Are You insecure? (Not about being gay or straight)

[creatorofevil]

I can honestly say that if I ran into a person from high school and they started talking to me I'd freak out. I'm not the best with names and faces and sometimes when people know who I am I think it's because people have been laughing at me behind my back. I'd be a little paranoid and the situation would become uncomfortable real fast.

[redny08]

Thank you for making this video. You are definitely not alone in this sentiment!!

[Asunlight17]

I also want to impress some people, I don't know why. :S

[ManOfSteel62013]

I can totally relate man, Ive been in that position before

[GayGeekyVlogs]

@totalnaught Whoa...I'm so sorry. How did that happen?

[Lanedude08]

I try to make best friends with my demons. They aren't going anywhere.

Basically, I try to compensate for my insecurities by being the best at what I'm good at, or at least trying to be the best. Still not there, but I'm closer than most people.

Sometimes, it's our insecurities and demons that remind us of the fact that we are human. If we didn't have demons or weights to balance us, we'd all be douches, stuck up our own asses in ego.

[GayGeekyVlogs]

@Lanedude08 Yeah, my demons still get the better of me. I can't stand it cause I feel so insecure around people even today that I thought I was comfortable with, but still it doesn't work.

[Lanedude08]

@GayGeekyVlogs

If you want my honest opinion, some of your better qualities may possibly be my own demons due to their lack of existence in me.

[swampex]

yes I do

it sicls. I've lost 30 kilos these years. I still feel like crap

[GayGeekyVlogs]

@swampex Holy crap, that's awesome that you lost so much weight.

[swampex]

@GayGeekyVlogs thanks. I have to make a video these days ^_^

[OneDollarMercenary]

I'm doing okay I guess, I still miss my ex and I really wish I could move to live with him...

it really sucks when someone breaks up with you even though you both still love eachother, but due to like, external factors...

on the bright side, I'm counting the days that I'm going to get to see him for the first time! ( only 8ish months... ) :D

[GayGeekyVlogs]

@OneDollarMercenary Ahh, what happened with your ex? Did you guys have to move apart for soemthing?

[OneDollarMercenary]

@GayGeekyVlogs I met him online, we dated 11 months he lives in New Jersey and I live in The Netherlands ( about 4000 miles apart... )

[texanrob]

I agree with Islandurban that some insecurities never go away, by the way paul thanks for the happy birthday note. I am now 59 and still have insecurities, but I have as I get older started just letting them go, and I don't worry about what others think of me like i use to. You know may be that new saying is true, Things will get better.

[GayGeekyVlogs]

@texanrob You're right, they never do go away. But I was hoping that it'd be easier to cope with as I got older.

[blacktopcarnival]

When I was a kid, yes, I was very insecure. Sometimes I do think iwas further along in thing want to do in my life cause I feel like I do need to one up all those kids who picked on me in school. But the few times I've run into those people it was nothing like I thought it would be. One acted like we were old freinds, and one actually seemed more uncomfortable about being around me, I was fine with it. I guess it's just better to just put all that crap behind us and get over it.

[athen8888]

I had the same feeling some time in junior high school. But that was because I wasn't one of those cool kids and I was kinda envy of that guy. Now that group no longer exists anymore, he's left. But I still feel I have to act strong and cool in front of that guy if i ever run into him on street.

[EyeSurvived]

Oh yeah.....totally! Growing up in a tiny town in Northern Wisconsin, I was 6' 4" and 145 lbs my senior year of high school. I never had any real bad enemies in high school although I was teased quite a bit for how lanky I was and how crappy I was at sports.

So although now I'm hovering at 200lbs of lean weight I still feel insecure about my appearance. However, I'm continually pushing myself past that comfort zone so I will hopefully soon get past that. Nice vid man!

[flame0731]

Um accents are hot. Why would you feel awkward about that!

Everyone's got the acne thing though. I literally used my moms cover up on a this pimple that wouldn't go away until after picture day.

[GayComicGeek]

@flame0731 Growing up, I was made fun of a lot because of my southern accent. Now it may be hot as an adult, but back then that's not what I was feeling.

[flame0731]

@GayComicGeek I completely understand. I just meant that too bad you couldn't go back with the mindset that a southern accent is attractive. Oh well you've got it as an adult so it all works out in the end.

[whambamram]

I always feel like that when i run into someone from high school, specially when its someone i had a crush on. But i think they feel the same way when i see them 100 pounds bigger, balding before they even turn 30, with god knows how many kids and a wife that must have been part of practical joke or something.

