Thank you so much for this video, Im ready to come out to my parents now as bi, and it is very important to me to know how to handle it. so thanks for the advices about giving them time and being pacient. Great vid!
Thank you for this video. My mom died when I was ten, and making her proud of who I am is the most important thing in my world. I'm almost thirty and I know I'm gay, but have been unable admit it because she's the only person I really want to tell and I can't. It's eating me alive, and I think I'm ready, but it makes me sad. I'm afraid to become someone she doesn't know. You are a very lucky girl Michelle, and your mom is as well. I would give anything to be able to have that moment with my mom
I know I could make understand them that me feeling about girls are real...but it just would be so much easier if I would fall in love...Maybe like Bette used to say in TLW (was it Bette?!) "with some lesbians you have to break up more than once" I should say "to some parents U should speak more than once."
When i first discovered i was bisexual, i told my best friends to see their reaction. I was about 13 and a few of them are homophobic, so the lack of maturity added to that aswell. It was a negative reaction i got, so i told them i was joking. I'm now 15 and i must say, my friends have maturity beyond their years now. I told them that i really am bisexual about 2 months ago and they're completely fine with it now. It took some adjusting for them, but i'm just waiting to tell my parents now.
I agree with ya Mi6miro4eta. My parents was shocked and disappointed that I didnt tell them. Cause I didnt know how to reacted on it. It took my parents had to accepted that Im an lesbian. Im not worried what people say about me. They got to accept whom I am. If they cant do that, I dont need to be around them. Thats including my parents too
My mom thought I was having sex with girls, cause how could I know I like girls if I haven't had sex with them? So I just see a hot girl and say "damn I want to eat her out"? MY response was: Mom did you have to sex a guy before you knew you like guys? Do you see a hot guy and think, "well shit, I wanna suck him up"? No, you don't. I'm no different than you, I just have different taste in lovers.
Your mother is amazing! She reminds me of my friends mom who knew I was bi before I came out to her daughter. I will definitely keep time in mind. I think I'm trying to rush them to accept this even though it's almost. Year already. Thank you so much for posting this!
(cont) Because I know some people think bisexuals are just confused and I am bi, I wanted to let everyone know that I am not confused. I've had a long time to think about this. I had an inkling as a teenager (I'm now 32) and it grew stronger in my 20s. By my late 20s, I pretty much knew. For a while I thought I was a lesbian, but then I noticed I was still attracted to men as well. I'm okay with it now; just scared to tell my family.
I like that if one of you is talking, the other is not cutting across to first :-D when i am talking with my mother about important things, we are Speaking at the same time both :-D you really have a good and nice relationship with your mother... envious.. Please excuse my English i am not "english speaking"
I wish my mom could be like this. She thinks I'm confused. And she wants me to marry a guy have kids but thats not in my plans. I know she will never accept me. So thats why I'm moving out and moving in with my girlfriend..
@miladimedina i know.. im latina.. but think of it realistically.. like.. are ur parents capable of doing that.. have they ever taken such extreme measures when they are mad at you or something.. chances are that's not gonna be the case.. and if theres a relationship with them (even if its not the closest) and they love you.. they will support you.. i dont know you and i dont know ur parents but we were raised in similar societies so i get ur fears... but i think they'll come around
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About 3 months ago I realize I'm bisexual and I'm 16 years old and all my life I've had girlfriends and I don't know if I have to tell my mom now or take time and tell her like in a year or I don't know when should I tell her?
your mom is truly amazing.. my mom didnt take it hard but she thinks im just confused which is okay...but i know what i am and it will never change.. itll just take her time.. now its my dad im worried about..he has no clue.. and he is a man of few words i believe.. you know how it is with some dads.. very nerve wrecking..
You have a great relationship! Awesome!! I just came out to my mom hours ago and she went, "you should've said this years ago then you wouldn't have suffered alone as much." Still i shared this vid 'coz i can't imagine how she feels right now.. Thanks for the help!
it didn't take mom 2 years to get over it. But things are better now to were, if I wanted to do a vid like this, she would do it with me. We are have finally moved past the "mourning" stage. I think. And now she just wants me to be happy. Even though she doesn't agree with it, she wants me to be happy. And denying that part of me, isn't gonna do anything but separate us and strain the relationship. Love my mom!
My family will never accept my being a lesbian. How do I come out to my super-conservative, Christian family who says being gay is a choice and a sin? (My grandfather is a Reverend in our church.) My aunt came out as gay and my family said she shamed the family. I wish my family were like yours.
my dad handled it better than I thought... my mom broke down crying and kept saying "I wanted grandchildren"...(came out about a week ago) but overall it was a good thing and it will take time but everything is okay.My dad apologized to me for the things he's said about gay people as I was growing up. By myself coming out, he has changed his entire views on gay people & religion as he was very religious & well anti-gay. My mom, it's been harder and have yet to really talk to her in over a week.
I came out about being a lesbian to my mom right after watching this, and she was accepting right away!...I told my dad, and he's not speaking to me...
I had an awesome coming out experience with my mom .. I was online at a chat and my status says "bisexual and taken" .. my mom saw it and asked me if I was bisexual .. I said yes ..
@Catharina937 a few hours later my mom came to my room and said "well .. I just wanted to tell you something .. it doesn't make a difference that your bi to me, your still my daughter and I love you no matter what. and by the way .. I know what your going through .. I'm also bisexual." than she told me about her first relationship with a woman and I was like "awwww" :
@Catharina937 unfortunately I tried telling my mum about me being bi. I tried by telling her about my best friend who came out to me the same day I came out to her but my mum really didn't understand and then my mum goes to me you better not be bi. Actually I think she said to me you don't like girls as well, do you? So I don't think I'm going to tell my mum. I'm to scared...So can someone help me? I really don't know what to do and how to do it!!!!!!
