I'm a girl from denmark - and I was almost shocked at how you talked about porn as if it was a drug? In Denmark most people think that watching porn now and again is totally normal. I wouldn't be mad/sad/anything if my boyfriend watched some porn... I respect that you feel this way though, but don't let it get the better of you - him watching porn has NOTHING to do with how attracted he is to you. relax a little and cut him some slack
I agree with you all the way. It's sad how men say it's in their nature. So, God created men to disrespect women by watching porn? It makes us believe we are not good enough, and to those guys that watch porn, you have NO idea how much it hurts us emotionally. It makes our hearts ache and we can't even sleep. Can't you just respect women and love your lady like you should? I know there are amazing men out there that do not watch porn, don't lose hope, ladies. We will all find one. :)
You're a beautiful person, don't let the little things get to you. People who watch porn does not mean they abuse or have no respect for women. You're boyfriend watch porn because it's just the nature of men, it's like girls window shopping, he isn't cheating on you because of that, but if he starts to wander off, that is a different story. If you start controlling him and getting angry for little things like that then I know for a fact he won't be there for long, have fun don't get caught up.
@ethinger I respect my husband by not taking pleasure in looking at other men (as in pornography) and I expect the same from him. It's a meet-me-halfway kind of deal and I think it's very fair. It's the nature of women to look at other men as well, but we are not widely known for it. Whereas I don't think porn itself is disrespectful to women (a whore's gotta make money somehow), I believe a married man watching porn is disrespecting his wife. Porn is not a "little thing" to some people
@TheLadyShred getting mad at something so little is the reason why divorce rates are so high. Please enlighten me what is the big deal about watching porn? Is it the same if a women watches porn, it is disrespectful to men? Just curious.
@ethinger And if a man thinks porn is a "little thing" when his partner obviously feels the opposite, and he doesn't show any sign of compromising, he isn't worth keeping around - in my opinion. If my husband wants to hit me where it hurts, he'll let me find a porn site in his site history. (He'd be mad if I watched it to look at other men, so why should I let him?)
I don't need to get a grip. Our experiences with porn are obviously entirely different.
@TheLadyShred You need to get better self confidence, normal porn is harmless. Speaking of married men, I don't think you realize how many of them have affairs on the side. It is understandable though, when women get married they can't wait to FINALLY be able to eat and get fat. No wonder men are searching for porn online and affairs with younger girls in the real world. They want excitement again, married women turn into old, chubby, bickering monsters.. Not very exciting or turn-on.
@Barbiehoe I DO realize how many married men have affairs and that's VERY degrading to them as husbands. Same with women. And fyi - not all married women get fat and eat all the time. I care about my appearance - I work out and eat healthy and I am nowhere close to overweight (6 months pregnant with my 2nd child and only 126 pounds). My self-confidence is not low at all, mind you.
Though sounding by your name, I don't think taking advice from a "barbie hoe" would be a good idea anyways...
@TheLadyShred Of course not, I never said ALL women or men. Porn is still harmless, and girls who have problems with porn usually has self-confidence issues (which is also the case with the girl in this video). Porn is not a threat, it will become a threat if you begin to deny your boyfriend/husband to look at it.
Why would you not take advice from someone with a certain nickname? It's just a nickname (made when I was like 15 yrs old). At least I have understood that porn can be fun & helpful.
PORN IS AMUSEMENT. Its similar to playing games or listening music. Context is different, sexual. If I slaughter people on a computer screen on a daily basis does that mean I don't value human life? Your beliefs are fucked up. Porn, its not real life and if someone thinks it is, they are messed up from their heads.
I''be been in a similar situation though I don't think he was "addicted" but I felt like he was...it just hurts when you have so many negative feelings about yourself and you're projecting that into the porn. You make the porn about you when it's not, really....
I can't relate to your feelings on a personal level, particularly not having been in a proper relationship myself (that damn awkwardness deal, huh). Though, I am sorry to hear you have experienced this pain. Speaking for myself, if I knew my potential partner would be uncomfortable with the idea in the slightest - and I can certainly understand why - then there would need be no further explanation. I abhor emotional betrayal and duplicity above all else.