I'm no male model let me tell ya, but i have improved plenty from when i as in high school, unlike some of my former classmates.

[GayComicGeek]

@whambamram Yeah i like to think I've improved my life tremendously too, but I still feel that way. It's not a big thing, but something in the back of my head that still comes out from time to time.

[johntakai8429]

My feelings are layered with the initial feelings of a child then filtered by the wisdom of being an adult. I think went you met the guy from childhood your childhood feelings overwhelmed your adult filter. Which is a good thing because it says you are still young inside. Just don't let it get you in trouble!

[ASpaceBear]

Mustard and Cabbage make me feel insecure...does anyone else feel the same way?

[ShartimusPrime]

I realized where my center was with music. I started learning the drums in Junior year of high school, and started learning about how corrupt our country is with our corporately lobbied politicians and inhuman manufacturing practices over seas. I was still a dweeb, but I was confident with myself finally. I was good at playing drums, and I cared about the world and was getting mad knowledge together. I've been that person ever since . . . more or less.

[ShartimusPrime]

Cool vid dude! And thanks for the birthday wishes! Damn, too bad I didn't get to see the birthday vid from you, shit!  That'd be cool if you send it to me one way or another though. As for this vid, yes, I grew up very insecure, mostly because I wasn't ever good at anything. I wasn't good at sports, I wasn't particularly smart with my consistent B- to C average, and I could draw pretty well, but my little brother was way better than me at even THAT!!!

[scxander]

well.. I just got laid off from my job of 7 years last week.. trying to stay positive about getting a better job. *lol* I have social anxiety problems.. my friends immediately decided to change my hair. and I went out in a new outfit last night only to discover.. I left one of the tags on when I got to the bars! *lol* So while its flattering to be checked out, having a hot guy go "you have a sticker on your pants" made me want to crawl into a hole. *lol* Yeah.. I have insecurities. :)

[SeeMeYeaILikeIt]

Sadly, I have social anxiety disorder which is difficult to grow out of. Anytime I see someone I haven't seen in years (whether they are family or an old friend) my anxiety sends me into shock and instead of approaching them I sit and uncontrollably think of all the ways something could go wrong if we had conversed. I end up making it more awkward than it needs to be. I realize it but, it's so hard to not be awkward when my body is shaking and sweating, along with negative thoughts.

[ilovemusicWIKA]

for the longest time i was fine with myself, not till i got part way through middle school and through high school i became more insecure. 

[trisshandy]

Excellent vid. I guess I've had trouble all my life separating the gay insecurities from the others. For me they seemed to kind of wind together and reinforce each other. And since I was in the closet for a long time, I became good at hiding everything. So, I was one of the 'cool crowd' in hs and college - on the outside, but I was always insecure on the inside.

[jamesarnesen]

yeah!!!!!! I'm so insecure about my body. I know exactly how you feel

[BrizyComics]

I was insecure about everything back then. Mostly, about the fact that I loved comic books. My two older siblings made it their life's work to convince me that there was something seriously wrong with me for liking comics and wanting to draw them as a career. Those feelings haunted me for years. Right up to when I began working professionally, I kept thinking, "I still like comics--Dear God, I'm not normal!!"

[lordravenscrag]

The trauma of life has left me paralyzed with fear 24/7. i just carry on day to day.

[espressosoup]

I think about the only thing I am really insecure about in my life is weight gain. I used to be thin, built & ripped until I went into a bout of deep depression a few years ago & gained a few pounds of fat. Now at 28 yrs old I just cant seem to lose any weight no matter what I do. I changed my diet & got back into working out but nothing seems to get me back in the aesthetic shape I should be in. Other than that I feel pretty good about me & have never really cared what others think of me.

[UkeAgent21]

"flash forward" and i think of Flash >.>

[IDH2008]

OMG!! I was so insecure with my weight. I always wanted to be like the more athletic kids I knew (even though I am not a fan of sports lol). Lost a lot of weight since then, but sometimes that insecurity is still with me (always think I am fat when I am not)

[Texasred63]

grwoing up a read head, YES i alwasy felt out of place until sophmore year of highschool, and a older kid took me under is wing and boosted my confidence. It has been almost 30 years since I left HS and have never looked back,

[usapegasus007]

Funny enough I never really felt that way back when, I'm 50 now and just to say that I could ahve felt bad about myself I'm only 5 foot 2 inches tall and in high school I weight in at 215 pounds. I used it to my benifit and was the joker in shcool... then I lost the weight dropped down to 125 punds and joined the Air Force...

