I know exactly what you going through - just due to the reasob that i'm going through exactly the same with my son. Up to today I haven't seen him for 1,5 year. I'm missing him so much!!!!
Most attorneys & women's supporters advise moms to make False Abuse Allegations as normal, primary means to win custody & divorce, winner takes all. 3/4 of divorced DADS in my area experience false allegations PLUS parental alienation.
Most parental alienation accompanies HER false allegations resulting in mothers having sole custody with most dads alienated from their kids.
Most GAL's & other court hangers-on support the rot lest they lose their seat at this banquet on children's flesh.
Tom...a secret weapon for you to use is tithe. Believe it or not this principal defined in Malachi 3 and Proverbs 3 is an amazing advantage, miracles come out of the woodwork when you simply give God the 1st 10% out of your check, calculate it carefully, and personally take it into the house of God. i know this is a heavy insight for you...but God guarantees it...hope you try it, it never fails. Check it out.
Saw your vid, can't tell you how bad I feel for you. I know EXACT what you're going through.. I'd never heard the term parental alienation before tonight. I'm writing about my own experiences but I call it "parental terrorism" instead. You're not the only guy dealing with this. I'll have more on my blog soon at ptdn.org or you can find me on facebook under FatherFightsBack. I hope to hear from you either way - good luck and keep the faith
Those kind of "MOTHERS" are scumbags they abused their own children. She destroyed the children and she is starting to understand the damage she did. She is a jealous person that destroys her own children so they won't get better then her worthless self. keep your head up I haven't seen my kids in 15 years I think my 16 year old daughter is pregnant and my 19 year old son want to fight and rob me. I guess they turned out pretty good with their mother.
Fuck that, your ex is a bitch and you have every right to bemad..I am a woman /mother saying this. You have just as much as a parental right as she does. I hope one day you find the happiness you deserve, and know this, one day your kids will know the truth...and moving on is not the way to go either, fight for you kids, every day....It will only benefit you in the end...FIGHT FOR YOUR KIDS!!!!
The only way to get past this is to move on with your life no matter how much you love the child. All your going to get from the child now is tight lips and a frown. The more you chase the child the more the child will run away from you because the child is so infected with the alienator's hate. The mindless family courts should require monthly appearances by the parties. This way the noncustodial parent doesn't have to appear like a sour grapes complainer. As an adult perhaps the child will see
@goodoldrebel8 No offense, but moving on is not always the way to go, fighting for you children is the best thing to do, if my dad had fought for us, I may not have had the feelings I had for him before he died. And sometimes when the kids are adults and know what the truth is the alienated parent has passed away...do you have kids or have you been in this situation? Just wondering.
I fought in court so much & got nowhere. Once the child is alienated its then up to the child to know how much her father cares about her. Like I said before, the more you chase the child the more the child will act like your furniture. I still blame the mindless family court system as it gives the alienator a way to eradicate the child's father from her life even if the child & the father had a healthy & loving relationship. I hope my child sees the light in adulthood.
Ohh God... Ohh God. We are in trouble over here. You said that You will not allow anything to come upon us that we cannot bear. We are long past that line. Did You recognized ?
Ok it hurts and I acknowledge that , now it time to do something about this injustice.
The only reason this is done to us , because A we don't stand together B we don't use legal remedy to stop this bull shit C We don't get out and tell the world the truth .
Fact: Most court orders for child custody and child support are based on void orders. Go and file a collateral attack, get rid of the deal they gave us and make the corrupt biase court order something that is more respectful of us.
Not to downgrade your situation or in any way detract from it, but here's a case of PAS that'll disgust you...I was legally filtered out of my kids' lives by way of totally unnecessary restraining and no-contact orders for 11 years (thank you Grant Co, IN for being so unbiased in court - NOT!). Mom is golden and doesn't have to prove any of her claims in court. Now that the truth about her is out, she has abandoned the kids and ran off with a new boyfriend...Golden, truly golden. Phooey
I am a dad, and i will stick with you ! Pas causes more pain then we will ever feel in are lives again !!! I am looking for help ! Let's build an army, so we can influence the political and legal systems, to restore are rights as fathers !
tom ,me 2 ,i got 3 girls ,my eldest 12 hates me and doesnt want 2 see me anymore,she was a daddies girl and yes as u know it hurts like hell,its the worst pain ,im not saying im right in what im about 2 say but if i lose my other 2 children i would want them to know why they dont want 2 see me anymore and ,so i will be sending them an email with a link(or maybe letter or facebook as my 10 year old has an account ,not my idea i might add that was the mothers),to hostile aggressive parenting
Here is what is going to happen: When your children are teens, they will start developing problems with their mothers. That is the nature of things. Then, suddenly, this same child will start accusing his/her mother of being a nutcase, crazy, abuser...etc. This would be your time to take matters into court and get custody of the children. If your 12-13 year old child tells you that he/she wants to stay with you not with mother, this would be the time. Your ex's house of cards will collapse.
my husband has to go through the same reality. my poor husband and his daughters have had to deal with the same thing! its disgusting and cruel! if these women didnt want a dad around they should have gone to the sperm clinic. why did they chose to have children with such Evil Men! women wake up! You not only hurt the ex you hurt the children even more! i would never do that to my son!
I am sorry. I don't know what state you are in. But I would file for sole custody on the basis that your ex is not doing what is in the best interest of her child since she has repeatedly violated the court orders.
Good luck Tom. I'm in yr 2 of a battle Florida. Both children are under ten. I have met several Dads with various PAS stories of different degrees. PAS needs to be recognoized as a form of Child abuse. In Florida the Department of Children and Families has a long way to go with limited rescorces to attack this issue.. Sign me up on the petition that will get this form of abuse recognized!!!
Feel your Pain as a grandpa seeing my son clearly the better parent and the family court system in Travis County, Texas just clearly ignoring relevant facts regarding the mom's criminal record and bizarre behaviors and still siding with the sociopath mom over a model father. I hope since you made this video you have been able to rebuild a relationship with your son. Thanks for sharing. Until men get the testicle fortitude to keep fighting these activist judges. The song remains the same.
Hi Tom, i am having the same problems and i hear that it doesn't matter if you live in the states or in the Netherlands like i do. I think the system in the whole world should change. It should be be punished in some way.... My thoughts are with you even if we live thousands of miles from echother.
Tom, I am a man who is going thru a very long and protracted custody battle over my child. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I have seen signs within my child behavior to indicate PAS. However, I (like you was given joint legal custody) and the mother was given sole phyiscal custody have little or no impact to what the mother is doing to my child. NEVER GIVE UP!!
Tom, I can see the pain and hopelessness you're feeling in this video. I know how hard it is to put it in words when you've had such an emotional trauma inflicted on you. When children are used as tools or weapons of revenge and anger it is so tragic it becomes hard to bear. All we want to do is be good dads! You'd think from all the hype about the need for fathers in their children's lives we'd get better support. I'm in your shoes and I feel like a kidnap victim. One victory is to keep trying.
men are too busy fighting eachother to be organized. now women can seperate men further by not letting dads raise their sons into "dad and son" concerns. no more patrilineal family name. total collapse of civlized order
Tom, I am with you in spirit along with everyone going through this evil sndrome. As we all know it severely attacks ones inner soul. It can keep you down.. If you let it ... it will take away your soul, your purpose and meaning in life.
Our corrupt Domestic Law practice in this country needs to become cognizant of these offensive emotional crimes to the soul and create new legislation to deal with these offenders..
I encourage all going through this that with faith in God on your side and willingness to take on a fight against evil, you will Win. Remember friend, there will be a point in time that your children will recognize this syndrome and they will think back to remember what did you do? fight or walk?
I wish to inspire all experiencing this deadly syndrome- by watching on you tube, enter
Nancy Manka from Oklahoma Parental Alienator! Child Abuser! Welfare Fraud. Ssi Fraud Theif! All has been proven nothing has been done. Where is the justice ??
go after him tom . take a few weeks off go this school with a lawyer . a friend a private investigator let him see you looking for him . get in touch with him someway now .
Thank you for posting this video. Your boy is obviously happy with you, and be grateful that he is a handsome and healthy kid. I'm one of the many dads out there that appreciate the efforts you're making.
Very powerful video and I too am dealing with an obsessive mother who brainwashes my daughter and makes every accusation you can imagine in an attempt to remove my daughter from my life. Any update on what's happening with you Tom?
I hear you Tom. Its been 4 years since I last saw my 2 boys. I cant begin to tell you how I feel. I have tried to deal with it in many ways, fortunately I have a loving girlfriend with 2 daughters who see the real me. One thing I hold on is that our children will probably want to contact us. Be comforted in the knowledge that your children will (by that time) be fully aware of the mothers wrongdoings and the damage that she has caused them emotionally. Take care Tom, Be strong.
TOM, I am going through this as well. I am dealing with an "extreme alienator". My heart is out to you and have watched your video a few times. It is exactly what I have been dealing with. All lies... I am fighting back and encourage you to for one reason.
This is the reason- chapter pertaining to how children will view us ten, fifteen years from today: Adult Children of Parental Alienation Syndrome: Breaking the Ties that Bind
I know exactly what you are going through, as I have been going through a similar thing since 2000. Each year she decreases the time I have with my son and daughter. I saw them yesterday for several hours and we had a great time however, that was only the second time I have seen them in ten months - the phone rarely gets answered. I have not been able to find help anywhere.
Your children are smart. Post a short video every week. Make the videos to them. There are lots of people that can help you label the videos so that your children can find them. Your children will eventually search their names etc.
My PAS started long before my separation from my wife 3 years ago. My wife abducted my 3 children for 5 month during 2007 and she abducted them again for 4 months in 2008. She has turned me into child protective service about 10 times in the past 2 years.
I have watched your video about 20 times since my separation. I am in tears each time I watch it.
