“Love is always patient and kind; it is never jealous, love is never boastful or conceited; it is never rude or selfish; it does not take offense, and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other people’s sins but delights in the truth; it is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes. Love does not come to an end.”
How to love a woman? love - make it a conscious and unconditional choice - not an accident. Once people realize that we don't fall in or out of anything then they take responsibility for their actions and all the small pieces come together like a charm. When its conscious and deliberate we give unconditionally and vice versa. Your band-aid step forward will never take root unless it a natural process based upon the correct foundation. Conscious decision first and foremost. Good luck.
thanks! i think me and my girlfriend are harpies and we better try to change that. Probably easier said than done but cant hurt to try. And thanks for the miniature things idea!!! I've gotta try it. You are a great person, bye
Hey, I have been married for a little over a year now and my wife is amazing, I love her so much! I just started watching some of your videos a few days ago because I was looking for kindle reviews and yours popped up. You make a lot of good points in this video and I think it is good advise so keep it up! sometime when i get a camera I will start vloging but not yet. Have a good day!
this is so true! you are so awesome! :D from experience, I know for a fact that I can't be at my best if I'm being torn down by my significant other. With that being said, if I do something that turns out to be over-the-top-excellent, I get the most amazing compliments from that significant someone. If I'm messing up, the mistake will be "ran in the ground" by that someone, TOWARD ME to make me remember "HEY, I'M NOT SUPPOSED TO MESS UP LIKE THAT!" I remember it the next time before I mess up!
well said. I find in my relationships that the first 6 months are amazing...then i get really bored. I feel like I am going to be single forever because of that...perhaps thats not such a bad thing...but as I get older, the more desirable childless women become more and more infrequent. Life can be a bummer :-)
this should title "how men have to 'treat' American women". Marry a Japanese girl, you don't have to worry about any of these 'Technics' as long as she know you love her and she will treat you like a king.
why dont you use medicaments? i know a guy he is so... confused he says when he don´t take his medicin. what ever he is a psycho. just look for medicine. it works
I hope to meet a girl that looks like her. Yes i am shallow but she is frigging gorgeous. And is it really shallow to want to be with an attractive female since the reason i want that is beacuse i want my children to have those type of genetics which is a completely not superficial reason.
i got a question ok um if u like inlove with her and u never saw heron camera and she maybe find reeasions for camera for pictures for anythig so how do iknow if she loves me or not if sh dose that to me like finding reasions oh this and that i dont have time it dosent work i dont have it bla bla uknwo so i whantto know what do u tihk she will feel about me like dose she really love me or she just playing with me aroung or maybe she find other one so can u please tell me how this gose message me
Being a supportive, loyal and devoted man isn't in the best interests of men anymore because so many women are absolute whores nowadays that they don't deserve to be treated as anything more. Present company excluded, of course.
I totally agree with you. A relationship is a symbiotic thing. Each supports the other and you both should grow and build upon each other with your interactions.
Do more advise!!!!!! I am having hard time with my gf and I want things to be normal. I think she is over reacting. I wont say it to her, but she is way over reacting. :D
Hi this is my first time watching a video from you..
thank you.. you just made me realize a lot of good things..my husband saw the video and he did all those things to me i love it.. i was super happy about it.. thank again and please keep giving advice..
HEY Brechtian theater!!!! Love it! Keep it up (I know you will).
Also, thank you for reasoning manipulation tactics out of my arsenal! I was totally thinking of going the femme fatale route (Though I do love(envy) those damn film noirs.) I'm trying to keep myself within the "understanding, love, and fun" realm and this helped me apply it to where the man hating riot GRRRl in me.
MJ thanks for the update... My wife and I have Celebrated 34th Anniversary last month and yes it is great. You definitely have some great info in this message.. Thanks CSR.
I found this video to be light and fluffy...In the build em up tear em down war zone that goes on from time to time in relationships....there is too much fraternizing with the enemy....but that is the best part.....Unconditional love needs aceptance of a partner as they are not a need to see and expect change to feel validated
I got this book about being gay and how to find a partner. It tells me how I should and how other s see me and how that effects who is attracted to me, that sort of thing. You did a great video I will try to share it.
