every word you uttered and breathed is real talk real truth Thank You.....Please speak loud as hell to the world so younger dudes will be understood Thank You Way things are going Science with it's medical politics will keep mislabeling and mis-educations to the general public what Asperger's really means...ask DaVinci LOL I do not blame him to be left alone the last years of his life
i have mild autism and i do funny faces. i donno if auties have funny humor other than this guy i know from my sociao group who likes corny humor! mine is lame, i dont like rude humor.
Yeah, you know you're in one of the video's. You're welcome to come along to these events. Would you like to come bowling on the 24'th? It's $5 a game.
apples shouldn't measure themselves on the orange scale. Oranges shouldn't judge apples as failed oranges. It's a hard slog to be adult on the spectrum and 'out there' in the world, even interfacing on a simple level. Don't quit. You know that you're 'ok'. And there really are nice corners of this finicky, judgemental world. Really.
Yeah, there's stuff I didn't manage to get into the video. I didn't really expand on the bullying idea and in retrospect it was probably the wrong word to use, so I want to do another video on it.
I was talking about the way non-autistic people tend to talk in "strokes" (transaction analysis theory) which can be difficult to work out in real time, leaves little time to think about anything else and raises stress to the point that you don't get anything out of the experience.
I know what its like not to be left alone. How humans SHOULD be, you know what that is? It's a LIE. Don't ever give up on social interraction, mate. As you know, I have the same issues - but I think if we believe in ourselves, we'll eventually get there.
Yeah, I think the cool thing is that as people on the autistic spectrum we seem to have a different set of social rules for just between us, which non-autistic people seem to have no hope of learning.
Eddie I am a high functioning autistic like I suspect you are. I still wish people would leave me alone. I best when people leave me alone. I did eventual learn how to work on a job after 41 years trying. I own my home. There is hope dude. Hugs!
Yeah, you know I've heard of people receiving different diagnoses all along the spectrum at different times in their life.
Right now I might either get a diagnosis of HFA or AS with bipolar disorder given that I haven't been able to work recently.
In the past though, I've pretty much achieved what I set out to achieve and certain things like relationships and posessions simply weren't on that list.
Dude you are so right there. I would love to be in some kind of relationship but I have never managed to make it work. I mean dude when I tried to have friends and all that it was a total nightmare. I get the same diagnosis all the time HFA nothing else.
Yeah, you know there's 2 books on the internet called "a survival guide for people with asperger syndrome" and "a survival guide for people on the autistic spectrum" which talk about the basics required to achieve some sort of peace in different kinds of relationships. The first one in particular is absolutely briliant.
Creddy, I really liked this video. I'm guessing that you and my older brother would really enjoy each other's company because you remind me so much of him. I don't see much of him anymore. We both sort of self isolate, but its always nice to see him.
Yeah, I must admit, I didn't suffer for lack of friends as a child. It's just that looking back they were all probably on the autistic spectrum, and we never really socialised as much as just shared common interests. These days I just use the internet and books to revel in my interests and I'm focusing hard on developing autie social groups because realistically socialising with non-autistic people rarely seems to work.
Thank you so so much for this video. And i DO respect you greatly for posting such a personal experience, that if more people were to watch this post, would help explain to those who dont understand ASD how the presure of ''fitting in'' can be damaging if it is forced on to those who just wish to be left alone.
Yeah, I think the whole issue of fitting in is moot if one understands how to not to spook non-autistic people.
The problem is that once you reach a state where you're at peace with them, nobody's really getting anything out of the relationship because everybody's seeking fundamentally different things from life.
Yup, that's me. I don't know what to say about the Survival Guide - Do you mean you've actually been changing what's on our website? I'm an innocent - how can this be? We are not a wiki afaik. The original author is dead ...
Have you ever considered an aspie wife?? I have found that I self isolate to avoid the pain caused by others, but I have an aspie spouse for companionship and that keeps me sane. He understands my differences and doesn't expect the "norms" others might.
Yeah, aspie women are sooo beautiful. Most of the aspie men I've met find them beautiful too, but one of the most obvious problems is that there's a 4:1 relationship between males and females, and meeting the available women is difficult.
Even then they've often been in abusive relationships and there's a whole new kind of socialising to have to deal with.
I truly believe in women it's just that fewer of us are diagnosed.Most recieve misdiagnosis of things like borderline personality disorder. I agree about the bad pasts, lord knows that was my background, but who isn't slightly "damaged" these days.
Yeah, Tony Attwood believes that the relationship is more like 2:1 due to the fact that passive girls/women don't stand out as much.
Learning whole new ways to socialise with other auties is proving to be very interesting. I can mostly just let down my non-autie fascade, but very often there's a quirk or two which makes things difficult.
thanks for this vid, what a great insight. How did u find the aspie support groups in melbourne? I live in brisbane and cant find any. I can totally understand what you are saying about the bullying. Isnt it interesting how Ive lived with this condition all my life and now im 25 im just starting to learn there are others out there with the same problems. Suddenly I dont feel so alone. Be proud of you are :-)
I saw an SBS Insight show on autism and Donna Williams was talking about Alpha Autism in Adelaide and the dinner clubs.
