This helped a lot. However I'm still trying to find the purpose or reason for why i should talk to others. My thing is I want to, I'm just afraid and physically can't anymore. I would like help for my SAD but i'm just too scared to ask for help and don't see the point in me asking/getting help. I feel like i'd be wasting someone else's time.
I hate when people say that we have 'perceived' bad thoughts and beliefs about ourselves. People like that don't 'truly' know us - what we have thought, what we have said, what we have done... so they don't actually know if what we believe about ourselves is true or not. Maybe we really are bad people - at least I am.
The people who say that only do so because they feel like they have to, especially Psychologists. And who's to say that hating yourself is wrong? I actually believe if more people hated themselves, the world would be a better place. I say that because I really can't stand ARROGANT people. Just my opinion.
how do you know about that all? I felt this way ever since but i dont know why and to be honest i thought everyone is feeling like that. when i was with friends i still didnt feel completely comfortable and home. i dont wanna say my parents arent loving but i got critizised so often by my mom that i felt like i never did things the right way. i just want to be happy but i cant cause i start struggling with poeple and thoughts. i always worry what they think and how they will react on stuff i do.
I was brought up in fears! 3 kids but i was the only one! A jealous, depressed and angry mother who always put me down. She kicked me out of the house at 10 for the first time, i came back the nxt stay. Ppl rarely came over, they never saw a thing! It's hard to meet ppl, start conversation, i don't feel that i fit in! i feel out of place, in my mind ppl are always judging me and criticizing me. The lady was very harsh on me! I was once threatened with a knife so i can study my times table! Jeez!
Very informative and accurate stuff here, I think using these techniques over a period of time will in fact help if not cure social anxiety to a good extent.. Think about it, where did social anxiety originally form ? In the absence direction of which social anxiety was cured.. So in theory it could work very well, I think there is some evidence as I experienced this myself.. You're not always scared for life unless you been brutally abused.
My social anxiety was triggered by alcohol. I drank a lot at one point and developed halitosis which then manifested into halitophobia(one of the rarest phobia). Now that I don't drink anymore and I don't have halitosis, I still feel the anxiety feeling when I'm in public, being embarassed that I might have alcohol bad breath. I know I don't smell bad, but why do I still feel this way around people?
You described me well. I am 43 and was diagnosed in my 30's. I was the product of a violent, unstable, critical home. Even after raising loving kids of my own, and attending counseling ands for years, a single visit with my angry Mother sends me into a negative spriral- I can not have contact with her at all. Although I know my thoughts are irrational, and I am a loving, worthy human being, the anxiety is at times overwhelming. For decade I suffered in silence; using alcohol to self-medicate.
My mother constantly came home and told me what how other daughters were perfect, and how I needed to fix myself up. What I said that she heard that is ridiculous. Now I am 14 and have social anxiety. She even told me to stop being nerdy. But yet my mother is the pic of perfection. How I can feel good about myself when I am nothing like her?
@TheDangel006 your mother is not the pic of perfection if she treated you like that. Shes a typical dumb assed naive parent ( as most of them are).You dont have to do anything for anyone. You dont have to fix yourself up. You dont have to act, talk, or anything for anyone. The only person who has a vote in what you do or dont do is you. No one else gets a vote.So tell them to mind their own fucken business when they tell you what to do.
@TheDangel006 I second what raccuia1 says, it's probably tough to have someone close to you, someone who you naturally look up to, tell you you're not good enough and how you supposedly should change, but fuck what she thinks. She is just another human being when it comes down to it, and like raccuia1 says you are the only person who gets a vote in what you do, no one else. Don't dare think you have to live up to her expectations, she is naive and fucking stupid for insulting her own daughter.
I hated social anxiety, I learned how to deal with it, its pretty much out of my system but im aware that as soon as I go off to college after this year and hit a new environment, those good 'ol symptoms are going to come back.. it sucks.
Victoria, you absolutely nailed it and described my personality to a tee. I've pretty much shut down as a person because of judgemental attitudes from family members who constantly pick apart everything I say and do. I'm so self-conscious to the point where I go out of my way to avoid social situations. I'm deathly afraid of saying something stupid and/or sticking my foot in my mouth if I gain the slightest bit of confidence. I have a lot of hurdles to get over in this life.
I have finally begun to understand my root cause for my anxiety and I am beginning to discover that oxygen deprivation and excessive exercise seem to make me less shy. It seems odd, but for me to explain it here would be excessive. I will say I have always perceived myself as being ugly from as early as age 5 and I was severely bullied and teased because of my looks growing up and even to this day, I feel my looks are a major factor in my social anxiety.
It all comes down to temperement and parenting. I wish I was set to run free as an infant and toddler and stayed in one school. My whole life wouldve been completely different.
Fuck i hate my dad. In my teens my dad always came home beeing mad for nothing, leting the anger on me and my brother, sometimes went so far as hitting us. He always claimed me for not beeing able to do nothing, you don't have a life bla bla bla. Pathetic thing is he's a really weak person himself and have troubles socially. I've broken the contact with him for of this, scary thing is he doesn't understand why. Wonder if things would have been better if i got more mental support...
Am 16 turning 17 this june and its hard for me to speak eye to eye with people. And i really have a hard time joining and bonding with groups. This started when i was at least 13 years old when this started, It has become so bad i fine it even hard to leave my house... Any Suggestions ?
Thank you. I've met many people like myself who could have used their intellect, charisma, talents, and attractive attributes to further their happiness and success, but have been blocked by the irrational and destructive bombardments of our parents. It's so horrific, especially as a person approaching middle age and sees that it was never their own flaws that prevented success, it was the "STOP and DESTROY YOURSELF FOR ME" messages from the parents that has caused the descimation of our lives
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There's a small and excellent online depression support group called Depression Hangout that is always open to anyone who is struggling with mental health problems (not just depression). It's run in its own chaotic way by its members who meet regularly in the chat room and it's a great place to seek and provide help and support, make new friends and even just have a laugh. (We all need that too!) To join just go to depressionhangout-dot-blogspot-dot-com.
the problem is: There are people out there who don´t even care about a life. If you grow up with them, something is gonna be put on you. You could lock my grandmother into a single cell and let her live on bread and water without any friends for all the rest of her life. It would not matter to her. I don´t know where that stuff comes from, but if you meet those people it´s clear to you: Ah, yep, they´re never gonna have a life anyway.
I know where I got my social anxiety from: Constant and severe bullying throughout the first 20 years of my life. Verbal abuse and hazing, although mild, lasted into my mid 20s. Constant rejection. It's been pervasive throughout my whole life, I have struggled to make friends. Here I am 36 years old, and with no friends. Fact is, how am I supposed to feel good about myself when I encounter people who have done much more in life than I have and are better looking?