The reminder is really cool that little things mean a lot, a reminder that your most significant other is exactly that and not being taken for granted. I also agree that gender really shouldn't be applied but I understand that's your perspective. Guys also like to be reminded, not just the girls.
I agree with much of what you said, but I don't understand why you apply gender to it. I've known men who were caring, supportive and nurturing as well as those who were "harpies".
Your advice would be equally applicable to any relationship between people, regardless of gender.
Overbearing/toxic political views aside, you are still insanely cute & you'll make someone a great partner. Fair vid- generally fluffy. Pretty obvious stuff MJ.
Killer vlog MJ hope to see more inspirational messages about life from you again soon, they should give you your own segment on Dr Phil/Oprah, your totally going places and breaking through the proverbial glass celing
It is so great to see you again. And what a great way to make your comeback.
I am fortunate enough to have a fantastic relationship with my wife, despite the fact that we are going through some rough times right now. We are celebrating our first wedding anniversary tomorrow.
I don't know, people are so complex even the division between men and women doesn't always define very much. Some of my female friends take relatively "masculine" roles in their relationships. Guys are needy and sensitive like women, I know girls who think they're boyfriends are "over-reacting" or women who rely on a sensitive guy to keep them centered. I think maybe on the whole your advice is good but people who argue like that seem unbearable, maybe they need alone time.
Hmm tits... bed. Why are we having this conversation bed here anyway?Good thing we have that Palin face there on commercials. Ok my mom, nothing is going to happen is it? Ok, bye.
Great vid MJ these relationship thingy's keep me pondering too but I find that many women can't speak openly about there emotions or what they actually want from a relationship or life in general indifferent who it is and that's a shame. Not the least for themselves.
I like to be reminded of stuff like this... sometimes if you go through the motions... you really aren't expressing yourself to the fullest, and thus aren't contributing all you can to the relationship.
However, there seems to be this balance... that men have to obtain... being caring, but not 'too emotional', being strong and big, but not 'overly muscular', blabhalha. Sometimes being selfish, and a bit eccentric is the only route to take, and finding someone who is just as independent as you
Being selfish in a way... like you said, that contributes to the overall satisfaction of the relationship too.
E.G. I would like a girl to always keep herself in good shape. I would never want to be a nagger to get her to do it. She has to be selfish in this pursuit(as it is the only way it will stay a habit forever) to keep both of us happy. She keeps her body looking good, she has her own satisfaction from it. I compliment her all the time, sex is great:) etc.
This was kind of convoluted and I'm not really sure what the point was. It always seemed to me that in general women are only happy if they have something to complain about. Complaining is like their oxygen or something? In general.
After 17 years of marriage it feels kind of artificial (and requires a lot of effort, rather than coming naturally like it once did) to treat somebody the way you did when you first met. Maybe there's a few couples that still feel about each other 20 years later the same way they did at the beginning and have just forgotten how to express it, but mostly I think feelings change, and trying to simulate the old feelings is a painful and forced process.
All of this is, of course, predicated on the assumption that a "relationship" is the desired state of affairs. Typically, when I start hearing the "R" word, she's seeing my tail lights!
I suppose women's fondness for miniature things might have to do (in an evolutionary context) with their role in being the initial care providers for miniature human beings.
Wondering if there is a connection between the phenomenon of which you speak that "women like miniature things" and the fact that men have pride in the self proclaim largeness of what more often then not is a miniature thing...
Nice to hear from you Melissa, if i ever complimented my (now ex) girlfriend by saying she looks nice in that new dress or new top etc... she would always reply " so i dont usually look good" then be in a mood all day. Everybody is different i guess :)
I find it disturbing that you are essentializing men and women in this way. It's not natural - it's society and social pressure that makes women nurturing and men protective. Why can't we recognize caring men? Or women who want to behave in more masculine ways?
And the secret to having a good relationship: Don't score points. It's simple.
Haven't caught your v blogging in a while. Christ shines through your message. I pray He is blessing you and you are at peace. Great relationship advice by the way.
Great video Melissa, I would and am sure many others would like to see more videos from the love Dr. maybe one regarding 'does that fine young lady fancy me or is she just real friendly and sweet' for us guys who are totally blind to it.
