@felixofla101 Hello. No, I don't get breast fed. I never have and don't want to. I am a baby bottle baby. And yes, I have tasted baby formula, nasty stuff. I drink 2% cows milk, apple juice or water.
@Stanley19802 And not into being changed either. I have been changed in the hospital once, and a AB mommy did it a few times when I was real sick with the flu. Aside from that, I change my own diaper.
@AshyHusky1 That's fine. :) But no, not a Baby Fur or furry. Although someone made me into a Baby Fur in a picture once. I forget what animal it was though.
@RegalitiesFarseer I have seen the dub yes. Not exactly my favorite, but to each their own. As for the street light, it was a gift a few years ago. Makes a good nightlight. :) I did a yahoo search for "Childs hang on the wall traffic light" and got several sellers. :)
@eddie7r7 No, I'm not offended. It's a very valid question. Yes, I do use the diaper. I am urinary incontinent due to abuse. I was severely abused as a child including a spinal injury. I have between 3-5 accidents per day. More if under stress. I either get few seconds warning that I need to go, or no warning at all and just start going. So the diapers are worn during role playing, but also to manage to accidents. Some wear due to incontinence and others wear and go on purpose. Hope that helps.
@nartnayr It really is. We all have something we do to relax and chill out at the end of the day. Some read, some have a glass of wine, some take a bath with candles and in this case, people throw on a diaper and play with lego's or have a warm bottle of milk as they go to bed. The way I have always felt about it, as long as it does not hurt the person doing, anyone else and doesn't break the law....go for it. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@devilshomie For those who find it sexual, it's a fetish. For those who don't, it's a lifestyle. For me, it's a lifestyle. My bedroom is decorated as a nursery full time. Which I find very calming. But I only role play 1-4 hours per day. Some role play less, others role play more. It really varies person to person. Hope that answers your question.
@greenbeana214 Yes, I remember you. I am glad you found the Channeling Erik blog enlightening. I owe so much to Elisa, the woman who runs it. Not only did she and other blog members help out with gas money when Sandra was in the hospital for those 3 months, but 2 channelers on there were so nice in channeling Sandra for me shortly after she died. Now both of the channelers pass messages between me and Sandra. That really helps make her passing tollerable. Glad you have found answers on the blog.
@TgApTrixxie I am glad that the show was helpful in explaining what role playing is really like. Sadly many myths are out there. And that was a big reason me and my friend did the show. We really wanted to address at least some of those myths. The biggest myth out there was that AB/DL's were a danger to children. So I am glad that we had the chance to set the record straight on at least some myths. Thank you for posting. :)
I prefer not to, no. But it has happened when I was sick, or or stuck in traffic or something and couldn't get to a restroom in time. If I had to put a number on the times it's happened, 6 maybe, ever. But I do wear for wetting accidents. I have 3-5 accidents a day. More if it's a bad PTSD day. Stress seems to make it worse. Hope that answers your question. :)
@ForTheLoveOfBooksx00 I prefer not to, no. But it has happened when I was sick, or or stuck in traffic or something and couldn't get to a restroom in time. If I had to put a number on the times it's happened, 6 maybe, ever. But I do wear for wetting accidents. I have 3-5 accidents a day. More if it's a bad PTSD day. Stress seems to make it worse. Hope that answers your question. :)
@ForTheLoveOfBooksx00 I prefer not to, no. But it has happened when I was sick, or or stuck in traffic or something and couldn't get to a restroom in time. If I had to put a number on the times it's happened, 6 maybe, ever. But I do wear for wetting accidents. I have 3-5 accidents a day. More if it's a bad PTSD day. Stress seems to make it worse. Hope that answers your question.
@spider9243 You know, I hate people who assume. For your information Spider, I do belive in god. Now, what exactly does being religious have anything to do with enjoying role playing? Is somehow being religous and following god suddenly supposed to make someone stop role playing. And please don't say it's a sin in the bible. There is nothing in the bible that says anything about role playing being bad or a sin. Stop assuming people! Just ask if you want to know something. Geeze.
I have heard that. But due to my back and all, the chair I built for the show was the one and only one I will be making. But I do sell the directions for building the chair on my site, and that money then goes to keeping the website online and free of charge. Just the last few days the back pain has been severe. Like a hot poker in my back just standing. Not even doing anything. But yea, furniture building for the masses is not in my future. But the plans will let others make it cheap for them.
This freaks me out alittle bit but then again, this is your life and this is you. You picked to be this way. I'm not going to judge you by this. This isn't my way to pick how to live life, but this isn't about me.
@AppleiJerzday25 I understand it freaks ya out. I don't understand the appeal for those who like to be slaves to doms and all. The way I feel, as long as it's not hurting you or anyone else and does not break laws and makes you happy, go for it. And plus, if we lived in a world where everyone was exactly the same, it would be a pretty boaring world. To each our own. :) Thanks for your thoughts. :)
Totally understandable on that part...but wow, no formal training other than a year of wood shop, that is incredible. I listened to some of your interviews and I'm sorry to hear about your original "Adult Mommy" and am glad your roommate supports you. My fiancé looks at me funny when I told him of my desires as a teen to explore this further for myself. My childhood wasn't too pretty either, so I get why you do it and am not freaked out by it at all. As far as the sound problem, it might just b
@FlimsyNimsy What helped too was watching home improvement shows on TV. And of course the internet. When I built the high chair, I basically took measurements off my recliner and just did that accept it was just higher off the ground. I was pretty amazed on how good it turned out. As for my room mate, Well, she died almost 6 months ago now. So I am alone again now. But thanks to a friend who's a medium, I get the chance to swap messages with Sandra about every 2 months or so. That really helps.
So you are the legit Stanley, it is a pleasure to cone across your account. I have a big interest in abnormal psychology and am very interested in the Adult Baby lifestyle, for a dabbed into it as a teen, but beat myself out of it before heading off to college. I never did get to see your documentary fully and am totally bummed your copy of it is sound scrambled so I'm unable to hear it (stupid copyright laws...LOL) I find your carpentry skills interesting. You should find a way to set up a cus
@FlimsyNimsy Yep, the real Stanley. On the topic of psychology, I was glad when I heard that infantilism finally was added to the DSM manual. Of course I, and others don't agree that it's a mental illness. However the book does give a therapist some information about it that otherwise wouldn't be found. About the video, I think the audio issue is on your end. It runs clear both signed in and out and my side, and 2 other computers I checked it on. Not sure why it's not working for ya.