I came across this video today, and I just want to say thank you. I feel like you have hit the nail on the head when you talk about it starting from an over judgemental home. Because I suffer from agoraphobia and anxiety attacks that come and go. I am now 24 years old and this makes me feel crazy sometimes but I am determined to fix this & move on with my life instead of being paralyzed by this. I feel like this is holding me back from achieving so much in my life, and I am ready to move on!
pretty good description, i dont know about anyone else but it's a snow ball effect for me, i clam up so i sometimes seem like an asshole or cold. negative reinforcement kinda enhances my isolation.
I have social anxiety for almost 20 years. I guess it started when I was in 7th grade when I moved from Los Angeles to a small town in Northern CA. I am biracial, half korean and half caucasian. I was the only asian kid in school, even though I'm half white. I remember I used to get picked on at school everyday, student and teacher used to call me "gook" or "chinaman", some of them threaten me.
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So many people don't really get it unless they have it themselves. Even psychologists sometimes don't get it. But you do. You hit the nail on the head about so many things. Thank you so much. It's true that my parents were very critical and had violent communication. And it's true that I value other people's opinions much more than my own.
I am a product of my environment,raised in a fostering situation that was both abusive and alcoholic.I used to drink to,no more today though it just masked the problem.I am socially convicted on many levels to a point of agoraphobia and a ton of meds.This has been a life time issue and I am almost 50 years old.
How about peers that were harsh. I believe that peers have a tremendoes impact on social anxiety, and that an episode of severe trauma can cause PTSD, that in turn can cause severe social anxiety when around other peers. I really appreciate the info about neural pathways and the self help you describe. My daughter has seen a psychiatrist for two years, and he has never addressed the social anxiety, just listened to her, and prescribed medication. This is the first I have heard about how to help!
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Omg you are so right on everything. For me it all started because I was born a very ultra sensitive child. Also At two years old I was diagnosed with anxiety. Then I was molested at 7. I was normal until I hit 16 I felt like everything hit me. Now I'm so bad I've gotten worse I can't even stand in line in the bank without wanting to throw up. But i really like what you said; about others peoples opinions instead of what you thought of yourself. I wish I had a counselor growing up.
that is so me,my friend called me too her birthday but when I was informated that where is gonna be more people(the ones who I don't know) I changed my mind in a moment,actually I was so afraid to go even to that stupid party with 4 of us.She got so mean and I stayd at home with a book,that was only begining,now I can't fight with it ,just staying home.I love communicating as much as I am afraid of it,sometimes I think it will make me nuts....
@LoveSweetCandys I have the same problem :-(. Whenever I'm invited to a party I'm getting sacred actually. People I don't know to meet..... the thought being judged/critzed I guess is keeping me away. How can we live this way...I really hate it to disapoint my friends because of this and they don't know about my problem which I won't tell them about it. I don't think they will even understand it.
I just had a anzierty attack last night after I was sleeping I was having a dream that I was working and I said something to some people no one understood me and they just made fun of me I alway seam to have one when I am woken up from a deep sleep and go to the toilet and do a poo my body gets really hot an sweaty and my stomach really hurt then my head spins is this anziety?
I actually started crying half way through. Everything you said describes my life...I wish I had you as a therapist.
To Wink (below me): we are twins, too. I had an alcoholic (sober, but it changed nothing) narcissistic, abusive father, and I was picked on every day at school for 10+ years. I'm destroyed as a person.
Wow! I wish I could find a therapist like you. I have enjoyed and learned very much from your videos. I had an alcoholic/narcissistic father who made my life a living hell. I survived it, but not without damage that I have worked hard to try to repair. I realize now that he was extra harsh with me, because I didn't feed his need for narcissitic supply. Thanks so much and I will continue to watch your videos. They are great!!!
yes honestly ive think i had it my whole like but it went straight downhill in 11th grade and ive been trying to cope with it since its really tough but im just pushing and pushing in the right dirrecetion making my self do things i feel nervous about, saying hi to people i feel nervous about and just making my self more social and its working a little bit for me but it seems like its just taking forever but your video was seriously acurate expeciially with the never being good enough thing
thanks! this describes my situation because at school every single day people say "she's ugly" "she's quiet" and that begins to sink in so deep that I believe it. No matter how much my mom or friends say how pretty I am I won't believe it. I also loss my father which has been horrible because I was "daddy's little girl.' I tend to freeze up when I'm in a crowded place because I fear negative judgement. I want to get my mind off of myself for a change and focuss on other's who're hurting
thats very interesting what you said about the neurological system and indeed very important to be able to relax and give the body/subconscious mind those relaxing experiences. sex with someone (you want obviously) may help too
I dont belive that for a second because dr is so many reasons for developin social anxiety disorder that its impossible to pinpoint a root cause, i have tried that crap method with plenty of crap bogus therapist and they all promise result give u loads of sessions and slowly put ur appointment from every week to never being availible to see especially if u question them about their methods, most of them hav an idea what social anxiety is but they most certainly cant fuckin cure it.
I find the best time for positive reinforcement is just before i fall asleep, as it increases the chances of it being embedded into the subconscious. Every night, I repeat, ''Each day, in every way, i'm getting better and better..", until i drift off. It's really effective!
It was tearing me apart from the inside out. can't look anyone in the eye anymore, I have panic attacks and my heart beats even to just ask a question. I am going to try to give myself positive motivation to get out there and try to become normal again. I have an extremely low self esteem, but I want to try to overlook the flaws because I doubt people have the same perspective of me than I do. Thanks again.
Thanks a lot. I really needed to see this video. I've been suffering depression/social anxiety, and this made me think back to what may have been the source to cause this. I was "normal" until 3rd grade until I moved to a new school, where i was almost instantly left out, critisized, and afraid... all the way up until 8th grade, then I finally just left school, basically dropped out to try and figure out how to fix this.
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You are an amazing person! THANK YOU for all of your help and knowledge, you have guided me to my true self that was underneath a blanket of angst and tension, now I can truly be myself without fear. Your words have started me on my path of self awareness and CONFIDENCE, now i can really move on and LIVE! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ive learnd how to feel my true feelings, and ive gone threw serious anxiety since primary school, i feel like its cause i was afraid to go i felt scared but my mother made me go and i cried n didnt wana go, i can even remember walking in and every1 starin at me cause i was cryin so hard i felt like an alien to them cause the whole class was staring at me.... i feel like im startin to really work it all out and releasing it cause its causin me health problems now lol
I'm getting so bored of being socially anxious. What's annoying is that I actually have great social skills its just that as Ive gotten older Ive had a harder time relaxing and letting my guard down. Partys are often overstimulating and I end up in the bathroom every 20 minutes just to be alone for a bit. What scares me most is that its all self inflicted and that I somehow enjoy the pain. Smoking pot makes it worse and I do that every single day even though I know its hurting me.