This is awesome Melissa. Thanks so much for your insights. I love examining life and its quirky details. Great to see your outlook and a womans point of view. Also you are looking wonderful as usual. Keep up the good work and deep thinking!
I have one principle that will work.....ORAL. Women love it!!! Just make sure she returns the favor...
thagrtstuvawltyme11 2 months ago
haha we kinda do like miniature gifts dont we?
rb8liveitup 4 months ago
Why would you kill such a beautiful name by saying ur called MJ ?
NexisFilms 4 months ago
just wacked off 2 this
bakvarnyu 4 months ago
Aren't cupcakes already teeny cakes?
Scorptilicus 5 months ago
Well said, that woman. There are a lot of good points in this video.
ibookboyuk 5 months ago
Wow, I wish my last two girlfriends would have listened to this. Why do some women have such a strong need to be so controling and critical.
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Anyone who disagrees with you on this is a moron! Good stuff!
StratMatt777 7 months ago
marijuanaa!!!
PZPism 8 months ago
I really liked how she put things. I totally agree.
erickamorganwtf 8 months ago
Still talking about that foolish old custom?
barnabyfraser 9 months ago
She is hooooooooot, I´d loved to try that relationship with her at any time! Christ!
alien30071954 11 months ago
dammit... out of my focus... most of the time looking at her chest and dreaming... must rewind every time....
hafiz799 1 year ago
waiting for how to f... a woman video :D
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“Love is always patient and kind; it is never jealous, love is never boastful or conceited; it is never rude or selfish; it does not take offense, and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other people’s sins but delights in the truth; it is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes. Love does not come to an end.”
ZXavier88Z 1 year ago
Love your very upbuilding style...it is very much needed in today's relationships! :o)
PeaceandLove273 1 year ago
Shes HOttt......~
okaru100 1 year ago
ur building up something in my pants, and i wanna tear down something in ur pants. :P lolololololol.
webguy943 1 year ago
How to love a woman? love - make it a conscious and unconditional choice - not an accident. Once people realize that we don't fall in or out of anything then they take responsibility for their actions and all the small pieces come together like a charm. When its conscious and deliberate we give unconditionally and vice versa. Your band-aid step forward will never take root unless it a natural process based upon the correct foundation. Conscious decision first and foremost. Good luck.
QuesoChino 1 year ago 2
they dont like tiny dicks
freak5774 1 year ago
im goin 4 a cup cake. hope tat works. m just tryin to impress a girl whom i love bt damn shes nly interested in studies :) :P >>>>>>>
ny help cutie
anurajms 1 year ago
I think this girl is really honest and cute too.
MrJustin2rue 1 year ago
You talk shit like all women do.
ThePhillips369 1 year ago
thanks! i think me and my girlfriend are harpies and we better try to change that. Probably easier said than done but cant hurt to try. And thanks for the miniature things idea!!! I've gotta try it. You are a great person, bye
dancingjim 1 year ago
Women dont want guys to be nice to them and treat them like this, Females hate ncie guys...
The saying "nice guys finish last" is truth.
wrathofcell 1 year ago
@wrathofcell not true bro...
jnthnnixon 11 months ago
What's so weird is that it's so easy to hurt someone . . .
but it's so damn hard to have a positive impact on people.
If you give positive reinforcement . . . people see through that and feel manipulated.
If you give good advice . . . people feel condescended to and pushed around.
If you fake compliments or excitement . . . that is nice, but not as nice as the real thing.
I AGREE with you about doing the little things. Because they can mean the world to her.
ReliableInsider 1 year ago
@ReliableInsider
Maybe the way is to
1. decide whether or not you -truly- want to be with her, and then, if you do, then
2. LISTEN to every syllable. Listen to every idea expressed. Ponder. Respond. Listen some more.
3. And then, when she achieves things, wins an award, gets a project done, even vacuuming the house . . .
applaud.
High five.
Men -know- how to get really excited and express genuine admiration. They do it EVERY SINGLE TIME THEY WATCH SPORTS.
So, men of earth, do that!
