mamarama: lying about the tooth fairy

[AntacidForTheMind]

I don't lie to my daughter. I've never lied to her about Santa or the Tooth Fairy.

[mikel1998]

there is no tooth fairy?

[philitree]

No tooth fairy or Santa at our house. I was one of those kids who felt totally betrayed by my parents lying to me. So I have a "no lie" policy with my children.

[DadLabs]

I hate the tooth fairy because I FORGET. And then the lying is compounded by me sneaking around and saying "Oh, did you look over here." So I am a liar and also inadequate. Hate the tooth fairy.

[thebirthlady]

We have a no lying policy with our children, it is so very hard to teach them not to lie since it comes so naturally to them so we are trying to set an example. I have co-slept with all my babies, and we wean them from the bed slowly starting at one year and then gradually move them out of our room, but what mom could turn her frightened child away in the night? It is such a normal thing to do for your child. I remember being small and afraid in the night myself and my Moms bed was always there.

[KatMomof3]

What has helped with my kids (aside from choosing to move them to their own bed either before potty training or after they are daytrained so that you are only doing one change at a time) as they've gotten older is to find out WHY they are waking. I also do NOT like getting out of bed at night.

If they have a nightmare, it's instant... come on in bed with Mommy.

But otherwise, I get up, we fix it, they go back to bed.

Then try to prevent the nightmares or whatever it was in the future.

[shmouts]

god i wish my folks would've lied to me a little. they were brutally honest: "no one is interested in your bullshit", "you're in summer school because you're an asshole", and of course my moms standby "stop being such a pussy" it was like bootcamp . when people scream at me now, it's like wallpaper,.. doesn't even phase me

[akatonystarks]

And don't sleep with your kids. You want them to develop a sense in independence and autonomy. It's difficult but one of the greatest gifts you can give your child is a sense that they'll be alright independent of you. You might interpret it as pushing them away but ultimately this could be the difference between the child who one days leaves the nest to make a life for himself or herself and the 27 year old living at him because the world is kicking their ass. You're so patheticly common.

[shmouts]

dude, thats the truth , if you wanna never have more kids, keep em in the bed, maybe i was weird, but I hated sleeping with my folks, my folks are big germans and there was always some big fuckin arm or leg on me....and if it belonged to my dad it was hairy too.....and my mom didn't look like mamarama.

[akatonystarks]

I just wasted nine minutes. Do you have friends? Listen: you should encourage your child to question everything from the tooth fairy to religion to the the very values that will one day shape the way she chooses to live her life. The things that are inherently true and real will stand up to any amount of analysis and questioning and ultimately will be the pillars she clings to with a fierce tenacity as she eventually becomes her own person.

[shmouts]

no dude, I don't believe who she handles the tooth fairy will have a direct correlation on her children's work ethic/independence

[shmouts]

oh jeez, it's the tooth fairy, believe me, she won't hate you for it years later.

everybody thinks their child is especially logical, believe me, she aint