Thank you for sharing with us. Sometimes I feel depressed to. You know. I had someone in my life I loved soo much and he only used me then walked out of my life with all the bills behind and I had a job that only let me work one or two days a week. That was very hard. I thought I would never stop crying but I 'm ok . I just try to stay positive.
We all deal with things differently, we should never judge why a person do things they do, just try to understand in love, Phyllis Hyman was a gift, while she was here; and that's what we should remember about her. We are our biggest challenge in this life and sometimes life is to much for some, it has nothing to do how we would handle a situation... but how that person handles there situation. Love conquers all, just show love to all... Be blessed and no response is needed... Have a great day!
LOOK ONLY JESUS CAN HEAL HURTS AND EMOTIONS, I WAS DEPRESSED FOR YEARS BECAUSE OF ALL KINDS OF BAD EMOTIONS. THANK YOU JESUS FOR BRINGING ME OUT! THERE IIS ALWAYS HOPE. SUICIDE IS A TOTAL COPOUT. JESUS PROMISED US LIFE AND THAT MORE ABUNDANTLY.SURROUND YOUR SELF WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE,GODLY PEOPLE.JESUS LOVES YOU! AND ALSO MUSIC HAS AN INFLUENCE ON YOUR MOODS. STOP LISTENING TO SAD THINGS,
Good thing you learned that depression isn't a "white thing" as you so aptly put it. That was a very ignorant mindset, and I'm glad to know you rose above that nonsense. Depression doesn't discriminate.
GOD BLESS Phylis, i never thought i could have it, i was fun loving always out, party party paty, always peoples fav, until it happened you don't ask for it its just there, you try to excuse it with drink etc... but without them its there, somedays you wonder is it your last cause you dont see no other way, other days you on top of the world like superman. now days i learn to live day to day, and music is a big part of that, thanks to Phyllis, Pattie, Gladys, Arethna, Tina ect list goes on & on
Love Phyllis, she put everything she had in her heart into what she sang, miss you Phyllis, pure class and beauty, i know your pain all to well myself
I feel for you 'SintualEvents'. I listen to many Phyllis Hyman songs and most all of her songs contain extremely powerful and moving lyrics (which even makes me cry sometimes!). Phyllis Hyman was a really beautiful woman, inside and out. She passed away much too soon and I, too, wish Ms. Hyman could have better dealt with her depression and issues. I admire your courage in dealing with your depression and issues head-on. Keep up the good work!
SintualEvents - listen, babe, you are so right! Those who have never known it or have known pain can NOT sympatrhize. My doctor said, "Just tough it out." I was lucky . I feel for all those who aren't.
God bless, you dear! I'm so proud of you for being so honest. Don't EVER be ashamed for suffering with depression & don't EVER stop fighting it! Know that it will pass. Keep praying & keep ur chin up! Your thoughts abt depression only happening to whites was so great to hear b/c many blacks suffer, in silence, b/c they're ashamed & unable to face their illness. God bless you for being honest. We need more of that. God can help, no doubt, but people have to understand depression is an illness.
YOUR VIDEO WILL HELP SO MANY PEOPLE. WE ALL GET SAD/DEPRESSED AT TIMES. JUST ABOUT EVERYONE DOES. BUT WITH GOD AND OUR FAITH WE WILL OVERCOME THIS. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR SON. GOD GAVE YOU YOUR SON FOR A REASON-YOU ALREADY KNOW. -----AMEN.
@Zaebolista YOU CAN'T REMEMBER... JUST YESTERDAY YOU SAID..."THAT'S NOT EXACTLY TRUE" TO MY COMMENT. SO I WANTED YOU TO EXPLAIN. NEVER MIND BOO BOO NEVER MIND
@SKEEGIE You're funny, I don't keep track of what comments I make on here nor do I care, and like i said that isn't exactly true, there are a lot of people who believe in god and the same thing can happen that sadly happend to Phyllis.
@SKEEGIE And also I do care what comments I make because I am not a mean person, I was just simply saying that some people do have religion in their life and still can't hold on that's all I am saying.
OM! not the lady who talked about white people talking ni**erly. Just a quick correction, from what I've read Phyllis Hyman suffered from bi-polar disorder which has distinct differences from depression in and of itself. As I understand a percentage of people with this disorder will attempt suicide if not treated. I'm just grateful that so much is left behind of Phyllis. I think she was a beautiful spirit that is gone too soon. Take care of yourself.
very well articulated. I couldn't have described her passion better myself, and I always thought I had a "way with words" I too struggle with depression and bouts of suicidal thinking. My sisters provide my strength and moxy. whew! God isn't finished with us yet, girls! we got a lot of work to do b4 our mission here is finished...someday we'll all have perfect wings
"Life is not a fantasy, it's a reality." And it's been a very lonely reality for me for a very long time. So much pain I can't even go into it all. All I can say is I'm the loneliest person I know. Don't know how much more I can or will take. R. C. E. Cleveland Ohio
Depression feels like you can't live happy in your skin anymore. You go from room to room in your own house, but there's no escaping pain/loneliness from past and present hurts. Ppl & things fall short of lasting joy. You're smart, and aware, but your mind begins to eat at itself. (Money doesn't matter). Life on earth sucks in real terms as you age and truly see the cycle of life; of yourself & others. "God" is the answer! =)
Keep making videos, keep doing good things. You have a gift of intelligence, camera presence, compassion, empathy and beauty. Those things together are a gift to the world. When you give to others, it will come back to you and you will feel good about yourself. Go forward girl!!!
There you go. God gave me something to think more about. I have a child going on 5 years old. I have to live for her. I have my moments. I just leave it in the hands of my Savior "Jesus Christ" he is my prayer.
The song: I Love it.........Phyllis Hyman was one of the Greatest music artist of all time. No matter what the songs lyrics was........I LOVE this song.
Oh and what I said about the NO ONE thing: I believe it's important to be proactive in life and go after friends and activities but that was just to say that even with no friends for a bit it's still ok. I do believe God intends for us to have friends because that's part of the joy of life but if you have a brief bout with loneliness it is not the end of the world, you are never truly alone, God is with you.
Yep. Been depressed and bawling like a baby over loneliness. I got over depression and OCD by God Himself. I was sad and then I thought when God told me "I am with you alway, even unto the end of the earth" Matthew 28:20. In all my bawling I neglected that fact. It helped a lot, it made me understand that if I have no one and I mean NO ONE, I have Jesus. He loves me and that's enough for me. :)
The cure to Depression is prayer. Believe in our Savior JESUS CHRIST. Ask how I know, I been there. Open up the Bible and read it. This is what I do. Depression is an illness, chemical imbalance of the brain. This illness is not something you can just shake off and go on about your business. It's hard and can be a long road for some people if you don't get help. I'll leave this subject . I can go on and on about how I became depressed. This I will not do. God Bless!
@Sixties1961Baby Yeah prayer and "Put on the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness". Isiah 61:3 To depress literally means to press down. That's speaking specifically on depression! I believe praising the Lord helps as well. It's spiritual warfare! "the weapons of our warfare are not carnal (of a fleshly or earthly nature) but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds" 2 Corinthians 10:4 These "strongholds" are in the mind, hence "Depression" a host of other mental disorders.