ReliableInsider 1 year ago
how to love a man:
1) Make him a sandwich.
2) Suck his dick
3) don't talk too much.
Right now you are not doing any of it, especially #3
MRburitz 1 year ago
@MRburitz hahaha ha hah ha ha ha
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AaliyahLadonna 1 year ago
I like these points:
1) Be an appreciator, not a "harpie" -- are you? if not, find small ways to say, "thank you" and compliment her -- in writing!
2) "Celebrate the little things."
Thank you MJ.
SingingNightHawk 1 year ago
It's a real shit... The love is coming from your soul not for a "love doctor", if you LOVE a person, intuition tells you what to do....
Sorry for my bad english...
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Thank you.. It's nice to hear it from the 'woman' side as we don't talk about this kind of stuff that much..
And yea.. Gonna buy some miniature stuff and give it to one lucky woman next time.. haha..
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primemush 1 year ago
Hey, I have been married for a little over a year now and my wife is amazing, I love her so much! I just started watching some of your videos a few days ago because I was looking for kindle reviews and yours popped up. You make a lot of good points in this video and I think it is good advise so keep it up! sometime when i get a camera I will start vloging but not yet. Have a good day!
cjmiles2 1 year ago
Just bloody get to it. lol
ayd1nmo 1 year ago
hahahah oh... lovely..
Dlaeoqls 1 year ago
this is so true! you are so awesome! :D from experience, I know for a fact that I can't be at my best if I'm being torn down by my significant other. With that being said, if I do something that turns out to be over-the-top-excellent, I get the most amazing compliments from that significant someone. If I'm messing up, the mistake will be "ran in the ground" by that someone, TOWARD ME to make me remember "HEY, I'M NOT SUPPOSED TO MESS UP LIKE THAT!" I remember it the next time before I mess up!
tiffsoglam 1 year ago
Melissa,
This is awesome! I've heard 'experts' who didn't come close to the insight and understanding that you've sharing here. Amazing!
Michael
murphy903 1 year ago
I gonna try it! thx.
djolebos 2 years ago
Fantastic and true, very wise and its cool how you do this through both perspectives man and woman...
krosario3 2 years ago
wise beyond her years, going to make some guy very happy i think
Sinjin90 2 years ago
You are right, if only all women and men could could let the guard down and open up :)
Superbly saind, thank you !!
elbatimisoara 2 years ago
well said. I find in my relationships that the first 6 months are amazing...then i get really bored. I feel like I am going to be single forever because of that...perhaps thats not such a bad thing...but as I get older, the more desirable childless women become more and more infrequent. Life can be a bummer :-)
Freemasonry 2 years ago
Little Helpful comments such as these, are what make the world a better place.
Thanks for your knowledgeable input.
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i want to fuck you so bad. can you bend over for me while i hammer you from behind??
lkmno432 2 years ago
"OH yes give me your address and phone numbers so I can locate you and fuck the hell out of you even though I have never seen your face before!"
Is that the kind of response you are expecting from her. lol
Castropher 2 years ago 2
you are, without a doubt, the most beautiful girl I've ever seen...ever. Both on the outside and on the inside.
scvman992000 2 years ago
lol not hate mail...w/e
loved your video good tips thank you
bighalo2 2 years ago
this should title "how men have to 'treat' American women". Marry a Japanese girl, you don't have to worry about any of these 'Technics' as long as she know you love her and she will treat you like a king.
cultech 2 years ago
hmm.. i can say that i don't know how to tackle a girl heart ^^.
l33mu5t 2 years ago
Ironically, I actually have a neck fetish...especially when a woman's wearing the right necklace. Strange.
EvisceratorBand 2 years ago
daam man if that my girlfriend i will be married today
000iraqialia1 2 years ago
You are too cute!
mignonhenne 2 years ago
Lets Get Small
Klattu 2 years ago
I found this even better with the sound off and pink floyd on the pod...
