have a win/lose system. During the Industrial Revolution, companies had an all consuming influence on the lives of labor. Where they lived and shopped was where they worked.
@lazerbeam134 For comparison, at about the same time historically, plantation owners in the southern US were practicing slavery. A system by which labor was entirely controlled by the enterprise. And all of this was part of a free market system. One man's cotton competed with another man's cotton, and one man's textiles competed with another man's textiles. And they were driven by one thing- profit. There is a strong possibility that such things can happen in anarcocapitalism.
@lazerbeam134 I really get what you're saying, I really do. I could have said the same words a couple of years ago. But interacting on a free market is so dependent on trust and co-operation, there wouldn't be the cut-throat world that most people imagine. Youtube right here is a good example of something that is close to a free market. You see that all the big Youtubers promote each others channels and collaborate, to make what their offering even more valuable to the viewer. Think about it...
@lazerbeam134 a society sharing resources voluntarily is a completely different idea than the state technically owning everything and ordering it all be shared. if there were no central monopoly to take over do you think halliburton would have a cut of your paycheck every 2 weeks? do you think there would be a comparison if you compared the amount of murders committed under government authority to the amount of murders by corporations not granted state power?
Kids are innocent in this area, and they are NOT BRED a certain way towards a certain sexual stratgy. Instead I would say that the sexual stratgy, even more so in MALE's, is a learned behavior about how they percieve the world to be and what OTHER MALE's are doing around them. This is learned during puberty and teenage years.
With fatherless children the Media or friends then become a major influence toward the devolopment of there Masculine ROLES. The Media is a huge part of the problem.
The lack of Good role models around young men is all that matters, And when there are none then they look to the Media which might be the only idea for them of how a man is suppose to act.
People's sexual identity's grow and change through puberty and teenage young adult years and those times effect more of how the male will act toward females more then anything else,
Stefbot I totally disagree with your idea that people's sexual stratagy's are being formulated in the womb.
I have a couple friends who grew up fatherless, they actually tend to act more mellow and even some of them people would say are "sissy".
I think if anything all being fatherless does is subtract a male influence, and therefore creates a possablity of being confused as to how a male is suppose act. it could go either way.
Then boys look to other males around them, and the Media is messing with the male image.
Men are overvaluing womens LOOKS becuase of the Media.
@thedamnedapostle Unintended consequence of the hate movement called feminism would be my guess. Who knows when the pendulum will start to swing back to center.
While I agree with Stefan on the competing strategies overall, I think that the two are present in every person to varying degrees, and are not as wholly tied to parenting as he paints it. In fact, I am quite certain that I've seen the chest beating Conan emerge from Stefan (Statism, Cages and the Murder of Conscience). I'm also quite sure that many of us are drawn to war even from loving, stable homes (I was) because the two cultures are currently intertwined.
Fatherlessness engenders war and destroys Western civilization! Children born into peaceful households are bred for pair-bonding. I just can't take this seriously.
Women want alphas for their genes and view other men as providers. This is the same in any society that has ever existed. The only factor is whether female sexuality is controlled (with monogamous pair-bonding) or not.
Lol - this is an interesting hypothesis, but there isn't a lot backing it up. As far as I can tell there has never been an environment where the alpha male isn't the winner and women aren't attracted to the aggressive arsehole. Nothing I feel has changed in the last 50 years bar the fact that women now act on their physical urges far more than making the better pragmatic decisions that they used to have to
You also left out the the intellectuals are sometime villains like a mad scientist, evil CEO, an power hungry wizards, or an highly advance alien race, while the hero is strong solder or barbarian bronze over brains. You see supper man the man of steal vs Lex Luthor, perhaps the smartest man in the world. It seems like the intellectuals are feared as in a warrior society lashes out at anything they do not understand. This also may be way smart men have to be rich men at the end.
Good theory, save for the part on happiness at the end. That last is pure speculation, as the "war" people may well be happy with their lives or "win". The very fact that BOTH reproductive stategies have proven successful, long term, means basing a society only on one is foolish
I see your point but being strong and muscular doesn't always = asshole. Sometimes the nerds are forced to adapt and compete as well. I had both parents growing up, wasn't abused and was actually a nerd/artist, but wasn't keen on being picked on. Why not strive to be strong in mind and body? Why not be ready for war or peace? If there is adaptive advantage to be had why limit yourself?
Most women still prefer the artsy-fartsy girly men to the bulky muscular guys. If you were to take a poll of 1000 women and ask if they'd rather get with Tom Brady or Johnny Depp, it would be a blowout in favor of Depp.
Stef- I can't recommend "Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá" highly enough. I really think this book offers compelling evidence that the standard narrative of human evolution and the relationship to sex (that you are drawing from), is incorrect. Also some amazing insights into human nature in this book. One of the best I've ever read.
Excellent as always, and the logic is excellent. Although the last 20 seconds makes the fundamental assumption that those 'programmed for war' (and who consequently follow that route) will automatically have a less 'happy life' than those who are not. Although I actually do agree with the assumption, it would be interesting to see a video which goes to argue that being programmed for war does in fact equal a less happy life
@vegetta00 I'm not Stef, but I'm an anarchist female, and I'm not sure why either. But I think it might have to do with the fact that it feels like anarchism is a pretty dangerous position to have in a statist/warlike society. You run the risk of being attacked or ostracized for it. Actually I don't think it's just a risk, I think it's pretty inevitable. As a female maybe we're more careful not to attract aggression, so we keep our thoughts to ourselves.