@terrance1207 You're Stupid. This shit about "needing some dick" gotta go. I don't need dick to make my world go round. Move on with this damn stupid ass statement. Leaving this alone. I'm Out..........
To everyone who has been hurt, abused, mistreated, or neglected. I am here to share that there is a way however dilligence and persistance is the key. Ask the lord to repair your hearts and teach you how to love and accept love all over again. Do not give up... I know it is hard but if u want something bad enough u go after it with all your heart. May God give you strength and peace for we wrestle not against flesh but powers of darkness and principalities.
if u commit suicide u will not enter heaven the bible says it clearly so please dont do it life is so beautiful ok love kelly the bronx nyc dyre ave just pray to god he will listen to u
@treeswithflowers I have been there and i am getting better with time. Pray to God everday to give you a new heart and a steadfast spirit. I do not know you but i understand and love u. You are not alone.There is a way and that is thru Christ. Knock everday and the door will be opened. It takes time.....
@15725linwood Hi... I hope that u are feeling better. As i started to get up in age i started to worry that i was going to spend the rest of my life abused single and alone. I became celebate and i let go and let God choose for me. He sent me an honest, wonderful, man with integrity and everyday i am thankful. I have always suffered with depression as well however i have accepted the fact that i cannot control everything and i ask God everday for a new heart and steadfast spirit.
What happens when one thinks that life isn't worth living? A lot of things. But I can only speak through my own experiences.
People used to bully me when I was 6 up until I turned 18. I had a very negative opinion about other people. During that time, I tried to kill my emotions and harden my heart to everyone. That was until I entered college and found people that treated me like a human. Then those feelings came back and now I'm now at war with myself. I want to be around others, but
I'm still living with the notion that everyone is an enemy. It hurts, because I don't know how to control my emotions now. That's why I don't think life is worth living anymore. The sooner I stop breathing, the better.
That's not the entire story, but it's a huge piece of it.
@luffyhiei Been there. Do not give up. I promise you with time it will get better. It is a test of your will and everday it is a battle. The lords plan is for you to win. Fasting and prayer helps. Check to see if a thyroid problem exists. Love from your neighbor.....
i know how you feel I've been there. family wasn't there to fight my battles through K-12 GRADE. When college rolled around, I found out who my friends were untill I found myself I was more stronger.Now that I found God I'm saved and I'm still living and have a loving boyfriend that's going to marry me shoo and have some babies too.
You're so pretty (btw luv the jewelry). Phylis was so stunning. It's incomprehensible how she was so lonely. We need to stop being mislead by how someone looks or appears to be. Everyone please listen to your family, friends, and others close to you. Girl, when it comes down on you it's like that dark cloud hovering over you. Lord knows I've been there. See, you can't control when the feel comes girl. I feel u. Stay up.
This was a heartfelt video. Glad you are conquering your depression. But I do disagree on one thing, Medication for some is kind of risky, but another way to deal with depression is counseling. Oh and RIP Phyllis Hyman.
Like you say God bless you with a child and that help you to over come your depression well I like to add to that that God knows what we need and your story is so true to me and so similar and close to me that you are remarkable witness of Jesus and don't forget that people need your witness of God powers for depression. God bless you truly baby! Jesus love you and I do too!
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Good post and keep ya head up, I feel exactly where you're comin' from. A lot of times life's not what it's all cracked up to be, and you become disappointed by it's let downs. Just gotta ride it out though, that's all I try to do.
Quando eu soube da morte de Phyllis Hyman fiquei muito triste pois eu nunca imaginaria que a musica que eu tanto procurava(you know how to love me)era cantada na linda voz da Phyllis.E foi no ano de 2008 no finalzinho que descobri a musica pela net.
My aunt had a small part with Phyllis Hyman in the broadway musical Sophisticated Ladies. Anyway my brother was eight month old when my mother took him to meet up with my aunt so they can do some shopping after rehearsal in New York. My mom was standing outside with my brother and saw Phyllis when she came out the back door.
A lot of people wanted and autograph so my mom when over and also asked for an autograph. Phyllis was intrigue with my brother and told my mom, what a beautiful baby. She took my brother out of my mom arms and kept looking at him. A few people wanted more autograph and she was signing autograph still holding my brother.
She was thinking people for their support and she was starting to leave with this guy who was her security with my brother. My mom starting yelling, Miss Hyman can I have my baby. She turn around as my mom started running up to her and she said Oh, I am so sorry. So I really think she wanted to have children and that is what she missed in her life. RIP Miss Phyllis Hyman
SHe also had baggage with her being tall and her shoes were big(size12) people would say she was a amazon. Also she didnt do it cold turkey, she went to rehab serveral times but could not stay sober. I hate the Phyllis died. But i think if she had a kid she would still be here... I love and adore Ms Hyman. Glad you are the same..
thanks 4 encouragin me to live on i do see a point in livin to chase my dreams and enjoy life to the full so when im in da hospital at 65 at least i can say thank god ive had a good life when i was young.
Thank you for sharing & being so honest. This segment was really awesome! I'm sure you've helped so many people, you sure got my attention! Be blessed!
I know you don't know me, but what a blessing to see and meet you thru your words.
You know, I've heard we are the greatest mystery...taking the time to find out who we are inside-what we're feeling whether good or sad is the beginning to the healing. Prayer is a healer and beautiful. My mom always told me that the Lord-God don't put nothing on you more than you can handle-stay in the LOVE zone---
Love to you for your presence and courage voice and thoughtfulness.
I was watchingthat tvone special and I never knew she- or the great donnie hathaway died they died really really tragic and sad...show the effect depression can have on people.
Not to mention but there are not enough black men for Black women. We need to go back to the beginning a allow men to have more than one wife. 25 to 1
COURAGEOUS POST_for a long time in the black community this was taboo to talk about this openly...for OBVIOUS reasons we had to be sronger more resilient but like old concrete folks are starting to crack...but now more black men are killing themselves in higher numbers...more black women are seeking mental health professionals in exponential numbers_strong support systems/faith is a must and even that isnt always enuff
Your fans are just enabling you into filling holes (voids). In my lowness of heart, I knew I needed more of Jesus Christ and nothing else. The Everlasting Thirst Quencher. Sages, incense, strange meditations = witchcraft
Phyllis is missed. When my depression was at its highest level, I used to listen to that song and "Living in Confusion", among other sad songs. God does answer prayers, those who believe and have faith will be healed. Amen!
i remember when she committed suicide and i cried a little bit because i understood. i wish she was here because her voice and her beauty was something else....she was a great talent== under appreciated.
as for me and depression i just cry a lot and drink a lot. but it is not working for me...
This is my 1st time every listening to you and WOW, you sounded so much like me till it scared me. Now I have a new way of looking at things and a new ways of how to handle my depression.
I simply adore your honesty. I agree with you on so many levels. You are not alone. I can alos relate to you on many levels. Thank you for sharing. And YES YES, Phylliss is my Homegirl! She was and is a beautiufl soul!
Phyllis had extreme mental illness issues. She suffered from bipolar disorder--it wasn't just depression, in addition to her addiction issues. You need to read the book "Strength of a Woman: The Phyllis Hyman Story" to get a better understanding about Phyllis. This book really gives you an inside look at the REAL Phyllis Hyman.
