Ladies - Respect Yourselves (If Not, Don't Expect Anyone Else To)

[daricnd]

PREACH!!!!!!!!!!!!

[scrumptiouspenny]

thank you so much for making me realize i don not need to be noticed for the wrong reasons by a guy, now i need to start working on the right reasons why a guy would notice me.

[Ken515ken]

Well said...

[sharonatw]

Well said young lady...we should demand more respect!!

[trinidamfreak]

Soo ironic...I just had a heated debate about dis same topic

[ebonyeyes22]

great video



[Jaaked]

Honestly there is some truth in this video b/c I don't dress sexy for me. I dress in sweats or jeans for me. I dress sexy in the club so dudes can by me a drink. point blank. But clothes aren't why these hoes are opening up their legs easy.. thats another topic! The only people that are mad are the hoes that have nothing else to offer.

[MimiOnliine]

Wow! I agree w/ every single thing you said! I love u after watching this video haha..God bless ya!

[LissiDoll]

Hmmm this feels like a slut shaming video tbh. I don't like it when women decide to police other womens bodies. I believe women should wear what they want. Do what makes you happy, not what society tells you to do. The whole 'respectable lady' thing is just another way to make women put each other down.

[zheahra]

Well said, young lady. I'm very proud of you.

[deannamck3231]

Thank you!!! I've been saying this same thing for the past few yrs.

[NIJEECAPRICORN20]

I agree I like this video =)

[AliEsteem]

I agree with everything she is saying. Women do play into men are just dogs.

[stolen4eighty]

kandeei aree with you, but i feel like your being hypocritical to lmost every female out there (including your self) (old or young). its like you feel lik your looking down on who you were a month ago lol. and know i find it hard to take you seriously. how u dressed before didnt make u a less respectable person in my opnion.

[Nicole22luvYa]

People who are upset with this video MUST wear revealing clothings and dont wanna change. I dont care about "ohhhhh we're young, Live it up, you can wear revealing clothings and still be respectible." One thing i wanna say is if you really were a respectible woman then you would wear the proper clothing!! You cant wear revealing clothings and say People respect me! <---- Because they dont and thats the truth. And you're honestly not respecting yourself if you go and dress in this matter.

[coty826]

thank you ! more girls need to see this video.

[Lovelykatana]

I agree, My dad raised me and I was always taught that a women can be sexy fully clothe. 

[TheAunelly]

This!!! Thank you

[iitzmateeba]

This is the TRUTH! Very nice and well said :)

[IBeenVeiled]

What do you say in the very beginning, it kinda slurs together cause you say it so fast

[Shirlangell]

Very, very well said...wonderfully said! I completely agree. It's wonderful to hear a young lady say something that makes a lot of sense and has a lot of wisdom.

[Lonisharogers]

To be honest this video is well said it makes so much sense. The way we dress lead to the consequences or circumstances that may come. All she is trying to say is take more precaution in how you dress so you won't attract the wrong attention that's all. She is not asking anyone to wear a sheet just be careful so you wont attract the wrong attention. RESPECT yourselves is the biggest part of this video

[squirrelsinmykoolaid]

I'm a 16 year old girl and I see this all of the time at school :/ I'm "under developed" so I tend to cover up way more than the girls at school and I'm really tiny so I wear loose pants and when I feel my shirt is too low I get a covering under shirt or a safety pin. I've always been the one to button my collar all they way up in my group. My mindset is why put it all out there so that there is nothing to the imagination even though no one should be imagining anything at this age anyway. x]

[britshanesmom]

couldn't agree more.

[Sophic87]

Very well spoken (and underrated) topic! You should do this type of topic more often, especially for (new) generations....we need to educate the right way for us to LOVE ourselves not PHYSICALLY but EMOTIONALLY/INTELLIGENTLY!

Come on Ladies..we were born original, not followers!

[Goin2Back]

cont'd maybe cuz you're still young but as you get older you'll learn to be more tolerant less judgmental of how people dress because people often contradict themselves by how they dress, and just cuz a girl is a slut in public how about how you act in private with your man? This is American culture, what do you expect VIRGIN MARYs? You'll lose a lot of potential friends if you keep this nasty mindset, as people are more complicated than two lines of slut or nonslut. most people fall in between.