Interesting; except for the part of being born into a single parent household – assuming the single parent is dysfunctional- But in reality- many of the two parent household’s both parents are dysfunctional, which would make twice as bad for the child- but that’s not the case for all 1 or 2 parent household’s- were you Bred into a Hypocritical Leave it to Beaver programmed household- well goody two shoes for you- Now isn’t that interesting
It's taken me many years of therapy to change my bred for war (excitement, casual sex, etc) wiring to normal peaceful wiring, now I have a sweetheart of wife. But still need to continue to work on myself
Extraordinarily deep understanding of evolutionary psychology.
RodCornholio 1 week ago
I was bread for death and destruction. I grew up with violence all around me.There was never peace in my life.Pain and suffering always came for me.
Violent behavior is very difficult to suppress! I am that jock, that street fighting maniac! I have over 20 stitches of my face, broke my nose 2 times, busted lip 4 times, many black eyes, nose bleeds.
I am glad I am no father, i would be a terrible one for sure!
nameoffeather 2 weeks ago
I was scarcity's omega child. I had the killer body, sought intellectual engagement (how I found FDR). Thanks to you I'm not a cop. Thanks to misdirected therapy and meds, I lost my mind and body. Am I bred for war? Yes; I chose non-violence.
Picking up the pieces is hard, frustrating, and almost fruitless. I desire vengeance upon my destructors. I desire that which I was denied: recovery, love, fitness, my mind, independence.
The golden rule applies. Time is finite. I do not forgive.
oxyribose 3 weeks ago
what about justin beiber ?
utmax85 4 weeks ago
I disagree w/ur outlook 2 a point I had no father & a absent mother!i was highly abused & neglected....i am amost thankful for this because I am stronger because of this! Yet it made me be opposite when it coms 2 family I am a faithful & true I have 2 daughters which I devote as much time as possible 2 thm yet.......when it comes 2 every other aspect I am the alpha male I dominate over most,not necessarily in a bully sort of way now that im older I rule with what knowledge & values ive learned
Gdrap06 4 weeks ago
My man you are a f@#$ing GENIUS. This is red red RED hot.
craigrmeyer 1 month ago 3
My dad was the epitome for this; While my mom was pregnant he denied fatherhood and ran away. He eventually married my mom but was never there, evenetually divorced and then pretty much disappeared. I was antithetically never into muscles (wrestling or w/e), toughness of any kind (thug life or w/e), cars (I don't know any cars still), and I held logic, philosophy, and math as the most important things in life from like 10 years old without ever knowing an adult who remotely did.
SlaveryEvolves 1 month ago
I am not bred for war. I am particularly boring and borderline asexual.
intricatic 1 month ago
Pair bond, but donate your sperm to as many sperm banks as possible, world wide (few nations are in a deficit fyi). Everyone wins.
DimmedDiamond 1 month ago
Interesting. I always feel like im built for war. But i had my father around. However i went to violent schools and lived in a violent town. However before i was even exposed to these schools or the people of my town i loved Monkey(martial art show), and i loved that movie big trouble in little china.
Still. Great video. Lots of truth in it i think.
NicosMind 1 month ago
This hypothesis is weak. Living in Denmark, with the 5th highest divorce rate in the world, might is not right. Quite the contrary. Read Roosh's Bang series on Denmark and none of PUA tactics that work on American women seem to apply to Danish women. Every single Dane I know comes from a divorced family, none are aggressive or even body build.
aristochat3 1 month ago 4
This is a very, very general observation/diagnosis. Mostly true but not thoroughly accurate. Generally right on.
sthnwatch 1 month ago
Wow, seems to me like a gross generalization based on observations of a degenerated modern culture, superimposed on on an ultimately complex, variable ridden issue. Historically the data available for such conjecture is so limited, its understandable that such conclusions would be made. However, to assume there isn't so much more to it than that is silly...not to mention ethnocentric. Especially in a time where cultural, and racial ignorance is somthing that effects us all as a species.
Legacytattooman 1 month ago 2
Stefs videos can be better than therapy
reaver4567 1 month ago
this really put a lot of things in perspective for me. thank you.
boristhepython 1 month ago
Thanks, mate. Really good analysis.
anafael1 1 month ago
the agressors against humanity that are the current global elite, are not the jocks, they are the nerds stef, just wanted to point that out
SlingSalsa 1 month ago 2
wow so insightful
12321johndoe 1 month ago
Have you observed that in humans, stef ? I am asking an honest question. Because I will definitely start to observe what you said, in people, and look at their childhood. I want to know if this is really true. Thank you for the video, very clear and great info.
Yamakoto120 1 month ago
This is part of the weakness of libertarians, most of us are so war/fighting averse that we do not "attack" our enemies and their ideas, even those we see clearly as horribly evil. Look at Ron Paul in the debates, he should have such intelligent, virtuous, righteous, justified, holy, sacred rage that his gaze alone would melt the other contenders.