@SintualEvents- Girl I went through the same thing. I could really identify with Phyllis and she sang all the songs I felt. I have been suicidal 2x. I have been praying. When you are loveless it can really get you. I'm married now but still suffer with the depression and Bi-polar. used alcohol a lot. Smoked a lot of cigs. Still dealing with the depression. I have the best husband ever. I am working really hard o myself. Still taking my meds. though. Praying all the time and closer to God.
Lots of people in my family suffer from this bi-polar and to add .....Phyllis was my (not that its important)my 3rd cousin...she's actually my grandmothers 1st cousin....
You had me all the way up to the point when your used "God's name' and shut the F* in the same sentence. What God do you know? Shaking my head p.s don't try and tell us about Phyllis, you didn't know her. There is enough information out there if someone wants to read about her legacy. Peace
I am wondering right now if I need medication for my depression. Phyllis's story makes me wonder if she could have still been here if she had the help she needed. I wake up sad too for no reason at all sometimes, so I know how you feel. You'll be okay, we'll make it together.
My father was bi-polar for years before he was diagnosed. He finally got a good doctor and was on Lithium which helped him immensely. This can happen to anyone white or black or any other color.
SintualEvents thank you so much for putting this video up. I myself have and still do struggle with depression and sometimes feel like i'm the only one. I'm lonely and depressed right now and watching this made me feel so much better!
To be honest, I still don't feel as if i have totally accepted my birth right meaning i refuse to get married have kids. Thinking if i'm not attached to anything down here on earth then God would see that i have no purpose here and then he would take me out of this life. Thats still and always will be a desire of mind for God to take me, I'm not gonna commit suicide though, But i would like to rush things. In other words i rather be in heaven then down here.
I never really struggled with depression, But i would become bothered by things i had no controll over. Things like being born black, Being born male or female, You don't pick your parents, thats also chosen for us. The bottom line is we have to accept our parents, our skin color, And our gender.
Actually, I know how Phyllis felt...been there many times, and I still am on occasion. I know how it feels not to be loved by family/so-called friends/girlfriends, etc...I just have to take it one day at a time I guess. Even when I'm down, like clockwork, I turn on Phyllis or Donny Hathaway. I know it's kind of strange, but that's what I do.
SintualEvent, You are a beautiful person and your creator understands that you are hurting, and hurt people hurt people. I am happy that you have found the strength to come out of hiding and face the world as you are, even in your depression. You will find that people will reach out to you and understand your actions now.
WOW! This is powerful! I was youtubing for Phyllis songs and I didn't expect to come across this. I remember the day she died, my cousin ran in the house and told us, my father told him, quit playing, thats a sick joke. But it was true, she took her life. Black women, how can we learn from this? I respect your video post and the work that your doing. Shine on sis.
"cuz I'm out 4 deeper meaning/deeper meaning/more than wealth/like listen to Phyliss(Hyman) sing Living All Alone/then realizin she killed herself" C.C.H.
I wrote that in a freestyle poem nearly a decade ago. You moved me speaking on the topic of Phyliss, your trials and celebrations, and the universal emotional rollercoaster we are all forced to ride continuously. You keep being yo self, you keep raising good karma, and keep Phyliss' story in your heart and on your tongue. Peace Lady!!
I was viewing Ms. Hyman videos and came across your video....You are a truly bless woman. People need to know that we will all one day experience depression...this type of emotions comes only to bring us closer to the knowledge of God. I thank God you had the mind to seek God and ask for spiritual help, it is only by God's grace we who view your video are here today, sadly for Ms. Hyman, she gave up without seeking a HIGHER POWER. Medication may work, but God destorys the YOKE of Depression!
That is simply nonsense -- and an insult to all people with this illness. The only higher power that helps against depression is EDUCATION about the illness and a good PSYCHIATRIST!!!!
Thanks for your words sistergirl, I just happend upon this video while listening to phyllis H. and there you were speaking my thought back to me in so many ways reguarding the depression...good to know there are others out there even whne you feel alone. Thanks and be blessed.
SintualEvents, I remember back in 1995 Jet magazine did a story of Phyllis Hyman's suicide and they interviewed a friend of hers i forget his name, But he said Phyllis Hyman had set a date to kill herself, But she killed herself way before the date she gave him and he felt Phyllis had cheated. i think Phyllis thought that he would stop her so she siked him out and killed herself sooner.
Being a lesbian doesn't automatically lead to depression, what a stupid statement to make! I myself, am a happy ass lesbian, ok? lol And your'e probably a closet case yourself!
You called out two sins as if those are the only sins God is against. What kind of issues that God is against that you yourself need to work on. I believe thats the problem with people. They cant clean their own houses for trying to see whats going on in their neihbors house. They cant enjoy what they have because they to busy trying to see what they neihbor got so they can out do them. My point is this, don't criticize things you have no understanding about.
check out her biography "strength of a woman" (phyllis hyman story dot com) -- great insight into her life and what contributed to her suicide. thanks for sharing.
10fDemdays: I'll assume your comments have something to do with my posting. I loved Phyllis and still do. That being the case, Ms. Hyman prided herself on "running her own company". If the IRS was on her back daily, she should have stuck to singing/performing rather than being overtaken by "whitey". In my many visits with Ms. Hyman, she never mentioned this IRS or "white" problem.
Phyllis didn't "own" anything other than herself. She rented an apartment in New York.
I'm not going to debate with you killerjoebenson over Phyllis Hymans death but, I believe its safe to say Phyllis hated the system as do alot of black people. The white power structure is not blameless, Since her suicide even more people have commited suicide in this country due to this recession that we're in home's going into foreclosure, Job layoffs etc.etc. After all said and done the suicide rate of white people is still much higher then with blacks, So this system is nobodies friend.
In addition it took over 400 years for a black man to finally get this close to being are next president, I'm just sad to say that Phyllis Hyman is not alive to see Barack Obama fight in a system that is designed to keep us all dissatisfied on some level. Obama has already worked harder than Bush ever did in Bush's 8 years of lying to us.
I'm very touched by your story I'm glad you had the guts, and the courage to get some help for depression. I know this has been said before but I'll say it anyway you're a very beautiful woman!
aaahhhh yeah MYYY GURLLL i love her and every one of her songs. i was depressed for a whole year back in ???92 or so. ill never allow me to be that low again. darkness is not fun. so i ask for help now. i lost my daughter few yrs after that and i sought help not to go back again. yeah i smudge too. and use many different types of cleansings. way to go gurl..feel better to you and love you.
I've heard so many beautiful things concerning you, and your energy, your beauty, your loving words, and your praise for life, and the special people you keep company with. I just wanted to say that I think your gift is one that is infectious, and a powerful force to be reckoned with.
depression can lead you down all kinds of roads, as a teen i used to get a lot,now i just concentrate of me by exercising, pray, read, change my mind state
I thank you for speaking about your depression. I believe you and others believe it is a problem for white people because if people think that, they and other just don't say anything. You are doing what it takes to break down that sterotype.
