your father is ganna be sitting in a 6x12 cell, isolated, nothing but TIME. time to think of his passed, why he fucked up, how he fucked up, and WHY his in there(i.e because his daughter loved him).as dumb as it sounds, we all only get 1 dad, and 1 mom.. we CANNOT change that..maybe ill make a video response and give ya bit more advice andhopefully itll atleast a bit have you on the path of starting to forgive?
@LeGette88 Eventually I will be at a point to forgive the action, but I will never stop holding him accountable for his decisions or forgive him of his responsibilities. Any respect I ever had is gone and with the life I've had to go through because of him, it's fitting he's in a cell to think about all of it. When he threatened to kill me he lost his title as father and became the evil man that he is today. Evil belongs in jail and that's where he will stay for the remainder of his life.
conti- people should forgive.. im not religious, but its a sin to not forgive, right??? anyways.. the story is too deep to type out in 200 characters, so if ud like to hear more.. or advice, let me no
@LeGette88 I'm glad you think that your father has changed and that you have faith to believe that's possible. In my case, it's not possible. It's better that he stay where he is and that he fully understands why he's there. Rehabilitation is great for most things, but in this instance, it's not going to work. Forgiveness goes so far; after being subjected to the previous years I did have around him, I am very grateful to know that now I don't have to wonder where he is. He's where I put him.
@donottakeitseriously "time heals all wounds" -- my dad did ALOT of shit when i was younger, and i never thought id forgive him. he was meth'd out, also always drunk.. one day when i was 12, he stuck a shotgun barrel in my face and told me to quit crying or he'd blow my brains out .. he was high out of his mind.. maybe your dad DOES need prison.. dont be so quick to judge.. the Prisons have a wierd way of working out peoples kinks. espically when its for YEARS at a time.
conti- i can tell how upset he is at times when that automated voicemail comes on saying"you have 60 seconds left".. it almost sounds like he wants to cry, but wont. just a view from a different side.
this is my 2cents : as a 23year old man, thats had his father in a state prison sense i was 12, its HARD growing up without a father/grandfather/man figure in your life.i didnt fully understand until about 17-18 what my dad did, and why he was in Prison. I mean, he was an alcoholic/drug addict at the same time, but he always hardest to try to provide for me as a kid.. and be a dad.. (i.e. Camping, fishing, sports with his son).i talk to my father regularly, and he sounds like a changed man -cont
...so when he died, he died all alone in a VA Hospital. At his funeral I was pretty well composed and just disappointed until the moment that a man who had never met him started talking about all these things I never even knew about my dad, that's when I freaked out. Why? Because I knew I deserved better and I knew he could have given it to me if he wasn't so selfish. In that way, I can kind of understand what you're going through and I honestly think you did the right thing, even if it hurts.
I had issues with my Dad, as well. He was an asshole, maybe not on the same plane, but I had a point in my life where I decided that it was unhealthy for me to talk to him anymore. I avoided him for most of my life and in the end, even my brother (who took care of him until about 6 months before he died) wasn't able to take his BS. He used to think the world of him and it was heartbreaking to see that shatter in front of his eyes, but yeah. -- cont.
Well said, and major kudos to you! Here's to a better, far less stressful 2012! Hope to see you on the chat circuit some time, it's been faaaarr too long!
your father is ganna be sitting in a 6x12 cell, isolated, nothing but TIME. time to think of his passed, why he fucked up, how he fucked up, and WHY his in there(i.e because his daughter loved him).as dumb as it sounds, we all only get 1 dad, and 1 mom.. we CANNOT change that..maybe ill make a video response and give ya bit more advice andhopefully itll atleast a bit have you on the path of starting to forgive?