Pills, therapy, books about the subconcious mind etc you name it. In my experience I can truly testify that only The Living GOD has healed me. Medications from doctors helped me a little and it was temporary. God's healing power is ETERNAL! Now Im not an antidepressant pill dependent. The cure for fear is FAITH! Fear limits you. FAITH ENABLES YOU! People, THE ALMIGHTY GOD IS YOUR ONLY HOPE. READ THE WORD OF GOD, HAVE FAITH AND OBEY! God loves you and He wants you to LET HIM...
So, dead on. I grew up the only child to a single mother with NPD. She never talked too me just yelled and scremed at me all the time. And you had to be perfect at all cost. I lived on eggshells almost my entire time with my mom. I never knew what would trigger her rages. So you learn how to self monitor. I am just now starting to understand the affects of growing up like that and I am deaing with it. But, you got it right.
filipinoandproud- the same thing happened to me before. I had very bad acne and every day would look at my face and complain about it. I started to form anxiety and would worry what people would think of me and how I look. I thought they would think that I am ugly. Then after all of that I got a seizure and am now epileptic...(however u spell)
Almost everything you've described is very true for me. I also suffer a lot from acne and had a very low self-esteem. I tried to avoid talking to people, so they wouldn't stare at my face. Sometimes when I wake up, it really disgusts me to look at myself, but now i really try my best not to think about how i look or care about how others think about me - even though when you look closely at my face you can see red, oily, and inflamed skin - because I know it will go away someday soon.
I have childhood memories of receiving daily public emotional, physical, and mental abuse, which resulted in deep feelings of shame, and always prompted an impulse to escape and hide.I'm still avoidance-oriented and even though I know that I've missed out on a lot of life's experiences, it's hard to break the pattern.
hey, just want to ask if any single girl in Seattle with social anxiety disorder want to date me. just live me your respond and email i will check back on this video. thank you very much. i think this will help me to overcome my fear. couse i think my fear first started with the girl and kind developed into other part, so now if i overcome that i think its gona lead the way.i encourage girls with those kind of similar anxiety to get at me and i hope it help you too. thanks
I just did a quick youtube search on Social Anxiety, and your title intrigued me to watch, I've long been wondering what the reasons are, and WOW you described my familiy life to a tee. Now all I feel is anger towards my family you know? They were never NICE people really, they would do ANYTHING for me, but the mental abuse was at insane levels. You are an angel for making this video and I thank you for sharing your knowledge and support for sufferers of SA
I've had sad since I was a freshman in high school. I had a lot of traumatic stuff happen to me that year and I guess I just kind of lost it :( years of moving also made me a shy person. I just got more and more introverted, and it's been downhill from there :( it sucks.
when i was small i did have it, now i am getting over, tho' my parents were very loving, i think i did not have any positive thoughts about my self for a very long time, and I did not get any postive feed back or compliments from my parents......is this because of that...
Can i stop my social anxiety myself? like without counselling? i sort of got over an eating disorder alone, do you think i can do the same with my social anxiety?
3:08 contains excellent insight; that other people's opinions and judgments matter. It probably stems from a (incorrect) lesson I learned as a kid, "Always listen to what other people say. You're ignorant, they're not. They know what's really going on and you don't.". So when negative people judged me, I just accepted it as truth and believed it. I'm working on overcoming these negative thoughts myself and becoming more self-supportive.
i have it. i'm 18 and i'm afraid to drive because it would mean more of a kind of social interaction. i have no friends at all because i hardly go anywhere. if anypne else has similar problems please hit me up.
i used to have a happy life and had friends well that was like 2 years ago ever sense i developed sicial anxeity i started talking to my friends less and less until i didint have one single friend its horabble
but i am in the process of getting better i so want a happy life again
@LeSamouraiKiller I do and it sucks cause my main friends are in college, I am too, buts its been hard because of my sleep problems,anxiety and stomach problems
@magestic99 bulls! I have for over 20 years this problem and i'm training weekly! That's not the cure. The only cure you can have is to believe in yourself. But how can you do that if the outside world will be always judging??? As I said it's all in the mind and that needs to be switched over.
This is ridiculous. It's like exactly how I was raised. Nothing violent but lots of criticism, told to be the best and better than others, not encouraged etc.
brilliant! i honestly am ashamed i really came out of a pos. home; i think it stems for me from being a girl and wanting to have lots of friends and not having much in high school; to hardly any now; which honestly can be crippling for anyone; and makes it virtually impossible to rise out of when you dont have the self worth to go out and present yourself to the world. ughh and work is the biggest anxiety trigger,,
How much I loved to hear your video! You enlighted my mind! I want you to know that I appreciate your work sooo much! You are helping to much more people that you even know about! I look forward to hear more about your work what might leads me to live the normal people's life.
i wish i had just 1 close friend :( i did have a chance once, but i blew it... i got invited to his parties, his house but i always declined because of SA fear :( this was around 15 and then we just got further apart, we were good friends at one point though, i regret it and now become abit of a loner because of social anxiety...
i kno exactly how u feel... is there hope? lately ive been feeling like i have no reason to live...... how can i live without having a job and not being able to have fun or anything
you mean meeting or joining , interacting with a new group of people , at a workplace,I think I had that,mostly forgotten now. or you mean the work itself, like fear of digging a ditch, doubt that. fear of making a mistake, very expensive one, hehe so the bosses get very angry, been there done that. but i didnt fear making mistakes i think.
The thing that sucks with social anxiety as a teen is you feel alone at school, sometimes even with your friends.
It's a hard thing to explain. I've come a long way since I was little, but I never realized how serious it could be until I became a teenager. I always chose to only hang out with certain friends I was comfortable with and didn't really talk to other friends at school, and I've carried that habbit with me.
I'm trying to break my bad habits, but I still feel...idk, regretful?
i totally agree with you.i was raised in a very unloving inviroment. i've always been sinsitive to negative input. i'm 54 yrs old and social anxity is all i've ever known.
i want help but it's hard to find someone that understands this disorder. i don't have many choices sinse i'm disabled and on medecaid. what can i do?