[TYEDYEGYE1]

Honestly, I am 47 years old, I feel like a failure every day, all of my insecurities are either still here or have modulated to knew ones. Skinny, geeky, nerd, has become fat geeky poor nerd. I really wish I understood and could comprehend how others do it (if they really do it) but it seems to go above my head. I understand what you say above that you work on everything a little at a time, but there are things that get in the way, depression, self image,value, purpose, they are overwhelming.

[jazzman22]

Yeah I am 28 still have some issues of insecurities I think it just human nature to feel that way even when you see old cassmate or think about something that made you feel like crap in your past. I just try to think of the postive aspect of my life.

[RandMcM]

Sometimes, a person or an event can take us back to a place or time when we had problems. Then those problems exist again. Be in the now, see him in the now, celebrate your life in the now and maybe, it will go better.

Thank you for all your sharing - I do appreciate you and what you do.

Rand

[depfox]

I think every one feels insecure about themselfs...We are always hard on ourselfs...I think the hardest part of our growth is to just love our selfs. You are a cool kid in my click.

[Anaprince]

I was always different. Always the weird one. I never realized I was weird even though everyone was constantly saying it. Unfortunantly it kinda just hit me at some point and ever since then I'm forever picking myself apart. Constantly noticing the things that make me stand out. Dont get me wrong, I'm not like avoided at all costs by ppl, Im actually liked by most ppl,which again, is weird, but I'm very aware of the fact that I'm just not like everyone else. Alone in a crowded room style *shrug*

[brentbraniff]

I have major problems with that. And recently its been magnified. Ive had the same career for many years and built up a strong following yet now with a new crew and new boss I feel like the new guy..and Ive been there longer than some of them have been alive.

I guess that coupled with being dumped recently for a doctor in San Francisco might add a bit of salt to the wound. But there ya go. Im going through that "Im loser and will never be loved" stage.

[vertmb]

I'm gay and I've never had a problem with my sexuality but I've always had an insecurity about my body, I feel that I'm too fat to get topless in front of people and I know that I'm not unhealthy fat but I have love handles and for some reason I always felt girls were more accepting of the way my body looked than guys were, I think it's that old school locker room thing, I've actually turned fit guys down so I didn't have to get undressed in front of them and that's kinda crazy.

[Desertsun17]

Good insights! The difference between you now.. and you then, is now you have wisdom to understand yourself better. You knew it was just insecurities, and dealt with it. What I thought cool was he came and spoke to you! It shows people change! Popular people, bullies... everyone changes after HS!

[celowein]

I'm in a much better place than I was in high school (physically, socially, etc), but yeah old insecurities can creep up at the drop of a hat. I can just freeze up and be quiet if someone's talking about how much they weigh or what they want to weigh and stuff like that because I used to be such an overweight kid! haha it's so silly but yeah we just have to remember that no one's going out of their way to make us feel like that, it's all on us.

[Sergesedd22]

Nice vid bro.. I think most people are insecure becuz everyone just wants to feel accepted but what we all need to realize is that we don't need anyones approval to feel good about ourselves. Love yourself folks. Regardless. And it's hard to believe u were/are insecure, I mean ur hott, esp thick country accents..

[mojomike]

Just remember.. you're the cool kid now.. ^_^ Allons-y!

[justinbobby20]

Yes! I Still feel insecure seeing the "Cool Kids" from highschoool even after many years. lol I guess when you see the people from that time, your body and mind defaults back to the same feeling you had in highschool..  I have to really catch myself and "snapout of it"

[iadorerugby]

Feeling the same way

[Shotgunryugan]

Well since i'm barely entering my 17's now,i don't really have anything to talk about,but you shouldn't feel insecure,your hot,you have a great body and more importantly you have a boyfriend and a job which is proof enough that you are successful in life and should never feel insecure,so get that thought out of your head!

[GayGeekyVlogs]

@Shotgunryugan I really wish it was that easy to get rid of it. I think it'll always be there, I'll just have to hope that it eases itself out of my life little by little.

[Shotgunryugan]

@GayGeekyVlogs just wondering,have you ever been bullied by him? because that's usually why people are insecure around certain people,because of bullying,either way get that blasted thought out of your head,you have no reason to be insecure.