@FlimsyNimsy Also, about the carpentry skills, truthfully all I have is what I learned in my one year of wood shop at school. Everything else has been been trial and error. The other problem is doing such projects hurt to do. The high chair took 2 1/2 weeks to build, about a hour a day was all I could stand. What many people don't know was to do the things I did in the show, I was double dosing my pain medications to do that. You can read all about the behind the scenes stuff on my site.
so what would happen if your nurse leaves? do you stay an adult till you find another one or are you like a baby home alone till you find someone willing to nurse you?
@justinsbaby159 Sandra is dead. She died on July 7th during a surgery to get the sepsis infection under control. She bled to death. They flew up 4 bags of blood by helicopter from Sacramento that gave me about 20 minutes time to say goodbye. With her death I can only afford to rent a room now downtown. I do still role play, and yes, I role play alone now. The only bright side is at least Sandra isn't in so much pain now. One day I will be able to be back with Sandra, Pam and DJ again.
@Stanley19802 i am so very and truly sorry for your loss i dont understand the AB culture,but i admire you for being open and honest and representing yourself and other AB in a positive way. i wish you nothing but joy for this and all coming seasons. :)
@justinsbaby159 Thank you Justin. I understand the AB culture can be difficult to understand by those not into it. I just wish people out there would do some research first before believing the myths. And that's why I did the Taboo episode. To let the public know what being a adult baby is really like. I knew I would get attacked for being AB, but someone had to get out there and set the record straight about adult babies. And because of me and others, it opened the doors for others to come out.
@jenjenscamel74 No problem Jen. I figured that someone had to get out there and show people what being AB is really like, and dismiss so many of the myths out there. Coburn aside, the Taboo episode did help people understand what being AB was like. What some of the role playing looks like. And yea, there is nothing wrong with you. You keep being yourself. **hug** :)
@MissMaddy881 Thank you Maddy. I'm getting there. It's slow going, but it's still moving forward. I hope your doing well too. I wish you and your family a great Thanksgiving.
All the best stuff starts in California. California is always the first. If it works in California, then all the other states follow.Yay California! :)
@anonymousABDL Your so right. There are both teens and adults into the AB/TB/DL community all over the world. Just listed on my site alone, so far for teens into it, we have teen in Africa, Argentina, Australia, Canada, China, Denmark, El Salvador, England (UK), Finland, Ireland, Mexico, Singapore, Thailand and the USA. For adults, we have adults into this in Argentina, Australia, Canada, England (UK), Malaysia, Mexico, New Zealand, Norway and the USA. And that's just on my site alone.
first of all stanly let me say that I completely support your lifestyle and am proud that you chose to represent the AB community (that really took a lot of guts) to the public. what I don't like is that you let natgeo put you into such a negative light, I for one have read too many comments across the internet of people who believe that if your an AB you HAVE to have had a horrible childhood, when I look at you I dont see someone who had a terrible childhood I just see a perefectly content AB.
@zenzen126 First, thanks for the comments. 2nd, The Taboo show was about AB's yes. But it was about just one out of the whole community. That's what I think people are missing. Take Riley who appeared last month on "My Strange Addiction" and as you watch it, although she is AB, the film crew focuses on her being a transgenered and all. So will everyone watching her episode think all AB's are transgenered? You have to remember that each episode talks about just one person out of the whole group.
@zenzen126 The other thing to keep in mind is that the causes/triggers for people to become AB/DL is wide and far. There are AB/DL's who get into this with a very happy childhood and no apparent reason to point to a cause. With Taboo, they were focusing on just one AB out of the whole community. And in my case, bed wetting and child abuse was the cause/trigger for me. I am but one out of a community of thousands. And that's what people need to understand. We are all different.
@zenzen126 Well, as more AB/DL’s go on documentaries in the years to come people will learn more about our community and continue to tear down the myths. Just look at the gay and lesbian groups. One of many myths about them was just standing next to someone gay would make you gay. Or that all gays had Aids. With many going on TV and such, knowledge has come to prove both gay myths wrong. There is even a gay/lesbian TV channel now. I believe we will come to a similar level of acceptance one day.
@McLovinn21 Actually no, I don't. I have been offered sure, but have had no desire. It's difficult to explain. I just have no disire what so ever to have sex. Male or female. Take that as you will.
You know dude, I don't know why everyone is hating on you. I say let bigons be bigons. I mean, most of these people should see what I do in my spare time if they really want to see something seriously messed up..
@skytiger859 The reason I don't build Adult Baby furniture is because it took almost a month to make the one high chair, and that was with Sandra's help. The reason I made my own high chair was first because I didn't have the 2 or 3 thousands dollars plus shipping to get one from online. And two, the ones online are for skinny people. So I knew if I wanted one, I would have to make it. And had NatGeo not paid for the supplies for the high chair, I most likely never would have had one to enjoy.
@Stanley19802 I feel that what you re doing is not healthy. Either for you or your nurse. Why don't you build furniture to relax? You seem to be very skilled, and you could make a living on it. Please consider it sir. You are lying to yourself. An it isn't fair to your nurse to support you 24/7. Whether she wants to or not.
@skytiger859 As for what I do being health, it's a very healthy way to relax and destress. Mental health has been using it for years under the name "Regression Therapy". Just not to the point AB's take it with all the props. And although I am skilled, the knowledge is there, but my body has had much damage done to it from the child abuse over the years. I was laid up in bed for almost 2 weeks after I did the Taboo episode.
@skytiger859 Another thing people don't understand, as Sandra doesn't support me. When I role play, it's a few hours a day, not 24/7. I do enjoy my adult time too. I don't pay Sandra either. She does it because she likes seeing me happy, and she enjoys it for her own reasons. Toward the end before Sandra passed away, I did take care of her. The last 3 months before passing, she couldn't even walk anymore due to the sepsis infection. So I was doing much for her. After all, she did so much for me.