Just wondering, does any out there have panic disorder as well? Like when you're around people you start breaking down in sweat and your heart starts racing. message me back. pc
thanks so much for posting victoria. You seem to really understand Social Anxiety, everything you said is spot on especially the early childhood trauma stuff because ive had alot of pressure and judgement from family members and i think thats the rout of my problem. keep it up.
wow great video i wish your office was near where i live so i can make appointment to talk to you i have anxiety i learn that this condition is negative bad habit and we need to practice how to reverse so we learn new nonancious behavier
Nice video. I wish you were my therapist Victoria. I suffer from alot of behavioral problems, like Social Phobia. I cant seem to get any help for it and I grow anxious and tired each day.
I'm still stuck living with her, but I feel in a few months I'll have enough confidence and a better skill set to move out and take on the world. Thanks for this helpful and informative post. Your doing a good job here. :)
I never thought that a video of such length could sum up my current state of being so accurately. Word for word too. Especially with the parents part.
I experienced severe social rejection in early childhood because of my Jewishness (my parents aren't the least bit religious) and got into a downward spiral of worry and anxiety about social interaction, reaching a critical point when my parents split when I was 11 (my mother became neglectful and bitter toward me after the separation) - cont
I think you have described me to a tee. I have been anxious since I was little, but my social anxiety worsened after being exposed as a young teen to bullying, teasing, backstabbing, etc.
Today, I do often feel like I am walking around with a nervous system that is very raw and alert. I have become good at hiding it, but it's there. It&#
This helped a lot. However I'm still trying to find the purpose or reason for why i should talk to others. My thing is I want to, I'm just afraid and physically can't anymore. I would like help for my SAD but i'm just too scared to ask for help and don't see the point in me asking/getting help. I feel like i'd be wasting someone else's time.
melzio69 4 days ago
I hate when people say that we have 'perceived' bad thoughts and beliefs about ourselves. People like that don't 'truly' know us - what we have thought, what we have said, what we have done... so they don't actually know if what we believe about ourselves is true or not. Maybe we really are bad people - at least I am.
TheDarkestStarRMS 2 weeks ago
The people who say that only do so because they feel like they have to, especially Psychologists. And who's to say that hating yourself is wrong? I actually believe if more people hated themselves, the world would be a better place. I say that because I really can't stand ARROGANT people. Just my opinion.
TheDarkestStarRMS 2 weeks ago
how do you know about that all? I felt this way ever since but i dont know why and to be honest i thought everyone is feeling like that. when i was with friends i still didnt feel completely comfortable and home. i dont wanna say my parents arent loving but i got critizised so often by my mom that i felt like i never did things the right way. i just want to be happy but i cant cause i start struggling with poeple and thoughts. i always worry what they think and how they will react on stuff i do.
MsSatification 2 months ago
I was brought up in fears! 3 kids but i was the only one! A jealous, depressed and angry mother who always put me down. She kicked me out of the house at 10 for the first time, i came back the nxt stay. Ppl rarely came over, they never saw a thing! It's hard to meet ppl, start conversation, i don't feel that i fit in! i feel out of place, in my mind ppl are always judging me and criticizing me. The lady was very harsh on me! I was once threatened with a knife so i can study my times table! Jeez!
11940ful 3 months ago
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miissmiaa 4 months ago
Very informative and accurate stuff here, I think using these techniques over a period of time will in fact help if not cure social anxiety to a good extent.. Think about it, where did social anxiety originally form ? In the absence direction of which social anxiety was cured.. So in theory it could work very well, I think there is some evidence as I experienced this myself.. You're not always scared for life unless you been brutally abused.
Cavin21 4 months ago
My social anxiety was triggered by alcohol. I drank a lot at one point and developed halitosis which then manifested into halitophobia(one of the rarest phobia). Now that I don't drink anymore and I don't have halitosis, I still feel the anxiety feeling when I'm in public, being embarassed that I might have alcohol bad breath. I know I don't smell bad, but why do I still feel this way around people?
tkathryyn 6 months ago
she hits the nail on the head
BigTrollShaman 6 months ago
I'mma let you finish, but i just want mah pills
WootMapler 7 months ago
I would really like some advice on how to deal with my wife who fits the description of the kind of person you discussed. Thanks!
DeismTV 7 months ago
You described me well. I am 43 and was diagnosed in my 30's. I was the product of a violent, unstable, critical home. Even after raising loving kids of my own, and attending counseling ands for years, a single visit with my angry Mother sends me into a negative spriral- I can not have contact with her at all. Although I know my thoughts are irrational, and I am a loving, worthy human being, the anxiety is at times overwhelming. For decade I suffered in silence; using alcohol to self-medicate.
gg06287 7 months ago 6
My mother constantly came home and told me what how other daughters were perfect, and how I needed to fix myself up. What I said that she heard that is ridiculous. Now I am 14 and have social anxiety. She even told me to stop being nerdy. But yet my mother is the pic of perfection. How I can feel good about myself when I am nothing like her?
TheDangel006 8 months ago
@TheDangel006 your mother is not the pic of perfection if she treated you like that. Shes a typical dumb assed naive parent ( as most of them are).You dont have to do anything for anyone. You dont have to fix yourself up. You dont have to act, talk, or anything for anyone. The only person who has a vote in what you do or dont do is you. No one else gets a vote.So tell them to mind their own fucken business when they tell you what to do.
raccuia1 8 months ago
@TheDangel006 I second what raccuia1 says, it's probably tough to have someone close to you, someone who you naturally look up to, tell you you're not good enough and how you supposedly should change, but fuck what she thinks. She is just another human being when it comes down to it, and like raccuia1 says you are the only person who gets a vote in what you do, no one else. Don't dare think you have to live up to her expectations, she is naive and fucking stupid for insulting her own daughter.
milescend 5 months ago
I went to cognitive therapy (however you spell it) and it helped so much, but now i understand the whole background (:
Wubblez10 8 months ago
I hated social anxiety, I learned how to deal with it, its pretty much out of my system but im aware that as soon as I go off to college after this year and hit a new environment, those good 'ol symptoms are going to come back.. it sucks.
Wubblez10 8 months ago
sometimes i wonder if its because im socially anxious or because im just being lazy lol or maybe both?
sphynx105 8 months ago
I have it and im working on it on my own. I understand the way i think this way and it is definitely my fault why im socially anxious.
sphynx105 8 months ago
101 Power Confessions is a great mind renewal cd.
lightbrownpoop 8 months ago
yea...THANKS MOM AND DAD!!<---life ruiners and im almost 23yrs old
podie12288 8 months ago
Victoria, you absolutely nailed it and described my personality to a tee. I've pretty much shut down as a person because of judgemental attitudes from family members who constantly pick apart everything I say and do. I'm so self-conscious to the point where I go out of my way to avoid social situations. I'm deathly afraid of saying something stupid and/or sticking my foot in my mouth if I gain the slightest bit of confidence. I have a lot of hurdles to get over in this life.