I'm not gay (although I prefer bi) but I'm in a similar situation in a way because my family refuses to accept the fact that I date and want to spend my life with a man of a different race. They dont take it seriously and I went through shitloads of crap over the years and this shit is with me every day even though I"m fucking 29! Some people are lucky to have understanding families and others don't. I don't know. You guys are beautiful inside and out :)
I just came out and they through every single thing at me, to the point where I was in shock and wanted to die...it was pretty screwed up, they gave me the option of "get straight" or "leave" they never want to see me again if I "choose" to be gay, which its not a choice but whatever....any advice on how to deal with this thing? its breaking my heart
Hi, can I just say what an amazing vid, one of the best coming out, it's nice to say it from a parents perspective. But I'm 14 and I still haven't got the courage to tell anyone, I think my friend knows but I never told them or nothing, she asked me once before but i said no because i wasn't ready, do you have any advice? Thank you.
beautiful daughter. . . I still havent found the courage to open up to my parents. . .I ve been very depress since elementary since I knew who I was . . .Ive only been a very good actress :( hopefully I ll figure it out soon
It took my mom also 2 years to undestand the whole idea, and also she is so open, i agree that we should give them time to process the whole thing about us.
it wasn't easy for me to come out and say i am BI to my family my aunt was oh ok with it but my granny wasn't those but later on thoes she oh ok with it told me she love me no matter what and she always will
@CoacoaBean08 Hello, I hope things get better for you and for your mom. Try saying that you're still the same, and that the love that you both feel was not affected at all, cause the fact that you're bi won't change it. She'll understand. High hopes, xoxo (:
i just came out to my mom. im bi and she is definitely disappointed. i hope it gets better. she may never get over it though because shes religious and she believes that its a sin. meh. :/
@Mi6miro4eta I feel your pain. I thought mine changed after 9 years, but come to find she never did and said she 'pretended' to be OK with it all that time.
@Mi6miro4eta Some parents don't understand that SUPPORT is a big part of parenting. Be who you are and love yourself. Don't let other people's feeling affect you or get you down. Keep your head up!
Finding out her daughter is Gay in the context of suicide. I am straight against H8, i'm 25 yrs old, and I already know that any kid I may have is absolutely perfect the EXACT way they..ARE. They're not here 2 live the life I see them living, but to live their own. Thus, I did not watch this whole video because even though the message is a clearly a good one, I was put off from the very beginning from such a horrible way of describing how YOU felt wen ur daughter came out. How bout how SHE felt?
i dont know if is better to me to wait been with someone and talk to my family or maybe is better telling them the soom is possible... i don t know how can i do it.... to sit them and tell them like this? of nothing... i don t have my thoughts in order ... and i hope you and you mom can help me in my ignorance of teenager jeje
I literally came out a couple of hours ago and couldn't sleep after a less than enthusiastic reactio from my parents. I found this video on youtube and can I just say I really appreciate your story because it lets me know this stage can't last forever. All my gay friends have coming out stories like something out of a romantic comedy and I was thinking I would be doomed to estranged parents forever! It wasn't easy but I'm glad I did it and now I'm going to be patient with my folks. Thanks again.
i think the people that disliked this, are just people who tried to press "like" but missed, so we should make the "dislike" button tiny, and "like" button a lot bigger :)
michelle ur hott in this vid! i love this. my mother didnt need much at all because i didnt even have to tell her, she already kno & was supa cool wit it! =]
im a guy and i totally understand you,coming out to my parents was soo hard.see....we live in hollywood and my parents work in the entertainment industry and when i finally told them that i like women they were shoked!this happened a year ago and to this day my dad doesnt talk to me
My mom looked at me and said "do you really think I care, I love you no matter what you like, the only thing I have a problem with is if you dress up like a girl, or have a sex change" lmfao :P so I want to be a guy, not a girl so there are no problems, it is kind of awkward but I'm glad I did it.
well when I first came to my mom, she listened and it was nice. Then i lied and said i was just confused and put it off. Then I told her again I was really bi she was in denying and got angry at me. So time went on, she knows this is who i am or apart of me, but she still doesn't agree with it or beliefs its not a choice. Now I was raised christian but am not anymore but her excuse was that its not normal and God said its an abomination. How do I let her know Im still me?
@luvbites23 Well tell her she's dumb because it's not an abomination, if got makes everything, and everyone, why did he make me gay? plus, the bible doesn't say it's wrong to be gay, they say it's wrong for gay people to get married. - says my religion teachers and Chaplin. :)
@dallman6t9 you do have a point. if god did make people then god knows how we would turn out to be. I try to tell her that, she listens but I know she thinks different. Gay marriage is not gonna hurt anyone's life so people should just get TF over it!! So sick of immature people. Its 2010!!
Cheer's to you!..... my mom had a hard time when I first came out it took a couple years but then one day she looked at me and said I love you and i know realize what you do in your bedroom doesn't matter leave it too my mom to put it like that lol
i have never subscribed ever to anything but i did because you answered some of my questions that i have had since i was 5. I think it goes the same way for me as it did with you. i am mtf but i am in the closet as you say and i am afraid that if i come out my family will reject me and hate me. With that i don't want to disrupt my family and as of right now i am living a lie it feels. My family well lets just say there doing ok and i don't won't to put them through misery. i feel i need family.
I love the fist bump at 21:38 lol. & the little squeak... I love you guys' relationship and Michelle you really are beautiful. You and your mom look REALLY alike too. This was actually EXACTLY what I needed to hear. I have to give my family TIME.
My grandmother didn't have a good reaction and it will take time. We don't TALK about it but hopefully we will be able to talk about it one day as openly as Michelle and her mother are. I liek the analogy of the parents going BACK into the closet and putting one foot forward. The parents have to deal with their mourning issues an dI get that. I just hope my grandmother cares ENOUGH to change her views even SLIGHTY so that we can get along and talk about this issue. I love how they said "destiny"
Hey Michelle, this may be another Youtube message to you.