I'm sorry you feel we should be ashamed. We are not though. It's done with concenting adults. It doesn't consume our whole lives. Maybe 1-2 hours a day. I don't count the 8 hours asleep in the crib since I am sleeping and not role playing. It gives me joy, comfort and I find as a way to relax. And I never said it was THE ONLY way to relax. As you said, you enjoy crocheting, and that's great. We all have some way we find relaxing to us. This is just mine. Take care. :)
@tyuyuu I don't role play all day. Besides the 8 hours I am actually asleep in the crib, which is what NatGeo was counting when they said half my day was spent role playing, I only role play 1-3 hours each day depending on what's going on in my life. Right now I plan to be into it on the 3 hour a day side since I couldn't role play at all while I was in the hospital which sucked. But being AB isn't my whole life, nor would I want it to be. There are many adult things that I do enjoy doing.
Also, just to let people know, the website I run, I have AB's and DL's listed in just about every US state, and in several countries including Africa, Argentina, Australia, Canada, China, Denmark, El Salvador, England (UK), Finland, Ireland, Malaysia, Mexico, New Zealand, Norway, Singapore and Thailand. And that's just on my site alone. So the AB lifestyle is not just in the US and not just in California. It's everywhere.
Yep, California is always where new ways of life start. For some reason only California is willing to take chances on new ways of thinking or doing things. It seems other states and even countires wait to see if it works in California and then if it does they follow. So yea, California is where to be to see new ideas, ways of doing things, or new ways of thinking or seeing something.
XD I love some of the comments here. I hope this video help some people at least to not just hate someone because they choose to live a certain way and they think it's weird. I'm a DL( basically an AB that keeps the roleplaying to a minimum or even null). I wear diaper because I just feel far less stressed with them..it's impossible forme to make sense of it even to myself. Kudos Stanley, there is very little likelyhood that I'd could ever have done this episode myself.
its strange (to say the very least) but who am I to judge. Just because I don't agree with it, doesn't necessarily make it wrong I guess.To each his own. Its shocking and hard to understand. But I know its psychological and really I find it very sad. My heart goes out to him and his family. He was abused as a child and NO child should have to Indore abuse! Psychologically he is trying to relive his childhood and that breaks my heart. Hope he gets the help he needs. I wish him nothing but well
Hello Chrhope, yes I do have a messenger. I use yahoo messenger under the user name "Stanley_19802". Same as my e-mail address "Stanley_19802@yahoo.com". I don't use the messenger every day, but I am on from time to time. Be well everyone. :)
You really are a huge inspiration. You display that what you do makes you happy and that you don't care what anyone else thinks. People may call you weird but I think that what you're doing is perfectly fine. I have Dermatillomania which is an OCD and everyone calls me weird. But I've learned to live around it. Keep your head up Stanley. :) you're perfect as you are.
@stoneagearcher I am not on disability because I role play as a baby. I am on disabilty for depression, bi-polar, PTSD, suicidal ideation, ADHD, spinal injury, heart condition just to name a few. I have over 20 years of documentation from special education schools, therapists, medical doctors and more. My SSI case is solid. Why people think I am getting SSI because I am a Adult Baby I don't know. Being AB isn't a mental disorder. I'm not getting SSI for being a AB. I get it for my disabilities.
@hartjesr yes, I am really the same Staney from the Taboo episode. I did the show in a effort to help the general public to better understand what some of the role playing actually looks like. Such as being fed, read a story, tucked into bed and so on. As you see from the video, it's two adults doing this. No actual children are involved which is one of many myths out there about the AB/DL community. This is just one of many ways people relax.
Stanley I commend you for doing the show. I am a 38 year old ABDL and have tryed to live the lifestyle but only to find betryal from my wife over it. I dont know why people are so harsh about it and i think people would be shocked to find out how big of a movement of people out there are wearing diapers under work clothing and all. I thank you for doing the show and wish you luck. as for me im still looking for that special woman to play mommy for me around youngstown ohio.
UPDATE: Today I had my re-evaluation. But instead of me going to the SSI office, they came here. One was from SSI, and the other two were FBI sent at Senator Coburn's request. They asked questions for about 3 hours. They said they find there is nothing fruadulent about my disability claim, and I should recieve my statement of future SSI disability payments in the mail in the next week to 10 days. So, as I was TRYING to tell everyone, my disability claim IS legit!!!
@Stanley19802 CONGRATS!!! I have been watching your story online (different news reports/forums) for a while and was shocked when I just noticed this was really you posting! Coburn was a complete jerk for trying to get press while destroying a US Citizen by disclaiming a recognized condition. Can you imagine if he won? Our soldiers who come back with PTSD could be denied claims at the whim of some idiot.
Clearly stuff like the NatGeo thing is going to happen from time to time, but seeing as I am far from popular, people will get board of the story and move on. I will be sending in my disability re-evaluation packet on Wednesday and should get the paperwork for my continued benifits a few weeks later and then this will all be forgotten till the next thing comes into the news. That's the media for ya though, always another story in the distance.
@Stanley19802 I'm glad to hear that things are settling down for you. Still, I respect your courage for going public I'm not sure I would be able to. That said my family found out about my AB side and needless to say they weren't very accepting either. In fact, I also have a brother that I no longer communicate with so I can certainly relate. Take Care.
I personally could care less what my brother is saying about me on the net. He's always talked a bunch of trash and is one of many reasons I stopped talking to him and the rest of the family. I just wasn't worth the bull crap and drama. With just me and Sandra, the home environment is very calm. My stress level since distancing myself from my family has gone WAY down.
Pretending to be an infant isn't the only non-destructive way to deal with stress, you know. Exercise, for example, is a great stress reliever and one option that clearly would be beneficial to you and your fantasy mom.
@BDWong1 - Wow!... Such an indirect way to insult, but an insult nonetheless. The first thing I thought when seeing her was hyperthyroidism (which no amount of exercise will 'fix') but you seem to look at the negative side of things first. And if this works for them both then why would you "suggest" they shouldn't do it. For that matter, how do you know they aren't staying active? Negative assumptions are so common. Too common.
Hello ozarkmac, Sorry I didn't get the chance to reply sooner. I just got out of the hospital for a suicide attempt. I would like to say that all the hundreds of "go off yourself" letters didn't bother me, but I am human like anyone else, and I can be hurt too. But I wanted to say thank you for your comment. I am so sorry to hear you have PTSD as well. It truely is pure hell. I don't think people realise, it wasn't about just the one event. PTSD is reliving it over and over and over again. Hell!
