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  • When the elderly begin to lose memory, give money to strangers, let strangers reside in their own homes, etc.......it is good to have discussions about Power of Attorney for Health Care and for Financial matters. This way, loving children can ensure that their parent's live's holdings will have decisions made by you.

    Regarding mean-spirited elderly, I'm sorry for your particular situation. It must be hard and I wish I could wave a magic wand and make it all better. Your own channel...:-).

  • I want to thank you for helping the elderly....but alot of the times what is overlooked is the careGIVERS themselves. My husband and I gave up our life after my father died, at the request of my mom, to come live with her., and it's been HELL ever since, the way we have been treated by her, now were stuck living here until we pool our money together, so we can move out. No one ever seems to talk about the elders that are MEAN spirited, and EVIL, and ABUSIVE, maybe I'll make my own channel.

  • i attached a video for you i write this song, maybe this will help in some ways

  • @edwin4759 : you are amazing. God sent you to us and look at what you have already done. You have made us smile and your love for people shows through all that you do. Please know that God sees everything you do, and He is storing great treasures for you in Heaven. In this life, the greatest command is to 'Love One Another'...as Christ has loved us. May you keep the spirit of love with you forever. Lolv.

  • i just wish that the good caregivers be given the best client so both can benefit each other... u r on the client side and u got bad experiences, i am on the service staff side and me too suffer same bad experience from clients, and agents.... but to me i dont take it as a lost, i gain more strength, and knowledge about what kind of people i will work for...

  • @edwin4759 : you give me hope that there are people out there who really care.

    Thank you and

    Highest Personal Regards,

    Dr. Margaret

  • @ 2:13 u said that. i doubt it... maybe u have had bad experience and u can always replace them if u dont like em. there are reputable agencies who provide well screened, bonded caregivers who are highly capable of doing the job as a caregiver. what u said about the house keeping were just added, and we're not liable for cleaning the whole house, we call it lite house keeping. and u would need a maid to do the proper house keeping..  you pay less u get less that is the rule...

  • u want a slave not a caregiver at 7:04 u sounded like u own the caregiver. the main work that a caregiver has to do is to take care of the client. and lite house keeping is as far as we can do. u dont even know what the caregiver does especially at nite when the client calls.. caregivers work 24 hours on call for a small amount... u can gage a caregiver working properly if the client he works for is in proper condition, and happy, the house cleaning is just an added job but not a necessity...

  • @edwin4759 : for chemotherapy patients and others, a sanitary restroom and kitchen are a necessity. Many clients may be unable to ask a caregiver to clean the stool off the back of the commode. It doesn't have to sit there for a week. :=). I'm just talking about every-day stuff we encounter, and I appreciate your perspective.

    Sounds like you are some one with a good heart that cares and is dutiful beyond that which is necessary....I commend you for this, as you store treasures in heaven.

  • to be honest with you, what u r saying is that u dont need a caregiver... u need a slave... i am sorry to say and about your bad experience... but i think that this goes both ways... the best is to come up with work schedule ethics... and what u say about in 01:19 are rediculous. there are agencies who provide caregivers and screen them and their background. now if u hire someone with no refference at all then u are in trouble... i do not agree about the things u generally say about care givers

  • @edwin4759 : Those who are called to "serve" and 'Protect" include firemen, police, doctors, etc.... even waitresses and waiters.

    It has always been a pleasure for me to take care of my patients. I served them endlessly and had the best job in the world. I disimpacted stool, mopped vomit, and was the 1st to volunteer for the job.

    If one loves to 'serve', it is done with pleasure. It is a calling.

  • @DysautonomiaMD i guess the calling is the most we can have pleasure doing... i always work with my heart only because when u r happy with what you do, u perform the best. i always love to take care of this people.... i worked in a facility of special people, i have learned to show them that they can also feel love and well taken cared off... the thing i hate were the staff i was working with for most of them were rude to them, i went to the ombudsman to report one staff and i got him jailed..

  • @edwin4759 You are right. It is a special calling that brings our soul great joy.

    Amen and Good For You for going to an Ombudsman who helped you! Hat's off to you & God Bless Your Soul.

    I tried to do the same thing, but no one believed me, until strangled body was uncovered as a murder, not a natural death. Nursing home went under; 9 people indicted I think; company just ditched that home & changed it to something else.

    All it takes for evil to rule, is for a good person to say nothing.

