For Women Only: Why Men Don't Call Back

[Ibeatyou23]

I'm a man and I watched. *bites lip*

[neechee5150]

Some good points, but her condescending demeanor and langauge directed towards men along with her sexist stereotypes polute what could have been a good message about healthty relationships and dating.

[evelsteev]

Is there a reason why women can't call MEN back? What the fuck.

[yunikage]

@evelsteev Because traditional gender roles that benefit women (not paying for dinner, not taking risks socially) MUST BE PRESERVED, whereas gender roles that benefit men are awful and sexist.

It's simple, really. You just have to think like a woman.

[evelsteev]

We don't call back because some men, like me, just want to fuck you, and avoid all that stupid romantic shit that some women like.

[TurdFergusonJunior]

this nigga crazy

[danman2372]

i a young man and women like to just sit back relax and let the men squirm for there attention and approval. i hate it, thats why i just dont bother with them. its like im doing all the calling and no1 is giving a fuck about me

[DiamondArcher95]

silly woman, you think you can come on youtube and say what I am like and how i think, you are stupid. you are telling a female audience what females want to hear. none of this is correct. maybe i wouldnt call back because she was annoying, or stupid, not because i am scared. your stupid if you really believe that this is true

[zedy3000]

WOW everything you said is 100% True and i made all the mistakes 0__0 and everything you said happened wish i saw this video before that happened. Is there anyway to counter that? :(

[psx2514]

In fact, listen to this. It's way more informative. I can't post the link, but here's how to get to it. Go to leykisonline d com. Click on Access the LeykisOnline Show Recordings. Click on 2004. Click on August. It's the 08-03-04 Hour 2 show. Listen to that. If you really want to know why men don't call back.

[psx2514]

Now, if we don't call after you have sex with us, it is NOT, I repeat, is NOT because we think you're a slut. It's because we don't think you're a cool chick and we really didn't like you that much. If I met a chick who was cool and fun to be around, and she put out on the second date, I'd call her everyday.

[psx2514]

LADIES, PLEASE DO NOT LISTEN TO HER. She has no idea what the fuck she's talking about. If we don't call you back, it's not because you had sex with us too soon. If anything, one reason we don't call you anymore is because you don't have sex with us soon enough. Yes, I understand that you many of you are hesitant to put out on the first date. I understand it, but if it's the second or third date, and you haven't put out yet, we feel like there's no chemistry and we're wasting our time...

[adrian14643]

oh this is really good info,she gets her sources from Jack Nicholson movies

[SuperBelindah]

i am a girl and i find this informative.....but everyones got their own perspective of course......but it all really depends on each individual situation too........how it started etc ...each others emotional place where they at at the time etc...ie.......the guy may be just looking for sex at that point in his life....and the woman is giving out many signals that she had enough of guys wanting just one thing,,,and wants something a bit more stable.......so he thinks ooops im outta here!!.

[TastemyAtrocity]

very informative! thank you!

[hozzyboy]

The date didn't go so good, she isn't the one might as well get some sex if possible is prob what alot of guys are thinking. Also ladies if you with hold sex too long from a guy he's prob just gonna say screw it and get it somewhere else. But if your cool and he likes you AND you have sex with him. He's gonna think wow she's cool, she puts out, I like her!

[concujak]

Im so glad I went to my home country and married a nice girl from there.

I unapologetically say most american women are delusional and self centered

[TheWindsOfMercy]

I'm glad I am single and always have been.  Single by CHOICE, thank you verrry much! : )))))))

[tanyatmr]

@ Zettadom men do the same thing!!

[zettadom]

@tanyatmr Sorry, you've got no point. it's men's role to pursue women so it's primarily women who play this particular game. Young women especially. Younger women have the advantage demographically and have older men pursuing them also, this gives them disproporationate amount of power and a lot of young women like to string men along. This so called relationship expert should be telling women to only give out their number to men they want to go out with.

[zettadom]

@tanyatmr Difference is that young men have to compete for young women. Burden is on them to call and win over young women. I say young cause young women have demographic advantages so men have to compete for them. Yeah, sometimes, usually in older age groups, it's the other way around and women have to make more effort so men might play some of the same games but in young age groups it's primarily women doing this stuff. .this "expert" should differentiate between young and old women

[tanyatmr]

@zettadom I read your post again about women giving out their numbers. I never understood why people do that, I only give my number to someone that I am interested in. That is downright cruel and uncalled for. I would expect teenagers to behave like that, but once you reach a certain age your conscience and common sense should kick in. Do people stop and think how would they feel if someone did that to them, in this day and age no one should be doing that!!

