Wow. You are so smart. And another thing, like why do we have clocks ? I mean do we really need to keep track of the time?
And what's with elephants? Why don't they make more sounds with their trunks? It's like they only have that one sound, but you could totally see them play a whole song.
You make such a good point. I've never thought of it that way. I just wish I could get my ED-mind on board with my rational-mind that recognizes that you're completely right--scales are pointless.
I also totally agree that it's an obsession for people who are losing weight, whether they have an ED or not. I wonder all the time, where is the line? Why is it "behavior" for me and a "healthy weight-loss strategy" for everything else.
ugh sorry. looks like i needed to ramble a bit too.
the scale is so frusturating, it causes me to feel insecure about myself, and no matter what the number is its never good enough eating disorders are such a pain.
i love wonderful wonderful i've seen alot of eating disorder movies but when i saw this.i dont know it was real and felt that they got it. it was will written and true and i watch this movie about three or more time i dont know it just one of those movies that i go to cause i feel that they got it and i dont feel alone sounds weird i know but i really enjoyed this movie
First off...disclaimer to this comment - I am NOT anorexic or bulimic - if anything I am a compulsive overeater. But I do think eventually (maybe not now) you DO need to face the scale and the number it reads when you FEEL good. I know you've trained yourself to believe a good number for you is ridiculously low and you need to know what healthy FOR YOU is. That stupid chart they give you IS NOT TRUE for all bodies.
Dani, I feel exactly the same way!! You honestly could have taken the words right from my own mouth. I feel the same about the scale. Wish they didn't exist!! Hope to wake up tomorrow and they would all be gone, forever.
And I feel the same about the 'number'. Hate to see it, hate my dietician to know, hate for anyone to know it.
Giving your therapist the scale is a great idea. I'm trying to convince myself to do the same. Hopefully the challenge works out for both of us!!
i understand exactly how u feel! stupid, stupid scales! my dream is to one day take a axe to them! i gave my scales to the ppl i live with. 2 days later they went away and i found them and took them back... ahhhh so annoying. i need to try again i think! I hope u do well over your week of no scales! xx
In pregnancy, you need to be weight by your doctor to make sure you are gaining the appropriate amount of weight. Now that I am pregnant, I have to be weighed at every appt. Not gaining weight could be indicative that something is wrong with the baby. And for people who really do need to loose weight, it let's their doctor set up a good target/goal and begin a discussion for what's healthy and what to eat. Just the first thing that came to mind. I DO understand where you are coming from though.
2/2 ... It's SO conflicting when you want to present yourself as a strong person and society tells you that the way to do that is to be able to control your weight and have your body look a certain way, but you have to be strong to recover, which means gaining weight. And you get people supporting you in that at the same time that they're trying to lose weight to show how strong a person they are. You know? It just doesn't make sense.
Liked your video for the honesty. It's so hard to recover when everyone around you sees the number on the scale as a measure of success and control. I feel the same way when my weight goes up (or when I think it has), and it's ridiculous because my weight means nothing about ME. But there's still the feeling of failure and judgement and the societal and culture pressure to lose weight ... 1/2
@raganmae just do it, don't think.you weigh yourself to reduce the stress but when you weigh yourself you get stressed even more so its a ruthless cycle
...in general, I am very much in favor of people with ED's NOT knowing their weight. I know that for me, no number would make me happy, so weighing myself is a lose/lose situation.
@IfGreenShouldSlip YES! Always a lose-lose situation for those with eating disorders. My grandma died of congestive heart failure and I know there's good reasons for people to be weighed, but at the moment, it's not a good thing for me at all! Glad I'm not alone in this thought ;)
I can completely relate...I ALWAYS want to refuse to be weighed (even though when I do get weighed it is "blind weight"), because I do NOT want ANYONE to know my weight. I freak out knowing the a doc/nutritionist knows my weight, even though I KNOW that they won't tell me. From a nursing perspective, there are several important uses for scales, such as in the case of someone with Congestive Heart Failure who needs to have weight monitored everyday to make sure they are not retaining fluids. But
Omgosh!! Im so glad that i watched this video!! i h8 being weighd infront of any1, i usually end up fibbing slightly jst so that i dont have to be weighd infront of some1, cos im ashamed even if the number has gone dwn, cos its never enuf!.scales can b a silly measure for many reasons except health, like if some1 has a medical condtion like diabetes + stuff. i think mayb if som1 doesnt hav an issue with food and eating it can be healthy.but wiv e.ds its not that great @ times. relate so well!