Renvent 2 years ago
My problem is i have ADHD and i cant control it, and use marijuana to suppress it. Thats why i stay single
diasflac182000 2 years ago
why dont you use medicaments? i know a guy he is so... confused he says when he don´t take his medicin. what ever he is a psycho. just look for medicine. it works
SalahCreations 2 years ago
I hope to meet a girl that looks like her. Yes i am shallow but she is frigging gorgeous. And is it really shallow to want to be with an attractive female since the reason i want that is beacuse i want my children to have those type of genetics which is a completely not superficial reason.
wompier 2 years ago
thank you it is real help me
aye1980 2 years ago
outstanding!! i'll apply this to my 1.5 year relationship!!
jgross547 2 years ago
Well done! Very easy and refreshing to listen to. I hope you influence many many more people in such a positive way.
TheMrBrown 2 years ago
i got a question ok um if u like inlove with her and u never saw heron camera and she maybe find reeasions for camera for pictures for anythig so how do iknow if she loves me or not if sh dose that to me like finding reasions oh this and that i dont have time it dosent work i dont have it bla bla uknwo so i whantto know what do u tihk she will feel about me like dose she really love me or she just playing with me aroung or maybe she find other one so can u please tell me how this gose message me
rrustem5 2 years ago
Hey MJ,
Being a supportive, loyal and devoted man isn't in the best interests of men anymore because so many women are absolute whores nowadays that they don't deserve to be treated as anything more. Present company excluded, of course.
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iL0v3u43v3r 2 years ago
that was really great! ur so positive! thx for this vid too!^^
sintaeyong 2 years ago
I totally agree with you. A relationship is a symbiotic thing. Each supports the other and you both should grow and build upon each other with your interactions.
MistaMagic52 2 years ago
Do more advise!!!!!! I am having hard time with my gf and I want things to be normal. I think she is over reacting. I wont say it to her, but she is way over reacting. :D
syedathermasood 2 years ago 2
Over react back at her by killing her. Try it, i promise .
nu407 2 years ago
Hi this is my first time watching a video from you..
thank you.. you just made me realize a lot of good things..my husband saw the video and he did all those things to me i love it.. i was super happy about it.. thank again and please keep giving advice..
reynafc7 2 years ago
HEY Brechtian theater!!!! Love it! Keep it up (I know you will).
Also, thank you for reasoning manipulation tactics out of my arsenal! I was totally thinking of going the femme fatale route (Though I do love(envy) those damn film noirs.) I'm trying to keep myself within the "understanding, love, and fun" realm and this helped me apply it to where the man hating riot GRRRl in me.
Hata over and out!
filmNdestroy 2 years ago
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filmNdestroy 2 years ago
was i the only person that cried a little? im definately with a tearer downer. thank you for this video!
chopchewey 2 years ago
Good Vlog!
& im not sure if anyone already said it..but:
Brooks & Dunn - Put A Girl In It :)
p.s.- your cute!
Murph131 2 years ago
MJ thanks for the update... My wife and I have Celebrated 34th Anniversary last month and yes it is great. You definitely have some great info in this message.. Thanks CSR.
ColoradoSpringsRandy 2 years ago
I love you, MJ! Always nice to see your cute self. xD
dark420bishop 2 years ago
mj 4 president!
monsterminds2 2 years ago
thank you
stealthgerm 3 years ago
Aren't you ever going to address Prop 8? You're a Californian, we need your insight.
GlanceofGlory 3 years ago
Miss you!
nazr14 3 years ago
MJ!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
u been away too long :(
pimpinnevaslipin 3 years ago
i think you would sound damn good singing that song darlin'
cowboy39 3 years ago
I found this video to be light and fluffy...In the build em up tear em down war zone that goes on from time to time in relationships....there is too much fraternizing with the enemy....but that is the best part.....Unconditional love needs aceptance of a partner as they are not a need to see and expect change to feel validated
D169 3 years ago
I got this book about being gay and how to find a partner. It tells me how I should and how other s see me and how that effects who is attracted to me, that sort of thing. You did a great video I will try to share it.
bluelaugh07 3 years ago
So you agree that women should have to pay for their part of the dinner then?
TheAceManHimself 3 years ago
The reminder is really cool that little things mean a lot, a reminder that your most significant other is exactly that and not being taken for granted. I also agree that gender really shouldn't be applied but I understand that's your perspective. Guys also like to be reminded, not just the girls.
