Hi, I'm Branden and as a Transgender myself ,you are completely correct that one of the biggest misconceptions are once either it be your family,friends or whoever finds out that you are a Transsexual or Transgendered, they immediately write you off as a straight or heterolsexual person. And although I am a Straight Trans Guy myself, I think another misconception is where once you tell them they identify you to themselves as either a man/woman of 'Cross Dressering'. -Branden
Odd,.. i have seen pretty much all of your videos but ive never seen this one.
The biggest misconception for me is the one you mentioned in the video, that all transsexuals are into men... the reason why is coz thats the biggest reason why it took me so long to find out what has been going on inside of me all my life, and why i dismissed the idea of me being transsexual. I still wish every day that i never had gotten stuck with getting to know myself coz of that misconeception.
I think your insights are awesome! I agree that the first reponse is (in our case) is that we want to be with men. In theory that would mean we are gay and if that were the case I guess life might be easier or simplier in a manner of speaking,LOL
Of course that would not be the case.
My greaTEST FEAR IS BEING CONSIDERED A FREAK.
Apparently being transgfendered goes against everything in the bible?
There have been transgender folks around for thousands of years!!!
just ran across your videos. gosh you're gorgeous. also smart and articulate and awesome. sweet.
anyway biggest misconceptions?
(1) that transitioning = having "a sex change operation." So wrong on so many levels.
(2) that all trans people have the same narrative of "I've known since I was three that I was in the wrong body, plus I've always liked the activities stereotypically associated with my chosen gender." Also entirely false.
Thanks a lot for the video. I assume most people really have no clue that gender identity and sexual orientation are unrelated for the same human being. :)
wow u come a long way, I saw you at 1st event. i will be running that 2010, I hope i see you there again.
email me or give me your email , I like to talk 2 you, u r very educated in this subgect & in general, I usualy dont talk to some folks they think is all about sex, Not at all, & my girlfirend can tell ya. c-u soon.
tha's a question i alway's get ask by people all tha time? end i tell them tha biend transgender is not all about bien or liking something els but bien who? you are tha's what is inportan no matter what thay thing of you or me?? we are who? we become tha make us happy only then can we live are life happy whit out bien scare how we will look or what will thay think about us? but becoming you is tha only thing tha's make life so.. beautyful about you to walk out end be free as bird..?
well most transgenders are into woman but , I figer myself that if your transgender why not be into men and not woman becaues once it cut off your body logically your a woman right ? hell that gives my odds alot better chance of getting laid . am I right or close ?
i HATE being a guy but i LOVE women id date a guy if i wanted. Who cares lol but ppl should do what they want with who they want as long as their happy and havin fun
it makes you happy then am happy . but i still stand by what i say , hell if being with a woman makes you happy thats cool, but i am trying to say is that woman who went though that change and became woman physically would you want to be with a man instead of a woman ?
if i like rock music now then ill like it if i was a woman.... and i never heard of anyones sexuallity changing, some girls like girls and some men like men, gender doesnt change who you like.
Some misconceptions folks have: One is, like you said, they think it means your into dudes; Another is that crossdressing and transitioning are both not "natural" things and that they're somehow wrong; a third is that all transgenders/transsexuals are either dudes in drag with 5 O'Clock shadow, or butch girls in guys clothing. And lastly is, people think that being transgendered/transsexual means that you're "weird" and not happy, when you're probably more normal and happy than they are.
For me, the biggest misconception over the years has been that transsexuals are all either six foot girls with a five o'clock shadow or drag queens. Simply put, they're all freaks. If I had realized how wrong that was years ago, I would probably be happy now as the woman I should be instead of just starting to realize that I am a woman inside.
I have already left a comment on another video but just wanted to say again that you look so great as a human being of course!! so bright and strong and sexy. I am hetero (so far) but women like you leave me with doubts! you have it all !Kisses from Sao Paulo
"Transsexual lesbian feminists rape women" - Sappho by Surgery, Janice Raymond
Apparently transsexual lesbian feminists are tying to access the strong feminine power of G-Girls. In essence, transsexuality is a form of manifested female jealousy.