@waifia Ya, there's good medical reasons to use a scale but for something with an eating disorder, it's torture. It's good to know you feel the same way and we're not alone :)
Hiaa x Great video... May do a vid response x I dont know my weight anymore, and it has complealty FREED ME! Seriously! I feel so mcuh better! i feel I can eat what ever I want, and it wont matter, cause I'm not gonna know my weight! I think it helps me! I know you have the strength to not weigh yourself... YOU CAN DO IT BBS!
(ctd) .. that's when you're REALLY like man, I could be like 30-300lbs & I wouldn't have a CLUE! (i don't think my example should be triggering though I put numbers in it) ... and that sounds SO scary, but no! IT'S SOOOOO FREEING! Your clothes help you some, & you know to look at your body where you are generally speaking...but it has changed my LIFE. I don't know how I could ever do well with one. I'm TERRIFIED to step on one & cannot do it. But, I'd prefer that fear, than the "I MUST DO IT"
Hi, I'm in treatment so since August I've been weighed weekly, and yesterday I chose not to look. I felt embarrassed and ashamed that they knew my number and I didn't, thinking they were snickering about it and how fat I was (my team would never do that, but Ed likes to make me think they might).
Anyways! I chose to not look because for 24 hours I wanted to see what it would be like to not control my life around a number. It was TORTURE but the little part of me that is still real felt reliev
@lullabyloo YAY!!!! I'm so proud of you! Despite having all those feelings of fear and anxiety, you challenged yourself and succeeded. Keep fighting love. It's worth it. Always.
(cont'd) ... I honestly don't know if I ever would have had the years of recovery that I did if I weighed myself. I too didn't want the drs to see my shameful number if it was going up; but, at least I just knew it WAS up, but no idea how. The sucky part is that you have to go like 6 months or so to reallllly get to that point of having no idea what number you might be at. If I fluctuated a little up and a little down, I'd have no way to determine the number. After a yr of not knowing,(cont)
I've done blind weights since I was sixteen. My first round of treatment, I made every gain emotionally compared to the lowest i'd been. So, when i started to go down again and lower than my lowest prior I never looked at it then either bc I knew I'd always go there. I'm 24 now and I still won't look. I've since learned (yrs later) what my lowest ever was....and, occasionally..some nurse will say it despite my forceful statement not to. BUT! it has honestly? changed my life. (cont'd)
(continued) without a scale. it would be impossible! however, i think using scales at home as a way of making assumptions about one's 'fatness' is a misuse of them, and the changes in your weight day-to-day provide very little clue as to the direction of weight loss/gain. :) plus... WHO GIVES A F!!K? does anyone who really matters to you care as long as you're healthy? i don't think i made any sense there... oh well :)
good luck with your challenge! i don't have a scale at my house (i live with my parents, they won't buy one and never have owned one) and sometimes i'm glad it's that way - i just find out once a week when i see my doctor. also, i think scales do serve an important purpose - but their importance is often overrated and misused. i think, in the medical field they are useful tools; imagine trying to administer an anesthetic, or measuring an ill child's growth, or monitoring fluid retention, (cont)
When i was recovering from my ed's even now i don't want my dr. office to weight me and they were like we have to! i'm like ugggg why!! i feel like your judging me like you think im fat! and i wanna be in control and not seen as Fat! also my old Counsclor told me to take my scale and smash it w/ a hammer!!, she also said to go by how my clothes fit instead of a scale! I have to weight myself all the time and the number it's never enough!