I'm a guy, and I can't say I haven't watched pornography, but I do find it a distasteful and unfortunate industry. There will always be those people who choose to enter it seemingly of their own volition but I can never stop wondering what would lead people to devalue themselves to such an extent. Perhaps different people have different values and morals, but it does still seem exploitative.
I'm married and we have "pornography"-problem.. When I realized that he cannot stop watching it I was so hurted. I felt that he needed more than me, somebody else, not me.
At some point he just told me that he doesn't do it anymore. He said that he knows what this means to me and he was "different man". I was so happy. Too happy..
After couple of mounths I asked him about this thing, he told me that he couldn't tell me earlier but he keeps doing it again. I hate this.
I'm married and we have "pornography"-problem.. When I realized that he cannot stop watching it I was so hurted. I felt that he needed more than me, somebody else, not me.
At some point he just told me that he doesn't do it anymore. He said that he knows what this means to me and he was "different man". I was so happy. Too happy..
After couple of mounths I asked him about this thing, he told me that he couldn't tell me earlier but he keeps doing it again. I hate this.
I'm married and we have "pornography"-problem.. When I realized that he cannot stop watching it I was so hurted. I felt that he needed more than me, somebody else, not me.
At some point he just told me that he doesn't do it anymore. He said that he knows what this means to me and he was "different man". I was so happy. Too happy..
After couple of mounths I asked him about this thing, he told me that he couldn't tell me earlier but he keeps doing it again. I hate this.
I'm married and we have "pornography"-problem.. When I realized that he cannot stop watching it I was so hurted. I felt that he needed more than me, somebody else, not me.
At some point he just told me that he doesn't do it anymore. He said that he knows what this means to me and he was "different man". I was so happy. Too happy..
After couple of mounths I asked him about this thing, he told me that he couldn't tell me earlier but he keeps doing it again. I hate this.
I'm married and we have "pornography"-problem.. When I realized that he cannot stop watching it I was so hurted. I felt that he needed more than me, somebody else, not me.
At some point he just told me that he doesn't do it anymore. He said that he knows what this means to me and he was "different man". I was so happy. Too happy..
After couple of mounths I asked him about this thing, he told me that he couldn't tell me earlier but he keeps doing it again. I hate this.
Girl I know how you feel - I am not one of those women that will just accept that all men watch porn. You're not crazy at all! I agree with you 100% and I was going through the same exact thing once - too many times really. As a matter of fact the whole experience has scarred me.
It does make us women feel "not good enough" when we find out that our b/f or husbands have been watching porn. Seeing and thinking IS the same as doing in our eyes. BE STRONG GIRL! you are an amazing person!
@TheLadyShred You and I seem to have a lot in common! (Taking into account your comments on my other videos as well lol.) You seem like a pretty cool person too, btw. Yeah, I am still scarred by these experiences too. I probably always will be as a matter of fact. I don't know if I can think of too many other things that hurt me as much as something like this does. It has all layers and levels of hurt in a girl's heart. It's an abominable, forbidden, don't-even-think-of-going-there type thing
@Paumonsu Upon no basis whatsoever can you speak for "all men." Heck there is even a guy who commented on this video and said he doesn't watch porn because he was raised that way and taught to respect women the way men ought to.
You know what honesty is such a lonely word, anyway porn is normal for guys well at-least if hes looking for chicks but if hes looking for gay video, well its a different story.
I'm a man and i don't watch porn. I was raised by a mother who was molested as a child, so she raised me to respect women. For this reason, I've always found porn to be disgusting and nothing less than abuse and exploitation. Too many girls just accept that guy's "need" it. We don't. A man's need for porn is inversely proportional to how much respect he has for women.
@SiK20z3 Wow, I never thought I would get a comment from a guy on this video who is actually against pornography... and doesn't look at it himself. I am really curious, though, as to what your mother did/said to make you grow up that way? If I keep my baby I want to know how to raise him (if it's a boy) to be a gentleman. I hate how people think porn is "normal" and sometimes even "healthy." What pure idiots. Thanks for the comment.
@SiK20z3 So what about girls who watch porn? Are they all abused and have daddy issues? Lol. You are delusional. Both men and women watch porn, it has nothing to do with low or no respect for women. It is definitely a business where exploitation of women take place, but most of the female talent are in it because they want to. It is typical that insecure girls will get offended and deeply hurt after finding out that their boyfriends watch porn. Girls like that need to get better self esteem.
