We're driving ourselves CRAZY!!!

[fehquig]

Interesting... I often find some traits in others annoying when I don't necessarily share them. I guess I'm not very self-conscious anymore because I had to cure myself of being extremely so...

[musosf]

Yeah it's easy to go overboard in that direction too. It can be hard to resist the "they don't want to hear this" impulse.

[WasteTimeWithAdam]

Great video man. You said a lot of truth in this. I remember in high school I would make that same mistake. Now days I am the complete opposite and I dumb myself down to the level that makes the person who I am speaking to feel so much more smarter than me.

because the little knowledge I have during a conversation with someone, always gets blocked out for the reason that I'm to afraid to give my own opinion. I think the problem I have now is that I'm to self conscious. I don't know...

[musosf]

Yeah it's hard to maintain a good balance between being yourself/contributing to a conversation and being respectful/deferring to others. I guess the people who are best to converse with are those who enjoy you being yourself.

[woosteria]

Good thoughts!

[musosf]

Thanks - good to see you!

[SonOfDee]

So at first I just thought that's interesting then I gave it more thought. "what drives me crazy about others?" It's when they aren't focused and they seem

"scatterbrained" Ding Ding Ding that's me (I've known about this (Mirroring) for sometime but never gave it much thought before now.) Looks like I might be a KIA also but then again that doesn't bug me in others so should I work on that or not? How much Do I owe you for the Therapy?

any suggestions on how to seem less scatterbrained?

Mike

[musosf]

Wish I did, Mike...I have my own scatterbrained moments. Usually when I'm feeling defensive about my lack of knowledge on a topic I will just randomly ramble on aimlessly about it. Hmm...perhaps this explains my distaste for Sarah Palin?

[SimplyMelissa101]

A few years back.. I would get sooooo annoyed by a few people who would ALWAYS, no matter what the conversation was about, end up talking about themselves and I use to think.. 'not EVERYTHING is about you.. just let me talk/vent' then I caught myself doing it.. time and time again, I'd be in a conversation and take over by talkinga bout myself. I learned to change that rather quickly once I realized I was doing something I couldn't stand lol

[musosf]

Yeah, it really stops you short when you see how unappealing the behavior is in others!

[OhCurt]

That's a very level headed way to deal with it.

However, when someone is going on and on endlessly about stuff I already know as if they're some self-appointed teacher, I'm occasionally inspired to look at them with a glazed look and respond with a bizarre non sequitur.

Confuse them before you kill them, I say.

And, no, I don't have any bad traits.

*crickets*

8-|

[musosf]

I think I've seen some of those bizarre non-sequiturs. Even been the target of one or two. :)

[EdElisea]

I'm surrounded with "know it alls". I usually let it pass without saying anything , but a weakness is when they say something I absolutely know to be wrong. Then I tend to correct them. It invariably turns in to an arguement until I point out something they can't counter or explain. I've somewhat recently recognised this in myself and now I don't say anything in this case either. Only if they ask for my input do I say anything now. I'm a quiet person so haven't had much trouble in this way.

[musosf]

Yeah, it's a very unflattering trait to be SO convinced you're right that you attempt to shout down anyone who dares to try to correct you. I still struggle with the urge to confront people in that situation - I admire your restraint!

[Pippilly]

I'll say nothing unless they are going on and on and on... I have a time limit lol

[musosf]

Yes...the circular say-the-same-thing-5-times-ove­r is something I also fall prey to... :)

[kayleewyatt]

great vid mike!

[musosf]

Thanks Flee!

[anakin1814]

I catch myself doing things that I know my family does which drives me crazy. I try to change those things when they're apparent to me.

As for the know-it-all nerds...Hmmm...Never came across any of those. Especially on YouTube.

Sonoma? Wow. Good times!

[musosf]

Yes, brought back happy memories of an earlier Sonoma trip. :) Getting older means the horror of discovering that you're turning into your parents!