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guzsaj 10 months ago
I have finally begun to understand my root cause for my anxiety and I am beginning to discover that oxygen deprivation and excessive exercise seem to make me less shy. It seems odd, but for me to explain it here would be excessive. I will say I have always perceived myself as being ugly from as early as age 5 and I was severely bullied and teased because of my looks growing up and even to this day, I feel my looks are a major factor in my social anxiety.
RB902050 10 months ago
Thank you so much for this video.
communityschannel 10 months ago
It all comes down to temperement and parenting. I wish I was set to run free as an infant and toddler and stayed in one school. My whole life wouldve been completely different.
btw you look like Sarah Connor.
TheHazcam 10 months ago
Fuck i hate my dad. In my teens my dad always came home beeing mad for nothing, leting the anger on me and my brother, sometimes went so far as hitting us. He always claimed me for not beeing able to do nothing, you don't have a life bla bla bla. Pathetic thing is he's a really weak person himself and have troubles socially. I've broken the contact with him for of this, scary thing is he doesn't understand why. Wonder if things would have been better if i got more mental support...
ludvign11 10 months ago
Am 16 turning 17 this june and its hard for me to speak eye to eye with people. And i really have a hard time joining and bonding with groups. This started when i was at least 13 years old when this started, It has become so bad i fine it even hard to leave my house... Any Suggestions ?
If helpful i Thank you so very much!
HeAdFuLLOfBullEts 11 months ago
@HeAdFuLLOfBullEts check out the midwest center for stress and anxiety , its helping it should help you
fight4yourfreedom1 11 months ago
Thank you. I've met many people like myself who could have used their intellect, charisma, talents, and attractive attributes to further their happiness and success, but have been blocked by the irrational and destructive bombardments of our parents. It's so horrific, especially as a person approaching middle age and sees that it was never their own flaws that prevented success, it was the "STOP and DESTROY YOURSELF FOR ME" messages from the parents that has caused the descimation of our lives
shakanunu 11 months ago
always think positive guys!
MrYayootube 11 months ago
Thanks for the video :)
IncelTreatment 11 months ago
Omg you just described me
jesus123510 1 year ago
This helped me so much thanks a million. I am Miguel - lives with
Schizoaffective Disorder Bi Polar type II and Social Anxiety Disorder.
soymiguelalejandro23 1 year ago
Wow, you hit the nail on the head. I think I now know how I have this. Thanks to my abusive mother.
Lrdvltr 1 year ago
Ustream, and go to the charles linden , if you wanna get rid of anxiety
DaOsman1 1 year ago
@MsPsychophil maybe, ive never been in a state of true depression before so you could be right
xlhotlx 1 year ago
cure for this and other anxiety illness is simply meditation, meditate for 30 minutes a day and ull be suprised how short it takes for your condition to be cured. try it meditate for 30 minutes right now and youl see improvment instantly when your finished
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MrSolmon123 1 year ago
the problem is: There are people out there who don´t even care about a life. If you grow up with them, something is gonna be put on you. You could lock my grandmother into a single cell and let her live on bread and water without any friends for all the rest of her life. It would not matter to her. I don´t know where that stuff comes from, but if you meet those people it´s clear to you: Ah, yep, they´re never gonna have a life anyway.
johnnyolsen100 1 year ago
Talk never works.
Alaron251 1 year ago
I know where I got my social anxiety from: Constant and severe bullying throughout the first 20 years of my life. Verbal abuse and hazing, although mild, lasted into my mid 20s. Constant rejection. It's been pervasive throughout my whole life, I have struggled to make friends. Here I am 36 years old, and with no friends. Fact is, how am I supposed to feel good about myself when I encounter people who have done much more in life than I have and are better looking?
RB902050 1 year ago
where i do get positive reinforcement cuz thats just nonexistant in my life right now
pinkorangesoda 1 year ago
This is quite valuable; I'll be going to see your other ones.
Bless you.
NaturaVulnera 1 year ago
I came across this video today, and I just want to say thank you. I feel like you have hit the nail on the head when you talk about it starting from an over judgemental home. Because I suffer from agoraphobia and anxiety attacks that come and go. I am now 24 years old and this makes me feel crazy sometimes but I am determined to fix this & move on with my life instead of being paralyzed by this. I feel like this is holding me back from achieving so much in my life, and I am ready to move on!
njwilliamson10 1 year ago
teacher being harsh? My teacher punched me in my stomach, got away with it and got ridiculed because i cried of the pain. :/
Well and some other things
gr8Sweetfox 1 year ago
@gr8Sweetfox and I got*
gr8Sweetfox 1 year ago
i like your point of view, if your parents suck be your own parent!!!
777DNAGENESIS777 1 year ago
I totally realate to this so much..
novus8 1 year ago
Very enlightening ....good to know that im not crazy..I have been struggling with this for some time now and am just now realizing what it is.
xiomaraxxxx 1 year ago
Thanks for very good review of this problem, it helped. You are very good person
DEADmetal3 1 year ago
I hope everyone watches this video (=
haaaamed 1 year ago
I hope everyone watched this video ( =
haaaamed 1 year ago
Thanks for the info, it touched my heart.
SonyFan4 1 year ago
wow straight up woman!! that's great. my family i would say is somewhat judgemental and i grew up in a strict household and a very strict school
procrastin8r89 1 year ago
pretty good description, i dont know about anyone else but it's a snow ball effect for me, i clam up so i sometimes seem like an asshole or cold. negative reinforcement kinda enhances my isolation.
shawndonald78 1 year ago
Love you
faixnadx 1 year ago
I might have social anxiety... this describes me perfectly...
Naturerocks411 1 year ago
I have social anxiety for almost 20 years. I guess it started when I was in 7th grade when I moved from Los Angeles to a small town in Northern CA. I am biracial, half korean and half caucasian. I was the only asian kid in school, even though I'm half white. I remember I used to get picked on at school everyday, student and teacher used to call me "gook" or "chinaman", some of them threaten me.