    LoLv

  • i am a caregiver and this video is good... but just to make a point, not all caregivers are like what you said... most of asian caregivers work not for the money, and most times we fell in love with our client, we have to work from our hearts so we can perform our job the the full extent.. if i will say most of the people who hire care givers tend to take advantage of us too. so pls do not be bias....

  • @edwin4759 : The rare caregivers that are good are just hard to find, in my opinion. And I recommend trying several different agencies before picking the one 'final' caregiver.

    I fall in love with my caregivers, too...they feed me. They comfort my thirst. They kept my iv going drip by drip, for 2 1/2 years. How any one can then steal while I sleep.....is hard to bear, as that news is discovered months later. Months & months & we have no idea who took what. Just want people to be selective.

  • Just spoke to some one today who had clothing and silverware stolen while she was bedridden. Keep watch.

  • @DysautonomiaMD you can run after those thieves thru the agency... now if you hire someone directly then there is no way for you to run after them, reference and bonded caregivers are the safest... u have to pay decent to get a decent worker... i think u r the kind of client who manipulates and not pay enough. and that suck

  • @edwin4759 : things just don't happen 'in order' for sick people. They may not need silverware or jewelry or jeans for months and months (sometimes years) after 10 caregivers have been in your home. Which one stole what? No one will ever know.

    If you are sick, you are too sick to sue. Unless you have a camera in the room & evidence on CD, the perpetrator will never get caught. Not possible, although I totally agree that the bonding and licensing Should work to protect the ill.

  • @DysautonomiaMD reference is also a good way to go... at least you know who... and btw i don't think the sick were the ones who hire them, dont they have social workers to go after the trouble makers?

  • @edwin4759 : hi. Yes..absolutely right ~ to get a reference from some one else who has already used a good caregiver...this is the stuff that life & love is made of. Best option.

    Either the sick person or a family member may be there for initial interviews, but when every one leaves and the patient is sleeping, no one knows what the caregiver is doing.

    Social workers are good at recommending a nursing agency, but are not responsible for any outcomes. Wish they could do something, though.

    Tx.

  • good video! clear words! God bless you!

  • I hope people can show it to their Caregiver Interviewees.....and people can avoid major problems in their own homes. I am here to serve.

    Highest Personal Regards,

    Dr Margaret

  • interesting ~ about the stealing pt ~ I personally wouldn't do that ~ as a principle ~ sry about that ~ may explain something about 1 person ~ that claims 2 b 1 ~

  • It is unfortunate that this occurs more often than any of us wants to know. Nevertheless, it is a reality that we must be aware of, for it may not be long before we're going to need our own person to care for us.

    Sad, I know, but true. Therefore, protect yourself and/or your loved ones and do not assume that a Caregiver is an altruistic person with ethics. Better to be safe than sorry.

    LAPD: "To Protect and To Serve"

    Highest Personal Regards,

    Dr M

  • @DysautonomiaMD that is the reason there are agencies who screen caregivers and the employer can have ground to sue what these caregivers do... this only happens when this employers who hire caregivers with out reference will tend to fall into this bad eggs of caregivers. and what she is saying degrades the caregivers... and i think she dont need a caregiver, but a slave...

  • @edwin4759 : Been to over 5 Agencies, had more than 10 Agency Caregivers. With an Agency, the caregiver may only get $9/hr, and the company charges $18/hr. So there may not be incentive for the caregiver to provide $18/hr work...it is complicated.

    With an Agency, 'lite housekeeping' includes bedsheets, the bathroom, and the kitchen (all within reason, of course).

    With a Private Caregiver, s/he agrees to perform more duties than an Agency provides. And keep the $18/hr.

    Works best 4 me.

  • @DysautonomiaMD agencies screen their staff n u can be sure there wont be anything undesirable to experience, it would be ur risk to take someone u have nothing to run after when things gets tough...

  • @ MD ~ what's mudane chit-chatting ~ exactly ~

  • @TJae1: oblivious and selfish person who is sitting around talking on her cell phone to her boyfriend, instead of caring for the person she is supposed to be providing care.

    Actually talking and talking for 5 hours while the person in the bed is in the process of dying.

    Glad you are not like that. You'd be surprised what goes on behind closed doors.....family members and friends can just 'stop by' when a caregiver is there, and 'check up' to see what he/she is doing.