@Stanley19802 Hey stanley don't let these people get you down your a good person and don't let anyone tell you different we all hve our ways of dealing with life mine is through virtual worlds yours is this way and you know what like you said at least you aint hurting anybody so in my opinion all the haters in the world can go fuck themselves
A response to everyone who thinks I get all these thousands of dollars being on disability, you all have no idea. I don't get 1 thousand, 2 thousand or even 3 thousand dollars a month on disability. I get $870.00 a month for California. And my rent alone takes half of it. After my bills are paid, I end up with around $10.00-$20.00 after bills. $85.00 is being taken out of that $870.00 right now for a accidental overpayment by SSI some months ago. So my actual check is only $785.00 a month.
stanley youre a very brave man and im really glad you got to tell your side of the story in that episode, i know a lot of people were thinking the worst of the whole idea of it but i think everything was put in a good perspective and i applaud your efforts
Awwww, thanks Shari. Your so sweet. Hope your doing well. It's been awhile, got to catch up on how you have been. Drop me a line sometime, my e-mail is Stanley_19802@yahoo.com. **hug** :)
Stanley is one of the nicest people i have ever known. Sandra loves him with all her heart. they are not at all strange when you are around them they are just good, down to earth people. i hope people do not judge to harshly.
Hey us3rfri3ndlyx, I wish I could tell where I got them, but those were a Christmas gift. I know it wasn't cheap as it's one of the better quality ones. I do know there a few places out there with some around $100.00 bucks. Just do a search for "adult sleepers" and you should get a few results. I can say it's nice a warm during the winter. It comes with detachable feet with the rubber no slip, but I prefer sox over the PJ feet that came with it. Take care.
Thanks Ozzie and Tavi, Glad you both got a chance to see it. The full version really does explain more. The 5 minute clip just showed enough to get people interested, and nothing about the WHY I do it. Not to say that anyone else has never been abused. This is just my way of dealing with my past. And it helps me cope better during my adult activites much better. As long as it breaks no laws, and does not hurt yourself or others, to each their own is how I feel.
cool to see all of this. and that ya explained that its not a bad thing at all compared to what others do in the world, that's really harmful and full out violent.
@OzzieAstaroth you know it's funny, I've seen pictures of you on your deviantart account, and when I saw this on national geographic, I was sure this was you.
Stanley I have a question, do you get breast fed?
felixofla101 1 week ago
@felixofla101 Hello. No, I don't get breast fed. I never have and don't want to. I am a baby bottle baby. And yes, I have tasted baby formula, nasty stuff. I drink 2% cows milk, apple juice or water.
Stanley19802 1 week ago
@Stanley19802 And not into being changed either. I have been changed in the hospital once, and a AB mommy did it a few times when I was real sick with the flu. Aside from that, I change my own diaper.
Stanley19802 1 week ago
Hey Stanley are you a Baby fur? just asking
AshyHusky1 1 week ago
@AshyHusky1 That's fine. :) But no, not a Baby Fur or furry. Although someone made me into a Baby Fur in a picture once. I forget what animal it was though.
Stanley19802 1 week ago
@Stanley19802 Thanks for replying :3
AshyHusky1 1 week ago
@AshyHusky1 No problem
Stanley19802 1 week ago
I totally feel for you! Im only 15 and wish i could go back to the infant days.....
flippytrick00 2 weeks ago
Dude... WTF
wvmcc82 2 weeks ago
He has PTSD so he pretends he's a baby? why doesnt he just grow up and abuse drugs and murder people like the rest of us?
Masamune7vii 1 month ago
@Masamune7vii The best part is it's totally free of charge to role play and no hang over in the morning! :)
Stanley19802 1 month ago
Have you seen the Jaybootydubs video he did about this? also the street light on your wall is awesome. Where did you get it> I've always wantned one.
RegalitiesFarseer 1 month ago
@RegalitiesFarseer I have seen the dub yes. Not exactly my favorite, but to each their own. As for the street light, it was a gift a few years ago. Makes a good nightlight. :) I did a yahoo search for "Childs hang on the wall traffic light" and got several sellers. :)
Stanley19802 1 month ago
@Stanley19802 Nice thanks! I actually found one I liked for pretty cheap. Best to you in the future.
RegalitiesFarseer 1 month ago
How awkward, was this to film.
rogeliozim456 1 month ago
Hey Stanley, I dont mean to offend you with this question at all so please don't take it the wrong way. Do you use the diaper?
eddie7r7 1 month ago
@eddie7r7 No, I'm not offended. It's a very valid question. Yes, I do use the diaper. I am urinary incontinent due to abuse. I was severely abused as a child including a spinal injury. I have between 3-5 accidents per day. More if under stress. I either get few seconds warning that I need to go, or no warning at all and just start going. So the diapers are worn during role playing, but also to manage to accidents. Some wear due to incontinence and others wear and go on purpose. Hope that helps.
Stanley19802 1 month ago
I think being an adult baby is totally normal.
nartnayr 1 month ago
@nartnayr It really is. We all have something we do to relax and chill out at the end of the day. Some read, some have a glass of wine, some take a bath with candles and in this case, people throw on a diaper and play with lego's or have a warm bottle of milk as they go to bed. The way I have always felt about it, as long as it does not hurt the person doing, anyone else and doesn't break the law....go for it. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Stanley19802 1 month ago
@Stanley19802 Haha No problem :)
nartnayr 1 month ago
So is this a fetish or a lifestyle I mean no offense I'm just curious
devilshomie 1 month ago
@devilshomie For those who find it sexual, it's a fetish. For those who don't, it's a lifestyle. For me, it's a lifestyle. My bedroom is decorated as a nursery full time. Which I find very calming. But I only role play 1-4 hours per day. Some role play less, others role play more. It really varies person to person. Hope that answers your question.
Stanley19802 1 month ago
@Stanley19802 Thanks for the info :)
devilshomie 1 month ago
Hi again Stanley,
We've talked before but it's been awhile (That's OK if you don't remember)
I recently read your posts on/about Channeling Erik.
Thank you for the information about this fantastic website.
It has answered some questions I had after I had a near death/ death like experience.
I hope all is well and here's to hoping the new year is better than the last.