However, if I could, and I mean it sincerely, see you and your mother in person, I would look in her eyes and tell her that may God bless her heavenly soul.
Just this excellent move of coming on to the internet to share her feelings and give hope is touching enough for me.
Then, your mom taught me to be honest with my own feelings to obtain clarity.
Omg this video is probably the best video out there on YouTube right now for teengers struggling to come out of the closet.. It sure helped mee buches with talking to my mom about my sexuality.. Thanks soo much for this video xoxo - Jocelynn
Very well done. It's never a positive reaction, but I respect you for loving your daughter the way you do. The true meaning of love is to love unconditionally.
i know you posted this long time ago, but i am so proud of you, and sooooo very proud of your mom. your mom is so great. i love you both. you are a great role model for all glbt people, thanks for posting this
Respect for this video!! thanks for placing it! But what about an aggressive parent? my father was pretty aggressive in the past, i have aa pretty good relationship with him now, but i'm not sure how he's gonna react to my coming out. i'm so afraid he's gonna reject me!!!! and i can't think of him not being in my life!!
what about a aggressive parent? my father was pretty aggressive in the past, i have aa pretty good relationship wit him now, but i'm not sure how he's ganna react to my coming out. i'm so afraid he's gonna reject me!!!!
Well im not interested in the same sex but i found this video to be inspirational.Im not sure why society at one point in history just decided to be so judgemental about every little that an individual does. Im not going to lie and say i dont judge people but i hope that one day i can just stop being so critical and just breathe as people do.By the way your mom is the kind of person that i wish i had more of in my life.Shes open minded which is always a plus and she just seems to be so natural ツ
Hi. My name is Carla (carlabarbo1974), I am from Brazil but I live in Canada. I am taking courses in the University of Regina and I used a small part of your video in a project to my Gender course. I hope you don't mind...
Could sy write a subtitle to this video? I wanna show it my mom, but i can't translate it when i just hear.. it's too fast, i should read as well :) but hungarian subtitle would be the best :D
I love this. Thank u. I love hearing both perspectives on coming out. How it influences the person who is coming out and the families. My mom is supportive now. She had difficulties. I am proud of her like Michelle must be proud of her mom. A reaction to homosexuality is what it is. It is just a reaction, some are good and some are bad. But, I agree with the video, it takes so much time. We need to be patient, as the people who are coming out and our parents need to be patient. It is a process.
well im 16 and i want to tell my mom that im bysexual but she said that if she ever found out that i was by/gay she would kick me out of the house. she almost found out wonce and she said if i was she was going to make me go to therape. she told me she would disown me. so what shuld i do! my dad knows and he dont care so when i go to my dads im can be open about it then when i come home i have to be straght. so what shuld i do!
great video.. but im still not out to my parents some friends know parents are hardcore mexicans im scared afriad she might kick me out of her house...
Its really weird for me. Even though I've come out of the closet. My mother is very supportive of it, my dad just doesn't like to think of it. But I still feel I have to keep my relationships secret.. I'm still terrified to bring home a boyfriend.
Wow your mom is so open minded i like that and honest love the open conversational bond and i wish my parents could be like this there old schoolness is drving me nuts at the end of the day all i want is to be happy .Living a lie is not living at all.
Thanks for posting something so important your talk was just so helpfull
I'm 14 im gay.. I have a boyfriend for 7 months.. and im terrified of coming out, i was brought up in a catholic famiy there agenst it, /: me and him are coming out the same time. the last day of collage.
lol my mom said if i liked girls she was going to send me to a monestary, whats sad is she is totally serious she is completely against it she's very christian and set on a man and woman being the only way things should be
Hehe my mum always loved the gay community.... When I came out as transgendered.... OMG I saw a side of her I didn't think existed. Then when that went away, I started it up again by coming out as bi. But atleast that is over with.
i like how you included the god thing... im tired of people saying were of the devil and were denied of the kingdom...you made me think we wouldnt be here if it were not to be.
My to best friends have been together for years now. They juuust came out to their parents, and I am SO happy for them. They can finally act like a couple whenever they like. They hold hands, trade little kisses in public, and play around, things they never felt safe doing before.
I could not be more happy for my two favorite girls. Their happiness is mine as well, and I love those two so much. Can't wait for the wedding <33
i love your video on youtube and i havent come out but it help me wih how i can handle it and i dont know when i going to come out to everyone but thank you it help me
I have a terrible relationship with my mom x_x.... So, I need to think 10 times the chances of coming out to her.... so it will take me a lot more of time to do it /: I think
Thank you so much for this video, Im ready to come out to my parents now as bi, and it is very important to me to know how to handle it. so thanks for the advices about giving them time and being pacient. Great vid!
MissSaraAnna 15 hours ago
Mama's Mama Beav, you rock!
Lucailey 2 days ago
if only it was that simple
jCarlos000008 3 days ago
Thank you for this video. My mom died when I was ten, and making her proud of who I am is the most important thing in my world. I'm almost thirty and I know I'm gay, but have been unable admit it because she's the only person I really want to tell and I can't. It's eating me alive, and I think I'm ready, but it makes me sad. I'm afraid to become someone she doesn't know. You are a very lucky girl Michelle, and your mom is as well. I would give anything to be able to have that moment with my mom
peifergk 6 days ago
i can descride my bisexuality like my hair,
it was brown when i was born and it will always be brown,
DianaLovesTacos 1 week ago
I know I could make understand them that me feeling about girls are real...but it just would be so much easier if I would fall in love...Maybe like Bette used to say in TLW (was it Bette?!) "with some lesbians you have to break up more than once" I should say "to some parents U should speak more than once."
xoxoxo from switzerland
EllaBlueberry 2 weeks ago
Everything about this video is beautiful. Nuff said
MagicWineGlass 3 weeks ago
When i first discovered i was bisexual, i told my best friends to see their reaction. I was about 13 and a few of them are homophobic, so the lack of maturity added to that aswell. It was a negative reaction i got, so i told them i was joking. I'm now 15 and i must say, my friends have maturity beyond their years now. I told them that i really am bisexual about 2 months ago and they're completely fine with it now. It took some adjusting for them, but i'm just waiting to tell my parents now.
