I would say any woman who puts money before relationships and basically sale themselves for the enjoyment of their company. Are worthless I want a woman who does not care about my paycheck. First for a real non materialistic relationship people need to give up the Idea of living together. If you live together then no doubt how much you make is going to matter. 2 real love is not money nor is it titles. A person who puts money and titles first is not in love.
Men with no money = worthless....yeah, if you're a prostitute!
Women with a such a strong sense of entitlement are absolutely vile to me. I only have to see a hint of this behaviour and I'll drop her in an instant.
Ladies if you really desire to be married make yourself available, smile with style, be approachable, good grooming, sometime you have to make the first move by aleast greeting than looking mean. Yes! Your greeting with smile will open a man's good heart. Is a secret kept from women for ages. Women of the bible and other holy books used greeting to attract a potential suitor to court them for marriage. And this include strangers. Only when you sight that man in the right place. No clubs
The problem with most black women they lack spiritual information of what marriage is all about. Marriage is a covenant b/w two people so to have a blessed marriage and all the money you long for then look for a man of integrity who will keep the terms of that covenant. Ladies the secret is look for that "NICE" man. 90% of the time he will keep the terms of the covenant. Check out for my book Smart Women Marry Nice Men.
Money should not be the main focus in chosing a potential mate. 99% of wealthy men got married when they were nobody. In fact some struggled for years before making it big with the right woman around. Do not marry already made man b/c he will never love. A man will love and cherrish you more b/c you were there when he was no body and was there to cheer him up. So the best age for a woman to get locked in with her millionaire husband is under 25 years of age. 30 n up time has run out on you.
women can keep dating and marrying men with "money" because they are boring and plain while a regular guy like a pool boy can have sex with your wife while you are at work thinking she loves you. the money gets old, but excitement and pure gun never does.
Of course men without money have worth. Just so long as he's progressive--is financially self sufficient and is working towards goals that are constructive.
@StraytRayzorSymphony Ehm , bad example? Jesus died a virgin. Unless the bible forgot to mention he had a girlfriend or a wife. Which seems improbable since the bible provides pretty detailed info on major stages of Jesus' life. So implying that jesus is the best example for proving that woman are attracted to have serious emotional+sexual relationships based on other stuff than money, is a little off.
@TonyaTKO Yep, take money out of it and : men with no true self-esteem = worthless. great vid
@TonyaTko you also hit the center of men with money I try to teach women that men that have all women coming for them with status he controls your outcome you have to chase him! Some if not a lot of women hate truth. Thus Society has reversed, mixed up, and rearranged the bascis, making people basic. I feel basic people are ones who don't know the basics but are advance in excuses. Fall for somebody for who they are not what they have. I see why you have tko you knock this out the park!
@TonyaTko you are welcome. A lot are into instant gratification(which is bad) these days which explains where their minds are. If they rush to look at a title and assume, imagine how they are to people that don't fit their WANTS over needs smh...
@TonyaTko This is how women get men powered up. This is how family gets build. I love how you really dove deep into upbringing, and the REAL worth of men. You really broke it down you was real deep into what the measure of a man is! Not based on M.E.D.I.A constructs
M.ulti E.thnic D.estruction I.n A.merica
Politically correct is not so correct anymore. Seeing where our world is heading.
I love this video! You touched on it all and did real well. You speak on things in depth as I do.
(con't) You were honest, thoughtful and sincere and I truly hope that people will stop, look and really listen to what you are saying! I can't tell you how much I appreciate hearing your words and feeling the warmth of your personality. Please don't let the shallow, ignorant and uninformed reactionaries change you or your style. Judging from some of these comments, many people just don't know how to pay attention or they may be grown up "crack babies" or something. Anyway many failed miserably!
Hello Tonya, many of the people who had the nerve to make an off the cuff comment, ONLY read the title. I myself was thrown by the title, but your lovely persona, and calm sensuous voice held my attention all of the way through your production. I am very happy to know that there are people like yourself, who can express the many dynamics involve in such a complex and controversial group of topics. You covered many of the inter dynamics of the black experience in America
I respect what u sayin 6ut shorten the videos....... If a women is real da money dat her man makes won't matter 6ut there are not a lot of women like dat cause most women (not all women) dat go wit a man dat is tryna 6etta himself 6ut has no mula she would take a nicca wit money asap
To receive love, you have to offer something of value to someone. It could be something as simple as appearance or humor but usually it's money. I find a direct correlation in my life between how much money I have and how much I am "loved." When I am successful and doing well, I am admired, respected, and loved. But when I have little to no money, I am seen as virtually worthless even to my own parents and family. I am talked down to like a waste of oxygen. It's kind of sad really...
@Bristecom Exactly I know just how you feel. When I was on top and was making a lot of money everyone loved me, girls would adore me and throw themselves at me and it was wonderful, I couldn't believe how friendly they were and how come they were asking me for my number, and asking me out, and how easily I could have sex. But as soon as I lost my job, women are no longer attracted to me, my family treats me like shit, everyone looks and talks down on me, treats me like I'm inferior and it sucks
@zylone you can be as nice as you want most women want money and good looks or one or the other. the small percentage of good women value the good men but their are also a lot of bad men. it goes both ways. thats another reason some men manipulate and exploit some women because of how they were treated by them when they had no money.
@zylone an educated woman will love an educated man with or without money thats why its good to appreciate a woman who is their for you when you have no money but treat her right so you won't have any problems.
@Bristecom I hate to say it but this bitch is actually right about some of the things she talks about. Now that I can finally see the truth for what it is, I'll no longer go with women who have little to nothing to offer me. I will not spend a dime on a woman who will not spend a dime on me, nor will I take care of a woman for a year or two if she wouldn't do the same thing for me. Truth is everything has to be equal, but in different ways. WOMEN NEED TO HAVE MORE THAN ONE THING TO OFFER US MEN
While I can see your point that girls "need" father figures to validate their beauty and self worth in the eyes of men, I still think that things should be different. We have a society based on a male-dominated view that women should appeal to men for validation of their self-worth. In my opinion, this is FAR from what should be happening. It is this very dynamic that keeps women distracted with a mirror while the world goes to sh*t. Women need to look to themselves.
I can tell you right now that I have no money, because I'm trying to look for a better job while I go to school, pay for my car, Insurance and other things. It's hard at the moment. I want to go to the gym to work-out and start dating too. But I've got goals. If the relationship goes further, Inflicting harm upon my goals, that's where I cross the line.
Yep thats why the White Woman has most of the Black men. They will catch them when they have NOTHING and help them build, their family will help them. Then when black women see them RICH they get pissed. I know the real deal. POTENTIAL, Commitment, Energy everyone does not stay at the bottom. you have to be able to RECOGNIZE opportunities. So i cannot answer this question it just depends on a lot of stuff.
@WonderWomanFan4life Never bothered to watch the video eh? I can tell from your response. Not only that, but all of the information you provided in your post is Incorrect. Only 4% of the marriages in this country are interracial. Men are not generally looking for women to 'help them build' themselves up . Only an irresponsible loser is looking for someone to wallow in squalor with them. And Nothing that you talked about is a premise for this video. You should probably watch & Then comment
click the make money tab. then click the become a boss link. This is a job as a agent you hire all the females you want. they work for you. You get 42% but its up to you how much you will pay them. The site get tons of traffic. So if you don't want the legal hassle but you wanna make money in porn go there.
This world is so money focused it is sickening. I was once very well off and lived in a great nieghbourhood, now I don't have a dollar or a pound in the UK to my name. I still would'nt trade my life for anyone else's becuase then I wouldn't have had my family,and my family is worth more than any monetary value.