@SiK20z3 well how about amateur porn, couples who upload videos of themselves having sex,not for money they just like the idea of other people watching them, who is this exploiting? another thing i dont see where respect comes into this, but if it does, surely the women who star in pornography are to be respected even less. also does watching porn mean you support the exploitation of women? if u buy clothes from nike do u support child labour. btw im sure that you r really a woman
I am so sorry for what happen to you. It seems that you are really confuse of what is happening in your relationship. I would suggest to take a break from relationship and pursue what you want to achieve. About porn, a lot of guys do look at porn. And biologically, they are more of animal (in sex) than women. But if this particular issue has made you hurt, then he might not be guy. You are good enough dear. Don't ever let any guy made you feel less than what you are.
i agree with you and think pornography is absolutely disgusting... its just that no one should have to accept something so much against who they are and how they feel. please don't act out the pain on yourself... my binges were often from guilt (someone close to me repeatedly hurt me and i did not have the strength to hold it against him). Let him know how much it hurt and angered you. If he loves you, knowing how upset you are may help him overcome his addiction.*
I can't believe this slipped my mind, but I forgot to mention... Because my bf at the time was a porn addict, he objectified women and also, in turn, me. He told me he wanted me to get breast implants and be skinnier, to look like the girls he liked in porn. He wanted me to do the things they do. While my binge eating was under control at this stage in my life, I was not skinny, merely "thin." This is how my ED began, soon after I developed a very severe eating disorder...
(cont) One thing I want to make clear though, is that my ED is NOT my ex-bf's fault. It is a result of many things, primarily my own insecurities, that while were perpetuated by my ex-bf, they weren't caused by him. I cannot blame his porn addiction on my ED, it was merely the straw that broke the camel's back. Had I been a mentally stable and healthy person, and he said those things to me, I would've told him to fuck off and never listened or took anything he said to heart.
Anyway, more to come from me to you hopefully in the next week. I want to share with you my journey from my binge eating days because I can relate and I really hope that you don't go down the same road as me... I hope you get some rest soon and that everything works out for you. (I admit I've only watched half your vid before I decided to comment because I needed to get this out to you, so I'm off to finish it now.) Take care!
(cont) So I understand what you're going through and how you feel. While I'm more secure nowadays and don't feel that pornography is a betrayal of... well, I don't feel that it's "unfaithful" in a relationship anymore... I am still anti-porn. For many reasons. And my boyfriend at that time, the main problem wasn't even my insecurity and the "cheating" (I considered porn cheating) but it was the addiction. He was absolutely addicted, it was horrible.
(cont.) You remind me a lot of the feelings I had when I was 17-19. My ED actually started out with binge eating episodes as well, after deprivation... And I also never understood triggers but nevermind, that's what my vid response is going to be about.
I wanted to comment on this vid because when I was 18-19 I dated a guy addicted to pornography and it destroyed me. To this day all the lies and betrayal is the worst pain I've ever experienced.
I've been watching all your videos in order and I came across this one and I already wanted to make you a video response to a previous video, but I felt like I have to type something brief out here, at least. (Video response to come when I get the time! But not to this vid... I'll send you a longer private msg when I get the time to this one.)
Hey sweetie, It also hurts my heart that guys enjoy porn so much. However, I've gotten a little past it by just accepting that while not ALL guys look at porn, MOST do...you have to pick your battles and worrying about porn shouldn't be one of them. I'd rather have a man who is faithful to me, but looks at porn sometimes then a man who cheats. As long as it's not an addiction, it's kinda harmless. If you believe your bf is not cheating, cut him some slack on the porn thing... :)
Porn isn't a bad thing. Looking at porn does not mean the person has a problem. If a person spends all the time looking at porn, fine, that is a problem. But porn in general is not bad when a adult is viewing such content to release pent up sexual tension. Most men view porn and it does not mean they like a girlfriend any less if they view such content.
Some women have sex toys and most men don't think a woman is going to marry the sex toy. We all need to release sexual tension somehow.
