911 domestic violence call from a child witnessing abuse

[carostunes]

Hey stiffy trash! I know your just going to come out with more trash after you read this, but I think you know that if you were man enough to say that in public you would not live to tell the tale cos someone will put you in your place you cowered!!!!

[StiffyBoy56]

Its a shame what this mother is putting her husband and children through due to her insubordination. So many wives drive men to have no alternative but to kick the shit out of them just to keep the peace. She should be in jail!! Poor kids, poor husband. Hope he didnt hurt his fist on that worthless bitch.

[moonwitch1981]

this poor poor child, no baby should have to see or hear such horrors, this would have scared this child forever...do anyone know if the mother and children got to safety.

Also i think we need to relise how much seeing and hearing events like this effects the profesionals, yes it's there jobs but the police,operator,nurses and doctors all have a heart as well, no wounder so many are left effected in the long run.

[shelley8200]

I am now, possibly for the first time in the last two years, able mentally and physically to get my hands dirty and start helping find a solution. Where to start? I'm not sure.

[leannewags]

@shelley8200 I'm with you Shelly ... i don't have the answers but i'm bloody ready to help, please keep me posted, cheers.

[shelley8200]

I think that this video has raised at least my awareness to the harms that DV have on children. It's a CYCLE. The statistics for children raised in homes with DV and the chances that they will be offenders themselves are incredibly high. A different approach should perhaps be taken, but who can identify the "correct" way of doing this? I'm not sure. My sister was murdered by her husband just over 2 years ago and it has had resounding effects on my family, including the death of my father.

[sharea01]

what happend after that? please tell me...

[mindnumber9]

Might be a good idea to screen comments, for approval - and not allow the verbal violence and attacks.

[mindnumber9]

@leannewags what's with the verbal violence, leanne?

[leannewags]

@mindnumber9 It felt to me like you were more interested in fighting with cmarty88 than imparting how sad this video was, imparting the facts on how domestic violence destroys kids! I was very upset after watching this video and anger prevailed. I assumed comments to & fro would have been about the poor poor baby making this call. My comment was harsh and for that i apologise.

[leannewags]

@leannewags And i apologise to cmarty88 too!

[mindnumber9]

@leannewags It's all relative. Domestic Violence has many forms (verbal, physical, sexual, emotional, spiritual, mental) and it impacts men, women and children - all of us.

What's interesting is that there is a video and then live people, here in the comments ... and there's violence down here in the comment section. We're all better to pay attention right here and less up there in the video, because what's playing out right here is real DV. It is *always* a work in progress.

[leannewags]

@mindnumber9 Very true Mindnumer9 and i take your comment to heart.

[mindnumber9]

@leannewags Then you're doing very well and that's good good. :)

[leannewags]

@mindnumber9 For the record, in real life i am a child rights & womans advocate, I foster & do whatever I can to help a child (or woman) in need (helped jail a ped dentist into S&M).I have a loving partner & beautiful boy to help me with these children.I don't feel my comments constitue DV but i have learnt that perhaps restraint is a higher road to take.I just get sooooo angry reading some of the pro abuase of children comments & feel i can let loose on a platfrom like youtube.Prob won't help..

[mindnumber9]

@leannewags Many people (myself included) have "let loose" on youtube (yahoo news comment section is another hot spot for verbal abuse). There's no doubt that harm & violence makes us sick: scared, hurt, outraged, horrified, shocked, overwhelmed, etc.

We need Positive Light ... we need to see Progress, Success of Health post-harm. What does that look like? If people had the examples to follow, they might believe that change is possible. How does one go from "trash" to Grace?

[leannewags]

@mindnumber9 I wish i had the answer to that question ... i really don't think the majority of "trash" have the brain capacity to go to grace ... i really don't. Deep down i know jail is not the answer, but jail at least (for a long time) will protect another child from going through this. I don't know how we could stop perps from perpetrating prior to their heinous crimes. What do you propose?

[mindnumber9]

@leannewags I happen to return here because I'm writing about this video in another place and I find your comments. Do you still think I'm "pretending" to CARE (notice that my word is different from what you wrote). I'm STILL doing the work ...

One word I learned this month, about human beings and life on this planet: DENSE. meanings: Permitting little light to pass through, because of compactness of matter:

Difficult to understand because of complexity or obscurity

[leannewags]

OMG poor baby boy ..... i can't stop crying

[cmartyn88]

To anyone who thinks posting videos like this doesn't accomplish anything, I say bullshit! It does accomplish something! It helps people understand that domestic violence is nothing to take lightly! I have a brother who abuses his wife, and no one in my family has really understood the seriousness of it until recently when my brother hit his wife in my house. Hearing calls like this helps show that domestic violence is NO light matter. I say THANK YOU for posting this video! It DOES help!

