Man-shake?

[gracefullcorn]

there is always a different dude handshake-it depends.What i have learned is that it's most important not to look like a pussy when u mess it up.Before I used to feel very stupid and showed it,now i am just like "ah what the fuck"Just don't give a crap and feel confident bout yourself

[tylerisborn]

I think you just gotta take control and act like however YOU do it is the right way. confidence shows

[Popeslave]

I've never had a problem shaking hands, but the one that is sometimes awkward is the guys who want to shake with one hand and then "hug" with the other. It's hard to know when to and when not to. :)

[anddorr]

the secret to the "manshake" is in the grip, you need to look at yourself and them portray that in your shake, be confidient, i just watched your video where you saved your dog from another, put those emotions into your shake, remember your a man, not a guy, a man, your strong good looking confident about what you want in life.

[QtBilly1979]

You crack me up... I never shake hands with folks I just nod and smile - hugs for those that I know. You could always just do the mosh-pit body slam? "Hey man... WHAM!!" =)

[kagejonas1986]

like being trans, there really isn't one way to be a guy. so naturally, there's not just one way to shake hands. but i'm a firm grasper. and i think i'm pretty natural at it. but like it's been said already, don't overanalyze.

much love,

kage

[AJsThawts]

I;ve never had a problem so here's what I do......guys have confidence so you need to exert that in your handshake and greeting. I usually look the guy in the eye, grab their hand very stiff and firmly and shake the hand while saying either..."how's it goin man" ...or more formally like a job interview saying my name like a question..."Andrew?"...and then shake the hand. You HAVE to have confidence in yourself or they'll see right through you!

[AJsThawts]

oh and the handshake usually is kinda like jabbing your hand into theres...dont just slide it in...that's too girly

[CurtisFTM]

I always look at my hand to make sure my hand meets theirs and guys always look at me weird when I do that. It's like my hand eye coordination is off.

[MeepMarmoset]

I have this problem as well. My hand is always so limp when I shake hands. It's like I just can't help it!

[bunnybuf3291]

make it firm, but not to firm that you hurt them.. when you grasp their hand look them briefly in the eye for a second and let go. At least thats how I would imagine it.

i think you are worrying yourself too much

[LYohz]

extend your hand, grasp the other's hand firm yet gentle - not too limp but not to strong. give direct eye contact, briefly nod your head once & greet, then release.

[incrediblejessen]

be firm but gentle, and project confidence. that's all there is to it really.. try observing how other men do it, in movies and such, or on the street.

[NCLEZBN1]

perhaps your hands are smaller and this is causing the problem

[PaperPlanes691]

I agree with the others about confidence and firmness. for me, i have smaller hands and im not on T yet, so when i shake i make sure to grasp the hand and put a little firmness into it as to show power, then i give one shake down. i never do a handshake without firmness and i always tend to look at them when i do it as not to distract them. eye contact can be key, especially when portraying confidence. i find that giving the firmness to assess power makes both look respectable.

[Breanne1982]

your thinkin way too much just go with the flow nice and firm.....thats the way it is!

[SteaIthie]

I never knew the handshake among men was that complicated. The detailed, serious instructions above, you have to admit, are kinda funny.

[cautionslowchildren]

oh, giving "daps" haha its a tricky thing to get down

[snipncody]

dude im the same way, i get nervous right before which probably makes it worse

[1Vella]

lol I'm a MTF and I've always had this problem, I mean its sort of a high five which you hold on to and switch into a hand shake.... Well at least I don't have to do it for long lol

[badger5402]

Step one fully engage hand thumb-to-thumb.

Step two, close finmgers around/across knuckles.

Step three squeeze firmly, with a brief up and down or down and up motion..

Step 4, disengage.

[LitlFlaSh]

There is no one man-shake. If someone tries to engage you in said man-shake, participate and then joke about it. "What was that man?!" Just be confident about it. There are plenty of bio guys that definitely can't pull this off, and it doesn't mean they are any less of a guy. Just be like... "Man-shake?Oh yeah? Check out my crazy fire poi."

[ashtonftm46]

i have THE EXACT SAME problem man..

[britpoppansy]

just shake their hand hard and if they try any other funny business just be like, "what the hell dude, i'm not trying to be initiated into your secret society."

[superman32talon]

i also wanted to say that there are a lot of bio guys that cant do it as well

[superman32talon]

hey bro just wanted to say that it is for sure 100% confidence and it depends on the person with what hand shake you use so i would suggest that you pick a common one like where you grip there hand and with the other hand you tap their back while leaning in a bit and than slide ur shaking hand. or the one where u clap their hand and slide. and learn it and than when u go to do it make them follow ur lead i find is the easy way or you can try to follow their lead but i find thats when i mess up

[boxergirl84]

A man shake is purly CONFIDANCE.

just get a shake in your own mind to use and inforce it.

I haven't started my transition yet but i still do it and it works.

I do the 1 where the THUMBS kinda clasp together and the four fingers go round the back of the thumb and onto the wrist a little.

You know??? that brother-hood type shake.

Make the shake firm, strong and just be confident about it.

Try not to think when you do it.

[Pichu0123]

Ok I'm kinda noob, but is there a "dude-handshake"? isn't it just all the same? sorry, as I said, I'm kinda noob

[yeye2345]

firm,firm.firm

[viewhue]

Spread your fingers out while going in, grab with firm confidence, "lean" a little on the arm you're using - if that makes sense, and give a quick confident shake.

[DominoAyeJae]

yeah I know that part but its the complicated combination of grips and that whole hug thing i cant get down at all

[punkguy121]

maybe practice with ur friends? that will def help you out. n jus be all cool about it..if u show em ur a bit tense then it might be more awkward.

adios

[nailskepttidy]

im not looking farward to the manshake situation

[sjma2008]

haha don't worry. you'll get it someday! :)

[MACingyouup]

Whoa. My mind went somewhere else. It's 4:30 am here. I thought the title read "Man Snake"..and in the description you say, "I still can't get itdown". My mind went into the gutter. What was I thinking! ;) :)

[RocknCorruptrepublic]

ahahaha so did mine. I read the title correctly though..but still. :)