I totally agree. Napolean Hill talks about this in Think and Grow Rich. The only reason why men are bitching about having to provide tangible substantial results to the relationship (money), is that it requires their courage, confidence, self-control, patience, and perservance and most men have none. They are bitch-made. Instead they want a sexy fly bitch to love their broke ass...aka entangle a woman in emotional bullshit. We know the game. Make some danm money nuccas. Nothing is free.
You know what...I really appreciate your passion on these subjects. And I am very proud of your weight loss. Keep up the good work. I feel like many can learn and be blessed by your honesty. May we as women soar to greater heights. Be blessed.
One more thing before I call it a night..I thought it was real cute to watch u get tickled with what you were saying..Certain segments you'd laugh about men ejaculating/dildos/tantric sex/ or women giving up their bodies..showed that even u can laugh at yourself. I can only imagine what you were thinking at the time. U made my night, Queen..1love
Ok,let me first say that I had to watch this vid 2ice.Cuz I was so focused on that beautiful brown skin you're in.Omg! the flower,the smile,and the voice. I sense some east coast. Anyways, well done video Tonya. I applaud you for exploring deeper of what one's worth consists.We unfortunately live in times where we fall victim to validating ourselves through materialism. When we should be more focused/intrigued by the contents of one's character..good job, hun
@TonyaTko Actually I watched the entire video before commenting. What I was getting at is that worth and value of a human being cannot be determined by another human being nor oneself. You are what you are created to be. Knowing yourself is to accept what you are to be. It is what it is. Thanks for responding though...
You know it's sad to see my people like this. What happened to women who wanted a Man that would stand up for what he believed in? Are you feeding into the illusion? I wonder. What is value? What is worth? Both are something no Man or Woman can define for themselves nor others. And money (which is worthless cause it's debt) can never do that neither. Tonya I see you're a vibrant spirit, but this is far from the Truth of the matter. Woman is Man's Spirit. Man is Woman's heart. Fantasy is a Lie
@TheKillamusiQ No, what is really a LIE is commenting on a video you didnt spend 1 minute to watch. I can tell you didnt watch, bcz in the first few moments I state that everyone has worth.
In closing I wanna say no one has right to judge by another what their wealth is actual worth i. If you're with that person ther're and not doing well, encourage them. Everyone needs push sometimes that what life teaches us and thats what make us and our relationships strong going through something together. It doesn't matter what type of household background he or she comes from, as adults we can all learn the right way and wrong way to love someone. enclosure love is all you need. from larenz
women don't need us to be secure. betty shabazz, coretta scott king, and michelle o'bama held their own why cant certain women do the same. For the record, real men are interested in your heart not whats between your legs. It's a shame that some women are to hung up on wealth and stereotypes to realize that. Personally if i had kids i wouldnt want them date others think i irrationally and prioritize other sex's like this
continued as a man myself who now is wealthy but went through financial termoil before know what is like to be overlooke in the relationship world. Going through that experience taught me the true colors of certain women and where their ambitions lie. For me trying to date it was degrading as single blackmale cause I was looked down on. Once I upgraded and became sucessful the table turned. Are u serious? that could be your sons, or brothers, with women with that outlook on them like that.
i think i speak for all real men when i say this is the worst pov example of a woman to whom not date or be involve with. Sexual energy has nothing to with the circumstance at hand. First a man's worth is not determined by his wealth but his heart, mind, and soul just as that of a woman. two yes money is important but is not the foundation. Love overseas all things and is the most important thing a relationship. If are together and encourage each other the rest will follow (continued)
We seek attributes in others that would make us feel good because we'd feel protected. We love our partner but what we actually mean is that we love the sensasion her company produces in ourselves. It's 'understandable' to be with someone because we feel 'protected'. But as also said, are by nature worth. People can feel protected by things that lay on the other person spirit, and that is great, because spirits are unique. DNA's that seek protection in money will find it on anyone's pocket.
WOW! 1/2 the comments I've read have not been ANYWHERE near as good as what you have said. That's bad, because I don't agree with what you say. Anyway, at least it was well-spoken. That's about all that can be asked of when arguing a point or making a statement.
What kind of man doesn't want to work and EARN, EARN, EARN money?!?!
God bless my father whom I seen get up and go earn money even when he was between jobs. God Bless my Grand Father who "IS" a share cropper in the south. They are my role models.
A good man is a man that can take care of his!!! Plan and simple. Don't get me wrong I don't think that the woman should do nothing, she needs to take care of her husband, kids, and family also. But equal incomes are great, but if one makes more money no big deal.
Preach Tonya! Droppin' science like always. A lot of guys with lot of money lack everything else because their world revolves around money only. True wealth cannot be held..but I think all women should aim for the kind of "wealth" that suits most their lifestyle and personnality.
There are people who learn how to upgrade their circle and their options as mates, in a financial way. Wow, nice idea. Men who help teach or mentor a young man into maturity are something that loves a younger man, his son, his nephew, someone he cares about. Some women like you help try to help young women become a LADY and be healthy and beautiful without making that the only worth in a woman. Thank You. If I could find an icon here to be bowing or clapping I would put that here.
this is an easy question to answer for the majority of women if you dont have any money as a man you better be bloody good in bed and have a knack for fixing things because if you dont have either of those things your out the door faster than yesterdays rubbish.
@executableapplet yes i know its very common, frankly women are doing very well for themselves becuase they have to. they really dont need men for anything really.
@Popadibs, well said: (some) people just want to believe what they want to believe. It's great we don't all think alike and there's something kinda lame about calling someone crazy just because they hold a different opinion.
IMO money is and should only be important in any relationship to ensure that food, shelter and clothing and basic needs are met. i think it is far more important for a man or woman to be bringing something besides money to a relationship or it is really just a sham. In reference to genitalia is basically meaningless in a long term relationship as both a man genitals and a woman figure both disappear there has to be a bond of spirit in any real relationship to make it a good one that lasts. :D
children i don't feel bring experience i feel children bring innocence and the beauty of humanity because they aren't tainted by the troubles of our lifestyle in these times. of course men and women are different as well physically and emotionally that doesn't mean greater or lesser. and i agree only a man can show a boy to be a man. you also need a woman to raise a girl into a woman. i think both genders have an important role in any child to be raised. TBC
Excellent video. Relationship dynamics, psychology and sociology/anthropology, in our culture, are great to have a knowledge of !!!
I love a man who is older and on disability here in Canada. I feel special and admired every second I am with him. I have never cared about money; emotional security in a relationship is paramount to me.
Block this Tonya: saying that all black women are crazy is false. However, you epitomize this statement with your reasoning. With this video you have proven to the world that there is not one shred of sanity in your mind.
@50belowhotdog I would need you to at least cite something about this video you disagreed with. Speaking of sanity... what would you say of a person who did no more than read a title, excluding punctuation, and begin to rant about a video based solely on 5 words without watching even 4 minutes of the video
@50belowhotdog, I'm going to have to agree with Tonya on this. An accusation, especially one where you question someone's sanity, requires an explanation. I'm curious to know what you think she said that would qualify her as crazy. How about you offer just one strong example? ... Somehow I doubt you will ;)
@CheezInspector I really hate accusations that can't be backed up with evidence but there are probably a lot of commonly held beliefs and/or personal beliefs people hold without having any real proof. Sometimes, I think people will just believe what they want to believe.
You have great points and I believe that sometimes Men are needed even if they do not have money but if you focus more on the title a person with no money cannot do anything in this world he won't be doing his part in the family and so but if a person believes that man has some worth then go on but you will notice that you will be the one doing all the work and not them its a hard topic to talk about but it this just ends with lots of conflicts
Malcolm X and Martin Luther king Jr were not millionaires. But their worth couldn't even be measured. What should matter more than money is character and what someone is willing to do to help others and make changes to society. On another note, men will often say that women who are only interested in rich men are bad/lazy people; however, they will view women who are unattractive as worthless. VANITY and MATERIALISM are equally wrong.
