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  • Spot on.

  • i fancy his panda shirt,but white one, haha,so cute,both.

  • Yeah, this is definitely one of those things I've thought about and am scared of with coming out haha. Even my older sister has said she wants a GBF to "go dancing with". Really. I'm gay and I am not really big on dancing and clubbing. Haha.

  • agree zilions times

  • You are sooo on spot there. I have the same issue. Being gay only means that you are attracted to the same sex. It doesn't mean that you loose testosterone. You are just as much "male" if not more male then her boyfriend or any other man at that. A lot of us gays still love doing very manly things like lifting weights, and sports, and being a cowboy (lol). I also hate it when these hags think that we are into them sexually just because they let us know them. Sometimes I think they are the worst

  • Oh spare me! Here we go again... What a self centered person you are showing yourself to be.

  • I've also had it where I told a girl friend I was queer, and then they expected me to act a certain way around them after that; they expected me to be feminine etc. which I'm not.

  • my sister did that to me...we were in a Victoria's secret and she asked me if i was uncomfortable in the store. No bitch im gay not vaginaphobic. And don't ask whats the difference because there is.

  • Hmm. Personally I think it's a bit of a non-issue. I have far bigger issues with the guys who suddenly switch personalities when they come out and start acting like the stereotypical queen. I think it's oppressive. Actually, no, I know it's oppressive.

  • gotta have the panda shirt to take on the new year!.....at the end of the year! Hey, I just found your channel ok? BTW I love your videos! :)

  • Im a person of color so i know how it must feel despite the situation been that your gay still alot of similarites just that in my case been a person of color in Sweden there is less expectation of me just cause im not the typical white blond Swed.

  • Yeah it is weird. I've been very close friends with a girl from my school for the past year (to the point that rumours were spread about us being a couple or at least liking each other) but after I came out I instantly became her "GBF"? Luckily she knows that I view it as a big joke and she knows not to ask me to help her with her make-up or shit.

  • so, RESPECT

  • Hmm never have that problem. At least on my side. I suppose it depends on the cultural background too. One of my friend told me she never had a gay friend before when I came out to her. And after that, nothing much has changed, except that she knows that I'm gay.

  • BTW, great channel, mate!

  • I personally think it is a little weird how women automatically open up to gay guys, and how they treat us different. However without women being so supportive of us gays we would make much less progress, even if their view on gays is very stereotypical. I welcome any support from straight women / men to the gay community even if their view of us is skewed.

  • i think these women need to get slapped as much as i want to write a page on this im not im lazy and well your 100% right yet again :)

  • I really think it depends on the personality of the gay guy. Some straight girls like to hang out with guys instead of shop with the girls, and I think that (obviously) the same applies with gay guys. More effeminate men (not particularly gay ones, but just more feminine) tend to enjoy being a shop-buddy or a stylist, taking on the role as the typical "GBF." Again, it really depends on the personality, and has nothing to do with sexuality. I see where you're coming from though, very good video!

  • Frankly. You won't like it all of the time - but sometimes it's so surreal it's kinda fun... Granted, I like 'ladies' time' (I also like men's time...).

    Even if it's closed minded in a sense, at least it's not mean. I'd rather be near a faghag than a total douche-canoe.

    If I had gotten called out like she did, I would hate it... But only one of my lady-friends is like that (Ironically, she's a lesbian --- so I don't know how she isn't sensitive to it...). She's a pill. :/

    Keep up the vids

  • @calicurajim Ewww, a teacher?? She definitely crossed some boundaries there!

  • one of my friends thinks that just because he is gay it is ok to greet me by saying hey lesbo. wtf man greet me by my name not my sexuality. its just makes me feel uncomfortable because he say this in front of everyone, and yh i am out and everything but everyone doesn't need to know that i am gay. its just so sily.

  • @alexandraleckie Yeah, that's obnoxious. You should pull him aside and tell him you feel awkward when he does that.

  • ugh! Annoying man, sooo annoying. Usually, it's: oh, come on, look! (insert lewd picture of some guy) Don't you think my BF/Husband/Lover is sooo hot?

    Yuck. Or, describing their feminine 'parts' like I have those same parts, too!

    Umm, I don't, k? Still, I love my Straight female friends...they just need to chillout a bit, is all.

  • cool panda shirt ;3

  • I fucking detest the fag hags who are like "Oh My God I want a gay BFF so I can go shopping with and sing songs and watch The Sound of Music with", but then use words like "fag" and "faggot" indiscriminately, refer negatively to gay people at times and think they're allowed to do it because they have a gay friend. We're not a fucking prop.

  • I agree with you completely. LOL that was so funny. Thanks for making me laugh.

