Black men and women have two differnent cultures

[mrtundra45]

boycott black women...lol

[QueenDann]

@mrtundra45 boycott gay black men like you....lol

[EandA23]

Most black men and women are no longer friends every man for himself now.

[Khemistry101]

Wow, Pinkk. I've always seen you as a fair broker...and still do.  But, to finally hear you talk this way leads me to believe that its just a matter of time before you "go your own way". There are many brothas who feel exactly the same way you do, but do not wish to publicly state it.

[gmcmim]

You are putting yourself on a pedestal in this video. Cause most bw can get men of other races,lol. Most don't because they want a bm and will even hold out on nonblack men for a black man. I don't think a lot of brothas understand that though. I know you don't, lol.

[nimjased10]

because of the fuc*ing WHITE society ! that try to destroy bm by giving bw jobs, advancement  in society~! ANYWAY BM ARE GETTING EVEN !

[MalloryMallyMal]

@nimjased10 Maybe if black men could run their own successful society, then "white society' wouldn't be "holding you back". You're not getting "revenge" on anyone. Revenge would be running your own successful, powerful countries. And that will never happen.

[MalloryMallyMal]

@nimjased10 At best, you're buffoons from the ghetto who are only good at playing sports-and even that is only because white men ALLOW you to & they still sign your paychecks (: No one is holding you back or trying to destroy you. You're doing it to yourselves.

[FreeDayton]

And of course it's not the colour of skin that connects two people it's what is within.

Stop the war and hate.

Peace and Love mate.

[FreeDayton]

It's a woman thing... there's not so much hate within females... Men however have this fight with each other about their females... Think about it? There is a lot of fear & hate between men & they need to stop the hate... Love each other... your neighbour is your Brother... Educate yourself... Emerge yourself... In my experience white men are more angry & jealous & hateful of black men & black men are more loving & real & sensual & honest even if it's hard to accept the truth.

Peace & Love.

[MetaSensuality1983]

Black feminism is contingent on black men being compliant with it by full acceptance or uneasy toleration. For years black men have supported the black feminist mindset and as a result we've created a monster. How many men hate their fathers but love their mothers. Or state that black men are the strength behind the black community. The reason our women are so emotional and think we're scum is because we support them in this mindset. If we stopped supporting them they'd change.

[pinkkelephant]

i hear u. but the stop supporting thing... in what shape or form should that take? most men have said that will stop supporting it indirectly by marrying outside the race. this will have long term negetive effects. the seeds of strong black men will be scattered. i hear u though. but i fear that things will be beyond repair when the women leave this feminist mind set.

[daegiovanni]

this is actually the case-it brings new light to the sbject-wich is progressive.u can almost feel this to be true-wether ur in 2 w or b women.

[mayliliflower85]

Black women have other options but they don't exercise their options because their so loyal that's their problem. Ladies do you and explore your options because the options in our race aren't that good.

[777jeru]

You ignorant ass nigga BITCH!!!

[mayliliflower85]

lol

[777jeru]

Dumb ass black whore!!!

[q69c]

You are the reason for the negative brothers. you need to quit with the self hatred because thats all it is i can not respect you when you apply stereo typical malicious statistics to all black men because the prolem is in the majority of black women more than us men and history shows the truth. Lonve who you are and where you come from

[cutekittygirl]

What? Plenty of black men and women "connect". Well it is true that black women pursue their education more than men...

[loly09cuh]

I made to this comment to someone a while back.

We are ultimately becoming two different races and the 'oneness' is most definitely not there. I feel sad that i am turned off black ppl. I have given up on most BW, they do not know how to listen.

I have mixed feelings with black men. I'm half like 'maaaaaaan' i feel your pain when it comes to most BW' and i am half like 'You can go, there's the interracial door brother'...this is a circle of mess.

[q69c]

take responsiblity for your own choices and worry about your self quit talking nd take action and qiut with the self hatred because thats all it is

[peachblush8199]

I think these videos addressing black issues are embarrassing black people and making all black people look like self-hating fools! You think you're bright by addressing this but if I was a white supremacist I'd have a field day with this foolishness!