@makeupnewbie23 the blind cannot lead those in the dark. sometimes, in particular tonya, get so caught up in what they believe, anything you correct them on is wrong.
the VALUE of a man cannot be measured in dollars or status. a man is a man that is a man. it's the content of his character that determines how a relationship progresses. WE are the definitive of the rest of a woman's life. WE will take them where they will go. Their future depends on us AS MEN. DO NOT belittle a man.
@executableapplet rightfully so, a woman's worth can't be measured by how big her breasts are, how pretty her face is, how nice her shape is, but men do that everyday! If you don't want to be judged by superficial means (money), why would to judge others by superficial (vain) standards. I'm just tired of men complaining that women are/shouldn't be gold diggers and superficial/materialistic, but will turn around and judge women in a comparable manner. I will say that no one should do either.
@makeupnewbie23 they were millionaisre you know why because they have invested a whole lot of their time into people mainly black and latinos they were rich in knowledge rich doesn't necessary mean a whole lot of wealth that's the ignorance of people not you so don't take it personal just something to know we are all learning ok god bless sir/madam
@RandyJonesFilms I'm sorry but technically speaking they were far from millionaires. I was speaking on a more literal level. I get your point and all, but what I meant was that worth can not be a simple calculation of one's bank statement.
Money is a necessity, but I do believe that both men and women should know how to get along with each other when times are good and when times are bad; KNOW HOW TO ACT WHEN YOU HAVE PLENTY AND WHEN YOU'RE BROKE. Too many things can rob us of our wealth(talk about inflation!). I wouldn't want a female companion who couldn't adjust to not having much.
good video ms. i like the fact you were able to acknowledge everybody is worth something naturally. money isnt really a factor in a relationship to me if its based on real love but cause of this society we live in it brings a form of security. cause we also stay in a society where money gains resources thats needed & materials thats wanted folks tend to believe "one who doesnt get money aint nothing". i structure my relationships on the natural things & im old skoo so i belive men pose to work.
I know what to put stock into. Funny how you should say all that at the end of this video. I was just thinking yesterday about a great invention I was thinking about creating. But I don't know if I want to be know to the public for making those though. And being a christain I don't know how I could pull it and stay in good graces.
@tonyaTko do some research on the FEDERAL RESERVE then repost ur views on people with money. beleive it or not u do not know many men with money. fed notes are not money. when the dollar reach its complete fall . THEN WHAT! PHSYCHIC TRAUMA most negros in AMERIKKA have no sense of historical geographical reference and are therefore bank-rupt,MEMBERS OF A LARGE CLUB THAT HAS NO REMEDY, and no apologies. Holla back !
I think some people have an interpretation problem, just because somebody may treat a person a certain way it don't mean they think the person is worth nothing. Sometime a person can think the other person is worth more and the person in their mind thinks the other person thinks they are worth less.
You have alot of guys on youtube they act like the are all happy that they can get any woman they want anytime they want and just put on a good show. They when women come on youtube and say they want a man with money these same guys get all mad. The truth is these guys are not all that or they would not care what you all was telling women of the world. Talk about womens attitudes these guys are angry that women exist that don't want them due to a lack of funds.
@WildL23 A real player doesn't care WHAT you or ANYBODY tells women because they can get all the women regardless of WHAT ANYBODY tells them. These dudes having a heart attack over a youtube videos. Talking about they some kind of player or something. If there are women that exist that won't take you for lack of funds you don't come on youtube calling women bitches and hoes. Talking about they urinals. Urinals don't bother the big dogs.
I'm tired of people not being realistic when it comes to money. Almost every comment on here is saying 'don't think about money' or 'money isn't everything!' Well, it isn't everything and the LOVE for money (i.e. greed) leads to unhappiness. But if any of you say you'd rather be broke than rich I know you're a liar.
Unless you're a survivalist (which isn't a bad lifestyle) then you need to get real about this money issue. The rest of us NEED it to survive. And don't come at me with the Fed.
Reserve is coming down BS. This is the 'money' we're using right now so it is the one we're talking about. Love is great and all, but there ain't much happiness in a home when you're starving.
So let us all get on the same page: we ALL need money to survive.
Now, answer the questions honestly instead of this cliched BS.
Hmm...interestin' question,...if the man in the relationship just sittin' around moochin' offa his lady, he's a bum, he's worthless, but if a man is unemployed and his lady is the one 'bringin' home the bacon' but he decides on helpin' out with housework, lookin' into new business prospects, than that guy's got WORTH,.......not only are ya a BEAUTY you've also the BRAINS my sweet Tonya,...LMAO, when ya mention a guy's penis,...hehe....sendin' ya my thumbs up beautiful!!
i never based my worth by money, and would recommend men to avoid women that do. there are so many women out there for men to choose from. its not hard to find a like-minded woman. i swear its not!
I think women are shooting themselves in their own foot. unless they dont mind being career jump offs.
and girls want guys to respect them? If all your after is money dont expect to be treated with respect by your 'man', which will probably lead to infedelity and then hell..why dont women just make thier own money? or are womens brains really smaller
Respond to this video...TONYA im glad u brought up the fact that it takes a MAN to rasie a man and vice versa that is part of the problem in black male female relationships besides us bye into the whole battle of the sexes..... MONEY IS NOT THE ISSUE KNOWLEDGE OF SELF IS.
wtf happened to your glorious emancipation, women? Do YOU need men who pay for you? You want to be dependent on men again? This makes me reaaaaaaal mad!
@dyingiscool I'm sorry, but why do men complain about women who are independent, not submissive who want to be treated as equals then complain when a woman wants to be submissive and be taken care of. You can't have it both ways. If you want a housewife, then you need to be the PROVIDER. If you want someone who is independent, then you need to be ready to treat her as an EQUAL in the relationship and make decisions with her and not for her. What exactly do you want?
I almost avoided leaving a comment but here I go. I know that this was directed at men in relationships I agree with you I am a little better at concealing my brokeness by being cognizant by being very price savvy. I dont think I should get into a relationship right now, too costly.there are several women in my life who would like to settle down with me, but being broke is CHILDISH and i see that roadblock from a mile away Ive come accustomed to my freedom, and I dont want my next relasionship
to be burdened with that dynamic. I 26 and I tend to deal with women who are a little more mature..I've enlisted in the Military and I ship off soon, and since the time I announced my enlistment I've noticed a considerable jump in interest, even from ex-girlfriends..Lol I am a traditional watch dog/provider type male..so being broke is worrisome for me, but my intellect allows me to select females who fit my style. now when I say broke I dont mean NO MONEY..no I can survive with a little extra
to play with..but "in this economy" it is still hard to have any sort of social life, and I do feel, that considering the way I like to be treated in life, relationship, work, friendships, and family, it is necessary that I be free from the control of others, this doesnt mean that I would seek to control my partner I just like my veto button to be ever-ready...anyway that's enough from me.
I most say that money has know soul . And a lot of people have lost there soul to money . I believe that it is very important to learn how to handle money. As men that are God fearing and try to keep him in the centre of there relationship should know that we need to be a key player in the way handle our money . A man worth is on his personalty who he is, and he does an stand for . A man can be a house husband if the wife can deal with that . It is important to know your partner
Alright, Tonya, girl you needed an entrance with that beautiful blk dress accompanied by that bold red belt. Lovin' the red flower and neckless: work it!!! I know you had to think long and hard about this topic. I think we (male and female) have defined ourselves through things. So, when we don't have these things we feel like we don't have anything to offer. I can appreciate a man who can wither the storm and stand the test of time.
