Umm . . . I'm clueless XD. I am 18 and just recently came out (just to myself though). I really want a boyfriend but I don't really look gay. I would prefer to be asked out but I don't think that will happen anytime soon. I am 6'3 and admittably pudgey (though I have started going to a gym). I am also a complete nerd. I haven't really ever had a relationship before and have no gay friends/relatives for advice. Sorry for the wall of text but does anyone have any advice?
@808bkn .she didnt say u had to be buff...she said physically fit..who would u be attracted to just from visual first impression..a fat man or a physically fit man?...im not talking about personallity that comes later im talking about first impression....
uuuugh worse advice EVER !! Jessica should do something for the gays though, she's better than this unqualified.... mhmm... judgmental woman ? cuz u know, gay giys are not all about gym and fashion !
And hes hard to read (to see if hes gay or not) and i like him soo bad see i look like a fool to him and am 13 BTW and all hes friends are boys :/ so is he gay or not?
Am a gay magnet 2-4 people like me i like this one person i tolled him i have a GF but i dont i lie to keep away builes and i got mad at him 3 times this year because i WAS fighting the fact am gay but i am, but hes lieing to me but i see some signs but am scaryed to go to him and how i feel so am waiting for him to tell me and hes with this
boy and hes gone to the Ex with him am so shy but hes so cute :) i dont look at him
because i am shy and i dont want to give out any signs yet
"Go to the gym to look good and dress well no matter how you look already
Second half of the video:
"Just be sure to be yourself"
Bitch you are trippin balls. I mean, Im a gay guy who does find guys who keep clean EXTREMELY attractive, but Im going to fall for his personality, not what hes wearing. ._."
A guy with an ass is nice, but c'mon! I don't need advice from a superficial woman to get a gay bf! I'm more attracted to a guy the more i get to know him!
You know even though she is a lady and i assume she is str8, it seems like she knows a little how the gay crap about relationship or attraction works, i'm gay and she is right and this is REALITY of the gay world, MOST OF GAY GUYS ARE VERY SHALLOW AND IT'S ALL ABOUT LOOKS! well it's ok to want a cute or hot or good looking person i think everyone wants that in their lives, but sometimes they'll be looking all their lives and never get someone totally HOT as they wish and will be single 4ever!
i think im have some well boy friend but he really shy, thing going on its been about year that i have had a bf an i fell sooo shy so shaken up ever time i think about him an when i just try to talk to him hes a really sweet cute boy an im mady in love with him he is like nothing like the other boys iv been out with an i think he mit b my last happens ill ever get :'( iv been down in the dumps laty thorts in my head i just .... :'( want 2 know so badly please <3 ... if any one could help
-__- She's completely wrong. I feel that if people like you for your looks they don't want you emotionally just physically. Gay men don't always go for looks. That is not always there, and besides if you have to change for a man he isn't worth it.
This bothers me. How about she talks to some actually gay men and have them tell us what gay men like, as opposed to what the straight white american female thinks gay men like.
Hey, maybe is she had a GAY hairdresser, she wouldn't have such shiteous flat boring hair! Ok, going to the gym now to find a boyfriend! Thanks for the tips, Donna Barnes!
Donna is trying to be gay friendly and making an effort to be inclusive, whatever her motives are? As a life coach on youtube she is looking for business and the new york gay community seem a captive market. The body language tips and 'be-yourself' messages are encouraging. The rest of her advice is simplistic. Research into successful gay relationships highlights the importance of emotional and mental connections as being more important than physical attraction. Donna did not emphasise this
This video is so sketch. How the hell does some random straight life coach know anything about the intricacies of gay dating and culture. MASSIVE FAIL. lol.
As a gay person, i see so many things wrong here. First off, you need to learn that gay relationships are the same as straight ones, exept for gender of coarse. We don't have some terrible secret behind us, we like contact, yes, but everyone responds to it no matter what relationship they are looking for. Also some people like scrawny men (like myself) so don't say "hit the gym". You need to tell everyone, or no one to do that, for it was horribly offencive
@newfish09 All i really meant by that comment is that you shouldnt tell people to hit the gym. If they want to they can, but some heavier males (and females) are happy the way they are
@gotmilk1323 that is true, however they have a better chance with people like themselves or chubby chasers.... just look up gay blogs, or forums and see. I dont like it either but thats what see. no fats no fems
@ToromaKanieren Yes she does shes just stating the Obvious! What if your not looking for somone who acts like everyone like if this chick said to my face i would bitch slap her Twice!
people actually pay to get advice from you?...perhaps there is something wrong with gay guys who get advice from an uninformed, shallow individual like you! as a gay guy, i'd have to say, you are clueless!