Anon1870 4 weeks ago
I agree with ya Mi6miro4eta. My parents was shocked and disappointed that I didnt tell them. Cause I didnt know how to reacted on it. It took my parents had to accepted that Im an lesbian. Im not worried what people say about me. They got to accept whom I am. If they cant do that, I dont need to be around them. Thats including my parents too
toribabb11 1 month ago
I feel so at peace watching this video. Love this video that you two have done together :)
MrJason300 1 month ago
My mom thought I was having sex with girls, cause how could I know I like girls if I haven't had sex with them? So I just see a hot girl and say "damn I want to eat her out"? MY response was: Mom did you have to sex a guy before you knew you like guys? Do you see a hot guy and think, "well shit, I wanna suck him up"? No, you don't. I'm no different than you, I just have different taste in lovers.
MandeeLeigh93 1 month ago 5
Your mother is amazing! She reminds me of my friends mom who knew I was bi before I came out to her daughter. I will definitely keep time in mind. I think I'm trying to rush them to accept this even though it's almost. Year already. Thank you so much for posting this!
RussianShortie 1 month ago
your very pretty. Someone is going to be very lucky. :)
ParanoidKronic 1 month ago
Wow I love your mom...Mine is still getting used to the idea and that is better than hate. Right? :)
MissDesireeJRene 1 month ago
(cont) Because I know some people think bisexuals are just confused and I am bi, I wanted to let everyone know that I am not confused. I've had a long time to think about this. I had an inkling as a teenager (I'm now 32) and it grew stronger in my 20s. By my late 20s, I pretty much knew. For a while I thought I was a lesbian, but then I noticed I was still attracted to men as well. I'm okay with it now; just scared to tell my family.
MsLilithJS 1 month ago
What a smart mother!!!
manuelestuardo89 1 month ago
I'm scared to come out to my parents, so nervous!!! =(
-Melissa (lesbianheart)
lesbianpowerforever 1 month ago
Your mother is an amazing woman. Many blessings to you and your family. =]
Lifediscussion 1 month ago
I like that if one of you is talking, the other is not cutting across to first :-D when i am talking with my mother about important things, we are Speaking at the same time both :-D you really have a good and nice relationship with your mother... envious.. Please excuse my English i am not "english speaking"
SarahJessicaDanielle 2 months ago
your too hot to be gay.
OMGxITzxEAxLazloo 2 months ago
Well if your mom is gonna look like your dad of course youre gonna be confused about your own gender, lol bad joke but funneh, :)
Checkingokop 2 months ago
this is really great. thank you for doing this together.
quamvis1 2 months ago 3
I wish my mom could be like this. She thinks I'm confused. And she wants me to marry a guy have kids but thats not in my plans. I know she will never accept me. So thats why I'm moving out and moving in with my girlfriend..
Lilstewie1313 3 months ago
:( alot of hispanic parents kick there kids out of there gay thats what im afriad of
miladimedina 3 months ago 2
@miladimedina i know.. im latina.. but think of it realistically.. like.. are ur parents capable of doing that.. have they ever taken such extreme measures when they are mad at you or something.. chances are that's not gonna be the case.. and if theres a relationship with them (even if its not the closest) and they love you.. they will support you.. i dont know you and i dont know ur parents but we were raised in similar societies so i get ur fears... but i think they'll come around
massie0107 2 months ago
Acceptance and understanding is great
KTevolved 3 months ago 3
I disagree. People get disowned by their parents all the time and their parents never get over it.
Derekinrealife 3 months ago
@Derekinrealife
>all the time
yeah if your mom or dad is a complete cunt
and not all parents are cunts
HREsama 3 months ago
Good Job on the Video this inspires me to tell me mom this weekend!
LezBHonest100 3 months ago 2
Probably the most sense anyone has ever made on the topic. I love this. thankyou for sharing
claireflego 3 months ago
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gayandpeace 3 months ago
About 3 months ago I realize I'm bisexual and I'm 16 years old and all my life I've had girlfriends and I don't know if I have to tell my mom now or take time and tell her like in a year or I don't know when should I tell her?
alexmso9 3 months ago
your mom is truly amazing.. my mom didnt take it hard but she thinks im just confused which is okay...but i know what i am and it will never change.. itll just take her time.. now its my dad im worried about..he has no clue.. and he is a man of few words i believe.. you know how it is with some dads.. very nerve wrecking..
letsgetcrunkyoo 3 months ago
I came out today by showing my mom this. You're my hero.
ThisBeEmily 4 months ago 5
This mom is awesome...! So is the daughter...! Wish i had that relationship with my mum...! shame that it's way too late...!
jennieprice 4 months ago
Can you talk to my mother, please! lol. You are an amazing mother. :-] This is very inspirational.
LoserJinxedAndJaded 4 months ago
Thank you so much, my parents are going to get this video soon...
chopinman10 4 months ago
<3
TheCassidysMusic 4 months ago
You have a great relationship! Awesome!! I just came out to my mom hours ago and she went, "you should've said this years ago then you wouldn't have suffered alone as much." Still i shared this vid 'coz i can't imagine how she feels right now.. Thanks for the help!
thiskrissroxx 4 months ago
I luv u :)
Ninjaxfrog 4 months ago
:D Luv It
angelica42 4 months ago
it didn't take mom 2 years to get over it. But things are better now to were, if I wanted to do a vid like this, she would do it with me. We are have finally moved past the "mourning" stage. I think. And now she just wants me to be happy. Even though she doesn't agree with it, she wants me to be happy. And denying that part of me, isn't gonna do anything but separate us and strain the relationship. Love my mom!
luvbites23 4 months ago
you like america ferrera
whitemal2010 5 months ago
In my eyes, being bi and "coming out" is a lot easier than being outright gay.