Which is, frankly, bollucks. What is wrong with these misinformed theorists that cannot seperate gender and sexuality??
That anyone who ever engaged in any type of gender non-conformity is or will be transsexual.
Basically everything in the book "The Man Who Would be Queen"
To quote my mother "Why would he want to be a woman if he wants to date women? He can just date women as a man." No idea what to say to that. I've tried telling her that it's not about who you want to date but it just seems to be too much for her (and a lot of other people) to comprehend.
Unfortunately, most misconceptions of us TS people are pure generalizations. Like in all other classes of humankind, if people would just get to know us, as fellow human beings, they just might be surprised at how decent, intelligent, and sweet some of us can be. It is the stereotype of transsexuals that bothers me the most.
You are really a pretty lady! You have an amazing smile btw. I would love to comment on what you said but to engrossed in THE KNIFE to hear :P, only the greatest band ever! :D Have a good day!
Ever seen the anime Cowboy Bebop? There's a scene where the main character visits a place with no women, and he runs across a cross dressing sex worker. I think that the image presented there is pretty much what people think about when they think of trans people.
I don't think that most people understand that this is a medically real situation.
Doctors classify it as gender identity disorder or transsexualism depending on the degree. It is classified as a mental disorder, but that is not well fitting both because physical intersex conditions and other medical variation may lead to gender dysphoria and because "Behaviors that would be ordinary or even exemplary for gender-conforming boys and girls are presented as symptomatic of mental disorder for gender nonconforming children." (Kelley Winthers, PhD)
Wow. There were a lot of big words in that comment. It makes me umm want to make brain smarter. However, after reading through it several times I believe that this is just one "disorder" that will stay within the DSM for years to come just as homosexuality was for the first 3 volumes. I do not believe in calling it a disorder. That just seems more insulting than anything else, and until people learn the details and stop listening to misconceptions, it'll unfortunately continue.
but i'm not totally negative toward people, i'm just sick of shows like tyra banks showing the hot ts girls, and then making the public think we are all dream girls or something (even if we are pretty, i don't think it's good to become arrogant), it is stupid. but my doctor (dr. reed in miami), once said "tolerance isn't a natural skill, it's learned", and I do agree with him on that. the problem is people having knee-jerk reactions instead of thinking about the human they are treating as object
i do feel some people do change, but things like this have been around for a long time. people only change because of the media shows casting ts in a good light sometime. also people judge upon appearances. i find alot of people talk about how "bad they used to think ts were" until they meet me. i can respect that if they are sincere, but i can see most of it is superficial because the same people that were making fun of me when i started transition are now trying to get into my panties
Sometimes I feel that way, but I have enlightened a few people and once they got it I felt pretty good in knowing that they will probably not discriminate and may pass on the knowledge.
Devaloki - I know it seems that way AND feels that way sometimes. The truth is people are misinformed by parents and media and then fuelled by the restlesness of puberty then polarised in young adulthood. They are truly acting on the information they have and to them they are right according to that info. Just because it is wrong doesnt mean its wrong for them and they know no better.
The power to change takes knowledge and communication.
one i haven't had personally, but i hear about, is that we do it because we think it's erotic or something, i think this's mostly because of the jerry springer show, that show is just messed up and promotes way too many stereotypes
As you said, the biggest misconception is that with gender change somes sexual preferance change.. Just this last week, when I was at my voice therapist, she asked me "what strong sexy hunk of man do I like". The idea is to get me to engage in conversation with my
new voice, but just shows how for some people, if I am transitioning to be a woman,
Yeah, no-one seems to realise you have to be certified sane to get the go ahead for transition, well here in Oz anywayz, and shrinks can be the toughest of critics too!
