Questions Answered! Rem on her sexuality, and more.

[tilouswag]

I JUST GOT SCHOOLED BY paytotheorderofofof DAMN MY COMMENT MUST BE RUDE!!!!!!!!

[tilouswag]

WHY CANT YOU FUCKING LIKE ZBOYS AND YOUR FINISHED YOU DONT HAVE TO BE '' QUEER'' or GAY JUST BE NORMAL AND STAY OUT OF DRAMA BITCH

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@tilouswag I cant really change who I am, nor do I want to. Also, I don't have any drama. I have a really chill, peaceful life. Kinda seems like youre the drama-creator around here. Have a good day. :)

[tilouswag]

@paytotheorderofofof2 sorry about the comment but its just that i dont understand why everyone can't be normal

[jefzig]

You are a freak in da sheets

[puglove2012]

you have two boyfriends right? what if you wanted to marry one and have kids...after you get married would you still have other boyfriends and girlfriends?

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@puglove2012 Yes I do, and I don't want to get marry or have kids so that is not something that applies to me. Regardless, I would continue to be polyamorous even if I did get married or have kids. Like I said, I am not happy in monogamous relationships so I would not force myself to be in one. :)

[someothernoona10]

"I love people, not gender." YOU TELL THEM, LOVE! XD

[shanananaaa]

That pen is awesome!! :D

[Monalisa2005]

I'm glad you like portland, I decided against moving there. I am though living in a smaller town about 45 minutes away from Portland. Ive been waiting to go explore Portland a little more XD

[gus4CHRIST]

I miss you and JAMES !!!!!

[Adz2]

Hey Rem,

I used to watch and comment on your videos back in the early days, just stumbled upon your account again, good to see your still doing it, I remember your knock knock video had me in stitches laughing.

Good to see that no matter what sexuality you are, you seem to be loving life at the moment and thats the important thing, it shouldnt matter to anyone, if your straight, gay, bi, queer or whatever, as long as you live life to the fullest is all that matters, best of luck to you Rem

[delightfulsunny]

Interesting. I have been following your video posting on and off, but today is actually the first time I heard of you saying "abortion". What happened back then? Did the abortion make your parents be less close to you? Or did it actually bring all of you together as a whole family?

[TwentyTwoNiceThings]

Hi, Rem. I have just been looking at some old videos and remembered watching your videos in more or less 4 years ago. And then I came to your channel to check if you are still posting. And you are, changed a lot, talking about your sexuality. And the thing I'm mostly amazed by is your openness. I don't get amazed by the things you say about you, but I do about how open you are with them. So this is what I took from this video, to reflect on myself. I admire you and hope all the best for you!

[Dapts]

13:45 My jaw dropped when I heard these. I was so shocked! Lol.

[rainbowdoona]

maybe studying gender studies will be a good idea... i'm sure there would be plenty of other girls like you doing the same thing

[HighlyDeffective]

you are a sex freeaaaak, holy crap. double penetration?!?!

[anklegrease]

Off topic - speaking of James reminded me of that David Lynchian video you all made. Is that still on YT somewhere?

[sloththemighty]

I accepts Rem for Rem.

[Callanishername]

defs had to google like half of the stuff you listed off as raunchy...at first i was like WHAT AM I MISSING and then i realized i just didn't know the words for it. So i learned something :) time was not wasted.

[leggsXinXaXtopXhat]

oh good, my creeper question made it in there.

good to know your life has been going well.

[stevusb]

I hear you talking about the love of studying just for the love of it and I'm with you on that too. Money doesn't matter, big title doesn't matter... it's about doing what you live doing... even a regular job eith great people like you are ecperiencing can be great. Too many people has their head in their ass thinking big money big job but end up always stresses and with no time on their hands. -Steve

[elleniris]

thanks for answering my question and also not giving me a hard time for not knowing you are gueer and not ggaaayy. grrl, you in an open relationship?

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@elleniris No problem! And I prefer the term "polyamory" rather than "open relationship." Open relationship usually (but not always) indicates some level of casualness to it, usually implying that the relationship is sexually open but not necessarily romantically open. Polyamory is a better term for me. It is defined as the ethical, honest, responsible philosophy and practice of engaging in multiple sexual AND/or emotional relationships simultaneously. :)

[SpiffyMcSnazzy]

YOU WENT TO THE ESCAPE, DIDN'T YOU?!!!!! hehehe

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@SpiffyMcSnazzy noooooooo!! I hear that place sucks hahaha. I went to Embers, which I liked, and Barracuda, which was dumb but I still had fun there.

