Re: Living with Social Anxiety Disorder

[MsEternallyYours]

Hope everything goes well for you. I have SA too so can sympathise but don't take meds. You're also gorgeous (had to say) :D take care

[rockwitchdrunk]

now tell me the truth if you have awkward smile from time to time,im like

you in a way

[hairspeaks]

Hi John , ur face said it all. i understand and i pray u feel better soon.

[StupedKid]

@baer162 well, mah bad for being snippy. But yeah this was my first, and last attempt at recording a video via youtube and then submitting it, as you pointed out the quality is very subpar

[killingheroes]

@StupedKid you don't need to be nice to him.. he's being a cunt and needs to fuck off

[StupedKid]

@baer162 if you were watching this for visual quality, you're watching the wrong thing.

[marfg12345]

@StupedKid i know how you feel

i only have 1 friend that i can make eye contact with

i don't know why

[Julinalein]

You are really sweet. So don't worry. 

[SocialAnxietyDr]

Hi everyone. I recently started a blog and video series on social anxiety. I have a PhD in psychology and a lot of experience helping people with social anxiety. My goal is for the videos to be interactive and to cover topics that are important for you, so I'll hope you'll check them out and give me feedback about your questions or topic you're interested in related to social anxiety.

[GLENHARTSHAMAN]

Try PSTEC THERAPY IT WORKS

[HLB285]

@GLENHARTSHAMAN whats pstec therapy

[DeviantPsyche1]

medication is bull crap. Don't take it.

[StupedKid]

@DeviantPsyche1 i agree it's not for everyone. But it has definitely taken the edge off of my worse panic attacks, and allowed me to come much farther much quicker then I would have previously.

[DeviantPsyche1]

@StupedKid I don't know man. Putting unatural stuff into your natural body..... People back in the days were farbetter off without all the unatural unhealthy stuff we use today. I'm nobody to judge but in my opinion it's better to stay healthy and fight and win battles naturally.

[floppyjim5]

@DeviantPsyche1 yeah! exercise is the key an protien!

[socialanxietydisable]

Check my channel for a documentary on S.A.D. called "Afraid of People: A Social Anxiety Disorder Documentary"

[angrysamoans92]

Good thing you didn't smoke weed. weed plays havoc on my social phobia. I can smoke it by myself and be fine, but as soon as im anywhere where people can see me, friends or otherwise, I just can't handle it. i freeze up and cant speak. not a word

[Mischa285]

Medications helps in some ways, but have so many side effects. In my fight against SAD, something that's helped me is saying positive affirmations, training my mind to be more positive, raising my self esteem...that kind of thing. Good luck to you.

[Yukonbutterfly]

im really shy. I dont like how I am, I wish I could learn how to express myself, get the courage to talk to new people. i think im werid. My head still feels werid. plus if a DOCTOR EVER SEES THIS I want to ask what does a zapping noise in the head mean. It happened to me three times, the first was six years ago, the second was a few months ago, the third happened early this morning?

[Yukonbutterfly]

I beat it without taking any pills, It was hard for me, I cryed alot, I dont know how I beat though? I went to see a girl to help me a couple of times she sent me to the docter for me to be put on pills but I didnt take em. Im just saying try not taking any pills, for atleast a month or two months, if you still have it then you should take the pills. I had my mom to help me out, taking me for walks, bringing me in stores, bringing me to work where I see alot of people, eating right.

[Gaarasgirl106]

my social anxiety has held me back a lot but honestly i would rather care too much about other peoples feelings than not care about them at all. i hav had social anxiety since i was put in school and i am now 14 years old. it got so bad that i had to change schools. its getting better but, i wish people could understand it better. they dont even say anything bout it in health so no one understands y im shy. they just judge me as a quiet person but if they rlly new me they wud no its not true.