[GayComicGeek]

@Shotgunryugan Oh no, I was rarely bullied. He never even paid attention to me. He knew I was around, but never even looked in my direction. I wasn't important enough to bully.

[CatotheCensor1]

I think that the insecurities are tied to the people who invoke them. You were fine until you saw the "Cool Kid". Call it a learned response. You were TRAINED to feel inferior when you saw this fellow. Spend some time with him, and the feelings should go away.

[scythicprimus1981]

i still feel insecure about the way my body looks i know i can change the weight and stuff like that but i cant really change how big something is. i wish it was just a little bit bigger.

[wondermann]

I did. I thought I was too odd. But I'm over it now

[gustjorodedheo]

I'm 21 now and I've yet to not feel insecure about a great multitude of things. There never has been a point in my life where I felt like I've had control, competency, or success. Needless to say, I doubt that'll change.

[ando1135]

Ya.... My life is terrible atm. O and i gai ed weight frpm the stress of it all so, insecurity, trust issues, resentment, depression....im dealing with it all. -_-'

[GayGeekyVlogs]

@ando1135 Oh I'm sorry man. First deal with the most pressing matter. You can't change someone else's life, that's out of your control but you can change yourself. Start doing something that makes you feel good about yourself and work from there.

[Rikun1]

@ando1135 I lived this myself. Two years back when I lost my job as a result of the restaurant going under, I was really depressed and gained a lot of weight as a result. Since then, I've been focusing on weightlifting. Its really helped me become more positive about myself and my self-image. This isn't for everyone, but I have been dealing with my issues better.

[ando1135]

My life suxs...dont know where im going in life, oh and i recently found some evidence that MY DAD might be cheating on my mom with some homewrecker because he gets phone calls text and talks to this biotch. I even walked in on h talking to her and when i asked him who it was, he said it was my aunt. The iphone shows who u are talking to in big letter, it wasnt my aunt it was that bitch ... Then he says its just a friend. What female friend calls u at 10pm in which he has to hide on his csr to

[korisx]

I think a man with a real thick southern accent is sexy.

[GayGeekyVlogs]

@korisx Haha, I wish I knew you back in high school.

[IDH2008]

@korisx I totally agree :)

[HotMissa]

Yeah, I've recently started reconnecting with some of the people I was in school with and I get really awkward and insecure about myself. I know it's all in my head and I'm 43 years old now, but it still gets to me sometimes.

Stay sweet <3

[123moscowman]

I think insecurities are there, its best for us just to learn best how to cope and make the situation better! For me its important, not to blow it up to be bigger than it is. Usually its just in or heads and others dont even think about it that much!

[islandurban]

I think some insecurities never really go away, you just get older and learn how to hide them better ;) I know exactly what you mean though. Sometimes it's not really the person it's the time in my life I associate them with. Like seeing them takes me right back to whatever negative and insecure feeling I had about who I was, when I knew them. I don't pretend the insecurities aren't there anymore I just don't pick myself apart counting all the should/could/would haves. Good video.

[ZehTiffenator]

I like to think I'm not insecure, but running into people from high school makes you feel as though you have to impress them, at least in my experience...

[GayGeekyVlogs]

@ZehTiffenator Yeah I guess so. I was hoping I was better in my self esteem, it really sucks that it's all there.

[Macchiato666]

@GayGeekyVlogs Hey, we all deal with it, bro. It's something that just happens. Just deal with it then and then try your best to let it go and give time to work on those insecurities and grow from it all. One step at a time. I have such a huge issue with my self-esteem, my homosexuality, my feelings of being loved, my issues with just me as a person. It's concrete how I feel and what I want out of my life, but sometimes, it takes a huge toll on me, kind of like today.

Don't worry, just relax.

[DirBlair]

Hmmm, I haven't really ran into or met anyone from my high school years, mostly because I don't live in that small town anymore, but I kinda know what you mean. If I am every talking to someone from way back when, when I had no self esteem or confidence, I feel now like I have to impress them to prove how much I've changed since then, even though I know they aren't looking at me that way anymore either, because we're all grown up.

[kjpgt1991]

I definitely still feel that way considering that I just came out recently....btw, awesome video!!

[GayGeekyVlogs]

@kjpgt1991 I appreciate it dude!

[xxtmJACOBxx]

Do you smoke weed? 

[JasonJackFlash]

You're kinda' cute.

[GayGeekyVlogs]

@JasonJackFlash Haha oh thanks!

[GayGeekyVlogs]

@JasonJackFlash Just saw you pics, so are you dude!