This really strikes a chord with me. Thank you for putting things in a unique light. The story really starts with being abandoned. But even more so, the expectations of all adopted koreans is different. The struggle is always to feel the need to fit in, as we never have had that feeling. Even if it seems we completely "fit" in, the feeling is still there.
@BrandonandKelly06 i think regardless of where you adopt from-- the adopted child will always struggle with not fitting in-- it's more important how you help them deal with that struggle that counts.
I love your videos. We are in the process of adopting. We chose to adopt within the US, and this is why. We don't want our child to feel like they never fit in. We know that a child of another culture would not "be like" our friends and family, even though WE would see them no differently. You can't just adopt a child and forget where they came from. Your videos give great insight and advice! I am glad you are acknowledging your thoughts and feelings, while still seeming like you really love
@BrandonandKelly06@BrandonandKelly06 i think regardless of where you adopt from-- the adopted child will always struggle with not fitting in-- it's more important how you help them deal with that struggle.
@stephxhoney very true. I guess I should've said we didn't want the difference to be so obvious. Mainly because people are nosey and ask a lot of questions. I don't think there is anything at all wrong with interracial adoption, it just scares me. I know that I personally am not equipped (or maybe just too intimidated) to face the racial/cultural issues right now. Of course, I plan to always be completely open with our child about his/her story. Keep up the good info :)
Great vid, glad you are maturing and developing as an adoptee and getting a better grasp on how you can present yourself in the culture you live in. Thought I'd also give you some encouragement that you are definitely not alone... it might be that in your geographical area there might not be many korean adoptees but there really is quite a few of us out here in the world. Anyway, congrats on the new job and appartment, looking forward to some more vids.
@FamilyManDano thank you dan! i am enjoying watching your video. it's a funny phenomenon that the first question we're always asked is whether we'd be interested in looking for our birth mother/parents.
I've been writing a script for a few years , im inspired by my brother that i have never known, he was put up for adoption years before i was born. i stumbled upon ur video blogs like two years ago, i thank u cause it has been a major resource. a point of view. thanks
@ObiHendrix that sounds like it will be a fascinating script! keep me posted on its progress. i always wonder if my bio-sisters know or wonder about me. nice to hear from the other perspective.
What a beautiful woman...and smart....what a rare sight! Good luck with your life, you seem to have a good personality and that will take you far!
Soushokukeidanshi 3 months ago
This really strikes a chord with me. Thank you for putting things in a unique light. The story really starts with being abandoned. But even more so, the expectations of all adopted koreans is different. The struggle is always to feel the need to fit in, as we never have had that feeling. Even if it seems we completely "fit" in, the feeling is still there.
endari 1 year ago
@endari very true. sometimes we are capable blending in if we need to, but there is always the internal battle.
stephxhoney 1 year ago
I can relate to so much things you say. Thanks!
MissKoreagirl 1 year ago
@MissKoreagirl you're welcome!
stephxhoney 1 year ago
@BrandonandKelly06 i think regardless of where you adopt from-- the adopted child will always struggle with not fitting in-- it's more important how you help them deal with that struggle that counts.
stephxhoney 1 year ago
I love the sincerity in your videos.
AmericajinYumi 1 year ago 2
@AmericajinYumi ^.^ thank you for watching!
stephxhoney 1 year ago
I love your videos. We are in the process of adopting. We chose to adopt within the US, and this is why. We don't want our child to feel like they never fit in. We know that a child of another culture would not "be like" our friends and family, even though WE would see them no differently. You can't just adopt a child and forget where they came from. Your videos give great insight and advice! I am glad you are acknowledging your thoughts and feelings, while still seeming like you really love
BrandonandKelly06 1 year ago
@BrandonandKelly06 @BrandonandKelly06 i think regardless of where you adopt from-- the adopted child will always struggle with not fitting in-- it's more important how you help them deal with that struggle.
stephxhoney 1 year ago 2
@stephxhoney very true. I guess I should've said we didn't want the difference to be so obvious. Mainly because people are nosey and ask a lot of questions. I don't think there is anything at all wrong with interracial adoption, it just scares me. I know that I personally am not equipped (or maybe just too intimidated) to face the racial/cultural issues right now. Of course, I plan to always be completely open with our child about his/her story. Keep up the good info :)
BrandonandKelly06 1 year ago
Great vid, glad you are maturing and developing as an adoptee and getting a better grasp on how you can present yourself in the culture you live in. Thought I'd also give you some encouragement that you are definitely not alone... it might be that in your geographical area there might not be many korean adoptees but there really is quite a few of us out here in the world. Anyway, congrats on the new job and appartment, looking forward to some more vids.
FamilyManDano 1 year ago
@FamilyManDano thank you dan! i am enjoying watching your video. it's a funny phenomenon that the first question we're always asked is whether we'd be interested in looking for our birth mother/parents.
stephxhoney 1 year ago
I've been writing a script for a few years , im inspired by my brother that i have never known, he was put up for adoption years before i was born. i stumbled upon ur video blogs like two years ago, i thank u cause it has been a major resource. a point of view. thanks
ObiHendrix 1 year ago
@ObiHendrix that sounds like it will be a fascinating script! keep me posted on its progress. i always wonder if my bio-sisters know or wonder about me. nice to hear from the other perspective.
stephxhoney 1 year ago
thank you. I love your videos. I will follow you on your blog .
shopperoo99 1 year ago
@shopperoo99 thanks for watching!
stephxhoney 1 year ago