[secretsareboring]

Hey thanks for answering my question! Glad you're happy, and your co-workers are fun. If you can enjoy work, maybe uni isn't so important :) I got a degree just to work happily at a call center, lol.

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@secretsareboring Ah I still think uni is important, but not so much for the job aspect of it... mostly because I just really love to learn! Pretty much none of the careers I'm considering are big money makers, I'm just in it for the love of it all.

[recklessabandonx]

you better post your second video soon! i'm so interested! you are such an interesting person, maybe because you're so different from the people i've met in my life (i lived 18 years in a really small town..)

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@recklessabandonx Thank you! I am different from a lot of people I've met too, haha, but since moving to Portland I've met a lot of other people like me and that's pretty cool. So if you're ever looking for an abundance of unusual and cool people, I suggest moving to Portland. Hahah.

[caitlin1619]

the video i posted that under, you spent the first half talking about you "love square", thats what I was talking about... Ive watched a good amount of your videos but not all of them. Im not really sure I want to after that though.

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@caitlin1619 OH okay!! Sorry if I offended you, I was just teasing playfully. I kind of tease people obsessively, it's my way of showing affection haha. I will talk about the love square in one of my upcoming videos because somebody else asked about that too.

[spinelle]

Holy crap you've become such a boring Hipster. OMG you had sex with a girl. ROFL! I think your days of Youtube popularity have gone down the tubes.

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@spinelle I'm sorry you feel that way. I'm sure you are right about the Youtube popularity, I have been steadily losing subscribers for the past year, ever since I started being more true to myself in my videos. It is always difficult, being yourself and finding out that people don't like it. But I still think it is better than hiding yourself and being loved for it.

[spinelle]

@paytotheorderofofof2 Rack up the decline to being honest. LOL! Basically all you talk about is your sexuality and one video would have been enough. You go on and on like we need to hear it 20 times. If i hear "Pansexual" one more time I'll throw up. Only Hipsters want to use terms like that so that bisexual sounds cooler. ROFL!

[XNb17X]

I Cant Get One Bloke And You've Got Three! Hows That Fair?! Jks Lol xx

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@XNb17X Hahaha I will share!!

[stevusb]

I always admired you. It doesn't matter what gender a person like... you are smart and beautiful and most importantly, you are yourself and deserve all the respect in the world just for that. Wish you the best, happy to hear you're happy :) -Steve from Quebec xxx

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@stevusb This was a really amazingly kind reply, thank you so much. These are the types of comments I look forward to. :)

[Matt27689]

At 13:45 I got the weirdest boner.

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@Matt27689 lol

[coolstream1]

You should go hit on missalissa15 lulz...

Hope you kick life's ass and beat the boss at the end.

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@coolstream1 Haha, I dig the analogy. Any particular reason I should hit on missalissa15?

[coolstream1]

@paytotheorderofofof2 She's the only other Portland person I know of :P

[dominic2014]

I commend you for explaining to your audience. You are very patient, understanding and tolerating for doing this. Keep expanding ppl's minds, b/c lord knows most youtubers are always in need of that.

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@dominic2014 Thank you :)))) What a nice thing to say!

[SupaDupaFlyGirl]

Everytime I see your face, I get a smile! I love how your heart is able to love any kind of human. That's beautiful. <3

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@SupaDupaFlyGirl Aw, thank you.

[becka4]

lmao the first time u clicked that pen it made me jump!

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@becka4 Hahahaha. You should see it in person, the light is BLINDING.

[deaddanny]

To be honest, I didn't sub way back when to sit here now watching you having to defend/explain yourself. I hope this type of video is a rare thing. much respect on knowing thyself as one human to another. but lets see some happy (or "gay" if you will) videos. silly is allways good.

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@deaddanny I'm not a huge fan of it either, but in my last video I told my subscribers to ask me questions about the past and they asked me a lot of questions about... everything, haha. And I'm not really one to ignore people once they've asked me questions, especially when I told them to ask me questions! So I gotta get these questions out of the way and it might take up another video or two, but hopefully after that everyone's curiosity about these things will be appeased.

[KateyJW]

I know you haven't shaved your armpits for three years, and good on ya! but how are the other areas doing ..with the shaving..or lack there of?

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@KateyJW Hahah well I don't shave my legs either, and I trim good ol' Lothlorien.

[kbrdmn2]

@paytotheorderofofof2 HAHA Lothlorien....had to look that up (not being that familiar with Tolkien)....never heard that word used before as a substitute for the nether regions.

[andytram08]

WIkipedia says:

Queer is an umbrella term for sexual minorities that are not heterosexual, heteronormative, or gender-binary.