[jabbabird]

I was a know it all too, until a medical procedure stole my memory. I didn't realize how bad I was until recently. I wish I had been more self aware at the time. In addition, I was a constant talker. I needed to prove my knowledge by talking about anything and everything at a pace that was dizzying to others. I've been told this many times. The new me is much calmer and happier. When I see people who behave the way that I did, I feel bad for them...and a little irritated at the same time.

[musosf]

It's good to have close family, friends, partners etc. who will be frank with us about our failings. Challenging but good.

[AngryAussie]

I think we all get driven crazy by failings in other people that we recognise in ourselves.

[musosf]

It'd be nice if we were born with innate knowledge of life's little truths like these. Each of us keeps relearning what other individuals have been learning since the beginning of time. Guess we need something to make us appreciate the process of getting older.

[Ranblv]

Oh frek you too? :-)

I try to change it too, actually most IT guys are know it all *sigh*

[musosf]

Hahaha Ran - well many of us rely on IT guys being know it alls, so you're somewhat forgiven. :)

[bearchay889]

I've had the exact same problem over the years but after sometime when it aleinated many ppl from me i started an inner monologue to keep me from allways poping up and being the knowitall great video too.

[musosf]

Thanks! It's hard to change oneself but a valuable exercise.

[genmama1955]

Yeah, I've caught myself doing that!

[musosf]

It comes so naturally!

[lemonette]

good video...you are absolutely right...I think we abhor our own bad traits in others, the older you get, the more obvious it becomes. It is humbling to learn to keep ones mouth shut, and tolerate the behavior in the ones you love. :)

[musosf]

This old dog is trying to learn a few new tricks when he can. Good to see you, Lanette! Hugs!

[GramsandPapi]

Interesting vlog Mike!! A great thought provoker!! I too have that same thing going on, and for the most part, have learned to keep my knowitall mouth shut!! LOL! Blessings, Ang

[musosf]

Sounds like many of us have this problem, Ang. Amazing we ever let ourselves say anything at all. :)

[kiddsock]

I have a nickname for that.. Mr. KIA.

It's always good to improve. Thank you for sharing.

Keep on YouTubin!

[musosf]

Hahaha Mr. KIA! Now I'll always think of that when I see one of those cars. :) Good to see you KS!

[kokohawk]

I guess I've never really thought about that before. The only things that really drive me crazy about people that I can think of right off hand are stupidity and laziness. I don't consider myself stupid (comparatively speaking) and I'm more of a procrastinator than I am lazy. Hmm... Good video to get me thinking. Thank you for the thought provoking video.

[musosf]

Thanks for watching Tony. Hm. Your mention of stupidity as a pet peeve made me think of another thing to vlog about.

[vjm1234]

OMG! That is sooo true! Great to see you posting vids again. We really miss you =) It looks beautiful there..... SmileyD

[musosf]

Yay - great to see you! I'll try to pop by with a quick phone vid when I have something to say. I am lucky to live in such a beautiful place.

[kenrg]

I often have to fight the same urge to correct others myself. And other times I just don't care about their feelings and must give them the benefits of my superior mind, whether they like it or not. This is why I have no friends.

[ournationalspace]

that's not the only reason, kenrg - have you watched any of your videos recently? ZING! ;-)

[musosf]

That's where friends who aren't afraid to put you in your place come in. :)

[andymooseman]

Good to see you vlogging again Mike.

Now, you've picked the prefect topic & a good one at that.

I have that same problem as you. I tend to be pretty knowledgable & have also learnt not to end the person's story for them, or even correct them when i know that they're wrong.

it's weird that we feel we have to do that. But, the other person probably feels better because of it & that can't be a bad thing, can it? :)

[musosf]

Thanks Andy - now I need to get back into the commenting groove! Yeah, ridding the world of errors and redundancy isn't a very worthwhile crusade, is it? :)

[andymooseman]

It's a good start though :)