[bobfttw]

@zettadom the question is when the tables will turn. its very rare as i see it for a girl to ask a boy out. its ususally always vice viersa. will men eventually just stop the gas? maybe one day. then that will leave the women scrambled as now they have to compete for the boy or nothing gets done. i feel tht time is approaching. but this is just my opinion based of off what i see. there is a bigger world i could be wrong

[zettadom]

@bobfttw Tables won't turn unless demographics or biology change. READ my comment below. Young women have demographic advantage. There are 106 male births to every 100 female births. Men die younger so you have more women only in geriatric age group. Also, women date men an average of 5 years older which means the 20 something females have more men chasing them than there are women available. Bottom line, young women don't NEED to compete. Unless they want to play drama queen they don't call.

[yunikage]

@zettadom Look up "female hypergamy" and interpret its implications in the context of de facto polygyny, which is what the modern dating scene is.

There is substantial empirical support for your point, and the implications go well beyond what you describe in your comment...

[evelsteev]

@yunikage fuck that shit. LOL!

[juneride]

Women have to have sex with men ALMOST RIGHT AWAY. Otherwise men will think she slept with other guys right away and now she is playing games. Only a VIRGIN is worth waiting for.

[ferretgirl90]

@juneride What the hell? Only a virgin is worth waiting for? So the rest of us are sluts? I could say fuck you, but the thing is that you're just being ignorant. Most women nowadays are most likely not virgins. That does not make them sluts however. Honestly, maybe you should get laid before you make anymore snide comments like that. 

[ferretgirl90]

@juneride

[dubified89]

Here's the real truth as I see it: DO AS YOU WANT. As long as it doesn't involve violating the rights of others. Anything else and you're gonna be dealing with the inauthentic and you're gonna lose regardless. I don't think there's set rules for any of this, maybe it's a way of people trying to simplify or rationalize their actual desires.

[dubified89]

Stop catering to the Madonna/Whore complex lady. If you like a guy and you want to have sex with him do it. If he loses respect for you for it he's lame. It's also catering to the nice guy/'bad boy' dichotomy. Oh he's a nice guy so I'll wait but I'll fuck the guy who probably doesn't care about me the first night.

[goodolt70s]

"Why Men Don't Call Back",i never call,never mind call back.lol!.

For the simple reason,i don,t like calling/telephoning.

When i meet a woman,i tell them this and either they accept it or the don,t,or they like it or lump it,it,s as simple as that,what i do do though,is i send sms,s. :-)

[pokerstud001]

Not calling back is called a hump-n-dump. You got played, they didn't get scared. See SirFrancis's comment for more info.

[tpatterson0]

alivewithlovevideos a young menhere but it so true at 3;54 she have sex with me on the first date and now i thank she is doing it all the time when she go to the club

and she go to the club all most all the time puls she drink who go to the club 24/7 so i stop calling her and she just dont understand

[DIJV79]

Are when he wakes up he realizes she wasn't that hot anyway and throws her number out, I have done it plenty of times.

[balder6163]

'cause like u - u taaaalk toooo much !

[blubberbun]

they just call you when they have nothing else 2 do.

[Tymebandeet]

Men don't want sluts. They prefer someone who plays hard to fuck because they wanna be assured that other men wont get it easy to fuck their women.

[Goddess167989]

I guess I talked too much :/ But I hated the silence! :O

[assasinate3000]

Apparently I'm made easy... maybe I don't wanna be a man.

[blomstersenter]

I would not call her back

[LvPatriot1]

the LAST one is bullshit!! You suck!

[spartacus6839]

If shes easy to get into bed....then hes wondering hhmmmm. What kind of mother will she make? How will she bond with our future children if she is lose in morals? Its only a matter of time before she gets tired of me, then I will have to give her my house. Things like that...... So no call back.

[zettadom]

Many women set men up for a rejection. They will hand out their number right and left then dismiss most guys who call. They get ego boost from many guys calling. They brag about it and play their phone messages like trophies. I've seen it many times. Guys can get a little gun shy after they've been set up like that enough times. Also, this game usually occurs with younger women, older women not so much. Why not be honest enough to discuss these types of game women play?

[OnlyDaRealest]

@zettadom Real talk my nigga.

[Andre2099]

@zettadom Aimen!

[AvonleaMontague]

Too bad he talks more than I do.... Hahah

[ArrogantCancerian]

marriage is only to procreate

[selfmademan09]

woman are full of it! becouse woman are the ones that dont call men back!!! do you have a video on that?