@FelicityA30 haha my friend from treatment just sent me a video of her taking a sledgehammer to her scale. SO AWESOME! Maybe we can get up the courage to do it ourselves :)
There's also something powerful and symbolic about giving her your scale. Proud of you!! I can relate to everything you said. Maybe your dietitian can weigh you less often? I agree they have to monitor your weight so maybe a "step down" kind of thing would help?
@lauranorwar I agree- it's really symbolic for me. I ended up not seeing her this week, so I'm giving it to her next wednesday, so I'll let you know how it goes!
I agree with you 100%. I am getting into recovery and when I get weighed in the hospital every week, I ask not to see the number and my parents then ask to see the number. I am think umm whats the number to you but of course even without my permission the doctor tells them and it just makes me feel embarrassed and like a failure, getting weighed every week really does put me off recovery!
@MissMelanieBennett I'm glad you ask to not see the number though. I know how not fun it is to get weighed, but it is part of recovery and will get easier or at least more manageable in time. keep fighting!
I agree with you 100%. actually for the past little bit I havent weighed myself, which always ends up in me giving in, then seeing the number go up by like 2lbs, and FREAKING OUT. No, i dont think theres anything really positive about measuring yourself with a number, now that i think about it, its all really stupid. and the weird part is, is that 90% of the time we might go up a few pounds we know its water, yet just the number kills us. anyway, good luck in your challange, and great idea :)
I felt the exact same way about scales when I was in recovery! I had arguments with my dietician because I didn't want her to see the number because I was so ashamed of it, even though she wouldn't even let me see the number. I think not weighing yourself will be good for you! It's a good obsession to break!
@chocolatekiss608 I am so HAPPY to hear I'm not the only one! Yikes, I always feel so weird for having such a love/hate relationship with my scale and that stupid number it gives me. much love xx
good luck with your challenge! =) im sure you can do it..ill even say a prayer for you =) i strip down and weigh myself at least 8 times a day and its just stupid...no matter what the number says i dont feel any better about myself...usually i feel 100% worse about myself when i step on the scale. so i hate scales..especailly mine. i hate that i let scales and numbers control me. im going to try my hardest to complete your challenge too!
@lovemycocoapuffmaker ugh, it's so sad how a stupid scale can have so much power over us! Even setting a goal for one day of no scale would be amazing! You can do it!
I can relate to this so much. I wanted to refuse being weighed my last several visits. Because part of me finds it too personal, like it's MINE. Kinda like a diary. Stay strong girl! xx
Wow. You are so smart. And another thing, like why do we have clocks ? I mean do we really need to keep track of the time?
And what's with elephants? Why don't they make more sounds with their trunks? It's like they only have that one sound, but you could totally see them play a whole song.
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You make such a good point. I've never thought of it that way. I just wish I could get my ED-mind on board with my rational-mind that recognizes that you're completely right--scales are pointless.
I also totally agree that it's an obsession for people who are losing weight, whether they have an ED or not. I wonder all the time, where is the line? Why is it "behavior" for me and a "healthy weight-loss strategy" for everything else.
ugh sorry. looks like i needed to ramble a bit too.
LeyahJo 1 month ago
how did your week with no scale go? i hope it went well =)
lovemycocoapuffmaker 1 month ago
You should get the recovery record app on your phone. Its so encouraging!
foreverlinds 1 month ago
also i wish you the best in recovery :)
animalcrossing549 1 month ago
the scale is so frusturating, it causes me to feel insecure about myself, and no matter what the number is its never good enough eating disorders are such a pain.
animalcrossing549 1 month ago
i love wonderful wonderful i've seen alot of eating disorder movies but when i saw this.i dont know it was real and felt that they got it. it was will written and true and i watch this movie about three or more time i dont know it just one of those movies that i go to cause i feel that they got it and i dont feel alone sounds weird i know but i really enjoyed this movie
sbbgtc 1 month ago
And yes, you are still too thin. BE HEALTHY!
PBottomPoochies 1 month ago
First off...disclaimer to this comment - I am NOT anorexic or bulimic - if anything I am a compulsive overeater. But I do think eventually (maybe not now) you DO need to face the scale and the number it reads when you FEEL good. I know you've trained yourself to believe a good number for you is ridiculously low and you need to know what healthy FOR YOU is. That stupid chart they give you IS NOT TRUE for all bodies.