It's really stupid how so many morons consider transexual women to be gay men. If a hetero. man loses his penis does that make him a woman? "No" So then why just because an otherwise total biological female still has male genitalia would that not make her a woman? "Uhh..I don't know" This shows how the shitheads base gender entirely on genitals in one case, but not in the other. You wouldn't believe how many dumbasses gave the same responses. (Charlotte still looks hot by the way) (Reow)
i cant make a huge comment on this as everyone has just about everything....all i want to say is Whether you are transgendered, gay, bi, etc....you are a people that is worthwhile in this world and i commend you all for being here and making the world worth living in....so thank you to you all
I've been tracking this post since it was started and have idly sat by and read what everyone has responded with.
I try my damnest not to dwell on anything negative regarding Gay/Lesbian or Transpeople. Especially what society may say or think. However in regards to MtF women, "SoapChemeist" has struck the nail on the head with the final line of their post; "Why is it society would rather have a suicidally depressed male, over a transwoman who is a productive and happy?"
the biggest ever misconception about transsexuality and I think transgenderism in general? "Why did you choose to become a woman" or "When did you decide to become a woman" or "How do you like being a woman". People. It was never a choice unless the choices are "Be miserable" or "Be natural" it was never "Do I want to be a boy or do i want to be a girl". Transgendered people transition to be who they -really- are not to put on some act. Peace, love and happiness.
4 Want to start trouble by confusing straight men.
5 Just confused crossdressers.
This small list of replies came after I told them several times, "No. Seriously." It amazes me how uneducated people are if these are there answers based on what they "really" know. Shameful infact. Unwilling to learn is even worse.
I would have said the one you mentioned about sexuality vs gender identity. I would also say that there is a misconception that trans people (this also applies to my experience as a gay person) are the way they are because of sexual abuse. There is some kind of trauma that happened and thus we are messed up or something.
The question I have been asked numerous times... "Was there some trauma or anger against your father or step-father that made you simply not want to be male anymore?"
My replies have varied, but all are a resounding "no, not relevant". I have also been asked, "Aren't a gay man in denial?" NO! Gender identity is wholly different from sexual orientation. Period.
Why is it society would rather have a suicidally depressed male, over a transwoman who is a productive and happy?
The biggest one I find is that just because, we are overly fim or flamboy. Im going to keep it reall on my comment and hope nobody gets affended. That just because, I want every Dick !!! Even some old ass fart, thinks that. Just because, NOT!!!!!!!!!!. Going more deeper without stirring any trouble. Just because Im trans and Hispanic, Im a shady cha cha queen... Not!!! Im actually Italian... So Just because. I don't give a great big FUCK.... ((HUGS))) Daniella AKA MS REAL
The one that I get is even though I had the final surgery it is just a facade that a gay man is wearing and to some still a "he" even though I look great. Extremely insulting! God! So many ignorant people and the feat of educating people never ends!
We are complex human beings with our own unique identities. The world has begun to open it's eyes to the gender diversity that exists among us. The opportunities for gender expression today are evolving at an astonishing rate.
One that I've been hearing is how we are so mentally deranged that we could fly off the handle at any moment and become a serious danger to society. Yeah right...
A large misconception that I have heard is that being transgender or transexual is a fetish that people engage in for sexual stimulation. My parents had this misconception strongly engraved in their mind when I first came out to them as being TG and they had difficulty letting go of it. Lucky, they love me and did some research of their own and found out that they were wrong. Thank you Charlotte for helping fight ignorance!
Everyone here already mentioned the ones that came to my head within a second. I guess I could add another misconception would be that we all have HIV or AIDS.
I would think that a large misconception is that that homosexuality,transgender,and transexual are the the same, or at the very least too closely related!
It's all gay shit. That's what I hear. Or at least, that's what I heard. I don't hear that anymore. I guess that's what happens when you come out. Some of my friends stopped being honest with me.
You're absolutely gorgeous.
Don't let anyone get you down, kay? <3
EasilyDistLOOKABIRDY 1 year ago
Hi, I'm Branden and as a Transgender myself ,you are completely correct that one of the biggest misconceptions are once either it be your family,friends or whoever finds out that you are a Transsexual or Transgendered, they immediately write you off as a straight or heterolsexual person. And although I am a Straight Trans Guy myself, I think another misconception is where once you tell them they identify you to themselves as either a man/woman of 'Cross Dressering'. -Branden
TylynnBoi105 1 year ago
Odd,.. i have seen pretty much all of your videos but ive never seen this one.