I got in touch with Alpha in Melbourne and they put me on the social group mailing list and through other people there I found the dinner clubs and ASSN.
ASSN is in Queensland too. They're primarily a support network for parents but the Melbourne one has a social group for aspies too.
Thank you for saying this Eddy. I try to explain to people they can't measure everyone with the same stick, or tempt all children with the same "carrot" (or m&m). I honestly think some people do not understand how little respect it gives the individual being measured/conditioned/moulded. "how it is wrong to show him the right way?" I say, "who gets to choose the "right" way?"
Exactly, and how exactly is "the right way" defined? In the wake of the failure of social skills training, researchers are now looking for ways to teach autistic spectrum people a dynamic understanding of the non-autistic world, but if the explanation ends up being an insult to non-autistic people, will they be willing to teach it or will they be willing to change?
Yeah, I get the feeling so much is being said about autism, and all of it is partially truthful, but it all just gets lost in the mess somehow. It seems to me to be a good idea to talk about issues in small steps.
You have a very nice personality from what I see and I think you are just fine the way you are....God bless your heart!!!
Have a very nice day!!! :-)
THESWAGMONSTERS129 1 month ago
every word you uttered and breathed is real talk real truth Thank You.....Please speak loud as hell to the world so younger dudes will be understood Thank You Way things are going Science with it's medical politics will keep mislabeling and mis-educations to the general public what Asperger's really means...ask DaVinci LOL I do not blame him to be left alone the last years of his life
pmskyV 7 months ago
You look so cool. I love you Viking style beard
RareAspie 2 years ago
i have mild autism and i do funny faces. i donno if auties have funny humor other than this guy i know from my sociao group who likes corny humor! mine is lame, i dont like rude humor.
EMM33L 3 years ago
austrailia will be skinhead
urued122 3 years ago
you are so talented and knowledgable
liljesska 4 years ago 2
Thanks Jess. :-) What do you mean by talented?
CreddyEddy 4 years ago
u r really good in font of the camera!!!
liljesska 4 years ago
Yeah, you know you're in one of the video's. You're welcome to come along to these events. Would you like to come bowling on the 24'th? It's $5 a game.
CreddyEddy 4 years ago
great video
sickoflifetoday 4 years ago
Thanks. :-)
CreddyEddy 4 years ago
you are so there John.
apples shouldn't measure themselves on the orange scale. Oranges shouldn't judge apples as failed oranges. It's a hard slog to be adult on the spectrum and 'out there' in the world, even interfacing on a simple level. Don't quit. You know that you're 'ok'. And there really are nice corners of this finicky, judgemental world. Really.
1210donna 4 years ago 2
Yeah, there's stuff I didn't manage to get into the video. I didn't really expand on the bullying idea and in retrospect it was probably the wrong word to use, so I want to do another video on it.
I was talking about the way non-autistic people tend to talk in "strokes" (transaction analysis theory) which can be difficult to work out in real time, leaves little time to think about anything else and raises stress to the point that you don't get anything out of the experience.
CreddyEddy 4 years ago
I know I talk in either poetry or bullet points.
its the best I can do.
often it doesn't work well :-)
my typing is better
but still I tend that same way.
1210donna 4 years ago
I know what its like not to be left alone. How humans SHOULD be, you know what that is? It's a LIE. Don't ever give up on social interraction, mate. As you know, I have the same issues - but I think if we believe in ourselves, we'll eventually get there.
AnthonyInAction 4 years ago
Yeah, I think the cool thing is that as people on the autistic spectrum we seem to have a different set of social rules for just between us, which non-autistic people seem to have no hope of learning.
CreddyEddy 4 years ago
Eddie I am a high functioning autistic like I suspect you are. I still wish people would leave me alone. I best when people leave me alone. I did eventual learn how to work on a job after 41 years trying. I own my home. There is hope dude. Hugs!
TRITONWOLF 4 years ago
Yeah, you know I've heard of people receiving different diagnoses all along the spectrum at different times in their life.
Right now I might either get a diagnosis of HFA or AS with bipolar disorder given that I haven't been able to work recently.
In the past though, I've pretty much achieved what I set out to achieve and certain things like relationships and posessions simply weren't on that list.
CreddyEddy 4 years ago
Dude you are so right there. I would love to be in some kind of relationship but I have never managed to make it work. I mean dude when I tried to have friends and all that it was a total nightmare. I get the same diagnosis all the time HFA nothing else.
WILDERNESSWOLF 4 years ago
Yeah, you know there's 2 books on the internet called "a survival guide for people with asperger syndrome" and "a survival guide for people on the autistic spectrum" which talk about the basics required to achieve some sort of peace in different kinds of relationships. The first one in particular is absolutely briliant.