Hey there, I see you practice Wicca! I used to practice Wicca also which really helped me through my hard times! I adore a lot of the Wicca practices, and I still use a lot of them in my daily life!
stay strong, girl - and keep burnin' that incense! i know how it can be... and i too have learned to hone in on the warning signs that i'm going "there" - my stomach gets in knots... i'm anxious...and i physically feel weighed down - music sees me through - one of 2 things happens -i turn on something sad and i cry it out...or something really "happy shiny" and corny and DANCE it out...lol
ive been there and its just like you said, you gotta know how to catch it coming on and deal with it....or you will "rot" (great choice of words). we're all here for you all the time...good days AND bad. BIG HUG to you :) love you!
Sadly my little sister was a victim of that dreadful disease... or should I say not only she, but everyone who knew her was a victim. 21 years old. :(
Her suicide was probably the most devastating thing that has happened in my entire life so far. It's often a taboo thing to even talk about. No bereavement groups were available and any one who hasn't been there is afraid of the subject. It's not the same as a death caused by other reasons.
I should know about it. I was in that as well. I was very depressed as well for a long time. I tried to take my life away a couple of times, but obviously I failed, and I'm glad I failed at dying. i know what you mean on that department...I've also been a destructive person when I am depressed. I guess that's why I kinda became a lot of a video gamer myself cuz that's the thing that could only help me to get away from my depression, thus why Its kinda rare when i even play any games.
But anyway I've been there, It may come back every now and them, but i think its natural for anyone out there to be down once in a while.I am happy you are here with us, alive and well.I love you.
Thank you for sharing with us. Sometimes I feel depressed to. You know. I had someone in my life I loved soo much and he only used me then walked out of my life with all the bills behind and I had a job that only let me work one or two days a week. That was very hard. I thought I would never stop crying but I 'm ok . I just try to stay positive.
What4ish 5 months ago
Thank you for sharing. Jen
jensanghacurry 5 months ago
We all deal with things differently, we should never judge why a person do things they do, just try to understand in love, Phyllis Hyman was a gift, while she was here; and that's what we should remember about her. We are our biggest challenge in this life and sometimes life is to much for some, it has nothing to do how we would handle a situation... but how that person handles there situation. Love conquers all, just show love to all... Be blessed and no response is needed... Have a great day!
adornscott1 6 months ago
LOOK ONLY JESUS CAN HEAL HURTS AND EMOTIONS, I WAS DEPRESSED FOR YEARS BECAUSE OF ALL KINDS OF BAD EMOTIONS. THANK YOU JESUS FOR BRINGING ME OUT! THERE IIS ALWAYS HOPE. SUICIDE IS A TOTAL COPOUT. JESUS PROMISED US LIFE AND THAT MORE ABUNDANTLY.SURROUND YOUR SELF WITH POSITIVE PEOPLE,GODLY PEOPLE.JESUS LOVES YOU! AND ALSO MUSIC HAS AN INFLUENCE ON YOUR MOODS. STOP LISTENING TO SAD THINGS,
EngRacer11 6 months ago
16yrs ago this week we lost Phyllis. Touching video. Thanks for posting.
sanceations 6 months ago
<3
Capinyx 7 months ago
Good thing you learned that depression isn't a "white thing" as you so aptly put it. That was a very ignorant mindset, and I'm glad to know you rose above that nonsense. Depression doesn't discriminate.
6672rock 8 months ago
GOD BLESS Phylis, i never thought i could have it, i was fun loving always out, party party paty, always peoples fav, until it happened you don't ask for it its just there, you try to excuse it with drink etc... but without them its there, somedays you wonder is it your last cause you dont see no other way, other days you on top of the world like superman. now days i learn to live day to day, and music is a big part of that, thanks to Phyllis, Pattie, Gladys, Arethna, Tina ect list goes on & on
TheRyry84 9 months ago
It feels good to have videos on youtube like this when feeling down or depress.
Van2Dan 9 months ago
great vid
ThenikkiExperience 10 months ago
Love Phyllis, she put everything she had in her heart into what she sang, miss you Phyllis, pure class and beauty, i know your pain all to well myself
MotownMaster 11 months ago
Tough Attitude. You are the great example for people who are dealing with similiar problems.
Isn't a bad day? Then let it pass. It won't be forever.
Sooner or later good things will come.
pangeajurei 1 year ago
I feel for you 'SintualEvents'. I listen to many Phyllis Hyman songs and most all of her songs contain extremely powerful and moving lyrics (which even makes me cry sometimes!). Phyllis Hyman was a really beautiful woman, inside and out. She passed away much too soon and I, too, wish Ms. Hyman could have better dealt with her depression and issues. I admire your courage in dealing with your depression and issues head-on. Keep up the good work!
gorickard319582010 1 year ago
Hey You guys really really need the true JESUS! Not the one they sell on TV!!!
puresm1 1 year ago
Depression is really hard. I feel you girlfriend. Keep making these videos.
NeoBluez 1 year ago
SintualEvents - listen, babe, you are so right! Those who have never known it or have known pain can NOT sympatrhize. My doctor said, "Just tough it out." I was lucky . I feel for all those who aren't.
hasablad69 1 year ago 2
Grow some hair and lose some weight. It might help your dumb ass.
juanatrip 1 year ago
@juanatrip Not fair!
hasablad69 1 year ago
That's why a loooove incense..so i can calm my mind, and purify my thoughts. You're the incense queen?..I'm the incense king.
wingchun31 1 year ago
God bless, you dear! I'm so proud of you for being so honest. Don't EVER be ashamed for suffering with depression & don't EVER stop fighting it! Know that it will pass. Keep praying & keep ur chin up! Your thoughts abt depression only happening to whites was so great to hear b/c many blacks suffer, in silence, b/c they're ashamed & unable to face their illness. God bless you for being honest. We need more of that. God can help, no doubt, but people have to understand depression is an illness.
manyara02 1 year ago
YOUR VIDEO WILL HELP SO MANY PEOPLE. WE ALL GET SAD/DEPRESSED AT TIMES. JUST ABOUT EVERYONE DOES. BUT WITH GOD AND OUR FAITH WE WILL OVERCOME THIS. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR SON. GOD GAVE YOU YOUR SON FOR A REASON-YOU ALREADY KNOW. -----AMEN.
SKEEGIE 1 year ago
@SKEEGIE That's not exactly true.
Zaebolista 1 year ago
@Zaebolista YOU CAN'T REMEMBER... JUST YESTERDAY YOU SAID..."THAT'S NOT EXACTLY TRUE" TO MY COMMENT. SO I WANTED YOU TO EXPLAIN. NEVER MIND BOO BOO NEVER MIND
SKEEGIE 1 year ago
@SKEEGIE You're funny, I don't keep track of what comments I make on here nor do I care, and like i said that isn't exactly true, there are a lot of people who believe in god and the same thing can happen that sadly happend to Phyllis.
Zaebolista 1 year ago
@SKEEGIE And also I do care what comments I make because I am not a mean person, I was just simply saying that some people do have religion in their life and still can't hold on that's all I am saying.
Zaebolista 1 year ago
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OM! not the lady who talked about white people talking ni**erly. Just a quick correction, from what I've read Phyllis Hyman suffered from bi-polar disorder which has distinct differences from depression in and of itself. As I understand a percentage of people with this disorder will attempt suicide if not treated. I'm just grateful that so much is left behind of Phyllis. I think she was a beautiful spirit that is gone too soon. Take care of yourself.