RandsRazor 1 month ago
So of course he went off and married a woman 20 years younger than him, now lives off his lifes investments and has routinely told me I'm not getting a penny of his money. Now, I'm not a greedy person after his fathers cash like the menendez kids or anything, but to hear that your own flesh and blood refuses to support, educate, or gift you in any way brews a special kind of distrust and hatred for most other men in the world. I didn't inherit his womanizing feature though thankfully.
shamz0rz 1 month ago
I actually tried having a conversation along these lines with my father a few weeks ago. He worked basically 90% of my childhood and my parents divorced when I was 11, so I really didn't get a chance to know the guy. He is basically of the mindset that his responsibility to me was to provide financial support for medical bills and see me maybe once a month if we were lucky. Needless to say without a male to learn from I grew up lacking many of the basic skills a young man should have...
shamz0rz 1 month ago
@shamz0rz I had a very similar experience with my father. Seeing me once a month was only during a good year. Really when I was 16 he pretty much stopped seeing me (and supporting me). About 10 years later, however, he was very old and not able to walk really. So he decided he wanted me to come see him. I went to see him and he was full of regret and crying. He then wanted to support me to go back to school, I have yet to take him up on his offer.
SlaveryEvolves 1 month ago
@SlaveryEvolves You should go for it man, I know it's hard to take help from people who have done you wrong in the past, but at least he's trying to make up for some of his shortcomings. Hope you give it a shot man.
shamz0rz 1 month ago
Brilliant observations and commentary, as usual, Stefan.
MrDorkusMaximus 1 month ago
I don't thin much has changed since Bogart days. Hot girls with hour glass figures/big chests, along with brick jawed, tall dark and handsome men have always dominated cinema
There are still starring roles for average looking men like Morgan Freeman because the industry is still male dominated.
Nerdy guys have always had cliched roles, with average looking women playing second fiddle, however, there's more opportunity today for these types to play bigger parts because there's so much choice.
GtheMVP 1 month ago
Stefan, I would say I am a bit of both. I like cars, motorcycles, UFC, etc, but I am also the "pair bonding" type of guy.
Noblehammer16 1 month ago
Thanks for this clarification Stef, this is something that needs to be said so badly...
VyseLegend 1 month ago
So masturbating while parashooting is NOT a good strategy for spreading my seed?
Damn. So much time wasted...
bary1234 1 month ago 15
@bary1234 make it rain bro
whiterchocolate 2 weeks ago
Shane vs Rick on Walking dead
darkwhitedirewolf 1 month ago
Nice and interesting! I was grown up for peace world, though I'm preparing for a crazy world. But if people come to fuq up with me, I'll kill them, as simple as that. Peaceful and kind until serious stuff is going on.
Rhinoch8 1 month ago
And what sort of legal system incentivizes women to rake men over the coals for half their assets and get a check for a child until the kid is 18, make absurd false domestic violence accusations, etc? A toxic feminist one.
Fatherlessness is inevitable with this screwed up marriage and family system we have.
intercourseman69 1 month ago 3
Stef, you begin by discussing the two reproductive strategies for the human male. This is your first false dichotomy. Significant numbers of men fall into both categories, as well as outside either of them completely. You begin with the false premise that pair-bonding is natural for humans (an idea pushed by social philosophers and religious nutjobs for centuries, often resulting in the demise of those who didn't find it natural at all). Examine your biases.
immayhem 1 month ago
@immayhem Its like saying you're either a bonobo or a chimp (we share most of our DNA with both, and closer anatomical similarity with Bonobos).
Chimps = violent, territorial, males often kill the offspring of competitors.
Bonobos = peaceful, highly sexual, non-monogamous, autonomous, cooperative.
Choices have been restricted and a 'chimp' culture superimposed - and this absolutely coincides with agriculture ->property ->the shift to angry male, controlling deities -> and the state
immayhem 1 month ago
@immayhem
i kinda agree with both of you. Evolution would favour those who have the capacity for both mating strategies (short term/long term). The most effective way to pass on your genes would be to use a mixture of both strategies, adopting to the environment. I think Stefan overpsychologises in this one, yet there might be something to it : the gerenal level of fear and insecurity regarding future and resources, is enhaced by statism and that could therefore lead to an A-male mentality
badseed86 1 month ago
Mira Kirshenbaum has an international reputation as a therapist for individuals, couples, and families. She is co-founder and clinical director of The Chestnut Hill Institute. In her book, "Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay," she described Stef very well.
He is an abusive person. He seems nice enough, but that's just a facade. He is a Power Person, and all he cares about is power. His primary tactic is "Yes Man," where he agrees with everything you say, but goes on to do what he will anyway.
LeksServices 1 month ago
@LeksServices - It's important to understand how this works. It's not just an occasional thing. He will tell you "I will consider it," or "I agree with you." Then he will go ahead and defy what he said and do what he wants anyway.
I would not be surprised if he does this to his family all the time. "We need groceries." "I will get us some." {Comes back later without groceries.} "Where are the groceries?" "Oh ... something came up / I forgot / some other excuse."
He's an abusive liar.
LeksServices 1 month ago
I don't suppose getting exercise has more to do with me wanting to live longer and not require nurses to carry my urine away? True freedom is independence, and sorry, but this requires exercise.
MrStillmans 1 month ago
i was born into a horrible marriage. i'm told it was abusive, and my mother ran away with my little brother and I when I was 4. I never knew my father, but I grew up to be an extremely sensitive (most times too sensitive) person who is very unlike the war bred asshole you describe to be the result of fatherlessness. Any ideas as to why the conditions of my upbringing suggest that I should be bred for war, but i find myself moreso lost than on any distinguishable side of the playing field?
wunncoolguy 1 month ago
@wunncoolguy The explanation he gave is a rough statistical overview of the whole population - there will always be individual exceptions to the average as environment isnt the ONLY factor - genetics play a role too - so for example most of your grandfathers and great grandfathers may have been "nice guys" and so your genetic makeup may be strongly predisposed that way - so much so that the "warlike" environment as Stef calls it - ie. asshole AWOL father - wasnt enough to make you so too.