StraightShooter01 3 years ago
I agree with much of what you said, but I don't understand why you apply gender to it. I've known men who were caring, supportive and nurturing as well as those who were "harpies".
Your advice would be equally applicable to any relationship between people, regardless of gender.
IslandHermit 3 years ago
Overbearing/toxic political views aside, you are still insanely cute & you'll make someone a great partner. Fair vid- generally fluffy. Pretty obvious stuff MJ.
-Best Wishes
zombie1127 3 years ago
Hello MJ. Thanks for coming back, and I love this new direction you're taking. Fab! Best wishes -
audadvnc 3 years ago
Thank you so much for your advice in dealing with girls?...women. Anyways it helps me alot. Keep up with the great videos. Kris
KristoferBeck 3 years ago
Killer vlog MJ hope to see more inspirational messages about life from you again soon, they should give you your own segment on Dr Phil/Oprah, your totally going places and breaking through the proverbial glass celing
bjleach1983 3 years ago
It has been a while. It's great to see you again, interesting video.
prevna 3 years ago
Good to be reminded of things that would make my girlfriend happier. I'll keep that in mind.
hpeterji 3 years ago
It is so great to see you again. And what a great way to make your comeback.
I am fortunate enough to have a fantastic relationship with my wife, despite the fact that we are going through some rough times right now. We are celebrating our first wedding anniversary tomorrow.
LifesAMoshpit 3 years ago
you have some good ideas here. i don't know if most guys could keep their attention span this long though.
stalkher 3 years ago
it wasn't easy. No slight intended, just sayin.
zombie1127 3 years ago
small mini gifts......got it......thank you love doc!
mojohere 3 years ago
yea haven't seen ya in a while, good advice
rmassie11 3 years ago
beautiful.
thenakedsociety 3 years ago
awesome vids as always, nice to see you posting again
n33daname 3 years ago
so good seeing you again!
i love how you managed to use the perfect words for this, seriously. us girls aren't that complicated after all haha
tiny things are awesome!!
speedyconkiwi 3 years ago
Looks like you need more sleep.
deanlowe 3 years ago
SO
DO
I
ItsDanQuayle 3 years ago
It's is always interesting to hear women give advice about women. No offense MJ, but I leave women in the realm of the world's greatest mysteries.
BlackJavaBean 3 years ago
I'm naturally a person who takes care of people. A nurturer. If that makes sense...
alliteration1247 3 years ago
lmao your mom btw great video.
1happiness 3 years ago
This was pretty amazing,
Been watching you almost since you started out.
Glad to see you're back.
And yes you should continue more on the subject!
cloud2remblai 3 years ago
Gorgeous and intelligent.
Dangerman5 3 years ago
LMAO, motivational lifeforce xD i like tiny things, they are cute!! ^^ you're so right!
o.0..
musikfoalife 3 years ago
I like tiny things too..
And what ever I do, girl that intresst me will never like me.. thats life.
Lawasoft 3 years ago
I don't know, people are so complex even the division between men and women doesn't always define very much. Some of my female friends take relatively "masculine" roles in their relationships. Guys are needy and sensitive like women, I know girls who think they're boyfriends are "over-reacting" or women who rely on a sensitive guy to keep them centered. I think maybe on the whole your advice is good but people who argue like that seem unbearable, maybe they need alone time.
GlanceofGlory 3 years ago
2:48 is my favorite
xdrakx 3 years ago
You Look Good, Obviously. And Thanks for not talking about Politics. Muah xox.
:P
OrangeOrnage 3 years ago
Awesome advice!! Listen up all men!! Hehe!!
kimmyrandall7 3 years ago
Hmm tits... bed. Why are we having this conversation bed here anyway?Good thing we have that Palin face there on commercials. Ok my mom, nothing is going to happen is it? Ok, bye.
dsi3 3 years ago
"I tried filming this before and it was 8 minutes"
that's ok, this version was only 8:50 :p but I loved it anyways. I agree with you completely. You give good advice.
Maniac742 3 years ago
I dont know about you, but the only thing my girlfirends loved was me paying their bills.
Drav1212 3 years ago
you are single right??????