The biggest misconception for me is the one you mentioned in the video, that all transsexuals are into men... the reason why is coz thats the biggest reason why it took me so long to find out what has been going on inside of me all my life, and why i dismissed the idea of me being transsexual. I still wish every day that i never had gotten stuck with getting to know myself coz of that misconeception.
MsFlexxy 1 year ago
I have several diferent transgender friends who like girls or are bi or just like guys just as there are gay /bi or hetrosexual guys
1luvhot 1 year ago
I think your insights are awesome! I agree that the first reponse is (in our case) is that we want to be with men. In theory that would mean we are gay and if that were the case I guess life might be easier or simplier in a manner of speaking,LOL
Of course that would not be the case.
My greaTEST FEAR IS BEING CONSIDERED A FREAK.
Apparently being transgfendered goes against everything in the bible?
There have been transgender folks around for thousands of years!!!
Sooosseee 1 year ago
just ran across your videos. gosh you're gorgeous. also smart and articulate and awesome. sweet.
anyway biggest misconceptions?
(1) that transitioning = having "a sex change operation." So wrong on so many levels.
(2) that all trans people have the same narrative of "I've known since I was three that I was in the wrong body, plus I've always liked the activities stereotypically associated with my chosen gender." Also entirely false.
tamingoftheshru 1 year ago
Thanks a lot for the video. I assume most people really have no clue that gender identity and sexual orientation are unrelated for the same human being. :)
rohitgadi 2 years ago
wow u come a long way, I saw you at 1st event. i will be running that 2010, I hope i see you there again.
email me or give me your email , I like to talk 2 you, u r very educated in this subgect & in general, I usualy dont talk to some folks they think is all about sex, Not at all, & my girlfirend can tell ya. c-u soon.
BritannyaGrace1 2 years ago
tha's a question i alway's get ask by people all tha time? end i tell them tha biend transgender is not all about bien or liking something els but bien who? you are tha's what is inportan no matter what thay thing of you or me?? we are who? we become tha make us happy only then can we live are life happy whit out bien scare how we will look or what will thay think about us? but becoming you is tha only thing tha's make life so.. beautyful about you to walk out end be free as bird..?
darkqueen47 2 years ago
You look great, nothing to do whit the topic of the video i know :P
Kimerats 2 years ago
well most transgenders are into woman but , I figer myself that if your transgender why not be into men and not woman becaues once it cut off your body logically your a woman right ? hell that gives my odds alot better chance of getting laid . am I right or close ?
kingangelbiddy 2 years ago
i HATE being a guy but i LOVE women id date a guy if i wanted. Who cares lol but ppl should do what they want with who they want as long as their happy and havin fun
kotekotekitty 2 years ago
it makes you happy then am happy . but i still stand by what i say , hell if being with a woman makes you happy thats cool, but i am trying to say is that woman who went though that change and became woman physically would you want to be with a man instead of a woman ?
kingangelbiddy 2 years ago
What does gender have to do with sexual attraction? Nothing.
karmatic1110 2 years ago
if i like rock music now then ill like it if i was a woman.... and i never heard of anyones sexuallity changing, some girls like girls and some men like men, gender doesnt change who you like.
kotekotekitty 2 years ago
well where i am getting at is transgender open anougther for us srt8 men thats all i am saying
kingangelbiddy 2 years ago
Some misconceptions folks have: One is, like you said, they think it means your into dudes; Another is that crossdressing and transitioning are both not "natural" things and that they're somehow wrong; a third is that all transgenders/transsexuals are either dudes in drag with 5 O'Clock shadow, or butch girls in guys clothing. And lastly is, people think that being transgendered/transsexual means that you're "weird" and not happy, when you're probably more normal and happy than they are.
deej1011 3 years ago
wow you are so HOT i want you BABY
peteb1973 3 years ago
You are hot.
meb1982 3 years ago
You're so pretty :)
ryroluver 3 years ago 2
For me, the biggest misconception over the years has been that transsexuals are all either six foot girls with a five o'clock shadow or drag queens. Simply put, they're all freaks. If I had realized how wrong that was years ago, I would probably be happy now as the woman I should be instead of just starting to realize that I am a woman inside.
trizzatto 3 years ago
Well we all have that "thing" that kept us back. Mine as opinions of the misinformed telling me I was not TS.
karmatic1110 3 years ago
I didn't even realize you where transgendered until like halfway through the master cleanse video.