Thanks for giving those who hate blacks ammunition to hold us down pinkelephant and sargewp. You guys are definitely enemies of black people! You guys would make Klansman proud doing his dirty work for him.

[loly09cuh]

But why run away from it?

[pinkkelephant]

peachblush8199. i'm sorry u feel that way. but not talking about our issues does not help. its not a secret that black america is not where it should be. just turn on your television or walk outside.

[777jeru]

You are speaking the absolute truth!

[cisjay]

You're exactly right, they have no other options. Point blank.

[njari2]

Lol. Whats funny is black men do the same things. You LOVE SWP who blames BM's failures in life on BW. And BM date who they date bcs they WANT to not bcs we have different cultures. Lol. You THINK you understand BW more than you do. And if we come from different cultures than why bother addressing us? Since at the end of the day there really isnt anything of value you can tell us since we have such different cultures. What IS your point then?

[pinkkelephant]

Love SWP? Fall back on that one. Secondly. You know what im getting at. Im saying that we are drifting apart from each other. Us not addressing this helps no one. So dont act like black women will be fine if they do their own thing. I know that the men wont. I dont try to polarize black women and men. we cant exist without each other. Its funny b/c younger black women change their tune about issues with black men when they get older and see how real America gets for black women.

[njari2]

And your videos are meant to help us drift back together? You seem to have given up on that already so what is the point? Regardless of whether BW will be fine the world will keep turning and BM will continue to do as they please. So whats the point?

[pinkkelephant]

njari2. i have already accepted the role that black men have had on the black experience. My hands are relatively clean but that does not matter to me. can you honestly sit here and say that black women have accepted their part in our current state? Yall want praise but you dont want to be held accountable. im trying to fight the bad habit of passing off negative behavior in black women as a result of black men.

[njari2]

I'm not asking for praise. I am merely pointing out that BM blaming BW for all the problems in the community is no more beneficial than is BW blaming BM for all of them. And no BW have not claimed there share of the responsibility and neither have BM. Everyone is simply pointing the finger. And we are ALL denying that we are pointing the finger. You want to paint me as a BW who sees BM as the root of all evil in the BC but thats not the case.

[pinkkelephant]

njari2 stop. i know that you are a smart and intellectual person. we both know that the bulk of the blame for the state of black america has been placed on black men. When have black women ever been taken to task for america to see as a whole. the conversations like this one take place behind closed doors. but black men's failures (which i dont reject) have been put out there - i am one of the men who accepts this and wants to change this. Have black women been put out there?  tell the truth.

[njari2]

See when BM say things like this I genuinly do not see how BM are the ones being blamed for everything. I am not being a smart ass. I am being completely honest. BW were and are considered to be welfare queens who pop out babies JUST to get a check. BM point out how America sees the BW as hoodrats and you think that doesnt translate into their minds as BW being part of the problem in the BC?

[njari2]

And what happens if BW do get called on the carpet in front of all America? Then what? Will that magically solve all the problems in the BC? So thats what BM are after? BW being exposed in front of America? OK lets do it. Then BM's image in the eyes of America will be better. And then the BC will be.........exactly where it is now.

[pinkkelephant]

lol. if you talk to any counselor, they will tell you thatboth sides need to vent. black men, the ones that do care, are venting. i am. because i care.  but i understand that some of my vids are me venting but some of them are meant to build relationships between us.

[pinkkelephant]

but it goes both ways. i cringe when i see how black men are portrayed. and even more so when black women cosign these images or illustrations and put out this statement that all black men are (you fill in the blank).

[BarackObamaBlackMan]

Really good video PINKK!

[CassieDynomite]

I highly disagree with you...you're an idiot.

[JazzyNappBeauty]

YAWN!!!zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

[pinkkelephant]

lol. do i make you sleepy?

[nothing5630]

This video is pretty spot on. The only important thing out of all of this is that you don't feel guilty pinkelephant for feeling you are more attracted to and connect more with other races of women. Never feel as if you have to explain yourself to "black female culture".