[belmariful]

you have had bad experiences

[BRONXPEPE]

i met my match we are very nsync about our believes and we kept it cool in the beginning now we speak to each other 3 times a day and see each other 4 or more times a week

[girlygirl00]

Also if they dont want you to have sex when them then why do they try? men need to stop playing these mind games with us! its just so confusing!

[spartacus6839]

@girlygirl00 ... Yes  men and there mind games.... Youve got to be shitting me?

[girlygirl00]

Okay why do they ask if they dont wanna know? Guys are stupid sometimes..

[littleyugi88]

When I call my friend that is a guy, and he says "I'll call you back" and He does call me back, also me and him talk alot on the phone too, it's not just me talking on the phone it's him too. I would start talking then he would talk then the next thing you know me and him are on this one subject for HOURS on the phone. Also when I do call him he likes to know about guys in my past who did what and ect. -DeidaraTheSweet

[SirFrancisDashwood15]

This is so condescending from a male point of view. Scared? No. Turned off? Yes. You make it seem as if it's the man's fault for not wanting to call the annoying shrew. If a woman is interested in a man, and wants him to call her and or ask her on a date, and he doesn't, guess whose fault that is? It's not his, it's her's. It's not that she's scaring him--she's turning him off. You make it sound as if men should be standardlesss and want to date any woman who speaks to him. That's insulting.

[Mokurentate]

@SirFrancisDashwood15

If she's an annoying shrew, why is he talking to her (other than the obvious reason)?

[SirFrancisDashwood15]

Because he didn't know that she was an annoying shrew until he got well into the date. This dating coach is really insulting. She talks about men as if were dense clods and incapable of understanding our superior females. But of course, that's exactly what her female audience believes, so she's also giving them what they want to hear: That females are so dominating and superior that they must be careful what's said around inferior puppy-boys who are easily frightened away. Yea, right!

[youroutclassed]

@SirFrancisDashwood15 i agree i wish i could thumbs up this 12345682365428793464356432874 times.

[JackRoller008]

I would like to see this bitch get jackrolled by wild chimps.

[AntebusXoXo]

@SirFrancisDashwood15 she is trying to help women understand how men work. Its easier for us to think of you as "scared" but still on some level needing to be loved just like we do, rather than the sex hungry callous pigs we've found you to be. If she helps us rethink our views of you, chances are we'll be more natural and happy, and have an easier time with our relationships. So, give her a chance to calm us down and not turn your gender off!

[SirFrancisDashwood15]

Antebus--It's unfortunate that more males aren't aware of this well-kept secret: It's actually females who are the sex hungry, callous sows we've pretended you're not! Yes, females are actually more sexual than males, having advantages that we do not: You have a clitoris that's for no other reason than sexual pleasure, you can have at least 3 types of orgasms, and you can have multiple orgasms. Your masturbation habits are embarrassing, spending billions anually on vibrators and sex toys.

[onlyjoetee]

Sex is a cart,love is a horse,NEVER get in a cart without a horse.

Don't date,don't do it yourself,the right guy will fall in love with you the second he sees you!

Does HE who put you on earth,not know ALL your need??Ask HIM and wait!!

[xxemoskaterx0x0]

k ladys sut wanted to clear this up...not all men are compleat ass holes..i mean, msot are, but im not...if i sleep with a women its not because shes hot or sexy, it would be because im in love with her. ive had sex a few times, but they all left me, only the douche bags leaves teh lady...also im the type of man who wouldnt call a girl "hot" ide call her "Beautiful"...anyways please reply on this comment and tell me what u think.

[xxemoskaterx0x0]

ment to say "sup" not "Sut"

[diamondcalves]

hint # 1 call him

FOOOOOOL

FORGET INNER STUPIDITY(NEGATIVE SELF TALK)

ask HIM WHY HE DID NOT CALL DONT ANSWER FOR HIM BEHIND HIS BACK NOR ASK YOUR JEALOUS SIDETRACKING SO CALLED FRIENDS.

MABE HE LOST YOUR NUMBER

(AS I DO ALL THE TIME; JUST AS I LOST $1,500 DOLLARS " UNINTENTIONALLY ")

IF YOU WANT TO KNOW ASK HIM/ FIND HIM (I LIKE WHEN YOU MAKE ME COMFORTRBLE AND PUT ME AT EASE)

IF YOUR PERFECT I AM " AFFRAID " TO MUCK UP

[diamondcalves]

IN MOST Cases

EASY COME IS EASY GO

NO VALUES!