Peace to you my friend
greenbeana214 1 month ago
@greenbeana214 Yes, I remember you. I am glad you found the Channeling Erik blog enlightening. I owe so much to Elisa, the woman who runs it. Not only did she and other blog members help out with gas money when Sandra was in the hospital for those 3 months, but 2 channelers on there were so nice in channeling Sandra for me shortly after she died. Now both of the channelers pass messages between me and Sandra. That really helps make her passing tollerable. Glad you have found answers on the blog.
Stanley19802 1 month ago
This was good insight on what an adult baby is.
Glad I watched, since I admit I had allot of bad judgement over the whole idea.
TgApTrixxie 1 month ago
@TgApTrixxie I am glad that the show was helpful in explaining what role playing is really like. Sadly many myths are out there. And that was a big reason me and my friend did the show. We really wanted to address at least some of those myths. The biggest myth out there was that AB/DL's were a danger to children. So I am glad that we had the chance to set the record straight on at least some myths. Thank you for posting. :)
Stanley19802 1 month ago
I prefer not to, no. But it has happened when I was sick, or or stuck in traffic or something and couldn't get to a restroom in time. If I had to put a number on the times it's happened, 6 maybe, ever. But I do wear for wetting accidents. I have 3-5 accidents a day. More if it's a bad PTSD day. Stress seems to make it worse. Hope that answers your question. :)
Stanley19802 1 month ago
hey stan!! :)
ForTheLoveOfBooksx00 1 month ago
@ForTheLoveOfBooksx00 Hello. Hope your doing well and had a great New Years. That goes for everyone. :)
Stanley19802 1 month ago
@Stanley19802 do you do #2 in diapers also??
ForTheLoveOfBooksx00 1 month ago
@ForTheLoveOfBooksx00 I prefer not to, no. But it has happened when I was sick, or or stuck in traffic or something and couldn't get to a restroom in time. If I had to put a number on the times it's happened, 6 maybe, ever. But I do wear for wetting accidents. I have 3-5 accidents a day. More if it's a bad PTSD day. Stress seems to make it worse. Hope that answers your question. :)
Stanley19802 1 month ago
@ForTheLoveOfBooksx00 I prefer not to, no. But it has happened when I was sick, or or stuck in traffic or something and couldn't get to a restroom in time. If I had to put a number on the times it's happened, 6 maybe, ever. But I do wear for wetting accidents. I have 3-5 accidents a day. More if it's a bad PTSD day. Stress seems to make it worse. Hope that answers your question.
Stanley19802 1 month ago
These people need jesus :'(
spider9243 1 month ago
@spider9243 You know, I hate people who assume. For your information Spider, I do belive in god. Now, what exactly does being religious have anything to do with enjoying role playing? Is somehow being religous and following god suddenly supposed to make someone stop role playing. And please don't say it's a sin in the bible. There is nothing in the bible that says anything about role playing being bad or a sin. Stop assuming people! Just ask if you want to know something. Geeze.
Stanley19802 1 month ago
@spider9243 What a ridicules thing to say...
jlabrecque1 1 month ago
I have heard that. But due to my back and all, the chair I built for the show was the one and only one I will be making. But I do sell the directions for building the chair on my site, and that money then goes to keeping the website online and free of charge. Just the last few days the back pain has been severe. Like a hot poker in my back just standing. Not even doing anything. But yea, furniture building for the masses is not in my future. But the plans will let others make it cheap for them.
Stanley19802 2 months ago
you could make a ton selling to other ABs. you have talent.
yummieyummie123 2 months ago
This freaks me out alittle bit but then again, this is your life and this is you. You picked to be this way. I'm not going to judge you by this. This isn't my way to pick how to live life, but this isn't about me.
AppleiJerzday25 2 months ago in playlist More videos from Stanley19802
@AppleiJerzday25 I understand it freaks ya out. I don't understand the appeal for those who like to be slaves to doms and all. The way I feel, as long as it's not hurting you or anyone else and does not break laws and makes you happy, go for it. And plus, if we lived in a world where everyone was exactly the same, it would be a pretty boaring world. To each our own. :) Thanks for your thoughts. :)
Stanley19802 2 months ago
Totally understandable on that part...but wow, no formal training other than a year of wood shop, that is incredible. I listened to some of your interviews and I'm sorry to hear about your original "Adult Mommy" and am glad your roommate supports you. My fiancé looks at me funny when I told him of my desires as a teen to explore this further for myself. My childhood wasn't too pretty either, so I get why you do it and am not freaked out by it at all. As far as the sound problem, it might just b
FlimsyNimsy 2 months ago
@FlimsyNimsy What helped too was watching home improvement shows on TV. And of course the internet. When I built the high chair, I basically took measurements off my recliner and just did that accept it was just higher off the ground. I was pretty amazed on how good it turned out. As for my room mate, Well, she died almost 6 months ago now. So I am alone again now. But thanks to a friend who's a medium, I get the chance to swap messages with Sandra about every 2 months or so. That really helps.
Stanley19802 2 months ago
So you are the legit Stanley, it is a pleasure to cone across your account. I have a big interest in abnormal psychology and am very interested in the Adult Baby lifestyle, for a dabbed into it as a teen, but beat myself out of it before heading off to college. I never did get to see your documentary fully and am totally bummed your copy of it is sound scrambled so I'm unable to hear it (stupid copyright laws...LOL) I find your carpentry skills interesting. You should find a way to set up a cus
FlimsyNimsy 2 months ago
@FlimsyNimsy Yep, the real Stanley. On the topic of psychology, I was glad when I heard that infantilism finally was added to the DSM manual. Of course I, and others don't agree that it's a mental illness. However the book does give a therapist some information about it that otherwise wouldn't be found. About the video, I think the audio issue is on your end. It runs clear both signed in and out and my side, and 2 other computers I checked it on. Not sure why it's not working for ya.
Stanley19802 2 months ago
@FlimsyNimsy Also, about the carpentry skills, truthfully all I have is what I learned in my one year of wood shop at school. Everything else has been been trial and error. The other problem is doing such projects hurt to do. The high chair took 2 1/2 weeks to build, about a hour a day was all I could stand. What many people don't know was to do the things I did in the show, I was double dosing my pain medications to do that. You can read all about the behind the scenes stuff on my site.