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@andytram08 Yep, but f you read further down, it describes what it means beyond being an umbrella term. I identify with it because of it's sociopolitical connotations. Read the quotes I put in the video info on this video.

[katzize26]

I think that if you ever decided to take up daily vlogs you'd be one of the most interesting people to watch. Just saying. :-D

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@katzize26 Hahah I don't know, maybe? My day to day life isn't THAT interesting and when I talk I mostly just go on about social and political issues. I might be boring!

[katzize26]

@paytotheorderofofof2 No,no, no! That is what would make you interesting. There aren't many daily vloggers who are willing to be upfront and honest about what they think and feel.

[ryansmilesatme]

CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR HAPPINESSSSSSS! :)

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@ryansmilesatme THANKSSSSSSSSSSSSS!

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@ryansmilesatme Thank you!

[imparfaite]

God, I don't even remember asking that stuff but... yeah, it was pretty ignorant. I don't know why I even posted those questions, honestly. I think, at the time, I didn't grasp that this wasn't a new thing for you. But anywho, I'm glad to see you posted a video and I'm glad you are happy and all that jazz.

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@imparfaite Hey man it's all good. We're all ignorant about some things. Ignorance isn't a crime as long as you're willing to learn more, which you obviously are. I'm glad I could answer your questions and I hope I cleared some things up! Thank you. :)))

[imparfaite]

@paytotheorderofofof2 Yes, thank you for being bold/brave enough to even welcome those sorts of invasive questions. I know I wouldn't feel comfortable answering them. I don't know that it is exactly a willingness to learn more (though I do) but a lot of shit has happened in the past few months and I have done a lot of growing up and self-discovery. And that always helps with understanding or at least being compassionate or kind towards other people. :-)

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@imparfaite :) Well if you ever want someone to talk to as you go through your growing and self discovery, always feel free to shoot me a message. I know I am just somebody on the internet, but I like growing with people, and you seem like a good person.

[xxitsmyfault]

you're gay/queer/but not homosexual. but you're pansexual. but you love girls the most. you've always liked girls. you were never straight. omg I'm so fucking confused.

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@xxitsmyfault lol. No, I am not gay. Like I said, I use the term "gay" lightly and humorously. I identify as QUEER and am capable of attraction to all genders. It is not that confusing!

[Atothenal]

you just scared the shit out of my dog when you pressed on the pen!

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@Atothenal Hahahaha sorry dog!

[Amycakes1]

rem <3 you will forever be my favourite you tuber. you're very inspiring to watch, at least for me. i always like to hear what you have to say, i've grown up a whole lot and i've been watching you since i was about 15, when i hadn't the foggiest who i was. i'm now 19 and in my first year of university, living on my own and feeling a lot more stable with my life and my opinions. you are a great woman.

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@Amycakes1 :) I'm glad to hear this, and I'm glad to hear that you're doing well in your adult life. You're definitely one of the subscribers I remember, so it's always nice to hear how you're doing and that you're still watching my videos.

[TheMandyBlackberry]

I really like your personality and how strong you are! Keep up the videos, I'm always happy to see them in my subscription box!! :)

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@TheMandyBlackberry Thank you :)

[WhistleStix]

And it was nice seeing you again. You were very cute when you were showing off your kitty cat pen. Oh, and I really, really, really want to know what color your nails are. Cause one hand is different than the other. Maybe you'd only done one hand? Why am I so curious about this?

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@WhistleStix One hand was painted black, and the other hand wasn't painted because I had gotten bored one day and started peeling it off. Hahah. I'm re-painting them today!!

[WhistleStix]

I don't think you explained why it took 4 attempts to make this video. Were you not happy with your answers? Were you not happy with yourself? Are you just rusty? What could the problem be?

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@WhistleStix Haha it was a mixture of not being satisfied with it, and taking too long to edit it after I had filmed it so then I'd get sick of the old footage and be like "ah lets just do it again" and again and again.

[FragileFigurine]

ahh remmy rem i've missed your face.

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@FragileFigurine meowmeowmeow

[FragileFigurine]

@paytotheorderofofof2 oh & i have that pen, plus a sheep, a pig, and a duck.

[squirrelywrath2]

also, anything but golden showers or anything involving fecal matter. Please. I have not had breakfast yet.

Everything else is gold.

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@squirrelywrath2 Hahah. Well, urine is sterile, so it's really not that gross. :P But hey, to each their own!

[squirrelywrath2]

where did that kitten pen come from?

