My GP doesn't even make eye contact with me when I visit about self-harm, depression, suicidal thoughts, dropping out of university due to anxiety... Just prescribes generic anti-depressants and sends me on my way. Can't say he's done me much good, to be honest.
@cdsmith1990 Thanks for your comments. Have you considered changing doctor? You are entitled to request another doctor from the PCT if you aren't satisfied with the service from the one you have. We have an article about this... Google, "TheSite.org GPs: the alternatives". Hope this helps.
Where is this? If you go to the hospital here and tell them you've harmed yourself. You wont be walking out that door anytime soon. No, you'd be strapped up and transported to the nearest ward. Where ever this is seems like they actually care.
I don't get it at all. My first experience of someone I "trust" finding out was being hit and screamed at, and now when I say to someone "I self harm" it's like, 'okay, now what?"
"well... that's about it."
"really?"
"Wait, we could talk reasons?"
"Think of a reason, I've SI'd because of it"
"Oh, okay. Well, that really is it. See you later then"
I went to my GP the other day. She looked at my cuts and kpet gasping and making comments like 'Gosh!' It made me feel even worse. Then she said I needed stitches for some of them but cause they're a couple of days old they'd statred healing upwards or somethind. She got a Nurse to put dressings on and clean them out cause some were infected. She was really nice tho! She's referred me of to CAHMS.
I'm 15 I went to my doctor about my SH and a whole list of other mental shit and I've been referred to a psychiatrist and a psychologist. It was my first time going into the doctors office on my own and she was great
I told her my mum doesn't know I SH and she has kept it between us
To any other younger people who are afraid to go, it's really not as scary as it seems, and try going to a younger doctor, sometimes they understand a bit more than older practitioners do, in my experience.
@flyingmonkeyelephant Thanks loads for your wonderful & inspiring advice - it's great to hear you've spoken to your doctor and have received positive support from them. It's really helpful to hear this, so thanks again for sharing your thoughts.
i wish it was like this where i live in Cananda, in my smal town of pembroke people jude and they dont havepeople liek you there. you seem very nice and i wish there was a way to get help but not here because well we dont have the right people. any advice?
Yes, in the UK a 14 year old can go and visit a GP and talk to them in confidence about self-harm. Here's a useful snippet from the NHS Code of Practice on Confidentiality (2003) ... “Children under the age of 16 who have the capacity and understanding to take decisions about their own treatment are also entitled to make decisions about the use and disclosure of information they have provided in confidence.”
You should feel confident about talking to your GP about your feelings.
If you still have questions, we run askTheSite a confidential Q&A service where you can message your questions to one of our advisors. You can also ask a question in our moderated discussion forum which is a really useful place to get good advice. Just Google, 'askthesite' or 'thesite: discussion forum'.
i hate any drs etc, wether it be a regular or psyciatrist. i saw a psyciatrist once who told me it was my fault i was raped and it really wasnt that bad. he made me feel awful... in turn i went home n cut from that expiernce. i dont forsee any hope for me stopping me selfharm ways... i dunno i felt like if a dr can make me feel worse and want to cut, why should i go see them..??
Hi there, thanks for your comment. If you would like to discuss these issues in confidence, we run both a forum (Google: 'thesite boards') and AskTheSite (Google: 'askthesite'), where you can ask other young people and experts about self-harm and the feelings you're experiencing. It's a really good community of users and you'll be made to feel very welcome.
the first gp i went to see was rubbish. he was running late and made this very clear. we went through the mental health questionnaire with him saying "so you don't SH do you?" I paused, he said "no, that's good" and continued on his merry way. I wasn't going to correct him, he didn't care. This is what some people get, I appreciate a lot of doctors are understanding but unfortunately some aren't, and that's the problem too.
i used to self harm pretty much every day. its less often now, but i still feel the need to do it, i just know the consiquences.
i went to see my gp a few weeks ago (not because of self harming- it was another matter) but i had counselling for my self harming (i didn't like the woman so i quit after a few weeks) so it was on my record. when she saw it she wanted to talk about it, but when you're talking to someone like that they're constantly anylising you. it makes you feel patronised & judged
this vid gave me the conifdance to see my gp, he was nice he refurd me to a pshothapist , i just want to say thank you to this video i now know i have high depression, he did ask me to see the cuts but i just plyed this video in my head .. thankyouu
this vid gave me the conifdance to see my gp, he was nice he refurd me to a pshothapist , i just want to say thank you to this video i now know i have high depression, he did ask me to see the cuts but i just plyed this video in my head .. thankyouu
Thanks for your comments. Talking to a health professional can really help you to express your feelings and we're really pleased to hear you had the confidence to go and see your GP after seeing this.
The first GP i saw laughed when i said i was self harming. Can u actually believe that? I went to see a different one who basically said i was a normal teenager and it was my hormones. 2 years and a suicide attempt later.... i wonder if he still thinks that its hormones!