Drav1212 3 years ago
my gf just broke up with me when watching this):
Kaneknife 3 years ago
has anyone understand what she is saying????
Drav1212 3 years ago
I did not realize that you were such an expert in regards to the sexes.
Drav1212 3 years ago
Great vid MJ these relationship thingy's keep me pondering too but I find that many women can't speak openly about there emotions or what they actually want from a relationship or life in general indifferent who it is and that's a shame. Not the least for themselves.
fredhasfled 3 years ago
Hi MJ. You are looking Gorgeous and what type of tiny cupcakes do you like. : )
starship333 3 years ago
Hi Melissa
It is a good to see you for a long time on you tube. The advice is good on relastionships.
and hope to see you soon.
mike
miike111 3 years ago
I like to be reminded of stuff like this... sometimes if you go through the motions... you really aren't expressing yourself to the fullest, and thus aren't contributing all you can to the relationship.
However, there seems to be this balance... that men have to obtain... being caring, but not 'too emotional', being strong and big, but not 'overly muscular', blabhalha. Sometimes being selfish, and a bit eccentric is the only route to take, and finding someone who is just as independent as you
ShaneM686 3 years ago
and to continue....
Being selfish in a way... like you said, that contributes to the overall satisfaction of the relationship too.
E.G. I would like a girl to always keep herself in good shape. I would never want to be a nagger to get her to do it. She has to be selfish in this pursuit(as it is the only way it will stay a habit forever) to keep both of us happy. She keeps her body looking good, she has her own satisfaction from it. I compliment her all the time, sex is great:) etc.
ShaneM686 3 years ago
you are so talking out of your ass. What the eff is wrong with you? I don't even know why I subscribed to you in the first place.
BLuEsHayZee 3 years ago
that vid was georgeous, Melissa
ogier1 3 years ago
Oh what the hell :D, what a strange episode. Well actually it's not the content, but the reason why you did it.
But I should keep this issue with tiny things in mind :P
ersechzig 3 years ago
This was kind of convoluted and I'm not really sure what the point was. It always seemed to me that in general women are only happy if they have something to complain about. Complaining is like their oxygen or something? In general.
alienzen 3 years ago
The details and little things always matter.
appeals2me 3 years ago
i try to be myself all the time but i have been torn down a lot in the past and that leaves me paranoid and less trusting towards men!
winniegal2007 3 years ago
After 17 years of marriage it feels kind of artificial (and requires a lot of effort, rather than coming naturally like it once did) to treat somebody the way you did when you first met. Maybe there's a few couples that still feel about each other 20 years later the same way they did at the beginning and have just forgotten how to express it, but mostly I think feelings change, and trying to simulate the old feelings is a painful and forced process.
DClaudeKatz 3 years ago
Hey Melissa, nice to see you again.
All of this is, of course, predicated on the assumption that a "relationship" is the desired state of affairs. Typically, when I start hearing the "R" word, she's seeing my tail lights!
paul20072007 3 years ago
I suppose women's fondness for miniature things might have to do (in an evolutionary context) with their role in being the initial care providers for miniature human beings.
DClaudeKatz 3 years ago
Hey Dr.Jenna....what tips on long distance relationships??
Also...if you folded the tiny letter and put it in the cup cake....wouldn't she accidently eat the letter?
lol
MrJoe53 3 years ago
GREAT to see you again!
I really wish you you would post more often.
Wondering if there is a connection between the phenomenon of which you speak that "women like miniature things" and the fact that men have pride in the self proclaim largeness of what more often then not is a miniature thing...
channeIreview 3 years ago
I know, I HATE tearer-downers. Thats just weakness when people do that.
zndprophet 3 years ago
It was all ok, until it became all fault of men. Take responsibility for you're own mind and mood. FAIL.
maxrampertshammer 3 years ago
Nice to hear from you Melissa, if i ever complimented my (now ex) girlfriend by saying she looks nice in that new dress or new top etc... she would always reply " so i dont usually look good" then be in a mood all day. Everybody is different i guess :)
Andrewwalker121 3 years ago
I find it disturbing that you are essentializing men and women in this way. It's not natural - it's society and social pressure that makes women nurturing and men protective. Why can't we recognize caring men? Or women who want to behave in more masculine ways?