Stanley19802 2 months ago
strangest thing i've ever seen...
jsrux 2 months ago
so what would happen if your nurse leaves? do you stay an adult till you find another one or are you like a baby home alone till you find someone willing to nurse you?
justinsbaby159 2 months ago
@justinsbaby159 Sandra is dead. She died on July 7th during a surgery to get the sepsis infection under control. She bled to death. They flew up 4 bags of blood by helicopter from Sacramento that gave me about 20 minutes time to say goodbye. With her death I can only afford to rent a room now downtown. I do still role play, and yes, I role play alone now. The only bright side is at least Sandra isn't in so much pain now. One day I will be able to be back with Sandra, Pam and DJ again.
Stanley19802 2 months ago
@Stanley19802 i am so very and truly sorry for your loss i dont understand the AB culture,but i admire you for being open and honest and representing yourself and other AB in a positive way. i wish you nothing but joy for this and all coming seasons. :)
justinsbaby159 2 months ago
@justinsbaby159 Thank you Justin. I understand the AB culture can be difficult to understand by those not into it. I just wish people out there would do some research first before believing the myths. And that's why I did the Taboo episode. To let the public know what being a adult baby is really like. I knew I would get attacked for being AB, but someone had to get out there and set the record straight about adult babies. And because of me and others, it opened the doors for others to come out.
Stanley19802 2 months ago
@jenjenscamel74 No problem Jen. I figured that someone had to get out there and show people what being AB is really like, and dismiss so many of the myths out there. Coburn aside, the Taboo episode did help people understand what being AB was like. What some of the role playing looks like. And yea, there is nothing wrong with you. You keep being yourself. **hug** :)
Stanley19802 2 months ago
i'm sorry you had a bad childhood. i hope you're doing ok:)
MissMaddy881 3 months ago
@MissMaddy881 Thank you Maddy. I'm getting there. It's slow going, but it's still moving forward. I hope your doing well too. I wish you and your family a great Thanksgiving.
Stanley19802 3 months ago
@Stanley19802 i'm doing ok. happy thanksgiving to you and sandra!
MissMaddy881 3 months ago
@MissMaddy881 Aww thanks Maddy, I will pass on the Happy Thanksgiving to Sandra. :)
Stanley19802 3 months ago
@ColombianaXO7 You need mental help.
straken9k1 4 months ago
All the best stuff starts in California. California is always the first. If it works in California, then all the other states follow.Yay California! :)
Stanley19802 4 months ago
@Stanley19802 lol what?
leebrown2007 4 months ago
Lol of course he lives in California xD We've got some weird-ass stuff...
pmunkyandpals11 4 months ago
@pmunkyandpals11
There are ABs in every state in the USA, and probably in every country in the world.
anonymousABDL 4 months ago
@anonymousABDL Your so right. There are both teens and adults into the AB/TB/DL community all over the world. Just listed on my site alone, so far for teens into it, we have teen in Africa, Argentina, Australia, Canada, China, Denmark, El Salvador, England (UK), Finland, Ireland, Mexico, Singapore, Thailand and the USA. For adults, we have adults into this in Argentina, Australia, Canada, England (UK), Malaysia, Mexico, New Zealand, Norway and the USA. And that's just on my site alone.
Stanley19802 4 months ago
first of all stanly let me say that I completely support your lifestyle and am proud that you chose to represent the AB community (that really took a lot of guts) to the public. what I don't like is that you let natgeo put you into such a negative light, I for one have read too many comments across the internet of people who believe that if your an AB you HAVE to have had a horrible childhood, when I look at you I dont see someone who had a terrible childhood I just see a perefectly content AB.
zenzen126 5 months ago
@zenzen126 First, thanks for the comments. 2nd, The Taboo show was about AB's yes. But it was about just one out of the whole community. That's what I think people are missing. Take Riley who appeared last month on "My Strange Addiction" and as you watch it, although she is AB, the film crew focuses on her being a transgenered and all. So will everyone watching her episode think all AB's are transgenered? You have to remember that each episode talks about just one person out of the whole group.
Stanley19802 5 months ago
@zenzen126 The other thing to keep in mind is that the causes/triggers for people to become AB/DL is wide and far. There are AB/DL's who get into this with a very happy childhood and no apparent reason to point to a cause. With Taboo, they were focusing on just one AB out of the whole community. And in my case, bed wetting and child abuse was the cause/trigger for me. I am but one out of a community of thousands. And that's what people need to understand. We are all different.
Stanley19802 5 months ago
@Stanley19802 Yes we are. Too many people refuse to understand, and it saddens me.
zenzen126 5 months ago
@zenzen126 Well, as more AB/DL’s go on documentaries in the years to come people will learn more about our community and continue to tear down the myths. Just look at the gay and lesbian groups. One of many myths about them was just standing next to someone gay would make you gay. Or that all gays had Aids. With many going on TV and such, knowledge has come to prove both gay myths wrong. There is even a gay/lesbian TV channel now. I believe we will come to a similar level of acceptance one day.
Stanley19802 5 months ago
You must get laid. a lot.
McLovinn21 5 months ago
@McLovinn21 Actually no, I don't. I have been offered sure, but have had no desire. It's difficult to explain. I just have no disire what so ever to have sex. Male or female. Take that as you will.
Stanley19802 5 months ago
You know dude, I don't know why everyone is hating on you. I say let bigons be bigons. I mean, most of these people should see what I do in my spare time if they really want to see something seriously messed up..
thephysicwerewolf 6 months ago
@Stanley19802 why don't you build furniture to relax?
skytiger859 6 months ago
@skytiger859 The reason I don't build Adult Baby furniture is because it took almost a month to make the one high chair, and that was with Sandra's help. The reason I made my own high chair was first because I didn't have the 2 or 3 thousands dollars plus shipping to get one from online. And two, the ones online are for skinny people. So I knew if I wanted one, I would have to make it. And had NatGeo not paid for the supplies for the high chair, I most likely never would have had one to enjoy.
Stanley19802 6 months ago
@Stanley19802 I feel that what you re doing is not healthy. Either for you or your nurse. Why don't you build furniture to relax? You seem to be very skilled, and you could make a living on it. Please consider it sir. You are lying to yourself. An it isn't fair to your nurse to support you 24/7. Whether she wants to or not.
skytiger859 6 months ago
@skytiger859 As for what I do being health, it's a very healthy way to relax and destress. Mental health has been using it for years under the name "Regression Therapy". Just not to the point AB's take it with all the props. And although I am skilled, the knowledge is there, but my body has had much damage done to it from the child abuse over the years. I was laid up in bed for almost 2 weeks after I did the Taboo episode.