Call your son every day.
Write to your son everyday.
Be creative. Sent cards to your son and address them to his school.
Hi Tom, I know what you are going through. It's been 11 years since I've seen my two daughters, and recently I was able to bring my son here, but he doesn't want to have anything to do with me. What makes this so very difficult that all three of my children were adopted, and they where so very young during the divorce. I really miss being my my childrens lives, but the ex made sure that I wouldn't play any part in their growing up years. She moved so far away. I love my children so much,
I shared with you my video I made for my daughter, it was my way of reaching out to her. I too have anger for what has happened when you raise a child for 16 years then have them ripped away with warning it is not only shocking and horrific it is also very much something you are not prepared to deal with. I have used the past year + to research the topic, the laws and the solutions so that I can hopefully make some sort of repair for the wrongs done. What more can we do??
I want to first say I am so sorry and it is true your son will know the truth one day perhaps already does and I know these words will not make you feel better but remember your day will come to be reunited with your son and everyone gets what they deserve in life .. I feel your doing the right thing call everyday your son might just pick up the phone and also with you recording on here well he may even happen to come across you :) god bless you and your son
I want to say I truly sympathize with your plight, my only objection to your video being that you appear to have allowed your anger & hurt to affect your view of women in general. Viewing women to be deeming all men bad etc very much stereotypes all women in the sane way you say are stating women view men. I feel your pain, trust me I do, I too live with PAS,it differs in the fact that I'm a woman living this, not all Mom's are evil...Don't allow your pain to create hatred in your mind.
You make a valid point. It was anger and hurt that motivated me to post the video in the first place. I had to express it somehow. With so many father's in the same boat as myself, I suppose it's easy to generalize.
But know this, women are a good thing, my psycho-ex is just a poor example :)
I am going through same thing, but mine has gone on for 20 years and has got to much momentum to stop it...it has destroyed my relationship with my kids, my family and extended family....
yes, it has too much momentum to stop it and is too underfined with no real context. They are talking about it now in general...but it has manifested itself so bad, that my kids don't even need my ex wife and carry it on by themselves, which please my ex wife and her partner who also gets involved and does his share of stirring lies and hate.
Buddy I'm here for you... i'm going through a terrible divorce right now and she is alienating me from my daughter who is 10 months old... I fear for my child. I really feel you I'm almost in tears right now. You are so right we DON'T stick together and we are all on our own...
I have not seen my son in nine years.He was twenty when I saw him last--in court, when a permanent restraining order was issued. The courtroom erupted in cheers- the victory cries of feminists who had just succeeded in separating my son from me forever. Not one of them even knew me. I wrote articles in Men's News Daily for a time.Several years ago, I had to stop because the pain was so overwhelming. My best to all men who must endure this terrible and deeply lonely affliction.
This woman told me, that a lawyer advised her to get her husband to hit her and she will get the house until they settle, she wanted out but didnt have anywhere to go.
Many stories that just make me sick, we all heard lots of these. Discrimination in the family courts towards males is the only legal discrimination.
Free lawyers, houses, money, support, guys are told get a lawyer, most go bankrupted over difficult divorces. SELF REPUTION! Learnt it. If you want your kids to at least know you tried you will be in court for over a decade.
He doesnt so the lies come out, because its hard to sneak around without being caught, you know the other guys she is trying to win over, sex. Remember the reputation for some is everything.
She feels dirty when youre around, even the bad ones have a conscience. They dont, want anyone one to like you, so the alienation starts not just with the kids, but anyone who will listen, they have all the time in the world, cant work, wont get all the free stuff.
I know it pal, I sometimes wonder what the hell is going on. A woman gets bored of her mate. So some people think there reputation is more important than others lives. The woman makes is very difficult for the guy so he goes away.
I feel your pain. I went from 50/50 joint physical/legal custody to 0 physical/50 legal. on my birthday 06-05 this year i got a new order. NO telephonic communication for me or anyone in my family (grandparents, uncle, God parents). Insight my ex wife works for the 2nd largest LAW firm in North America. I had no fighting chance. Oh everything you did stalking...etc... I did that to even when I was in New Zealand for work.
Fathers need to stand together and take this to capitol hill.
Tom, I'm going through a similar hell, except I'm up against not only her, but another man in the house I was raised in plus our oldest son who's also partaken in turning his younger brother against me. She's asking the court to deny me all parenting time and if any, that it be supervised visitation as though I were a child molester. I agree dads should get organized. Where do you want to start?
I've just hung up the phone from talking to my 30 year old son (yes 30) - who is still exhibiting terrible symptoms created by PAS by a parent who was only interested in finding ways to inflict maximum hurt on me for daring to leave (for good reason) by hurting the children. Tom, don't give up. I know it's like putting your hand straight into the flames for every gesture you make but keep repeating "I love you, I love you always" and getting that message to your children.
There are too many vindictive parents using innocent children as pawns. PAS shouldn't be a gender-bashing thing as both sexes are capable of it. It should be about stopping it for the sake of the children, Messed up children most often grow up to be messed up adults.
Don't give up on your children Tom. I wish you well.
I can really identify with your message - been there, done that, got the t-shirt! I won joint custody of my 3 boys. I now see two of them very regularly. It was a long, expensive but worthwhile process. Sadly, I haven't seen my beloved middle son for 5 years. I miss him terribly but I just gotta try to keep myself well and focus on being the best Dad I can for the 2 boys that visit me. I dream about my boy every night.
Well, the habit in the UK is the Freemason father's telling their kid's that their mother's don't love them if they won't have sex with them, and I got proof too!
Tom, just got out of court, and U had a huge headache just from looking at the devil for few hours. These bitches are SATAN!!! This may not sound like me, but i"m contemplating giving up the kids in order to cut all ties with this evil creature. I sure will miss them for the rest of my life. We Shall organize!! I"m in!!!! Are you good with raising money?
Hey bro, NEVER , EVER give up your kids!!!! Fight the bitch the whole way!!!!! THEY will know the difference when they get older!!! I have experienced it!! Trust me. I know things are bad right now for men, but NEVER give up! Your kids WILL love you for being STRONGER than the evil bitch that is taking advantage of the out-of-balanced family court system. Much luck to you. Your bro, FYTH
Hello Tom, I know exactly how you feel. My ex left me, took our 4 children and married my sister's husband. The last time I saw my twin boys they were 6 years old, they will be 16 this July. I ran myself broke trying for contempt charges. January 2008 I was declared legally blind, progressive and permanent. Unfortunately there is not one judge or attorney in this town that gives a damn about fathers rights. I fear my vision will be completely gone before I see them again. God Bless & prayers.
My name is Lindsey Dean Walsh from McMinnville Oregon. I know exactly what you mean and how you feel, Tom. I have two sons whom i have not seen for over 8 months! I have loved them since conception and invested in them since birth. The accusations railed at me and the judge's orders are the same as you described, which i have come to learn are quite conveniently a part of the bureaucracy of the women and children agencies and family court industry. Fathers DO need to unite! Hang in there, Tom!
I feel for you mate. I'm curently experiencing the early stages of parental alienation. I've had 31 contact orders and won my case in March 08. Contact was going well until late November and then all of a sudden my daughter doesn't want to come and stay with me any more. I managed to get her for a few days over xmas but not seen her since. Her mum just phones up and says she doesnt want to come. She feels I now have too much access and her way of getting that cut back is through my daughter
Heartbreaking video, Tom... Respect for trying to make people aware of this huge problem. It´s not merely occuring in the US, as you pointed out yourself. In the Netherlands we have the same `gaps` in the system that allow this kind of abuse to just happen. It´s maddening to see the suffering of both the alianated partent and the child(ren), knowing that there is so little that can be done.
Although I'm not in contact with my daughter I am actually in contact with her school.
Here in the UK having parental responsibility gives me access to my daughter's medical records & her education, & I'm taking full advantage of it by ensuring the school provides my daughter with counselling.
It's a fact that children effected by PAS suffer from low self-esteem, lack confidence etc.. which is detrimental to both their education & their ability to form relationships later on in life.
My daughter's situation is a little more serious. Not only is PAS a factor, but her mental health has suffered severely.
When I was in contact with my daughter she suffered from severe anxiety and frequently broke down in tears. She was very wary of me, scared even.
I suspect there has been an emotional form of 'Maunchausen Syndrome by Proxy', but because she has no physical injuries the authorities will do nothing as psychological reports are very costly.
Being in a similar situation as yours, I posted a comment earlier because i have noticed authorities have legitimized something known as the "Lucifer Effect". It is a horrible situation and all a person can do is try to shake off the effects and file for reasonable parenting time again and again till you can file for a change of custody.
Hi guys! Just want to say I'm still around, but depression has been kicken my butt as of late.
Another video is in the works. It's been tough not knowing the welfare of my children...2 and 1/2 years now and no contact whatsoever from them or my ex. Oh, but i do hear from her attorney! How nice.
Attorneys are leeches, scum of the earth who profit from other people's misfortunes & misery.
They purposely fuel the fire just to prolong & exacerbate the conflict so they can earn as much money as they can from you.
They have no conscience or morals, but only an ambition to become the most wealthiest & successful Attorneys available, regardless of how many the lives they assist in wrecking.
From Melbourne Australia - in the last year I've only seem my 14 yr old son once for and hour - 9 months ago. he claims his father doesnt love him, I feel for you... will see how far she's prepared to go to keep them from me... Take it easy there...!
I am in a similar situation. I realized the problem may actually be that authorities are legitimizing a situation where a person with sadistic tendencies is allowed to harass and alienate another parent. Dr Philip Zimbardo who specialized in studying this "Lucifer Effect" noted it affected about 2/3 of the people. So the problem may actually be authorities who legitimize a spouse who in turn legitimizes children to treat the other parent badly. Legislators need to make reforms..write!
my brother you are not alone this is wrong and we will not allow them to do this to our sons. please help me to do this. I have a plan to make the world a better place for our children. deadbeat is to father as nigger is to citizen. no dehumanizing derogatory dogma should be used by any thinking person. peace be with you.
