this so-called "seattle freeze" is simply a shitty label for introverted people. let's call it like it is: certain cities have a greater ratio of introverts vs. extroverts. seattle clearly has more introverted people living there vs. los angeles, new york, etc., where it is definitely more fitting for extroverted personalities. nothing wrong with either. if a city doesn't fit your personality, you can always move...
I think this video is full of cop-outs. From my experience, the people of the Pacific Northwest are actually closet Teutonic supremacists who don't want anyone to know just how eugenically narcissistic they really are, and how far they really carry their klannish discrimination of certain select outsiders -- particularly those who do not seem to be of Northern European ethnicity.
Pacific Northwesterners are unbelievably heartless and two-faced. And it's incredible and horrible that word of this truth has never spread around, because people not knowing allows more and more people to keep pouring into the PNW, only to have their souls and lives utterly crushed by the reptiles who live there. It's very hard to recover from the profound ugliness of living in the Pacific Northwest if you're naturally a truly good person.
i definately noticed the freeze. Even people I became friends with at work whom I've known for quite awhile have a hard time taking our friendship outside of work. People here have a serious fear of intimacy.
@JayBearization but that's not exclusive to seattle. i live in L.A. and choose not to associate with coworkers outside of work. my private life is that: private...i think you'll find that in many cities, not just seattle.
My theory is that The Seattle Freeze does exist for many reasons from my perspective. The lack of sun creates depression. The traffic. The distance between locations. The weather. The culture. On the positive side, it is very accepting of gay, race and other prejudices that exist in other states. I am from NY and travel a lot and see the differences. I am very outgoing and that is why I have survived here for 33 years. We plan to move to San Diego SOON!
@jam6255 stokholm has the same weather and doesn't have the coldness. so does nyc, and upstate ny and it's nothing like that, ppl here are just cold as fuck for no reason.
@UltraGokin But dare one cross the street in front of a cop, WITH the light, and he gets pumped with four bullets from 5 shots. Or dare a black person jaywalk, they get a beating (it has happened more than once).
My favorite thing about it is that people in Seattle act like it's something other people from Seattle do. However, if you point out that they do the very same things that encompass the "Seattle Freeze" , they claim that they are different because they have their "reasons" for acting like that, and they aren't really contributing to the "Seattle Freeze".
@Helotes420 Glad to hear everything's going cool for you in Seattle. I'm from SA, that's why I was curious. I've lived in two other cities growing up but they were brief stints and seen from the eyes of a kid basically, so it's interesting to get feedback on the contrast of other places with re to SA. I noticed the Helotes in your nic. I figured that was a reference to Helotes/S.A.
Okay, well then go join clubs. Go volunteer at your workplace. Go sign up for events. or... go join a Go club (700 NE 45th St if anyone's interested). There are plenty of ways to meet new people as long as you don't come from out of nowhere and don't act shy.
i've met so many outgoing friendly well traveled people who have had a hard time socially once they moved to seattle. the top rated comment is indicative of what you run into in seattle. also, i've met a bunch of seattlites who agree and wish locals were more open to meeting new people.
The problem in Seattle is that people tend to be snobs who pay respect to those of a higher social status but show contempt for those of a lower social status.
Lol. I'm about to pack up an move from south Florida. To Seattle. I know only my g/f whom is moving with me lol. We both born an raised in south fl. Our motto here is , welcome to fl, leave your money an get the fuck out!! But, I do not have problems meeting people as I'm very social.
@roaddiablo Please,if you move to Seattle,do not bring the southern mentality there.Florida and Washington State are very different in general.I have lived in both states and found that big difference.people in Florida are not nice people,and they are the rudest in the nation.however,in Washington people don't have that sort of mentality people have in the Deep South.no offense,but I don't like Florida in general including its people.
@nostalgiamelancolia1 I understand man, I got friends in Nebraska I visit an it's WAYY different, also Pennsylvania. Im not gunna lie an say im not rude or mean, but only when I have to be. It's how we survive in the south. I am actually a very easy going guy an get along with just about every person I meet.I hear seattle is different in the aspect of they politely brush you off. Im hoping thats just a BS stereo type. Im looking to make friends up there as I will be up there late june.
@nostalgiamelancolia1 actually, while people from florida may be rude, at least they're honest and they won't stab you in the back. you just have to have tough skin to live on the east coast. having grown up there, I prefer "rudeness" to superficiality. not saying I like florida because believe me I dread having to go there, especially during the warmer months, but I'd take the people there any day over seattleites.
too much psycho babble in this video. too many druggies and and ghetto trash & wigger trash wearing street clotihng in seattle along with those who make excuses for them. they are enough to make any normal person give up going out and trying to meet people. i do not want anything to do with someone who says " race does not matter" they are not normal.
lax drug laws and public housing/section 8 brings them in. how can you expect people like this to carry a conversation?
I have lived in New York, Louisville, Sydney, Boston. Never have I met more cold people in my life. If one more person tells me how polite they are here, I will politely hit them in the freaking face. They are NOT polite in Capitol Hill where I currently live. I have had the door slammed in my face so many times, I now laugh when it happens. But my New York habit of leaving the door open for the person behind me generally is met with no "thank you" whatsoever.
Seattle is the greediest town in the U.S. People are so greedy, and don't even feel shame when they are begging on the street. They thing it's cool to act like a thug and beg random people on the street. There are two categories in the city, Fucking rich or uneducated, illiterated, idiotic whole bunch of rednecks. They the latter kind of people act in the same way as rich locals. Yeah, you fuck ass holes praise city while you are getting fucked over by rich and got nothing but begging
I have lived here my whole life. One problem is it's hard not to associate the overall decline of this town with the massive influx of new people. Especially since they are so directly related to each other. So, as cool as you might be, please appreciate the fact that, though I am polite to you, I really want you to fly back to wherever you came from.
@candide37 Wow what a shitty view on life, regardless of the city. My condolences to you and your bizarre views. You do realize that you live in a country that was founded by immigrants, right?
"please appreciate the fact that, though I am polite to you, I really want you to fly back to wherever you came from."
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I have heard your attitude before. Who do you think you are? The US Constitution guarantees the right to freely travel & live in the 50 States and Territories. What you have expressed is Xenophobia - fear of outsiders.
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You may THINK it's common, but it isn't in the USA. No other populace in the rest of the country shuns outsiders as often as Seattleites.
seattle sucks, and you people of seattle, you are living in a butt hole, the worst butt hole in the u.s. Fuck you seattle people and fuck your mom in the ass. ㅗㅗㅗㅗㅗㅗㅗㅗㅗㅗㅗㅗ
Don't discuss about it with native people of Seattle. They just don't know shit about it. Just don't know shit. They just stick to their own mentality.
this film is very true. I lived in Seattle for 3years, and life has been such a joy since I left Seattle. I have exactly 2 friends who still keep in touch. In Seattle, Nothing helped me to make friends.
@thedaycomingtrue Jesus Christ, man. Did the Seattle mayor rape you? You obviously had a scarring experience during your three years in Seattle, that doesn't mean everybody lives such a miserable life up there.
But yes, the Midwest rocks. Chicago is the shit and people from all over the Chicagoland area are the most chill people you will ever meet.
@AlvinHDavernport yeah, but I can't control my profound hatred of Seattle. Honestly, I don't want to control. I just want to share my damn experience and express how much I hate the butt hole "Seattle." At least, I just want to let you know Seattle is a butt hole for sure.
@AlvinHDavernport Not really modernized, but if you are a white man, you might be little better than me. I am not a white man, and whole bunch of white trash fucking around me whenever I walking on the street. People not really nice and polite there. Who's not polite when he or she faces you?? Their nature is basically rude, rudest gay shit ever in this world. Well, I love Wisconsin, generally rural area in MIDWEST. So beautiful and people so easy going.
@thedaycomingtrue Seattle does not seem like a racist place to me at all. As a matter of fact, I've seen it being voted as one of the least racist places in America. But I can't really say that I've been to a place where racism was evident so I wouldn't really know. I've got this hunch you're Asian--doesn't Seattle have a large Asian population? I couldn't possibly conceive the idea that white Seattleites are bigoted against Asians. It doesn't make sense.
@AlvinHDavernport yes it does at leat for me. Not really materr how big asian communities are there. Especially, its surrouding cities are worse than seattle downtown. Don't walk on the street in a rainy day, so many ghetto white trash people will accelerate their car even when they tuning their cars a fucking corner, and they just enjoy spraying water on people, asians are easily targeted. Well, apparently polite,I had felt so many ghettro white trash people looked down on me for no reason.
I lived in Seattle for six months and I noticed that the moment I said I was from California, people stopped talking to me. The most open people for friendship were those who went to raves so I made friends with them, but still needed to move back to Cali. I don't think I'm ever going to move back.