I did watch some of your other videos and found them very interesting.
You seem like a very outgoing person did you ever consider doing, like, some sort of public speaking, like at high schools or something?
arielinwonderland 3 years ago
Surprisingly...I have a fear of speaking in front of a large group of people lol.
karmatic1110 3 years ago
I think one of the biggest misconceptions is when people think being MTF transgendered is the same as being a drag queen.
po0lshark 3 years ago
I have already left a comment on another video but just wanted to say again that you look so great as a human being of course!! so bright and strong and sexy. I am hetero (so far) but women like you leave me with doubts! you have it all !Kisses from Sao Paulo
fiown 3 years ago
Hawt and intelligent, all in one video!
Assumption:
"Transsexual lesbian feminists rape women" - Sappho by Surgery, Janice Raymond
Apparently transsexual lesbian feminists are tying to access the strong feminine power of G-Girls. In essence, transsexuality is a form of manifested female jealousy.
Which is, frankly, bollucks. What is wrong with these misinformed theorists that cannot seperate gender and sexuality??
kingblasphemous 3 years ago
That anyone who ever engaged in any type of gender non-conformity is or will be transsexual.
Basically everything in the book "The Man Who Would be Queen"
To quote my mother "Why would he want to be a woman if he wants to date women? He can just date women as a man." No idea what to say to that. I've tried telling her that it's not about who you want to date but it just seems to be too much for her (and a lot of other people) to comprehend.
hviw 3 years ago
What a sweet girl.wow.
Marsmaxl 3 years ago
wow hi i have seen a lot of your videos
and you are so hot and your hair looks really cute and just wanted to tell you
you are everything that is right lol maybe that means something what i love about sex
omg you had me at hello have a good day
ryanheith 3 years ago
I love being an Agnostic Theist instead of a Christian. It's nice not having to kiss the Christian God's ass in fear of impending hellfire.
All we can hope for is that more and more Christians get brain cancer, lol.
By the way, looking good Charlotte ;)
Abortedjesus721 3 years ago
If you want to hear misconceptions regarding transexuals and gays, look no further than the Christian assholes.
These are the same morons that laugh at evolution, yet believe Adam was created from dirt and Eve was made from Adam's rib, lol.
90% of Christians are narrow-minded assholes that pick and choose what to believe from their man-written Bible.
Christians live in terror of hell, this causes them to believe that they love God, in reality they just don't wanna' burn in imaginary hell...
Abortedjesus721 3 years ago
"90% of Christians are narrow-minded assholes..."
Nothing like the smell of hypocracy in the morning.
And my family may be catholic, but I don't think that's why my grandmother died from brain cancer.
Sarlee06 3 years ago
Unfortunately, most misconceptions of us TS people are pure generalizations. Like in all other classes of humankind, if people would just get to know us, as fellow human beings, they just might be surprised at how decent, intelligent, and sweet some of us can be. It is the stereotype of transsexuals that bothers me the most.
GenieP 3 years ago
You are really a pretty lady! You have an amazing smile btw. I would love to comment on what you said but to engrossed in THE KNIFE to hear :P, only the greatest band ever! :D Have a good day!
Mindbattler 3 years ago
the fact that these misconceptions exist is just a shame :(
faerynthemoon 3 years ago
I've watched several of your videos.
I see an intelligent, articulate, lovely human being. I admire anyone who lives their truth. I am awed by your courage. Thank you, for being...You.
I wish you abundant happiness.