Sex toys are objects, women aren't. They are human beings, but not in porn. Pornography only perpetuates the idea that the objectification of women is okay, which it is not,
An alarming percentage of women in porn have been abused... and still are being abused and degraded in the makings of the videos. It's exploitation at it's finest.
If you're interested I can discuss this more and cite sources, sorry this comment lacks sources, I am a bit rushed for time.
I do agree with you on the other points though, that viewing porn has nothing to do with how a guy feelings toward his girlfriend. He has no feelings for the girls in porn (hence the objectification). I only disagree that porn is not a bad thing, I think it is, but for different reasons (like my above comment.)
I'm a girl from denmark - and I was almost shocked at how you talked about porn as if it was a drug? In Denmark most people think that watching porn now and again is totally normal. I wouldn't be mad/sad/anything if my boyfriend watched some porn... I respect that you feel this way though, but don't let it get the better of you - him watching porn has NOTHING to do with how attracted he is to you. relax a little and cut him some slack
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helloimzoearielle 1 month ago
I agree with you all the way. It's sad how men say it's in their nature. So, God created men to disrespect women by watching porn? It makes us believe we are not good enough, and to those guys that watch porn, you have NO idea how much it hurts us emotionally. It makes our hearts ache and we can't even sleep. Can't you just respect women and love your lady like you should? I know there are amazing men out there that do not watch porn, don't lose hope, ladies. We will all find one. :)
Lunaria131313 8 months ago
You're a beautiful person, don't let the little things get to you. People who watch porn does not mean they abuse or have no respect for women. You're boyfriend watch porn because it's just the nature of men, it's like girls window shopping, he isn't cheating on you because of that, but if he starts to wander off, that is a different story. If you start controlling him and getting angry for little things like that then I know for a fact he won't be there for long, have fun don't get caught up.
ethinger 8 months ago
@ethinger I respect my husband by not taking pleasure in looking at other men (as in pornography) and I expect the same from him. It's a meet-me-halfway kind of deal and I think it's very fair. It's the nature of women to look at other men as well, but we are not widely known for it. Whereas I don't think porn itself is disrespectful to women (a whore's gotta make money somehow), I believe a married man watching porn is disrespecting his wife. Porn is not a "little thing" to some people
TheLadyShred 8 months ago
@TheLadyShred getting mad at something so little is the reason why divorce rates are so high. Please enlighten me what is the big deal about watching porn? Is it the same if a women watches porn, it is disrespectful to men? Just curious.
ethinger 8 months ago
@ethinger And if a man thinks porn is a "little thing" when his partner obviously feels the opposite, and he doesn't show any sign of compromising, he isn't worth keeping around - in my opinion. If my husband wants to hit me where it hurts, he'll let me find a porn site in his site history. (He'd be mad if I watched it to look at other men, so why should I let him?)
I don't need to get a grip. Our experiences with porn are obviously entirely different.
TheLadyShred 8 months ago
@TheLadyShred You need to get better self confidence, normal porn is harmless. Speaking of married men, I don't think you realize how many of them have affairs on the side. It is understandable though, when women get married they can't wait to FINALLY be able to eat and get fat. No wonder men are searching for porn online and affairs with younger girls in the real world. They want excitement again, married women turn into old, chubby, bickering monsters.. Not very exciting or turn-on.
Barbiehoe 3 months ago
@Barbiehoe I DO realize how many married men have affairs and that's VERY degrading to them as husbands. Same with women. And fyi - not all married women get fat and eat all the time. I care about my appearance - I work out and eat healthy and I am nowhere close to overweight (6 months pregnant with my 2nd child and only 126 pounds). My self-confidence is not low at all, mind you.
Though sounding by your name, I don't think taking advice from a "barbie hoe" would be a good idea anyways...
TheLadyShred 3 months ago
@TheLadyShred Of course not, I never said ALL women or men. Porn is still harmless, and girls who have problems with porn usually has self-confidence issues (which is also the case with the girl in this video). Porn is not a threat, it will become a threat if you begin to deny your boyfriend/husband to look at it.
Why would you not take advice from someone with a certain nickname? It's just a nickname (made when I was like 15 yrs old). At least I have understood that porn can be fun & helpful.
