Out of Body Experience...

[garrettmaria74]

i can imagine im going to feel the same way too:)

[freelancemakeup]

how long did the experence last? for your husband: did you know your wife had the out of body experence?

[kelovetoplay]

Hey Chica! My name is Kim- I work at the gym. I am so happy you are doing well but I have not seen you in person since the tummy tuck. I am so excited to see you! ou have inspired me. It is definately some inspiration I can use. Now, if I just had the insurance and courage to do it, I am thinking about that tummy tuck.

[massagegoddess]

Hey Kim!!! Joel and I usually go to the new gym because they have towels and we are lazy LOL! We should talk sometime, I need to tell you what to expect with the Tummy tuck...

[kelovetoplay]

I just wanted to let you know that I have now watched all of your videos. You are so brave! I actually know you from the gym : ) and you are helping me to make a decision about wether to do the tummy tuck. Thank you so much for sharing your experience!

[massagegoddess]

Did I just meet you this past Sunday? Karen or Caroline? Howdy! The tummy tuck has rocked my world. I actually am thankful for it in a way that never occured to me before having the surgery...

[lisaindio1]

amelia! you inspire me! love ur honesty and you have such a great aura! gotta love ya!!

[mariacarol2007]

u have pretty arm muscles..

[Tammypass]

My question is for your husband. Are you just as attracted to your wife now that she has lost all that weight, more attracted, or less! My fiancee loves big girls. I mean it is a fettish of his. anyways, I am very worried that he is not going to not like my body when i loose my weight. He tells me that he will still love me and that it won't matter as long as i do not change. Meaning, act as if I am to good for him, and change who i am as a person.

Amelia, did you change who you are?

[massagegoddess]

I can ask him, but he doesn't have a thing for big girls at all. He just loved me for me. I can tell he is much more attracted to me, and I am much more fun to be around because I have more self-confidence and I am physically stronger and more energetic. We can do more now and i think that is an attractive trait over the girl who was always hot (as in "its too got to do anything") and too tired to do much

[qwoopah]

This vlog really hit home. I am 8mos post-op and have lost 140 from 444 and have been feeling the same way about my body recently. I too finally have ribs, collarbones, ankles, and a neck. My hands/fingers aren't sooo fat...I can see my toes now...I have even gotten a bit shorter and dropped a shoe size...My sunglasses are too wide for my head now. It has taken me this long to REALLY notice a visual change in my body, and it makes me cry every time I think about it...Keep on trucking Amelia

[qxtroidinare]

I have friends who've had the bypass, but mostly my mom had the bypass. And when she first notieced this 'outerbodyexperience' thing... was the day we were sitting in a waiting room and she was reading a book. I looked up noticed something so I whispered, "mom,mom, look" she was like what? I was like...look at your book. When she looked down, her book was in her lap. We all knw whn urbig ur book is usually up on your bossom and you dont have a lap. She sat there crying. I felt happy

[rmwithey]

Also, it sucks not having all that body weight behind your massage moves! Now I have to use moves that use my WHOLE body weight like getting on the table or doing Thai massage moves that incorporate using my body weight to stretch out the client. Just wish I didn't have all that extra skin hanging so I could wear some nice shorty shorts and mid drifts. Maybe some day! Love ya!

[massagegoddess]

I asked my clients last week if my masage is as deep as it was before and they said I am just a strong. I am well known for doing very strong deep tissue massage. I have such upper body strength that I find it is easier now for me. I have arthritis and i was taking synthetic narcotics just to get through massages before, and my carpal tunnel made my hands go numb 50 times a day. Believe it or not, I find it much easier to do massage now. I am surprised by that,I always believed the weight helped

[rmwithey]

Hey Amelia! I am just getting caught up on your vlogs. Great job. My question is this. When you finally realize that you are YOU - that skinny person you always had inside of you - how are you going to react when the scale starts swinging the other way. I have gained 4lbs and I'm FREAKING out! It's very difficult to watch when you've gotten so used to seeing the scale go down or at least stay put. Would love to hear your thoughts.

[massagegoddess]

I plan to get plastics when I hit goal, and I hope that will give me the incentive to keep it off, I do believe that the day I stop food journaling is the day I don't care about my weight and I am willing to get fat again. I now know that I will food journal till the day i die.

[margodropshercargo]

Amelia - I did it! I started my own Youtube blog. Check it out. You were my inspiration. You're looking fabulous by the way.