Stanley19802 6 months ago
@skytiger859 Another thing people don't understand, as Sandra doesn't support me. When I role play, it's a few hours a day, not 24/7. I do enjoy my adult time too. I don't pay Sandra either. She does it because she likes seeing me happy, and she enjoys it for her own reasons. Toward the end before Sandra passed away, I did take care of her. The last 3 months before passing, she couldn't even walk anymore due to the sepsis infection. So I was doing much for her. After all, she did so much for me.
Stanley19802 6 months ago
@Stanley19802 I'm so sorry for your loss of Sandra
thephysicwerewolf 6 months ago
@thephysicwerewolf Thanks. It get's better with time. But some nights are difficult as one can imagine.
Stanley19802 6 months ago
I'm sorry you feel we should be ashamed. We are not though. It's done with concenting adults. It doesn't consume our whole lives. Maybe 1-2 hours a day. I don't count the 8 hours asleep in the crib since I am sleeping and not role playing. It gives me joy, comfort and I find as a way to relax. And I never said it was THE ONLY way to relax. As you said, you enjoy crocheting, and that's great. We all have some way we find relaxing to us. This is just mine. Take care. :)
Stanley19802 6 months ago
Both you and your nurse should be ashamed. I had an abusive past, too, but my escape is crocheting. Look it up. It's not illegal, either.
skytiger859 6 months ago
He does it all day.. that isn't an escape.. that's his life
tyuyuu 6 months ago
@tyuyuu I don't role play all day. Besides the 8 hours I am actually asleep in the crib, which is what NatGeo was counting when they said half my day was spent role playing, I only role play 1-3 hours each day depending on what's going on in my life. Right now I plan to be into it on the 3 hour a day side since I couldn't role play at all while I was in the hospital which sucked. But being AB isn't my whole life, nor would I want it to be. There are many adult things that I do enjoy doing.
Stanley19802 6 months ago
Also, just to let people know, the website I run, I have AB's and DL's listed in just about every US state, and in several countries including Africa, Argentina, Australia, Canada, China, Denmark, El Salvador, England (UK), Finland, Ireland, Malaysia, Mexico, New Zealand, Norway, Singapore and Thailand. And that's just on my site alone. So the AB lifestyle is not just in the US and not just in California. It's everywhere.
Stanley19802 6 months ago
Yep, California is always where new ways of life start. For some reason only California is willing to take chances on new ways of thinking or doing things. It seems other states and even countires wait to see if it works in California and then if it does they follow. So yea, California is where to be to see new ideas, ways of doing things, or new ways of thinking or seeing something.
Stanley19802 6 months ago
Where else would something like this be occuring? Only in the States; mainly CA.
foreverintime09 6 months ago
I am not judging your fetish but I think psychologically you must have some problems.
Karopex 7 months ago
heyy thiss was uploaded on my b-day
bellaswan459 8 months ago
XD I love some of the comments here. I hope this video help some people at least to not just hate someone because they choose to live a certain way and they think it's weird. I'm a DL( basically an AB that keeps the roleplaying to a minimum or even null). I wear diaper because I just feel far less stressed with them..it's impossible forme to make sense of it even to myself. Kudos Stanley, there is very little likelyhood that I'd could ever have done this episode myself.
UzumakiNarunata 8 months ago
its strange (to say the very least) but who am I to judge. Just because I don't agree with it, doesn't necessarily make it wrong I guess.To each his own. Its shocking and hard to understand. But I know its psychological and really I find it very sad. My heart goes out to him and his family. He was abused as a child and NO child should have to Indore abuse! Psychologically he is trying to relive his childhood and that breaks my heart. Hope he gets the help he needs. I wish him nothing but well
hartjesr 8 months ago
why does all of the weird stuff come out on my birthday?
StudioBratz 8 months ago
Hello Chrhope, yes I do have a messenger. I use yahoo messenger under the user name "Stanley_19802". Same as my e-mail address "Stanley_19802@yahoo.com". I don't use the messenger every day, but I am on from time to time. Be well everyone. :)
Stanley19802 8 months ago
Do you have an instant messenger?
I ish a furry abdl called a babyfur
chrhope 8 months ago
You really are a huge inspiration. You display that what you do makes you happy and that you don't care what anyone else thinks. People may call you weird but I think that what you're doing is perfectly fine. I have Dermatillomania which is an OCD and everyone calls me weird. But I've learned to live around it. Keep your head up Stanley. :) you're perfect as you are.
HaeItsHanner 8 months ago
What you have is a weird hobby, not a disability! Why not be a man and go get yourself a job!
stoneagearcher 8 months ago
@stoneagearcher I am not on disability because I role play as a baby. I am on disabilty for depression, bi-polar, PTSD, suicidal ideation, ADHD, spinal injury, heart condition just to name a few. I have over 20 years of documentation from special education schools, therapists, medical doctors and more. My SSI case is solid. Why people think I am getting SSI because I am a Adult Baby I don't know. Being AB isn't a mental disorder. I'm not getting SSI for being a AB. I get it for my disabilities.
Stanley19802 8 months ago
@Stanley19802 hey are you really the guy in the video who plays an adult baby? Or are u just kidding and pretending to be that person? Seriously??
hartjesr 8 months ago
@hartjesr yes, I am really the same Staney from the Taboo episode. I did the show in a effort to help the general public to better understand what some of the role playing actually looks like. Such as being fed, read a story, tucked into bed and so on. As you see from the video, it's two adults doing this. No actual children are involved which is one of many myths out there about the AB/DL community. This is just one of many ways people relax.
Stanley19802 8 months ago
What. The. Fuck. I'm sorry this guy is brave for doing the show but this is just too weird.
bubblexgumxbabe3 9 months ago
Stanley I commend you for doing the show. I am a 38 year old ABDL and have tryed to live the lifestyle but only to find betryal from my wife over it. I dont know why people are so harsh about it and i think people would be shocked to find out how big of a movement of people out there are wearing diapers under work clothing and all. I thank you for doing the show and wish you luck. as for me im still looking for that special woman to play mommy for me around youngstown ohio.