[cmartyn88]

I just watched this episode a few days ago. It's horrible. I still want to cry when I listen to this.

[mindnumber9]

i just got hurt by watching this. understand?

when will you advocates and workers CHANGE your track? you need to raise awareness NOT of the problem, but OF THE SOLUTIONS. and the victories. don't you understand?

[MakersFoundation]

@mindnumber9 Thank you for such an honest comment. I understand, it impacts me the same.

But the challenge is this.

When you ask 9 out of 10 people what comes to mind when they think of Domestic Violence, they say ‘the adults’

Very few ever think about the impact on the children. And unless we raise the awareness of this issue, this can never end - and we believe is at the heart of creating significant change.

[mindnumber9]

@MakersFoundation You're right. It cannot ever end and it will not. Why?

Because DV is too common and much too acceptable. Denying that factual truth is mistake number one. We are hypocrites to deny.

Hey, were you aware that America fights for everything under the sun? We won't stop "fighting". Understand?

Oh, and abusive adults are technically adult children.

I stand by my perfect comments. Hail the solutions. Not the problem.

[cmartyn88]

@mindnumber9 And what exactly have you been doing as a solution, oh holy one? Please tell us. I bet nothing. You are probably one of those people who love talking to the talk but don't actually do anything. At least the person who posted this video is raising some sort of awareness to these issues. And then you come along and just HAVE to say something negative. What was your SOLUTION there? To do what? What was your stupid complaining accomplishing? Nothing. So shut up.

[mindnumber9]

@cmartyn88 what i wrote was 100% accurate. Did you feel the strength in my words?  Did you experience fear or intimidation? What's this verbal attack, cmartyn? I'll tell you what it is. You are My Words, come to life. You are evidence and you are proof: "Because DV is too common and much too acceptable".

Here is the solution: if you'd like to reply and engage a PRODUCTIVE conversation, we can do exactly that. It will require NEUTRAL, self-less, objective direction.

[cmartyn88]

@mindnumber9 I don't feel fear nor intimidation with what you said. And I am definitely not your words "come to life." I am me saying you are way too high on that horse of yours and you need to step down and chill out. I don't even know why I am bothering responding to you because you are not worth my time. You think so highly of yourself, and for what? Because you are on youtube giving your words of "strength" to people you don't know? Please. What a joke.

[mindnumber9]

@cmartyn88 Again, a verbal attack.

A verbal assault is a form of DV. Because you're verbally attacking, assaulting and abusing - you ARE proof and evidence of these words: "DV is too common and much too acceptable". It's just a FACT.

You can blast off me at again - I'm VERY used to it. Cannot escape the violence of human nature. It cannot change, it WILL NOT change.

Again, HAIL UP THE SOLUTIONS.

[cmartyn88]

@mindnumber9 Please explain to me how you think I have been "verbally attacking" you? Seriously. I would love to know your reasoning. I am typing words on a computer. You choose to read it in whatever way you want to. It sounds like you are extremely paranoid and think everyone is out to hurt you in some way if you honestly believe I was trying to do so. I shake my head at everything you say back to me because it is ridiculous and makes no sense. You do realize you are crazy, yes?

[mindnumber9]

@cmartyn88 Even more verbal assault and attack. I have to disappoint you; I will not engage.

This is a reference for you: /wiki/Verbal_abuse

[cmartyn88]

@mindnumber9 By responding at all, you did engage. Guess that makes you a liar.

[mindnumber9]

@cmartyn88 I'll provide my meaning.

I've read your opinions of me (attacks), yet I've not defended (engaged) any of them. I'm telling you this so you'll understand.

If you'd like to continue to TRY to FIGHT ... I'll continue to respond in ways meant to serve your educational NEEDS.

I haven't judged or "diagnosed" you, nor will I. I will continue to put forth the TRUTH: these verbal assaults are the "acceptable" DV that you continue to prove.

Now, is it free speech or ABUSE of?

[cmartyn88]

@mindnumber9 You haven't defended yourself with what you are calling my words verbal abuse???! You are defending yourself by going back each time and saying I am guilty of verbal abuse! That is defense! I bet any time someone disagrees with you, you claim they are verbally abusive. Because it makes no sense what-so-ever why you are saying I am this way. Why? Because I'm not. You are just simply crazy. I won't be responding to you any more. Have a nice day.

[mindnumber9]

@cmartyn88 :)

Here: kidshealth (dot) org /teen/your_mind/problems/tips_­disagree (dot) html

and Here: (refer to section d. Confrontational Statements also known as "you statements") - way-of-the-mind (dot) com/manipulative-people (dot) html

[mindnumber9]

@cmartyn88 If youtube will allow, here is another link (that I will attempt to provide for you)

ehow (dot) com /about_5179337_effective-treat­ment-verbal-abusers (dot) html