Clobberbob55 3 years ago
Ever seen the anime Cowboy Bebop? There's a scene where the main character visits a place with no women, and he runs across a cross dressing sex worker. I think that the image presented there is pretty much what people think about when they think of trans people.
I don't think that most people understand that this is a medically real situation.
radicaledward4000 3 years ago
medically real situation?, interesting, explain...
Shame5o5 3 years ago
Doctors classify it as gender identity disorder or transsexualism depending on the degree. It is classified as a mental disorder, but that is not well fitting both because physical intersex conditions and other medical variation may lead to gender dysphoria and because "Behaviors that would be ordinary or even exemplary for gender-conforming boys and girls are presented as symptomatic of mental disorder for gender nonconforming children." (Kelley Winthers, PhD)
TenderGenderBender 3 years ago
Wow. There were a lot of big words in that comment. It makes me umm want to make brain smarter. However, after reading through it several times I believe that this is just one "disorder" that will stay within the DSM for years to come just as homosexuality was for the first 3 volumes. I do not believe in calling it a disorder. That just seems more insulting than anything else, and until people learn the details and stop listening to misconceptions, it'll unfortunately continue.
DeadEros 3 years ago
Geee I would be a lesbian with you ;)
JezebelDecibel 3 years ago
Haha...I never know how to respond to comments like that. I usually blush and get all quiet lol.
karmatic1110 3 years ago
Ha ;) Just take it as a complement relating to you beauty, refinement and sex appeal.
To feel sexy is good; to flirt is fun; so live flirt a little and feel sexy, your deserve it.
JezebelDecibel 3 years ago
but i'm not totally negative toward people, i'm just sick of shows like tyra banks showing the hot ts girls, and then making the public think we are all dream girls or something (even if we are pretty, i don't think it's good to become arrogant), it is stupid. but my doctor (dr. reed in miami), once said "tolerance isn't a natural skill, it's learned", and I do agree with him on that. the problem is people having knee-jerk reactions instead of thinking about the human they are treating as object
devaloki 3 years ago
i do feel some people do change, but things like this have been around for a long time. people only change because of the media shows casting ts in a good light sometime. also people judge upon appearances. i find alot of people talk about how "bad they used to think ts were" until they meet me. i can respect that if they are sincere, but i can see most of it is superficial because the same people that were making fun of me when i started transition are now trying to get into my panties
devaloki 3 years ago
You are completly wright.
precelek2004 3 years ago
your pretty
honeyd910 3 years ago 2
most of the public are dumb and will always be that way, i say fuck them and their world
devaloki 3 years ago
Sometimes I feel that way, but I have enlightened a few people and once they got it I felt pretty good in knowing that they will probably not discriminate and may pass on the knowledge.
Charlotte
karmatic1110 3 years ago
Devaloki - I know it seems that way AND feels that way sometimes. The truth is people are misinformed by parents and media and then fuelled by the restlesness of puberty then polarised in young adulthood. They are truly acting on the information they have and to them they are right according to that info. Just because it is wrong doesnt mean its wrong for them and they know no better.
The power to change takes knowledge and communication.
We need to show that humanity is dif to mankind.
PurplenovaX 3 years ago
one i haven't had personally, but i hear about, is that we do it because we think it's erotic or something, i think this's mostly because of the jerry springer show, that show is just messed up and promotes way too many stereotypes
JRUJR 3 years ago
My exes mother actually said to me once "There is no way you can be a transsexual... your voice is too deep"
Most misconceptions I get:
Im into men (I like both actually, and its in no way related to my gender identity)
I was sexually abused as a child (Nope, sorry, try again)
I also get (and hate the most): Your disorder MUST be the relust of some sort of psychological trauma when you were younger
searingpaine 3 years ago
As you said, the biggest misconception is that with gender change somes sexual preferance change.. Just this last week, when I was at my voice therapist, she asked me "what strong sexy hunk of man do I like". The idea is to get me to engage in conversation with my
new voice, but just shows how for some people, if I am transitioning to be a woman,
I must want a man.
princesssheila50 3 years ago
oh god
im sorry
blickblocks 3 years ago
You should have smiled and winked then said, "I want you babe!". That would throw her for a loop. =)
Eriefire 3 years ago
Yeah, no-one seems to realise you have to be certified sane to get the go ahead for transition, well here in Oz anywayz, and shrinks can be the toughest of critics too!