I've lived in Seattle for almost 4 years. People are generally "nice", but beyond small talk they get uncomfortable (like most places). It may be related to the crazy people in downtown and slu that talk to anyone about their crazy ramblings. However, hipsters do look down their nose at you if you aren't dressed hipster. People I have come to know more deeply, are not from Seattle. My girlfriend is however. Confident, open, worthwhile people are out there, give them a chance when it comes.
I moved here from boston a little over a month ago and I think this video is fucking garbage. I keep hearing about how people here have "no sense of urgency" are "passive aggressive" and then the whole "Seattle freeze" thing... And some of it is probably true but I am from Boston where people are rude and shitty dickheads so I'd rather live in a place where people are generally more polite and don't call me back when they aren't really interested in having a friendship with me. You say they are
@leighdarrell I actually disagree with the whole Boston thing. Having also lived in the South with its hospitality, the Midwest (which by general consensus has the most amiable people in the country--probably in the developed world), multicultural Florida, Spain, Colombia, and Germany, I'd say Bostonians are not even half as bad as they are made out to be. There is definitely more of a talking-to-people-on-the-street culture, I'd say. They compare well to people from other places.
I find it very true here in the San Francisco Bay area to be very true also. A lot of people talk about it. To make real, true friends that care about you and are there for you. If you get hurt or sick or injured or a family member dies, suddenly these so called friends are not there for you. After a few months, they come back when things are ok. And want to have fun and party! But not when bad times come back, they are gone again...
I just heard about this today from a female friend who lived there for a few years.
I live in Marin county in the san francisco bay area, and it's the same way here. You can't make real friends here. It's almost impossible... it's crazy!
I think the notion of a "freeze" is simply a misconception. Seattle has a more reserved social climate. It's just part of our culture. Seattlites are more inclined to mind their own business. As a New York transplant in Seattle once told me, "If you want neighbors, co-workers, and a general public who are always up in your shit, move into a 5th floor walk-up on the Lower East Side of Manhattan. If you appreciate privacy, come here".
This video is completely wrong. People communicate through internet all over this country. I live in Seattle and have met countless people who are kind and willing to have a conversation with you. Try talking to people in New York or Miami before judging Seattle please!
What!!? Firstly, Seattle and Bellevue are major business centers, with the highest rate of educated people in the nation. This means, that you just have to get to know people. Seattle people are reserved, but extremely friendly and polite and are the most helpful people I have ever seen. Life has changed here, yes, but is is similar to any major urban area. If you want to live in a small town in South Dakota, people may be a bit nicer, but not much to do. Seattle wins numerous awards. Jealousy!
I Stayed In Seattle 4 Like A Month Back In '98' And From My Experience Seattle Is A Type Of Place Where Folks Stay To Themselves As Well As People Being Depressed And Lonely And The Women There Are "Not" Friendly At All!! I Liked Portland A Bit Better.
This vid is lying there are sooo many spots to hit and socialize and there is noo problem at all holland is tiny. Theres probably more people in the city of seattle than all of holland
@AtotheNtotheDre That may be true, but that doesn't mean that people are forging strong and real friendships and bonds at all.. Where if you get hit by a car, you will have real friends to help you through the healing, bring you food, take you to the doctors for weeks and months, etc. You know, real friendship! Not just surface level, let's go have fun. But friend who will be there for you during the hard times as well...
Funny that this is depicting a particular cultural trend as "abnormal". As a native Seattlite, the Freeze is totally a real thing, but don't ask us to "thaw out", as if we need to return to a prescribed social norm. Maybe we don't want to rush out on Friday nights to the nearest bar and hope that we find a shiny new best buddy. Maybe we have higher standards for close friendship. Or maybe we are not consumed with a need to feel accepted by those around us. Either way, if you don't like it, move.
what the fuck is this shit!!!!!! this people sound desprate to meet cool people and its not us its you fuck tards who are lonely who need to to meet someone its not seattle it them ass dicks lol and who would want to live in a place were everyone is friendly that shit shit could get fucking annoying i rather live in pace were its just me and my familly and people im used to
@handsomerube um, quality of what? Racist hipsters who will only acknowledge you if you look and act exactly as they do? Seattle isn't a horrible place. I never said it was. As a gay person of color, it just isn't the best place. Don't you think it's a tad arrogant of you to attempt to define my own personal experience for me? You say that Seattle is culturally and racially diverse. Um, statistically, Seattle is almost 85% white. Did you know that?
@IHEARTNERDS34 what's laughable? that i speak the truth?!? please read my post again...i said "seattle proper" (meaning downtown and its environs), not the entire city of seattle (which, yes, includes the racist hipsters you mention). and i agreed with you that the outskirts are more white trash/hick/racist. seriously, to each his own...i'm certainly not trying to define your personal experience...i'm only stating the obvious...live in a city that embraces your needs, wherever that may be.
@IHEARTNERDS34 Then where does the statistic come from that says Seattle is almost 1/3rd Native American? (I still don't believe that, but, I've seen more than one study!)
I wish all the whiny transplants would go back where they came from instead of moaning about how the way they don't fit in is our problem. Seattle society is based on substance. Until you do/say something that people think indicates that you are worth their time they would rather spend that time with known quantities be they people or hobbies. And yeah, the 20th century is over. You don't go to bars to meet people. You go online to find interest groups to cut down on wasted time.
@TheElectricTurtle Shit man, you'd be saying the same thing if you weren't from Seattle. Easy to look down on other people if you live in a place your ENTIRE life (as many "natives" of Seattle have). LOL you go online to meet people? I'm about to hit a bar right now, to enjoy actual human contact. Pretty fucking easy to do where I live dude. I'll give you a reverse freeze now - You're better off staying in Seattle and NEVER leaving. You'd not fit in anywhere else. Literally.
This video could describe where I live perfectly.. I'm in Toronto and people are polite, they'll occasionally make small talk but it's all superficial. It's probably the same in most cosmopolitan cities.
@brandisman1 actually Seattle is a hard place to make friend, the kind of friends you hang out with. not the kind you just meet at a Starbucks have a quick conversation and just part ways.
@brandisman1 to be honest, you are generalizing other people's problems. Please, if you don't know shit, just shut the fuck your filthy mouth up, and don't act like you know all the shit. Nothing is wonderful in Seattle. Yeah I agree the city is beautiful, at the same time, people are the worst kind of mo'fuckers' I had ever met in my whole life. Typically, Seattle people act like very polite, but you will never know the shit what's on their minds.
@thedaycomingtrue trust me dude im originally from philadelphia the so called city of brotherly love,now the people over there i could write a book just plain horrible,its just paradise to where im originally from
Nonsense. Hundred's of people reporting the exact same behavior denotes a trend.
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Yours is a typical passive-aggressive, arrogant, Seattle response. You are perfect, therefore all criticism of you and your city is invalid.
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I know people who went YEARS without making any new friends. You invite people over and they simply look at you blankly. You suggest a date to a woman and she just looks at you blankly, saying nothing, controlling her body language.
I just did my own video about the Seattle Freeze, containing photographic proof of it, and offering an overseas solution. See it here: watch?v=lu6zAoR7j4M
Uh... there are only white people in this video, and everything was filmed North of the ship canal (except for that one shot thru the window at bauhaus). Have you ever heard of South Seattle? Have you ever heard of the huge communities of immigrants and people of color who are completely and totally NOT the freeze? I moved to Seattle and have more community and chosen-family than I've ever had in my whole life. This short does not, by any means, speak for the entire city.
2:08 "It's just not Scandinavian"....ha ha ha. What a fucking drip. Ya that's it you fat cunt blame your inability to interact with other people even your family members on your ethnic background. People listen and watch this douche witch talk. She is a typical Seattle Zombie.
@jtlessons -- Lol, my sentiments exactly! And let me add that these Seattle Zombie are of ALL varieties, not just Scandinavian. How come a lot of people in Minnesota of Scandinavian descent and really friendly ... and a lot of actual Scandinavians are tons of fun. An selfish lazy turd is a selfish lazy turd, like her. Period.
So sorry about my comment. It in now way meant anything about Scandinavians or any other gender or race. The Zombies in Seattle are of all walks or life. I apologize to anyone I may have offended. This is just my personal frustration with Seattle and I will be relocating to a place with warmer weather & people soon.
@jtlessons -- Lol, my sentiments exactly! And let me add that these Seattle Zombie are of ALL varieties, not just Scandinavian. How come a lot of people in Minnesota of Scandinavian descent and really friendly ... and a lot of actual Scandinavians are tons of fun. An selfish lazy turd is a selfish lazy turd, like her. Period.