[jelisatyler]

men are SCUM simple as that! even if a guy doesnt like you if he has a spine and if he is a real man he will call and let you know whats going on.if he doesnt he is just a no good coward!

[c64c64c64]

and i dislike this dumb E-T lookalike preacher saying fear is the main reason men don't call back. Thats a bit optimistic for my tastes. i'm a man. I don't call women back I don't trust or who I don't like, and even if i do call back, it might just be because i like them personality wise and want to keep in contact. PLEASE PLEASE....any women reading this, BE YOURSELF WITH YOUR MAN, SAY YOUR TRUE OPINIONS, NOT WHAT YOU THINK HE WANTS TO HEAR, Like this dumbo thinks-then you'll meet the RIGHT MAN

[c64c64c64]

Any worthwhile man will call you back if he really likes you. No Question! If he likes how you look, but more important,if you be yourself- men love honest women more than anything...and theres not alot of truly honest people around.If a woman were to talk negatively of a past boyfriend, it wouldn't turn me off, after all, men have nasty ex'es too! a big turn off for me is women taking the advice of OTHER women as gospel. No woman will ever know how men think, and no man, woman thought.

[LeonaRulez]

I have nebver had sex on the first date

[nulifeagain]

Woman have sexual needs,& her not having sex due to what hes going to think of her later,is doing an injustice to herself. A man whos intmidated by a woman who feeds her sexual appetite the same manner he does is EXTREMELY insecure & unrealistic about women's physiological needs. I appreciate this vid;& stil know theres another type man out there who understands: females who feed their sexual appetite (like men) are only being HUMAN & dont allow this simple fact of life to cloud their judgement.

[thrilla72]

Lol you are completely wrong there. Insecure...errr that in itself is unrealistic. Men are NOT intimidated by women who have sex on the 1st date they just do not want to date a slut. I know it it hurts but its the truth, have sex to soon you'll be labelled a slut/hoe etc. Put it this way, if contraception didn't exist would you want to have kids with someone you've only known for a few hours???

[nulifeagain]

You say men who label women sluts for doing exactly as they do are not insecure? There ARE men who think as u said. There ARE ALSO men who dont judge a woman for doing exactly as they do sexually. Respect ur point of view, but it sounds like a 1950s public srvice announcemnt. A man who doesnt like sexual women based on certain beliefs is one thing. A man who judges these women in spite of him being just as sexual IS insecure.I cant understand why any woman cares for that type of opinion anyway

[thrilla72]

Everything you've said is stuff is just feminist. Feminism is nothing more than women wanting to be men. Women carry children SIMPLE. A mother telling their children they do not who their father is MUCH worse than a father telling his child they have a few half brothers and sisters. Men and Women are NOT the SAME. So how can you judge by the same standard. Worst thing is when women end up single mothers due to sleeping around they blame men. As though they were forced to have sex.

[nulifeagain]

Get my point straight &stop changing the subject: There ARE men who think as you said. There ARE ALSO men who think otherwise. I agree that men&women arent same,but we do have 1 common physiological need:sex. Your point of children is relevant to this?People have sex & children don't/needn't always result. Every person is resp.for their own actions,SO,if you are very sexually active & dont label yourself a 'slut' & yet label other sexually active people a slut, this IS insecurity AND hypocrisy.

[thrilla72]

Well OF COURSE children are relevant to this...unless sex doesn't create children. I've explained why women get judged more harshly for sleeping around. 1. why wouldn't a guy feel insecure with a promiscuous woman get her pregnant and he has reason to doubt he is the father. 2 yea it is hypocrisy but like I said men dnt give birth. Yea I USED to agree with you, then I grew up and learned the truth. Plus it is SOOOOO easy for a woman to get sex as opposed to a dude. Children aren't relevant haha

[nulifeagain]

I can see how a man would feel insecure if he doubts the paternity of his child. But Im not talking about paternity, Im talking about a woman foolishly not satisfying her needs for fear she'll be labeled a 'slut' by men who do exactly as she does. You disagree that women have the same sexual needs as a man? They do INDEED, & a vibrator wont always do dear. The biggest difference is women have MANY more choices & can be more picky. This vid is in ref to DATING, not children or paternity tests.

[thrilla72]

Actually only about 20% of the male population sleep around. So no she not doing exactly as he does. Sex is not a NEED it is a DESIRE virginity doesn't cause death, What happened to the days of having a virgin bride who nobody had touched. Don't say men have always slept around cos who were dey sleeping with if all the women were virgins. P.S. when you've heard the way a man talks about a woman he's slept with easily you'll understand. Can't make a hoe a housewife either.