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PureGraceEvangelism 1 year ago
@candylady65 I feel that way too. It feels good that someone understands and that there is hope.
xCxRxYxSxTxAxLx79 1 year ago
So many people don't really get it unless they have it themselves. Even psychologists sometimes don't get it. But you do. You hit the nail on the head about so many things. Thank you so much. It's true that my parents were very critical and had violent communication. And it's true that I value other people's opinions much more than my own.
xCxRxYxSxTxAxLx79 1 year ago
I am a product of my environment,raised in a fostering situation that was both abusive and alcoholic.I used to drink to,no more today though it just masked the problem.I am socially convicted on many levels to a point of agoraphobia and a ton of meds.This has been a life time issue and I am almost 50 years old.
teed60 1 year ago
How about peers that were harsh. I believe that peers have a tremendoes impact on social anxiety, and that an episode of severe trauma can cause PTSD, that in turn can cause severe social anxiety when around other peers. I really appreciate the info about neural pathways and the self help you describe. My daughter has seen a psychiatrist for two years, and he has never addressed the social anxiety, just listened to her, and prescribed medication. This is the first I have heard about how to help!
anniemohon 1 year ago
100% true
DoyleProperties 1 year ago
I would say, you are 100% spot on. just like others have said, it's like you have cold read me.
DoyleProperties 1 year ago
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PureGraceEvangelism 1 year ago
0_0 i always say stuff like im ugly and pathtic this video is 100% true
kurtanglerocks555 1 year ago
Omg you are so right on everything. For me it all started because I was born a very ultra sensitive child. Also At two years old I was diagnosed with anxiety. Then I was molested at 7. I was normal until I hit 16 I felt like everything hit me. Now I'm so bad I've gotten worse I can't even stand in line in the bank without wanting to throw up. But i really like what you said; about others peoples opinions instead of what you thought of yourself. I wish I had a counselor growing up.
Everlastingev 1 year ago
that is so me,my friend called me too her birthday but when I was informated that where is gonna be more people(the ones who I don't know) I changed my mind in a moment,actually I was so afraid to go even to that stupid party with 4 of us.She got so mean and I stayd at home with a book,that was only begining,now I can't fight with it ,just staying home.I love communicating as much as I am afraid of it,sometimes I think it will make me nuts....
LoveSweetCandys 1 year ago
@LoveSweetCandys I have the same problem :-(. Whenever I'm invited to a party I'm getting sacred actually. People I don't know to meet..... the thought being judged/critzed I guess is keeping me away. How can we live this way...I really hate it to disapoint my friends because of this and they don't know about my problem which I won't tell them about it. I don't think they will even understand it.
capcom23 1 year ago
I just had a anzierty attack last night after I was sleeping I was having a dream that I was working and I said something to some people no one understood me and they just made fun of me I alway seam to have one when I am woken up from a deep sleep and go to the toilet and do a poo my body gets really hot an sweaty and my stomach really hurt then my head spins is this anziety?
Eszrae 1 year ago
Ecstacy helps me cope with this.........
Ex101 1 year ago
@Ex101 this would only make things worse, "dopamine" addiction could be the root of the problem
jeg622 1 year ago
I actually started crying half way through. Everything you said describes my life...I wish I had you as a therapist.
To Wink (below me): we are twins, too. I had an alcoholic (sober, but it changed nothing) narcissistic, abusive father, and I was picked on every day at school for 10+ years. I'm destroyed as a person.
Bacchante 1 year ago
Wow! I wish I could find a therapist like you. I have enjoyed and learned very much from your videos. I had an alcoholic/narcissistic father who made my life a living hell. I survived it, but not without damage that I have worked hard to try to repair. I realize now that he was extra harsh with me, because I didn't feed his need for narcissitic supply. Thanks so much and I will continue to watch your videos. They are great!!!
wink359 1 year ago
yes honestly ive think i had it my whole like but it went straight downhill in 11th grade and ive been trying to cope with it since its really tough but im just pushing and pushing in the right dirrecetion making my self do things i feel nervous about, saying hi to people i feel nervous about and just making my self more social and its working a little bit for me but it seems like its just taking forever but your video was seriously acurate expeciially with the never being good enough thing
vwjettalova 1 year ago
Thanks for the video. I'm still trying to overcome this. God bless you and thanks again.
DivineSkill23 1 year ago
I love you.
SuperSuwoop 1 year ago
thanks! this describes my situation because at school every single day people say "she's ugly" "she's quiet" and that begins to sink in so deep that I believe it. No matter how much my mom or friends say how pretty I am I won't believe it. I also loss my father which has been horrible because I was "daddy's little girl.' I tend to freeze up when I'm in a crowded place because I fear negative judgement. I want to get my mind off of myself for a change and focuss on other's who're hurting
anywayzz 1 year ago
The cause may also lie in traumatic pastlives.
thats very interesting what you said about the neurological system and indeed very important to be able to relax and give the body/subconscious mind those relaxing experiences. sex with someone (you want obviously) may help too
dromycatcher 1 year ago
I dont belive that for a second because dr is so many reasons for developin social anxiety disorder that its impossible to pinpoint a root cause, i have tried that crap method with plenty of crap bogus therapist and they all promise result give u loads of sessions and slowly put ur appointment from every week to never being availible to see especially if u question them about their methods, most of them hav an idea what social anxiety is but they most certainly cant fuckin cure it.
Dundon100 1 year ago
anxiety is such a bullshit problem. But theres always someone who has it worse, thats how i look at it.
boboyt5 1 year ago
I find the best time for positive reinforcement is just before i fall asleep, as it increases the chances of it being embedded into the subconscious. Every night, I repeat, ''Each day, in every way, i'm getting better and better..", until i drift off. It's really effective!
Franky000 1 year ago
Now why cant I find a counselor like you? I have been getting worse and worse in therapy. I've been to about 8 or 9 in the past 4 years. Thank you.
SpacyStacy32 1 year ago
It was tearing me apart from the inside out. can't look anyone in the eye anymore, I have panic attacks and my heart beats even to just ask a question. I am going to try to give myself positive motivation to get out there and try to become normal again. I have an extremely low self esteem, but I want to try to overlook the flaws because I doubt people have the same perspective of me than I do. Thanks again.
leafylou96 1 year ago
Thanks a lot. I really needed to see this video. I've been suffering depression/social anxiety, and this made me think back to what may have been the source to cause this. I was "normal" until 3rd grade until I moved to a new school, where i was almost instantly left out, critisized, and afraid... all the way up until 8th grade, then I finally just left school, basically dropped out to try and figure out how to fix this.
leafylou96 1 year ago
CBT has never helped me.
Metsada007 1 year ago
This video was very informative. Thank you so much! I have subscribed to your channel.