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utwobing 1 year ago
very well articulated. I couldn't have described her passion better myself, and I always thought I had a "way with words" I too struggle with depression and bouts of suicidal thinking. My sisters provide my strength and moxy. whew! God isn't finished with us yet, girls! we got a lot of work to do b4 our mission here is finished...someday we'll all have perfect wings
seburgess2008 1 year ago
"Life is not a fantasy, it's a reality." And it's been a very lonely reality for me for a very long time. So much pain I can't even go into it all. All I can say is I'm the loneliest person I know. Don't know how much more I can or will take. R. C. E. Cleveland Ohio
spardicka 1 year ago
Depression feels like you can't live happy in your skin anymore. You go from room to room in your own house, but there's no escaping pain/loneliness from past and present hurts. Ppl & things fall short of lasting joy. You're smart, and aware, but your mind begins to eat at itself. (Money doesn't matter). Life on earth sucks in real terms as you age and truly see the cycle of life; of yourself & others. "God" is the answer! =)
speedoflite1 1 year ago
Keep making videos, keep doing good things. You have a gift of intelligence, camera presence, compassion, empathy and beauty. Those things together are a gift to the world. When you give to others, it will come back to you and you will feel good about yourself. Go forward girl!!!
MsHolmar 1 year ago
There you go. God gave me something to think more about. I have a child going on 5 years old. I have to live for her. I have my moments. I just leave it in the hands of my Savior "Jesus Christ" he is my prayer.
Sixties1961Baby 1 year ago
The song: I Love it.........Phyllis Hyman was one of the Greatest music artist of all time. No matter what the songs lyrics was........I LOVE this song.
Sixties1961Baby 1 year ago
Oh and what I said about the NO ONE thing: I believe it's important to be proactive in life and go after friends and activities but that was just to say that even with no friends for a bit it's still ok. I do believe God intends for us to have friends because that's part of the joy of life but if you have a brief bout with loneliness it is not the end of the world, you are never truly alone, God is with you.
Weewinkle7 1 year ago
Yep. Been depressed and bawling like a baby over loneliness. I got over depression and OCD by God Himself. I was sad and then I thought when God told me "I am with you alway, even unto the end of the earth" Matthew 28:20. In all my bawling I neglected that fact. It helped a lot, it made me understand that if I have no one and I mean NO ONE, I have Jesus. He loves me and that's enough for me. :)
Weewinkle7 1 year ago
like this song
pushupful 1 year ago
The cure to Depression is prayer. Believe in our Savior JESUS CHRIST. Ask how I know, I been there. Open up the Bible and read it. This is what I do. Depression is an illness, chemical imbalance of the brain. This illness is not something you can just shake off and go on about your business. It's hard and can be a long road for some people if you don't get help. I'll leave this subject . I can go on and on about how I became depressed. This I will not do. God Bless!
Sixties1961Baby 1 year ago
@Sixties1961Baby Yeah prayer and "Put on the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness". Isiah 61:3 To depress literally means to press down. That's speaking specifically on depression! I believe praising the Lord helps as well. It's spiritual warfare! "the weapons of our warfare are not carnal (of a fleshly or earthly nature) but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds" 2 Corinthians 10:4 These "strongholds" are in the mind, hence "Depression" a host of other mental disorders.
Weewinkle7 1 year ago
alone is the place to be relations are rubbish
arruggnir 1 year ago
@arruggnir fuck ye!...
Hikaruai 1 year ago
Thanks for this video. I am feeling very depressed right now and it is such a painful disease. I said disease because I do believe that's what it is.
greatbydesign33 1 year ago
This video helps me daily you're real mama thank you!
SexyLiLLeilaniMya 1 year ago
u need sum dick
terrance1207 1 year ago
@terrance1207 You're Stupid. This shit about "needing some dick" gotta go. I don't need dick to make my world go round. Move on with this damn stupid ass statement. Leaving this alone. I'm Out..........
Sixties1961Baby 1 year ago
you need to get fuck
terrance1207 1 year ago
To everyone who has been hurt, abused, mistreated, or neglected. I am here to share that there is a way however dilligence and persistance is the key. Ask the lord to repair your hearts and teach you how to love and accept love all over again. Do not give up... I know it is hard but if u want something bad enough u go after it with all your heart. May God give you strength and peace for we wrestle not against flesh but powers of darkness and principalities.
nwest2fly 1 year ago
if u commit suicide u will not enter heaven the bible says it clearly so please dont do it life is so beautiful ok love kelly the bronx nyc dyre ave just pray to god he will listen to u
kellyklove 1 year ago
Lovely video. I have been depress for years. Now, I do not leave my home, except once a month. I no longer have any desire to go out.***
treeswithflowers 1 year ago
@treeswithflowers I have been there and i am getting better with time. Pray to God everday to give you a new heart and a steadfast spirit. I do not know you but i understand and love u. You are not alone.There is a way and that is thru Christ. Knock everday and the door will be opened. It takes time.....
nwest2fly 1 year ago
loved this video....I have suffered from depression for years.just broke up with my boyfriend,feeling really sad.
15725linwood 1 year ago
@15725linwood Hi... I hope that u are feeling better. As i started to get up in age i started to worry that i was going to spend the rest of my life abused single and alone. I became celebate and i let go and let God choose for me. He sent me an honest, wonderful, man with integrity and everyday i am thankful. I have always suffered with depression as well however i have accepted the fact that i cannot control everything and i ask God everday for a new heart and steadfast spirit.
nwest2fly 1 year ago
Thank you for sharing this.
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xthcmusic 1 year ago
What happens when one thinks that life isn't worth living? A lot of things. But I can only speak through my own experiences.
People used to bully me when I was 6 up until I turned 18. I had a very negative opinion about other people. During that time, I tried to kill my emotions and harden my heart to everyone. That was until I entered college and found people that treated me like a human. Then those feelings came back and now I'm now at war with myself. I want to be around others, but
luffyhiei 2 years ago
I'm still living with the notion that everyone is an enemy. It hurts, because I don't know how to control my emotions now. That's why I don't think life is worth living anymore. The sooner I stop breathing, the better.
That's not the entire story, but it's a huge piece of it.
luffyhiei 2 years ago
@luffyhiei Been there. Do not give up. I promise you with time it will get better. It is a test of your will and everday it is a battle. The lords plan is for you to win. Fasting and prayer helps. Check to see if a thyroid problem exists. Love from your neighbor.....
nwest2fly 1 year ago
i know how you feel I've been there. family wasn't there to fight my battles through K-12 GRADE. When college rolled around, I found out who my friends were untill I found myself I was more stronger.Now that I found God I'm saved and I'm still living and have a loving boyfriend that's going to marry me shoo and have some babies too.
ForgiveableDalana 2 years ago
Thank you, SISTA!!!
fantabulous008 2 years ago
I think loneliness is more of a demon. When I pray it goes away but you also need medication.
2Baiforev 2 years ago
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always loved her music, may she rest in peace.