[LAMONTDAVIS3]

thanx

[EWalk131]

LOOK PEOPLE IN THEIR EYES no one gave you SAD, not even you did. its just are bodies reaction to things we dont wanna say or do...when u care too much of what people say YOU ARE GIVING THEM POWER THEY DONT DESERVE. just bounce back, and i promise the biggest thing that will help and helped me. look people in their eyes, i know its uncomfortable but you will notice they are doing the same thing to you..eye contact..simple and effective, you will notice yourself connecting, a wonderful feeling..

[bennima]

same here i have to agree with Sasuke 2277, i can easily strike conversation with anyone on the street but it is not easy to become close friend to others.

[TheZa1994]

Dudes there is nothing wrong with not having any friends. IT'S NOT THE END OF THE WORLD.

[babiigirl401]

lol...do you really have S.A.D??? your cute :)

[silkysoulable]

Wow you look so comfortable in front of the camera it almost looks like you are acting up the whole anxiety thing

[magicpillnow]

Watch a video in my channel names - Magic-Pill-in-action4-Instant anxiety cure to see how easily you can get rid of anxiety. Instantly and effortlessly.

[BasAndLokes]

You're a really awesome guy for posting this response and reaching out to someone who wasn't feeling well. I listened to your video several times. Thank you for putting it out there for others to hear. I hope you are managing your anxieties well. Regards from Sydney.

[juanalvy]

thanks dude

[cky283]

You are a good person, respect man. I think I need to get back on my meds for this

[SeliendaSmiles]

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[chrisbartley88]

wow i wana look like uuu :P

[Irkcibozkurt]

i understand u dude.

it's great that you kept urself away from drugs. keep in that way.

[Chilenita2009]

i understand, i suffer from social phobia, is hard for me to make friends, i'm very shy insecure person and get mad or really sad when people are rejecting me, actually i hide it but is hard for me.

[Alfacuria]

Hey is social anxiety the same if you have depresiion or is it somewhat harder? cause i feel it is goodness.

[mcjamzie]

try the linden method i suffered with general anxiety random acts of panic for no reason scary scary stuff lol im pretty sure it works on all acts of anxiety tho so check it out. i tried the linden method thing didnt think it would work but it did and its a big relief :P its not free but you can get your money back if it doesnt work but you can just say it didnt i gues i just downloaded it i still have it if u want me to send it just message me

[juanalvy]

nice video bro, u seem well spoken and fine to me. keep it up

[pratinus]

at anxietyace . com it shows how to overcome anxiety

[sasuke2277]

i don't see how its possible to make friends with social anxiety disorder. I can't talk to people very easily. and i can't send the conversation to the other person.

[StupedKid]

its not impossible, anyone can make friends. Being shy and having social anxiety does make it a bit trickier, the advice I can give you on that would be join a gym, or some group activity where you can meet people with a similar interest, and just try striking up a conversation.

[Thejdogitsmorestreet]

@StupedKid Gyms are also good, because exercise is good for Social Anxiety and depression. I have to exercise a couple times a week or I'm just not the same person.

[Vf5rules1]

@StupedKid

I'm very shy. I just wish I could learn to express myself deeper. My trials is really worse.

[bennima]

@sasuke2277 Hi there i had the same problem as well , everytime i try to talk to someone i got really shy and even with my family , so i had to stop everytime i ask question coz i was thinking if i did embarre myself, I did not enjoy having conversation with someone and feel so discomfort all the time. Soon after i back to normal cycle shutting myself again :/

[killingheroes]

@sasuke2277 I find it relatively easy to make friends, it's keeping them that's the hard part. I can go out and be sociable once every blue moon but it drains all my energy and I end up locking myself away for months afterwards. I find forcing myself to be sociable is pretty counter productive and just strengthens my feelings of social anxiety.

[StupedKid]

It's only chaos if you focus and distort certain aspects, most of which aren't true.

For example, you are dealing with it, from what I can see from your comment in a negative way. You do have a future, it is whatever you, not your disorder, make for yourself.

[WhiteMamba8to24]

Did you ever feel like you talked to yourself, when you didnt? Or feel like people hated you for no reason?

[WhiteMamba8to24]

I sucks so bad, how do you deal with it...or have you beat it? Im so glad im not alone...but At the same time I dont wish this upon anybody!