BlazedHearts 5 months ago
My family will never accept my being a lesbian. How do I come out to my super-conservative, Christian family who says being gay is a choice and a sin? (My grandfather is a Reverend in our church.) My aunt came out as gay and my family said she shamed the family. I wish my family were like yours.
kendoll17 5 months ago 2
I wish your mum was my mum :/
waitingforthefall1 7 months ago 16
my dad handled it better than I thought... my mom broke down crying and kept saying "I wanted grandchildren"...(came out about a week ago) but overall it was a good thing and it will take time but everything is okay.My dad apologized to me for the things he's said about gay people as I was growing up. By myself coming out, he has changed his entire views on gay people & religion as he was very religious & well anti-gay. My mom, it's been harder and have yet to really talk to her in over a week.
ERAUPRCWA 8 months ago 5
I came out about being a lesbian to my mom right after watching this, and she was accepting right away!...I told my dad, and he's not speaking to me...
Muffmuncherotaku 8 months ago 2
I had an awesome coming out experience with my mom .. I was online at a chat and my status says "bisexual and taken" .. my mom saw it and asked me if I was bisexual .. I said yes ..
Catharina937 8 months ago 5
@Catharina937 a few hours later my mom came to my room and said "well .. I just wanted to tell you something .. it doesn't make a difference that your bi to me, your still my daughter and I love you no matter what. and by the way .. I know what your going through .. I'm also bisexual." than she told me about her first relationship with a woman and I was like "awwww" :
Catharina937 8 months ago 47
@Catharina937 I am as well; I have not told anyone yet, I want to but I can't, help please? <3
MissGeorgieann 1 month ago
@Catharina937 unfortunately I tried telling my mum about me being bi. I tried by telling her about my best friend who came out to me the same day I came out to her but my mum really didn't understand and then my mum goes to me you better not be bi. Actually I think she said to me you don't like girls as well, do you? So I don't think I'm going to tell my mum. I'm to scared...So can someone help me? I really don't know what to do and how to do it!!!!!!
1991teamjacob 1 month ago
Your mom is amazing! My mom will never be like this:( but this video gives me hope:)
NellanLove 8 months ago 11
@emoisgay789 My parents are pastors. What I'm I suppose to do?
delinaa11 9 months ago 2
I'm not gay (although I prefer bi) but I'm in a similar situation in a way because my family refuses to accept the fact that I date and want to spend my life with a man of a different race. They dont take it seriously and I went through shitloads of crap over the years and this shit is with me every day even though I"m fucking 29! Some people are lucky to have understanding families and others don't. I don't know. You guys are beautiful inside and out :)
DaCatOnTop 9 months ago 3
"This is how you are born. This is not a choice. This. Is. Not. A. Choice."
jimmboslice77 9 months ago 22
I just came out and they through every single thing at me, to the point where I was in shock and wanted to die...it was pretty screwed up, they gave me the option of "get straight" or "leave" they never want to see me again if I "choose" to be gay, which its not a choice but whatever....any advice on how to deal with this thing? its breaking my heart
Johnsocialstuff 9 months ago 3
Hi, can I just say what an amazing vid, one of the best coming out, it's nice to say it from a parents perspective. But I'm 14 and I still haven't got the courage to tell anyone, I think my friend knows but I never told them or nothing, she asked me once before but i said no because i wasn't ready, do you have any advice? Thank you.
AELB094 9 months ago 4
My mom told me "If thats what you want then its fine with me if ur happy ill be happy" even tho she was dissapointed of me, she still loves me :)
jessmjfan989 9 months ago 6
What if your parens are fundamentalist pentecostal christians?
emoisgay789 9 months ago
beautiful daughter. . . I still havent found the courage to open up to my parents. . .I ve been very depress since elementary since I knew who I was . . .Ive only been a very good actress :( hopefully I ll figure it out soon
chick7391 10 months ago 2
It took my mom also 2 years to undestand the whole idea, and also she is so open, i agree that we should give them time to process the whole thing about us.
cardigan234 10 months ago 5
it wasn't easy for me to come out and say i am BI to my family my aunt was oh ok with it but my granny wasn't those but later on thoes she oh ok with it told me she love me no matter what and she always will
frandrescherfanpage 10 months ago 3
i wish i watch this video when i come out and told my family that i was BI
frandrescherfanpage 10 months ago 2
My mom was perfectly fine with it.
She said "I always kind of knew, i love you just the way you are sweetie"
:P But i knew she was a bit dissapointed though.
OhMyLuluz 10 months ago
@CoacoaBean08 Hello, I hope things get better for you and for your mom. Try saying that you're still the same, and that the love that you both feel was not affected at all, cause the fact that you're bi won't change it. She'll understand. High hopes, xoxo (:
RafaellaRPL 10 months ago
wow you have such a great mom :)
lilbabyElizabeth 11 months ago
i just came out to my mom. im bi and she is definitely disappointed. i hope it gets better. she may never get over it though because shes religious and she believes that its a sin. meh. :/
CoacoaBean08 11 months ago
Your mom is great !
My mother will never understand me..
Mi6miro4eta 11 months ago 232
@Mi6miro4eta I feel your pain. I thought mine changed after 9 years, but come to find she never did and said she 'pretended' to be OK with it all that time.
mzzzhedison 7 months ago
@Mi6miro4eta Some parents don't understand that SUPPORT is a big part of parenting. Be who you are and love yourself. Don't let other people's feeling affect you or get you down. Keep your head up!
holls85 2 months ago
Meeh. Her mum is so understanding <3
Glittergirlz4eva1 11 months ago 3
You are a great mother.