It's not just seattle. It's pretty much the whole state of WA that's like that. And it includes Oregon and British Columbia, Canada too. There is some freeze or vibe where people are ghost like and distant and hard to get close to, especially girls. Oregonians though, are a bit more down to earth and less arrogant than Washingtonians though. And more mild tempered too. British Columbia people seem hollow, like they are polite but not really there. It's kind of creepy and inhuman.
The best solution is to GO ABROAD. I did and it made a huge difference in my life! See my channel and the foreign female encounters videos or the dating abroad slide shows, and my website at HappierAbroad dot c o m for TOTAL PROOF that the dating and social scene overseas is WAY WAYYYYY better than in the US!
I wrote a huge essay about this topic, and called it the "Bellingham Curse". Type that in google and you will find it as the first hit at the top. lots of people have emailed me and expressed the same view. people are polite in WA but do not connect, especially girls. It's one of the hardest places in the world to get a date. The air is fresh though and the nature is pretty. But the social energy is ZERO.
Typical Seattle Projection. It cannot be them, they are perfect, so it must be all of the people on this comment thread and in the video.
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To make it worse many Seattleites have this massive Liberal Arrogance that is absolutely off the charts. Seattle is so freakin' wonderful that anyone who criticizes it must be a loser.
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In Seattle the people on Queen Anne and Belltown and the other hot spots have forgotten that the reason to go out and meet people and date is to FUCK.
Wow really I have been living here since i was 12 and to me there is no better plaace than seattle. Yeah would'nt mind a little more sunshine but seattle is beautiul , and people are friendly by the way if your having trouble making friends then there must be something wrong with you.
@tripuz1 that's typical denial. even friendless people in seattle say they love it and have a lot of friends. it's like a religion. you aren't allowed to tell the truth in seattle. you have to pretend that everyone is friendly just cause they are polite. it's a forced lie. I hate that.
I have a friend from NYC and Austin who was married and she made -0- friends in 5 years. I lived there for 4 years and had few dates, no friends. The attitude is very much 'Welcome to Seattle, now please go away.' The attitude of posters like stefanmuth is typical of Seattleites -- deep down many people in Seattle are huge assholes, which is why they all have a surface veneer of 'being nice'.
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You guys don't want to make new friends. It's that simple.
@Knepperify1 dude, you got me mixed up with someone else. I am VERY anti Seattle and anti WA. I wasted years of my life there, precious years. I am the only one who wrote a huge treatise about it, which you can find by googling "Bellingham Curse". My treatise is the first hit at the top. Anyway, I agree with you, so I think you misinterpreted me or got me mixed up with some Seattleite.
Typical Seattle Projection. You have never seen the outside world and think that the dysfunction of Seattle is 'normal'. It isn't.
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People there are very cold and stand-offish and your definition of 'friendly' is what others in other parts of the USA called 'ice cold, distant and aloof'.
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It is akin to you looking at what the rest of us refer to as the color 'Grey' and you see 'Bright Red'.
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Most people in Seattle are depressed but they don't know it. It is obvious on your faces.
@Knepperify1 wow you must have not read my comment right, i did say that i moved to seattle when i was 12 , i did live in california , never did i say that i have never been outside seattle ......
By the way, I was born and raised in New York City and lived there till the age of 38. You want to talk about a "Cold City?" Making friends there is a NIGHTMARE. I had a huge circle of friends up until the age of 29 when everyone I know got married or moved away because they couldn't stand NYC anymore. I felt like someone who just moved there. That's when I saw what making friends was like.
@Kodos1 I know what you mean. I also lived in NYC my entire life. I had coworkers I was close to after working together for 3 years. We were like family. That is until I changed jobs. Then it was like I died. I never heard from them again. And yes I would call them and get together but I began to wonder what would happen if I stopped calling. When I did they never called me. A friendship takes two people to make an effort. When it's one way you start to ask, "What's the point?"
This is a fascinating video and topic. I had a friend who moved to Seattle for three years and left. When I asked him why he said it was impossible to make friends. The people were too closed off.
But to be fair I moved to San Diego four and a half years ago and have experienced THE SAME THING! Making real friends here is next to impossible. The people are VERY introverted and do not bound easily. You can't blame the cold weather for this. I am actually packing up to leave in a few weeks.
well, let me tell you this. atleast i dont think that I am a bad speller. cause im not. that would be even more stupid than this: teh seattles freeze is a faeke!
sEATTLE FREEZE!!! I DOUBT THAT!!!! GO TO NORTH DAKOTA OR PERHAPS SOUTH DAKOTA YOU WILL SEE HOW FROZEN THOSE STATES ARE. I HAVE BEEN ALL OVER THE COUNTRY AND I HAVE CHOSEN TO STAY HERE. ITS VERY BEAUTIFULL AND LIVABLE CITY YOU KNOW. THERE ARE MORE THAN 6 MILLION PEOPLE LIVING IN WASHINGTON THAT SHOULD TELL YOU SOMETHING.
seattle freeze and what is the other name they called seattle ahhhh!!! rainy state!!!
oh well you can't take that then leave seattle. only strong survive. its ashamed for those people giving SEATTLE a negative names. THEY CAN'T HAVE WHAT THEY WANT AND THEN WHAT DO YOU KNOW they will come up to something calling this place a very unpleasant name. shame on you for calling this beautiful city like that. SEATTLE IS VERY LIVABLE CITY.
i agree and disagree, im hispanic and i feel as if it all depends on you and your state of mind i mean because someone feels down doesnt mean you have feel that way. we are all in control over our emotions i choce to feel happy and laugh at anything and everything including random things...be your self and not a follower, be open minded and stop being a judgeof others...seattle is beautiful and rich in diversity just look around!
Non-sence, I did not get that feeling when I went there. I met a lot of cool friendly people there, that could have become long term friends. I was born and raised in Los Angeles, where the city is so big, and yeat you feel so alone, Not just that people here are ass-holes, and have this sence of arrogance.
Gee, that is such a shame. I didn't know there was such a widespread consensus on the Seattle aloofness. I live in the Midwest, where people are caring and open, but I do have a couple acquaintances from Seattle. One of them is incredibly outgoing, but the other one, I never realized, perfectly fits this consensus: polite on the outside, but stuck-up and very reserved.
It's a shame, because I always wanted to move there, since it is so beautiful. I'll strongly reconsider my goals.
That said, though, I don't understand the hostility toward anyone that even suggests that Seattle might be a good place or that people are not cranky, arrogant assholes. If you had a bad experience, don't take your anger out on those who didn't have such a bad time. It's like when your mom yells at you, saying "ARE YOU YELLING AT ME?" You can't say that people in Seattle are assholes and then be an asshole to whoever doesn't share your opinion.
@AlvinHDavernport There's a friend of friend of mine who was upset that everywhere he drove people would flip him the bird. My friend finally told him, "Well, then, stop driving like an asshole."
People who treat others poorly never seem to understand that they are the problem. It's always everyone else who is mean to them. I think that the "Seattle Freeze" concept may fall, at least in part, under this idea.
It's both convenient and interesting to make generalizations about Seattle like those in this video (cold weather!, software companies!, Scandinavian heritage!), and certainly makes for an enticing Conversation feature... but c'mon. I'd like to look further into the lives of those interviewed on here (including the SU professor) who are having trouble making friends to see what's wrong with THEM, compared to what's wrong with an entire city. Idiotic.
Yeah, the overrated city of Seattle. Used to be very blue collar fun to hang out and inexpensive outlet of enjoyment. That came end in the mid90s. I had so much fun CD shopping in the U-district and hanging out at Seattle center and shopping at the Sears
@csnukm1 SAME HERE! Omg I hate it here so much. I moved from Los Angeles, California. Everyone there was so kind and talkative. Here, 1) they walk way too slow 2) they're pretty slow in the mind too xD 3) they're racist and have a very dry sense of humor. NEVER MOVE HERE. Once I turn 18 Im so out of here...just 1 more year of this idiots
This is hilarious. No friends? What is this high school for 30 year olds? It is not that hard to make friends and if you feel like you can't make a good friend after x amount of YEARS then it is YOU. You like to read? Go hang out at the library. Like art? Go to a art gallery. Find others who are into what you are into.
Use common sense, not everyone will like you and you are a fool to try to impress others. This video just shows how pathetic some people really are. PRIORITIES!!
Well, these people are not saying they are sad and crying about it like high schoolers, they are just saying that that's the culture in which they are use to.
i lived here all my life and have never ever experienced difficulty making friends or meeting people... and its not like im going to talk to strangers lol.. i never even heard about the freeze til now...weird. but im bias, ive never been anywhere else.