I live in the UK and its the same old story over here. If you have testicles you have no rights over you kids lives.
I have taken my ex to court at great financial expense to me £3500 to be exact and it hasnt got me very far.
I am resigned to the fact that this woman can make any allegation against me and everyone will believe her. Everyone in her family and her lawyer i mean, The lawyers love it because it means a lot of money for them for doing very little.
I'm Charles Wright from Michigan living in Washtenaw County. I feel and live your pain. Look up Stephen Baskerville video on YouTube. Believe me I know your pain and how you feel.
I was working on my blackjack game in vegas in 2003 when out of nowhere my ex-wife shows up with my daughter and says "you want to see him, there he is" and snatched her by the arm and left. I have 150k in chips in front of me, I can't leave or I'll get fired. I've called, sent letters, etc. They have moved back to Ill. I've given up, the only reason I am here now is to spread the word of my Savior; Lord Jesus Christ! I'm numb and dead on the inside! Have not seen Ryan & Victoria in 4 yrs. David
The worst part is the people that involve themselves an encourage the mother to alienate the father. I think these women that involve themselves are despicable.
I was trying to think of yet something else I can do to see my son and found your video. It's been three years for me. When I get enough nerve, I'll try this too. You'll be in my prayers from now on and I truly hope your son sees your video. Thanks for the idea!
I was trying to think of yet something else I can do to see my son and found your video. It's been three years for me. When I get enough nerve, I'll try this too. You'll be in my prayers from now on and I truly hope your son sees your video. Thanks for the idea!
dear sir,I thought you were me,and it was hard for me to see the rest of your video.I have not seen my son in 8 years.the last time I saw him he told me "I dont have to listen to you anymore, because mommy says your a bad daddy". he is 14 teen now.thank you!
Again...being male or female is redundant. BPD or any other psychological disorder thats either male or female predominately is redundant. Parental alienation syndrome is REAL...it exists be it woman or man...Its child abuse in the highest form. Our courts and society in general need to wake up and be cognizant to this form of child and parental abuse.
I'm filing my second contempt order. I drive 3 hours to the meetup and no one is there. It feels like they don't believe me. She has every excuse in the book. The court does nothing but give her a warning. I fear every time I go back to court they are going to throw me in jail and not her. I think there are higher powers at work here. Powers that don't want fathers in the family.
just wondering if you have had any joy with regards to seeing your son?
Its been almost 9 months since I had any 'full' contact with my children so I know how you feel, the Family Court system is the same on the UK, seems we have no rights at all.
Family Court systems are in a serious mess all around the world.
I am from Singapore and we definitely have this same PAS problem in our country. But sadly it is being swept under the carpet, probably due to the existence of this Woman's Chartered thing which is set up to protect the woman's rights.
Tom, I applaud your courage and never-ending love for your boy. I miss my son very much too.
And kid, if you are reading this, do contact your dad, he truly misses you.
Don't get confused....this isn't about men verses women. There are many of us women out there feeling and experiencing THAT which you are talking about. Man , Woman or Alien is indifferent this syndrome exists to many of us regardless of sexual orientation...hate is hate and it happens to us both.
My ex tells my kids even my 17 year old that I dont pay support. I have my w2 my year to date pay stub 7k per year. I had to show my daughter this, she was devastated.
I am a victim of parental alienation. My children used to love me, their dad. When my youngest 10 year old wasn't allowed to come to my mom her grandmoms funeral or attend with the family afterward I went to the courts. She also coudn't come to daddys daughter at work day, spring vacation and on my actual visitation day. The courts here in Lewiston Maine did nothing. My daughters now dont want to visit anymore. Thanks so mch for this video dyross55 parental alienation day april 25 unnoticed!
Tom , this is Pierre Pullins from Indianapolis, Indiana. A judge actually destroyed my court file and made a false entry into my court case, I ran for congress and continue to come in dead last behind anti semites and one guy that even quit the race. They've resorted to election fraud to keep me quiet. So now I am on youtube. I also have a myspace page.
Tom .. I feel your pain so much. I've been alientated from my children for over 1 year now also. I call repeatedly and only get voicemail also. My ex has them so scared and confused my children don't even call on Father's Day, My Birthday, or Christmas. Yeah, I've been back to court too. Only the attorneys win there. I love my children like you do yours. I miss them so much. Tom, thanks for posting this video clip. I shall pray for you Tom, and if you think of it, pray for my children 2
My X has slowly cut off any communication I have with the kids but I do see them every two weeks and we have a great time together. I make sure to rise above the madness so my kids will see the difference. The kids will realize one day what has happened and it will backfire on my X. I just keep being there for them and loving them. Just got back last weekend from a good trip to the smokies and my X cannot take that away. She does find something to complain about after every visit(sound familiar?
Tom, I won custody of my children after proving my X was alienating my children and had them for about 4yrs until a judge gave us joint custody. In those 4yrs my X had me investigated 11 times by social services and ran off with the kids out of state and was arrested. She had to be supervised twice yet last Nov a judge let the kids go live with her. They are 13 and 11 now and I am thankful for the years I had. I think I built a strong enough relationship that she can't fully alienate them.......
For 10 years, I've had to compete with a stay at home step mother who has ample time and money to spend on my boys while at the same time tells my kids what a bad parent I am. She became head of my kids PTA, volunteered at their school, ect, trips to Floriday,nice clothes, toys ect, as I struggled to work full time and just make house payments(making much less than my ex.)
Now as teens, the boys are attracted to the money. Per her, I"m poor, unorganized and too many rules!
I also am one of the Dad's you speak of and I am a Patrol sergeant for a small Police Dept. here in Arkansas. my Ex has a boyfriend who smokes marijuana in their home and my kids complained and child services remove them from the home and Judge Barbara Halsy returns them because.."at this point in their life I don't want them to have to change schools". they are 15 & 12. now I barely even see them at all.. " REAL JUSTICE"...
Remember guys, men can be alienators too. Let's not make this about sex, its really about narcissism. Their court documents are full of lies and purgery. They keep you from knowing whats going on with doctors and school for a reason. They wanna nail ya, while aligning professionals against you.
My heart goes out to you. I have been dealing with the same for 10 years now. I have 4 kids. They are great kids. I miss them terribly. Their mom has a mission to destroy my relationship with them. She obsessed with keeping me contained. She even married her divorce lawyer to matters horrific. I am worn out and torn. I am a good father and a good person...but mom cant get over hating me and teaching my children to do the same. I feel your pain. Beautiful video of your son.
A mother,10-year old son. Brutally taken from me after 9.5 years. His father actually alientated himself after his third marriage. Then in Aug 2005 he got the local school/my family/my friends/neighbors and anyone else who would listen by telling lies about me. B/C it is easier to believe a lie than the truth. He just did not want to pay the $50K in arrears. My own family helped my ex brain wash my son. This is happening every where across our nation.
Hi, I am not a dad, I am a mom and my ex has done this too, with 2 of my children. I have not seen my eldest son since 12 August 2005, my youngest daughter I did not see for almost 2 years. Contact begun in April this year with the help of the amily Courts and with the help of the family Courts I have not seen my daughter since 27th September 2007. I feel your pain and sorry for any parent experiencing this. It happens to mums too!!!
A mother,10-year old son. Brutally taken from me after 9.5 years. His father actually alientated himself after his third marriage. Then in Aug 2005 he got the local school/my family/my friends/neighbors and anyone else who would listen by telling lies about me. B/C it is easier to believe a lie than the truth. He just did not want to pay the $50K in arrears. My own family helped my ex brain wash my son. This is happening every where across our nation.
Around 88 percent of marriages fail. 72 percent involves marriages with children. Is there something wrong with our legal system? We all have equal rights don't we. I too feel like a prisoner after a custody battle. Like I live in a free country unable to spend fair amount of time or money for my son. Elimnate child support and watch those numbers drop. I wish I could leave my wife, have physical custody of my son, and make her pay for him as well. But I am not that spiteful.
My husband's ex-wife does this. The mother can play us in the court "I can't work - I have to babysit my daughter with special needs every minute of the day." Guess what? When she was at our house she was totally independent. She ignores us and stays on the internet to talk to the mom about how evil my husband is.
My husband's ex-wife does this. The mother can play us in the court "I can't work - I have to babysit my daughter with special needs every minute of the day." Guess what? When she was at our house she was totally independent. She ignores us and stays on the internet to talk to the mom about how evil my husband is.
We DO romanticize the role and mother and DENIGRATE the role of father in the USA and we need more balance.
I am one of the bad Dad's that you speak of in your video. I made the mistake of going to court because my kids told me they were being abused. I now have no visitation rights...
why is there no organization of men who stand up against this nonsense. i have been through the same thing. these women are totaly out of control and they are NOT benign AT ALL!!
My husband (formerly alienated parent) and I (his former alienator) want to tell you that there is hope! We were divorced for 16 years and we remarried 3 years ago. My husband decided to fight more for the sake of he and the children and ended up winning me back, additionally.
sad reality. I am prepared to endure this but I have a son and one day he will have a family. I wouldn't want this for when my kids when they have kids.
sign my petition on 10 downing street to stop this parental alienation cant post an email on here just key in 10 downing st epetitions then parental alienation thankyou
its emotional..its expensive...its time consuming...just remember happiness comes from within and so does anger..its never hopeless..never give up...your day is right around the corner...your contentment is today...