BiggerThinking1 1 month ago
@BiggerThinking1 'rough statistical overview' = 'biased bullshit' in this case.
in broad terms, the more the parents (single or paired, male or female) are able to think for themselves, speak for peace in the home, communicate lovingly and attentively - and model self-respecting behavior - the better off the children are. PERIOD.
immayhem 1 month ago
@BiggerThinking1 I understand that environment is not the only factor, but I'm not sure how much of a role genetics play in determining whether or not someone is sensitive or aggressive, dominant or submissive. I don't know much about genetics so if you could elaborate on how that is possible that'd be great. My mother is a very confusing subject as well, for half my childhood (up until age 11) she was "supermom", did anything and everything to make me happy and successful. The latter half -
wunncoolguy 1 month ago
@BiggerThinking1 - she was severely depressed, agoraphobic, unemployed, suicidal, abusive, the list goes on and on. it goes without saying that I have had a very unstable upbringing (i am now 19). I live by myself, am severely depressed, insecure, SUBMISSIVE. Just trying to make sense of what has led me to be the way that I am. I definitely lacked male role models, but had a great mother for most of my younger years. Thoughts?
wunncoolguy 1 month ago
@wunncoolguy His Judeo-Christian bias is showing that's all. Monogamous pair-bonding is just as unnatural (and statistically no better) than single parenthood for humans. I raised a son who is amazing - non-violent, sensitive and kind. He had good male role models (I'd have no other kind around) and I trust that he will do well in life. Most of human history had us living like Bonobos - ideally we'd still live in close-knit social groups - and genetic paternity would be unimportant.
immayhem 1 month ago
@immayhem I would agree that single parenthood can produce brilliant people and that if one has a pair bonded upbringing that it is definitely no guarantee that they will be raised properly. I had absolutely no male role models growing up; that can account for my over sensitivity, and lacking masculinity. I definitely wish that I had a father growing up, I feel as though I have missed out on so much crucial experiences that are irreplaceable.
wunncoolguy 1 month ago
@wunncoolguy I personally had neither ... My life story reads like a freaking Dickens novel. I learned a valuable lesson over the years (the thing that actually made me a great parent): YOU get to create your own life. :) We may be products of our environment, but the environment is always shifting. You've missed nothing that you can't provide yourself with now. Be your own dad. Find a male-bonding group that values sensitivity and awareness, as well as strength. They're out there.
immayhem 1 month ago
@wunncoolguy - I know the feeling. I hate war, and I grew up with an activist mother. She was very very outspoken. I also grew up in an abusive community, where everyone felt you had to be THIS way and do THAT thing. Deviation from the norm was completely unacceptable. And yes, this community was in the United States.
I treat my partner as well as I am able to, and she does wonders for me. I'm very happy to have her and we live a very settled life.
LeksServices 1 month ago
@wunncoolguy - Stef's wrong about lots of things. But he keeps preaching the "truth" of his wrong ideas even long after he has been shown they're wrong. This makes him no better than Kirk Cameron or Ray Comfort.
If I could get Matt Dillahunty and other famous atheists to pay attention to this guy, he'd be denounced by some of the most visible people in our community and would be mentioned right along side Kent Hovind.
LeksServices 1 month ago
@wunncoolguy - Pat Condell has greater legitimacy in his opinions than Stef does. Stef's outright lying, but Pat is at least saying what he truly believes, and he's willing to admit when he's wrong - provided you can show him he's wrong. Stef behaves more like a Young Earth Creationist than a true skeptic. Show him evidence that proves him wrong, he says, "I will consider it," then goes on preaching his bullshit.
LeksServices 1 month ago
@LeksServices Get a boner for him or something???? You went on a multiple comment troll here. Look you don't agree with the guy. Ok. So why the aggressive stance against him? Does he hurt you? Or others you care about?
rockoutmichigan 1 month ago
@LeksServices I don't know any of the names that you mentioned in your comments, or what their relevance is. I also don't know much about Stef, my friend just showed me this video after a discussion we had about fatherlessness and the effects it has on growing up. You mentioned you had an activist mother; did you grow up to be similar to her in that regard?
wunncoolguy 1 month ago
@LeksServices My mother raised me roman-catholic, and in respect to her awareness of the world around her, she was extremely ignorant. Her main source of information was oprah, and other toxic talk shows that serve only to pervert the minds of parents and anyone else stupid enough to watch them. I eventually grew to reject religion because of her abuse of it. I'm very aware of the state of the world, and enjoy talking about metaphilosophy and things like that.
wunncoolguy 1 month ago
@wunncoolguy There are many factors contributing to a person's psychological makeup. Like Bigger said, you may be genetically predisposed. Or perhaps you had other factors, like the intelligence it takes to choose peace.
rockoutmichigan 1 month ago
@rockoutmichigan it definitely is a very convoluted topic. i don't know much about genetic predisposition, but intelligence and comprehension definitely has allowed me to make important decisions for myself, such as peace over war.
wunncoolguy 1 month ago
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Go Nerds! lol
qncsc 1 month ago 2
I really appreciate these insights. I am happier now to understand how differently I am "wired up", from your opinion, for what I found/find attractive. I am different than other family members.. my mother when through many marriages.. her father died about 9 months after I was born, my father's father, died 9 months before I was born. I think deeply now, they were both thrown into emotional turmoil resulting in my life..I am the legacy of their grief & yet I'm a pair bond type; a happy mother.