JRAILUVU 2 years ago
You're so pretty (btw luv the jewelry). Phylis was so stunning. It's incomprehensible how she was so lonely. We need to stop being mislead by how someone looks or appears to be. Everyone please listen to your family, friends, and others close to you. Girl, when it comes down on you it's like that dark cloud hovering over you. Lord knows I've been there. See, you can't control when the feel comes girl. I feel u. Stay up.
zheahra 2 years ago
good vid!
odarellmc 2 years ago
great video, very inspiring =]
typicalazn93 2 years ago
great video
sexy2lvrn 2 years ago
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Jesus.....I feel like killing myself after watching this
adenbrishangles 2 years ago
This was a heartfelt video. Glad you are conquering your depression. But I do disagree on one thing, Medication for some is kind of risky, but another way to deal with depression is counseling. Oh and RIP Phyllis Hyman.
rdwatch 2 years ago
Like you say God bless you with a child and that help you to over come your depression well I like to add to that that God knows what we need and your story is so true to me and so similar and close to me that you are remarkable witness of Jesus and don't forget that people need your witness of God powers for depression. God bless you truly baby! Jesus love you and I do too!
lsnfoundation 2 years ago
Happy Mother's Day!
lsnfoundation 2 years ago
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((R3ST iN P3AC3 PHYLLiS))
kennettizme 2 years ago
@kennett...you need help
sandroeleven 2 years ago
Good post and keep ya head up, I feel exactly where you're comin' from. A lot of times life's not what it's all cracked up to be, and you become disappointed by it's let downs. Just gotta ride it out though, that's all I try to do.
nnjvhvhhgc 2 years ago
Eu amo Phyllis Hyman...
I love you Phillys Hyman...
Princesa Hyman..
Linda e bela voz....
Que saudade de Phyllis.
Está nos braços do pai(DEUS).
sergiovascon 2 years ago
Quando eu soube da morte de Phyllis Hyman fiquei muito triste pois eu nunca imaginaria que a musica que eu tanto procurava(you know how to love me)era cantada na linda voz da Phyllis.E foi no ano de 2008 no finalzinho que descobri a musica pela net.
sergiovascon 2 years ago
My aunt had a small part with Phyllis Hyman in the broadway musical Sophisticated Ladies. Anyway my brother was eight month old when my mother took him to meet up with my aunt so they can do some shopping after rehearsal in New York. My mom was standing outside with my brother and saw Phyllis when she came out the back door.
jerscat 2 years ago
A lot of people wanted and autograph so my mom when over and also asked for an autograph. Phyllis was intrigue with my brother and told my mom, what a beautiful baby. She took my brother out of my mom arms and kept looking at him. A few people wanted more autograph and she was signing autograph still holding my brother.
jerscat 2 years ago
She was thinking people for their support and she was starting to leave with this guy who was her security with my brother. My mom starting yelling, Miss Hyman can I have my baby. She turn around as my mom started running up to her and she said Oh, I am so sorry. So I really think she wanted to have children and that is what she missed in her life. RIP Miss Phyllis Hyman
jerscat 2 years ago
SHe also had baggage with her being tall and her shoes were big(size12) people would say she was a amazon. Also she didnt do it cold turkey, she went to rehab serveral times but could not stay sober. I hate the Phyllis died. But i think if she had a kid she would still be here... I love and adore Ms Hyman. Glad you are the same..
Pharreal4life 2 years ago
You're an ebony diamond, a fire int he night sky, real, determined, and self-knowing. I very much liked your post for its depth and realness;
rmsolympic1 2 years ago
LOVVE YOU!!!!!! I MISS PHYLIS!!!
moejazzie 2 years ago
thanks 4 encouragin me to live on i do see a point in livin to chase my dreams and enjoy life to the full so when im in da hospital at 65 at least i can say thank god ive had a good life when i was young.
dredloxx1980 2 years ago
i love the video she whitney and stephanie mills are my favorite singers
isysslovestheoldies 2 years ago
Bravo to you girl ... rock on !!!!
latinjoe8 3 years ago
DAMN! YOU ARE SOOOOO FINE!!!!!
shydmples 3 years ago
Hyman's issues went FAR BEYOND situational depression and lonliness. It was much more complicated.
KnightOverEgypt 3 years ago
Thank you for sharing & being so honest. This segment was really awesome! I'm sure you've helped so many people, you sure got my attention! Be blessed!
Lovechild815 3 years ago
Hey Boo,
I know you don't know me, but what a blessing to see and meet you thru your words.
You know, I've heard we are the greatest mystery...taking the time to find out who we are inside-what we're feeling whether good or sad is the beginning to the healing. Prayer is a healer and beautiful. My mom always told me that the Lord-God don't put nothing on you more than you can handle-stay in the LOVE zone---
Love to you for your presence and courage voice and thoughtfulness.
rafbazz 3 years ago
Its gona be alright babe.
ThatsMyimage 3 years ago
am so happy for you . i wish to thank you for this video cause they do have alot of people who are alone and depressed.,
ssexybrowneyes 3 years ago
I was watchingthat tvone special and I never knew she- or the great donnie hathaway died they died really really tragic and sad...show the effect depression can have on people.
ushtenme 3 years ago
The best thing for depression: do something for someone else.
YouKidsNever 3 years ago
i swear lookin @ ur face i see ur bein honest i feel u some ppl get on here and bs juz to show their face i dont get that with u!!!!!!!!!!
L92185 3 years ago
Not to mention but there are not enough black men for Black women. We need to go back to the beginning a allow men to have more than one wife. 25 to 1
Fujisuka 3 years ago
COURAGEOUS POST_for a long time in the black community this was taboo to talk about this openly...for OBVIOUS reasons we had to be sronger more resilient but like old concrete folks are starting to crack...but now more black men are killing themselves in higher numbers...more black women are seeking mental health professionals in exponential numbers_strong support systems/faith is a must and even that isnt always enuff
MC0090 3 years ago
Your fans are just enabling you into filling holes (voids). In my lowness of heart, I knew I needed more of Jesus Christ and nothing else. The Everlasting Thirst Quencher. Sages, incense, strange meditations = witchcraft
Jesus Christ = Life, and that more abundantly
MannaMan77 3 years ago
Phyllis is missed. When my depression was at its highest level, I used to listen to that song and "Living in Confusion", among other sad songs. God does answer prayers, those who believe and have faith will be healed. Amen!
SophistiCali 3 years ago
You are amazing to me!!!!!
Baldwinjournal 3 years ago
i remember when she committed suicide and i cried a little bit because i understood. i wish she was here because her voice and her beauty was something else....she was a great talent== under appreciated.
as for me and depression i just cry a lot and drink a lot. but it is not working for me...
ANDREBYNUM 3 years ago
im going through it now. Im 19 years old and I feel like Phyllis al the time. Im trying to deal with my depression and sadness, but I don't know how.
shaeandwizards 3 years ago
Erica,
This is my 1st time every listening to you and WOW, you sounded so much like me till it scared me. Now I have a new way of looking at things and a new ways of how to handle my depression.
ketruth35 3 years ago
A 19 year old committed suicide on the internet recently which was very sad.
kirz778 3 years ago
I simply adore your honesty. I agree with you on so many levels. You are not alone. I can alos relate to you on many levels. Thank you for sharing. And YES YES, Phylliss is my Homegirl! She was and is a beautiufl soul!