[YouKnowWhereThisEnds]

I don't deal with it.

I don't see much of a future for myself.

The chaos of everything doesn't suit my problems.

[bobbins05]

Hey buddy i suffered with this crap for best part of 4 years and had'nt left my house for 2 years, it Does go away and you can beat it mate im living proof ! get CBT !

[exotic1881]

omg that's exactly how i feel :(

[bobbins05]

hey man i know u posted that along time ago but i just finished some therapy and i have a good way to look at what you said.

My therapist called it "an intrusive thought" , LIke when you forget a song name then all of a sudden you go BAM and remember it.

So its natural but your not looking at it as "creativity" but as a negative anxiety provoking thing. hope this helps buddy

[kissmeimbipolar]

Wow, you are just adorable! Will you be my bf?

[happ2beme]

Your so right about what meds do. They help curve the symptoms so you can handle yourself a little better in social situations. I'm 45 year old man living with S.A.D.

[kiarky]

u look abit like kevin federline

[StupedKid]

hmm thats a new one

[2FERGIE7]

Read Eckhart Tolle's book "The power of Now" it will solve all your problems.

[KingdomUploader]

Hopeful and positive advice you have given; that took courage and showed that you have a compassionate heart. That tells me you are truly walking in Love which is the way our creator God intended us to live. Keep on reaching out to others and it will also speed your own healing. Let the Peace of God Rule Your Heart and Mind! be seeing you

[shiiuza]

Thanks for your video... I have been considering medication, but besides that, it's really helpful to see others working through such things... I have always suffered from anxiety disorders which have held me back for too long. It gives me hope that I too can get through it.

Plus, I've always wanted to go to an Anime convention. ^_^

[StupedKid]

My first anime convention was so tough,I threw up the night before. But I went again this year and had a blast!

Something I've adopted is being eccentric, for instance I wear a vintage replica WW1 pilots helmet (the old leather kind) like a baseball cap. That way I know I don't have to fear unwarranted attention, because I bring it on myself, which puts me in control. It's a wierd mindgame but it works :)

[shiiuza]

That's actually a great idea! Mindgames can work wonders, haha. I'm struggling with anxiety cause horse show season is coming up (I ride horses) and I always get super nervous, especially because your nerves make the 1,000lb animal under you nervous. x)

But that's awesome that you went and had tons of fun! I always wanted to go as one of the girls from Haibane Renmei, not sure which one, though. x)

[XioJester]

that's funny, I thought I was the only person with anxiety I know who does that. I have been in a lot of bands too for that reason. I was on Klonipin for a few years and that little mindgame helped me out even more...I can't believe a lot of the things I have done when I look back. I'm off meds now, between doctors, but I can't wait to get back on em. I have tried everything, and all the mind tricks help out, but there's been no substitute for having meds handle the biological part.

[Jakeofjoy]

beta blocker + benzodiazepines. ssri does not help in my opinion

[azbill00]

Who pays for all of your medication? Are you on disability?

[damiancopado]

good video mate. clonazepam works wonders for me

[MooWithMetubes]

I decided to quit all my ssri medications...I am against them cause I got reallly sick going on and off them.. I smoke, cigarettes and weed and drink. My anxiety is pretty bad, I know how you feel man. Still on Klonopin though....the only thing that helps me!

[azbill00]

You need to get off all of that stuff before anyone can figure out what is wrong with you. Your brain is awash in drugs!

[PrincessAspen3]

I know exactly how you feel. I go through the same bs with anxiety.

by the way your cute =]

[ckkbleev]

Since I made that video, I've been doing better little by little but I could still feel my mind bogging me down. I'll think about taking medications a bit more but like you said, I'm going to have to talk to my doctor or see a psychiatrist.

[ckkbleev]

Thanks a lot for responding to my first social anxiety video. I really appreciate it. I'm sorry that I didn't watch it earlier, I just got a notification today in my email telling me that someone responded to one of my videos. But I totally understand what you are saying. I know for a fact that medications help after doing some research but it's just that I really want to beat this on my own without having to rely on something that is only temporary.