[ralmone]

I think it's best we lift and seperate it would be best for us and the black community/ only problem is that black women don't want to and aren't getting the memo. They need to stop with that "loyalty" b.s and do like oprah, and focus on themselevs and black women like we're focusing on ourdelves and other brothas

[ralmone]

i think they can get whateva man they desire..but refuse too it's not like black women are some beasts so they drive other men away..outside of the u.s black women are seen in interracial couplings with other men, only in america they feel the need to be loyal and stick with black men..which is bullshit, and is what keeping them back, this is 2009, they should do them like how we're doing us, and fuck that black love, black community nonsense, it's time for us to lift and seperate, we are sadly,

[ralmone]

our worst enemy ( as compared to other races), soon the black race will look like brazil in the near future.

[pinkkelephant]

i hear you. most of the middle class blacks in the community i live in are mixed.

[ralmone]

exactly that's my point, the only how u see us come together is when you their there has been a racial/civil injustice against one of our own, but i think sadly in the future this will stop... no more will u see black women protesting against police brutality against her sons or black men... we sorta kinda stopped a long time ago (don imus) must black men agreed with what he said, but with the jennas six and bart police and nypd most black women along with black men protested that shit. no more

[BarackObamaBlackMan]

Black people will always come together in America because lynchings force us to.

Black women are limited to BM because America has lowered her stock in the market of beauty in advertizing, which is the source of her bitterness and negativity which is passed down to her sons and infects the community at large with drugs and violence and misery.

BW blame BM for the white mans lowering her value thru 400 years of rapes

and branding. BW wont speak against the white man that they long for.

[sp123]

Maybe in America,but what about the people living in Africa? They'll keep the full black race alive.

[dlfunky1]

wow just post this to swp (and the like) so that he doesnt have to waste his breath. Probably the most truthful video ive heard in a long time.

[nimjased10]

black WOMEN are TOO INTO the WHITE MATERILISTIC CULTURE! WITHOUT HAVING THE COMPLETE TOOLS TO ATTAIN IT! EX. LOOKS,EDUCATION, CONNECTION ,VALIDITY!!

[afrolatino380]

Single mothers raising their children, bad mouthing black men for their lack of being in the household. But black women ned to look at their choices. They make bad choices. They like to pick what is jacked up. Then want to complain. When they knew this brother was jacked up to begin with. It is about the choices that people make.

[tracydukeplump]

@afrolatino380 well said Mr. Afrolatino

[afrolatino380]

Most black women and women r lacking in this. Black people havr too many issues.

Blks watch too much bullshyt TV. Watch gangsta movies and bs books and believe this is how u r supposed to be. Black people need to get a grip on reality.

It seems to be anything negative, black women and black men will gravitate towards. The black community is in bad shape.

[afrolatino380]

Black women and black women don't connect, because black women feel the need to dominate and control. The black american women feel because they have achieved a certain educational status and a black man has not they actually believe they r better. Black women have adopted the American way of life. They r now materialistic, believe in status. These r the things that r not important. It's phony. What's real is a persons character. A person character is what is most important.

[shincuppy]

You prespective is on point. This vid is tight.

[realblackmen2]

You're first generation African. Interesting. I have a lot of friends that are in your situation. You came from patriarchal culture. My family is from the south so many times I have more in common with women from other cultures.

[kuunami]

A BW was telling me how when she was in high school it was the common belief among black girls that black boys from our school don't date black girls.There were only a few blk people in the school. I pointed out that if there are 5 black girls and 5 black boys for example, that doesn't automatically mean that they will pair off because being black doesn't guarantee that you'll be compatible. So naturally the boys will explore all options. Failure to use logic causes the typical slogans/beliefs

[njari2]

Lol. But the fact that they didnt date any of the black girls shows that they were right. But they failed to use logic? Lol. AMAZING!

[kuunami]

blah blah blah

[njari2]

That the best you got? Where's the logic? Lol.

[kuunami]

I just don't want to get into a pointless discussion with you. You take what I say and twist it around to start an argument. My point is that there a handful of black guys and girls in the school. The girls felt that they were entitled to the few black guys simply because they're the same race. Being the same color doesn't automatically mean that your personalities mesh. That's common sense Njari.

[njari2]

"You take what I say and twist it around to start an argument."

Thats what I did?

"Being the same color doesn't automatically mean that your personalities mesh. That's common sense Njari."

Yes it is. I dont disagree with that. But that doesnt negate the girls belief now does it? Entitelment? Lol. I wont even go into that one.