[nulifeagain]

and btw, single moms dont get THEMSELVES pregnant...as well as themselves, they do have a right to also "blame" (as you say) men because creating a child is a two party activity-pregnancy can not be accomplished alone

[thrilla72]

There is no reason to blame the man because I have NEVER EVER seen a case where there weren't signs that the relationship wouldn't work. Simple only have sex in marriage then if he's STUPID enough to leave you with children then maybe he can be blamed even then I've met married women who make life hell for their husband so to avoid hitting her he HAS to leave. Women are fully aware dat they will likely be left with the baby so there is more responsibility on them. 60/40 with men being 40%

[nulifeagain]

nope

50% egg

50% sperm

[thrilla72]

ok put it this way a man can sleep with a woman and disappear without a trace da nex day forever. Assuming a baby is conceived who will be left with the baby? Will she be able to blame the man considering he has no idea she got pregnant?

[nulifeagain]

she will have to deal with it however she chooses but look at him with PARTIAL blame for the current situation, yes, i would bet money she would do that...she didnt become pregnant alone

[thrilla72]

Well if he gets partial blame doesnt she also get partial blame? Point is, it is the woman who would have to deal with it. Unless she's ok with dealing with it then be more careful. Both sexes have their inconveniences. When there is a war, up until recently it was only men who went. Most men honestly want to have a wonderful close secure connection with ONE woman. Sexual liberation has messed that up.

[nulifeagain]

hello? what does 'partial' mean? i said nothing about who had to deal with what.

I dont think sexual lib has "messed that up"..there are people who want that connection you speak of, and people who dont..if people are honest about what they want, it usually works out fine for everyone involved...it's our bulls*** that has messed it up...sex. lib is a wonderful freedom..ur interesting

[thrilla72]

The way you said the man gets partial blame suggested that you felt a man should be held fully responsible. The bullshit that has messed it up is promiscuity. Promiscuous ppl ALWAYS have trouble settling down.I've never met a promiscuous woman who made a good wife/gf with a gd man. Sexual lib is great if your a woman wanting to sleep with as many men as possible with no consequences then conning some man to marry you after 30 different men have used and abused. Marriages dnt last nemore wonder y

[nulifeagain]

:-( I wouldnt agree thrilla. Promiscuity ONLY means women sleeping aroundw/as many as possible? No, it just means you sleep w/ who YOU want to sleep with. Promiscuous people dont have trouble settling down WHEN THEY ARE READY to settle down. It has to be their time to do it, thats all. Some arent meant to be monogamous, & there are some "one-woman/man"-people who, tho they dont sleep around, STILL dont want to 'settle down' w/one. And "conning some man to marry"? Why do you say it's a con?

[thrilla72]

You're twisting my words I said 'sexual lib'. I explained why it is a con with the '30 different men' statement. Givin the most precious thing you have to other people. Would you pay full price for 2nd or 3rd hand goods? Note you said SOME arent meant to be monogamous and that minority most likely have issues. What does some "one-woman/men"-people who dnt wanna settle but don't sleep around have to do with this? Sounds like they haven't met someone good enough or have unrealistic expectations

[nulifeagain]

I meant:there are non-promiscuous people who dont want relationship,& have as many "issues settling down" as people who HAVE slept around. "most precious thing" is based on opinion, we cant tell others what that is. Many dont feel sleeping w/30 or more as bad thing/"used goods" as you do. My main point is, if a person has slept with "30 diff" people, but considers ANOTHER person who's done the same as "used goods" or a slut, it's hypocritical,brought on by insecurity & the need to feel superior

[Halo7396]

wooow im naked right now! o

[johnnyponny4]

maybe he didn't phone you back because you are a nasty-looking ho

[internetuser1981]

had lunch with a guy..i think it well.. at least it went well enough that he asked me for my number. said he wanted to keep in touch. he never called. why ask for my number and then don't call? I didnt force or hint at you to take my number.

right!?!?!?

[moonsoonmenu]

why not just ask a man?

[starbuiz]

you answered all of these questions I had about men times 1000. I was going to buy that one book " He's just not that into you"--but i'm thinking that you should write your own book on this topic yourself because millions of women are in shambles not knowing why men don't call them back--we always seem to think that it has something to do with us, our physical appearance, but you've spelled it out completely. Thank you!

[mystichaze6]

Kara.....thanks a lot for these videos...I m 23 and I really need to talk about sumthing..i mean most of your videos have answered a lot of my questions but still...u know i have a fe wmore things I need to talk about....cud u pls spare a few minutes of ur time in helping me...i really need your help...thanks