Huh, I thought I was the only one who noticed the freeze phenomenon til now! But it is TOTALLY true. I find PNW ppl are mostly very icy and hard to connect with. I have been here for 9 yrs now and every time I go back to NY to visit fam its like nite and day. Ppl here seem like they need to be impressed and assume you are guilty of being not worth knowing unless proven innocent. Its very telling that natives are often very offended by this accusation but transplants unanomously notice the freeze
my theory ... Seattle is a place where people were too scared to move to Alaska ... but, in the end, my philosophy is GET OVER IT! Seattle is a city of whiners too, never forget that.
i have been on both sides of this freeze thing-- all the way frozen out, and on the inside of a very large network of super fun friends. The freeze is real and only people who grew up here dont see it. While I was frozen out it was the worst. I don't blame anyone experiencing the freeze for saying awful things about Seattle. I was on the verge of fleeing to NYC, where things are easier. Its like there is some kind of barrier and once you cross it you are too busy to notice the freeze.
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this is a brash in your face out and out fµcking lie!
how dare thease retarded people claim that seattlites are baisicaly a bunch of social deviants because "its gray" and "were up here" "it reain alot and that makes people depressed" you people make me wanna be violent to visotors to my city!
i tell you what i have traveled all over and theres no place like seattle your san francisco bay area is a dry drug riddled dirty hippy/bum infested death trap
Bless you for this video. I left Seattle about a year ago after a 1 1/2 year stint. NEVER in my life have I experienced such a passive-aggressive, racially, and culturally segregated climate. It seems that the more personality and confidence one possesses, the greater the chances of having folks shy away from you in Seattle. Very dysfunctional place.
@GodlessPinko Yes, I actually considered it a few times and each time I'd meet another asshole like you and realize, again, that Seattle is just full of socially inept LOSERS. Go buy a cup of coffee and crawl back into your hole of depression.
@IHEARTNERDS34 seattle is an introvert's paradise...if you have "more personality [whatever the hell that means] and confidence," you belong in a city that embraces that...clearly you belong in L.A. or new york. and seattle proper is one of the most racially and culturally diverse areas i've ever known. the outskirts are a bit more "hick," yes...i will give you that.
@IHEARTNERDS34 SHIT WHO WOULDENT WANT THAT WHO LIVE IN A CITY WERE EVERYONE CAN BE ANOYING AT LEAST HERE YOU DONT HAVE TO DEAL WITH HATTERS RIGHT, OH AND VIDEO IS NOT TRUE IM JUST SAYING
I'm not sure what you guys are talking about. I'm moving to Seattle from California, and I've found it to be fairly social. The parking DOES suck, and there are WAY too many homeless people, but I didn't have a problem talking to people. Maybe people are reluctant to be social because there's ALWAYS some homeless guy with a makeshift shelter wherever you walk. It's tough to hang with your friends when you're staring at that, feeling guilty because you exist.
We moved to Seattle recently and have really regretted it. While the people seem nice on the outside, they are really aloof, cold, defensive and arrogant. I thought the weather would be the biggest challenge for us but so far the people have been the biggest downside. And the filth! Human poop everywhere due to all the homeless people, trash and garbage everywhere, bad roads, ugly houses, run down buildings, freaky looking people, it's a shame because it could be a very nice city but it's not.
@TheSassy7 You wil find all of these you did comment about Seattle in any major city in the U.S.I have travelled through many states across the US because I'm very fond of it.I lived in Seattle and I loved it,but I didn't like the stuffy attitude of many people there,but the city and its surroundings are breathtakingly beautiful.
we moved here from Northern Cal. I thought it was hard making freinds there; up here, even our dog is lonely. I've been crying and wondering what was wrong with me; now I know, its Seattle.
If one is finding it difficult to make friends, perhaps there is something undesirable about them. That is, perhaps it's not them, it's you.
marlowharris 1 week ago
this so-called "seattle freeze" is simply a shitty label for introverted people. let's call it like it is: certain cities have a greater ratio of introverts vs. extroverts. seattle clearly has more introverted people living there vs. los angeles, new york, etc., where it is definitely more fitting for extroverted personalities. nothing wrong with either. if a city doesn't fit your personality, you can always move...
handsomerube 1 month ago
I think this video is full of cop-outs. From my experience, the people of the Pacific Northwest are actually closet Teutonic supremacists who don't want anyone to know just how eugenically narcissistic they really are, and how far they really carry their klannish discrimination of certain select outsiders -- particularly those who do not seem to be of Northern European ethnicity.
TheLogicJunkie 1 month ago
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Pacific Northwesterners are unbelievably heartless and two-faced. And it's incredible and horrible that word of this truth has never spread around, because people not knowing allows more and more people to keep pouring into the PNW, only to have their souls and lives utterly crushed by the reptiles who live there. It's very hard to recover from the profound ugliness of living in the Pacific Northwest if you're naturally a truly good person.
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TheLogicJunkie 1 month ago
i definately noticed the freeze. Even people I became friends with at work whom I've known for quite awhile have a hard time taking our friendship outside of work. People here have a serious fear of intimacy.
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handsomerube 1 month ago
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@JayBearization but that's not exclusive to seattle. i live in L.A. and choose not to associate with coworkers outside of work. my private life is that: private...i think you'll find that in many cities, not just seattle.
handsomerube 1 month ago
My theory is that The Seattle Freeze does exist for many reasons from my perspective. The lack of sun creates depression. The traffic. The distance between locations. The weather. The culture. On the positive side, it is very accepting of gay, race and other prejudices that exist in other states. I am from NY and travel a lot and see the differences. I am very outgoing and that is why I have survived here for 33 years. We plan to move to San Diego SOON!
jam6255 4 months ago
@jam6255 stokholm has the same weather and doesn't have the coldness. so does nyc, and upstate ny and it's nothing like that, ppl here are just cold as fuck for no reason.
TheEvilOyo2 4 months ago
@UltraGokin But dare one cross the street in front of a cop, WITH the light, and he gets pumped with four bullets from 5 shots. Or dare a black person jaywalk, they get a beating (it has happened more than once).
CherokeeBPM 5 months ago
My favorite thing about it is that people in Seattle act like it's something other people from Seattle do. However, if you point out that they do the very same things that encompass the "Seattle Freeze" , they claim that they are different because they have their "reasons" for acting like that, and they aren't really contributing to the "Seattle Freeze".
sensorglitch 5 months ago 2
People are strange when you're a stranger.
MrButtbanger 5 months ago 3
@MrButtbanger Or if you read, "The Stranger: Seattle's Only Newspaper"
CherokeeBPM 5 months ago
@MrButtbanger
People are friendly when you are a friend?
CleverDjembe 3 months ago 2
@Helotes420 Glad to hear everything's going cool for you in Seattle. I'm from SA, that's why I was curious. I've lived in two other cities growing up but they were brief stints and seen from the eyes of a kid basically, so it's interesting to get feedback on the contrast of other places with re to SA. I noticed the Helotes in your nic. I figured that was a reference to Helotes/S.A.
jmitnick210 5 months ago
@Helotes420 What was your impression of the other cities vis-a-vis Seattle? I'm curious.
jmitnick210 5 months ago
Okay, well then go join clubs. Go volunteer at your workplace. Go sign up for events. or... go join a Go club (700 NE 45th St if anyone's interested). There are plenty of ways to meet new people as long as you don't come from out of nowhere and don't act shy.
Zaywex 6 months ago
i've met so many outgoing friendly well traveled people who have had a hard time socially once they moved to seattle. the top rated comment is indicative of what you run into in seattle. also, i've met a bunch of seattlites who agree and wish locals were more open to meeting new people.
avalanchesoul 6 months ago
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HA HA HA HA HA.
RandellScandal01 8 months ago
Seattle is sort of like London.dark,dreary,gloomy and full of loners.
nostalgiamelancolia1 8 months ago
Do not forget the fact that not all people who live in Seattle are from Seattle.
nostalgiamelancolia1 8 months ago
The problem in Seattle is that people tend to be snobs who pay respect to those of a higher social status but show contempt for those of a lower social status.
nostalgiamelancolia1 8 months ago 2
Lol. I'm about to pack up an move from south Florida. To Seattle. I know only my g/f whom is moving with me lol. We both born an raised in south fl. Our motto here is , welcome to fl, leave your money an get the fuck out!! But, I do not have problems meeting people as I'm very social.
roaddiablo 8 months ago
@roaddiablo Please,if you move to Seattle,do not bring the southern mentality there.Florida and Washington State are very different in general.I have lived in both states and found that big difference.people in Florida are not nice people,and they are the rudest in the nation.however,in Washington people don't have that sort of mentality people have in the Deep South.no offense,but I don't like Florida in general including its people.
nostalgiamelancolia1 8 months ago
@nostalgiamelancolia1 I understand man, I got friends in Nebraska I visit an it's WAYY different, also Pennsylvania. Im not gunna lie an say im not rude or mean, but only when I have to be. It's how we survive in the south. I am actually a very easy going guy an get along with just about every person I meet.I hear seattle is different in the aspect of they politely brush you off. Im hoping thats just a BS stereo type. Im looking to make friends up there as I will be up there late june.
roaddiablo 8 months ago
@roaddiablo don't do it man. stay where you are. please take my advice.
bobjones1783 7 months ago
@nostalgiamelancolia1 actually, while people from florida may be rude, at least they're honest and they won't stab you in the back. you just have to have tough skin to live on the east coast. having grown up there, I prefer "rudeness" to superficiality. not saying I like florida because believe me I dread having to go there, especially during the warmer months, but I'd take the people there any day over seattleites.
bobjones1783 7 months ago
too much psycho babble in this video. too many druggies and and ghetto trash & wigger trash wearing street clotihng in seattle along with those who make excuses for them. they are enough to make any normal person give up going out and trying to meet people. i do not want anything to do with someone who says " race does not matter" they are not normal.
lax drug laws and public housing/section 8 brings them in. how can you expect people like this to carry a conversation?