AlterEgoTrip 1 month ago
I think the difference is that its not about war, but the grief that made me immune to tacky type.. I guess what I'm trying to say is my friends always thought I sought up "nerd" types.. when I see so much beauty in all types. I recall watching "My Favourite Martian" as a child & finding the face of Ray Walston very attractive...just my first absolute "crush" but not really.. sort of just this easy going naive smart type: the unusual, definitely possibly perceived as weak, but brave in spite.
AlterEgoTrip 1 month ago
Good video. I threw a few bucks into your tip jar for this one.
vention4wh 1 month ago
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rpm297 1 month ago
My martial arts were encouraged by my unconscious desire to dominate for the purposes of attracting mates, as well as simply for protection
sborowsky 1 month ago
My parents divorced when I was two and I had violent step fathers since then until I ran away. I now box. I love it. I often wonder why everyone doesn't box. Is my brain really changed? I think it may be. But I am a good father to my two children. I respect them. I realize that if I want them to be happy I can't hit them, and I don't. I am still learning. Thanks mostly to a review of my past that only happened because of you Stef. I really love you. Thanks as always. I donate!
gradiu3rox 1 month ago 43
@gradiu3rox - wow. really nice response for stefbot.
qncsc 1 month ago
@gradiu3rox Good for you my man, that's what we call "curse breaking". God bless you.
sthnwatch 1 month ago
@sthnwatch Thanks for the sentiment, but in my review I realized that god was a big part of the problem. Turns out he doesn't exist. And what's even greater was the realization that there is no Original Sin. It's all a fairytale. We can love ourselves! It's OK! I no longer apologize for being alive. Sometimes I catch myself in the middle of apologizing and then remember that part of my life is over. I'm a free man now, and I can masturbate with a free conscience. lol.
gradiu3rox 1 month ago
this was an amazing video, so much revelations for me. even though i don't get along w/ my parents, they do argue/my personality is very different then theirs, i am lucky that they pair bounded and i'm pro-cooperation.
denisonM 1 month ago 2
thank you stef. this actually helped me understand why i got into karate when i was about 6, i really wanted to go to it. it was as a result of my parent;s divorce, and my dad's absence.
TheJuansLife7 1 month ago
this was actually quite profound for me!
SinnNorth 1 month ago 2
YA I get it now, what the fuck ever.
Antdog5 1 month ago
@stefbot what do you think about adding some spice to the sales pitch for the long term strategy? Maybe an alternative to nerds vs jocks - healthy confident, sometimes dominant masculinity that is guided by long term planning. Make it look good. You did some of this in your series on masculinity but it seems like you've not been promoting the need for nerds to be more in tune with their aggressive sides. From memory you said that the nerd strategy also comes from pretty but insecure single moms?
slissone 1 month ago
FUUUUUUUCK ME. Like a great sermon, except true.
bwood21390 1 month ago
So what you're saying is....the human race is genetically programmed by millenia to fuck and kill.
Pretty disheartening for change
bwood21390 1 month ago
I agree with a lot of this. It kind of sounded like you were saying "If you play sports or like fast cars you must not of had a dad." I don't think that's what you meant but that's how it sounded to me. I think there were some generalizations made. I get a lot out of most of your videos though. I appreciate the hard work.
zerk54 1 month ago
Maybe I'm not paying enough attention or misinterpreting Stefan but I'm hearing that fatherlessness is driving men to be more masculine (or something of this sort). This does not match up to reality at all IMO. All of the fatherless males I have ever met were not jocks they were slightly or fully nerdy momma's boys or at least 1/3 of the way there.
batmanthe 1 month ago
very interesting. I enjoyed it.
soulflesh15 1 month ago
damn so true and rly impressive video and ive watched 15+ of ur vids...this is by far most interesting and explanatory vid of the world that surrounds me ... now i know why i wanted to make big muscles and why culture has such dominant motives
onxiaftw 1 month ago
Stefan, you could have saved me so much money in therapy when I was a teenager.
RepellentGoose 1 month ago 21
@RepellentGoose
and pharmacological damadge
SlingSalsa 1 month ago
The Destruction of the Family is one of the planks of the International Jewish Communist Party.
It is right there in writing in the "Communist Manifesto".
CelticSouthland 1 month ago 3
@CelticSouthland I would imagine that refers to the cultural bias toward -nuclear- families.
CitizenPlague 1 month ago
Wasn't the Ward Cleaver era concurrent with the height of American car culture?
PGudmunson 1 month ago
Amazing insight!
bigaladji10 1 month ago
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FinbarJC 1 month ago
@Laughingblades Total crap.
TheKaffeeKlatsch 1 month ago
Wow, this is life changing information
TheTrenchface 1 month ago
insightful
FinbarJC 1 month ago
Gentle masculinity before the 70s? Except for Wayne, westerns, and generations fantasizing about gun-slinging and cowboys? You're just fundamentally wrong.
shaunconnell 1 month ago 2
@shaunconnell Cowboy movies were family drama's with the outsider coming to aid a struggling homestead against landowners, Indians or rustlers - Shane is the perfect example. This represented the father figure taking control of his destiny against symbols of modern life - the banks, the outsider or the enemy within. Also in the 70's cowboys changed from these almost wistful tales about struggling family units into 'the man with no name' and Peckinpah.