[njari2]

And if those girls were all trying to get with guys of other races instead of feeling "entitled" to black men I wonder what you would be saying about BW not trying to pursue "good black men" while their still young. Lol.

[kuunami]

Okay, Last time explaining this. You understand what I'm saying but you just want an argument as usual which is why I didn't even want to bother with you. What I'm saying is that those girls make the assumption that the black guys don't like black girls. The guys aren't interested in them but it has nothing to do with them not liking black girls. Not every Asian guy likes every Asian girl. Sometimes people are just not compatible. But some people will look for any reason to play the victim card.

[njari2]

OK its about them playing the victim card? You dont see how being in an all non-black environment and seeing all the black boys only date non-black girls could give the girls a negative impression? Men are so caught up in discussing our lack of "logic" they seem to forget that women are emotional creatures. I'm not saying the guys HAD to date the girls I just dont understand why you cant see why those black girls would get that impression.

[kuunami]

I think we're finally getting somewhere. I see why they would get that impression but it's still an emotional reaction not a logical one. You said it yourself that women are emotional creatures. But emotional thinking is always correct. And I didn't mean you're playing the victim card I meant girls like the ones I was talking about. When a guy doesn't like them there's always some reason/excuse that has nothing to do with them. He doesn't like bw or he doesn't like dark skin etc etc.

[njari2]

I dont see how the girls are playing the victim card. They are processing the situation through their emotions. Like it or not who BM choose sends a very definite message to BW about who they want to be with. BM can say that they include BW in their dating pool but if you rarely see them with BW then that doesnt mean much. Just like BM keep saying how they hear BW say they want good men but only see them with no good dudes. Actions speak louder than words.

[kuunami]

"BM can say that they include BW in their dating pool but if you rarely see them with BW then that doesnt mean much."

Just because they don't choose the black girls in that particular "dating pool" doesn't mean that they don't like black girls at all. That's the assumption that the girl I was talking about in my original comment made. Jumping to that conclusion does BW more harm than good because it creates insecurities and inferiority complexes. This is that I'm trying to get bw to see.

[njari2]

I understand that just bcs those guys didnt date the BG there does not mean they dont like BG at all. BUT their actions do send that perception. Just like seeing so many well to do BM in the media with only nonblack/mixed women creates the perception that most upwardly mobile BM only want those types of women. Why is it that most BM assume that WM dont want BW? Bcs you rarely SEE them with BW. Are BM wrong to have that perception then since their perception is based on the same logic?

[kuunami]

You're comparing apples and oranges because saying that BW/WM couples is rare is not an assumption. Both observation and statistics prove this. However, assuming that a guy has something against dating black girls just because he isn't dating any of the few black girls at his school IS an assumption. Thinking that well to do black men only want white women when the vast majority of them date and marry black women is another illogical perception which creates misguided animosity and insecurity.

[njari2]

OK so if we want to make it about hard evidence then what percentages do you have that prove a large percent of well to do BM are married to BW? Most of the evidence that BM are married to BW that I have seen encompasses the whole socio-economic spectrum. And not "technically" black women. What percent of these men are married to women that are identifiably black. Who look like both of their parents bare black?

[njari2]

Bcs of the one drop rule BM can SAY they are married to a black woman while married to a woman that looks like Mariah Carey. If these types of women are included in the percentafes of "black" women that BM are married to AND if they make of the overwhelming majority of well to do BM's wives than how are BW wrong with their blf that most BM want mixed/non-black looking women? If the woman is technically black but doesnt look black then how does that disprove Bw's blf's?

[njari2]

So that girl who looks black is wrong to assume that most well to do BM would not want her bcs she doesnt look like she is mixed/non-black? Because when I hear allot of BM refute that most BM celebrities/athletes are married to non-black women the names of the men they bring up usually include men who's wives "look" mixed or nonblack. So he is married to a black woman yes. But the black girl who looks black still feels she would not have a chance with a man like that. Bcs she DOES look black.

[njari2]

And you can say that black women are being devisive bcs black is black, and that they are insecure and it doesnt matter that the women these men choose dont look black. BUT those black women who look black are still left with the feeling of being excluded and put to the side lines. And she is not entirely wrong to feel that way.