[massagegoddess]

Coming right over!

[softNprettyNfL]

I just want to start out by saying that i am so GRATEFUL that you are so candid with your experience. im new to youtube and to the idea of having wls. I have decided to have it and feel that the whole process of looking for a doctor I can trust to be frustrating. Any advice in this area? i am 32 and have been with my husband since i was 16 and he likes me the way i am 130 lbs overweight. can you tell me how you began to discuss this with your husband? Thanks in advance for the reply.

[massagegoddess]

I have always wanted the surgery, but it was my client's wife that basically pushed me over the ledge. I didn't even know she had the surgery for a few years but we talked about it one day and she had so much good to say and told me how awesome her surgeon was so I scheduled and appt and that was history!

[kizzie48]

Thank you for answering my question about water aerobics. With my crushed discs in my back, right now, regular aerobics is out of the question. Thanks again, and you look absolutely wonderful. Keep up the great work.

[discobrat]

I have a hubby question:

Do you find yourself missing the extra "cushion" that Amelia has lost sometimes? And here's my Amelia question: If you had met your hubby at your current weight, do you think your courtship would have been different?

[BotticellisBabe]

I love your videos. You are a true inspiration to all WLS people. Keep up the great work and videos.

[waskiewiczrn]

Joel: What are you looking forward to doing with Amelia this summer that she couldn't have done last summer before her dramatic weight loss?

Amelia: Same question - what are you looking forward to doing this summer that you couldn't have done last summer?

And ... congrats on the feeling of success at the GYM!

Dena

[bjgolat]

Question for massagegoddess: Totally seriously. Someone told me that after you have gastric by-pass surgery, you have really bad gas very very frequently. I have a job where I am always in close quarters with people nad patients. This, as well as the possibility of never knowing when I'm gonna be sick, kinda scares me. Is it as bad as I am thinking (at least for someone in my job situation?) Thanks so much. I love your videos. Please keep us posted on your progress:-D

[massagegoddess]

I don't have gas issues really. I eat beans everyday, i read an article that explained why beans give you gas, but if you eat them regularly your body develops the ability to process beans without creating gas. I rarely have gas problems, but I do keep a sheet of gas-x at work just in case

[cnelife44]

Question for Joel: Since you only knew each other a short period of time before you got married I would like to know... How did you meet Amelia and what attracted you to her? Is there anything of the "old" Amelia that you miss? To us on YouTube she has changed inside as well as outside, with confidence and this outgoing personality. Do you see the personality change also? Last question, When are you two gonna have a baby? Thanks.

[kbeena5]

Have you found that your husband is more attracted to you not just because of the weight loss but because of the extra confidence you may now have?

[sog305]

ur arms look so great. i am so happy for u. god bless u.

[lovelymaiden]

That is so awesome!!! I'm so happy for you!!! :)

[TulaBean]

That is so cool! I am so excited for your new found joy in your body---HOORAY! My only question is about motivation...is it easy or hard to maintain your motivation to eat right and exercise? This is my biggest fear about the surgery.

[taterdog3]

Hi, What are three things you can do now that you couldn't do as a lager person?

[gonnabeaskinnymom]

for joel: how do you feel your relationship has change since her weight loss? do you feel it was a good or bad experiance?

massagegoddess: have you noticed any ensecuritys in your husband since the weight loss?

[massagegoddess]

Yep! I love Cleveland park!

[MrDonut73]

For Joel: how do they make baby Carrots?????????

[slcinoz]

you are rocking...Great job.

Oh I love a smart alec..my husband is a major sarcastic nut..too funny.. can't wait!!

You are amazing. your transformation is so wonderful. How exciting. :) Shannon

[kizzie48]

Hi, you look great. I know you used to do water aerobics and was just wondering if, when you did that, did you feel you were getting a good workout? Thanks.

[massagegoddess]

I KNOW that water aerobics is a real workout. Several years ago (when i was 19) I went from 290 down to 220 doing water aerobics and eating 2000 cals a day, I did that in 4 months. If you do it with high intensity and very often it works!

[happypam2]

you look real good keep up the good work im new to youtube i like some info that you talk about and was it real hard to do the two week diet how did you get thou it sorry if my spellling is bad i cant spell very good but i try the best that i can

[karikatk]

My question to Joel

Did Amelia having wls scare you? Did you think that maybe she would change (personality wise)? Did it make you feel insecure? What has been the most difficult aspect of this whole journey for you?