NYerintransit 11 months ago
Finding out her daughter is Gay in the context of suicide. I am straight against H8, i'm 25 yrs old, and I already know that any kid I may have is absolutely perfect the EXACT way they..ARE. They're not here 2 live the life I see them living, but to live their own. Thus, I did not watch this whole video because even though the message is a clearly a good one, I was put off from the very beginning from such a horrible way of describing how YOU felt wen ur daughter came out. How bout how SHE felt?
GlitzNGlam24 11 months ago
Sexy
MsSneakerlover 1 year ago
Your mom looks soooo much like mine...I dunno if I can ever tell my mom. :[
RoamingD 1 year ago
i dont know if is better to me to wait been with someone and talk to my family or maybe is better telling them the soom is possible... i don t know how can i do it.... to sit them and tell them like this? of nothing... i don t have my thoughts in order ... and i hope you and you mom can help me in my ignorance of teenager jeje
PD: u re very beautifull
CletoMicaela1 1 year ago
wow. you are really really pretty O_O like holy crap...
Jadegoth27 1 year ago 6
I literally came out a couple of hours ago and couldn't sleep after a less than enthusiastic reactio from my parents. I found this video on youtube and can I just say I really appreciate your story because it lets me know this stage can't last forever. All my gay friends have coming out stories like something out of a romantic comedy and I was thinking I would be doomed to estranged parents forever! It wasn't easy but I'm glad I did it and now I'm going to be patient with my folks. Thanks again.
chickkspartan 1 year ago 5
@chickkspartan Hang in there! It'll get better!
ppmusic06 11 months ago
This video almost made me cry. Thank you sooo much for posting this, This video will help me come out. Thank you.
elmerfuddsglue 1 year ago 5
i think the people that disliked this, are just people who tried to press "like" but missed, so we should make the "dislike" button tiny, and "like" button a lot bigger :)
FreakyTeen94 1 year ago 4
very weird that 'parents' have the big picture in mind for their children.
LaBellaa1984 1 year ago
sweetest mom on the planet.
ateicher 1 year ago 3
NIce vid. :)
FreeFavl 1 year ago
"Yayy... You won a gay daughter!"
MazzamRulz 1 year ago 5
you both are very attractive
iSawZezima 1 year ago
make that Ten kilos!!
MrOribear 1 year ago
My mom blamed herself too. She thought because she was so strong and involved that it somehow made me a certain way. It's not the case at all.
OhhhhCanada 1 year ago 5
I hope my mom comes around like yours did, i feel so rejected.....this is a great video
rioko3wolf5girl7 1 year ago 5
the daughter is gorgeous
hornswoggle89 1 year ago 233
@hornswoggle89 wow thats your daughter
kingplanter09 1 year ago
@hornswoggle89 so is the mom.
Xiabuse 4 months ago
@hornswoggle89 I freakin' love your user name! HORNSWAGGLE! Did, you get that from FRIENDS? i freking love that show.
holycrap2275 3 months ago
wow, the mum so doesn't get it. at least she's putting her own "big picture" aside though.
osirinubis 1 year ago
damn i wish she was straight!
mrnoplay 1 year ago
*listens to first minute*
Nice mom. :)
banana047 1 year ago
Im a stuggling mother how did your mom educa her self?
BlaqueRain7228 1 year ago 8
THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU!
dumbesthmong 1 year ago 9
michelle ur hott in this vid! i love this. my mother didnt need much at all because i didnt even have to tell her, she already kno & was supa cool wit it! =]
thanks for posting this!
V33queen 1 year ago
im a guy and i totally understand you,coming out to my parents was soo hard.see....we live in hollywood and my parents work in the entertainment industry and when i finally told them that i like women they were shoked!this happened a year ago and to this day my dad doesnt talk to me
geiuy 1 year ago
How Would You Explain Your Gay To Your Mother That Is A MINISTER????
hawiian89princess 1 year ago
My mom looked at me and said "do you really think I care, I love you no matter what you like, the only thing I have a problem with is if you dress up like a girl, or have a sex change" lmfao :P so I want to be a guy, not a girl so there are no problems, it is kind of awkward but I'm glad I did it.
dallman6t9 1 year ago 3
what a sweet video. beautiful
wbdoak 1 year ago
i'm 13 and i tried telling my mom i was bi-sexual but she thought it was a phase. she was wrong.
idbeaimie 1 year ago
@idbeaimie im 14 and im just coming out to myself and my friends that im bi, but i dont know if i should tell my mum, what do you think??
cheekyloas 1 year ago
well when I first came to my mom, she listened and it was nice. Then i lied and said i was just confused and put it off. Then I told her again I was really bi she was in denying and got angry at me. So time went on, she knows this is who i am or apart of me, but she still doesn't agree with it or beliefs its not a choice. Now I was raised christian but am not anymore but her excuse was that its not normal and God said its an abomination. How do I let her know Im still me?
luvbites23 1 year ago
@luvbites23 Well tell her she's dumb because it's not an abomination, if got makes everything, and everyone, why did he make me gay? plus, the bible doesn't say it's wrong to be gay, they say it's wrong for gay people to get married. - says my religion teachers and Chaplin. :)
dallman6t9 1 year ago
@dallman6t9 you do have a point. if god did make people then god knows how we would turn out to be. I try to tell her that, she listens but I know she thinks different. Gay marriage is not gonna hurt anyone's life so people should just get TF over it!! So sick of immature people. Its 2010!!
luvbites23 1 year ago 4
This is beautiful
dancesonpoles 1 year ago 6
cool
UnratedScience 1 year ago
Cheer's to you!..... my mom had a hard time when I first came out it took a couple years but then one day she looked at me and said I love you and i know realize what you do in your bedroom doesn't matter leave it too my mom to put it like that lol
spacechick30 1 year ago
I love this.
