fuckinghell thankyou!! ive had heard so many times folk say that gender is nothing to do with sexuality and it really confused me, i could not see how that was so!! xx
@ceridawn It's just not cut & dry like that. We separate gender & sexuality for the purpose of explaining to non-trans people that our sexuality doesn't dictate our gender. However, when you look at it in the perspective that *gender* dictates our *sexuality* (not who you are attracted to, but the sexuality that others label you with i.e. I am a man, I date men, therefore I am gay) then you see how they are ridiculously intertwined.
@Popeslave oh right do you mean that the reason they say that is because for instance a person in a womans body who feels like a man but is attracted to men but does not feel heterolsexual therefore in that instance the persons physical gender is seperate from their sexuality, is that what you mean? I think it has has just dawned on me, my gender really has nothing to do with my sexuality.
I have noticed recently that the more comfortable I am with my body through transition, the more open my sexuality has become. Before transition I primarily dated women and I just couldn't stomach being with another man for so reason, though I knew I had attractions to men. Now that I'm more comfortable with being I am able to explore my attraction to men better. Now I consider myself pansexual. My sister says she thinks I have to find a way to stay queer no matter what gender I am lol.
i know that being perceived as female, i don't want any intimacy/sex at all with a guy. but i know that i've thought a little about how my feelings about it might change when they perceive me as a guy. as if it was the gender dynamic of me being the girl of a heterosexual relationship that ultimately made me uncomfortable, obviously because of my own gender identity. i somehow doubt i'll ever pursue anything with a guy once i've transitioned... because i do very much love women, but i'm open...
I think that makes sense. I knew I liked guys but all I ever had was horrible experiences (whether by feeling humiliated or just by being rejected). Women never made me feel that way so for several years I just assumed I had figured out what the "problem" was and I was pretty content being with women. Then I started to explore my gender and was able to more accurately understand where my desires came from and where I was headed. I think it's different for everyone though. Best of luck!
I can definitely say that my ideaology on physical attraction has changed once I came to terms with being trans. I've become way more open minded about the potential of that attraction- and that's without T ! (yet ;-) )
LOL thanks! I think topics like this are especially hard to talk about because it's all speculation based on personal experience. The studies just haven't been done with consistency and in large volume to allow us to see anything else. Yay for trans folks who go into medical & research areas!
fuckinghell thankyou!! ive had heard so many times folk say that gender is nothing to do with sexuality and it really confused me, i could not see how that was so!! xx
ceridawn 1 year ago
@ceridawn It's just not cut & dry like that. We separate gender & sexuality for the purpose of explaining to non-trans people that our sexuality doesn't dictate our gender. However, when you look at it in the perspective that *gender* dictates our *sexuality* (not who you are attracted to, but the sexuality that others label you with i.e. I am a man, I date men, therefore I am gay) then you see how they are ridiculously intertwined.
Popeslave 1 year ago
@Popeslave oh right do you mean that the reason they say that is because for instance a person in a womans body who feels like a man but is attracted to men but does not feel heterolsexual therefore in that instance the persons physical gender is seperate from their sexuality, is that what you mean? I think it has has just dawned on me, my gender really has nothing to do with my sexuality.
ceridawn 1 year ago
@ceridawn Exactly.
Popeslave 1 year ago
I have noticed recently that the more comfortable I am with my body through transition, the more open my sexuality has become. Before transition I primarily dated women and I just couldn't stomach being with another man for so reason, though I knew I had attractions to men. Now that I'm more comfortable with being I am able to explore my attraction to men better. Now I consider myself pansexual. My sister says she thinks I have to find a way to stay queer no matter what gender I am lol.
SergeOnTheVerge 2 years ago
Thanks for sharing
13SonnyP 2 years ago
i know that being perceived as female, i don't want any intimacy/sex at all with a guy. but i know that i've thought a little about how my feelings about it might change when they perceive me as a guy. as if it was the gender dynamic of me being the girl of a heterosexual relationship that ultimately made me uncomfortable, obviously because of my own gender identity. i somehow doubt i'll ever pursue anything with a guy once i've transitioned... because i do very much love women, but i'm open...
youcancallmethedude 2 years ago
I think that makes sense. I knew I liked guys but all I ever had was horrible experiences (whether by feeling humiliated or just by being rejected). Women never made me feel that way so for several years I just assumed I had figured out what the "problem" was and I was pretty content being with women. Then I started to explore my gender and was able to more accurately understand where my desires came from and where I was headed. I think it's different for everyone though. Best of luck!
Popeslave 2 years ago
awesome. thank you for posting this. such a kind and gentle perspective.
AviatorJurieu 2 years ago
I can definitely say that my ideaology on physical attraction has changed once I came to terms with being trans. I've become way more open minded about the potential of that attraction- and that's without T ! (yet ;-) )
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mrsethcorbin 2 years ago
Like attracts like. Homosexuality is a form of loving yourself in another.
selonm0i 2 years ago
I love your mustache. :)
reesekelly 2 years ago
great video man..I've had conversations before regarding gender and sexuality shifts..it's an interesting thing to think about for sure.
Dash107 2 years ago
Very well said! Thanks for sharing your views on that matter. And... your stache is definitely growing on me!!
dawgstarz 2 years ago
LOL thanks! I think topics like this are especially hard to talk about because it's all speculation based on personal experience. The studies just haven't been done with consistency and in large volume to allow us to see anything else. Yay for trans folks who go into medical & research areas!
Popeslave 2 years ago
love ur stach man:D
SELKILKT 2 years ago