Stephans argument holds.
kopilit 1 month ago
Aggressive doesn't mean war and power over others. It can mean control over oneself -- it can be peaceful.
shaunconnell 1 month ago
@shaunconnell No. You can't have peaceful aggression. You can't peacefully be at war with yourself.
You can have peaceful strength of course. But you've overreached yourself here and probably know it.
kopilit 1 month ago
If people would breed less, there would be less need.
DeterministicOne 1 month ago
At least people can change, well some people can change not all.
Antdog5 1 month ago
Stef, I would so much like you to clarify one thing for me. Is there a warlike world and a peaceful world that somehow exists simultaneously? Are you saying that it's possible to live in a peaceful bubble surrounded by a warlike world? Is there a world of peace, where people are living just next to me? That one can step into?
Zerafinel 1 month ago
You may find this interesting to read. Because not in every society is the same as how you describe it. The book is called Geert Hofstede: Dimensions of national Cultures or just Google for power dimension and the masculinity dimension and you get a better view of how it is in other cultures.
williamb90 1 month ago
face at 00:27... I love you Stephan.
rumplestiltskein 1 month ago
Very interesting.
2012roadwarrior 1 month ago
not only is this message gonna hurt many people but it's gonna make them believe their "bad behaviour" was justified thus avoid accountability
aaaaaaa1 1 month ago 2
btw, stef made a typo in the title. It's actually spelled "bread", not "bred".
MaikUniversum 1 month ago
@MaikUniversum bred is correct
ih8ronpaulh8ers 1 month ago
@MaikUniversum No you're wrong "bread" is food as in a loaf of bread. "bred" is to do with breeding. You should look up a dictionary before trying to be smart.
macspud28 1 month ago
@macspud28 don't invent your own language, buddy.
MaikUniversum 1 month ago
@MaikUniversum Well Buddy, the language is English and it's not me that is inventing or wrong.
macspud28 1 month ago
I am curious about what 'men' are actually bred for. As a professional in the field, I am aware that even if men are not spreading seed by parachutes, a great percentage are doing it by any other means, not the actual seed- mind- but by 'sport sex' not with their pair bonded chosen. This is a huge disconnect most women do not even KNOW about and is Flagrant, across the board in every economic and cultural sector. It is a great Hidden reality.There are no stereotypes, but sex is a driving factor.
SonjaSmith 1 month ago
@SonjaSmith Some say, I like variety, some say, my wife is ill, in menopause or pregnant! Many say, I can have outside sex without love and it's no big deal. They usually dont leave their wives, girlfriends, but have sport sex in droves. It's one of societies biggest secrets, all the outside sex going on. It's not only big business, driven by male demand, but also affairs, strip clubs, asian massage parlors etc.
So, is this a Male War scenario? Seems to have been going on a long time.
SonjaSmith 1 month ago
@SonjaSmith And BTW, these are the 'good guys'. Their wives and girlfriends never suspect. They have families, they have great jobs, highly educated and have done the right thing by their children and their wives, but they fuck around. They pay to do it. They consider this thing like going to the gym, a male privilege.
The idea is that their wives are now fat, old, but they love them, but buying another human body for sex is ok. And of course, women are ok with this, some mutual understanding.
SonjaSmith 1 month ago
@SonjaSmith Good comments... 60% of people in monogamous pair bonds cheat on their SO's. Men and women are equal in this. All this says to me is that we live in an unnatural social construct. A majority of 'uncivilized' tribes (our origins) don't consider the reproductive capacity of women (or the earning capacity of men) a controlled resource. sexual freedom. all men are fathers to all children. Some believe it takes many different men to get a woman pregnant. Macho isn't hardwired.
immayhem 1 month ago
:p Oh sure blame the welfare state but Capitalism creates a permanent under caste constantly bred for war.
Addressing scarcity is an important part of addressing the problem and as long as you have a system based on competition in which business owners have power over the very means of survival of working people, in a system designed to maximize power and profit for business owners over everyone else while reducing workers to disposable commodities, the problem will be unresolved.
Laughingblades 1 month ago
@Laughingblades Strange that he failed to mention that during his talk of the "win-lose" mentality. Capitalism breeds more violence than a society that shares resources ever could. He always talks about abstract violence, as in taxation equals theft argumentation. Capitalism has driven actual violence, such as in wars fought for oil. Wars that boost privately owned businesses, like Halliburton, using the poor to do violence, and be victims of violence. Blood for oil is free trade
lazerbeam134 1 month ago
@lazerbeam134 Yeah I know, I mean compare the violence of the town of Mondragon in Spain to any capitalist town anywhere in the world, they have an odd mix of cooperative socialism and anarcho syndicalism with more personal freedom than the working class in a capitalist system could ever dream of, a completely worker owned corporation made up of over 90,000 people, earning over 34 billion a year, with no poverty or homelessness in a country ravaged by unemployment
Capitalism sucks
Laughingblades 1 month ago
@Laughingblades As a plus, Spain isn't attacking poorer countries to steal their resources for the benefit of multinational corporations. Imperialism is a practice that our academic friend Stef seems to overlook. It existed before the "welfare state" and has continued on to the present day. He can't blame welfare for imperialism, that is all the work of capitalism.
lazerbeam134 1 month ago
@lazerbeam134 Of course, and welfare and/or imperialism is practically necessary to keep capitalism from collapsing every 20 years or so because without the constant influx or redistribution of capital the rich end up hoarding all the money until there's not enough circulating through the system to keep working people alive.
