prenatal testing is wack. its pretty unreliable if you ask me. lets find a test that is 100% accurate and doesnt involve other "risks" such as miscarriage. so 20ish yr olds dont have to worry every day of their pregnany. like me.
A child with Down syndrome should not be concidered a risk. As a parent of a child with Down syndrome, I would encourage expectant mother's to decline this testing. The reason these screens are pushed on women two to three times a pregnancy within the first trimester is for the option of abortion.
My daughter is NOT A RISK, she is a blessing. We as people do not have the right to eliminate or abort a baby because we are affraid of their short falls.
I disagree. People do have a right to choose how they wish to allocate their parenting resources. While many people out there would choose to continue a pregnancy where the child has mental or physical limitations, I don't feel it's right to impose my own judgment on anyone else. Some people may not be able to afford the medical and other expense that comes with raising a special-needs child. I wouldn't fault anyone who made the responsible decision not to if they're not capable.
I will try to answer this without being disrespectful, and I hope it does not come off as disrespectful. "Allocate their parenting resources" is not extendable to disabling a life. A child with a disability is NEVER to expensive if you think with your heart and not with your wallet. I can agree with the fact that people have the right to live thier lives how they want, as long as it does not impose on the lives of others, such as ending someone's life.
I am 41 years old and 11 weeks pregnant. I had my first ultrasound this morning and upon filling out my billing information, I was given a blood test sheet and a pamphlet about DS. I had the ultrasound and the sonographer took it upon herself to go and get the nurse to continue the first trimester screening for DS. No one ever asked me if I wanted the test.
I declined the test.
Now. I wil have the quadruple blood screening but I will not do the amnio. Having baby number 7 is enough for me.
Do your parents have the right to "allocate their parenting resources" and terminate you right now? That is a rediculous thought isn't it. Just as far fetched as them having that power when you didn't have words of your own.
Normal healthy children are work in itself. I have considered ending my pregnancy if my child will have to live a life of mental and physical challenges and defects. There are so many things to consider outside of the financial part of it. For me it's Can I actually tolerate and deal with mental retardation, heart problems, and everything else. I think it would be so hard for me already having so many children in the first place.
ttdean, I know you may be facing a hard decision, so I hope you and your family find the right choice for you. I will say for my family, we have never had to tolorate my daughter, more often than not, we forget she even has Down syndrome and have to remind our selves that she is a child with special needs. Never second guess your strength as a parent. My wife and I are inspired every day by Avery and amazed at how incredible she is. I look back and could not imagine my life without her.
On another note, children with Down syndrome are some of the highest requested children for adoption. I know someone near me that has adopted to children with Down syndrome. I think it is in the way they love unconditionally and have a smile that can make anyone's day better. Some may have mental retardation, but it simply means they learn at a slower pace, people with Down syndrome can offer just as much if not more than "normal" people. Again, I wish you the best with your decision!
I have the right to have a healthy baby just as you have your right to raise a child with Down Syndrome. You absolutely have no right to tell us what to do with our fetuses. That's off limits. If you want to feel superior and holier-than-thou for raising your "blessing of a daughter", good for you. But don't preach to us! I don't want a baby with Down Syndrome and I have the right not to! And guess what? That's what choice is all about.
Holier-than-thou? Sorry if I came across that way! I am simply trying to help others understand things from my side of the fence. I have feeling just as strong as yours, just another point of view. We live in a nation of laws and rights, and yes, you have the right to do whatever you would like with your "fetus". My daughter is a blessing, and I try to write encouraging words for those who are confused and unsure of their decisions, I am just one, everyone can decide what is best for them.
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ShandySpoon 1 year ago
do these test find the disease "BLUMPKIN"?
thomus777 2 years ago
prenatal testing is wack. its pretty unreliable if you ask me. lets find a test that is 100% accurate and doesnt involve other "risks" such as miscarriage. so 20ish yr olds dont have to worry every day of their pregnany. like me.
Fucoughandeye 3 years ago
Prenatal testing is eugenics, period.
limeslimey 3 years ago
A child with Down syndrome should not be concidered a risk. As a parent of a child with Down syndrome, I would encourage expectant mother's to decline this testing. The reason these screens are pushed on women two to three times a pregnancy within the first trimester is for the option of abortion.
My daughter is NOT A RISK, she is a blessing. We as people do not have the right to eliminate or abort a baby because we are affraid of their short falls.
bfbirman 4 years ago
I disagree. People do have a right to choose how they wish to allocate their parenting resources. While many people out there would choose to continue a pregnancy where the child has mental or physical limitations, I don't feel it's right to impose my own judgment on anyone else. Some people may not be able to afford the medical and other expense that comes with raising a special-needs child. I wouldn't fault anyone who made the responsible decision not to if they're not capable.
LegallyKathi 4 years ago
I will try to answer this without being disrespectful, and I hope it does not come off as disrespectful. "Allocate their parenting resources" is not extendable to disabling a life. A child with a disability is NEVER to expensive if you think with your heart and not with your wallet. I can agree with the fact that people have the right to live thier lives how they want, as long as it does not impose on the lives of others, such as ending someone's life.
bfbirman 3 years ago
I am 41 years old and 11 weeks pregnant. I had my first ultrasound this morning and upon filling out my billing information, I was given a blood test sheet and a pamphlet about DS. I had the ultrasound and the sonographer took it upon herself to go and get the nurse to continue the first trimester screening for DS. No one ever asked me if I wanted the test.
I declined the test.
Now. I wil have the quadruple blood screening but I will not do the amnio. Having baby number 7 is enough for me.
ttdean 3 years ago
Do your parents have the right to "allocate their parenting resources" and terminate you right now? That is a rediculous thought isn't it. Just as far fetched as them having that power when you didn't have words of your own.
bfbirman 3 years ago
Normal healthy children are work in itself. I have considered ending my pregnancy if my child will have to live a life of mental and physical challenges and defects. There are so many things to consider outside of the financial part of it. For me it's Can I actually tolerate and deal with mental retardation, heart problems, and everything else. I think it would be so hard for me already having so many children in the first place.
ttdean 3 years ago
ttdean, I know you may be facing a hard decision, so I hope you and your family find the right choice for you. I will say for my family, we have never had to tolorate my daughter, more often than not, we forget she even has Down syndrome and have to remind our selves that she is a child with special needs. Never second guess your strength as a parent. My wife and I are inspired every day by Avery and amazed at how incredible she is. I look back and could not imagine my life without her.
bfbirman 3 years ago
On another note, children with Down syndrome are some of the highest requested children for adoption. I know someone near me that has adopted to children with Down syndrome. I think it is in the way they love unconditionally and have a smile that can make anyone's day better. Some may have mental retardation, but it simply means they learn at a slower pace, people with Down syndrome can offer just as much if not more than "normal" people. Again, I wish you the best with your decision!
bfbirman 3 years ago
I have the right to have a healthy baby just as you have your right to raise a child with Down Syndrome. You absolutely have no right to tell us what to do with our fetuses. That's off limits. If you want to feel superior and holier-than-thou for raising your "blessing of a daughter", good for you. But don't preach to us! I don't want a baby with Down Syndrome and I have the right not to! And guess what? That's what choice is all about.
EricaAmy 3 years ago
Holier-than-thou? Sorry if I came across that way! I am simply trying to help others understand things from my side of the fence. I have feeling just as strong as yours, just another point of view. We live in a nation of laws and rights, and yes, you have the right to do whatever you would like with your "fetus". My daughter is a blessing, and I try to write encouraging words for those who are confused and unsure of their decisions, I am just one, everyone can decide what is best for them.
bfbirman 3 years ago