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fathersonnholyspirit 1 year ago
You are an amazing person! THANK YOU for all of your help and knowledge, you have guided me to my true self that was underneath a blanket of angst and tension, now I can truly be myself without fear. Your words have started me on my path of self awareness and CONFIDENCE, now i can really move on and LIVE! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
jamers2383 1 year ago
You are on the money lady.
gglaw42 1 year ago
ive learnd how to feel my true feelings, and ive gone threw serious anxiety since primary school, i feel like its cause i was afraid to go i felt scared but my mother made me go and i cried n didnt wana go, i can even remember walking in and every1 starin at me cause i was cryin so hard i felt like an alien to them cause the whole class was staring at me.... i feel like im startin to really work it all out and releasing it cause its causin me health problems now lol
chrisbartley88 1 year ago
I'm getting so bored of being socially anxious. What's annoying is that I actually have great social skills its just that as Ive gotten older Ive had a harder time relaxing and letting my guard down. Partys are often overstimulating and I end up in the bathroom every 20 minutes just to be alone for a bit. What scares me most is that its all self inflicted and that I somehow enjoy the pain. Smoking pot makes it worse and I do that every single day even though I know its hurting me.
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Chriomuz 2 years ago
wow this is insane i need your help
dalilah7771 2 years ago
So, dead on. I grew up the only child to a single mother with NPD. She never talked too me just yelled and scremed at me all the time. And you had to be perfect at all cost. I lived on eggshells almost my entire time with my mom. I never knew what would trigger her rages. So you learn how to self monitor. I am just now starting to understand the affects of growing up like that and I am deaing with it. But, you got it right.
dierjran 2 years ago
This is extremely true.
Mahhbadd 2 years ago 11
what about ppl who are scared of the color yellow..? why that color out of all of the colors?
802jessie 2 years ago
filipinoandproud- the same thing happened to me before. I had very bad acne and every day would look at my face and complain about it. I started to form anxiety and would worry what people would think of me and how I look. I thought they would think that I am ugly. Then after all of that I got a seizure and am now epileptic...(however u spell)
twinkletoesstar 2 years ago
Almost everything you've described is very true for me. I also suffer a lot from acne and had a very low self-esteem. I tried to avoid talking to people, so they wouldn't stare at my face. Sometimes when I wake up, it really disgusts me to look at myself, but now i really try my best not to think about how i look or care about how others think about me - even though when you look closely at my face you can see red, oily, and inflamed skin - because I know it will go away someday soon.
filipinoandproud 2 years ago
You described my family experience perfectly.
I have childhood memories of receiving daily public emotional, physical, and mental abuse, which resulted in deep feelings of shame, and always prompted an impulse to escape and hide.I'm still avoidance-oriented and even though I know that I've missed out on a lot of life's experiences, it's hard to break the pattern.
kimmijo 2 years ago 17
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hey, just want to ask if any single girl in Seattle with social anxiety disorder want to date me. just live me your respond and email i will check back on this video. thank you very much. i think this will help me to overcome my fear. couse i think my fear first started with the girl and kind developed into other part, so now if i overcome that i think its gona lead the way.i encourage girls with those kind of similar anxiety to get at me and i hope it help you too. thanks
Jamal012010 2 years ago
Victoria,
I just did a quick youtube search on Social Anxiety, and your title intrigued me to watch, I've long been wondering what the reasons are, and WOW you described my familiy life to a tee. Now all I feel is anger towards my family you know? They were never NICE people really, they would do ANYTHING for me, but the mental abuse was at insane levels. You are an angel for making this video and I thank you for sharing your knowledge and support for sufferers of SA
adamlewis723 2 years ago
I've had sad since I was a freshman in high school. I had a lot of traumatic stuff happen to me that year and I guess I just kind of lost it :( years of moving also made me a shy person. I just got more and more introverted, and it's been downhill from there :( it sucks.
stmina 2 years ago
when i was small i did have it, now i am getting over, tho' my parents were very loving, i think i did not have any positive thoughts about my self for a very long time, and I did not get any postive feed back or compliments from my parents......is this because of that...
ShineLord 2 years ago
<3 you are wonderful
fear is normal people and like any other phobias it is all the same
fear fear fear
Diazt3r 2 years ago
thanx for helping us..u r so lovely!
kirukivi30 2 years ago
Well Victoria after watching your video i must say u did a good job and explained lots of good stuff but still got stuff to explain.
Such as is this also considered Genetecly transfered? can it come from experiences from Alcoholic parents experiences and stuff like that?
Over all good job Thanks
gordo33 2 years ago
yes i hate getting oppinions now i stoped doing that i used to do it alot. I Force my self not ask.. WHat do u mean this looks bad on me and etc?
gordo33 2 years ago
Can i stop my social anxiety myself? like without counselling? i sort of got over an eating disorder alone, do you think i can do the same with my social anxiety?
bloodbuddy7 2 years ago
i think its possible to of course. but any help you can get is def. beneficial
50kT 2 years ago
I think you can, you have to practice and try not to focus on the negative toughs, you just need to relax and try not to focus to much on yourself.
theliberalparis 2 years ago
Thanks :)
jwsg90 2 years ago
While I might not have SA, I can relate
3:08 contains excellent insight; that other people's opinions and judgments matter. It probably stems from a (incorrect) lesson I learned as a kid, "Always listen to what other people say. You're ignorant, they're not. They know what's really going on and you don't.". So when negative people judged me, I just accepted it as truth and believed it. I'm working on overcoming these negative thoughts myself and becoming more self-supportive.
CountDOODOO 2 years ago
thank god for this video
50kT 2 years ago
profound!
protovack 2 years ago
i have it. i'm 18 and i'm afraid to drive because it would mean more of a kind of social interaction. i have no friends at all because i hardly go anywhere. if anypne else has similar problems please hit me up.
LeSamouraiKiller 2 years ago
I've always been kinda nervous when driving but after i hit some guy I'm fucking terrified to drive during the day or when people are walking around
iNvRG 2 years ago
i feel the same way
i used to have a happy life and had friends well that was like 2 years ago ever sense i developed sicial anxeity i started talking to my friends less and less until i didint have one single friend its horabble
but i am in the process of getting better i so want a happy life again
kisses4u17 2 years ago
@LeSamouraiKiller I do and it sucks cause my main friends are in college, I am too, buts its been hard because of my sleep problems,anxiety and stomach problems
HomicidalDavid 1 year ago
@LeSamouraiKiller having the same problem. wanna talk?
capcom23 1 year ago
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thefallofmaxpayne 2 years ago
that made a lot of sense, thanks
timmypaints 2 years ago
only thing that helps me is alcohol.
giggidy87 2 years ago 2
Hey giggidy87: Even when i drink I cannot loosen up. You are a lucky person to have that escape.
Drinking for me breaks down my barriers. And by barriers I mean the barriers that keep me happy. When the barriers go away, all I hear is negativity.
poobert 2 years ago
excersise reduces anxiety level . its like defeating it , not escaping . good diet , and daily excersise is very important
magestic99 2 years ago
@magestic99 bulls! I have for over 20 years this problem and i'm training weekly! That's not the cure. The only cure you can have is to believe in yourself. But how can you do that if the outside world will be always judging??? As I said it's all in the mind and that needs to be switched over.
capcom23 1 year ago
This is ridiculous. It's like exactly how I was raised. Nothing violent but lots of criticism, told to be the best and better than others, not encouraged etc.