PurplenovaX 3 years ago
It's really stupid how so many morons consider transexual women to be gay men. If a hetero. man loses his penis does that make him a woman? "No" So then why just because an otherwise total biological female still has male genitalia would that not make her a woman? "Uhh..I don't know" This shows how the shitheads base gender entirely on genitals in one case, but not in the other. You wouldn't believe how many dumbasses gave the same responses. (Charlotte still looks hot by the way) (Reow)
cnvb7714 3 years ago
She always does.
Pysgod13 3 years ago
:P Thanks hun!
karmatic1110 3 years ago
i cant make a huge comment on this as everyone has just about everything....all i want to say is Whether you are transgendered, gay, bi, etc....you are a people that is worthwhile in this world and i commend you all for being here and making the world worth living in....so thank you to you all
Aryana70 3 years ago
Reow..8P..trademark it now!!!
That dicks get "sewn" on
That dicks get "chopped" off
That Transgender is exclusivley polarised and MUST remain within the dichotomy of the current gender system.
(eg. you have to only be either male or female and be exclusive in that choice and expression)
Soap's comment is true..answer is western society is based on christian values.
My Take - Religion = chineese whispers out of control, tabled fables unstable in accuracy.
PurplenovaX 3 years ago
I've been tracking this post since it was started and have idly sat by and read what everyone has responded with.
I try my damnest not to dwell on anything negative regarding Gay/Lesbian or Transpeople. Especially what society may say or think. However in regards to MtF women, "SoapChemeist" has struck the nail on the head with the final line of their post; "Why is it society would rather have a suicidally depressed male, over a transwoman who is a productive and happy?"
Bronwyn031 3 years ago
the biggest ever misconception about transsexuality and I think transgenderism in general? "Why did you choose to become a woman" or "When did you decide to become a woman" or "How do you like being a woman". People. It was never a choice unless the choices are "Be miserable" or "Be natural" it was never "Do I want to be a boy or do i want to be a girl". Transgendered people transition to be who they -really- are not to put on some act. Peace, love and happiness.
-Claire
deviantnotion 3 years ago
I'm a cisgender pansexual male posting. :}
From talking with my coworkers:
1 They just want attention.
2 Want to star in there own "tranny" porno.
3 Like being called "it".
4 Want to start trouble by confusing straight men.
5 Just confused crossdressers.
This small list of replies came after I told them several times, "No. Seriously." It amazes me how uneducated people are if these are there answers based on what they "really" know. Shameful infact. Unwilling to learn is even worse.
LTLIS69 3 years ago
1) That gender and sex is the same thing
2) That we wanna "do" everyone
3) That we try to convert people to being trans
4) That if we dont fit the sterotypes we arent trans (Sorry but I love beating on my guy friends, I like to watch them squrim. lol)
5) That we are all gay
6) That we are goddless heven (god was drunk when he made me lol)
7) That there is only MTF
8) That everyone wants SRS
9) That every trans pers... ok this could take awhile
kaylawishing 3 years ago
I would have said the one you mentioned about sexuality vs gender identity. I would also say that there is a misconception that trans people (this also applies to my experience as a gay person) are the way they are because of sexual abuse. There is some kind of trauma that happened and thus we are messed up or something.
missdivinestalls 3 years ago
1)That every transsexual wants everybody, nomatter who it is.
2)that every transsexual is a 'freak' and 'needs to be commited to a mental hospital'
3)That every transsexual is flamboyant and wears glitter and featers and horriblely bright overdramatic make up
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theres so many more, but I dont want to type them all.
ryroluver 3 years ago
That it's a phase.
That it's a notion put in my head based on where I live right now.
That if I don't act stereotypical, I must not be so (so I know how to fold a paper airplane, is that really a determiner?).