CreddyEddy 4 years ago
Creddy, I really liked this video. I'm guessing that you and my older brother would really enjoy each other's company because you remind me so much of him. I don't see much of him anymore. We both sort of self isolate, but its always nice to see him.
christschool 4 years ago 2
Yeah, I must admit, I didn't suffer for lack of friends as a child. It's just that looking back they were all probably on the autistic spectrum, and we never really socialised as much as just shared common interests. These days I just use the internet and books to revel in my interests and I'm focusing hard on developing autie social groups because realistically socialising with non-autistic people rarely seems to work.
CreddyEddy 4 years ago
Thank you so so much for this video. And i DO respect you greatly for posting such a personal experience, that if more people were to watch this post, would help explain to those who dont understand ASD how the presure of ''fitting in'' can be damaging if it is forced on to those who just wish to be left alone.
Thank you again, wondeful
Happyautism
Happyautism 4 years ago
Thankyou. :-)
Yeah, I think the whole issue of fitting in is moot if one understands how to not to spook non-autistic people.
The problem is that once you reach a state where you're at peace with them, nobody's really getting anything out of the relationship because everybody's seeking fundamentally different things from life.
CreddyEddy 4 years ago
Thank you, and thanks to Phil too for inspiring this and other responses - going into the posuative youtube group and it sense subgroup, cheers!
dinahkcm 4 years ago 2
Thankyou Dinah, and btw, hi. From memory, you're involved in the Autism and Computing web site?
I've been meaning to ask you about how "a survival guide for people on the autistic spectrum" came about.
I discovered it about 2 years ago and since then I've been kinda adding random stuff to it. I hope there's nothing in there you find disagreeable?
CreddyEddy 4 years ago
Yup, that's me. I don't know what to say about the Survival Guide - Do you mean you've actually been changing what's on our website? I'm an innocent - how can this be? We are not a wiki afaik. The original author is dead ...
dinahkcm 4 years ago
The survival guide I'm talking about is the wikibook linked to from Marc Segars guide on the Autism & Computing web site.
CreddyEddy 4 years ago
Have you ever considered an aspie wife?? I have found that I self isolate to avoid the pain caused by others, but I have an aspie spouse for companionship and that keeps me sane. He understands my differences and doesn't expect the "norms" others might.
momto2miracles 4 years ago 2
Yeah, aspie women are sooo beautiful. Most of the aspie men I've met find them beautiful too, but one of the most obvious problems is that there's a 4:1 relationship between males and females, and meeting the available women is difficult.
Even then they've often been in abusive relationships and there's a whole new kind of socialising to have to deal with.
CreddyEddy 4 years ago
I truly believe in women it's just that fewer of us are diagnosed.Most recieve misdiagnosis of things like borderline personality disorder. I agree about the bad pasts, lord knows that was my background, but who isn't slightly "damaged" these days.
momto2miracles 4 years ago
Yeah, Tony Attwood believes that the relationship is more like 2:1 due to the fact that passive girls/women don't stand out as much.
Learning whole new ways to socialise with other auties is proving to be very interesting. I can mostly just let down my non-autie fascade, but very often there's a quirk or two which makes things difficult.
CreddyEddy 4 years ago
thanks for this vid, what a great insight. How did u find the aspie support groups in melbourne? I live in brisbane and cant find any. I can totally understand what you are saying about the bullying. Isnt it interesting how Ive lived with this condition all my life and now im 25 im just starting to learn there are others out there with the same problems. Suddenly I dont feel so alone. Be proud of you are :-)
thunderdude21 4 years ago
I saw an SBS Insight show on autism and Donna Williams was talking about Alpha Autism in Adelaide and the dinner clubs.
I got in touch with Alpha in Melbourne and they put me on the social group mailing list and through other people there I found the dinner clubs and ASSN.
ASSN is in Queensland too. They're primarily a support network for parents but the Melbourne one has a social group for aspies too.
CreddyEddy 4 years ago
Thank you for saying this Eddy. I try to explain to people they can't measure everyone with the same stick, or tempt all children with the same "carrot" (or m&m). I honestly think some people do not understand how little respect it gives the individual being measured/conditioned/moulded. "how it is wrong to show him the right way?" I say, "who gets to choose the "right" way?"
wiscsuzski 4 years ago 2
Exactly, and how exactly is "the right way" defined? In the wake of the failure of social skills training, researchers are now looking for ways to teach autistic spectrum people a dynamic understanding of the non-autistic world, but if the explanation ends up being an insult to non-autistic people, will they be willing to teach it or will they be willing to change?
CreddyEddy 4 years ago
amazing insight and perspective. I really appreciate you sharing all of that with everyone.
Everytime i watch a video of yours i gain a new perspective on more than just autism.
PhilCommander2 4 years ago
Thanks. :-)
Yeah, I get the feeling so much is being said about autism, and all of it is partially truthful, but it all just gets lost in the mess somehow. It seems to me to be a good idea to talk about issues in small steps.
CreddyEddy 4 years ago
This is from the heart i like that the pain is there and raw
AspiePride 4 years ago
Thanks. There's so much I probably should have added but I think it can probably be said later.
CreddyEddy 4 years ago
i have that prob after i do vids think i could have said much more
AspiePride 4 years ago