True, all of it. But what Tom displays is anger that does not sway, justifiable as it might be. The alienating mother's alibi is the 'protection'of the children whom she uses as tools of her hatred and as agents of their own deprivation. It is like having the fox protect the chickens. Alienation is a HATE crime, the fact that it happens within the home does not make it any less hideous than hate graffiti at a temple's wall.
You must know that from far away in Sudan you have my support; and I understand how you feel. Never give up, no matter what it takes. Remember that your children are victims and need to be rescued --by you and by no one else. Just persevere. Never Never give up. I have expereince. I decided to never give up and now I have my daughter with me. My ex will not be able to heal and is doomed, I am told, to suffer from this mental illness PAS.
Tom, I understand you on so many levels. I'm an unwed father and struggled to even get my name on my daughter's birth certificate. You are not alone. Have strength, because you are not fighting this alone.
I am a mother who's child was alienated by my child's father 20 years ago. I have suffered tremendously because of what that man did and continues to do. My son suffers as well. It isn't always the mother / ex wife that does the alienating...I wish people could understand this and digest that fact wholly.
I do feel sympathy for anyone who has lost a child this way, whether mother or father. It's never right and always despicable.
Keep your head up. I've been right there in your shoes. Don't give up. One day a judge who has been in your shoes may be the one to hear your case and the tides may turn. If not, then when the kids are older they'll find you and you'll have proof (paper trail) that shows you never gave up on them. At that point, your bond will be stronger than ever with them.
I haven't seen my daughter for 6 months because my ex-wife is in contempt of court and evading the visits but I have to wait until July for my next court date.
I will be posting the last visit with my daughter without video but we video taped the entire day wonderful time and at the end of the day waiting in her mom's parking lot she told me "Mom says if I go with you three times in a row she will SELL MY BED & MY TOYS"
My ex-wife was in the same situation as a child with her father
PAS is not recognized by Texas state law. Xerox determined it took 7 positive comments to offset 1 negative comment. In my case, one parent makes comments like "if your Dad/Mom loved you they would be here with you instead of working". It is difficult for a young child or even a teenager to make sound logical conclusions but courts allow children to have an input to where they want to live at such a young and impressionable age when they can be "bought" with lax discipline.
Thanks for writing back man.. it means alot. Trust me even tho i was being alienated i still had myy other parent in mid. It was the conciquence i had to deal with when i did talk to my other parent. Your child(ren) might be wanting to see and talk to you just restricted until an older age.
Hey man! i watched your video! very touchy....im 19 year old male that is doing a project at a highschool level. My project explores the vast diversitys of PAS and ways you can help it and how it effects the children. I plan to use your video as an example in my Anthropology Class. My sister and I just recently went through PAS. She is still involved since i had moved out and made my own opinions about each parent. I wish best of luck with you and your family.
High School class. Maybe I should have dressed better for the video :)
Hearing you say you drew your own conclusions AFTER you moved out tells much about how just one parent can have so much influence in allienating a child from the other parent. Scary stuff. I pray I don't have to wait that long on my own kids. Thank you.
Your nnot alone mate, I know your pain, I haven't seen my children for over 4 years. I've stopped counting. I love my children. Last time I saw them they said they love me. The profiteers of family courts must be exposed for exactly what they are. We must raise our voices and raise the bar. Our children will carry on knowing what we have done against incredible ignorant opposition. Keep posting mate, don't give up. You are a great father. I thank you for being part of the solution.
Study Martin Luther King and Ghandi. Lets peacefully join together and resist. We have a responsibility to obey just laws and court orders and an equal responsibility to disobey unjust laws and court orders.
I know exactly what you going through - just due to the reasob that i'm going through exactly the same with my son. Up to today I haven't seen him for 1,5 year. I'm missing him so much!!!!
MiataLasse 4 months ago
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Now If a "CHILD" or That "PARENT(s)" broke the law before the AGE OF 21 of parenting their child(rens) In NYC.
Such as- OVERSEEING- on that CHILD, By Getting Married to their babydaddy(s) ASAP.,Working on the Books, Graduating, and even Joining the US forces.
Shouldn't get any SUPPORT, from Welfare, Section 8, SSI,Medicade nor from the Goverment.
PAY YOUR TAXES!! - these sick peasants - Are as ILLEGAL as anything else.
IF I'M BREACKING THE LAW, BY HAVING ONE CHILD.... FUCK YOU.
smrfr 5 months ago
TOM, MUCH RESPECT TO YOU.
smrfr 6 months ago
IT'S NOT FAIR ??
TELL THAT TO THE HARD WORKING PEOPLE.
MR.PRESIDENT
I'M NOT TALKING ABOUT, THE PEOPLE ON WELFARE, ILLEGALS,PRISONERS, HARD TIME "CHILD SUPPORT" ON THE INNOCENTS, WHICH THEIR ARE NOT THE FATHER(S)
YOU DON'T KNOW NOTHING, ABOUT THE HARD WORKING PEOPLE.
I KNOW, AFTER THIS POST TURKEY MESSAGE YOU WILL FORGET!!!
WHO IS A HARD WORKING AMERICAN.
IT WAS ALWAYS THE POOR!!!
AMEN.
smrfr 6 months ago
Hi Tom, I'm with you buddy. I am setting up a video also. I havent seen my daughter for 3 months.
Her mother has accused me of everything you have been accused of.
It is really pathetic. She ran into some money and has wealthy parents and is trying to drain me in the courts.
Me and my daughter has/ had a very tight bond and her mother resented it. I wish you luck.
DWMCMILLION 6 months ago
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Most attorneys & women's supporters advise moms to make False Abuse Allegations as normal, primary means to win custody & divorce, winner takes all. 3/4 of divorced DADS in my area experience false allegations PLUS parental alienation.
Most parental alienation accompanies HER false allegations resulting in mothers having sole custody with most dads alienated from their kids.
Most GAL's & other court hangers-on support the rot lest they lose their seat at this banquet on children's flesh.
addvoc8 7 months ago
Tom...a secret weapon for you to use is tithe. Believe it or not this principal defined in Malachi 3 and Proverbs 3 is an amazing advantage, miracles come out of the woodwork when you simply give God the 1st 10% out of your check, calculate it carefully, and personally take it into the house of God. i know this is a heavy insight for you...but God guarantees it...hope you try it, it never fails. Check it out.
slonis001 7 months ago
Hey Tom -
Saw your vid, can't tell you how bad I feel for you. I know EXACT what you're going through.. I'd never heard the term parental alienation before tonight. I'm writing about my own experiences but I call it "parental terrorism" instead. You're not the only guy dealing with this. I'll have more on my blog soon at ptdn.org or you can find me on facebook under FatherFightsBack. I hope to hear from you either way - good luck and keep the faith
AFatherFightsBack 7 months ago
Those kind of "MOTHERS" are scumbags they abused their own children. She destroyed the children and she is starting to understand the damage she did. She is a jealous person that destroys her own children so they won't get better then her worthless self. keep your head up I haven't seen my kids in 15 years I think my 16 year old daughter is pregnant and my 19 year old son want to fight and rob me. I guess they turned out pretty good with their mother.
johnjacob771 9 months ago
Hey Tom, How you making out Now??
Rexler54 10 months ago
Hi Tom...
Fuck that, your ex is a bitch and you have every right to bemad..I am a woman /mother saying this. You have just as much as a parental right as she does. I hope one day you find the happiness you deserve, and know this, one day your kids will know the truth...and moving on is not the way to go either, fight for you kids, every day....It will only benefit you in the end...FIGHT FOR YOUR KIDS!!!!
meshell1066 1 year ago
The only way to get past this is to move on with your life no matter how much you love the child. All your going to get from the child now is tight lips and a frown. The more you chase the child the more the child will run away from you because the child is so infected with the alienator's hate. The mindless family courts should require monthly appearances by the parties. This way the noncustodial parent doesn't have to appear like a sour grapes complainer. As an adult perhaps the child will see
goodoldrebel8 1 year ago
@goodoldrebel8 No offense, but moving on is not always the way to go, fighting for you children is the best thing to do, if my dad had fought for us, I may not have had the feelings I had for him before he died. And sometimes when the kids are adults and know what the truth is the alienated parent has passed away...do you have kids or have you been in this situation? Just wondering.
meshell1066 1 year ago
@meshell1066
I fought in court so much & got nowhere. Once the child is alienated its then up to the child to know how much her father cares about her. Like I said before, the more you chase the child the more the child will act like your furniture. I still blame the mindless family court system as it gives the alienator a way to eradicate the child's father from her life even if the child & the father had a healthy & loving relationship. I hope my child sees the light in adulthood.
goodoldrebel8 1 year ago
I commend you for this video. I have been alienated for about 6 years and I was a totally hands on father.
goodoldrebel8 1 year ago
Ohh God... Ohh God. We are in trouble over here. You said that You will not allow anything to come upon us that we cannot bear. We are long past that line. Did You recognized ?
w1e2s3s4 1 year ago
Ok it hurts and I acknowledge that , now it time to do something about this injustice.
The only reason this is done to us , because A we don't stand together B we don't use legal remedy to stop this bull shit C We don't get out and tell the world the truth .
Fact: Most court orders for child custody and child support are based on void orders. Go and file a collateral attack, get rid of the deal they gave us and make the corrupt biase court order something that is more respectful of us.
unclefixer 1 year ago
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Going through exactly what you are RIGHT NOW!
TheEternalBlade 1 year ago
Not to downgrade your situation or in any way detract from it, but here's a case of PAS that'll disgust you...I was legally filtered out of my kids' lives by way of totally unnecessary restraining and no-contact orders for 11 years (thank you Grant Co, IN for being so unbiased in court - NOT!). Mom is golden and doesn't have to prove any of her claims in court. Now that the truth about her is out, she has abandoned the kids and ran off with a new boyfriend...Golden, truly golden. Phooey
guitard00d 1 year ago
Hello Tom.