  • YES. I completely agree with you! I am so glad I found this video. I just had lunch with three girls, and I feel so uncomfortable around them sometimes because I don't like being treated like just "one of the girls" (like you mentioned in the other video). I think I'm going to try to make more lesbian friends... straight girls are cool, but they just make me feel emasculated. I hope you let us know how you eventually resolve this issue in your life if you do!

  • I like it, haven't found it annoying as of yet.

  • i love the panda shirt :)

  • @beckymarie1000 Thanks!

  • @KindaGayBlog its ok :) cool video too (Y)

  • You're SO right. I've had all kinds of communication problems with my great female friend because she thinks gay men are basically women....but with a penis. I had to tell her, "NO. I'm still A MAN." That means we still have that Mars/Venus communication problem that straight men and women do. We will always have some very fundamental differences simply because I am a MAN....not a woman, but with a penis! NOT.

  • @lcowles Great way of putting it! It's unfortunate, but I guess it's something we'll always have to deal with.

  • I tell a lot more details in my video "It Get's Better; My True Coming Out Story At 15 (Dark)" about just a few of the extraordinarily bad events that happened in my coming out; and all of these things could have been avoided if I had been more careful about who I told, and wasn't such a naive 15 year old. Masculine gay dudes have a lot of potential "could blow up" situations if they are around unaccepting people. A lot of the time it's easier just to not say it. I have had bad luck with it.

  • Thanks bro I appreciate it. Look I know that it might sound weird or closeted but the honest truth is that for people that aren't "obvious" I find that it's best for them to be able to choose THEMSELVES who they get to come out to. From personal experience I can tell you that from telling the wrong people has created some TERRIBLE situations; and those of us that are masculine really need to be careful. Not everybody needs to be up in our business and our sexual thoughts. Being outed isn't cool.

  • @ANIMALcop0403 Haha thank you!

  • To girls; a lot of gay guys don't like to be "outed" as described in this video; especially gay guys that aren't obvious. Trust me; it's not as funny as you think. It's rude. What the heck is up with girls wanting to fawn on gay guys anyway? I get that it's great not to feel threatened and all; but yikes! I was at a server at a place briefly and these girls I barely ever talked to were all nuts about me. I've been "outed" to the wrong people and it's created bad situations, and stalkers. BAD.

  • @SillyGayBoy Had to "thumbs up" your comment. More hyperactive gay-friendly women need to read this comment. :-P It's not that I don't appreciate their acceptance and kindness. It's just that sometimes they go way overboard! And it can just feel awkward.

  • Amen, i completely agree!! I have a penis and im proud of it, so i dont like to be treated like one of the girls...dont call me "girlfirend" and dont think cuz i am gay, i dont like being and feeling like a normal guy...so sometimes you just have to put ur foot down and remind them you know.

  • cute shirt

  • THANK YOU! Finally.

    It's coming to a point to where I want to slap every girl that's like "oh my god, your gay?! We should totally be BFFs!"

  • You are great. And this is so true. i love you lol

  • @Medicalphiliac Yay, thanks for showing some love! :-)

  • Panda shirt rocks!

  • Lovin the panda

    And yes, some women think we're glorified pets who can go to the bathroom all on their own. We're not handicapped, we're not lost puppies, and we're not accessories to making you feel better. We have our own lives. Being gay is just a part of who we are, it isn't the whole thing.

    BTW you're officially my favorite subscription ;)

  • Lovin the panda

    And yes, some women think we're glorified pets who can go to the bathroom all on their own. We're not handicapped, we're not lost puppies, and we're not accessories to making you feel better. We have our own lives. Being gay is just a part of who we are, it isn't the whole thing.

  • I get annoyed by that too.

    And that shirt is awesome. I'm jealous. ;-)

  • Definitely love this! 'not your gay friend, I'm your friend who's gay!'

  • Thanks for the kind words and teh Panda shirt rocks :O)

  • the thing i hate a bit like you said about talking about penises and periods(haha). they think it unlocks a door so they think they can talk about girls stuff and they make stupid comments like 'that boy is fit isn't he' it is a bit embarrassing because if you never talk about it before they knew what makes them think you do after they know. being gay doesn't change your personality unless you try to change it to fit there image of gay which is usually very feminine.

  • "OMG now I have a shopping buddy!"

    Yeah.

    I think that says it all.

  • FANTASTIC TOPIC!

    There are no words to describe how much I love you for saying that xD

    I can TOTALLY relate. After I told my best friend (childhood friend, known her forever) she completely treats me different now and at first I didn't mind because it was nice to be accepted. But then it got annoying and I really wish she would stop because she basically outs me in public all the time. And she'll say awkward things to her bf when I'm around.

