Wow, I feel kinda bad right about now because I am a person who is emotionally unavailable. I'm the type of person that does not let my guard or hair down so easily. I believe that you have to earn that person's trust in order to get them to open up emotionally. Some people do not wear their emotions on their sleeves like everyone else, so just give them time don't give up on people like me so easily.
Subbed... Now, as for me a few years ago I was one of the people you are talking about...I never once fathomed that I was willingly using folks but then I think about it, I had my cut buddy but was still pining for another emotionally. I did stop dating so I wouldn't put others through the hurt I still had inside. My answer, I would not date someone who is emotionally unavailable especially since I have firsthand knowledge of how I would be treated besides I want more out of a relationship now.
thanx for dis vid kev, gave me alot to think about...wuz tryin to eventually talk to someone like dis but didnt realize how closed up dey were til recently. too scared to open themselves up to ne one...unfortunately i let ma emotions get into it. i shuda known betta...so now im a lil hurt n not very happy with dem but whuts a gurl to do?...im still chill with dem or whuteva but im tryin not expect dem to come around ne time soon
Just been heart-broken by a Mr. Emotionally Unavailable two days ago. I was falling in love, and he let me know that it was just a fling. I'm sorry, but I'm a single mom, and not interested in investing emotions in a fling! So nice to see your video. Nice to know I'm not the only one out there. Gonna have to be strong and stay clear of this guy. Just moved to Spain with my son, and he caught me at a vulnerable time. But no more!
Yes bebe you are speaking to the choir!!!! someone who is emotionally unavailable have told you what they want! stop trying to think you can change their mind, they have told you what it was from the beginning. I have to tell myself that all the time. Keep it up love this is greatness.
I think a person who is chronically emotionally unavailable is not someone who I could ever bond with. They are obviously fearful & selfish. The exclusivity may be there (for the moment) but true emotional intimacy can never exist. Sad but true (in my humble opinion). ~Calvin~
I definitely couldn't deal with that person on a serious level. They are basically saying "There's no future with us" and it would not be worth my time. We could be friends, but that would be the extent of it.
ummm... i think you can if both of y'all are on the same page... f neither one of you are trying 2 be serious it's basically casual dating and sex but responsibly! but it 's been my experience that people who say "love don't live here anymore" have been hurt and really just want somebody 2 heal that heart & prove them wrong but life is short & who has time 2 be healing wounds caused by someone else? I'll cause enough on my own....
if you're not on the same page, it's not gonna work - bottom line.
i think a lot of people fool themselves into thinking that the other person will change.
perhaps that happens from time to time, but i wouldn't bank on it.
if someone is "honest enough" (and i use that lightly) to tell you where they're coming from, then you need to be just as "honest" and tell them "...well, that's not for me"
No, only when you are young and naive!
TheNYC22 1 month ago
Wow, I feel kinda bad right about now because I am a person who is emotionally unavailable. I'm the type of person that does not let my guard or hair down so easily. I believe that you have to earn that person's trust in order to get them to open up emotionally. Some people do not wear their emotions on their sleeves like everyone else, so just give them time don't give up on people like me so easily.
Jeron90 3 months ago
Probably has to be two emotionally unavailable people dating. That's the only way it would work. Otherwise, someone is going to get hurt.
KharismaBrown 9 months ago
cuz that bitch owe me money!
atexyz 11 months ago
But WHERE do love live??
atexyz 11 months ago
Being with someone like that IS a complete waste of time!
TheEditor80 1 year ago
I couldn't be involved with a person like that because it would be a waste of time and a risk to my health too.
freestylevideo411 1 year ago
Subbed... Now, as for me a few years ago I was one of the people you are talking about...I never once fathomed that I was willingly using folks but then I think about it, I had my cut buddy but was still pining for another emotionally. I did stop dating so I wouldn't put others through the hurt I still had inside. My answer, I would not date someone who is emotionally unavailable especially since I have firsthand knowledge of how I would be treated besides I want more out of a relationship now.
delightfulone 1 year ago
thanx for dis vid kev, gave me alot to think about...wuz tryin to eventually talk to someone like dis but didnt realize how closed up dey were til recently. too scared to open themselves up to ne one...unfortunately i let ma emotions get into it. i shuda known betta...so now im a lil hurt n not very happy with dem but whuts a gurl to do?...im still chill with dem or whuteva but im tryin not expect dem to come around ne time soon
rastagyal76 1 year ago
Afterthought. Thanks soooooo much for this. Helps me keep things in perspective.
Hirakata06 1 year ago
Just been heart-broken by a Mr. Emotionally Unavailable two days ago. I was falling in love, and he let me know that it was just a fling. I'm sorry, but I'm a single mom, and not interested in investing emotions in a fling! So nice to see your video. Nice to know I'm not the only one out there. Gonna have to be strong and stay clear of this guy. Just moved to Spain with my son, and he caught me at a vulnerable time. But no more!
Hirakata06 1 year ago
Yes bebe you are speaking to the choir!!!! someone who is emotionally unavailable have told you what they want! stop trying to think you can change their mind, they have told you what it was from the beginning. I have to tell myself that all the time. Keep it up love this is greatness.
latamara07 1 year ago
I could date someone like that but the whole time we are "dating" I would be looking for someone who has more to offer.
helluvaluva 1 year ago
I think a person who is chronically emotionally unavailable is not someone who I could ever bond with. They are obviously fearful & selfish. The exclusivity may be there (for the moment) but true emotional intimacy can never exist. Sad but true (in my humble opinion). ~Calvin~
sfcalvinaz 1 year ago
@sfcalvinaz Exactly.
TheEditor80 1 year ago
I definitely couldn't deal with that person on a serious level. They are basically saying "There's no future with us" and it would not be worth my time. We could be friends, but that would be the extent of it.
nichellemicole 1 year ago
ummm... i think you can if both of y'all are on the same page... f neither one of you are trying 2 be serious it's basically casual dating and sex but responsibly! but it 's been my experience that people who say "love don't live here anymore" have been hurt and really just want somebody 2 heal that heart & prove them wrong but life is short & who has time 2 be healing wounds caused by someone else? I'll cause enough on my own....
D0wJ0nEsTV 1 year ago 2
if you're not on the same page, it's not gonna work - bottom line.
i think a lot of people fool themselves into thinking that the other person will change.
perhaps that happens from time to time, but i wouldn't bank on it.
if someone is "honest enough" (and i use that lightly) to tell you where they're coming from, then you need to be just as "honest" and tell them "...well, that's not for me"
zeeartfuldodger 1 year ago 2