[kuunami]

So now we come to the how black is black enough argument. Now the black women who they marry aren't black enough when it's not convenient for your arguement? But when these same women are successful you'll include them in the black women are successful and educated argument. This is an attempt to veer away from the real issue which is false perceptions. The fact is, for every 1 well to do black man you can point out who marries non black women I can point out 20 who are with black women.

[kuunami]

So anyway I'm getting tired of this so I'll break it down like this. It comes back to my original comment. If you can explain to me why making the assumption that the guys not dating the handful of black girls at their school automatically means that they don't like black girls at all, only like white girls, self hating all that good stuff(which you've already admitted is a emotional perception) I'd like to hear it. Anything else is a waste of both of our time.

[njari2]

At the end of the day BM can try sweeping the fact that who BW see BM choosing overwhelmingly in the mdeia and in upper echelon environments does not influence their perceptions of who BW think they want. If Bw did not see so many BM with non-black women in the media and when they bcm affluent or professional then would this perception exist? Its such a widely held blf that even ppl of other races blv it YET BW are simply delusional? OK lesson learned. Your right we are wasting our time.

[njari2]

It seems that no matter what BW and OTHER races point out about BM's dating habits BM will continue to deny that BW are seeing whats right in front of their faces. And the whole black is black enough argument becomes a moot point in this argument bcs BM use it as an excuse to deny that BW are seeing them with mainly non-black looking women. Does it really matter if the if Alicia Keys is technically black if you can confuse her with an Latin chick in Spanish Harlem?

[njari2]

Who can most young black girls see themselves in more? A Keys OR Gabrielle Union? If most of us resembled A Keys and this is who we saw BM choosing then what perception would that send? If so many BW did not see BM with non-BW in wealthy/non-black environments then NO those girls would not have jumped to that assumption. One influences the other. BM can deny all they like but its true.

[njari2]

Why do you almost never hear mixed girls complaining about BM IR dating? BM usually only hear this from women that are identifiably black for a reason.

[kuunami]

I don't live in a world of perception I choose to deal with reality.

[njari2]

Perception is reality.

[q69c]

wake up and learn your history and realize that america is not your friend quite paying attention to everyone else and comparing yourself to everyone else, God gave you life black hair black skin black beauty white supremacy taught black is ugly black features is ugly black hair is bad hair but God created you from his image. now think about all the ignorant uneducated BW that made fun of the BM and how did the BM show gratitude he ovrlooked the BW and went for the W who never joked him

[enyawix]

@ q69c

Sorry but you are clueless about this issue. Black men did NOT tell people like Oprah to condemn black men. We did not force most black women to date thugs. Black women detached themselves from the black struggle on their own. I will make a video on this.

[kuunami]

Are successful BM more likely to date and marry outside the race? Yes. Do the majority of them date and marry outside the race? No. Like I said before for every BM celeb married to a non black woman I can show you 20 who are with BW. So the perception that the majority of them date out is a FALSE PERCEPTION. False perceptions are made when people don't look at all of the facts and realities of the situation. Therefore false perceptions are ILLOGICAL which takes us back to my original comment.

[q69c]

I hear you

[kuunami]

"I understand that just bcs those guys didnt date the BG there does not mean they dont like BG at all. BUT their actions do send that perception."

LOL!!! This was the entire point of my original comment. It is perception not logic.

[njari2]

But we dont live in a world of ONLY logic. If that were the case then everything you say would betrue.

[cnell25]

When barrack won the presidency, I was listening to the radio the next day.

And the black female DJ was congratulating him on the win, and then she made

Sure to make the comment proudly

AND HE WOULDNT BE WHERE HE IS

AT TODAY IF IT WASNT FOR MICHELLE

[cnell25]

A lot of BW have created there own culture and now believe they and THEY ALONE are

The Black community and a BM cant do ANYTHING POSITIVE IN LIFE without her.

But its seems like BWs main motivation in life is to prove to whoever,that they can be successful without a BM. To keep it real, most BW feel most BM are beneath them. So were so far away from a unified culture its ridiculous

[Remedymp]

Modern day black feminism.

[cnell25]

This vid is straight fire!!!!!