Barbiehoe 3 months ago
PORN IS AMUSEMENT. Its similar to playing games or listening music. Context is different, sexual. If I slaughter people on a computer screen on a daily basis does that mean I don't value human life? Your beliefs are fucked up. Porn, its not real life and if someone thinks it is, they are messed up from their heads.
TheFinlandnator 8 months ago
quit shaming guys for our need to ejaculate. get off your high horses
secretstream4 10 months ago
I''be been in a similar situation though I don't think he was "addicted" but I felt like he was...it just hurts when you have so many negative feelings about yourself and you're projecting that into the porn. You make the porn about you when it's not, really....
but I have mixed feelings about porn...*sigh*
perkygothgurl 10 months ago
wow were alot alike!
MissSarahJoy1 1 year ago
I can't relate to your feelings on a personal level, particularly not having been in a proper relationship myself (that damn awkwardness deal, huh). Though, I am sorry to hear you have experienced this pain. Speaking for myself, if I knew my potential partner would be uncomfortable with the idea in the slightest - and I can certainly understand why - then there would need be no further explanation. I abhor emotional betrayal and duplicity above all else.
Harkz0r 1 year ago
I'm a guy, and I can't say I haven't watched pornography, but I do find it a distasteful and unfortunate industry. There will always be those people who choose to enter it seemingly of their own volition but I can never stop wondering what would lead people to devalue themselves to such an extent. Perhaps different people have different values and morals, but it does still seem exploitative.
Harkz0r 1 year ago
2:40 NOT MAD. JUST JELLY.
DarkTripYT 1 year ago
@DarkTripYT Jelly? What the fuck. If you mean jealous, you are delusional.
Kaufmann08 1 year ago
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DarkTripYT 1 year ago
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I know feel your pain. :(
I'm married and we have "pornography"-problem.. When I realized that he cannot stop watching it I was so hurted. I felt that he needed more than me, somebody else, not me.
At some point he just told me that he doesn't do it anymore. He said that he knows what this means to me and he was "different man". I was so happy. Too happy..
After couple of mounths I asked him about this thing, he told me that he couldn't tell me earlier but he keeps doing it again. I hate this.
nomoregreatideas4me 1 year ago
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I know feel your pain. :(
I'm married and we have "pornography"-problem.. When I realized that he cannot stop watching it I was so hurted. I felt that he needed more than me, somebody else, not me.
At some point he just told me that he doesn't do it anymore. He said that he knows what this means to me and he was "different man". I was so happy. Too happy..
After couple of mounths I asked him about this thing, he told me that he couldn't tell me earlier but he keeps doing it again. I hate this.
nomoregreatideas4me 1 year ago
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I know feel your pain. :(
I'm married and we have "pornography"-problem.. When I realized that he cannot stop watching it I was so hurted. I felt that he needed more than me, somebody else, not me.
At some point he just told me that he doesn't do it anymore. He said that he knows what this means to me and he was "different man". I was so happy. Too happy..
After couple of mounths I asked him about this thing, he told me that he couldn't tell me earlier but he keeps doing it again. I hate this.
nomoregreatideas4me 1 year ago
I know feel your pain. :(
I'm married and we have "pornography"-problem.. When I realized that he cannot stop watching it I was so hurted. I felt that he needed more than me, somebody else, not me.
At some point he just told me that he doesn't do it anymore. He said that he knows what this means to me and he was "different man". I was so happy. Too happy..
After couple of mounths I asked him about this thing, he told me that he couldn't tell me earlier but he keeps doing it again. I hate this.
nomoregreatideas4me 1 year ago
I know feel your pain. :(
I'm married and we have "pornography"-problem.. When I realized that he cannot stop watching it I was so hurted. I felt that he needed more than me, somebody else, not me.
At some point he just told me that he doesn't do it anymore. He said that he knows what this means to me and he was "different man". I was so happy. Too happy..
After couple of mounths I asked him about this thing, he told me that he couldn't tell me earlier but he keeps doing it again. I hate this.
nomoregreatideas4me 1 year ago
Girl I know how you feel - I am not one of those women that will just accept that all men watch porn. You're not crazy at all! I agree with you 100% and I was going through the same exact thing once - too many times really. As a matter of fact the whole experience has scarred me.