Laughingblades 1 month ago
@lazerbeam134 Halliburton could never be what it is today if it wasn't for it's connections with state power. Free market anarchists do not want a world run by corporations, it would not even be possible.
Zerafinel 1 month ago
@Zerafinel Imperialism existed before Halliburton. Capitalism is not the same as free market anarchy, but the implementation of free market anarchy could cause some of the same problems. You would replace the authority of the state with a rigid class structure. Competition being the driving force, you still have a win/lose system. During the Industrial Revolution, companies had an all consuming influence on the lives of labor. Where they lived and shopped was where they worked.
lazerbeam134 1 month ago
@lazerbeam134 For comparison, at about the same time historically, plantation owners in the southern US were practicing slavery. A system by which labor was entirely controlled by the enterprise. And all of this was part of a free market system. One man's cotton competed with another man's cotton, and one man's textiles competed with another man's textiles. And they were driven by one thing- profit. There is a strong possibility that such things can happen in anarcocapitalism.
lazerbeam134 1 month ago
@lazerbeam134 I really get what you're saying, I really do. I could have said the same words a couple of years ago. But interacting on a free market is so dependent on trust and co-operation, there wouldn't be the cut-throat world that most people imagine. Youtube right here is a good example of something that is close to a free market. You see that all the big Youtubers promote each others channels and collaborate, to make what their offering even more valuable to the viewer. Think about it...
Zerafinel 1 month ago
@lazerbeam134 a society sharing resources voluntarily is a completely different idea than the state technically owning everything and ordering it all be shared. if there were no central monopoly to take over do you think halliburton would have a cut of your paycheck every 2 weeks? do you think there would be a comparison if you compared the amount of murders committed under government authority to the amount of murders by corporations not granted state power?
xsickzackx 1 month ago
Powerful stuff Stef. Thank you.
mrtomashorvath 1 month ago
Kids are innocent in this area, and they are NOT BRED a certain way towards a certain sexual stratgy. Instead I would say that the sexual stratgy, even more so in MALE's, is a learned behavior about how they percieve the world to be and what OTHER MALE's are doing around them. This is learned during puberty and teenage years.
With fatherless children the Media or friends then become a major influence toward the devolopment of there Masculine ROLES. The Media is a huge part of the problem.
mataiwaizu 1 month ago
@mataiwaizu I think this group think stuff sticks to the other gender as a rule not so much to future men.
moonreft 1 month ago
This is brilliant.
Shellshock1918 1 month ago
The lack of Good role models around young men is all that matters, And when there are none then they look to the Media which might be the only idea for them of how a man is suppose to act.
People's sexual identity's grow and change through puberty and teenage young adult years and those times effect more of how the male will act toward females more then anything else,
Stefbot I totally disagree with your idea that people's sexual stratagy's are being formulated in the womb.
mataiwaizu 1 month ago
I somewhat disagree.
I have a couple friends who grew up fatherless, they actually tend to act more mellow and even some of them people would say are "sissy".
I think if anything all being fatherless does is subtract a male influence, and therefore creates a possablity of being confused as to how a male is suppose act. it could go either way.
Then boys look to other males around them, and the Media is messing with the male image.
Men are overvaluing womens LOOKS becuase of the Media.
mataiwaizu 1 month ago
i was bred for war, however i was evolved over millions of years, to create and not destroy.
MYNAMEISFRANKENSTEIN 1 month ago
Keep up the good work :)
spystyle 1 month ago
LOL Masturbating while parachuting.
Christopher711 1 month ago
This video is Right On... and particularly humorous!
PursuitOfTruth 1 month ago
Stef, do you think that this change in society could be a hangover from generations of men (fathers) being lost in WWI and II?
thedamnedapostle 1 month ago
@thedamnedapostle Unintended consequence of the hate movement called feminism would be my guess. Who knows when the pendulum will start to swing back to center.
moonreft 1 month ago
Seems like certain aspects of society are evolving back to the animal kingdom. The lions..The tigers..The bears.....Oh my.
Spencerianism 1 month ago
this is great stef
fergus247 1 month ago
While I agree with Stefan on the competing strategies overall, I think that the two are present in every person to varying degrees, and are not as wholly tied to parenting as he paints it. In fact, I am quite certain that I've seen the chest beating Conan emerge from Stefan (Statism, Cages and the Murder of Conscience). I'm also quite sure that many of us are drawn to war even from loving, stable homes (I was) because the two cultures are currently intertwined.
032125 1 month ago
Fatherlessness engenders war and destroys Western civilization! Children born into peaceful households are bred for pair-bonding. I just can't take this seriously.
CitizenPlague 1 month ago 2
Women want short term hook-ups. Thumbs up.
Women want muscular brutes. DAMN
jeffiek 1 month ago
Women want alphas for their genes and view other men as providers. This is the same in any society that has ever existed. The only factor is whether female sexuality is controlled (with monogamous pair-bonding) or not.