OK I kinda like chubby guys so... but the body language thing is interesting... Maybe I should try invading some people's personal space a little bit and seeing how they react. Then again, I'm shy, so even if someone was attractive I tend to move back from them if they get close... maybe it's not good advice.
go to the gym, get buff, and dress well.....is she for real? Yea, i know there's some merit in those tips, but they also perpetuate superficiality, body image complexes, and the preconceived shallow nature of gay men (which also exists in str8 men/women too, i know).....
I dunno, this clip disturbed me somewhat. Just my opinion (as a gay man)....
lmao most gay guys are into hot guys. i mean do you really want to date either of the men in this video? seriously. its just a simple fact unless ur a bear or cub or something then maybe its less scrutinizing. but its the same in str8 world for the most part. sometimes i see hot ass women with ugly dudes. wtf? i have a friend who only dates dorky guys. says theyre cute or some crap.
@oxforddictonary - I so agree. Everything is geared towards the YOUNG gay man. Excuse me but I guess at age 60 I should just roll up in a ball and DIE before even considering looking for love for another man. Well, I've got news for this little snip on the video. I've got PLENTY of guys who want to date me. And why is that? Even though I'm overweight and don't have the time nor the MONEY to get to the gym? Because I'm comfortable in my own skin, honest, and I shut my trap and LISTEN.
stereotype much
SarahByrne 2 weeks ago
Chris colfer! Im coming to you!
3Dfairyel 1 month ago
Umm . . . I'm clueless XD. I am 18 and just recently came out (just to myself though). I really want a boyfriend but I don't really look gay. I would prefer to be asked out but I don't think that will happen anytime soon. I am 6'3 and admittably pudgey (though I have started going to a gym). I am also a complete nerd. I haven't really ever had a relationship before and have no gay friends/relatives for advice. Sorry for the wall of text but does anyone have any advice?
ElSilverWind 3 months ago
wow she seriously just said that in order for a man to like another man u need to be buff and hella good looking she is fricken trippin!!!!!!
808bkn 3 months ago
@808bkn .she didnt say u had to be buff...she said physically fit..who would u be attracted to just from visual first impression..a fat man or a physically fit man?...im not talking about personallity that comes later im talking about first impression....
onedominicanfellow 3 months ago
What bullshit. How nice that a supposed "expert" embraces every stereotype of the gay community.
Maldororf 5 months ago
@Maldororf There 'is' a reason we have stereotypes.
MoneyTalksMusicRocks 4 months ago
i mean, i like asians. so does it mean i have to change my mind now? no offence.
keithtae 5 months ago
this is basically advice for anyone....people like attractive people..... noo surprise there
MegJ326 6 months ago
huh??? didnt all gay men know this already???
ftflipflod 6 months ago
@CDKJS awwwwwwwwwwwwwww ur so sweet i love u <3 and wanna go out but ib cumputer? or i cane go to ireland and be with u
TehClawClan 6 months ago
@CDKJS XD i like u
TehClawClan 6 months ago
@CDKJS :( still ek <3 u =D u 13?
TehClawClan 6 months ago
@CDKJS lol k where u live <3
TehClawClan 6 months ago
uuuugh worse advice EVER !! Jessica should do something for the gays though, she's better than this unqualified.... mhmm... judgmental woman ? cuz u know, gay giys are not all about gym and fashion !
OneMileyCyrusFanVlog 6 months ago
since she's obviously a very gay MAN, im sure she know what shes talking about. wtf does this woman know about gay men?
AlexFan4Life 7 months ago
I get all my gay dating tips from straight, judgmental women.