And lol forgot to say watching this film that Dr is really nice I wouldn't mind going to her and talking about my problems its just ashame that not every Dr is like that.
my GP new nothing about self harm and made me feel worse cos he said he couldnt help and that i should JUST STOP like it was that easy. i think no matter what ppl say, u do get bad reactions. i get told cos my family and GP new and i was still self harming that its attention seeking. if i wanted to stop i would just do it. i hate ppl that do not understand and say stupid things.
Exactly whe my friends found out they just said don't do it, just be normal. If we had that option wouldn't we take it? I don't do it for attention else why did I hide it for two years (not long but is still going)? I choose to self harm as it my best option from what I can see/express. It's SH or suicide for me (and I want to live).
@newhope01 I know how you feel. I went to my GP and he was lovely but he left! Also, i was ill so one day me and my mother went to the doctors (like you do when you're ill!) and he brought it up! He said, in the most arrogant way ever 'have you stopped slashing yet' RIGHT in front of my mum. I hate him, it was meant to be confidential and now he lost all my trust for all doctors. gr8.
whats the name of the song in the background
Aries25x 3 weeks ago
My GP doesn't even make eye contact with me when I visit about self-harm, depression, suicidal thoughts, dropping out of university due to anxiety... Just prescribes generic anti-depressants and sends me on my way. Can't say he's done me much good, to be honest.
cdsmith1990 1 month ago
@cdsmith1990 Thanks for your comments. Have you considered changing doctor? You are entitled to request another doctor from the PCT if you aren't satisfied with the service from the one you have. We have an article about this... Google, "TheSite.org GPs: the alternatives". Hope this helps.
Take care,
Chris @ TheSite.org
TheSiteVideos 1 month ago
Where is this? If you go to the hospital here and tell them you've harmed yourself. You wont be walking out that door anytime soon. No, you'd be strapped up and transported to the nearest ward. Where ever this is seems like they actually care.
677921 1 month ago
this might be dumb but what is a GP?
alfredobolanos96 3 months ago
@alfredobolanos96 Hi Alfred, it stands for General Practitioner and is the UK term for a family doctor.
TheSiteVideos 3 months ago
I don't get it at all. My first experience of someone I "trust" finding out was being hit and screamed at, and now when I say to someone "I self harm" it's like, 'okay, now what?"
"well... that's about it."
"really?"
"Wait, we could talk reasons?"
"Think of a reason, I've SI'd because of it"
"Oh, okay. Well, that really is it. See you later then"
WesJanson10 4 months ago
I went to my GP the other day. She looked at my cuts and kpet gasping and making comments like 'Gosh!' It made me feel even worse. Then she said I needed stitches for some of them but cause they're a couple of days old they'd statred healing upwards or somethind. She got a Nurse to put dressings on and clean them out cause some were infected. She was really nice tho! She's referred me of to CAHMS.
Timewillhealmyheart 4 months ago
I'm 15 I went to my doctor about my SH and a whole list of other mental shit and I've been referred to a psychiatrist and a psychologist. It was my first time going into the doctors office on my own and she was great
I told her my mum doesn't know I SH and she has kept it between us
To any other younger people who are afraid to go, it's really not as scary as it seems, and try going to a younger doctor, sometimes they understand a bit more than older practitioners do, in my experience.
flyingmonkeyelephant 6 months ago
@flyingmonkeyelephant Thanks loads for your wonderful & inspiring advice - it's great to hear you've spoken to your doctor and have received positive support from them. It's really helpful to hear this, so thanks again for sharing your thoughts.
All the best,
Chris @ TheSite.org
TheSiteVideos 6 months ago
i wish it was like this where i live in Cananda, in my smal town of pembroke people jude and they dont havepeople liek you there. you seem very nice and i wish there was a way to get help but not here because well we dont have the right people. any advice?
XLostForgottenAngelX 7 months ago
is it possible for a 14 year old to see a gp?
superman2ify 9 months ago
@superman2ify
Yes, in the UK a 14 year old can go and visit a GP and talk to them in confidence about self-harm. Here's a useful snippet from the NHS Code of Practice on Confidentiality (2003) ... “Children under the age of 16 who have the capacity and understanding to take decisions about their own treatment are also entitled to make decisions about the use and disclosure of information they have provided in confidence.”
You should feel confident about talking to your GP about your feelings.
TheSiteVideos 9 months ago
@TheSiteVideos but i dont live anywhere near one and my parents dont know i self harm?:/
superman2ify 9 months ago
@superman2ify
If you still have questions, we run askTheSite a confidential Q&A service where you can message your questions to one of our advisors. You can also ask a question in our moderated discussion forum which is a really useful place to get good advice. Just Google, 'askthesite' or 'thesite: discussion forum'.
Take care.