    I wish she would listen to me and stop doing that...

  • I once had a boss who always said she wanted to have a "Jack" - i.e. she wanted to be like Karen on Will and Grace, and wanted a flambouyant little sidekick. I found that very offensive because she's super religious and against same sex marriage, so it was immediately apparent that she didn't want a gay friend - she wanted something more like a pet or court jester. Needless to say, I never had a very close relationship with her because I didn't need to be objectified like that.

  • @Jimplicit "Sidekick" - perfect word to describe it. It's hard to have a close relationship with anyone like that because they're not even treating you like a person, more like a gay toy!

  • Wow, I remember when I came out to one of my female friends (I only one male friend, lawl) and they started treating me so differently but I only think it's because we used to always get told we were the perfect couple by people and stuff. I yet to have any of my friends to tell me about their personally life, thought they do tell me which guys they think are fit, though that's about it.

  • Nice T-Shirt!

    Depfox is awesome channel, I'm following them about more then half of year now and watching every single video they upload.

    I was in the same situation x)

    My classmate (and she is my friend) said something like "Oh, I know you would prefer doll to ball", etc. It was very annoying.

    But we fixed it with conversation about stereotypes about being gay)

  • @hollisterrNL Thanks! I got it at Urban Outfitters but part of the proceeds go to the WWF, so that was nice.

  • oh dear lol, I'm gonna be steering well clear of people like that when I'm out. I would find that so offensive and insulting.

  • @Fr4yTheStrings They can be annoying, but sometimes they just don't know any better. If you ever do encounter it, just be like, "Um, I don't know what shoes go with that dress, and I don't care hearing about your sex life." :-)

  • @KindaGayBlog I think it's gonna be a hard choice between setting them straight there and then or messing with them haha

  • it's a very tough call. For the most part, i believe these women have the best of intentions, but the media has misconstrued this idea completely. I would say one of the major contributing factors of this epidemic.. if i may call it such.. is when someone meets one lgbt identifying person, they feel as though they know/ have meet everyone. i have a couple of friends who refer to me as their " bgbf" - "black-gay-boyfriend".. and i like/loath it for these very reasons.

  • @konradkayden09 Exactly. They see the gay fashion designers and other stereotypes on TV, and they automatically treat every gay person like one of them. It's like assuming every straight gay is obsessed with beer and sports!

  • The only problem I really had with this after I came out is that I have a friend that's ALWAYS asking me about me and my boyfriend in ways she ought not be asking. I just tell her to mind her own business (In a nice way!) Everyone else just wants to go shopping with me now lol. So pretty good so far I'd say ^^

  • @codeythesilent I wish I could enjoy shopping, but I wear the same 5 t-shirts over and over again. My new panda shirt is my 6th. :-) I hate trying on clothes. It's exhausting!

  • @KindaGayBlog

    Lol I don't bother trying on the clothing while I'm shopping, I just know what size I wear so I don't have to go through the hassle xD

  • Haha, Yeah I imagine that would get annoying. I cant think of any women that will be like that with me when I come out so maybe I should consider myself lucky on that one.

  • @shadetree84 Yes, you're very fortunate. I'm also lucky because none of my close female friends call me this. They know better!

  • Haha very insightful. I do love my girlfriends, and the only times I feel objectified are when my company with them is somehow linked to their being single. I can think of several more concrete reasons.............

    Great video! :)

  • @ItsaJohnni Haha, maybe guys don't approach your girlfriends because they think you're their boyfriend! How dare you stand in the way of true love! :-P Thanks for watching.

  • I dont know the answer to ur question cus Ive never had a faghag. BTW I came out to my bro during christmas! and they dont care! And I also came out to my girl cousins. Her best friend is gay too but she doesnt like treat me like somekind of toy like u described. OMG My bros and girl cousins had an argument about gays and gay rights with my parents. My mum was like "gays are psycholically ill" and my bros were like "but they were born that way" and i was just silent in the middle...sayin nothin

  • @sadguyfoundout1 That's awesome you came out! I'm so happy for you! Sorry your mom said that though. She'll come around. In the meantime, what's important is that you have the love and support of people who are close to you. :-) I'm very proud of you, truly.

  • @sadguyfoundout1 Just say to her that if she thinks you are psychologically damaged, she is the one to blame!

  • I have a term for those folks as they very much met a criteria named faghag. I very much appreciate women and men who are people but wont tolerate disingenuous folks of any gender.

  • @silentfades Agreed. The whole "fag hag" attitude seems so contrived. Thank you for watching! :-)

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