It doesn't exactly fall under this, but people look at me funny when I mention playing football in high school.
shastab24 3 years ago
The question I have been asked numerous times... "Was there some trauma or anger against your father or step-father that made you simply not want to be male anymore?"
My replies have varied, but all are a resounding "no, not relevant". I have also been asked, "Aren't a gay man in denial?" NO! Gender identity is wholly different from sexual orientation. Period.
Why is it society would rather have a suicidally depressed male, over a transwoman who is a productive and happy?
soapchemist 3 years ago
The biggest one I find is that just because, we are overly fim or flamboy. Im going to keep it reall on my comment and hope nobody gets affended. That just because, I want every Dick !!! Even some old ass fart, thinks that. Just because, NOT!!!!!!!!!!. Going more deeper without stirring any trouble. Just because Im trans and Hispanic, Im a shady cha cha queen... Not!!! Im actually Italian... So Just because. I don't give a great big FUCK.... ((HUGS))) Daniella AKA MS REAL
micklo1 3 years ago
The one that I get is even though I had the final surgery it is just a facade that a gay man is wearing and to some still a "he" even though I look great. Extremely insulting! God! So many ignorant people and the feat of educating people never ends!
msheilastr 3 years ago
That we are defined by our gender.
We are complex human beings with our own unique identities. The world has begun to open it's eyes to the gender diversity that exists among us. The opportunities for gender expression today are evolving at an astonishing rate.
Rejoice!
jul9cuz 3 years ago
One that I've been hearing is how we are so mentally deranged that we could fly off the handle at any moment and become a serious danger to society. Yeah right...
briannarose99 3 years ago
The main misconception is that I am a man with a mental problem, rather than a woman with a physical problem. For FtM please reverse!
tillgirl 3 years ago
A large misconception that I have heard is that being transgender or transexual is a fetish that people engage in for sexual stimulation. My parents had this misconception strongly engraved in their mind when I first came out to them as being TG and they had difficulty letting go of it. Lucky, they love me and did some research of their own and found out that they were wrong. Thank you Charlotte for helping fight ignorance!
Peace and Love,
Diana
hintgiver 3 years ago
Everyone here already mentioned the ones that came to my head within a second. I guess I could add another misconception would be that we all have HIV or AIDS.
sweetnsexyts 3 years ago
That if by age 4 your weren't claiming to be in the "wrong body" then you are just making it up. That you are a fake. (Thanks day time talk shows)
I don't know about everyone else, but before puberty, I didn't know there was a difference "down there"
XD
bagelsandwiches8 3 years ago
That we are sexually promiscuous
badone112002 3 years ago
that we are the way we are because we didnt have a mom or dad as a role modle
darksider17852002 3 years ago
1. When we go anywhere dressed as our identified gender we are in "drag".
2. We are mentally ill or mentally handicapped.
3. People assume transsexuals are all sex workers....
4. We were coddled by our mothers.
5. Universally though people think we are just freaks.
Bradly62 3 years ago
"We are mentally ill or mentally handicapped."
Either mentally ill, or physically handicapped. I thought I was fine the way I was until I realized I was one of the few that was re....
cynisturb 3 years ago
Big misconception I hear is..
We are sexual predators
MissouriGothGirl75 3 years ago
that all trans-whatever have the same story, goals, issues, concerns, problems, etc.
a 6'7", 350 lb., 47yr old transwoman is going to have a lot of different issues and perspectives than a 4'10", 21yr old dainty thin waif.
oh yeah, and heels and miniskirts. are you kidding? not everyday. try flip flops and baggy pants with lots of pockets... much more comfy.
candiFLA 3 years ago
agreed!
soapchemist 3 years ago
I would think that a large misconception is that that homosexuality,transgender,and transexual are the the same, or at the very least too closely related!
freetaught 3 years ago
It's all gay shit. That's what I hear. Or at least, that's what I heard. I don't hear that anymore. I guess that's what happens when you come out. Some of my friends stopped being honest with me.
cynisturb 3 years ago