The096757 8 months ago
I have lived in New York, Louisville, Sydney, Boston. Never have I met more cold people in my life. If one more person tells me how polite they are here, I will politely hit them in the freaking face. They are NOT polite in Capitol Hill where I currently live. I have had the door slammed in my face so many times, I now laugh when it happens. But my New York habit of leaving the door open for the person behind me generally is met with no "thank you" whatsoever.
swarze 9 months ago 8
amen.
bobjones1783 7 months ago
Seattle is the greediest town in the U.S. People are so greedy, and don't even feel shame when they are begging on the street. They thing it's cool to act like a thug and beg random people on the street. There are two categories in the city, Fucking rich or uneducated, illiterated, idiotic whole bunch of rednecks. They the latter kind of people act in the same way as rich locals. Yeah, you fuck ass holes praise city while you are getting fucked over by rich and got nothing but begging
thedaycomingtrue 10 months ago
I have lived here my whole life. One problem is it's hard not to associate the overall decline of this town with the massive influx of new people. Especially since they are so directly related to each other. So, as cool as you might be, please appreciate the fact that, though I am polite to you, I really want you to fly back to wherever you came from.
candide37 11 months ago
@candide37 Wow what a shitty view on life, regardless of the city. My condolences to you and your bizarre views. You do realize that you live in a country that was founded by immigrants, right?
investmjr 10 months ago 2
@candide37
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"please appreciate the fact that, though I am polite to you, I really want you to fly back to wherever you came from."
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I have heard your attitude before. Who do you think you are? The US Constitution guarantees the right to freely travel & live in the 50 States and Territories. What you have expressed is Xenophobia - fear of outsiders.
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You may THINK it's common, but it isn't in the USA. No other populace in the rest of the country shuns outsiders as often as Seattleites.
Knepperify1 9 months ago
@candide37 said: "I really want you to fly back to wherever you came from."
"Welcome to Seattle. Now please go away."
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Yep, that's how a Seattle native, and the general Seattle attitude, speaks to others.
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Basically it is a passive aggressive, very polite way of saying:
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"Fuck You and Go Back!"
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Who the HELL do you think you are?
Knepperify1 9 months ago 3
@candide37 eat a dick.
bobjones1783 7 months ago
seattle sucks, and you people of seattle, you are living in a butt hole, the worst butt hole in the u.s. Fuck you seattle people and fuck your mom in the ass. ㅗㅗㅗㅗㅗㅗㅗㅗㅗㅗㅗㅗ
thedaycomingtrue 11 months ago
same shit goes for vancouver b.c.
thedaycomingtrue 11 months ago
Don't discuss about it with native people of Seattle. They just don't know shit about it. Just don't know shit. They just stick to their own mentality.
thedaycomingtrue 11 months ago
this film is very true. I lived in Seattle for 3years, and life has been such a joy since I left Seattle. I have exactly 2 friends who still keep in touch. In Seattle, Nothing helped me to make friends.
thedaycomingtrue 11 months ago
@thedaycomingtrue Jesus Christ, man. Did the Seattle mayor rape you? You obviously had a scarring experience during your three years in Seattle, that doesn't mean everybody lives such a miserable life up there.
But yes, the Midwest rocks. Chicago is the shit and people from all over the Chicagoland area are the most chill people you will ever meet.
AlvinHDavernport 11 months ago
@AlvinHDavernport yeah, but I can't control my profound hatred of Seattle. Honestly, I don't want to control. I just want to share my damn experience and express how much I hate the butt hole "Seattle." At least, I just want to let you know Seattle is a butt hole for sure.
thedaycomingtrue 11 months ago
@AlvinHDavernport Not really modernized, but if you are a white man, you might be little better than me. I am not a white man, and whole bunch of white trash fucking around me whenever I walking on the street. People not really nice and polite there. Who's not polite when he or she faces you?? Their nature is basically rude, rudest gay shit ever in this world. Well, I love Wisconsin, generally rural area in MIDWEST. So beautiful and people so easy going.
thedaycomingtrue 11 months ago
@thedaycomingtrue Seattle does not seem like a racist place to me at all. As a matter of fact, I've seen it being voted as one of the least racist places in America. But I can't really say that I've been to a place where racism was evident so I wouldn't really know. I've got this hunch you're Asian--doesn't Seattle have a large Asian population? I couldn't possibly conceive the idea that white Seattleites are bigoted against Asians. It doesn't make sense.
AlvinHDavernport 11 months ago
@AlvinHDavernport yes it does at leat for me. Not really materr how big asian communities are there. Especially, its surrouding cities are worse than seattle downtown. Don't walk on the street in a rainy day, so many ghetto white trash people will accelerate their car even when they tuning their cars a fucking corner, and they just enjoy spraying water on people, asians are easily targeted. Well, apparently polite,I had felt so many ghettro white trash people looked down on me for no reason.
thedaycomingtrue 11 months ago
@xBeCksx WHOOOOOOAAAAHHHHH haha!
RandellScandal01 11 months ago
I lived in Seattle for six months and I noticed that the moment I said I was from California, people stopped talking to me. The most open people for friendship were those who went to raves so I made friends with them, but still needed to move back to Cali. I don't think I'm ever going to move back.
littlekagome 1 year ago
Oh it's real....
jezterking 1 year ago
There you have it! Proof! Three homely women say there's a freeze because they don't have any friends! It's official! Seattle sucks!
drewballgame 1 year ago
I've lived in Seattle for almost 4 years. People are generally "nice", but beyond small talk they get uncomfortable (like most places). It may be related to the crazy people in downtown and slu that talk to anyone about their crazy ramblings. However, hipsters do look down their nose at you if you aren't dressed hipster. People I have come to know more deeply, are not from Seattle. My girlfriend is however. Confident, open, worthwhile people are out there, give them a chance when it comes.
EchosideProductions 1 year ago
I moved here from boston a little over a month ago and I think this video is fucking garbage. I keep hearing about how people here have "no sense of urgency" are "passive aggressive" and then the whole "Seattle freeze" thing... And some of it is probably true but I am from Boston where people are rude and shitty dickheads so I'd rather live in a place where people are generally more polite and don't call me back when they aren't really interested in having a friendship with me. You say they are
leighdarrell 1 year ago
@leighdarrell I actually disagree with the whole Boston thing. Having also lived in the South with its hospitality, the Midwest (which by general consensus has the most amiable people in the country--probably in the developed world), multicultural Florida, Spain, Colombia, and Germany, I'd say Bostonians are not even half as bad as they are made out to be. There is definitely more of a talking-to-people-on-the-street culture, I'd say. They compare well to people from other places.
AlvinHDavernport 11 months ago
I find it very true here in the San Francisco Bay area to be very true also. A lot of people talk about it. To make real, true friends that care about you and are there for you. If you get hurt or sick or injured or a family member dies, suddenly these so called friends are not there for you. After a few months, they come back when things are ok. And want to have fun and party! But not when bad times come back, they are gone again...
crazymike44 1 year ago
I just heard about this today from a female friend who lived there for a few years.
I live in Marin county in the san francisco bay area, and it's the same way here. You can't make real friends here. It's almost impossible... it's crazy!
crazymike44 1 year ago
It's funny how many natives respond with some version of "I'm not frozen, and besides I like it that way!"
jxhensley 1 year ago
Seattle natives don't think they're frozen, just like fish don't think they're wet.
jxhensley 1 year ago
Seattle Freeze = Computer Nerds = No Social Skills = Microsoft
oldschool1 1 year ago
I think the notion of a "freeze" is simply a misconception. Seattle has a more reserved social climate. It's just part of our culture. Seattlites are more inclined to mind their own business. As a New York transplant in Seattle once told me, "If you want neighbors, co-workers, and a general public who are always up in your shit, move into a 5th floor walk-up on the Lower East Side of Manhattan. If you appreciate privacy, come here".
danielsimonon 1 year ago 2
This video is completely wrong. People communicate through internet all over this country. I live in Seattle and have met countless people who are kind and willing to have a conversation with you. Try talking to people in New York or Miami before judging Seattle please!