TheHazcam 2 years ago 2
Ridiculously uncanny I meant.
TheHazcam 2 years ago
You are amazing:)
Thank you, thank you:)!
deepgreenhue 2 years ago
brilliant! i honestly am ashamed i really came out of a pos. home; i think it stems for me from being a girl and wanting to have lots of friends and not having much in high school; to hardly any now; which honestly can be crippling for anyone; and makes it virtually impossible to rise out of when you dont have the self worth to go out and present yourself to the world. ughh and work is the biggest anxiety trigger,,
ktbaby077 2 years ago
i cant believe how many people suffer from this.its quite shocking to me
tyleratley2007 2 years ago 3
How much I loved to hear your video! You enlighted my mind! I want you to know that I appreciate your work sooo much! You are helping to much more people that you even know about! I look forward to hear more about your work what might leads me to live the normal people's life.
Thank you!
Geripappa 2 years ago 17
thank you for your precision, i like that video very much. You have this American energy and positiveness i like too much.
nice day :)
farzitou2000 2 years ago
Hi is it still SA if you feel it at certain places, and at some times?
ilovepizzaforever07 2 years ago
i guess because those would be your triggers. i got this too but only around adults or people older than me in high school.
SDAxALLxDAY 2 years ago
i wish i had just 1 close friend :( i did have a chance once, but i blew it... i got invited to his parties, his house but i always declined because of SA fear :( this was around 15 and then we just got further apart, we were good friends at one point though, i regret it and now become abit of a loner because of social anxiety...
Jump2893 2 years ago
wow, thats great.....I feel so much better now. thats insane in a good way
Brian72082 2 years ago
what makes a psychotherapist holistic?
kaisersoce07 2 years ago
does anyone else have a fear of working?
xm3lissa89x 2 years ago
Yup, That's my biggest anxiety.
happ2beme 2 years ago
mine too.
xm3lissa89x 2 years ago
yes..
i have this constant fear of making a fool of myself... i don't think i could handle the social setting and the expectations.... and making a mistake.
I know that sounds stupid.. but the fear is very real and overwhelming.
i wish i had confidence...it eludes me how people can be so confident with themselves.. it's so unnatural to me
squelchieblue 2 years ago
i kno exactly how u feel... is there hope? lately ive been feeling like i have no reason to live...... how can i live without having a job and not being able to have fun or anything
xm3lissa89x 2 years ago
same. i can't find any help other than ecstasy or alcohol.
SDAxALLxDAY 2 years ago
After two beers im on the top of the world, i just quitted my well payed job cause i got promoted.. Beat that.
richter75 2 years ago
i can relate to that 100%
AutumnQtee 2 years ago
you mean meeting or joining , interacting with a new group of people , at a workplace,I think I had that,mostly forgotten now. or you mean the work itself, like fear of digging a ditch, doubt that. fear of making a mistake, very expensive one, hehe so the bosses get very angry, been there done that. but i didnt fear making mistakes i think.
orangestoneface 2 years ago
The thing that sucks with social anxiety as a teen is you feel alone at school, sometimes even with your friends.
It's a hard thing to explain. I've come a long way since I was little, but I never realized how serious it could be until I became a teenager. I always chose to only hang out with certain friends I was comfortable with and didn't really talk to other friends at school, and I've carried that habbit with me.
I'm trying to break my bad habits, but I still feel...idk, regretful?
Lilcutegrl93 2 years ago 12
@Lilcutegrl93 feel the same
kurtanglerocks555 1 year ago
This video nailed me to the bone! Thank you for putting it up. I don't feel so silly anymore.
snugglyaquarius79 2 years ago
Yeah, this video nailed me too, and it felt soooooo good!
CleverDjembe 2 years ago
i totally agree with you.i was raised in a very unloving inviroment. i've always been sinsitive to negative input. i'm 54 yrs old and social anxity is all i've ever known.
i want help but it's hard to find someone that understands this disorder. i don't have many choices sinse i'm disabled and on medecaid. what can i do?
jlynn1455 2 years ago 6
Just wondering, does any out there have panic disorder as well? Like when you're around people you start breaking down in sweat and your heart starts racing. message me back. pc
Revolt714 2 years ago
Yes all the time , everyday almost but I have been taking clonopin and it helps with panic attacks.
BigMikeflyDR 2 years ago
yes i hate it. so i dont go out much
xm3lissa89x 2 years ago
its not so much the work for me, its more the social side of it, like at lunch times or if you have to discuss something with someone else...
Jump2893 2 years ago
Wow, thank you for making this video. This really made me think about what i'm really going through. thanks a lot
Revolt714 2 years ago
Vilift is really great, it's really the best pill i've ever tried, really effective.
happilylil 2 years ago
thanks so much for posting victoria. You seem to really understand Social Anxiety, everything you said is spot on especially the early childhood trauma stuff because ive had alot of pressure and judgement from family members and i think thats the rout of my problem. keep it up.
ctycolour 2 years ago
wow great video i wish your office was near where i live so i can make appointment to talk to you i have anxiety i learn that this condition is negative bad habit and we need to practice how to reverse so we learn new nonancious behavier
tski007 2 years ago
Nice video. I wish you were my therapist Victoria. I suffer from alot of behavioral problems, like Social Phobia. I cant seem to get any help for it and I grow anxious and tired each day.
Trying2HelpUs 2 years ago
Excellent ! very clear, to the point and very helpful
pmannion02 2 years ago
I'm still stuck living with her, but I feel in a few months I'll have enough confidence and a better skill set to move out and take on the world. Thanks for this helpful and informative post. Your doing a good job here. :)
Pogokhet 2 years ago
I never thought that a video of such length could sum up my current state of being so accurately. Word for word too. Especially with the parents part.
I experienced severe social rejection in early childhood because of my Jewishness (my parents aren't the least bit religious) and got into a downward spiral of worry and anxiety about social interaction, reaching a critical point when my parents split when I was 11 (my mother became neglectful and bitter toward me after the separation) - cont
Pogokhet 2 years ago
thanks for posting it helped me
ElmerDaGreat 2 years ago
I think you have described me to a tee. I have been anxious since I was little, but my social anxiety worsened after being exposed as a young teen to bullying, teasing, backstabbing, etc.
Today, I do often feel like I am walking around with a nervous system that is very raw and alert. I have become good at hiding it, but it's there. It&#