The Asexuality Chronicles - All Women Are Not Demisexual & Coming Out Can Be Funny

[yarindel]

don't worry. looking at you makes me asexual.

[biologistblackbelt]

@yarindel So...we can indeed recruit. VICTORY SHALL YET BE MINE.

[piemontkirsche]

you are so funny when you get angry :)

[GJCoyne]

"and who respected my boundaries"... I think this is key. Our sexualities are diverse, but with boundaries respected relationship stuff works :)

[RainbowTrsProduction]

Oh gosh, how can people think all women are demisexual? Most women seem to have crushes on guys in bands for example. I've never experienced primary attraction- Not on people I know nor on celebrities. However I have experienced secondary attraction. I think what you said about demisexuality is very true. It's confusing for me though, because I know that from time to time I do experience sexual attraction to whom I've made a bond with. But still for most of the time I don't feel it at all.

[ElectricError]

The reason I associate more closely to romantic asexuals than sexuals is because, for one I thought I was until I first made that connection. Sex always seemed weird, and alien. I didn't understand what was drawing people to have sex and to want sex. I did want a relationship, though. So, I felt pressure that I could never find that closeness I desired, because I couldn't want sex. In fact, I feel lucky that I found someone willing to accept someone who he thought was asexual. (3)

[ElectricError]

I started to feel like I couldn't be physically close enough to him. I did not understand the feeling. Long story short, the sexual attraction came only as a response to the connection and the relationship we developed, and not in response to a disconnected physical reaction.

I still don't have sexual attraction to anyone other than him. People tend to think that I'm lying to sound virtuous, but it's true. (2)

[ElectricError]

I'm demisexual. I thought I would share my experience. I never had crushes, and I never wanted sex all through my teens. I didn't think about it at all, honestly. I didn't know it was weird until my first bf at 14 left me after a year because we weren't having sex. It hurt.

I thought I was asexual after first hearing the term. I feel arousal during ovulation, but never in response to a person.

My current bf and I started as just friends. I still thought I was ace, until we becamse closer (1)