[KandeeLovesYa]

@Goin2Back You missed the point of this whole vid. Its not about whether youre a slut or not. Its about how you carry yourself. Im simply saying that if girls don't carry themselves in a classy way, theyre more likely to be treated as if theyre less valuable. & that's the truth in our society. My problem isnt with girls being sexual behind closed doors, my problem is w/ the fact that so many girls are walking around revealing what should only be revealed in private. Theyre worth more than that.

[curvybody2]

@Goin2Back To be honest growing up with parents who are not from here, the way women in this culture I do not agree with. Women shouldn't be virgin marys but sometimes I wonder why not. Im going to respect a woman who hasnt been with a lot of men, or doesnt think it's okay to be loose, before I respect a women who is easy and thinks that is okay. Your vagina is inside for a reason, treat it like its not swingin from body but rather something you wanna keep.

[Goin2Back]

this is an extremely broad generalization simply cuz I know a lotta of born again virgins, born again sluts. I know a lot of classy strippers who maintain a long term relationship. You cant judge someone by how they dress as slut or not..every girl has a nasty slut in her anyways, sure you have watched porno before!!! Just cuz you aren't as bold as those women doesn't mean you should put your stupid conclusions out there. I know a lot of women who dress classy and have 3 kids 3 different dads.

[gbaby313585]

THIS IS THE GREATEST VIDEO ON YOU TUBE I SWEAR

[diostabon2010]

Thanks for sharing! Much respect! I admire you for speaking up! Continue to educate others!

[CallMeOneLuv]

your edges are thinning...

[pinkcondition]

You should definately make more of these

[blkbbydoll]

Greatly said.i appreciate someone saying it

[imjusdayy]

I love this!

[arthan06]

If you're going to call yourself a lady, you should dress and behave like lady. Plain and simple.

[MsAfroBeauty]

I love this video... I was thinking the same thing!! I love your videos

[phillynatural1]

Positive message!!!!!

[1988collegegurl4sure]

Kandi...I feel u 100%! You can still be sexy, just keep it classy and not trashy...POINT BLANK! You get much more respect!

[fya4you]

I like this video. I am 24 years old and I do not wear clothes that show my breast (they small anyway lol), or my stomach, or behind. I have always went out fully clothed and I still get plenty of attention. Of course I'm married though so the attention wasnt wanted or needed. The least amount of clothing i've worn is a dress and the bad thing about it was that it was fitted but I've just never shown my body off like that.

[AllClass2011]

OMG!!!!!! Love this video; it's real!! I'm sharing it!

[NaturallyMasha101]

I luv this video!!! you are so real!

[rochelled01]

i love how real you are. Just telling like it is and not caring what anybody has to think

[AlmaDeMariposa]

Preeeeeeach!!!! *snap snap* yes yes yes! Totally sharing this, cause this is SO true.

[StrawberriLust]

off topic: what happened to "should i stay or should i go"

[DivinelyOriginal]

@StrawberriLust it ended girl they had credits and everything

[BeautyFullNaJar]

I like how you used Nicki Minaj as an example because a lot of girls and young women think because she's getting this attention for what she's doing maybe I should do that same thing, shes just a gimmick somebody trying to make money. This self esteem issue is HUGE with females and it's about time someone brought awareness to it WONDERFUL video!!!!!

[BeautyFullNaJar]

Great video, young ladies today feel like if they can recieve an ounce of attention from some boy by acting like a premature prostitute wearing clothes just to impress them, thats all they are ever going to get. Which is a big phony LIE because all of us are beautiful and have the potential of getting any guy (that is worth the time)

[mrswilliamsforu]

Im so glad you made this video..I just called my soon to be 14 yr old daughter down so she can understand what I've always said about the way you carry yourself. I would give this video 2 thumbs up if I could.

[purp621]

dang lol this video hit home.! i like this, i heard a guy once say "i got so used to girls giving it up to me, that when the girl that came along finally made me run for it, i ended up liking her for who she was not what she has" never forgot those words. and you just preached the hell outta how girls carry there selves. lol im 16 and id rather read a book then try and gets a dudes attention especially for the wrong reasons.[=

[imsoraven06]

Amen Love This * I Shared This To Like Every Social Site .