Thanks! take care

Kari

[secretlifeofz]

How wonderful to hear about the "out of body" experience. I remember feeling that before when I was successful on WW. I can't wait to feel it again!

QUESTION - Are you afraid that you will eventually start cheating the band and this will end up just another failed weight loss attempt? I'm scared to death of that.

[massagegoddess]

I don't have the band, so i have to maintain a low fat low sugar diet for life. Between that and keeping a food journal I hope to keep it off. The day I quit food journalling will be the day I don't care about myself anymore

[harleyyukon]

Could you show your incisions now that you are months out. I just would like to see how they heal.

[massagegoddess]

sure!

[allisonpacino]

It's going to be exciting when your family sees you now :) I hope all goes well...That shirt looks hot by the way!

[need2dosomething]

Part II -

Keep up the good work Amelia, I know WLS is not the easy way out and takes a lot of work and dedication, you are an inspiration to many.

I have been thinking about doing this for over a year... and finally been talking serious with my husband about it, will let you know what happens :)

[need2dosomething]

Amelia - Since your surgery, how has it affected your sex life? Is it better? Do you find that your relationship with your husband is better, worse, the same and why?

Joel - Since Amelia's surgery, have you found yourself more physically attracted to her and how has that affected your relationship? Of course more men are admiring her now, how does that make you feel? Jealous? Angry? Flattered?

[mamasotoes]

Amelia, For your husband, What advice can you give my husband to help me during my WLS. What does he need to understand or be compassionate about. How can I make his life easier after I have gastric bypass? What do we need to be prepared for?

[southernsoubrette]

Joel: If you could give some words of advice to the husbands of wives who have WLS, what would it be?

Amelia: You've told us all about the great and wonderful things you've been through with WLS-- and I think that's because you're a positive person. But what are some of the negatives that a pre-op just can't understand until he or she is "there?" What have been some of your "Whoa, didn't see THAT coming" type moments?

Thanks!

helen

[Shybrat4life]

amelia, after my grandma had gps she lost over 400 pounds ...thats right not a typo 400 pounds ...she had alot of excess skin that had to be removed, you have no where near as much excess skin as she did, but have you talked to you doctor about removing yours?

[massagegoddess]

Have not talked to anyone about it yet, but I am planning to have a tummy tuck at the bare minimum....

[doodleschucky]

Hi Amelia, can I ask if you have experienced any negativity from your friends about your weightloss, or indeed lost any friends since having your surgery? I ask as a colleague at work who has lost loads of weight is experiencing this and I wondered if you had any similar experience yet? Thanks.

[dasajam]

Also, how did you really feel about her having the surgery? I know she said if it made her happy your happy, but with that to the side, did you want her to have the surgery?

Can you tell us about the first time you really noticed her body changing and was there a time you had to do a second glance because you were in awe of her transformation? Like was there a moment you looked at her and was like , "Damn my wife is HOT!"

[dasajam]

Do you feel like since the surgery Amelia has changed in ways you were not expecting, Is she still the Old Amelia on the inside?

[luvmobl]

Great idea Amelia.

Question for Hubby: Have you noticed any changes in Amelia's personality during her phases of weight loss?

Question for Amelia: Have you noticed any changes in personality since your weight loss?

[KarlaKayM]

You look beautiful today...blue is agreat color on you! I think your arms look great....so much better than mine....you must have never had very big arms to begin with......you look great! Cool out of body thing....lately I have been looking at my calves feeling the same thing....weird and cool at the same time huh?

You are right your upper body looks very small.....cool! :-)

[massagegoddess]

I was fortunate that as a massage therapist I had toned arms before I had the surgery. i reccomend people starting to lift weights before surgery so you start to shrink the arms before.

[sabrinamusiq]

U look great girl! U have dimples! Very pretty. Make sure to check out my new video I posted. This you know who this is. Take care girl, keep it up!

[sns6869]

Hi Amelia!! =) I've been watching a lot of videos by ppl frm this wls comm & I gotta say I love watching your videos!! Your very inspiring I hope you know that!! Umm.. I just got my approval for gastric bypass srgry & on the day that I got my approval I got EXCITED & SCARED at the same time... You know that whole "going under" thing kinda freaks me out!! I'm one to always second guess myself.. Did you fear that also?? I know it doesn't bother some ppl.. I'm silly huh!?! NEways. U look gr8!! =D

[massagegoddess]

I didn't let myself go there, heck I bounced into the hospital that morning. I am kinda glad I was naive and didn't think too much about it. There is a moment of "Oh my God this is really gonna happen!" but try to keep busy and get ready because it will be ok I swear!