MissGreenSmoothie 3 years ago
Phyllis had extreme mental illness issues. She suffered from bipolar disorder--it wasn't just depression, in addition to her addiction issues. You need to read the book "Strength of a Woman: The Phyllis Hyman Story" to get a better understanding about Phyllis. This book really gives you an inside look at the REAL Phyllis Hyman.
indigirl86 3 years ago 8
@SintualEvents- Girl I went through the same thing. I could really identify with Phyllis and she sang all the songs I felt. I have been suicidal 2x. I have been praying. When you are loveless it can really get you. I'm married now but still suffer with the depression and Bi-polar. used alcohol a lot. Smoked a lot of cigs. Still dealing with the depression. I have the best husband ever. I am working really hard o myself. Still taking my meds. though. Praying all the time and closer to God.
Patut1 7 months ago
sometimes i feel like i wanna die
dredloxx1980 3 years ago
don't die! The world needs your existence - it's not all about you! What about us?
dcage12003 3 years ago
Phyllis Hyman was a beautiful, talented lady.
I am a big fan and it saddens me everytime I think about her death.
Please stop the ugly comments about her.
People are so quick to judge others , as if they know all the intricate details of her life. Don't judge her.
xmogen1 3 years ago 4
@xmogen1
best comment
charlyblues 1 year ago
uMMm like O-M-G this is so stupid HAhahha c
JAKENsmushishi 3 years ago
Lots of people in my family suffer from this bi-polar and to add .....Phyllis was my (not that its important)my 3rd cousin...she's actually my grandmothers 1st cousin....
chocospa1 3 years ago
You had me all the way up to the point when your used "God's name' and shut the F* in the same sentence. What God do you know? Shaking my head p.s don't try and tell us about Phyllis, you didn't know her. There is enough information out there if someone wants to read about her legacy. Peace
buttlikewat 3 years ago
a man hatin lezzbo killed hersef
79PercentSingleHiv 3 years ago
You would know best~! You are probably the lebo- man hating person that you describe Phyllis to be with HIV!
buttlikewat 3 years ago
I am wondering right now if I need medication for my depression. Phyllis's story makes me wonder if she could have still been here if she had the help she needed. I wake up sad too for no reason at all sometimes, so I know how you feel. You'll be okay, we'll make it together.
doldromofthemerry 3 years ago
My father was bi-polar for years before he was diagnosed. He finally got a good doctor and was on Lithium which helped him immensely. This can happen to anyone white or black or any other color.
DA90027 3 years ago
SintualEvents thank you so much for putting this video up. I myself have and still do struggle with depression and sometimes feel like i'm the only one. I'm lonely and depressed right now and watching this made me feel so much better!
Aciremet 3 years ago 2
I'm going through it now, it's on or off, sometimes I try to find ways to ignore it or mitigate it.
khussett 3 years ago
To be honest, I still don't feel as if i have totally accepted my birth right meaning i refuse to get married have kids. Thinking if i'm not attached to anything down here on earth then God would see that i have no purpose here and then he would take me out of this life. Thats still and always will be a desire of mind for God to take me, I'm not gonna commit suicide though, But i would like to rush things. In other words i rather be in heaven then down here.
10fDemdays 3 years ago 2
I never really struggled with depression, But i would become bothered by things i had no controll over. Things like being born black, Being born male or female, You don't pick your parents, thats also chosen for us. The bottom line is we have to accept our parents, our skin color, And our gender.
10fDemdays 3 years ago 2
Actually, I know how Phyllis felt...been there many times, and I still am on occasion. I know how it feels not to be loved by family/so-called friends/girlfriends, etc...I just have to take it one day at a time I guess. Even when I'm down, like clockwork, I turn on Phyllis or Donny Hathaway. I know it's kind of strange, but that's what I do.
One thing's for sure, you're very pretty. lol
shydmples 3 years ago 2
SintualEvent, You are a beautiful person and your creator understands that you are hurting, and hurt people hurt people. I am happy that you have found the strength to come out of hiding and face the world as you are, even in your depression. You will find that people will reach out to you and understand your actions now.
steelblacknolia 3 years ago 2
WOW! This is powerful! I was youtubing for Phyllis songs and I didn't expect to come across this. I remember the day she died, my cousin ran in the house and told us, my father told him, quit playing, thats a sick joke. But it was true, she took her life. Black women, how can we learn from this? I respect your video post and the work that your doing. Shine on sis.
Savant1913 3 years ago
"cuz I'm out 4 deeper meaning/deeper meaning/more than wealth/like listen to Phyliss(Hyman) sing Living All Alone/then realizin she killed herself" C.C.H.
I wrote that in a freestyle poem nearly a decade ago. You moved me speaking on the topic of Phyliss, your trials and celebrations, and the universal emotional rollercoaster we are all forced to ride continuously. You keep being yo self, you keep raising good karma, and keep Phyliss' story in your heart and on your tongue. Peace Lady!!
citylife313 3 years ago
I was viewing Ms. Hyman videos and came across your video....You are a truly bless woman. People need to know that we will all one day experience depression...this type of emotions comes only to bring us closer to the knowledge of God. I thank God you had the mind to seek God and ask for spiritual help, it is only by God's grace we who view your video are here today, sadly for Ms. Hyman, she gave up without seeking a HIGHER POWER. Medication may work, but God destorys the YOKE of Depression!
churchNallDway 3 years ago 2
That is simply nonsense -- and an insult to all people with this illness. The only higher power that helps against depression is EDUCATION about the illness and a good PSYCHIATRIST!!!!
DandJRuffin 3 years ago
Thanks for your words sistergirl, I just happend upon this video while listening to phyllis H. and there you were speaking my thought back to me in so many ways reguarding the depression...good to know there are others out there even whne you feel alone. Thanks and be blessed.
FjarilGoddess 3 years ago 2
SintualEvents, I remember back in 1995 Jet magazine did a story of Phyllis Hyman's suicide and they interviewed a friend of hers i forget his name, But he said Phyllis Hyman had set a date to kill herself, But she killed herself way before the date she gave him and he felt Phyllis had cheated. i think Phyllis thought that he would stop her so she siked him out and killed herself sooner.
Screenedit 3 years ago
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Phyllis was the best of all time. Sad that
she became a lesbian which is leads to depression. I want to get all of her music, she is so beautiful! Abortion and lesbianism
are issues black women need to address.
God is against BOTH of these issues.
NQ 2008
xXNubianQueenXx 3 years ago
Being a lesbian doesn't automatically lead to depression, what a stupid statement to make! I myself, am a happy ass lesbian, ok? lol And your'e probably a closet case yourself!
baby43 3 years ago 7
You called out two sins as if those are the only sins God is against. What kind of issues that God is against that you yourself need to work on. I believe thats the problem with people. They cant clean their own houses for trying to see whats going on in their neihbors house. They cant enjoy what they have because they to busy trying to see what they neihbor got so they can out do them. My point is this, don't criticize things you have no understanding about.
dadreamzworld 3 years ago 2
That message was to xxxnubianqueenxx
dadreamzworld 3 years ago
check out her biography "strength of a woman" (phyllis hyman story dot com) -- great insight into her life and what contributed to her suicide. thanks for sharing.
reality81 3 years ago
No, don't. They try to blame Phyllis' demise on the White man. Totally untrue.
killerjoebenson 3 years ago
killerjoebenson the IRS was harassing Phyllis they probably Had planned to take everything she owned.
10fDemdays 3 years ago
10fDemdays: I'll assume your comments have something to do with my posting. I loved Phyllis and still do. That being the case, Ms. Hyman prided herself on "running her own company". If the IRS was on her back daily, she should have stuck to singing/performing rather than being overtaken by "whitey". In my many visits with Ms. Hyman, she never mentioned this IRS or "white" problem.