PBottomPoochies 1 month ago
Dani, I feel exactly the same way!! You honestly could have taken the words right from my own mouth. I feel the same about the scale. Wish they didn't exist!! Hope to wake up tomorrow and they would all be gone, forever.
And I feel the same about the 'number'. Hate to see it, hate my dietician to know, hate for anyone to know it.
Giving your therapist the scale is a great idea. I'm trying to convince myself to do the same. Hopefully the challenge works out for both of us!!
Love You Girly
barregirl1 1 month ago
Challenge ACCEPTED! :)
VampyOne1 1 month ago
i understand exactly how u feel! stupid, stupid scales! my dream is to one day take a axe to them! i gave my scales to the ppl i live with. 2 days later they went away and i found them and took them back... ahhhh so annoying. i need to try again i think! I hope u do well over your week of no scales! xx
lavieboheme20 1 month ago
In pregnancy, you need to be weight by your doctor to make sure you are gaining the appropriate amount of weight. Now that I am pregnant, I have to be weighed at every appt. Not gaining weight could be indicative that something is wrong with the baby. And for people who really do need to loose weight, it let's their doctor set up a good target/goal and begin a discussion for what's healthy and what to eat. Just the first thing that came to mind. I DO understand where you are coming from though.
WickedXena 1 month ago
2/2 ... It's SO conflicting when you want to present yourself as a strong person and society tells you that the way to do that is to be able to control your weight and have your body look a certain way, but you have to be strong to recover, which means gaining weight. And you get people supporting you in that at the same time that they're trying to lose weight to show how strong a person they are. You know? It just doesn't make sense.
atmywindowsill 1 month ago
Liked your video for the honesty. It's so hard to recover when everyone around you sees the number on the scale as a measure of success and control. I feel the same way when my weight goes up (or when I think it has), and it's ridiculous because my weight means nothing about ME. But there's still the feeling of failure and judgement and the societal and culture pressure to lose weight ... 1/2
atmywindowsill 1 month ago
I feel exactly the way you do about scales. It's tough stuff. Good luck on your challenge :o)
sweetsillyme 1 month ago
@sweetsillyme thanks love :)
raganmae 1 month ago
throw the scale away
oryanit 1 month ago
@oryanit I want to!!!!
raganmae 1 month ago
@raganmae just do it, don't think.you weigh yourself to reduce the stress but when you weigh yourself you get stressed even more so its a ruthless cycle
oryanit 1 month ago
...in general, I am very much in favor of people with ED's NOT knowing their weight. I know that for me, no number would make me happy, so weighing myself is a lose/lose situation.
IfGreenShouldSlip 1 month ago
@IfGreenShouldSlip YES! Always a lose-lose situation for those with eating disorders. My grandma died of congestive heart failure and I know there's good reasons for people to be weighed, but at the moment, it's not a good thing for me at all! Glad I'm not alone in this thought ;)
raganmae 1 month ago
I can completely relate...I ALWAYS want to refuse to be weighed (even though when I do get weighed it is "blind weight"), because I do NOT want ANYONE to know my weight. I freak out knowing the a doc/nutritionist knows my weight, even though I KNOW that they won't tell me. From a nursing perspective, there are several important uses for scales, such as in the case of someone with Congestive Heart Failure who needs to have weight monitored everyday to make sure they are not retaining fluids. But
IfGreenShouldSlip 1 month ago
Omgosh!! Im so glad that i watched this video!! i h8 being weighd infront of any1, i usually end up fibbing slightly jst so that i dont have to be weighd infront of some1, cos im ashamed even if the number has gone dwn, cos its never enuf!.scales can b a silly measure for many reasons except health, like if some1 has a medical condtion like diabetes + stuff. i think mayb if som1 doesnt hav an issue with food and eating it can be healthy.but wiv e.ds its not that great @ times. relate so well!