ClaireMGal 1 year ago 3
This video is toooo cute . ha i don't care if its king kong.. absolutely beautiful. Best "coming out " video on youtube =]
DatStudCeeJay 1 year ago
im not gay, but if any of my gay friends need role models or just plain old good advice, i'll tell them to ask beaverbunch
DestinyQx 1 year ago 4
i have never subscribed ever to anything but i did because you answered some of my questions that i have had since i was 5. I think it goes the same way for me as it did with you. i am mtf but i am in the closet as you say and i am afraid that if i come out my family will reject me and hate me. With that i don't want to disrupt my family and as of right now i am living a lie it feels. My family well lets just say there doing ok and i don't won't to put them through misery. i feel i need family.
cat089967 1 year ago 3
@cat089967 totally understand what you are saying...
csarlow 1 year ago
i liked the ten fingers, ten toes metaphor but then i started thinking what would happen if she lost a finger! >.<
TheAnonymousOnline 1 year ago 3
I love the fist bump at 21:38 lol. & the little squeak... I love you guys' relationship and Michelle you really are beautiful. You and your mom look REALLY alike too. This was actually EXACTLY what I needed to hear. I have to give my family TIME.
LadyGM720 1 year ago 2
My grandmother didn't have a good reaction and it will take time. We don't TALK about it but hopefully we will be able to talk about it one day as openly as Michelle and her mother are. I liek the analogy of the parents going BACK into the closet and putting one foot forward. The parents have to deal with their mourning issues an dI get that. I just hope my grandmother cares ENOUGH to change her views even SLIGHTY so that we can get along and talk about this issue. I love how they said "destiny"
LadyGM720 1 year ago
This video has made me cry for joy. At the middle of this video i had a tear that my stress is healing. Out of all the videos this helped me alot.
Ps: i will ask questions and thank you so much for giving me the courage that i didn't have, cuz truthfully i don't have guts to do it.
Lemons4Lydia 1 year ago
Hey Michelle, this may be another Youtube message to you.
However, if I could, and I mean it sincerely, see you and your mother in person, I would look in her eyes and tell her that may God bless her heavenly soul.
Just this excellent move of coming on to the internet to share her feelings and give hope is touching enough for me.
Then, your mom taught me to be honest with my own feelings to obtain clarity.
Thank you Michelle, and Thanks Mom~~!!
WE HAVE HOPE!!!
BLESS YOU!!!
Creevie 1 year ago
Omg this video is probably the best video out there on YouTube right now for teengers struggling to come out of the closet.. It sure helped mee buches with talking to my mom about my sexuality.. Thanks soo much for this video xoxo - Jocelynn
cheerxdance1128 1 year ago
Very well done. It's never a positive reaction, but I respect you for loving your daughter the way you do. The true meaning of love is to love unconditionally.
sweetnovember73 1 year ago
Im so going to use that "God doesn't make mistakes and he made me this way" lol
KrystalBrook123 1 year ago
i know you posted this long time ago, but i am so proud of you, and sooooo very proud of your mom. your mom is so great. i love you both. you are a great role model for all glbt people, thanks for posting this
daviemx51234 1 year ago
Respect for this video!! thanks for placing it! But what about an aggressive parent? my father was pretty aggressive in the past, i have aa pretty good relationship with him now, but i'm not sure how he's gonna react to my coming out. i'm so afraid he's gonna reject me!!!! and i can't think of him not being in my life!!
Ilsehorsman 1 year ago
what about a aggressive parent? my father was pretty aggressive in the past, i have aa pretty good relationship wit him now, but i'm not sure how he's ganna react to my coming out. i'm so afraid he's gonna reject me!!!!
Ilsehorsman 1 year ago
what if u tell your parents and they kick you out? it happend to my ex girlfriend
limabean8969 1 year ago
You're So Pretty Michelle!!!!!!!!!!
jennalovelove 1 year ago
Great video,
I never really thought about how my parents would look at it,
nor how they'd feel,
I only really thought about how I'd feel when they would react very bad,
and I'm glad your mother turned out to handle it very well after the time she needed, gives me hope (:
Scoochiexd 1 year ago
Great video,
I never really thought about how my parents would look at it,
nor how they'd feel,
I only really thought about how I'd feel when they would react very bad,
and I'm glad your mother turned out to handle it very well after the time she needed,
gives me hope (:
Scoochiexd 1 year ago
Well im not interested in the same sex but i found this video to be inspirational.Im not sure why society at one point in history just decided to be so judgemental about every little that an individual does. Im not going to lie and say i dont judge people but i hope that one day i can just stop being so critical and just breathe as people do.By the way your mom is the kind of person that i wish i had more of in my life.Shes open minded which is always a plus and she just seems to be so natural ツ
SQUEEKYCLEANCOLLEEN 1 year ago
best video ever! you are awesome! cheers from argentina!! :D
strangerangy 1 year ago
"oh hell no im innocent" lmao i love your mother!
mrandmsglove 1 year ago
this is veryyyy helpful....this is pushing me one step closer to finally coming out of the closet to everyone.
goodgirlgonebad156 1 year ago
Hi. My name is Carla (carlabarbo1974), I am from Brazil but I live in Canada. I am taking courses in the University of Regina and I used a small part of your video in a project to my Gender course. I hope you don't mind...
Thanks for share this video. You guys are great.
Regards.
carlabarbo1974 1 year ago
Awsome video and very helpfull!
Brettyhoe1289 1 year ago
Nice you did this with your mom, as it really helps to see the parents side of this process. It helped me a lot to prepare myself to come out.