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@squirrelywrath2 He got it from Spirit Halloween. :)

[alaskafido]

I didn't realize so many people were so interested in your sexuality! It makes me think a lot of people have some weird fantasy life thing going with YouTube. Anyway, I just like your videos and think you do far too few of them. More please:)

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@alaskafido Hahah thank you!

[saydieagain]

Haha your cat pen scared the crap out of my cat. Haha

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@saydieagain Hahahaha

[delanabanana]

Yay, you're back! That makes me very happy. I'm not even that interested in the whole sexuality thing, it's just such a small part of who you are... Looking forward to the next video(s) :)

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@delanabanana That's a refreshing point of view to hear! <3

[classpc]

@delanabanana I guess I'm not the only one with this opinion.

paytotheorderofof2: You are who you are and I will like you just the same, no matter what you are.

[pete275]

:( my question was super interesting. these questions are all pretty boring and kinda ignorant. <3

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@pete275 Yeeeah, I wasn't particularly fond of these questions but people have not stopped asking them for months so I figured I would just get it all out there.

[alienhddna]

i khnow 3 woman this year said that our lesbian now

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@alienhddna Good for them!

[alienhddna]

if you like woman and men you our just bi then

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@alienhddna No, dear. Bisexual means to like two genders, men and women. There are more than two genders out there, and I like all of them. I am not bisexual, I am queer. You cannot tell me what my sexuality is.

[PaperStory]

: ) i love when you make new videos. Currently watching this but here is my comment!

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@PaperStory Hey you, I was just reading your tumblr last night!

[shattercross]

I haven't watched your videos in a while, after watching this it's like seeing the last episode of Lost after seeing the first- I MISSED SO MUCH, OMG WHAT IS THIS SHOW?!? but wow, kudos to you for being so honest about yourself.

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@shattercross Hahahahaha, that's hilarious. Yeah I recently unloaded a lot of new info on Youtube about myself, so I don't think you're the only one caught in a whirlwind of "what??" And thanks. :)

[Shaggy72]

Still think u r one of the most INTERESTING people on the planet. And you are the definition of what being an American embodies.

Would we get along IRL? Probably not, but ONLY because of the pacifist thingy - I believe, as horrific as SOME wars and fighting are, (I know b/c my friend just returned from Afghanistan) it IS necessary or our freedoms will be taken, or the weaker will be forever be mistreated.

So yea, there's that one little disagreement, but otherwise: u r 99% FUCKING AWESOME!

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@Shaggy72 Hahah we could still get along IRL! I may be a pacifist but that's a very small portion of what I talk about throughout the day, haha. My best friend is a pro-life Catholic Republican - I am sure you and I could get along just fine. :P

[Shaggy72]

@paytotheorderofofof2 It's crazy cause, as far as how much government is involved in our lives & stuff, i'm REPUBLICAN, but as for all the MORAL issues (abortion, gay lifestyle, guns/protection, marijuana, ect. i'm 100% Democrat). I'm a new breed of Independent....

"common-sense" "freedom" and "personal choice" are my mottos!

Live life to the fullest & as best as you know how (as long as it isn't hurting no one else)

VIVA LA LIFE!!!!!

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@Shaggy72 Actually what you're describing is Libertarianism! Libertarians are fiscally conservative and socially liberal. I'm not a big fan of Libertarianism though, although I much prefer it to Conservatism.

[djhannnah]

oh my god, I love you. you sealed the deal for me with your answer to that kink question. and then the armpit thing! just be my girlfriend.

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@djhannnah Hahah sweet, sounds like a good deal because I looked at your page and you are fun and pretty.

[djhannnah]

@paytotheorderofofof2 SW00000N.

[moscowmasha]

Oh man! I'm living in Oregon as well! And I JUST watched the Misfits episode that is right at the top of your Tumblr. Also, all the girls here seem to be straight, too, and it's a bit annoying - I only came out as bi recently, and I haven't really had the chance to pursue them yet. Thanks for sharing your life with us, this was very interesting.

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@moscowmasha Where in Oregon do you live?! You should come to Portland, there's lots of queer girls. I just haven't met any that I'm interested in lately. :( Thanks for commenting :)

[moscowmasha]

@paytotheorderofofof2

I live in Bend - it's about 3 hours away - but I'm probably going to be returning to the East Coast once I finish up my business here. Portland seems lovely, though!

[Jechjames]

BEEN A LONG TIME? WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN

[paytotheorderofofof2]

@Jechjames FARTIN' AROUND. No I just never get anyyyy alone time so I rarely get a chance to make a video. D: Although I made this video 4 different times and was just never satisfied with it...

[clarkkent999]

<3