I'm curious about how some men react to this subject of money....if they believe in what the scriptures say or even looking back into our history, the man has always in most cases have been seen as the ones who are expected to be the providers and the protectors of their households. So why do men resent this topic so much? Also, do you feel that a man should expect for the woman to bring money to the table? Thank for being so eloquent & forgiving of all in the way you delivered this piece.
91% of relationships end over money. If your broke your childish? I think it's you that needs to examine ethic morals because money means zero except to women.
I would say the same, but the video isn't about women. I think Tonya chose to ask about MEN for a reason.
For me, I like financial security. If I know I have a place over my head and my utilities are paid, then I feel free (and happy) to do whatever I want, whether these experiences cost money or not. If a man comes into my life who is doing nothing (sitting at home on his PS3 or something) then I don't want him. I don't want him bumming off me and pissing me off by not doing any
@lavinder11 It's funny that what means freedom for you, could mean the exactly opposit for others. Yes, everyone needs a home, except for some free-spirits. What I don't like is that picture of women being machines only caring about financial security, so their romantic feelings at the very end always leads to financial issues.
housework. If I was with a man without a job, then he needs to have a damn hobby or something. If I see he does nothing but louse around then I will begin to resent his laziness. So I suppose money isn't it, it's more like ambition or motivation.
If you know you have nothing to offer me but 'love' with no substance, then don't even try to come at me. The same goes for me. A home full of love is nice, but a home with no money to thrive is a sad one.
@lavinder11 Some masters of painting were poor in life. Their pictures pictures didn't sell for millions til they were dead. And they were loved in life by women that appreciated his talent, passion and dedication to the art. Eventhough they could not provide them with financial security, a big house, etc. You say housework is work too, and I agree. But if a woman can choose housework, why not a man? In this century some men are proving they can be the parent that rises and takes care of kids.
... that's what I said in my comments. I don't want a man bumming off me, sitting at home playing his PS3. If he's doing housework then that's fine, as long as he's doing something.
Some people are fine with no money. I'm not. I could hobo it in Oregon for a few months but that's a vacation, not a lifestyle for me.
@Poetamo Many women, if not most women, want a man that is self sufficient, intelligent, appreciative, ambitious, etc. basically a man that is the exact opposite of themselves, remember, opposites attract. Also, keep in mind that men are more polygamous and women are more hypergamous.
I would say any woman who puts money before relationships and basically sale themselves for the enjoyment of their company. Are worthless I want a woman who does not care about my paycheck. First for a real non materialistic relationship people need to give up the Idea of living together. If you live together then no doubt how much you make is going to matter. 2 real love is not money nor is it titles. A person who puts money and titles first is not in love.
GamingandSocialfun 1 month ago
Men with no money = worthless....yeah, if you're a prostitute!
Women with a such a strong sense of entitlement are absolutely vile to me. I only have to see a hint of this behaviour and I'll drop her in an instant.
wadehjb 2 months ago
@wadehjb
She, like many women want a man to provide a lifestyle that they haven't worked for and earned for themselves. Yes that would make her a prostitute!
mrkjsmooth16 2 months ago
thinking about the negatives won't get you a good man. don't you ladies watch "tough love" on vh1. steve is right you know. ;)
zylone 2 months ago
Ladies if you really desire to be married make yourself available, smile with style, be approachable, good grooming, sometime you have to make the first move by aleast greeting than looking mean. Yes! Your greeting with smile will open a man's good heart. Is a secret kept from women for ages. Women of the bible and other holy books used greeting to attract a potential suitor to court them for marriage. And this include strangers. Only when you sight that man in the right place. No clubs
Dimmex1000 5 months ago
The problem with most black women they lack spiritual information of what marriage is all about. Marriage is a covenant b/w two people so to have a blessed marriage and all the money you long for then look for a man of integrity who will keep the terms of that covenant. Ladies the secret is look for that "NICE" man. 90% of the time he will keep the terms of the covenant. Check out for my book Smart Women Marry Nice Men.
Dimmex1000 5 months ago
Money should not be the main focus in chosing a potential mate. 99% of wealthy men got married when they were nobody. In fact some struggled for years before making it big with the right woman around. Do not marry already made man b/c he will never love. A man will love and cherrish you more b/c you were there when he was no body and was there to cheer him up. So the best age for a woman to get locked in with her millionaire husband is under 25 years of age. 30 n up time has run out on you.
Dimmex1000 5 months ago
People by virtue of their existence have worth. We attached value to money, not the other way around.
SanamLovesEssie60 6 months ago
if a woman can't hold you down when you going through some money issues you don't need her period.
jayden968 7 months ago 2
women can keep dating and marrying men with "money" because they are boring and plain while a regular guy like a pool boy can have sex with your wife while you are at work thinking she loves you. the money gets old, but excitement and pure gun never does.
TheShootTruth10 8 months ago
Of course men without money have worth. Just so long as he's progressive--is financially self sufficient and is working towards goals that are constructive.
transplantclub 9 months ago
short answer; HELL NAH! Jesus was as po' broke n lonely as they come,in the physical world, any way. Nuff said.
StraytRayzorSymphony 9 months ago
@StraytRayzorSymphony Ehm , bad example? Jesus died a virgin. Unless the bible forgot to mention he had a girlfriend or a wife. Which seems improbable since the bible provides pretty detailed info on major stages of Jesus' life. So implying that jesus is the best example for proving that woman are attracted to have serious emotional+sexual relationships based on other stuff than money, is a little off.
@TonyaTKO Yep, take money out of it and : men with no true self-esteem = worthless. great vid
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MrDevinfarrar 10 months ago
@TonyaTko you also hit the center of men with money I try to teach women that men that have all women coming for them with status he controls your outcome you have to chase him! Some if not a lot of women hate truth. Thus Society has reversed, mixed up, and rearranged the bascis, making people basic. I feel basic people are ones who don't know the basics but are advance in excuses. Fall for somebody for who they are not what they have. I see why you have tko you knock this out the park!
ShinIsTrue 10 months ago
@ShinIsTrue Thanks for your comments and for actually WATCHING the video.
-Tko
TonyaTko 10 months ago
@TonyaTko you are welcome. A lot are into instant gratification(which is bad) these days which explains where their minds are. If they rush to look at a title and assume, imagine how they are to people that don't fit their WANTS over needs smh...
Shin~
ShinIsTrue 10 months ago
@ShinIsTrue hmmmmnnnn.... great food for thought!
-Tko
TonyaTko 10 months ago
@ShinIsTrue I invite you to look at my latest video "Why Good Girls Like Bad Boys" and give me your feedback on it.
-Tko
TonyaTko 10 months ago
@TonyaTko All right I'll take a look at it.
Shin~
ShinIsTrue 10 months ago
@TonyaTko This is how women get men powered up. This is how family gets build. I love how you really dove deep into upbringing, and the REAL worth of men. You really broke it down you was real deep into what the measure of a man is! Not based on M.E.D.I.A constructs
M.ulti E.thnic D.estruction I.n A.merica
Politically correct is not so correct anymore. Seeing where our world is heading.
I love this video! You touched on it all and did real well. You speak on things in depth as I do.
ShinIsTrue 10 months ago
This is a silliest topic i have ever heard.
uzoma0024 10 months ago
(con't) You were honest, thoughtful and sincere and I truly hope that people will stop, look and really listen to what you are saying! I can't tell you how much I appreciate hearing your words and feeling the warmth of your personality. Please don't let the shallow, ignorant and uninformed reactionaries change you or your style. Judging from some of these comments, many people just don't know how to pay attention or they may be grown up "crack babies" or something. Anyway many failed miserably!
voicemel 11 months ago
Hello Tonya, many of the people who had the nerve to make an off the cuff comment, ONLY read the title. I myself was thrown by the title, but your lovely persona, and calm sensuous voice held my attention all of the way through your production. I am very happy to know that there are people like yourself, who can express the many dynamics involve in such a complex and controversial group of topics. You covered many of the inter dynamics of the black experience in America
voicemel 11 months ago
"men with no money = worthless" true words of a gold digger.