You and I might as well be brothers. The street you walk through is named the same as mine.
I concur with you.
The whole father's have the same rights as women is more than farcical.
I'm sorry for your pain.
I have felt it today, not just yours but mine as well.
Terrible.
mpesik 1 year ago
I am a dad, and i will stick with you ! Pas causes more pain then we will ever feel in are lives again !!! I am looking for help ! Let's build an army, so we can influence the political and legal systems, to restore are rights as fathers !
84631978 1 year ago
tom ,me 2 ,i got 3 girls ,my eldest 12 hates me and doesnt want 2 see me anymore,she was a daddies girl and yes as u know it hurts like hell,its the worst pain ,im not saying im right in what im about 2 say but if i lose my other 2 children i would want them to know why they dont want 2 see me anymore and ,so i will be sending them an email with a link(or maybe letter or facebook as my 10 year old has an account ,not my idea i might add that was the mothers),to hostile aggressive parenting
thataldo1969 1 year ago
Here is what is going to happen: When your children are teens, they will start developing problems with their mothers. That is the nature of things. Then, suddenly, this same child will start accusing his/her mother of being a nutcase, crazy, abuser...etc. This would be your time to take matters into court and get custody of the children. If your 12-13 year old child tells you that he/she wants to stay with you not with mother, this would be the time. Your ex's house of cards will collapse.
alfalfafalafelmafia 1 year ago
my husband has to go through the same reality. my poor husband and his daughters have had to deal with the same thing! its disgusting and cruel! if these women didnt want a dad around they should have gone to the sperm clinic. why did they chose to have children with such Evil Men! women wake up! You not only hurt the ex you hurt the children even more! i would never do that to my son!
RewardHerDouble 1 year ago
I am sorry. I don't know what state you are in. But I would file for sole custody on the basis that your ex is not doing what is in the best interest of her child since she has repeatedly violated the court orders.
crystales1 1 year ago
Going through the same thing
SacredSocietyAP 1 year ago
Good luck Tom. I'm in yr 2 of a battle Florida. Both children are under ten. I have met several Dads with various PAS stories of different degrees. PAS needs to be recognoized as a form of Child abuse. In Florida the Department of Children and Families has a long way to go with limited rescorces to attack this issue.. Sign me up on the petition that will get this form of abuse recognized!!!
djones1379cleo 1 year ago
Feel your Pain as a grandpa seeing my son clearly the better parent and the family court system in Travis County, Texas just clearly ignoring relevant facts regarding the mom's criminal record and bizarre behaviors and still siding with the sociopath mom over a model father. I hope since you made this video you have been able to rebuild a relationship with your son. Thanks for sharing. Until men get the testicle fortitude to keep fighting these activist judges. The song remains the same.
texcaldel 1 year ago
It doesn't just happen to dads
meyersonfire 2 years ago
It happens to dads in the majority of cases, but only because women are almost certain to be the primary custody parent.
Infiltrator2K 1 year ago
Hi Tom, i am having the same problems and i hear that it doesn't matter if you live in the states or in the Netherlands like i do. I think the system in the whole world should change. It should be be punished in some way.... My thoughts are with you even if we live thousands of miles from echother.
Dariusz
darekenmelissa1 2 years ago
I feel you Partner. Nice video.
greypond1 2 years ago
Nice video. I can feel your pain. I hope things are better now.
selimekim 2 years ago
Tom, I am a man who is going thru a very long and protracted custody battle over my child. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I have seen signs within my child behavior to indicate PAS. However, I (like you was given joint legal custody) and the mother was given sole phyiscal custody have little or no impact to what the mother is doing to my child. NEVER GIVE UP!!
celrock123 2 years ago
Tom, I can see the pain and hopelessness you're feeling in this video. I know how hard it is to put it in words when you've had such an emotional trauma inflicted on you. When children are used as tools or weapons of revenge and anger it is so tragic it becomes hard to bear. All we want to do is be good dads! You'd think from all the hype about the need for fathers in their children's lives we'd get better support. I'm in your shoes and I feel like a kidnap victim. One victory is to keep trying.
CarlAnthonyTV 2 years ago
men are too busy fighting eachother to be organized. now women can seperate men further by not letting dads raise their sons into "dad and son" concerns. no more patrilineal family name. total collapse of civlized order
iorixs 2 years ago
Hi Tom,
Thanks for your video ! I'm in the same situation & it was super 2 see that I'm not alone !
All the best for you & hope that your son will get 2 know you !
All the best from Belguim (Antwerp)
vitasyordi 2 years ago
Tom, I am with you in spirit along with everyone going through this evil sndrome. As we all know it severely attacks ones inner soul. It can keep you down.. If you let it ... it will take away your soul, your purpose and meaning in life.
Our corrupt Domestic Law practice in this country needs to become cognizant of these offensive emotional crimes to the soul and create new legislation to deal with these offenders..
Italiangent1 2 years ago
I encourage all going through this that with faith in God on your side and willingness to take on a fight against evil, you will Win. Remember friend, there will be a point in time that your children will recognize this syndrome and they will think back to remember what did you do? fight or walk?
I wish to inspire all experiencing this deadly syndrome- by watching on you tube, enter
" Rocky Balboa Wisdom "
Truth will surface in time. God Bless you
Italiangent1 2 years ago
God did nothing to help my friend who was raped by the family courts and the money system
CounsellingQld 2 years ago
Nancy Manka from Oklahoma Parental Alienator! Child Abuser! Welfare Fraud. Ssi Fraud Theif! All has been proven nothing has been done. Where is the justice ??
justhonest32 2 years ago
go after him tom . take a few weeks off go this school with a lawyer . a friend a private investigator let him see you looking for him . get in touch with him someway now .
smkoufax 2 years ago
You are not alone! I have been dealing with this issue since 1996 and have not seen myson since 1999. Bless you and hang in there!
mcpea1 2 years ago
tom how are you?give us aN UPDATE
nordicthedog 2 years ago
Thank you for posting this video. Your boy is obviously happy with you, and be grateful that he is a handsome and healthy kid. I'm one of the many dads out there that appreciate the efforts you're making.
tical926 2 years ago
Very powerful video and I too am dealing with an obsessive mother who brainwashes my daughter and makes every accusation you can imagine in an attempt to remove my daughter from my life. Any update on what's happening with you Tom?
booooboooo2010 2 years ago
I hear you Tom. Its been 4 years since I last saw my 2 boys. I cant begin to tell you how I feel. I have tried to deal with it in many ways, fortunately I have a loving girlfriend with 2 daughters who see the real me. One thing I hold on is that our children will probably want to contact us. Be comforted in the knowledge that your children will (by that time) be fully aware of the mothers wrongdoings and the damage that she has caused them emotionally. Take care Tom, Be strong.
frostyziggy 2 years ago
TOM, I am going through this as well. I am dealing with an "extreme alienator". My heart is out to you and have watched your video a few times. It is exactly what I have been dealing with. All lies... I am fighting back and encourage you to for one reason.
This is the reason- chapter pertaining to how children will view us ten, fifteen years from today: Adult Children of Parental Alienation Syndrome: Breaking the Ties that Bind
Amy J. L. Baker
(this book is excellent)
Italiangent1 2 years ago
I know exactly what you are going through, as I have been going through a similar thing since 2000. Each year she decreases the time I have with my son and daughter. I saw them yesterday for several hours and we had a great time however, that was only the second time I have seen them in ten months - the phone rarely gets answered. I have not been able to find help anywhere.
bboxster1 2 years ago
Your children are smart. Post a short video every week. Make the videos to them. There are lots of people that can help you label the videos so that your children can find them. Your children will eventually search their names etc.
commanderbradick 2 years ago
My PAS started long before my separation from my wife 3 years ago. My wife abducted my 3 children for 5 month during 2007 and she abducted them again for 4 months in 2008. She has turned me into child protective service about 10 times in the past 2 years.
I have watched your video about 20 times since my separation. I am in tears each time I watch it.
Call your son every day.
Write to your son everyday.
Be creative. Sent cards to your son and address them to his school.
commanderbradick 2 years ago
Hi Tom, I know what you are going through. It's been 11 years since I've seen my two daughters, and recently I was able to bring my son here, but he doesn't want to have anything to do with me. What makes this so very difficult that all three of my children were adopted, and they where so very young during the divorce. I really miss being my my childrens lives, but the ex made sure that I wouldn't play any part in their growing up years. She moved so far away. I love my children so much,
guitarrick57 2 years ago
I shared with you my video I made for my daughter, it was my way of reaching out to her. I too have anger for what has happened when you raise a child for 16 years then have them ripped away with warning it is not only shocking and horrific it is also very much something you are not prepared to deal with. I have used the past year + to research the topic, the laws and the solutions so that I can hopefully make some sort of repair for the wrongs done. What more can we do??
truewiccanbabe 2 years ago
Hi Tom
I want to first say I am so sorry and it is true your son will know the truth one day perhaps already does and I know these words will not make you feel better but remember your day will come to be reunited with your son and everyone gets what they deserve in life .. I feel your doing the right thing call everyday your son might just pick up the phone and also with you recording on here well he may even happen to come across you :) god bless you and your son
cocaaaacolaaaa 2 years ago
Hi Tom,
I want to say I truly sympathize with your plight, my only objection to your video being that you appear to have allowed your anger & hurt to affect your view of women in general. Viewing women to be deeming all men bad etc very much stereotypes all women in the sane way you say are stating women view men. I feel your pain, trust me I do, I too live with PAS,it differs in the fact that I'm a woman living this, not all Mom's are evil...Don't allow your pain to create hatred in your mind.
truewiccanbabe 2 years ago
You make a valid point. It was anger and hurt that motivated me to post the video in the first place. I had to express it somehow. With so many father's in the same boat as myself, I suppose it's easy to generalize.