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brandisman1 1 year ago
What!!? Firstly, Seattle and Bellevue are major business centers, with the highest rate of educated people in the nation. This means, that you just have to get to know people. Seattle people are reserved, but extremely friendly and polite and are the most helpful people I have ever seen. Life has changed here, yes, but is is similar to any major urban area. If you want to live in a small town in South Dakota, people may be a bit nicer, but not much to do. Seattle wins numerous awards. Jealousy!
SeattleLA 1 year ago
I Stayed In Seattle 4 Like A Month Back In '98' And From My Experience Seattle Is A Type Of Place Where Folks Stay To Themselves As Well As People Being Depressed And Lonely And The Women There Are "Not" Friendly At All!! I Liked Portland A Bit Better.
1blackmass 1 year ago
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This vid is lying there are sooo many spots to hit and socialize and there is noo problem at all holland is tiny. Theres probably more people in the city of seattle than all of holland
AtotheNtotheDre 1 year ago
@AtotheNtotheDre That may be true, but that doesn't mean that people are forging strong and real friendships and bonds at all.. Where if you get hit by a car, you will have real friends to help you through the healing, bring you food, take you to the doctors for weeks and months, etc. You know, real friendship! Not just surface level, let's go have fun. But friend who will be there for you during the hard times as well...
crazymike44 1 year ago
Funny that this is depicting a particular cultural trend as "abnormal". As a native Seattlite, the Freeze is totally a real thing, but don't ask us to "thaw out", as if we need to return to a prescribed social norm. Maybe we don't want to rush out on Friday nights to the nearest bar and hope that we find a shiny new best buddy. Maybe we have higher standards for close friendship. Or maybe we are not consumed with a need to feel accepted by those around us. Either way, if you don't like it, move.
cosmith 1 year ago
@cosmith OUCH you gave me frostbite!
RandellScandal01 8 months ago
what the fuck is this shit!!!!!! this people sound desprate to meet cool people and its not us its you fuck tards who are lonely who need to to meet someone its not seattle it them ass dicks lol and who would want to live in a place were everyone is friendly that shit shit could get fucking annoying i rather live in pace were its just me and my familly and people im used to
PabloBobadillaLopez 1 year ago
hey thats sounds like where i live.
I live in Holland and everybodys like that too.
It rains here alot too.mabye thats the problem?
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milmilmen 1 year ago
seattle = quality over quantity...enough said.
handsomerube 1 year ago
@handsomerube um, quality of what? Racist hipsters who will only acknowledge you if you look and act exactly as they do? Seattle isn't a horrible place. I never said it was. As a gay person of color, it just isn't the best place. Don't you think it's a tad arrogant of you to attempt to define my own personal experience for me? You say that Seattle is culturally and racially diverse. Um, statistically, Seattle is almost 85% white. Did you know that?
IHEARTNERDS34 1 year ago
@IHEARTNERDS34 what's laughable? that i speak the truth?!? please read my post again...i said "seattle proper" (meaning downtown and its environs), not the entire city of seattle (which, yes, includes the racist hipsters you mention). and i agreed with you that the outskirts are more white trash/hick/racist. seriously, to each his own...i'm certainly not trying to define your personal experience...i'm only stating the obvious...live in a city that embraces your needs, wherever that may be.
handsomerube 1 year ago
@IHEARTNERDS34 Then where does the statistic come from that says Seattle is almost 1/3rd Native American? (I still don't believe that, but, I've seen more than one study!)
CherokeeBPM 5 months ago
I wish all the whiny transplants would go back where they came from instead of moaning about how the way they don't fit in is our problem. Seattle society is based on substance. Until you do/say something that people think indicates that you are worth their time they would rather spend that time with known quantities be they people or hobbies. And yeah, the 20th century is over. You don't go to bars to meet people. You go online to find interest groups to cut down on wasted time.
TheElectricTurtle 1 year ago
@TheElectricTurtle Shit man, you'd be saying the same thing if you weren't from Seattle. Easy to look down on other people if you live in a place your ENTIRE life (as many "natives" of Seattle have). LOL you go online to meet people? I'm about to hit a bar right now, to enjoy actual human contact. Pretty fucking easy to do where I live dude. I'll give you a reverse freeze now - You're better off staying in Seattle and NEVER leaving. You'd not fit in anywhere else. Literally.
investmjr 10 months ago
This video could describe where I live perfectly.. I'm in Toronto and people are polite, they'll occasionally make small talk but it's all superficial. It's probably the same in most cosmopolitan cities.
zizyi 1 year ago
Bellingham is WAY worse than Seattle. At least the homeless people in Seattle will talk to you.
MissXMarlboro 1 year ago
these people are so generalizing there is nothing wrong with seaattle maybe its something wrong with you
brandisman1 1 year ago 21
@brandisman1 actually Seattle is a hard place to make friend, the kind of friends you hang out with. not the kind you just meet at a Starbucks have a quick conversation and just part ways.
MrJuangonzo 1 year ago
@MrJuangonzo dude do you even live in seattle
brandisman1 1 year ago
@brandisman1 Yeah. I lived on capital hill for a couple months. I live in tacoma now. I use to hang at Cupcake Royal and just walk down Pike st.
MrJuangonzo 1 year ago
@brandisman1 to be honest, you are generalizing other people's problems. Please, if you don't know shit, just shut the fuck your filthy mouth up, and don't act like you know all the shit. Nothing is wonderful in Seattle. Yeah I agree the city is beautiful, at the same time, people are the worst kind of mo'fuckers' I had ever met in my whole life. Typically, Seattle people act like very polite, but you will never know the shit what's on their minds.
thedaycomingtrue 10 months ago
@thedaycomingtrue trust me dude im originally from philadelphia the so called city of brotherly love,now the people over there i could write a book just plain horrible,its just paradise to where im originally from
brandisman1 10 months ago
@brandisman1 keep dreaming. there IS something wrong with seattle
bobjones1783 9 months ago
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Nonsense. Hundred's of people reporting the exact same behavior denotes a trend.
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Yours is a typical passive-aggressive, arrogant, Seattle response. You are perfect, therefore all criticism of you and your city is invalid.
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I know people who went YEARS without making any new friends. You invite people over and they simply look at you blankly. You suggest a date to a woman and she just looks at you blankly, saying nothing, controlling her body language.
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Seattle is messed up.
Knepperify1 9 months ago 5
That girl from the video needs to give me a call and i'll make out with her and introduce her to 1000 friends and she'll be popular again.
cleberinthearea 1 year ago
San Francisco is worse!!!!!!!!!!!
fff1313 1 year ago
I can do the same thing and make a video how people are really freinddly and the city of Seattle is a really nice place to be in.
markkochubey 1 year ago
seattle weather sucks
Come to Kauai !!
HIVisaLIE 1 year ago
I just did my own video about the Seattle Freeze, containing photographic proof of it, and offering an overseas solution. See it here: watch?v=lu6zAoR7j4M
GlobalDating 1 year ago
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GlobalDating 1 year ago
Uh... there are only white people in this video, and everything was filmed North of the ship canal (except for that one shot thru the window at bauhaus). Have you ever heard of South Seattle? Have you ever heard of the huge communities of immigrants and people of color who are completely and totally NOT the freeze? I moved to Seattle and have more community and chosen-family than I've ever had in my whole life. This short does not, by any means, speak for the entire city.
shanayyy 1 year ago
I've had the exact same problem in Portland, Oregon. It took me five years to make any friends here and they all turned out to be co-workers.
SheynaVVV 1 year ago
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2:08 "It's just not Scandinavian"....ha ha ha. What a fucking drip. Ya that's it you fat cunt blame your inability to interact with other people even your family members on your ethnic background. People listen and watch this douche witch talk. She is a typical Seattle Zombie.
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jtlessons 1 year ago
@jtlessons -- Lol, my sentiments exactly! And let me add that these Seattle Zombie are of ALL varieties, not just Scandinavian. How come a lot of people in Minnesota of Scandinavian descent and really friendly ... and a lot of actual Scandinavians are tons of fun. An selfish lazy turd is a selfish lazy turd, like her. Period.