[dubaigaygirl]

my question for your other half :)

Now that Amelia is living healthy and looking gorgeous...do you find yourself comparing her now to the 'person' you married?

And

Now, do you percieve overwieght people differently now that you see how changed and happy Amelia is?

and

Do you find yourself being more health concious now that your wife is?

thats it...just wanna say loved todays video. Your honesty is

so beautiful i respect that!!

peace

[ItalianPrincess715]

Amelia--I love your videos..you are like my WLS hero!! LOL Anyways..here is question for your hubby--Does he get jealous about all the attention you get now that you have lost weight and are so public about your experiences? Ok keeep up all the great work!!

--Laura

[chrysmass]

Amelia...what a cool video...I cant wait till I am where you are!! Thanks for being such an inspiration.

Question for Hubby: What do you think about Amelia's devotees here on youtube? and her being recognized out in public??

[massagegoddess]

He really doesn't have ANY idea about how I am recieved on here. He doesn't watch my vids. He does see me answer fan mail in bed at night while we watch TV but I am not sure he understands the magnitude...

[chrysmass]

Do you think he would be shocked to find out how many subscribers you have?? and how many times your videos have been viewed?? Tell him on camera!! or make him guess!! I would love to see his reaction...he is married to a suppa star!!

[massagegoddess]

I show him the number of total views I have from time to time, as of tonite I was a little over 118,000 views of my videos! He is impressed by that a little...

[Serramist]

oops forgot my question? Are you comfortable in a bathing suit now? Water excersise is great they say

[massagegoddess]

I do feel fine, my thighs are a little loose at the top, but not a big deal for me

[Serramist]

That sounds so wonderful to be able to say that your legs are beautiful. Be proud of yourself for all that you have accomplised.

[winelover215]

I have family on Amelia Island!  Fernandina Beach area. It's so nice there on the Intercoastal Waterway. I'll try and think of some questions for you. Tom

[massagegoddess]

Gonna be staying with my Uncle in Yulee!

[winelover215]

LOL I know Yulee... Enjoy the A1A :) Take some pics of ocean for us!

[Artist12682]

Would your husband be disappointed in you if you were to gain the weight back? What is the one thing you would never change about Amelia?

[Kristilynn1222]

I am so proud of you!!!! I can not wait for my surgery and to find the amazing changes you are getting to enjoy! You look GREAT!!!!!

Kristi

[shellynewman2006]

ok so ive actually been wanting to ask you two a question so ill start with you then ill ask your husband...how do you feel since you have had your surgery? like about yourself....and to your hubby has amelias weight loss changed the way you look at her and other people looking at her?..lol i know thats weird but i was just wondering bye

[Opendoors08]

Hey Amelia, What fun..family reunion..it will be really cool to see if you can fool someone..I have a friend who saw her uncle at a bar post-surgery, and she sat right next to him, he didn't even know it was her..

How does your husband feel about your video blogs online?

Take care!!You are doing great!!Amy

[massagegoddess]

unfortunately he fears me giving away too much info online. He has never watched my vids he says he sees me in real life all the time!

[honeybee9695]

Your giddy like a little kid! It's so awesome to see how happy you are with your new body and healthy lifestyle. It's still an inspiration to watch you and listen to what you have to say.

My husband is VERY against me getting the surgery. He feels scared about how my health will be after the surgery, MY QUESTION FOR YOUR HUSBAND: How has your life been affected by Amelia's surgery (i.e. taking care of her, encouragement - mental and physical)?

♥-Melissa

[massagegoddess]

Good question, that will be on the list!

[102307RNY]

Amelia, I am only like a week ahead of you, and do you find it hard not drinking while you eat, before you eat, and after you eat, and if you do, does it bother you? Thanks for the video. Kristy

[massagegoddess]

I have gotten really used to it. I do drink before I eat and that doesn't hurt me. I do wait a while to drink after, but I got into a routine so I don't let it bother me when I have to wait to drink. I had a few perfect meals ruined by drinking too early so I learned quick!