But know this, women are a good thing, my psycho-ex is just a poor example :)
Dyros55 2 years ago
Bravo! That is great, to be able to admit a mistake instead of denying it! Great video and I hope you will reunite with your son soon!
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machiavelli888 11 months ago
my boyfgriend his going threw the same thing it is awfull .For the life of me i canoot undersrand what posses a human being to create such suffering
misteeq64 2 years ago
I am going through same thing, but mine has gone on for 20 years and has got to much momentum to stop it...it has destroyed my relationship with my kids, my family and extended family....
Eventually, you have to let go....
johnsampson03 2 years ago
20 YEARS ???????? you mean to tell me even in adulthood this continues ??????
misteeq64 2 years ago
yes, it has too much momentum to stop it and is too underfined with no real context. They are talking about it now in general...but it has manifested itself so bad, that my kids don't even need my ex wife and carry it on by themselves, which please my ex wife and her partner who also gets involved and does his share of stirring lies and hate.
johnsampson03 2 years ago
Buddy I'm here for you... i'm going through a terrible divorce right now and she is alienating me from my daughter who is 10 months old... I fear for my child. I really feel you I'm almost in tears right now. You are so right we DON'T stick together and we are all on our own...
aPlagueOnSociety 2 years ago
you aren't alone, by far
saturateu 2 years ago
Tom,
I have not seen my son in nine years.He was twenty when I saw him last--in court, when a permanent restraining order was issued. The courtroom erupted in cheers- the victory cries of feminists who had just succeeded in separating my son from me forever. Not one of them even knew me. I wrote articles in Men's News Daily for a time.Several years ago, I had to stop because the pain was so overwhelming. My best to all men who must endure this terrible and deeply lonely affliction.
madddog1323 2 years ago
This brought tears to my eyes....how terrible this is for you. God bless....your kids will know the truth one day,cant hide the truth forever.
mala265 2 years ago
This woman told me, that a lawyer advised her to get her husband to hit her and she will get the house until they settle, she wanted out but didnt have anywhere to go.
Many stories that just make me sick, we all heard lots of these. Discrimination in the family courts towards males is the only legal discrimination.
jiszo69 2 years ago
Free lawyers, houses, money, support, guys are told get a lawyer, most go bankrupted over difficult divorces. SELF REPUTION! Learnt it. If you want your kids to at least know you tried you will be in court for over a decade.
You will run out of money.
jiszo69 2 years ago
He doesnt so the lies come out, because its hard to sneak around without being caught, you know the other guys she is trying to win over, sex. Remember the reputation for some is everything.
She feels dirty when youre around, even the bad ones have a conscience. They dont, want anyone one to like you, so the alienation starts not just with the kids, but anyone who will listen, they have all the time in the world, cant work, wont get all the free stuff.
jiszo69 2 years ago
I know it pal, I sometimes wonder what the hell is going on. A woman gets bored of her mate. So some people think there reputation is more important than others lives. The woman makes is very difficult for the guy so he goes away.
jiszo69 2 years ago
Tom,
I feel your pain. I went from 50/50 joint physical/legal custody to 0 physical/50 legal. on my birthday 06-05 this year i got a new order. NO telephonic communication for me or anyone in my family (grandparents, uncle, God parents). Insight my ex wife works for the 2nd largest LAW firm in North America. I had no fighting chance. Oh everything you did stalking...etc... I did that to even when I was in New Zealand for work.
Fathers need to stand together and take this to capitol hill.
craziedscot 2 years ago
Tom, I'm going through a similar hell, except I'm up against not only her, but another man in the house I was raised in plus our oldest son who's also partaken in turning his younger brother against me. She's asking the court to deny me all parenting time and if any, that it be supervised visitation as though I were a child molester. I agree dads should get organized. Where do you want to start?
Thanks for the video. Good luck
Joe
celaya101mtz 2 years ago
hang on Tom how are you doing, well done. fight this abuse
PASCRAA 2 years ago
Hello Tom,
I've just hung up the phone from talking to my 30 year old son (yes 30) - who is still exhibiting terrible symptoms created by PAS by a parent who was only interested in finding ways to inflict maximum hurt on me for daring to leave (for good reason) by hurting the children. Tom, don't give up. I know it's like putting your hand straight into the flames for every gesture you make but keep repeating "I love you, I love you always" and getting that message to your children.
staleywise 2 years ago
There are too many vindictive parents using innocent children as pawns. PAS shouldn't be a gender-bashing thing as both sexes are capable of it. It should be about stopping it for the sake of the children, Messed up children most often grow up to be messed up adults.
Don't give up on your children Tom. I wish you well.
justsomefellow2 2 years ago
Hi Tom
ontariovader 2 years ago
I can really identify with your message - been there, done that, got the t-shirt! I won joint custody of my 3 boys. I now see two of them very regularly. It was a long, expensive but worthwhile process. Sadly, I haven't seen my beloved middle son for 5 years. I miss him terribly but I just gotta try to keep myself well and focus on being the best Dad I can for the 2 boys that visit me. I dream about my boy every night.
avonali 2 years ago
Well, the habit in the UK is the Freemason father's telling their kid's that their mother's don't love them if they won't have sex with them, and I got proof too!
KaOssis 3 years ago
Tom, just got out of court, and U had a huge headache just from looking at the devil for few hours. These bitches are SATAN!!! This may not sound like me, but i"m contemplating giving up the kids in order to cut all ties with this evil creature. I sure will miss them for the rest of my life. We Shall organize!! I"m in!!!! Are you good with raising money?
martysoffice 3 years ago
Hey bro, NEVER , EVER give up your kids!!!! Fight the bitch the whole way!!!!! THEY will know the difference when they get older!!! I have experienced it!! Trust me. I know things are bad right now for men, but NEVER give up! Your kids WILL love you for being STRONGER than the evil bitch that is taking advantage of the out-of-balanced family court system. Much luck to you. Your bro, FYTH
foryoutohear 2 years ago
your too funny... but wait... how come you don't have court enforced visitation?
martysoffice 3 years ago
I"m with you brother..
martysoffice 3 years ago
Hello Tom, I know exactly how you feel. My ex left me, took our 4 children and married my sister's husband. The last time I saw my twin boys they were 6 years old, they will be 16 this July. I ran myself broke trying for contempt charges. January 2008 I was declared legally blind, progressive and permanent. Unfortunately there is not one judge or attorney in this town that gives a damn about fathers rights. I fear my vision will be completely gone before I see them again. God Bless & prayers.
z9galpha 3 years ago
My name is Lindsey Dean Walsh from McMinnville Oregon. I know exactly what you mean and how you feel, Tom. I have two sons whom i have not seen for over 8 months! I have loved them since conception and invested in them since birth. The accusations railed at me and the judge's orders are the same as you described, which i have come to learn are quite conveniently a part of the bureaucracy of the women and children agencies and family court industry. Fathers DO need to unite! Hang in there, Tom!
lindseydwalsh 3 years ago
I feel for you mate. I'm curently experiencing the early stages of parental alienation. I've had 31 contact orders and won my case in March 08. Contact was going well until late November and then all of a sudden my daughter doesn't want to come and stay with me any more. I managed to get her for a few days over xmas but not seen her since. Her mum just phones up and says she doesnt want to come. She feels I now have too much access and her way of getting that cut back is through my daughter
dan25london 3 years ago
Heartbreaking video, Tom... Respect for trying to make people aware of this huge problem. It´s not merely occuring in the US, as you pointed out yourself. In the Netherlands we have the same `gaps` in the system that allow this kind of abuse to just happen. It´s maddening to see the suffering of both the alianated partent and the child(ren), knowing that there is so little that can be done.
Soof70 3 years ago
Tom, Yes there are other fathers out there. And we do know exactly what you mean.
Join the face book group - "fathers for justice uk!!!" -- it says uk, but the issues are the same.
It's a very sad situation we are in as a society when children are being deprived of their parents.
You clearly love your son, and should be allowed to see him.
Best wishes, Richard
born2question 3 years ago
Although I'm not in contact with my daughter I am actually in contact with her school.
Here in the UK having parental responsibility gives me access to my daughter's medical records & her education, & I'm taking full advantage of it by ensuring the school provides my daughter with counselling.
It's a fact that children effected by PAS suffer from low self-esteem, lack confidence etc.. which is detrimental to both their education & their ability to form relationships later on in life.
Infiltrator2K 3 years ago
(don't mind the gammer) Hello, i'm happy too see someone took the initatif too summen devorced fathers too combine there knoledge.
Well
The parental alienation syndrome, Columbia, 1985 Richard Gardner
Aaladin2008 3 years ago
My daughter's situation is a little more serious. Not only is PAS a factor, but her mental health has suffered severely.
When I was in contact with my daughter she suffered from severe anxiety and frequently broke down in tears. She was very wary of me, scared even.
I suspect there has been an emotional form of 'Maunchausen Syndrome by Proxy', but because she has no physical injuries the authorities will do nothing as psychological reports are very costly.
Infiltrator2K 3 years ago
Tom,
Being in a similar situation as yours, I posted a comment earlier because i have noticed authorities have legitimized something known as the "Lucifer Effect". It is a horrible situation and all a person can do is try to shake off the effects and file for reasonable parenting time again and again till you can file for a change of custody.
fedchairboy 3 years ago
Hi guys! Just want to say I'm still around, but depression has been kicken my butt as of late.
Another video is in the works. It's been tough not knowing the welfare of my children...2 and 1/2 years now and no contact whatsoever from them or my ex. Oh, but i do hear from her attorney! How nice.
Dyros55 3 years ago
Attorneys are leeches, scum of the earth who profit from other people's misfortunes & misery.
They purposely fuel the fire just to prolong & exacerbate the conflict so they can earn as much money as they can from you.