MIDOGALI 1 year ago
So sorry about my comment. It in now way meant anything about Scandinavians or any other gender or race. The Zombies in Seattle are of all walks or life. I apologize to anyone I may have offended. This is just my personal frustration with Seattle and I will be relocating to a place with warmer weather & people soon.
jtlessons 1 year ago
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@jtlessons -- Lol, my sentiments exactly! And let me add that these Seattle Zombie are of ALL varieties, not just Scandinavian. How come a lot of people in Minnesota of Scandinavian descent and really friendly ... and a lot of actual Scandinavians are tons of fun. An selfish lazy turd is a selfish lazy turd, like her. Period.
MIDOGALI 1 year ago
have you guys seen the seattle sucks website? it's at h t t p : / / seattle.shmeng.com
GlobalDating 1 year ago
It's not just seattle. It's pretty much the whole state of WA that's like that. And it includes Oregon and British Columbia, Canada too. There is some freeze or vibe where people are ghost like and distant and hard to get close to, especially girls. Oregonians though, are a bit more down to earth and less arrogant than Washingtonians though. And more mild tempered too. British Columbia people seem hollow, like they are polite but not really there. It's kind of creepy and inhuman.
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GlobalDating 1 year ago 3
I wrote a huge essay about this topic, and called it the "Bellingham Curse". Type that in google and you will find it as the first hit at the top. lots of people have emailed me and expressed the same view. people are polite in WA but do not connect, especially girls. It's one of the hardest places in the world to get a date. The air is fresh though and the nature is pretty. But the social energy is ZERO.
stefanmuth 1 year ago
no wonder most goths I've met are from seattle
SanguineBullet667 1 year ago
excellent video. people who say, "maybe the problem is you," are absolute stupid fucks.
avalanchesoul 1 year ago
@avalanchesoul
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Typical Seattle Projection. It cannot be them, they are perfect, so it must be all of the people on this comment thread and in the video.
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To make it worse many Seattleites have this massive Liberal Arrogance that is absolutely off the charts. Seattle is so freakin' wonderful that anyone who criticizes it must be a loser.
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In Seattle the people on Queen Anne and Belltown and the other hot spots have forgotten that the reason to go out and meet people and date is to FUCK.
Knepperify1 1 year ago
So that's what an extroverted feel when they live in an introverted place :D
TSUYKODEN 1 year ago
Wow really I have been living here since i was 12 and to me there is no better plaace than seattle. Yeah would'nt mind a little more sunshine but seattle is beautiul , and people are friendly by the way if your having trouble making friends then there must be something wrong with you.
tripuz1 1 year ago
@tripuz1 that's typical denial. even friendless people in seattle say they love it and have a lot of friends. it's like a religion. you aren't allowed to tell the truth in seattle. you have to pretend that everyone is friendly just cause they are polite. it's a forced lie. I hate that.
stefanmuth 1 year ago 3
@stefanmuth.
Bullshit.
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I have a friend from NYC and Austin who was married and she made -0- friends in 5 years. I lived there for 4 years and had few dates, no friends. The attitude is very much 'Welcome to Seattle, now please go away.' The attitude of posters like stefanmuth is typical of Seattleites -- deep down many people in Seattle are huge assholes, which is why they all have a surface veneer of 'being nice'.
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You guys don't want to make new friends. It's that simple.
Knepperify1 1 year ago
@Knepperify1 dude, you got me mixed up with someone else. I am VERY anti Seattle and anti WA. I wasted years of my life there, precious years. I am the only one who wrote a huge treatise about it, which you can find by googling "Bellingham Curse". My treatise is the first hit at the top. Anyway, I agree with you, so I think you misinterpreted me or got me mixed up with some Seattleite.
GlobalDating 1 year ago
@GlobalDating
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Sorry about that mix up, dude.
Knepperify1 1 year ago
@stefanmuth wow i SOOOO didnt know that I was in denial but thakyou for making me realize ....... NOT!
tripuz1 1 year ago
@tripuz1.
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Typical Seattle Projection. You have never seen the outside world and think that the dysfunction of Seattle is 'normal'. It isn't.
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People there are very cold and stand-offish and your definition of 'friendly' is what others in other parts of the USA called 'ice cold, distant and aloof'.
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It is akin to you looking at what the rest of us refer to as the color 'Grey' and you see 'Bright Red'.
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Most people in Seattle are depressed but they don't know it. It is obvious on your faces.
Knepperify1 1 year ago 2
@Knepperify1 wow you must have not read my comment right, i did say that i moved to seattle when i was 12 , i did live in california , never did i say that i have never been outside seattle ......
tripuz1 1 year ago
I'm from Seattle and now I am socially screwed. Its a disease!! Please stay away. I wouldn't want to infect you hip Californians ; )
TheSimeeB 1 year ago
By the way, I was born and raised in New York City and lived there till the age of 38. You want to talk about a "Cold City?" Making friends there is a NIGHTMARE. I had a huge circle of friends up until the age of 29 when everyone I know got married or moved away because they couldn't stand NYC anymore. I felt like someone who just moved there. That's when I saw what making friends was like.
Kodos1 1 year ago 2
@Kodos1 I know what you mean. I also lived in NYC my entire life. I had coworkers I was close to after working together for 3 years. We were like family. That is until I changed jobs. Then it was like I died. I never heard from them again. And yes I would call them and get together but I began to wonder what would happen if I stopped calling. When I did they never called me. A friendship takes two people to make an effort. When it's one way you start to ask, "What's the point?"
rodneyDangerfield1 1 year ago 3
This is a fascinating video and topic. I had a friend who moved to Seattle for three years and left. When I asked him why he said it was impossible to make friends. The people were too closed off.
But to be fair I moved to San Diego four and a half years ago and have experienced THE SAME THING! Making real friends here is next to impossible. The people are VERY introverted and do not bound easily. You can't blame the cold weather for this. I am actually packing up to leave in a few weeks.
Kodos1 1 year ago 3
well, let me tell you this. atleast i dont think that I am a bad speller. cause im not. that would be even more stupid than this: teh seattles freeze is a faeke!
Xscenelaura 1 year ago
sEATTLE FREEZE!!! I DOUBT THAT!!!! GO TO NORTH DAKOTA OR PERHAPS SOUTH DAKOTA YOU WILL SEE HOW FROZEN THOSE STATES ARE. I HAVE BEEN ALL OVER THE COUNTRY AND I HAVE CHOSEN TO STAY HERE. ITS VERY BEAUTIFULL AND LIVABLE CITY YOU KNOW. THERE ARE MORE THAN 6 MILLION PEOPLE LIVING IN WASHINGTON THAT SHOULD TELL YOU SOMETHING.
westfordlove 1 year ago
seattle freeze and what is the other name they called seattle ahhhh!!! rainy state!!!
oh well you can't take that then leave seattle. only strong survive. its ashamed for those people giving SEATTLE a negative names. THEY CAN'T HAVE WHAT THEY WANT AND THEN WHAT DO YOU KNOW they will come up to something calling this place a very unpleasant name. shame on you for calling this beautiful city like that. SEATTLE IS VERY LIVABLE CITY.
westfordlove 1 year ago 3
@westfordlove thankyou!!!!!! SEATTLE is beautiful
tripuz1 1 year ago
I was born here and now I'm a social retard. THANKS A FUCKIN'-LOT SEATTLE!
toocheaptobuyatripod 1 year ago 2
i agree and disagree, im hispanic and i feel as if it all depends on you and your state of mind i mean because someone feels down doesnt mean you have feel that way. we are all in control over our emotions i choce to feel happy and laugh at anything and everything including random things...be your self and not a follower, be open minded and stop being a judgeof others...seattle is beautiful and rich in diversity just look around!
JAYJAY206ER 1 year ago
the seattle freeze is definitely true. people dont exchange pleasantries...dope city none the less
TheWanderingsole 1 year ago
Non-sence, I did not get that feeling when I went there. I met a lot of cool friendly people there, that could have become long term friends. I was born and raised in Los Angeles, where the city is so big, and yeat you feel so alone, Not just that people here are ass-holes, and have this sence of arrogance.
Jocsan21 2 years ago
That's why you move to Portland, most friendly livable city in the USA. Not to mention most green!!
GreenUltraLad 2 years ago
this is so lame. theres no such thing as the seattle freeze. the stupid crap about some aloof crap is just a lie. rediculous
Xscenelaura 2 years ago
you obviously don't travel
TheWanderingsole 1 year ago
Gee, that is such a shame. I didn't know there was such a widespread consensus on the Seattle aloofness. I live in the Midwest, where people are caring and open, but I do have a couple acquaintances from Seattle. One of them is incredibly outgoing, but the other one, I never realized, perfectly fits this consensus: polite on the outside, but stuck-up and very reserved.
It's a shame, because I always wanted to move there, since it is so beautiful. I'll strongly reconsider my goals.