Chris @ TheSite.org
TheSiteVideos 9 months ago
i hate any drs etc, wether it be a regular or psyciatrist. i saw a psyciatrist once who told me it was my fault i was raped and it really wasnt that bad. he made me feel awful... in turn i went home n cut from that expiernce. i dont forsee any hope for me stopping me selfharm ways... i dunno i felt like if a dr can make me feel worse and want to cut, why should i go see them..??
jdeppfever 10 months ago
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awesome1est93 11 months ago
@awesome1est93
Hi there, thanks for your comment. If you would like to discuss these issues in confidence, we run both a forum (Google: 'thesite boards') and AskTheSite (Google: 'askthesite'), where you can ask other young people and experts about self-harm and the feelings you're experiencing. It's a really good community of users and you'll be made to feel very welcome.
Take care,
Chris @ TheSite.org
TheSiteVideos 11 months ago
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ColonelFleet 1 year ago
the first gp i went to see was rubbish. he was running late and made this very clear. we went through the mental health questionnaire with him saying "so you don't SH do you?" I paused, he said "no, that's good" and continued on his merry way. I wasn't going to correct him, he didn't care. This is what some people get, I appreciate a lot of doctors are understanding but unfortunately some aren't, and that's the problem too.
xLostInThisWorldx 1 year ago
i used to self harm pretty much every day. its less often now, but i still feel the need to do it, i just know the consiquences.
i went to see my gp a few weeks ago (not because of self harming- it was another matter) but i had counselling for my self harming (i didn't like the woman so i quit after a few weeks) so it was on my record. when she saw it she wanted to talk about it, but when you're talking to someone like that they're constantly anylising you. it makes you feel patronised & judged
chezziebabes95 1 year ago
This was an awesome vid!
sarah1oszter 1 year ago
@sarah1oszter
Thanks Sarah for your comment. Glad you liked it.
TheSiteVideos 1 year ago
@TheSiteVideos Thank-you for making them!
sarah1oszter 1 year ago
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this vid gave me the conifdance to see my gp, he was nice he refurd me to a pshothapist , i just want to say thank you to this video i now know i have high depression, he did ask me to see the cuts but i just plyed this video in my head .. thankyouu
kirstyrand1 1 year ago
this vid gave me the conifdance to see my gp, he was nice he refurd me to a pshothapist , i just want to say thank you to this video i now know i have high depression, he did ask me to see the cuts but i just plyed this video in my head .. thankyouu
kirstyrand1 1 year ago 8
Hi Kirsty,
Thanks for your comments. Talking to a health professional can really help you to express your feelings and we're really pleased to hear you had the confidence to go and see your GP after seeing this.
All the best.
TheSiteVideos 1 year ago
The first GP i saw laughed when i said i was self harming. Can u actually believe that? I went to see a different one who basically said i was a normal teenager and it was my hormones. 2 years and a suicide attempt later.... i wonder if he still thinks that its hormones!
JustxAnotherxCut 1 year ago
This is a really insightful video and helpful, I wish all GPs were like this!
mentalhealthhelpUK 1 year ago
that GP sounds really nice. She sounds a lot nicer than the GPs in the States.
Celticgirl057 1 year ago
And lol forgot to say watching this film that Dr is really nice I wouldn't mind going to her and talking about my problems its just ashame that not every Dr is like that.
faithoffaith 2 years ago
I would never go to my GP and tell him about what I was doing...although having said that I feel like I want to but can't find the courage.
faithoffaith 2 years ago
i know i sound extreemely stupid, but what is a gp?
sorry i know im slow!
hey12690 2 years ago 4
a docter :)
ASilentSufferer 2 years ago
It stands for General Practitioner...or your own personal Dr that you have been registered too.
faithoffaith 2 years ago
General Practitioner.
faithoffaith 2 years ago
@hey12690 your family doctor
skysthelimit20102010 1 year ago
@hey12690
GP stands for General Practitioner and is a common term for a doctor in the UK.
TheSiteVideos 1 year ago
my GP new nothing about self harm and made me feel worse cos he said he couldnt help and that i should JUST STOP like it was that easy. i think no matter what ppl say, u do get bad reactions. i get told cos my family and GP new and i was still self harming that its attention seeking. if i wanted to stop i would just do it. i hate ppl that do not understand and say stupid things.
newhope01 2 years ago 27
she looks like a nice GP....
ColonelFleet 2 years ago 2
Exactly whe my friends found out they just said don't do it, just be normal. If we had that option wouldn't we take it? I don't do it for attention else why did I hide it for two years (not long but is still going)? I choose to self harm as it my best option from what I can see/express. It's SH or suicide for me (and I want to live).
SaltyBlackTears 2 years ago
@newhope01 I know how you feel. I went to my GP and he was lovely but he left! Also, i was ill so one day me and my mother went to the doctors (like you do when you're ill!) and he brought it up! He said, in the most arrogant way ever 'have you stopped slashing yet' RIGHT in front of my mum. I hate him, it was meant to be confidential and now he lost all my trust for all doctors. gr8.
MsWastedGirl1 9 months ago