TheUntergangMan 1 month ago
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8:05 - outed ......
smartiepancake 1 month ago
"Were You Bred for War?"
My mind is a war-machine.
qedisk 1 month ago
Lol - this is an interesting hypothesis, but there isn't a lot backing it up. As far as I can tell there has never been an environment where the alpha male isn't the winner and women aren't attracted to the aggressive arsehole. Nothing I feel has changed in the last 50 years bar the fact that women now act on their physical urges far more than making the better pragmatic decisions that they used to have to
bigleady 1 month ago
Are you related to Peter Molyneux by any chance?
vspqbd 1 month ago
@stefbot I never thought i would hear jersey shore come out of your mouth! lol
citizenlares 1 month ago
You also left out the the intellectuals are sometime villains like a mad scientist, evil CEO, an power hungry wizards, or an highly advance alien race, while the hero is strong solder or barbarian bronze over brains. You see supper man the man of steal vs Lex Luthor, perhaps the smartest man in the world. It seems like the intellectuals are feared as in a warrior society lashes out at anything they do not understand. This also may be way smart men have to be rich men at the end.
WEH1123 1 month ago
damnit. and i thought i liked bodybuilding for the sake of fitness :(
WorthlessCurrency 1 month ago
@WorthlessCurrency lol Yea, bodybuilding has nothing to do with attracting women. :)
MrGarky 1 month ago
Good theory, save for the part on happiness at the end. That last is pure speculation, as the "war" people may well be happy with their lives or "win". The very fact that BOTH reproductive stategies have proven successful, long term, means basing a society only on one is foolish
genghisdon1 1 month ago
I see your point but being strong and muscular doesn't always = asshole. Sometimes the nerds are forced to adapt and compete as well. I had both parents growing up, wasn't abused and was actually a nerd/artist, but wasn't keen on being picked on. Why not strive to be strong in mind and body? Why not be ready for war or peace? If there is adaptive advantage to be had why limit yourself?
roargathor 1 month ago
@roargathor You have a good point, I think.
MrGarky 1 month ago
I've never understood why anyone gives a toss (forgive the pun) about leaving their genetics on the planet.
silverfoils 1 month ago
@silverfoils It's what all the cool species do.
roargathor 1 month ago
accent is terrible...
blackhawk639 1 month ago
Most women still prefer the artsy-fartsy girly men to the bulky muscular guys. If you were to take a poll of 1000 women and ask if they'd rather get with Tom Brady or Johnny Depp, it would be a blowout in favor of Depp.
IKilled007 1 month ago
@IKilled007 Then why are they pushed to the side? Why are they the loser at the prom without a date??
Antdog5 1 month ago
@IKilled007 k till you conduct that poll, thats just your opinion
whydoineedmoney 1 month ago
@IKilled007 It's all the soy they put in everything. The state wants a population of limp wrist pansys.
roargathor 1 month ago
@IKilled007 then again, what women say they want and what they actually want are usually two different things
MoneyIsSilver 1 month ago
@IKilled007 I feel you are correct, but why would women perfer Johnny Depp? Because he's *physically* attractive, not because he's a good person.
MrGarky 1 month ago
Stef- I can't recommend "Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá" highly enough. I really think this book offers compelling evidence that the standard narrative of human evolution and the relationship to sex (that you are drawing from), is incorrect. Also some amazing insights into human nature in this book. One of the best I've ever read.
cesliwakan 1 month ago
Excellent as always, and the logic is excellent. Although the last 20 seconds makes the fundamental assumption that those 'programmed for war' (and who consequently follow that route) will automatically have a less 'happy life' than those who are not. Although I actually do agree with the assumption, it would be interesting to see a video which goes to argue that being programmed for war does in fact equal a less happy life
HoldItDownLE5 1 month ago
My dad and eye didn't always see eye to eye but at least he was there which makes all the difference.
lordthawkeye 1 month ago
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Zerafinel 1 month ago
@vegetta00 That is a great question, I was actually wondering that myself recently.
californiarednek 1 month ago
Stef! I highly recommend the book 'Sex At Dawn'. Highly.
Seriously, buy it today.
immayhem 1 month ago
@immayhem ABSOLUTELY
cesliwakan 1 month ago
@vegetta00 I'm not Stef, but I'm an anarchist female, and I'm not sure why either. But I think it might have to do with the fact that it feels like anarchism is a pretty dangerous position to have in a statist/warlike society. You run the risk of being attacked or ostracized for it. Actually I don't think it's just a risk, I think it's pretty inevitable. As a female maybe we're more careful not to attract aggression, so we keep our thoughts to ourselves.
Zerafinel 1 month ago
Interesting; except for the part of being born into a single parent household – assuming the single parent is dysfunctional- But in reality- many of the two parent household’s both parents are dysfunctional, which would make twice as bad for the child- but that’s not the case for all 1 or 2 parent household’s- were you Bred into a Hypocritical Leave it to Beaver programmed household- well goody two shoes for you- Now isn’t that interesting
dberry999666 1 month ago
Stef....what a great perspective! Thanks...
noudo25 1 month ago
I hope we can all be peaceful when jackboot thugs kick down our doors, When they finally flip the switch.
Antioc87 1 month ago
It's taken me many years of therapy to change my bred for war (excitement, casual sex, etc) wiring to normal peaceful wiring, now I have a sweetheart of wife. But still need to continue to work on myself
jasontrucker007 1 month ago