Jesus, we're fags, not stupid.
tarantulatook 7 months ago
And hes hard to read (to see if hes gay or not) and i like him soo bad see i look like a fool to him and am 13 BTW and all hes friends are boys :/ so is he gay or not?
unlimitedR3G0n 7 months ago
Am a gay magnet 2-4 people like me i like this one person i tolled him i have a GF but i dont i lie to keep away builes and i got mad at him 3 times this year because i WAS fighting the fact am gay but i am, but hes lieing to me but i see some signs but am scaryed to go to him and how i feel so am waiting for him to tell me and hes with this
boy and hes gone to the Ex with him am so shy but hes so cute :) i dont look at him
because i am shy and i dont want to give out any signs yet
unlimitedR3G0n 7 months ago
Hey honey, are you gay? Because I'm loooking for a good looking woman. (;
maria17954 7 months ago
i know im 13 and gay and i cant find a n y o n e! :(
TehClawClan 8 months ago 3
First half of the video:
"Go to the gym to look good and dress well no matter how you look already
Second half of the video:
"Just be sure to be yourself"
Bitch you are trippin balls. I mean, Im a gay guy who does find guys who keep clean EXTREMELY attractive, but Im going to fall for his personality, not what hes wearing. ._."
kolokostor 8 months ago 2
A guy with an ass is nice, but c'mon! I don't need advice from a superficial woman to get a gay bf! I'm more attracted to a guy the more i get to know him!
lirothen 9 months ago
oh honey, get your roots redone
Wompwowow 10 months ago 2
@Wompwowow HAHA! so true
TheBluePianist 9 months ago
You know even though she is a lady and i assume she is str8, it seems like she knows a little how the gay crap about relationship or attraction works, i'm gay and she is right and this is REALITY of the gay world, MOST OF GAY GUYS ARE VERY SHALLOW AND IT'S ALL ABOUT LOOKS! well it's ok to want a cute or hot or good looking person i think everyone wants that in their lives, but sometimes they'll be looking all their lives and never get someone totally HOT as they wish and will be single 4ever!
guyboyish 10 months ago
mormon commercial pre-roll... ironc or just stupid?
CheetoPudding 10 months ago
i think im have some well boy friend but he really shy, thing going on its been about year that i have had a bf an i fell sooo shy so shaken up ever time i think about him an when i just try to talk to him hes a really sweet cute boy an im mady in love with him he is like nothing like the other boys iv been out with an i think he mit b my last happens ill ever get :'( iv been down in the dumps laty thorts in my head i just .... :'( want 2 know so badly please <3 ... if any one could help
emojoshyyyyy 10 months ago
you are an awesome coach. =)
truthbreaker 11 months ago
for me it's both, looks and personality. If someone is ugly on the outside, i won't even try and get to know the inside.
msmithstud 11 months ago
deeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeerrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr,what a crock
skynet3000 11 months ago
100% true ^_^ i never ask the employees what looks nice so thanks for the tip! touch is a good idea too.
piggynuts 1 year ago
-__- She's completely wrong. I feel that if people like you for your looks they don't want you emotionally just physically. Gay men don't always go for looks. That is not always there, and besides if you have to change for a man he isn't worth it.
TheJuanDotcom 1 year ago
This bothers me. How about she talks to some actually gay men and have them tell us what gay men like, as opposed to what the straight white american female thinks gay men like.
Seriously. This makes me mad.
LotsofLawlz 1 year ago 2
I really respect You... You are really nice to us... but how about those boys who are fem like me.... :- ( how do we get attention??? no chances?...
spasiboalisher 1 year ago
Oh damn she's hawt!! I think I just turned straight for her XD
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RosakTokse56 1 year ago
its just hilarious that its a girl giving gay tips.
wtf?
i wonder if straightactinggayguy has sum tips or someone else like that.
maybe justin bieber! jk lol :P
SonyFoLife 1 year ago
Lol me tooo! I'm 17 and gay and I am sooo shy I just can't find a n y o n e !!!!
andrewscottclark 1 year ago
@andrewscottclark
hey if want someone, you can talk to me ;), im 18
kevin080592 1 year ago
you are the best! i wish i can pull you out of my wallet whenever i need advice.. (^-^)v
iamdeadstar 1 year ago
Hey, maybe is she had a GAY hairdresser, she wouldn't have such shiteous flat boring hair! Ok, going to the gym now to find a boyfriend! Thanks for the tips, Donna Barnes!