It does make us women feel "not good enough" when we find out that our b/f or husbands have been watching porn. Seeing and thinking IS the same as doing in our eyes. BE STRONG GIRL! you are an amazing person!
TheLadyShred 1 year ago 2
@TheLadyShred You and I seem to have a lot in common! (Taking into account your comments on my other videos as well lol.) You seem like a pretty cool person too, btw. Yeah, I am still scarred by these experiences too. I probably always will be as a matter of fact. I don't know if I can think of too many other things that hurt me as much as something like this does. It has all layers and levels of hurt in a girl's heart. It's an abominable, forbidden, don't-even-think-of-going-there type thing
Kaufmann08 1 year ago
@TheLadyShred holy shite man, get a grip gurl... lol
ethinger 8 months ago
LOL. All men watch porn videos. Don't be stupid to get angry for something like that
Paumonsu 1 year ago
@Paumonsu actually real men don't watch porn. It's not a natural thing and is especially a disrespectful thing in a relationship.
ARKdrummer 1 year ago
@ARKdrummer Well, my exGF watched porn too, she got new ideas we could make in bed. How is that disrespectful?
Paumonsu 1 year ago
@Paumonsu I feel that it's disrespectful because a couple should be learning things together, not getting ideas from some horrible film or pictures
ARKdrummer 1 year ago 2
@Paumonsu Upon no basis whatsoever can you speak for "all men." Heck there is even a guy who commented on this video and said he doesn't watch porn because he was raised that way and taught to respect women the way men ought to.
Kaufmann08 1 year ago 9
You know what honesty is such a lonely word, anyway porn is normal for guys well at-least if hes looking for chicks but if hes looking for gay video, well its a different story.
kentignore 1 year ago
I'm a man and i don't watch porn. I was raised by a mother who was molested as a child, so she raised me to respect women. For this reason, I've always found porn to be disgusting and nothing less than abuse and exploitation. Too many girls just accept that guy's "need" it. We don't. A man's need for porn is inversely proportional to how much respect he has for women.
SiK20z3 1 year ago 22
@SiK20z3 Wow, I never thought I would get a comment from a guy on this video who is actually against pornography... and doesn't look at it himself. I am really curious, though, as to what your mother did/said to make you grow up that way? If I keep my baby I want to know how to raise him (if it's a boy) to be a gentleman. I hate how people think porn is "normal" and sometimes even "healthy." What pure idiots. Thanks for the comment.
Kaufmann08 1 year ago
@Kaufmann08 I sent you a message. My comment got a bit too lengthy. Take care of yourself :)
SiK20z3 1 year ago
@SiK20z3 So what about girls who watch porn? Are they all abused and have daddy issues? Lol. You are delusional. Both men and women watch porn, it has nothing to do with low or no respect for women. It is definitely a business where exploitation of women take place, but most of the female talent are in it because they want to. It is typical that insecure girls will get offended and deeply hurt after finding out that their boyfriends watch porn. Girls like that need to get better self esteem.
Barbiehoe 3 months ago
@SiK20z3 well how about amateur porn, couples who upload videos of themselves having sex,not for money they just like the idea of other people watching them, who is this exploiting? another thing i dont see where respect comes into this, but if it does, surely the women who star in pornography are to be respected even less. also does watching porn mean you support the exploitation of women? if u buy clothes from nike do u support child labour. btw im sure that you r really a woman
asdffdsafdsa123 1 week ago
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Watching pornography is like releasing a steam valve.
Solthiel 2 years ago
Honey,
I am so sorry for what happen to you. It seems that you are really confuse of what is happening in your relationship. I would suggest to take a break from relationship and pursue what you want to achieve. About porn, a lot of guys do look at porn. And biologically, they are more of animal (in sex) than women. But if this particular issue has made you hurt, then he might not be guy. You are good enough dear. Don't ever let any guy made you feel less than what you are.