They have no conscience or morals, but only an ambition to become the most wealthiest & successful Attorneys available, regardless of how many the lives they assist in wrecking.
Infiltrator2K 3 years ago
If any one has doubted the authenticity of PAS, here's an actual video of 'Parental Alienation Syndrome' extending to family members:
watch?v=o-LrzYq1NP4
Infiltrator2K 3 years ago
Hi
From Melbourne Australia - in the last year I've only seem my 14 yr old son once for and hour - 9 months ago. he claims his father doesnt love him, I feel for you... will see how far she's prepared to go to keep them from me... Take it easy there...!
dave12113 3 years ago
Tom,
I am in a similar situation. I realized the problem may actually be that authorities are legitimizing a situation where a person with sadistic tendencies is allowed to harass and alienate another parent. Dr Philip Zimbardo who specialized in studying this "Lucifer Effect" noted it affected about 2/3 of the people. So the problem may actually be authorities who legitimize a spouse who in turn legitimizes children to treat the other parent badly. Legislators need to make reforms..write!
fedchairboy 3 years ago
my brother you are not alone this is wrong and we will not allow them to do this to our sons. please help me to do this. I have a plan to make the world a better place for our children. deadbeat is to father as nigger is to citizen. no dehumanizing derogatory dogma should be used by any thinking person. peace be with you.
jupitergimstruedad 3 years ago
Hello Tom
I live in the UK and its the same old story over here. If you have testicles you have no rights over you kids lives.
I have taken my ex to court at great financial expense to me £3500 to be exact and it hasnt got me very far.
I am resigned to the fact that this woman can make any allegation against me and everyone will believe her. Everyone in her family and her lawyer i mean, The lawyers love it because it means a lot of money for them for doing very little.
Good luck Tom.
DUmfk2 3 years ago
Hello Tom,
I'm Charles Wright from Michigan living in Washtenaw County. I feel and live your pain. Look up Stephen Baskerville video on YouTube. Believe me I know your pain and how you feel.
Take care brother
There is a WAR against fathers in America.
Charleswright001 3 years ago
How has it been going?
I am praying for you !! I am a mother who is
now a victim of this.
I also have the racial card !!! against me.
JJZeune 3 years ago
im a kid in the middle of this its hart breaking
alexeiissexy 3 years ago
I was working on my blackjack game in vegas in 2003 when out of nowhere my ex-wife shows up with my daughter and says "you want to see him, there he is" and snatched her by the arm and left. I have 150k in chips in front of me, I can't leave or I'll get fired. I've called, sent letters, etc. They have moved back to Ill. I've given up, the only reason I am here now is to spread the word of my Savior; Lord Jesus Christ! I'm numb and dead on the inside! Have not seen Ryan & Victoria in 4 yrs. David
jfk1830 3 years ago
I really never got to watch my children grow up. Just a couple of visits a couple of years ago and they love my X's x.
Me, they hate me. :>(
Twinhit 3 years ago
The worst part is the people that involve themselves an encourage the mother to alienate the father. I think these women that involve themselves are despicable.
hpuxrox 3 years ago
Tom,
I was trying to think of yet something else I can do to see my son and found your video. It's been three years for me. When I get enough nerve, I'll try this too. You'll be in my prayers from now on and I truly hope your son sees your video. Thanks for the idea!
natesmom4ever 3 years ago
Tom,
I was trying to think of yet something else I can do to see my son and found your video. It's been three years for me. When I get enough nerve, I'll try this too. You'll be in my prayers from now on and I truly hope your son sees your video. Thanks for the idea!
natesmom4ever 3 years ago
I'm scared to go to my exwifes house in fear of her false allegations. My money goes to the courts and I am constantly fighting court battles
pmolter 3 years ago
dear sir,I thought you were me,and it was hard for me to see the rest of your video.I have not seen my son in 8 years.the last time I saw him he told me "I dont have to listen to you anymore, because mommy says your a bad daddy". he is 14 teen now.thank you!
nordicthedog 3 years ago
Again...being male or female is redundant. BPD or any other psychological disorder thats either male or female predominately is redundant. Parental alienation syndrome is REAL...it exists be it woman or man...Its child abuse in the highest form. Our courts and society in general need to wake up and be cognizant to this form of child and parental abuse.
ShilohNative 3 years ago
I'm filing my second contempt order. I drive 3 hours to the meetup and no one is there. It feels like they don't believe me. She has every excuse in the book. The court does nothing but give her a warning. I fear every time I go back to court they are going to throw me in jail and not her. I think there are higher powers at work here. Powers that don't want fathers in the family.
hpuxrox 3 years ago
Hi Tom,
just wondering if you have had any joy with regards to seeing your son?
Its been almost 9 months since I had any 'full' contact with my children so I know how you feel, the Family Court system is the same on the UK, seems we have no rights at all.
With love
Alan
nlpsupport 3 years ago
Family Court systems are in a serious mess all around the world.
I am from Singapore and we definitely have this same PAS problem in our country. But sadly it is being swept under the carpet, probably due to the existence of this Woman's Chartered thing which is set up to protect the woman's rights.
Tom, I applaud your courage and never-ending love for your boy. I miss my son very much too.
And kid, if you are reading this, do contact your dad, he truly misses you.
ykmsp 3 years ago
I know EXACTLY what your going through, id like to talk to u :) (oh, and even though its serious made me laugh abit, and cry.)
suckilytube 3 years ago
Don't get confused....this isn't about men verses women. There are many of us women out there feeling and experiencing THAT which you are talking about. Man , Woman or Alien is indifferent this syndrome exists to many of us regardless of sexual orientation...hate is hate and it happens to us both.
ShilohNative 3 years ago
Totally agree.The underlying problem is usually BPD 75% more prominenet in women
pwreric 3 years ago
Hi Tom --
I just sent you my comment thru email. I'm a woman and I support you! Best of luck and I reeeeally hope the system changes!
Sincerely,
A woman who is completely and utterly heart broken!
allykatz0372 3 years ago
Hey tom this is James from ontario, I haven't heard from my children for over a year either.
I am going through the exact same thing as you and it seems there is no getting ahead. keep your head up brother.
James
whereRmykids 3 years ago
My ex tells my kids even my 17 year old that I dont pay support. I have my w2 my year to date pay stub 7k per year. I had to show my daughter this, she was devastated.
miikeyd 3 years ago
I am a victim of parental alienation. My children used to love me, their dad. When my youngest 10 year old wasn't allowed to come to my mom her grandmoms funeral or attend with the family afterward I went to the courts. She also coudn't come to daddys daughter at work day, spring vacation and on my actual visitation day. The courts here in Lewiston Maine did nothing. My daughters now dont want to visit anymore. Thanks so mch for this video dyross55 parental alienation day april 25 unnoticed!
miikeyd 3 years ago
Tom , this is Pierre Pullins from Indianapolis, Indiana. A judge actually destroyed my court file and made a false entry into my court case, I ran for congress and continue to come in dead last behind anti semites and one guy that even quit the race. They've resorted to election fraud to keep me quiet. So now I am on youtube. I also have a myspace page.
goodfella41 3 years ago
Tom .. I feel your pain so much. I've been alientated from my children for over 1 year now also. I call repeatedly and only get voicemail also. My ex has them so scared and confused my children don't even call on Father's Day, My Birthday, or Christmas. Yeah, I've been back to court too. Only the attorneys win there. I love my children like you do yours. I miss them so much. Tom, thanks for posting this video clip. I shall pray for you Tom, and if you think of it, pray for my children 2
rejoicing75 3 years ago
Tom,
Come witness the judgment of the great whore (a court judge). And help me to expose the bitch.
go to:
thekingdomofGodministry.
blogspot.
com
greggprovenza 3 years ago
My X has slowly cut off any communication I have with the kids but I do see them every two weeks and we have a great time together. I make sure to rise above the madness so my kids will see the difference. The kids will realize one day what has happened and it will backfire on my X. I just keep being there for them and loving them. Just got back last weekend from a good trip to the smokies and my X cannot take that away. She does find something to complain about after every visit(sound familiar?
kyvideoguy 3 years ago
Tom, I won custody of my children after proving my X was alienating my children and had them for about 4yrs until a judge gave us joint custody. In those 4yrs my X had me investigated 11 times by social services and ran off with the kids out of state and was arrested. She had to be supervised twice yet last Nov a judge let the kids go live with her. They are 13 and 11 now and I am thankful for the years I had. I think I built a strong enough relationship that she can't fully alienate them.......
kyvideoguy 3 years ago
watch?v=-bjsurmxCug
Parental Alienation Syndrome
Dr Gardners Quotes
UKSecretCourts 3 years ago
Phenomenal and heartbreaking.
This happens to women, too. The father should have custody of his boy who clearlyoloves his dad. I feel your pain because this mom has it too.
adviceguru0090 3 years ago
For 10 years, I've had to compete with a stay at home step mother who has ample time and money to spend on my boys while at the same time tells my kids what a bad parent I am. She became head of my kids PTA, volunteered at their school, ect, trips to Floriday,nice clothes, toys ect, as I struggled to work full time and just make house payments(making much less than my ex.)
Now as teens, the boys are attracted to the money. Per her, I"m poor, unorganized and too many rules!
My ex? silent!
ohfreebreeze00 3 years ago
I also am one of the Dad's you speak of and I am a Patrol sergeant for a small Police Dept. here in Arkansas. my Ex has a boyfriend who smokes marijuana in their home and my kids complained and child services remove them from the home and Judge Barbara Halsy returns them because.."at this point in their life I don't want them to have to change schools". they are 15 & 12. now I barely even see them at all.. " REAL JUSTICE"...
garyhpd 4 years ago
very touching; very true; very sad;we do need to form a group to fight this sickness! thank you.
jagbenzbmw 4 years ago
Remember guys, men can be alienators too. Let's not make this about sex, its really about narcissism. Their court documents are full of lies and purgery. They keep you from knowing whats going on with doctors and school for a reason. They wanna nail ya, while aligning professionals against you.