LeGette88 2 weeks ago
@LeGette88 Eventually I will be at a point to forgive the action, but I will never stop holding him accountable for his decisions or forgive him of his responsibilities. Any respect I ever had is gone and with the life I've had to go through because of him, it's fitting he's in a cell to think about all of it. When he threatened to kill me he lost his title as father and became the evil man that he is today. Evil belongs in jail and that's where he will stay for the remainder of his life.
donottakeitseriously 2 weeks ago
conti- people should forgive.. im not religious, but its a sin to not forgive, right??? anyways.. the story is too deep to type out in 200 characters, so if ud like to hear more.. or advice, let me no
LeGette88 2 weeks ago
@LeGette88 I'm glad you think that your father has changed and that you have faith to believe that's possible. In my case, it's not possible. It's better that he stay where he is and that he fully understands why he's there. Rehabilitation is great for most things, but in this instance, it's not going to work. Forgiveness goes so far; after being subjected to the previous years I did have around him, I am very grateful to know that now I don't have to wonder where he is. He's where I put him.
donottakeitseriously 2 weeks ago
@donottakeitseriously "time heals all wounds" -- my dad did ALOT of shit when i was younger, and i never thought id forgive him. he was meth'd out, also always drunk.. one day when i was 12, he stuck a shotgun barrel in my face and told me to quit crying or he'd blow my brains out .. he was high out of his mind.. maybe your dad DOES need prison.. dont be so quick to judge.. the Prisons have a wierd way of working out peoples kinks. espically when its for YEARS at a time.
LeGette88 2 weeks ago
conti- i can tell how upset he is at times when that automated voicemail comes on saying"you have 60 seconds left".. it almost sounds like he wants to cry, but wont. just a view from a different side.
LeGette88 2 weeks ago
this is my 2cents : as a 23year old man, thats had his father in a state prison sense i was 12, its HARD growing up without a father/grandfather/man figure in your life.i didnt fully understand until about 17-18 what my dad did, and why he was in Prison. I mean, he was an alcoholic/drug addict at the same time, but he always hardest to try to provide for me as a kid.. and be a dad.. (i.e. Camping, fishing, sports with his son).i talk to my father regularly, and he sounds like a changed man -cont
LeGette88 2 weeks ago
I understand why you did what you did and know it was the right thing to do.
gregarganda 1 month ago
@gregarganda Thank you Greg.
donottakeitseriously 1 month ago
Hey thanks for sending me this. I will send you a message don't wanna put things in comments for the world to see but know that I'm praying for you.
RazMansReality 2 months ago
...so when he died, he died all alone in a VA Hospital. At his funeral I was pretty well composed and just disappointed until the moment that a man who had never met him started talking about all these things I never even knew about my dad, that's when I freaked out. Why? Because I knew I deserved better and I knew he could have given it to me if he wasn't so selfish. In that way, I can kind of understand what you're going through and I honestly think you did the right thing, even if it hurts.
Stoudman 2 months ago
@Stoudman It hurts tremendously, but at the same time it's a relief. I can finally stop looking over my shoulder.
donottakeitseriously 2 months ago
I had issues with my Dad, as well. He was an asshole, maybe not on the same plane, but I had a point in my life where I decided that it was unhealthy for me to talk to him anymore. I avoided him for most of my life and in the end, even my brother (who took care of him until about 6 months before he died) wasn't able to take his BS. He used to think the world of him and it was heartbreaking to see that shatter in front of his eyes, but yeah. -- cont.
Stoudman 2 months ago
Well said, and major kudos to you! Here's to a better, far less stressful 2012! Hope to see you on the chat circuit some time, it's been faaaarr too long!
Zaranyzerak 2 months ago
@Zaranyzerak Thanks. We'll see about the chat, it depends on what's happening when you are online.
donottakeitseriously 2 months ago
Sorry to hear you've been having problems. I hope everything works out!
TheLonesomeFoghorn 2 months ago
@TheLonesomeFoghorn Thanks, it already has started to so that is a great thing.
donottakeitseriously 2 months ago
Stay Awesome :) Happy 2012 !!!
LateNightZombie 2 months ago
@LateNightZombie Thank you, you too!
donottakeitseriously 2 months ago