waifia 1 month ago
@waifia Ya, there's good medical reasons to use a scale but for something with an eating disorder, it's torture. It's good to know you feel the same way and we're not alone :)
raganmae 1 month ago
Hiaa x Great video... May do a vid response x I dont know my weight anymore, and it has complealty FREED ME! Seriously! I feel so mcuh better! i feel I can eat what ever I want, and it wont matter, cause I'm not gonna know my weight! I think it helps me! I know you have the strength to not weigh yourself... YOU CAN DO IT BBS!
jammieapple 1 month ago
@jammieapple Please do a video! I would like to know more about the freedom you've found from the scale!
raganmae 1 month ago
(ctd) .. that's when you're REALLY like man, I could be like 30-300lbs & I wouldn't have a CLUE! (i don't think my example should be triggering though I put numbers in it) ... and that sounds SO scary, but no! IT'S SOOOOO FREEING! Your clothes help you some, & you know to look at your body where you are generally speaking...but it has changed my LIFE. I don't know how I could ever do well with one. I'm TERRIFIED to step on one & cannot do it. But, I'd prefer that fear, than the "I MUST DO IT"
OurPeanutGallerie 1 month ago
@OurPeanutGallerie Aww that's so nice to not know. Yes, scary but I think the anxiety calms down after awhile. Love you beautiful girl!
raganmae 1 month ago
Hi, I'm in treatment so since August I've been weighed weekly, and yesterday I chose not to look. I felt embarrassed and ashamed that they knew my number and I didn't, thinking they were snickering about it and how fat I was (my team would never do that, but Ed likes to make me think they might).
Anyways! I chose to not look because for 24 hours I wanted to see what it would be like to not control my life around a number. It was TORTURE but the little part of me that is still real felt reliev
lullabyloo 1 month ago
@lullabyloo YAY!!!! I'm so proud of you! Despite having all those feelings of fear and anxiety, you challenged yourself and succeeded. Keep fighting love. It's worth it. Always.
raganmae 1 month ago
(cont'd) ... I honestly don't know if I ever would have had the years of recovery that I did if I weighed myself. I too didn't want the drs to see my shameful number if it was going up; but, at least I just knew it WAS up, but no idea how. The sucky part is that you have to go like 6 months or so to reallllly get to that point of having no idea what number you might be at. If I fluctuated a little up and a little down, I'd have no way to determine the number. After a yr of not knowing,(cont)
OurPeanutGallerie 1 month ago
I've done blind weights since I was sixteen. My first round of treatment, I made every gain emotionally compared to the lowest i'd been. So, when i started to go down again and lower than my lowest prior I never looked at it then either bc I knew I'd always go there. I'm 24 now and I still won't look. I've since learned (yrs later) what my lowest ever was....and, occasionally..some nurse will say it despite my forceful statement not to. BUT! it has honestly? changed my life. (cont'd)
OurPeanutGallerie 1 month ago
yes yes yes to everything you said. i love you friend!
gofigure1221 1 month ago
@gofigure1221 I love you too!
raganmae 1 month ago
I HATE being weighed and constantly refuse.
FamilyTree89 1 month ago
I love your hair =]
ohmeandmybigideas 1 month ago
(continued) without a scale. it would be impossible! however, i think using scales at home as a way of making assumptions about one's 'fatness' is a misuse of them, and the changes in your weight day-to-day provide very little clue as to the direction of weight loss/gain. :) plus... WHO GIVES A F!!K? does anyone who really matters to you care as long as you're healthy? i don't think i made any sense there... oh well :)
alipalipoli 1 month ago
@alipalipoli I know there's a good side to scales, just not for me! at least, not at the moment!
raganmae 1 month ago
good luck with your challenge! i don't have a scale at my house (i live with my parents, they won't buy one and never have owned one) and sometimes i'm glad it's that way - i just find out once a week when i see my doctor. also, i think scales do serve an important purpose - but their importance is often overrated and misused. i think, in the medical field they are useful tools; imagine trying to administer an anesthetic, or measuring an ill child's growth, or monitoring fluid retention, (cont)
alipalipoli 1 month ago
do it and try guess what your weight will be, i bet you will over estimate it! happened to me haha i overestimated by 3kgs!