THX a lot. Both of you :D
pilotMP 1 year ago
Could sy write a subtitle to this video? I wanna show it my mom, but i can't translate it when i just hear.. it's too fast, i should read as well :) but hungarian subtitle would be the best :D
Szilvi88 1 year ago
awesome mom! :)
SuperGraham8D 1 year ago
your mom has good answers
sugarcakezz 1 year ago
wow, your mom is a very smart woman. she needs to talk to MY mother. lol. this is a great video and I'm so glad you both shared this!!!
MissMeu 1 year ago 2
mazel tov!
your moms so awsome!<3
chinkstah9683 1 year ago
Wow. I love the way her mom looks at Michelle. She truly loves her, awwwww.lol
Mymoonlightray 1 year ago
I love this. Thank u. I love hearing both perspectives on coming out. How it influences the person who is coming out and the families. My mom is supportive now. She had difficulties. I am proud of her like Michelle must be proud of her mom. A reaction to homosexuality is what it is. It is just a reaction, some are good and some are bad. But, I agree with the video, it takes so much time. We need to be patient, as the people who are coming out and our parents need to be patient. It is a process.
Mymoonlightray 1 year ago
well im 16 and i want to tell my mom that im bysexual but she said that if she ever found out that i was by/gay she would kick me out of the house. she almost found out wonce and she said if i was she was going to make me go to therape. she told me she would disown me. so what shuld i do! my dad knows and he dont care so when i go to my dads im can be open about it then when i come home i have to be straght. so what shuld i do!
DGJD9365 1 year ago
great video.. but im still not out to my parents some friends know parents are hardcore mexicans im scared afriad she might kick me out of her house...
claudia1515 1 year ago
damn you mom can talk lol. she makes lots of sense though, ur lucky to have her. i hope my parent come to be so understanding when i come out
shortykendra 1 year ago 5
Actually, some parents (usually conservatards) disown their children, it happened to my friend :(
emoisgay789 1 year ago
Its really weird for me. Even though I've come out of the closet. My mother is very supportive of it, my dad just doesn't like to think of it. But I still feel I have to keep my relationships secret.. I'm still terrified to bring home a boyfriend.
pkmnbrawler 1 year ago
Wow your mom is so open minded i like that and honest love the open conversational bond and i wish my parents could be like this there old schoolness is drving me nuts at the end of the day all i want is to be happy .Living a lie is not living at all.
Thanks for posting something so important your talk was just so helpfull
cj06feb 1 year ago
This helped me so much. :)
MikeROBLOX 1 year ago
You're mom is really awesome, but I'd be scared as hell to come out to her. She's very... bold.
Fantastic video.
oywidapoodles 1 year ago
you look like sandra bullock lol
yellowest7 1 year ago
I'm 14 im gay.. I have a boyfriend for 7 months.. and im terrified of coming out, i was brought up in a catholic famiy there agenst it, /: me and him are coming out the same time. the last day of collage.
Merboy123556 1 year ago
Hey, I was wondering what to do with a parent in denial. I've come out to my father 3 times n he still doesn't believe me.
Kels66 1 year ago
Awesome! Very interessting
Livestrong2911 1 year ago
your mom rock !
being gay not a big deal at all in my Buddhism country
not necessary to come out or anything
what !...attention to me please...my parent !!!
awkward50 1 year ago
How much do you want to bet that the 27 people who disliked this are the disgruntled people who were born without 10 fingers and 10 toes?
dramaticafantastica 1 year ago 177
@dramaticafantastica lmao!
micheleabutler 1 year ago
@dramaticafantastica LOLOL funny as hell
spashley10210 1 year ago
lol my mom said if i liked girls she was going to send me to a monestary, whats sad is she is totally serious she is completely against it she's very christian and set on a man and woman being the only way things should be
aquamarine17baby 1 year ago
Hehe my mum always loved the gay community.... When I came out as transgendered.... OMG I saw a side of her I didn't think existed. Then when that went away, I started it up again by coming out as bi. But atleast that is over with.
TheScarletLust 1 year ago
Aww, this is how moms should be.
It's perfecty acceptable for them to freak out a bit.
But in the end, they'll love you more than anything, no matter what.
:-)
(I'm straight, but my friend who came out to her mother got into the NASTIEST fight with her parents, and it was heartbreaking to witness.)
InsaneSouthAsian 1 year ago
your mom is brave to do this video...this is such a cool idea to have u and ur mom talking about u coming out. love love love this video ^^
greendayaremyheros 1 year ago 2
i like how you included the god thing... im tired of people saying were of the devil and were denied of the kingdom...you made me think we wouldnt be here if it were not to be.
txprodigy95 1 year ago
"yeah, i beat the shit out of her " lol
Zencba 1 year ago
i love it so much, the way your mom answers the questions, it makes me feel so much better about myself.
stfujoanna 1 year ago
My to best friends have been together for years now. They juuust came out to their parents, and I am SO happy for them. They can finally act like a couple whenever they like. They hold hands, trade little kisses in public, and play around, things they never felt safe doing before.
I could not be more happy for my two favorite girls. Their happiness is mine as well, and I love those two so much. Can't wait for the wedding <33
PaganSound 1 year ago
i love your video on youtube and i havent come out but it help me wih how i can handle it and i dont know when i going to come out to everyone but thank you it help me
janecool69 1 year ago
Wow this is so ahh-mazing!!!!
thanks so much :)
toashy08 1 year ago
I was my mom would except me for who i am
yuki12paul 1 year ago
I have a terrible relationship with my mom x_x.... So, I need to think 10 times the chances of coming out to her.... so it will take me a lot more of time to do it /: I think
usagi0724 1 year ago
my mom says the same thing.. ( WHAT DID I DO WRONG ) and starts crying, i told her recently tho
DeJaiFtM 1 year ago