    Thanks,

    Dr Margaret

  • My mother has had experience with some poor caregivers. It's sad to think that many of their patients are mentally alert, but need private care due to a problem with mobility and for this, they are taken advantage of. My mother finally fired the agency and brought in a friend who at least will clean the floors, vacuum and works every minute she is there; she has been a God send! I am sorry that you've had such a bad experience with care givers and I pray that (cont'd)

  • cont'd @DysautonomiaMD...you will in the future, find competent care givers.

    May the Lord bless you and keep you my beloved sister in Christ!

    Your Brother in Christ,

    Jeff

  • With the prayers of many, we can all have some protection. May God help those who need it the most, and I do pray that no one else suffers these crimes against the vulnerable and sick.

    P.S. I got an iRobot that rolls around sweeping the floor by itself. I highly recommend it; it's lasted 5 mo so far, no problems. It sweeps dust, dog hair, and is computerized. It 'docks' at its station to recharge. Sorry to say it is more trusting than a human. I use it every day.

    God Bless the most vulnerable.

  • The first part of my ccomment has not gone through. Susan once left a care home for the elderly, disgusted by the treatment they recieved, despite paying privately. She now is a carer for people with mental health issues, is close to them and respects them. Cont...

  • She abides by the rules of her employers and they soon spot those who don't. Thank you Margaret. I hope this video helps many many people. Blessings and hugs..Jan (and Susan) ♥

  • Great info, thank you for sharing.

  • Hope it helps some one some where to be aware of the potential for preying upon the disabled. Sorry for the reality check....but hopefully some one will benefit by setting the Caregivers straight from the beginning. I wish I had done this, but I was not well enough.

    Thank God He sent me honest people now....but it was 4 years of mishaps, forgetfulness, drunkedness, stealing, and how I cried to find my baby clothes missing. :-(.

    THANK GOD we can bring awareness to this issue, too.

    Tx.

  • We really should talk about that vitamin D deficiency. People don't realize how much a vitamin D deficiency can cause horrible health problems. Many of us get very little unless we take supplements. I have a problem with lactose, so I don't drink milk and I'm rarely outside. If I don't supplement, I have less energy and more brain fog. When I take supplements, I'm better.

  • I also get a Vitamin B12 injection (it's a red color) once a week, and I swear I have more energy afterwards.

    Perhaps Nutrition Section is needed on VMS1, VirtualMedSchool1...hope to keep adding.

    So Sorry about your Aunt...I know where she is with this; do you want someone who steals your jewelry? or someone who just steals your food? Terrible choices, but this is the 'lease worst' case scenario we have to choose.

    Too bad we have to 'settle' for less than a human deserves. God Bless Us All.

  • I thought I had more energy after taking B supplements, but I had to stop cause of the acid reflux problems I've got. I should add it back in.

    What happens to the sick and disabled and many of the elderly is just horrible. And no one really knows about it unless they've gone through it or know someone who has.

  • Yeah, it's sad when the only way is to put cameras around your house on these people.

    I don't think there is anything lower than someone who preys on the disabled. And the way they take advantage, too. My aunt's current caretaker makes herself something to eat all the time and never replaces the food she ate. She has eaten full crates of my aunt's eggs and full packages of hotdogs. She eats my aunt out of house and home. And she's scared to get rid of her because she's had worse people.

  • Maybe one of our family members could start a business for CareGIVING for ANS dysfunction...

    ...where are the churches? ...where are the Pastors?...aren't we supposed to Visit the Sick?

  • Sadly, most of the churches are corrupt today. And I've also found that if you are too sick to attend, they won't help you at all.

    My family members think anyone with an invisible illness is faking it, so we'd never get help there.

  • This is exactly why I won't get help in. I need it desperately, and I'd rather struggle with it myself. They all steal. They go into those jobs just to steal. My aunt got robbed like crazy. She had money stolen out of her handbag. She had food stolen out of her cupboards and freezer. My grandmother had tons of stuff stolen out of the house and they got into my mother's room and stole jewelry. I won't get people in. I pray I get to die before I can't help myself anymore.

  • My point exactly...I'm so sorry for all of this, but I too, have been there. Humans can be disgusting Vultures, greedy selves, and unconscionable.

    So if you hire a Caregiver, BEWARE.

    Nanny-cam may offer some peace. Who can we trust? Ourselves. I know that many of you can not say these things to your Caregivers, but perhaps we could change the tide if their 'Orientation' starts here...

    Thank you for confirming that we have to open our eyes. May the Lord's churches be a place of hope

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