[HBIC96]

I like this video. Its very positive and a lot of young women and some older women need to watch this. To me its better for a women to respect herself than to put herself out there like she's some slut. A lot of times the way a person dresses or talks shows that they have respect for themselves and in return people ussually respect them for that. Thanks for sharing and hope you continue to share things like this.

[FABULOUSCURVES]

Love it and I'm going to a video response.

[ackOOLaiD18]

so very true



[KayzeeTM]

AMEN to this! I personally feel like society is to blame. Not saying that we don't have a mind of our own, but growing up in a community where extreme sex appeal is the only way to get you a man and being called a b*tch is disrespectful but putting BAD in front of it is a compliment can really make any female feel like that's the only way to act!

[grid2003]

@KayzeeTM it is not societys fault. Children need to be raised in God fearing homes.

[seun0203]

true talk

[loveisbeauty011]

i personally dont feel theres anything wrong with wearing clothes with sex appeal as long as it isnt to the point of being explicit and your behaving like a respectable women should.

[KandeeLovesYa]

@loveisbeauty011 And that's understandable...well assuming that the female is a reasonable age to being going for that particular look. But then we have to consider when do the clothes go from showing a little sex appeal to being too explicit? And then we also have to take into consideration that everyone's definition of too explicit is gonna be different. I'm not disagreeing, just bringing another point to the table. I do agree that the way you behave in the clothing does contribute too.

[liaxi]

i luvv it kandee u speak the truth hun

[kikicouture10]

This was very deep, I couldn't agree with you any more, this is definitely the truth and what we need to be sharing. Thanks for making this video.

[NaEpOoH24]

Love how u said everything!!!! It's sooooo true!!

[MegaMeMe21]

tell it!!!

[ladyles2763]

You are special!

[MrsKimberlee1]

Great message....especially for young girls!

[jonnelize1]

i totally agree, i at time fall into this trap

[kladstone34]

Well said... You couldn't have said it any better.

[peachpuff333]

make more of these :)))

[NiaBoo812]

*Shared on fcbk

[childoGod]

OMG....this is soooooooo true, mad respect for you posting this!!! :)

[dcgirl919]

Too true young lady ---- too true. Words very necessary and said with heart.

[naeluvsGCH]

I'm definitely posting this as my status on facebook. There are A LOT of girls that I see on there that clearly need some guidance. I'm really proud of you Kandee, I've been watching your videos since you were transitioning and you're growing into a smart and down to earth young woman! I believe we're around the same age so it's good to see like minded women spreading a good message.

[kemlove1000]

I really like this video Kandee, you should do this more often. :)



[KandeeLovesYa]

@kemlove1000 Will do =)

[mingdeLLadevon]

Yesssss! I am IMPRESSED! You went hard and you spoke the truth! Some of these ladies just don't understand! Ladies LISTEN UP!

[FemmeFemmeFemme]

Well done young lady! How big of you to share your growth & learning experiences with all of us :-) Keep up the good work. Your beauty shines from the inside, out. <3

[Africandiva128]

So True!!!

[1266D]

Thanks for sharing this important message/video. I had my fifteen year old daughter look at this. I wish more young ladies could see this video or hear this message. Your videos always have such a great messages. Thank you for them and keep making them.

[xitsxnanax]

basicly all the girls at my school need to see this video

[KandeeLovesYa]

@xitsxnanax Feel free to send it to them.

[ShaunWhiteismyGinger]

@xitsxnanax yes!

[Mrsgeminigirl]

well said !!!

[thapryncess3]

i appreciate u posting this i had to share it on facebook

[KandeeLovesYa]

@thapryncess3 Thanks for sharing. Let's get the word out people!

[xitsxnanax]

Agreed.

[zeeiggy]

I had one of those 'pull yourself together woman!' moments, earlier this year. So I totally get what your saying, God Bless :)

[MrsMcKune]

So true

[Princessofnails4]

Thank you for making this video! I love its message