RedTeamSniper 1 year ago
Such a valuable video presentation.
capcom101you 1 year ago
I respect what u sayin 6ut shorten the videos....... If a women is real da money dat her man makes won't matter 6ut there are not a lot of women like dat cause most women (not all women) dat go wit a man dat is tryna 6etta himself 6ut has no mula she would take a nicca wit money asap
EddieCCanegetitin 1 year ago
To receive love, you have to offer something of value to someone. It could be something as simple as appearance or humor but usually it's money. I find a direct correlation in my life between how much money I have and how much I am "loved." When I am successful and doing well, I am admired, respected, and loved. But when I have little to no money, I am seen as virtually worthless even to my own parents and family. I am talked down to like a waste of oxygen. It's kind of sad really...
Bristecom 1 year ago 4
@Bristecom Exactly I know just how you feel. When I was on top and was making a lot of money everyone loved me, girls would adore me and throw themselves at me and it was wonderful, I couldn't believe how friendly they were and how come they were asking me for my number, and asking me out, and how easily I could have sex. But as soon as I lost my job, women are no longer attracted to me, my family treats me like shit, everyone looks and talks down on me, treats me like I'm inferior and it sucks
JaesinJei 3 months ago
@JaesinJei thats how it is. money shouldn't be the judge but money is so instilled in peoples mind.
zylone 2 months ago
@zylone you can be as nice as you want most women want money and good looks or one or the other. the small percentage of good women value the good men but their are also a lot of bad men. it goes both ways. thats another reason some men manipulate and exploit some women because of how they were treated by them when they had no money.
zylone 2 months ago
@zylone an educated woman will love an educated man with or without money thats why its good to appreciate a woman who is their for you when you have no money but treat her right so you won't have any problems.
zylone 2 months ago
@Bristecom I hate to say it but this bitch is actually right about some of the things she talks about. Now that I can finally see the truth for what it is, I'll no longer go with women who have little to nothing to offer me. I will not spend a dime on a woman who will not spend a dime on me, nor will I take care of a woman for a year or two if she wouldn't do the same thing for me. Truth is everything has to be equal, but in different ways. WOMEN NEED TO HAVE MORE THAN ONE THING TO OFFER US MEN
JaesinJei 3 months ago
Hello Tanya,
While I can see your point that girls "need" father figures to validate their beauty and self worth in the eyes of men, I still think that things should be different. We have a society based on a male-dominated view that women should appeal to men for validation of their self-worth. In my opinion, this is FAR from what should be happening. It is this very dynamic that keeps women distracted with a mirror while the world goes to sh*t. Women need to look to themselves.
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karleenkeyip0794 1 year ago
good to see you have fallen into the materialism that comes with capitalism. Ahhhhh America
monkey1506 1 year ago
I can tell you right now that I have no money, because I'm trying to look for a better job while I go to school, pay for my car, Insurance and other things. It's hard at the moment. I want to go to the gym to work-out and start dating too. But I've got goals. If the relationship goes further, Inflicting harm upon my goals, that's where I cross the line.
visionimagify 1 year ago
Yep thats why the White Woman has most of the Black men. They will catch them when they have NOTHING and help them build, their family will help them. Then when black women see them RICH they get pissed. I know the real deal. POTENTIAL, Commitment, Energy everyone does not stay at the bottom. you have to be able to RECOGNIZE opportunities. So i cannot answer this question it just depends on a lot of stuff.
WonderWomanFan4life 1 year ago
@WonderWomanFan4life Never bothered to watch the video eh? I can tell from your response. Not only that, but all of the information you provided in your post is Incorrect. Only 4% of the marriages in this country are interracial. Men are not generally looking for women to 'help them build' themselves up . Only an irresponsible loser is looking for someone to wallow in squalor with them. And Nothing that you talked about is a premise for this video. You should probably watch & Then comment
-Tko
TonyaTko 1 year ago 12
@WonderWomanFan4life Nooooooooooo that's not true remember bobby and whitley
RandyJonesFilms 1 year ago
@WonderWomanFan4life stfu
if you want a white women then get one
but dont blame it on black women being materialistic
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@aylix89
uhhhh I am a black woman.. duhhhhhhhhh....
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uplineunitedinc 1 year ago
This world is so money focused it is sickening. I was once very well off and lived in a great nieghbourhood, now I don't have a dollar or a pound in the UK to my name. I still would'nt trade my life for anyone else's becuase then I wouldn't have had my family,and my family is worth more than any monetary value.
ThePauldoddy1 1 year ago
I totally agree. Napolean Hill talks about this in Think and Grow Rich. The only reason why men are bitching about having to provide tangible substantial results to the relationship (money), is that it requires their courage, confidence, self-control, patience, and perservance and most men have none. They are bitch-made. Instead they want a sexy fly bitch to love their broke ass...aka entangle a woman in emotional bullshit. We know the game. Make some danm money nuccas. Nothing is free.
ayobeauty 1 year ago
@ayobeauty Ah, what? Whites are broke as well.
visionimagify 1 year ago
@visionimagify
Whites are wealthier statistically, nationally, and globally. Also, i never said "Black men" so why the need to say Whites are broke as well?
btw,google "who rules america-wealth, income, and power" and you'll see those stats.
ayobeauty 1 year ago
@ayobeauty Okay, then those things are a motivation to me. It won't stop me.
visionimagify 1 year ago
You know what...I really appreciate your passion on these subjects. And I am very proud of your weight loss. Keep up the good work. I feel like many can learn and be blessed by your honesty. May we as women soar to greater heights. Be blessed.
TexasDPL 1 year ago
You are so pretty I love your swag girl!
J-Dub!
jw90069 1 year ago
One more thing before I call it a night..I thought it was real cute to watch u get tickled with what you were saying..Certain segments you'd laugh about men ejaculating/dildos/tantric sex/ or women giving up their bodies..showed that even u can laugh at yourself. I can only imagine what you were thinking at the time. U made my night, Queen..1love
bigwhoa76 1 year ago
Ok,let me first say that I had to watch this vid 2ice.Cuz I was so focused on that beautiful brown skin you're in.Omg! the flower,the smile,and the voice. I sense some east coast. Anyways, well done video Tonya. I applaud you for exploring deeper of what one's worth consists.We unfortunately live in times where we fall victim to validating ourselves through materialism. When we should be more focused/intrigued by the contents of one's character..good job, hun
bigwhoa76 1 year ago
@bigwhoa76 Im glad you enjoyed the video
-Tko
TonyaTko 1 year ago
1:03-1:34..my response..What a bitch-ass!!! Are u serious?
bigwhoa76 1 year ago
God, you do crap on a bit...
But I think your channel is a positive force on You Tube.
Keep up the good work ; )
Clubfighter22 1 year ago
@TonyaTko Actually I watched the entire video before commenting. What I was getting at is that worth and value of a human being cannot be determined by another human being nor oneself. You are what you are created to be. Knowing yourself is to accept what you are to be. It is what it is. Thanks for responding though...
TheKillamusiQ 1 year ago
You know it's sad to see my people like this. What happened to women who wanted a Man that would stand up for what he believed in? Are you feeding into the illusion? I wonder. What is value? What is worth? Both are something no Man or Woman can define for themselves nor others. And money (which is worthless cause it's debt) can never do that neither. Tonya I see you're a vibrant spirit, but this is far from the Truth of the matter. Woman is Man's Spirit. Man is Woman's heart. Fantasy is a Lie
TheKillamusiQ 1 year ago
@TheKillamusiQ No, what is really a LIE is commenting on a video you didnt spend 1 minute to watch. I can tell you didnt watch, bcz in the first few moments I state that everyone has worth.