moderate44 2 years ago
i agree with you and think pornography is absolutely disgusting... its just that no one should have to accept something so much against who they are and how they feel. please don't act out the pain on yourself... my binges were often from guilt (someone close to me repeatedly hurt me and i did not have the strength to hold it against him). Let him know how much it hurt and angered you. If he loves you, knowing how upset you are may help him overcome his addiction.*
PinkCompass 2 years ago
xoxo
SarahSparxxx 2 years ago
I can't believe this slipped my mind, but I forgot to mention... Because my bf at the time was a porn addict, he objectified women and also, in turn, me. He told me he wanted me to get breast implants and be skinnier, to look like the girls he liked in porn. He wanted me to do the things they do. While my binge eating was under control at this stage in my life, I was not skinny, merely "thin." This is how my ED began, soon after I developed a very severe eating disorder...
nonamavi 2 years ago 2
(cont) One thing I want to make clear though, is that my ED is NOT my ex-bf's fault. It is a result of many things, primarily my own insecurities, that while were perpetuated by my ex-bf, they weren't caused by him. I cannot blame his porn addiction on my ED, it was merely the straw that broke the camel's back. Had I been a mentally stable and healthy person, and he said those things to me, I would've told him to fuck off and never listened or took anything he said to heart.
nonamavi 2 years ago
Anyway, more to come from me to you hopefully in the next week. I want to share with you my journey from my binge eating days because I can relate and I really hope that you don't go down the same road as me... I hope you get some rest soon and that everything works out for you. (I admit I've only watched half your vid before I decided to comment because I needed to get this out to you, so I'm off to finish it now.) Take care!
- Aprille
nonamavi 2 years ago
(cont) So I understand what you're going through and how you feel. While I'm more secure nowadays and don't feel that pornography is a betrayal of... well, I don't feel that it's "unfaithful" in a relationship anymore... I am still anti-porn. For many reasons. And my boyfriend at that time, the main problem wasn't even my insecurity and the "cheating" (I considered porn cheating) but it was the addiction. He was absolutely addicted, it was horrible.
nonamavi 2 years ago
(cont.) You remind me a lot of the feelings I had when I was 17-19. My ED actually started out with binge eating episodes as well, after deprivation... And I also never understood triggers but nevermind, that's what my vid response is going to be about.
I wanted to comment on this vid because when I was 18-19 I dated a guy addicted to pornography and it destroyed me. To this day all the lies and betrayal is the worst pain I've ever experienced.
nonamavi 2 years ago
I've been watching all your videos in order and I came across this one and I already wanted to make you a video response to a previous video, but I felt like I have to type something brief out here, at least. (Video response to come when I get the time! But not to this vid... I'll send you a longer private msg when I get the time to this one.)
nonamavi 2 years ago
I completely agree with you in regards to pornography. I do find it vulgar, and it's hard to accept the fact that men do look at it.
Either way, I do wish you all the best.
delicatepetals 2 years ago
Hey sweetie, It also hurts my heart that guys enjoy porn so much. However, I've gotten a little past it by just accepting that while not ALL guys look at porn, MOST do...you have to pick your battles and worrying about porn shouldn't be one of them. I'd rather have a man who is faithful to me, but looks at porn sometimes then a man who cheats. As long as it's not an addiction, it's kinda harmless. If you believe your bf is not cheating, cut him some slack on the porn thing... :)
bela712 2 years ago
I agree with this one; don't let it worry you too much
pwneee 2 years ago
Porn isn't a bad thing. Looking at porn does not mean the person has a problem. If a person spends all the time looking at porn, fine, that is a problem. But porn in general is not bad when a adult is viewing such content to release pent up sexual tension. Most men view porn and it does not mean they like a girlfriend any less if they view such content.
Some women have sex toys and most men don't think a woman is going to marry the sex toy. We all need to release sexual tension somehow.
ogrish84 2 years ago
Sex toys are objects, women aren't. They are human beings, but not in porn. Pornography only perpetuates the idea that the objectification of women is okay, which it is not,
An alarming percentage of women in porn have been abused... and still are being abused and degraded in the makings of the videos. It's exploitation at it's finest.
If you're interested I can discuss this more and cite sources, sorry this comment lacks sources, I am a bit rushed for time.
nonamavi 2 years ago 10
I do agree with you on the other points though, that viewing porn has nothing to do with how a guy feelings toward his girlfriend. He has no feelings for the girls in porn (hence the objectification). I only disagree that porn is not a bad thing, I think it is, but for different reasons (like my above comment.)
nonamavi 2 years ago 2