AlvinHDavernport 2 years ago 5
That said, though, I don't understand the hostility toward anyone that even suggests that Seattle might be a good place or that people are not cranky, arrogant assholes. If you had a bad experience, don't take your anger out on those who didn't have such a bad time. It's like when your mom yells at you, saying "ARE YOU YELLING AT ME?" You can't say that people in Seattle are assholes and then be an asshole to whoever doesn't share your opinion.
AlvinHDavernport 2 years ago 2
@AlvinHDavernport There's a friend of friend of mine who was upset that everywhere he drove people would flip him the bird. My friend finally told him, "Well, then, stop driving like an asshole."
People who treat others poorly never seem to understand that they are the problem. It's always everyone else who is mean to them. I think that the "Seattle Freeze" concept may fall, at least in part, under this idea.
whateley23 1 year ago
@AlvinHDavernport midwest might be the best region in the U.S. Seattle sucks.
thedaycomingtrue 11 months ago
It's both convenient and interesting to make generalizations about Seattle like those in this video (cold weather!, software companies!, Scandinavian heritage!), and certainly makes for an enticing Conversation feature... but c'mon. I'd like to look further into the lives of those interviewed on here (including the SU professor) who are having trouble making friends to see what's wrong with THEM, compared to what's wrong with an entire city. Idiotic.
judithbjini 2 years ago
get out and travel then make a response to this video, cause it is absolutely true
TheWanderingsole 1 year ago
@TheWanderingsole well i dont live in seattle but ive been theer. i live kind of close to seattle. the seattle freeze is a rediculous therey!
Xscenelaura 1 year ago
@Xscenelaura your spelling is really, really bad. You might want to look into fixing it.
IHEARTNERDS34 1 year ago
Been out and traveled, and I KNOW it's not true. It's a bunch of sullen transplants getting together and jerking each other off with their tears.
GodlessPinko 1 year ago
Yeah, the overrated city of Seattle. Used to be very blue collar fun to hang out and inexpensive outlet of enjoyment. That came end in the mid90s. I had so much fun CD shopping in the U-district and hanging out at Seattle center and shopping at the Sears
outlet store in the SODO district. Now I can't
stand the place, every time I travel there I get
sick. Bye old Seattle....to Hell with the new
Seattle! God save Portland!
Garduus 2 years ago 3
This is interesting.
GreenRhythms 2 years ago
@csnukm1 SAME HERE! Omg I hate it here so much. I moved from Los Angeles, California. Everyone there was so kind and talkative. Here, 1) they walk way too slow 2) they're pretty slow in the mind too xD 3) they're racist and have a very dry sense of humor. NEVER MOVE HERE. Once I turn 18 Im so out of here...just 1 more year of this idiots
StrawberryMochix3 2 years ago 5
This is hilarious. No friends? What is this high school for 30 year olds? It is not that hard to make friends and if you feel like you can't make a good friend after x amount of YEARS then it is YOU. You like to read? Go hang out at the library. Like art? Go to a art gallery. Find others who are into what you are into.
Use common sense, not everyone will like you and you are a fool to try to impress others. This video just shows how pathetic some people really are. PRIORITIES!!
ResistanceAlpha 2 years ago
@ResistanceAlpha
Well, these people are not saying they are sad and crying about it like high schoolers, they are just saying that that's the culture in which they are use to.
GreenRhythms 2 years ago
i lived here all my life and have never ever experienced difficulty making friends or meeting people... and its not like im going to talk to strangers lol.. i never even heard about the freeze til now...weird. but im bias, ive never been anywhere else.
iloveseattle123 2 years ago
Huh, I thought I was the only one who noticed the freeze phenomenon til now! But it is TOTALLY true. I find PNW ppl are mostly very icy and hard to connect with. I have been here for 9 yrs now and every time I go back to NY to visit fam its like nite and day. Ppl here seem like they need to be impressed and assume you are guilty of being not worth knowing unless proven innocent. Its very telling that natives are often very offended by this accusation but transplants unanomously notice the freeze
cashmab 2 years ago 11
my theory ... Seattle is a place where people were too scared to move to Alaska ... but, in the end, my philosophy is GET OVER IT! Seattle is a city of whiners too, never forget that.
tgradyc 2 years ago
i have been on both sides of this freeze thing-- all the way frozen out, and on the inside of a very large network of super fun friends. The freeze is real and only people who grew up here dont see it. While I was frozen out it was the worst. I don't blame anyone experiencing the freeze for saying awful things about Seattle. I was on the verge of fleeing to NYC, where things are easier. Its like there is some kind of barrier and once you cross it you are too busy to notice the freeze.
ujalakali 2 years ago 5
your new youk is economicaly dying and your corupt polititions skimped to the point that the lower ninth ward was washed away!
you should be fµcking shot and your offspring should be drowned in ether
thats like saying theres only 700 population in peters burg alaska because theres a great danger of bears and snow
if you would get off your black berrys and i-phones and talk to people face to face you will see true NW hospitiality and friendlyness
sad
GTFO MY SEATTLE!
originalanthraxtony 2 years ago
@originalanthraxtony what is up with your spelling? Is it intentionally bad?
IHEARTNERDS34 1 year ago
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this is a brash in your face out and out fµcking lie!
how dare thease retarded people claim that seattlites are baisicaly a bunch of social deviants because "its gray" and "were up here" "it reain alot and that makes people depressed" you people make me wanna be violent to visotors to my city!
i tell you what i have traveled all over and theres no place like seattle your san francisco bay area is a dry drug riddled dirty hippy/bum infested death trap
originalanthraxtony 2 years ago
Bless you for this video. I left Seattle about a year ago after a 1 1/2 year stint. NEVER in my life have I experienced such a passive-aggressive, racially, and culturally segregated climate. It seems that the more personality and confidence one possesses, the greater the chances of having folks shy away from you in Seattle. Very dysfunctional place.
IHEARTNERDS34 2 years ago 7
Did you consider that you might be socially retarded?
GodlessPinko 1 year ago 4
@GodlessPinko Yes, I actually considered it a few times and each time I'd meet another asshole like you and realize, again, that Seattle is just full of socially inept LOSERS. Go buy a cup of coffee and crawl back into your hole of depression.
IHEARTNERDS34 1 year ago
@IHEARTNERDS34 seattle is an introvert's paradise...if you have "more personality [whatever the hell that means] and confidence," you belong in a city that embraces that...clearly you belong in L.A. or new york. and seattle proper is one of the most racially and culturally diverse areas i've ever known. the outskirts are a bit more "hick," yes...i will give you that.
handsomerube 1 year ago
@handsomerube Laughable.
IHEARTNERDS34 1 year ago
@IHEARTNERDS34 SHIT WHO WOULDENT WANT THAT WHO LIVE IN A CITY WERE EVERYONE CAN BE ANOYING AT LEAST HERE YOU DONT HAVE TO DEAL WITH HATTERS RIGHT, OH AND VIDEO IS NOT TRUE IM JUST SAYING
PabloBobadillaLopez 1 year ago
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ellasharp75 2 years ago
I dont know what these people are talking about... ive lived in seattle my whole life and personally i have never viewed seattle in this way
baconbitz122 2 years ago
I'm not sure what you guys are talking about. I'm moving to Seattle from California, and I've found it to be fairly social. The parking DOES suck, and there are WAY too many homeless people, but I didn't have a problem talking to people. Maybe people are reluctant to be social because there's ALWAYS some homeless guy with a makeshift shelter wherever you walk. It's tough to hang with your friends when you're staring at that, feeling guilty because you exist.
darkphotn 2 years ago
@darkphotn By any chance did you live in Orange County? Because you'll fit right in Seattle if you did. They're just as dead there
StrawberryMochix3 2 years ago
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cgeller100 2 years ago
We moved to Seattle recently and have really regretted it. While the people seem nice on the outside, they are really aloof, cold, defensive and arrogant. I thought the weather would be the biggest challenge for us but so far the people have been the biggest downside. And the filth! Human poop everywhere due to all the homeless people, trash and garbage everywhere, bad roads, ugly houses, run down buildings, freaky looking people, it's a shame because it could be a very nice city but it's not.
TheSassy7 2 years ago
Couldn't agree with you more. Thanks for your post.
cubuffalo90 2 years ago
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originalanthraxtony 2 years ago
@TheSassy7 You wil find all of these you did comment about Seattle in any major city in the U.S.I have travelled through many states across the US because I'm very fond of it.I lived in Seattle and I loved it,but I didn't like the stuffy attitude of many people there,but the city and its surroundings are breathtakingly beautiful.
nostalgiamelancolia1 8 months ago
we moved here from Northern Cal. I thought it was hard making freinds there; up here, even our dog is lonely. I've been crying and wondering what was wrong with me; now I know, its Seattle.
SylviaBigs 2 years ago 7