-Tko
TonyaTko 1 year ago
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TheKillamusiQ 1 year ago
Fat Ass Bitch.Not Losing Weight
kevinwilson95 1 year ago
@soragirl6 go back to the strip club and hit the pole and make your rent for the month until you meet a man with money lol
astocsm 1 year ago
In closing I wanna say no one has right to judge by another what their wealth is actual worth i. If you're with that person ther're and not doing well, encourage them. Everyone needs push sometimes that what life teaches us and thats what make us and our relationships strong going through something together. It doesn't matter what type of household background he or she comes from, as adults we can all learn the right way and wrong way to love someone. enclosure love is all you need. from larenz
LARENZFAIR 1 year ago
women don't need us to be secure. betty shabazz, coretta scott king, and michelle o'bama held their own why cant certain women do the same. For the record, real men are interested in your heart not whats between your legs. It's a shame that some women are to hung up on wealth and stereotypes to realize that. Personally if i had kids i wouldnt want them date others think i irrationally and prioritize other sex's like this
LARENZFAIR 1 year ago
continued as a man myself who now is wealthy but went through financial termoil before know what is like to be overlooke in the relationship world. Going through that experience taught me the true colors of certain women and where their ambitions lie. For me trying to date it was degrading as single blackmale cause I was looked down on. Once I upgraded and became sucessful the table turned. Are u serious? that could be your sons, or brothers, with women with that outlook on them like that.
LARENZFAIR 1 year ago
i think i speak for all real men when i say this is the worst pov example of a woman to whom not date or be involve with. Sexual energy has nothing to with the circumstance at hand. First a man's worth is not determined by his wealth but his heart, mind, and soul just as that of a woman. two yes money is important but is not the foundation. Love overseas all things and is the most important thing a relationship. If are together and encourage each other the rest will follow (continued)
LARENZFAIR 1 year ago
@soragirl6 bitch please you're ugly
astocsm 1 year ago
"never trust a woman who only shows up when you're winning." - that dos equis guy
noizefloor 1 year ago 2
We seek attributes in others that would make us feel good because we'd feel protected. We love our partner but what we actually mean is that we love the sensasion her company produces in ourselves. It's 'understandable' to be with someone because we feel 'protected'. But as also said, are by nature worth. People can feel protected by things that lay on the other person spirit, and that is great, because spirits are unique. DNA's that seek protection in money will find it on anyone's pocket.
Arkthurius 1 year ago
I have worth! Mentally and the physical.
QWILDER 1 year ago
WOW! 1/2 the comments I've read have not been ANYWHERE near as good as what you have said. That's bad, because I don't agree with what you say. Anyway, at least it was well-spoken. That's about all that can be asked of when arguing a point or making a statement.
KamakaziVideos 1 year ago
What kind of man doesn't want to work and EARN, EARN, EARN money?!?!
God bless my father whom I seen get up and go earn money even when he was between jobs. God Bless my Grand Father who "IS" a share cropper in the south. They are my role models.
mostmost1 1 year ago
PS_ sorry about the jerk on the bus he suit don't mean anything he is low class TRASH!!!!
souljaaagiirl 1 year ago
A good man is a man that can take care of his!!! Plan and simple. Don't get me wrong I don't think that the woman should do nothing, she needs to take care of her husband, kids, and family also. But equal incomes are great, but if one makes more money no big deal.
souljaaagiirl 1 year ago
Preach Tonya! Droppin' science like always. A lot of guys with lot of money lack everything else because their world revolves around money only. True wealth cannot be held..but I think all women should aim for the kind of "wealth" that suits most their lifestyle and personnality.
KayNyne13 1 year ago
There are people who learn how to upgrade their circle and their options as mates, in a financial way. Wow, nice idea. Men who help teach or mentor a young man into maturity are something that loves a younger man, his son, his nephew, someone he cares about. Some women like you help try to help young women become a LADY and be healthy and beautiful without making that the only worth in a woman. Thank You. If I could find an icon here to be bowing or clapping I would put that here.
azmildman 1 year ago
@azmildman You are so Sweet Mildman, thank you :)
-Tko
TonyaTko 1 year ago
@TonyaTko, no problem! I got your back ;)
CheezInspector 1 year ago
well i could only listen to 3 minutes of this shit, glad i didn't hear the other 26, is that a jelly fish in her hair?
astocsm 1 year ago
you have a beautiful mind. keep exercising it.
amalshakur 1 year ago
this is an easy question to answer for the majority of women if you dont have any money as a man you better be bloody good in bed and have a knack for fixing things because if you dont have either of those things your out the door faster than yesterdays rubbish.
doctorw2 1 year ago
@doctorw2 damn, i see this everyday!
executableapplet 1 year ago
@executableapplet yes i know its very common, frankly women are doing very well for themselves becuase they have to. they really dont need men for anything really.
doctorw2 1 year ago
This vid made me wanna cry
Cause i do things like that far as the vids
But the sex thing i dont. I wish i
Could have a normal life but me being a transexual
Makes things hard.
babyb360 1 year ago
@Popadibs, well said: (some) people just want to believe what they want to believe. It's great we don't all think alike and there's something kinda lame about calling someone crazy just because they hold a different opinion.
CheezInspector 1 year ago
IMO money is and should only be important in any relationship to ensure that food, shelter and clothing and basic needs are met. i think it is far more important for a man or woman to be bringing something besides money to a relationship or it is really just a sham. In reference to genitalia is basically meaningless in a long term relationship as both a man genitals and a woman figure both disappear there has to be a bond of spirit in any real relationship to make it a good one that lasts. :D
whitespot42 1 year ago
children i don't feel bring experience i feel children bring innocence and the beauty of humanity because they aren't tainted by the troubles of our lifestyle in these times. of course men and women are different as well physically and emotionally that doesn't mean greater or lesser. and i agree only a man can show a boy to be a man. you also need a woman to raise a girl into a woman. i think both genders have an important role in any child to be raised. TBC
whitespot42 1 year ago
Excellent video. Relationship dynamics, psychology and sociology/anthropology, in our culture, are great to have a knowledge of !!!
I love a man who is older and on disability here in Canada. I feel special and admired every second I am with him. I have never cared about money; emotional security in a relationship is paramount to me.
(Your flower is pretty.)
saltyeggs71 1 year ago
@saltyeggs71 Hey Salty! How are you? How are your health issues now? I'm glad to see you back! :)
-Tko
TonyaTko 1 year ago
tonya gd msg bt pls hit the nail and make ur videos concise..... time is MONEY!!!
vibezvilla 1 year ago
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vibezvilla 1 year ago
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tonya gd msg bt pls hit the nail and make ur videos concise..... time is MONEY!!!
vibezvilla 1 year ago
tonya gd msg bt pls hit the nail and make ur videos concise..... time is MONEY!!!
vibezvilla 1 year ago
tonya gd msg bt pls hit the nail and make ur videos concise..... time is MONEY!!!
vibezvilla 1 year ago
Block this Tonya: saying that all black women are crazy is false. However, you epitomize this statement with your reasoning. With this video you have proven to the world that there is not one shred of sanity in your mind.