aussiechick88 1 month ago
@aussiechick88 I ALWAYS overestimate too!
raganmae 1 month ago
When i was recovering from my ed's even now i don't want my dr. office to weight me and they were like we have to! i'm like ugggg why!! i feel like your judging me like you think im fat! and i wanna be in control and not seen as Fat! also my old Counsclor told me to take my scale and smash it w/ a hammer!!, she also said to go by how my clothes fit instead of a scale! I have to weight myself all the time and the number it's never enough!
FelicityA30 1 month ago
@FelicityA30 haha my friend from treatment just sent me a video of her taking a sledgehammer to her scale. SO AWESOME! Maybe we can get up the courage to do it ourselves :)
raganmae 1 month ago
@raganmae Maybe!!!!!
FelicityA30 1 month ago
There's also something powerful and symbolic about giving her your scale. Proud of you!! I can relate to everything you said. Maybe your dietitian can weigh you less often? I agree they have to monitor your weight so maybe a "step down" kind of thing would help?
lauranorwar 1 month ago
@lauranorwar I agree- it's really symbolic for me. I ended up not seeing her this week, so I'm giving it to her next wednesday, so I'll let you know how it goes!
raganmae 1 month ago
I agree with you 100%. I am getting into recovery and when I get weighed in the hospital every week, I ask not to see the number and my parents then ask to see the number. I am think umm whats the number to you but of course even without my permission the doctor tells them and it just makes me feel embarrassed and like a failure, getting weighed every week really does put me off recovery!
MissMelanieBennett 1 month ago
@MissMelanieBennett I'm glad you ask to not see the number though. I know how not fun it is to get weighed, but it is part of recovery and will get easier or at least more manageable in time. keep fighting!
raganmae 1 month ago
I agree with you 100%. actually for the past little bit I havent weighed myself, which always ends up in me giving in, then seeing the number go up by like 2lbs, and FREAKING OUT. No, i dont think theres anything really positive about measuring yourself with a number, now that i think about it, its all really stupid. and the weird part is, is that 90% of the time we might go up a few pounds we know its water, yet just the number kills us. anyway, good luck in your challange, and great idea :)
Unglamoroused 1 month ago
@Unglamoroused I KNOW! SERIOUSLY. Even if it's just half a pound, it can completely ruin my day! So not cool.
raganmae 1 month ago
I felt the exact same way about scales when I was in recovery! I had arguments with my dietician because I didn't want her to see the number because I was so ashamed of it, even though she wouldn't even let me see the number. I think not weighing yourself will be good for you! It's a good obsession to break!
chocolatekiss608 1 month ago
@chocolatekiss608 I am so HAPPY to hear I'm not the only one! Yikes, I always feel so weird for having such a love/hate relationship with my scale and that stupid number it gives me. much love xx
raganmae 1 month ago
good luck with your challenge! =) im sure you can do it..ill even say a prayer for you =) i strip down and weigh myself at least 8 times a day and its just stupid...no matter what the number says i dont feel any better about myself...usually i feel 100% worse about myself when i step on the scale. so i hate scales..especailly mine. i hate that i let scales and numbers control me. im going to try my hardest to complete your challenge too!
lovemycocoapuffmaker 1 month ago
@lovemycocoapuffmaker ugh, it's so sad how a stupid scale can have so much power over us! Even setting a goal for one day of no scale would be amazing! You can do it!
raganmae 1 month ago
i love and hate my scales too.
stillismile1 1 month ago
I can relate to this so much. I wanted to refuse being weighed my last several visits. Because part of me finds it too personal, like it's MINE. Kinda like a diary. Stay strong girl! xx
burntcoffeebeans 1 month ago
your videos help me so much! You made me want to make my own videos :)
burntcoffeebeans 1 month ago
@burntcoffeebeans please do! Let me know when you do make a video and I'll make sure to watch it. I would love to learn more about you :)
raganmae 1 month ago