RussellBW 1 year ago
Donna is trying to be gay friendly and making an effort to be inclusive, whatever her motives are? As a life coach on youtube she is looking for business and the new york gay community seem a captive market. The body language tips and 'be-yourself' messages are encouraging. The rest of her advice is simplistic. Research into successful gay relationships highlights the importance of emotional and mental connections as being more important than physical attraction. Donna did not emphasise this
vonmuffling 1 year ago
This video is so sketch. How the hell does some random straight life coach know anything about the intricacies of gay dating and culture. MASSIVE FAIL. lol.
eric512140 1 year ago 2
As a gay person, i see so many things wrong here. First off, you need to learn that gay relationships are the same as straight ones, exept for gender of coarse. We don't have some terrible secret behind us, we like contact, yes, but everyone responds to it no matter what relationship they are looking for. Also some people like scrawny men (like myself) so don't say "hit the gym". You need to tell everyone, or no one to do that, for it was horribly offencive
gotmilk1323 1 year ago
@gotmilk1323 what about heavier males?
newfish09 1 year ago
@newfish09 All i really meant by that comment is that you shouldnt tell people to hit the gym. If they want to they can, but some heavier males (and females) are happy the way they are
gotmilk1323 1 year ago
@gotmilk1323 that is true, however they have a better chance with people like themselves or chubby chasers.... just look up gay blogs, or forums and see. I dont like it either but thats what see. no fats no fems
newfish09 1 year ago
thats sooooo superficial
kerrin95 1 year ago
Fantastic. Permission to go round 'touching each other a little bit'...what an utterly failsafe way of being able to tell.
graciesdad 1 year ago
As a gay guy, why don't I give you a bit of life advice: GET ANOTHER JOB!
tvstvs 1 year ago
ehm.. yeah, I think these are tips everyone already knows.
DutchBanana45 2 years ago
@DutchBanana45 pretty much
newfish09 1 year ago
why r pp knocking her? i liked this video. memo to myself lose wieght & stop shopping @ k mart
ogyy345 2 years ago 2
I like this woman, she doesn't treat homosexuals as a different species :>
ToromaKanieren 2 years ago 36
@ToromaKanieren i think that she said her name is Donna and i want to agree with you. I wish that there were more people like her in this world...
Wolfgang980 2 years ago
@ToromaKanieren this woman is the best
NAMEDIA 1 year ago
@ToromaKanieren Yes she does shes just stating the Obvious! What if your not looking for somone who acts like everyone like if this chick said to my face i would bitch slap her Twice!
ArtizFox 7 months ago
i like this :p lol
erikkingofthewolves 2 years ago
she seems to only talk about the Seme in the relationship what about the Uke?????
Sigh so unloved v_v
Bladeramon 2 years ago
people actually pay to get advice from you?...perhaps there is something wrong with gay guys who get advice from an uninformed, shallow individual like you! as a gay guy, i'd have to say, you are clueless!
nimagol 2 years ago
OK I kinda like chubby guys so... but the body language thing is interesting... Maybe I should try invading some people's personal space a little bit and seeing how they react. Then again, I'm shy, so even if someone was attractive I tend to move back from them if they get close... maybe it's not good advice.
Nekorin 2 years ago
Wearing tons of make up on your ugly face helps too.
KUAXAM 2 years ago
Good advice but a bit too vague.
spoyledbratt 2 years ago
Jesus Christ
Achmedinthetree 2 years ago
go to the gym, get buff, and dress well.....is she for real? Yea, i know there's some merit in those tips, but they also perpetuate superficiality, body image complexes, and the preconceived shallow nature of gay men (which also exists in str8 men/women too, i know).....
I dunno, this clip disturbed me somewhat. Just my opinion (as a gay man)....
oxforddictonary 2 years ago 61
lmao most gay guys are into hot guys. i mean do you really want to date either of the men in this video? seriously. its just a simple fact unless ur a bear or cub or something then maybe its less scrutinizing. but its the same in str8 world for the most part. sometimes i see hot ass women with ugly dudes. wtf? i have a friend who only dates dorky guys. says theyre cute or some crap.
codyofga 2 years ago
i agree- it does seem shallow
radecala 2 years ago
@oxforddictonary you are so right this bitch is sooo superficial. WTF?
Brooksell13 9 months ago
@oxforddictonary - I so agree. Everything is geared towards the YOUNG gay man. Excuse me but I guess at age 60 I should just roll up in a ball and DIE before even considering looking for love for another man. Well, I've got news for this little snip on the video. I've got PLENTY of guys who want to date me. And why is that? Even though I'm overweight and don't have the time nor the MONEY to get to the gym? Because I'm comfortable in my own skin, honest, and I shut my trap and LISTEN.
JCJasion 8 months ago
?????
rockpopk1 2 years ago
point taking.
cancerdada 2 years ago