50belowhotdog 1 year ago
@50belowhotdog I would need you to at least cite something about this video you disagreed with. Speaking of sanity... what would you say of a person who did no more than read a title, excluding punctuation, and begin to rant about a video based solely on 5 words without watching even 4 minutes of the video
-Tko
TonyaTko 1 year ago
@50belowhotdog, I'm going to have to agree with Tonya on this. An accusation, especially one where you question someone's sanity, requires an explanation. I'm curious to know what you think she said that would qualify her as crazy. How about you offer just one strong example? ... Somehow I doubt you will ;)
CheezInspector 1 year ago
@CheezInspector I really hate accusations that can't be backed up with evidence but there are probably a lot of commonly held beliefs and/or personal beliefs people hold without having any real proof. Sometimes, I think people will just believe what they want to believe.
Popadibs 1 year ago
@CheezInspector Hey Inspector, you caught the Cheeze again!! lol... Thnk You
-Tko
TonyaTko 1 year ago
Tonya you love to get people going. The content of this video is irrelevant. You just love to stir people up.
lipservicetechnician 1 year ago
You have great points and I believe that sometimes Men are needed even if they do not have money but if you focus more on the title a person with no money cannot do anything in this world he won't be doing his part in the family and so but if a person believes that man has some worth then go on but you will notice that you will be the one doing all the work and not them its a hard topic to talk about but it this just ends with lots of conflicts
bullmad43 1 year ago
Malcolm X and Martin Luther king Jr were not millionaires. But their worth couldn't even be measured. What should matter more than money is character and what someone is willing to do to help others and make changes to society. On another note, men will often say that women who are only interested in rich men are bad/lazy people; however, they will view women who are unattractive as worthless. VANITY and MATERIALISM are equally wrong.
makeupnewbie23 1 year ago 12
@makeupnewbie23 the blind cannot lead those in the dark. sometimes, in particular tonya, get so caught up in what they believe, anything you correct them on is wrong.
the VALUE of a man cannot be measured in dollars or status. a man is a man that is a man. it's the content of his character that determines how a relationship progresses. WE are the definitive of the rest of a woman's life. WE will take them where they will go. Their future depends on us AS MEN. DO NOT belittle a man.
executableapplet 1 year ago
@executableapplet rightfully so, a woman's worth can't be measured by how big her breasts are, how pretty her face is, how nice her shape is, but men do that everyday! If you don't want to be judged by superficial means (money), why would to judge others by superficial (vain) standards. I'm just tired of men complaining that women are/shouldn't be gold diggers and superficial/materialistic, but will turn around and judge women in a comparable manner. I will say that no one should do either.
makeupnewbie23 1 year ago
@makeupnewbie23 they were millionaisre you know why because they have invested a whole lot of their time into people mainly black and latinos they were rich in knowledge rich doesn't necessary mean a whole lot of wealth that's the ignorance of people not you so don't take it personal just something to know we are all learning ok god bless sir/madam
RandyJonesFilms 1 year ago
@RandyJonesFilms I'm sorry but technically speaking they were far from millionaires. I was speaking on a more literal level. I get your point and all, but what I meant was that worth can not be a simple calculation of one's bank statement.
makeupnewbie23 1 year ago
tonya will u marry me?
StraightUp615 1 year ago 2
@StraightUp615, YES! Send the paperwork :)
-Tko
TonyaTko 1 year ago
@echarvalkeem and if I can quote primetime "You are the biggest loser GOODBYE!" (you've been Blocked)
-Tko
TonyaTko 1 year ago
@TonyaTko lol get him
ejoliver2 1 year ago
Money is a necessity, but I do believe that both men and women should know how to get along with each other when times are good and when times are bad; KNOW HOW TO ACT WHEN YOU HAVE PLENTY AND WHEN YOU'RE BROKE. Too many things can rob us of our wealth(talk about inflation!). I wouldn't want a female companion who couldn't adjust to not having much.
MysteryMan20091 1 year ago
good video ms. i like the fact you were able to acknowledge everybody is worth something naturally. money isnt really a factor in a relationship to me if its based on real love but cause of this society we live in it brings a form of security. cause we also stay in a society where money gains resources thats needed & materials thats wanted folks tend to believe "one who doesnt get money aint nothing". i structure my relationships on the natural things & im old skoo so i belive men pose to work.
dreadheadrasta19 1 year ago
I know what to put stock into. Funny how you should say all that at the end of this video. I was just thinking yesterday about a great invention I was thinking about creating. But I don't know if I want to be know to the public for making those though. And being a christain I don't know how I could pull it and stay in good graces.
WildL23 1 year ago
@tonyaTko do some research on the FEDERAL RESERVE then repost ur views on people with money. beleive it or not u do not know many men with money. fed notes are not money. when the dollar reach its complete fall . THEN WHAT! PHSYCHIC TRAUMA most negros in AMERIKKA have no sense of historical geographical reference and are therefore bank-rupt,MEMBERS OF A LARGE CLUB THAT HAS NO REMEDY, and no apologies. Holla back !
firefox8192 1 year ago
I think some people have an interpretation problem, just because somebody may treat a person a certain way it don't mean they think the person is worth nothing. Sometime a person can think the other person is worth more and the person in their mind thinks the other person thinks they are worth less.
WildL23 1 year ago
By the way, this video reminds me of The Joy Luck Club with all this talk about knowing your worth.
lavinder11 1 year ago
You have alot of guys on youtube they act like the are all happy that they can get any woman they want anytime they want and just put on a good show. They when women come on youtube and say they want a man with money these same guys get all mad. The truth is these guys are not all that or they would not care what you all was telling women of the world. Talk about womens attitudes these guys are angry that women exist that don't want them due to a lack of funds.
WildL23 1 year ago
@WildL23 If they was all that they would not care what you all was telling other women. Actors, some people are just good actors. LOL
WildL23 1 year ago
@WildL23 A real player doesn't care WHAT you or ANYBODY tells women because they can get all the women regardless of WHAT ANYBODY tells them. These dudes having a heart attack over a youtube videos. Talking about they some kind of player or something. If there are women that exist that won't take you for lack of funds you don't come on youtube calling women bitches and hoes. Talking about they urinals. Urinals don't bother the big dogs.
WildL23 1 year ago
I'm tired of people not being realistic when it comes to money. Almost every comment on here is saying 'don't think about money' or 'money isn't everything!' Well, it isn't everything and the LOVE for money (i.e. greed) leads to unhappiness. But if any of you say you'd rather be broke than rich I know you're a liar.
Unless you're a survivalist (which isn't a bad lifestyle) then you need to get real about this money issue. The rest of us NEED it to survive. And don't come at me with the Fed.
lavinder11 1 year ago
Reserve is coming down BS. This is the 'money' we're using right now so it is the one we're talking about. Love is great and all, but there ain't much happiness in a home when you're starving.
So let us all get on the same page: we ALL need money to survive.
Now, answer the questions honestly instead of this cliched BS.
lavinder11 1 year ago
Hmm...interestin' question,...if the man in the relationship just sittin' around moochin' offa his lady, he's a bum, he's worthless, but if a man is unemployed and his lady is the one 'bringin' home the bacon' but he decides on helpin' out with housework, lookin' into new business prospects, than that guy's got WORTH,.......not only are ya a BEAUTY you've also the BRAINS my sweet Tonya,...LMAO, when ya mention a guy's penis,...hehe....sendin' ya my thumbs up beautiful!!
qualqui 1 year ago
Looking good girl!
53babycakes 1 year ago
whats more worthless then a man without money? a woman who cant keep her legs closed.
Dragonmanxx5 1 year ago
9:42-12:00! I agree
shany9988 1 year ago
Men (and people in general) without AMBITION and GOALS are worthless. The amount of money you have does not define you.
blkbutterflii 1 year ago
@blkbutterflii No one, and I mean NO ONE, is "Worthless." Everyone has some sort of worth. Everyone.
-Tko
TonyaTko 1 year ago 2
Worth is not based on money. But living in this country, it seems so...