[whatinthenameofgod]

your hot

[crismalcolm]

Plus, my mother was on anti-depressants her entire life ... and seeing the adverse affects certain pills had upon her ... I just don't think it's for me. Interesting hearing your perspective, though.

[crismalcolm]

ANICON!! Yay!! That's awesome for you.

I'm really reticent about taking medications, too. It's not that I'm totally against mind-altering substances - I'm a pretty heavy drinker, to be honest. Haha. But the thought of taking something that alters my perceptions/feelings DAILY and constantly as opposed to temporarily ... I just don't know.

[StupedKid]

Yes the Anime Convention was a blast, but later on I did some research about recreational medication taking. And apparently the amount I took put me in quite the stupor, won't be doing that again. But yeah, the fear of "not being myself" was hard to overcome. What got me past it was knowing eventually I'd beat this problem, and be able to be drug free. This was just a 'for the time being' kinda thing.

[crismalcolm]

Rofl!'Quite a stupor', eh? Yeah, that's never fun.

Okay, when you put it that way - taking medications is a "just for the time being" sort of thing, it seems much less ... scary. Are you completely off medication now? If so, how is the transition from medicated to unmedicated? Does it lead to further setbacks? Seem harder once you're off medication?

[StupedKid]

Well, no I'm still on them, a lower dosage, so I'm working at that. The transition is over a long period of time, so like, you don't really notice that, and as for setbacks I haven't had any. As far as being off, well, when I crash at a friends house for a few days and go without my meds for like 2-3 days, plus a hangover my stomachs a little more sensitive and I get more anxious, however I can't really say for sure how much of that is due to the meds.

[kentuckyboi777]

Hey there Stuper,

I can tatally relate to you and others that have have posted here. I've had Social Anxiety disorder since 1996 and I've taken almost every anti-depressant known to man. All the SSRIs and the SNISs and some doctors put me on the a-typical Anti-psychotic meds like Zypreza,Seroquel and the list goes on. Then a Doctor actually gave me a prescription for Klonopin and it really helped, it wasn't lie a magic bullet but it helped. But,you do have to be really carefull with Klonopin.

[StupedKid]

Damn, that's quite the load of meds to go through. Glad you finally hit one that works for you, and hopefully it'll keep working for you.

[bangthatdrumb]

klonopin is wack.

[StupedKid]

Crippling fear is wacker, I promise.

[bangthatdrumb]

Not when you get hooked. Withdrawls just serve to amplify your anxiety ten fold as you constantly yo yo between doses.

[StupedKid]

I don't abuse, I just use.

[BigMikeflyDR]

I have SAD and am getting ready to get back on meds , I used to take Klonopin for 7 years and it worked well for a while but you do have to do therapy and meds together being closely monitored so you don't abuse your meds.

[StupedKid]

As soon as my psychiatrist told me it was addictive I almost didn't wanna take it, but I have it regimented into my day, and will use it on occasions where I'm panicked and feel I'm losing control, but I do have friends who use it recreationally. They always try to buy it from me, but I *actually* need it, but thank you for your concern, I'm very careful with my meds, and I hope your meds can help you to :)

[Cuzntime]

I suffered for 24 years and tried everything under the sun. I couldnt handle the side effects of any SSRI and could only handle Klonopin.. I tried Lucinda Bassets program along with The Linden Method and it didnt work either.. I finally discovered Claire Weekes and after applyng that for about 6-8 months, I have my life totally back again. Learning acceptance techniques is the key, even if you combine it with meds..

Good luck

[StupedKid]

Yeah accepting it is alot, I mean I'd lie if I said I wasn't hoping one of these pills I take is just gonna "cure" me. But I understand it's a part of me and acknowledge that while it's a part of my life, it is not my life.

[gallowspole]

what meds do you use?

[StupedKid]

Klonopin and Cymbalta, I've used others, but these seem to work best for me.