L4k3rF4N 4 years ago
well said, well said IT IS ABOUT NARCISSISM
The chronic Narcissistic Parental Alienator
airstreamed 3 years ago
Hi Tom,
My heart goes out to you. I have been dealing with the same for 10 years now. I have 4 kids. They are great kids. I miss them terribly. Their mom has a mission to destroy my relationship with them. She obsessed with keeping me contained. She even married her divorce lawyer to matters horrific. I am worn out and torn. I am a good father and a good person...but mom cant get over hating me and teaching my children to do the same. I feel your pain. Beautiful video of your son.
tvcrewny 4 years ago
A mother,10-year old son. Brutally taken from me after 9.5 years. His father actually alientated himself after his third marriage. Then in Aug 2005 he got the local school/my family/my friends/neighbors and anyone else who would listen by telling lies about me. B/C it is easier to believe a lie than the truth. He just did not want to pay the $50K in arrears. My own family helped my ex brain wash my son. This is happening every where across our nation.
4Chandler97 4 years ago
Hi, I am not a dad, I am a mom and my ex has done this too, with 2 of my children. I have not seen my eldest son since 12 August 2005, my youngest daughter I did not see for almost 2 years. Contact begun in April this year with the help of the amily Courts and with the help of the family Courts I have not seen my daughter since 27th September 2007. I feel your pain and sorry for any parent experiencing this. It happens to mums too!!!
beeanchor4 4 years ago
A mother,10-year old son. Brutally taken from me after 9.5 years. His father actually alientated himself after his third marriage. Then in Aug 2005 he got the local school/my family/my friends/neighbors and anyone else who would listen by telling lies about me. B/C it is easier to believe a lie than the truth. He just did not want to pay the $50K in arrears. My own family helped my ex brain wash my son. This is happening every where across our nation.
4Chandler97 4 years ago
Around 88 percent of marriages fail. 72 percent involves marriages with children. Is there something wrong with our legal system? We all have equal rights don't we. I too feel like a prisoner after a custody battle. Like I live in a free country unable to spend fair amount of time or money for my son. Elimnate child support and watch those numbers drop. I wish I could leave my wife, have physical custody of my son, and make her pay for him as well. But I am not that spiteful.
cltgator31 4 years ago
My husband's ex-wife does this. The mother can play us in the court "I can't work - I have to babysit my daughter with special needs every minute of the day." Guess what? When she was at our house she was totally independent. She ignores us and stays on the internet to talk to the mom about how evil my husband is.
missustoad 4 years ago
My husband's ex-wife does this. The mother can play us in the court "I can't work - I have to babysit my daughter with special needs every minute of the day." Guess what? When she was at our house she was totally independent. She ignores us and stays on the internet to talk to the mom about how evil my husband is.
We DO romanticize the role and mother and DENIGRATE the role of father in the USA and we need more balance.
missustoad 4 years ago
I am one of the bad Dad's that you speak of in your video. I made the mistake of going to court because my kids told me they were being abused. I now have no visitation rights...
seandelevany 4 years ago
I am going through the same thing.
Armed rebellion-- not whining on the internet-- is the answer.
weshotjr 4 years ago
If you can't whine on the internet, where can you whine?? Who else will listen?
shortee2004 4 years ago
No one listens to whining wherever it is.
Armed rebellion. That's the answer.
weshotjr 4 years ago
Armed rebellion? Armed as in what?
shortee2004 4 years ago
Revolution.
weshotjr 4 years ago
Revolution.
weshotjr 4 years ago
why is there no organization of men who stand up against this nonsense. i have been through the same thing. these women are totaly out of control and they are NOT benign AT ALL!!
iorixs 4 years ago
That's a good question. I'm in the early stages of producing a video rant on that very subject ;p
Dyros55 4 years ago
My husband (formerly alienated parent) and I (his former alienator) want to tell you that there is hope! We were divorced for 16 years and we remarried 3 years ago. My husband decided to fight more for the sake of he and the children and ended up winning me back, additionally.
shortee2004 4 years ago
You said it -- Fathers don't stick together. We could do a lot if we did.
Shanediver 4 years ago
sad reality. I am prepared to endure this but I have a son and one day he will have a family. I wouldn't want this for when my kids when they have kids.
There is no truth in family court
DennisMontini 4 years ago
sign my petition on 10 downing street to stop this parental alienation cant post an email on here just key in 10 downing st epetitions then parental alienation thankyou
sexydebben 4 years ago
its emotional..its expensive...its time consuming...just remember happiness comes from within and so does anger..its never hopeless..never give up...your day is right around the corner...your contentment is today...
trm123456 4 years ago
True, all of it. But what Tom displays is anger that does not sway, justifiable as it might be. The alienating mother's alibi is the 'protection'of the children whom she uses as tools of her hatred and as agents of their own deprivation. It is like having the fox protect the chickens. Alienation is a HATE crime, the fact that it happens within the home does not make it any less hideous than hate graffiti at a temple's wall.
albertarial 4 years ago
You must know that from far away in Sudan you have my support; and I understand how you feel. Never give up, no matter what it takes. Remember that your children are victims and need to be rescued --by you and by no one else. Just persevere. Never Never give up. I have expereince. I decided to never give up and now I have my daughter with me. My ex will not be able to heal and is doomed, I am told, to suffer from this mental illness PAS.
usharikahlil 4 years ago
Tom, I understand you on so many levels. I'm an unwed father and struggled to even get my name on my daughter's birth certificate. You are not alone. Have strength, because you are not fighting this alone.
chrixated 4 years ago
Tom, you're so right it makes me shed a tear. women are herd creatures, men are independent thinkers who "suck it up like men."
We need more F4J organizations to pop up, and the good news is time will bring more of us together to fight the absurd injustices we all face.
Politicians are the whores who sold us out for short term political gains (via extorted income tax dollars) to throw bones at the "victims"
luckyvet 4 years ago
"It isn't always the mother / ex wife that does the alienating...I wish people could understand this and digest that fact wholly."
Shut up moron. 99.44% of the time it happens to men. You're like a man crying rape.
luckyvet 4 years ago
I am a mother who's child was alienated by my child's father 20 years ago. I have suffered tremendously because of what that man did and continues to do. My son suffers as well. It isn't always the mother / ex wife that does the alienating...I wish people could understand this and digest that fact wholly.
I do feel sympathy for anyone who has lost a child this way, whether mother or father. It's never right and always despicable.
matalien12477 4 years ago
I step out of bounds and apologize for the rudeness 'luckyvet' who apparently didn't get what you were trying to express.
Yes, it is always terrible when a parental unit is alienated from its offspring, or the other way around as well.
comp7878 4 years ago
Keep your head up. I've been right there in your shoes. Don't give up. One day a judge who has been in your shoes may be the one to hear your case and the tides may turn. If not, then when the kids are older they'll find you and you'll have proof (paper trail) that shows you never gave up on them. At that point, your bond will be stronger than ever with them.
CLT72 4 years ago
I'm sorry you are going through this, but never give up and keep the paperwork. You will want it when the kids come asking. God bless you.
CLT72 4 years ago
I haven't seen my daughter for 6 months because my ex-wife is in contempt of court and evading the visits but I have to wait until July for my next court date.
I will be posting the last visit with my daughter without video but we video taped the entire day wonderful time and at the end of the day waiting in her mom's parking lot she told me "Mom says if I go with you three times in a row she will SELL MY BED & MY TOYS"
My ex-wife was in the same situation as a child with her father
taylor7609 4 years ago
PAS is not recognized by Texas state law. Xerox determined it took 7 positive comments to offset 1 negative comment. In my case, one parent makes comments like "if your Dad/Mom loved you they would be here with you instead of working". It is difficult for a young child or even a teenager to make sound logical conclusions but courts allow children to have an input to where they want to live at such a young and impressionable age when they can be "bought" with lax discipline.
gmm76127 4 years ago
Thanks for writing back man.. it means alot. Trust me even tho i was being alienated i still had myy other parent in mid. It was the conciquence i had to deal with when i did talk to my other parent. Your child(ren) might be wanting to see and talk to you just restricted until an older age.
monolie69 4 years ago
Hey man! i watched your video! very touchy....im 19 year old male that is doing a project at a highschool level. My project explores the vast diversitys of PAS and ways you can help it and how it effects the children. I plan to use your video as an example in my Anthropology Class. My sister and I just recently went through PAS. She is still involved since i had moved out and made my own opinions about each parent. I wish best of luck with you and your family.
monolie69 4 years ago
High School class. Maybe I should have dressed better for the video :)
Hearing you say you drew your own conclusions AFTER you moved out tells much about how just one parent can have so much influence in allienating a child from the other parent. Scary stuff. I pray I don't have to wait that long on my own kids. Thank you.
Dyros55 4 years ago
Your nnot alone mate, I know your pain, I haven't seen my children for over 4 years. I've stopped counting. I love my children. Last time I saw them they said they love me. The profiteers of family courts must be exposed for exactly what they are. We must raise our voices and raise the bar. Our children will carry on knowing what we have done against incredible ignorant opposition. Keep posting mate, don't give up. You are a great father. I thank you for being part of the solution.
DanToob 4 years ago
Study Martin Luther King and Ghandi. Lets peacefully join together and resist. We have a responsibility to obey just laws and court orders and an equal responsibility to disobey unjust laws and court orders.
Good luck to you all.
dreghead 4 years ago
Great Video Tom.. Go to parents4justice dot us where I posted your video. You are being heard!
SleepNow 4 years ago
I'll do that. I believe I visited that site as a resource early on in my divorce. Thank you.
Dyros55 4 years ago