Good video!
shany9988 1 year ago
Women without money is just as worthless, smh. Its no wonder so many men don't even bother.
GShorty212 1 year ago
Men don't need much money if they don't have girlfriends....
tsilimon 1 year ago 2
@tsilimon THIS IS THE REALEST COMMENT ON THE ENTIRE THREAD!!!
draggonboy1000 7 months ago
i never based my worth by money, and would recommend men to avoid women that do. there are so many women out there for men to choose from. its not hard to find a like-minded woman. i swear its not!
I think women are shooting themselves in their own foot. unless they dont mind being career jump offs.
andsanp 1 year ago
@andsanp Whenever we talk about Money, Dre, its easy to get you out of the woodwork! :) Where have you been?
-Tko
TonyaTko 1 year ago
@TonyaTko Ha Ha
andsanp 1 year ago
I respect your stance on this topic!!!
INFmega 1 year ago
and girls want guys to respect them? If all your after is money dont expect to be treated with respect by your 'man', which will probably lead to infedelity and then hell..why dont women just make thier own money? or are womens brains really smaller
SOLIDSNAKEXXX360 1 year ago
Respond to this video...TONYA im glad u brought up the fact that it takes a MAN to rasie a man and vice versa that is part of the problem in black male female relationships besides us bye into the whole battle of the sexes..... MONEY IS NOT THE ISSUE KNOWLEDGE OF SELF IS.
Sincestrail 1 year ago
@Sincestrail It's more than just a black issue my friend.... sorry to break it to ya.
Andre2099 1 year ago
Stop thinking about money ya'll
stephenouma 1 year ago
wtf happened to your glorious emancipation, women? Do YOU need men who pay for you? You want to be dependent on men again? This makes me reaaaaaaal mad!
dyingiscool 1 year ago 5
@dyingiscool I'm sorry, but why do men complain about women who are independent, not submissive who want to be treated as equals then complain when a woman wants to be submissive and be taken care of. You can't have it both ways. If you want a housewife, then you need to be the PROVIDER. If you want someone who is independent, then you need to be ready to treat her as an EQUAL in the relationship and make decisions with her and not for her. What exactly do you want?
makeupnewbie23 1 year ago
@dyingiscool We are all different. Some women can and want to be independent. Some women dont. Some men want independant women. Some dont.
DolceVita 1 year ago
ello sexy
shadowhand56 1 year ago
I love your vids...lol TOO FUNNY!
LadyEreca 1 year ago
You are too much girl! LOL...Love it!
moody2k7us 1 year ago
I almost avoided leaving a comment but here I go. I know that this was directed at men in relationships I agree with you I am a little better at concealing my brokeness by being cognizant by being very price savvy. I dont think I should get into a relationship right now, too costly.there are several women in my life who would like to settle down with me, but being broke is CHILDISH and i see that roadblock from a mile away Ive come accustomed to my freedom, and I dont want my next relasionship
privythamc 1 year ago
to be burdened with that dynamic. I 26 and I tend to deal with women who are a little more mature..I've enlisted in the Military and I ship off soon, and since the time I announced my enlistment I've noticed a considerable jump in interest, even from ex-girlfriends..Lol I am a traditional watch dog/provider type male..so being broke is worrisome for me, but my intellect allows me to select females who fit my style. now when I say broke I dont mean NO MONEY..no I can survive with a little extra
privythamc 1 year ago
to play with..but "in this economy" it is still hard to have any sort of social life, and I do feel, that considering the way I like to be treated in life, relationship, work, friendships, and family, it is necessary that I be free from the control of others, this doesnt mean that I would seek to control my partner I just like my veto button to be ever-ready...anyway that's enough from me.
Your Criticism sandwich was Yummy
PS I am going to be the man who owns the kennel
privythamc 1 year ago
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nice tits. can i play with them?
xzaxx 1 year ago
I most say that money has know soul . And a lot of people have lost there soul to money . I believe that it is very important to learn how to handle money. As men that are God fearing and try to keep him in the centre of there relationship should know that we need to be a key player in the way handle our money . A man worth is on his personalty who he is, and he does an stand for . A man can be a house husband if the wife can deal with that . It is important to know your partner
DrGspicylove121 1 year ago
man ms tonya look good for real
TheJazz20 1 year ago
Alright, Tonya, girl you needed an entrance with that beautiful blk dress accompanied by that bold red belt. Lovin' the red flower and neckless: work it!!! I know you had to think long and hard about this topic. I think we (male and female) have defined ourselves through things. So, when we don't have these things we feel like we don't have anything to offer. I can appreciate a man who can wither the storm and stand the test of time.
zheahra 1 year ago
I'm curious about how some men react to this subject of money....if they believe in what the scriptures say or even looking back into our history, the man has always in most cases have been seen as the ones who are expected to be the providers and the protectors of their households. So why do men resent this topic so much? Also, do you feel that a man should expect for the woman to bring money to the table? Thank for being so eloquent & forgiving of all in the way you delivered this piece.
SheBQueen4eva 1 year ago
PSSSSSSSSSS
CLASSY
MissJessicaRabbit69 1 year ago
YES TONYAA :) Lol Put them men in their place :P
Guys with no money ARENT worthless as long as....
they have motivation and ambition :)
DollFacee101 1 year ago
91% of relationships end over money. If your broke your childish? I think it's you that needs to examine ethic morals because money means zero except to women.
Edgrot 1 year ago
If a man has nothing to bring to the table....he shouldn't sit at it!
Truhotone 1 year ago 2
@Truhotone and what about the woman that has nothing to bring to the table?
Poetamo 1 year ago
@Poetamo
I would say the same, but the video isn't about women. I think Tonya chose to ask about MEN for a reason.
For me, I like financial security. If I know I have a place over my head and my utilities are paid, then I feel free (and happy) to do whatever I want, whether these experiences cost money or not. If a man comes into my life who is doing nothing (sitting at home on his PS3 or something) then I don't want him. I don't want him bumming off me and pissing me off by not doing any
lavinder11 1 year ago
@lavinder11 It's funny that what means freedom for you, could mean the exactly opposit for others. Yes, everyone needs a home, except for some free-spirits. What I don't like is that picture of women being machines only caring about financial security, so their romantic feelings at the very end always leads to financial issues.
Poetamo 1 year ago
housework. If I was with a man without a job, then he needs to have a damn hobby or something. If I see he does nothing but louse around then I will begin to resent his laziness. So I suppose money isn't it, it's more like ambition or motivation.
If you know you have nothing to offer me but 'love' with no substance, then don't even try to come at me. The same goes for me. A home full of love is nice, but a home with no money to thrive is a sad one.
lavinder11 1 year ago
@lavinder11 Some masters of painting were poor in life. Their pictures pictures didn't sell for millions til they were dead. And they were loved in life by women that appreciated his talent, passion and dedication to the art. Eventhough they could not provide them with financial security, a big house, etc. You say housework is work too, and I agree. But if a woman can choose housework, why not a man? In this century some men are proving they can be the parent that rises and takes care of kids.
Poetamo 1 year ago
@Poetamo
... that's what I said in my comments. I don't want a man bumming off me, sitting at home playing his PS3. If he's doing housework then that's fine, as long as he's doing something.
Some people are fine with no money. I'm not. I could hobo it in Oregon for a few months but that's a vacation, not a lifestyle for me.
lavinder11 1 year ago
@Poetamo Many women, if not most women, want a man that is self sufficient, intelligent, appreciative, ambitious, etc. basically a man that is the exact opposite of themselves, remember, opposites attract. Also, keep in mind that men are more polygamous and women are more hypergamous.
Popadibs 1 year ago
Is a woman who sees the value of a man because he has money, worthless? There are many men and women out here who have money who are not a damn.
DavidBrayboy 1 year ago