Phyllis didn't "own" anything other than herself. She rented an apartment in New York.
Keep it real!
killerjoebenson 3 years ago
I'm not going to debate with you killerjoebenson over Phyllis Hymans death but, I believe its safe to say Phyllis hated the system as do alot of black people. The white power structure is not blameless, Since her suicide even more people have commited suicide in this country due to this recession that we're in home's going into foreclosure, Job layoffs etc.etc. After all said and done the suicide rate of white people is still much higher then with blacks, So this system is nobodies friend.
10fDemdays 3 years ago
In addition it took over 400 years for a black man to finally get this close to being are next president, I'm just sad to say that Phyllis Hyman is not alive to see Barack Obama fight in a system that is designed to keep us all dissatisfied on some level. Obama has already worked harder than Bush ever did in Bush's 8 years of lying to us.
10fDemdays 3 years ago
thank you for sharing your story...I can realte...
shisco05 3 years ago
I'm very touched by your story I'm glad you had the guts, and the courage to get some help for depression. I know this has been said before but I'll say it anyway you're a very beautiful woman!
a4ur8 3 years ago
aaahhhh yeah MYYY GURLLL i love her and every one of her songs. i was depressed for a whole year back in ???92 or so. ill never allow me to be that low again. darkness is not fun. so i ask for help now. i lost my daughter few yrs after that and i sought help not to go back again. yeah i smudge too. and use many different types of cleansings. way to go gurl..feel better to you and love you.
tashaluvsyou 3 years ago
I've heard so many beautiful things concerning you, and your energy, your beauty, your loving words, and your praise for life, and the special people you keep company with. I just wanted to say that I think your gift is one that is infectious, and a powerful force to be reckoned with.
Peace=)
~fErn~
fernitnow 3 years ago
OMG, I've heard the same about you. It's an honor to have you here Fern! Thank you for your kind words!
SintualEvents 3 years ago
Aww, now I'm red....kinda the same way I felt when I heard your cool menthol voice whispering my name...."Hi Fern"!!! Uh huh that was for me! hehe
Love you beautiful!
~fErn~
fernitnow 3 years ago
I'm there right now. It happens gradually and then suddenly. And its really hard. I would elaborate but this is a public place.
PS: Your skin is really beautiful.
itone 3 years ago 2
Thank you so much for the compliment, but please talk to someone about your depression. Don't be afraid to get help!
SintualEvents 3 years ago
I'm on medication since January. It was my new years resolution, to get better. :)
itone 3 years ago
New picture on your tv? I know all about depression. I love your necklace.
sugarandlance 3 years ago
Thank you boo!
SintualEvents 3 years ago
true words and meditating is definetly good for the soul.
p.s I love those earrings..lol where did u get them from? u always have on great accessories.
ladyp2489 3 years ago
Thank you angel. I got those earrings from ABC trading company. I think they have a website!
SintualEvents 3 years ago
depression can lead you down all kinds of roads, as a teen i used to get a lot,now i just concentrate of me by exercising, pray, read, change my mind state
jody808 3 years ago
Exercising is a GREAT way to fight depression. I need to do it more!
SintualEvents 3 years ago
I love that you said "Be one with myself". Phyllis' song in School Daze was called "Be One".
ernestlsewell 3 years ago
I thank you for speaking about your depression. I believe you and others believe it is a problem for white people because if people think that, they and other just don't say anything. You are doing what it takes to break down that sterotype.
Mysticblue1212 3 years ago
Hey there, I see you practice Wicca! I used to practice Wicca also which really helped me through my hard times! I adore a lot of the Wicca practices, and I still use a lot of them in my daily life!
SintualEvents 3 years ago
stay strong, girl - and keep burnin' that incense! i know how it can be... and i too have learned to hone in on the warning signs that i'm going "there" - my stomach gets in knots... i'm anxious...and i physically feel weighed down - music sees me through - one of 2 things happens -i turn on something sad and i cry it out...or something really "happy shiny" and corny and DANCE it out...lol
zeeartfuldodger 3 years ago 3
Much Love for the dedication to Phyllis - I'm from Philly...so that's my homegirl!
zeeartfuldodger 3 years ago
I love her!
SintualEvents 3 years ago
Im the same exact way! I know Im getting ready to go through it when I become anxious and uneasy! It's weird!
SintualEvents 3 years ago
ive been there and its just like you said, you gotta know how to catch it coming on and deal with it....or you will "rot" (great choice of words). we're all here for you all the time...good days AND bad. BIG HUG to you :) love you!
iamthejer 3 years ago
I just love you Jeremiah. You totally melt me!
SintualEvents 3 years ago
About being deprest, I do understand you, darling, believe me I do...
Love you...
MarcusP31 3 years ago
You don't have to go through it alone Marcus. Im here and I love you!
SintualEvents 3 years ago
my son did the same for me. he is my every thing, even if he won't clean his room ;)
i have never heard of phyllis hyman, im gonna check her out.
edenbainbridge 3 years ago
Yeah, having children is the greatest gift one can receive! They change us in so many ways!
SintualEvents 3 years ago
i had no idea you had a child, not that it matters but...well i guess i learned something new about you today :)
edenbainbridge 3 years ago
Actually, Black woman, statistically, are the least likely to commit suicide.
dorotwhy 3 years ago
Doesn't mean it doesn't happen. Depression knows no bounds.
ernestlsewell 3 years ago
Sadly my little sister was a victim of that dreadful disease... or should I say not only she, but everyone who knew her was a victim. 21 years old. :(
dorotwhy 3 years ago 3
Im sorry to hear that. Yes, you take your entire family with you when your depressed!
SintualEvents 3 years ago
Her suicide was probably the most devastating thing that has happened in my entire life so far. It's often a taboo thing to even talk about. No bereavement groups were available and any one who hasn't been there is afraid of the subject. It's not the same as a death caused by other reasons.
dorotwhy 3 years ago
Yeah, I read that also. I guess Im a little relieved by that!
SintualEvents 3 years ago
Love You.
jjlucido 3 years ago
I love you too!
SintualEvents 3 years ago
I seriously loved her, I saw her perfom at least 20 times...some say Donny Hathaway
was the same way...I loved them both...just
as I love you...we all have our times and,
I'll just let you all know that we are each
others support system. THIS IS REAL TALK!!
We must all be here for each other when these
times come. When you feel an inkling of it,
reach me...I'll be here, love you guys.
Peace/Jaye
jaye56 3 years ago
Aww, thank you angel. Your support and love means a lot to me. I wish I lived closer to you!
SintualEvents 3 years ago
I should know about it. I was in that as well. I was very depressed as well for a long time. I tried to take my life away a couple of times, but obviously I failed, and I'm glad I failed at dying. i know what you mean on that department...I've also been a destructive person when I am depressed. I guess that's why I kinda became a lot of a video gamer myself cuz that's the thing that could only help me to get away from my depression, thus why Its kinda rare when i even play any games.
GigaManXGS 3 years ago
But anyway I've been there, It may come back every now and them, but i think its natural for anyone out there to be down once in a while.I am happy you are here with us, alive and well.I love you.