And the secret to having a good relationship: Don't score points. It's simple.
misterstogy 3 years ago
what a great stimulus, listening to an intelligent lady speaking
nt0xik8ed 3 years ago
who are you? When did I subscribe to this nonsense? well, I can fix that....
DarkDennis1961 3 years ago
MelissaJenna! I'd never heard of a Terror Downer before! That's awesome! :)
MaywitherDragon 3 years ago
you can try the HQ quality next time, Mel, or even better, HD quality <3 33:33
SaraPaIin 3 years ago
(the audio bit rate might be too low, try 192 bps or 256 bps next time, lol)
SaraPaIin 3 years ago
Great Stuff MJ!
tiny cupcakes are also cheaper...
JXintheZ 3 years ago
i'm a bringer uper.. hehe.. i would never put anyone down.. but hey.. thats just me.. probably the way i was raised.. =)
gotta love the MN niceness (inside joke) lol
onomatopoeia162003 3 years ago
MJ,
Haven't caught your v blogging in a while. Christ shines through your message. I pray He is blessing you and you are at peace. Great relationship advice by the way.
jeffpayne170 3 years ago
Great video!! I loved it. Relationships will never be perfect but I guess it takes the extra effort to make it work.
amuhaya 3 years ago
how much better are you doing financially now that Obama has been elected? Amazing what this guy can do, right? You were right to drink the kool-aid.
mattrmc19 3 years ago
Great video Melissa, I would and am sure many others would like to see more videos from the love Dr. maybe one regarding 'does that fine young lady fancy me or is she just real friendly and sweet' for us guys who are totally blind to it.
Cheers.
ZacsEpicEphemera 3 years ago
You have two first names! High five!
DeimosEclipse 3 years ago
You're AMAZING! Too good to be true. :)
UpstatePolitician 3 years ago
so true what uo say. It is sad to see so many couples belittle each other in public. I can only imagine how they treat each other in private. Sad.
kathie1213 3 years ago
We have missed you! Your smile always brightens my day! Have a great day! Big HUGS!
jfresch 3 years ago
Decent advice. (5 stars!) Too bad that the men that probably need this advice the most won't care enough to hear it.
faething 3 years ago
Yay welcome back we all missed you. Are you ever gonna do blogtv again?
Leathal752 3 years ago
This is awesome Melissa. Thanks so much for your insights. I love examining life and its quirky details. Great to see your outlook and a womans point of view. Also you are looking wonderful as usual. Keep up the good work and deep thinking!
CAlex6977 3 years ago
i try really hard to be the motivational force...
i realyl like this vid. :]
LiLolME 3 years ago
Thank you!
I try hard too, but I do my best when motivated to be that way. :)
MelissaJenna 3 years ago
being motivated is best but it is a rarity to have that happen.
LiLolME 3 years ago
Melissa? a harpie?
watever, i dont even believe u!
ur way 2 sweet 2 b anything close 2 a harpie!?
wingsofdivinity 3 years ago
don't sound to confident with that question mark.
gimlic 3 years ago
Great video!! I hope you haven't been referred to as "the old ball and chain" hahaha. Take care. =)
MG83695 3 years ago
Not yet, but I try really hard never to be that way.
MelissaJenna 3 years ago
Great video! Very true. :)
The tiny cupcakes with a tiny note idea is cute!
Christi543 3 years ago
Aw this is so true. I'm definately the first thing you described, a "builder upper" :)
ohohmammamia 3 years ago
Christ, you look fucking gorgeous.
I want to jump on that bed with you and ravage your hot body.
By the way, you made some good points in this video.
p.s. I'm one of those men who has been treated like shit by women so I'm jaded and bitter as hell and I try to treat them even worse :-D
p.p.s I'm not buying you a fucking thing :-D
emulator900 3 years ago
Your back; yay!
Interesting vlog topic, I can relate a lot of the stuff to the dynamic between my mom and dad.
HeyJeremyC 3 years ago
Wow, great video. I miss you much! Very glad you're back.
stevem1264 3 years ago
Thanks so much!
MelissaJenna 3 years ago