1REDVEGA 9 months ago
UPDATE: Today I had my re-evaluation. But instead of me going to the SSI office, they came here. One was from SSI, and the other two were FBI sent at Senator Coburn's request. They asked questions for about 3 hours. They said they find there is nothing fruadulent about my disability claim, and I should recieve my statement of future SSI disability payments in the mail in the next week to 10 days. So, as I was TRYING to tell everyone, my disability claim IS legit!!!
Stanley19802 9 months ago
@Stanley19802 CONGRATS!!! I have been watching your story online (different news reports/forums) for a while and was shocked when I just noticed this was really you posting! Coburn was a complete jerk for trying to get press while destroying a US Citizen by disclaiming a recognized condition. Can you imagine if he won? Our soldiers who come back with PTSD could be denied claims at the whim of some idiot.
w0lfkitten 9 months ago
Stanley you are a Good brave person.
AGZraider15 9 months ago
Clearly stuff like the NatGeo thing is going to happen from time to time, but seeing as I am far from popular, people will get board of the story and move on. I will be sending in my disability re-evaluation packet on Wednesday and should get the paperwork for my continued benifits a few weeks later and then this will all be forgotten till the next thing comes into the news. That's the media for ya though, always another story in the distance.
Stanley19802 9 months ago
@Stanley19802 I'm glad to hear that things are settling down for you. Still, I respect your courage for going public I'm not sure I would be able to. That said my family found out about my AB side and needless to say they weren't very accepting either. In fact, I also have a brother that I no longer communicate with so I can certainly relate. Take Care.
greenbeana214 9 months ago
I personally could care less what my brother is saying about me on the net. He's always talked a bunch of trash and is one of many reasons I stopped talking to him and the rest of the family. I just wasn't worth the bull crap and drama. With just me and Sandra, the home environment is very calm. My stress level since distancing myself from my family has gone WAY down.
Stanley19802 9 months ago
Pretending to be an infant isn't the only non-destructive way to deal with stress, you know. Exercise, for example, is a great stress reliever and one option that clearly would be beneficial to you and your fantasy mom.
BDWong1 9 months ago
@BDWong1 - Wow!... Such an indirect way to insult, but an insult nonetheless. The first thing I thought when seeing her was hyperthyroidism (which no amount of exercise will 'fix') but you seem to look at the negative side of things first. And if this works for them both then why would you "suggest" they shouldn't do it. For that matter, how do you know they aren't staying active? Negative assumptions are so common. Too common.
w0lfkitten 9 months ago
Hello ozarkmac, Sorry I didn't get the chance to reply sooner. I just got out of the hospital for a suicide attempt. I would like to say that all the hundreds of "go off yourself" letters didn't bother me, but I am human like anyone else, and I can be hurt too. But I wanted to say thank you for your comment. I am so sorry to hear you have PTSD as well. It truely is pure hell. I don't think people realise, it wasn't about just the one event. PTSD is reliving it over and over and over again. Hell!
Stanley19802 9 months ago
@Stanley19802 Hey stanley don't let these people get you down your a good person and don't let anyone tell you different we all hve our ways of dealing with life mine is through virtual worlds yours is this way and you know what like you said at least you aint hurting anybody so in my opinion all the haters in the world can go fuck themselves
billieatterberry 7 months ago
@billieatterberry you've said it!!!!
wendybitch06 7 months ago
A response to everyone who thinks I get all these thousands of dollars being on disability, you all have no idea. I don't get 1 thousand, 2 thousand or even 3 thousand dollars a month on disability. I get $870.00 a month for California. And my rent alone takes half of it. After my bills are paid, I end up with around $10.00-$20.00 after bills. $85.00 is being taken out of that $870.00 right now for a accidental overpayment by SSI some months ago. So my actual check is only $785.00 a month.
Stanley19802 9 months ago
What is the website you run? I would love to see it!
oompalu96 9 months ago
Your a very strong man stanley! If you want to be a baby then go right ahead, you're being yourself and thats all that matters
mryesyes789 9 months ago
This whole video was very, very moving. I hope you are finding peace.
blackjack1084 9 months ago
stanley youre a very brave man and im really glad you got to tell your side of the story in that episode, i know a lot of people were thinking the worst of the whole idea of it but i think everything was put in a good perspective and i applaud your efforts
inugirl731 9 months ago
Stanley. You be you. Let the world say what they will. Enjoy whatever life brings your way! Nick.
skeerozero 9 months ago
Awwww, thanks Shari. Your so sweet. Hope your doing well. It's been awhile, got to catch up on how you have been. Drop me a line sometime, my e-mail is Stanley_19802@yahoo.com. **hug** :)
Stanley19802 9 months ago
Stanley is one of the nicest people i have ever known. Sandra loves him with all her heart. they are not at all strange when you are around them they are just good, down to earth people. i hope people do not judge to harshly.
gottabeshari1961 9 months ago
Hey us3rfri3ndlyx, I wish I could tell where I got them, but those were a Christmas gift. I know it wasn't cheap as it's one of the better quality ones. I do know there a few places out there with some around $100.00 bucks. Just do a search for "adult sleepers" and you should get a few results. I can say it's nice a warm during the winter. It comes with detachable feet with the rubber no slip, but I prefer sox over the PJ feet that came with it. Take care.
Stanley19802 9 months ago
I want those pajamas :(
us3rfri3ndlyx 9 months ago
Thanks Ozzie and Tavi, Glad you both got a chance to see it. The full version really does explain more. The 5 minute clip just showed enough to get people interested, and nothing about the WHY I do it. Not to say that anyone else has never been abused. This is just my way of dealing with my past. And it helps me cope better during my adult activites much better. As long as it breaks no laws, and does not hurt yourself or others, to each their own is how I feel.
Stanley19802 9 months ago
cool to see all of this. and that ya explained that its not a bad thing at all compared to what others do in the world, that's really harmful and full out violent.
TaviMunk 9 months ago
@TaviMunk Hi Tavi ^^
UzumakiNarunata 8 months ago
Glad to finally see the entire episode. I had only seen bits and pieces of it before. Thank you for sharing and I hope everything is well.
OzzieAstaroth 9 months ago
@OzzieAstaroth Hi Ozzie^^
UzumakiNarunata 8 months ago
@OzzieAstaroth you know it's funny, I've seen pictures of you on your deviantart account, and when I saw this on national geographic, I was sure this was you.
thephysicwerewolf 6 months ago