9 Physical & mental symptoms of verbal abuse

[8DanielDag8]

Search for 'Breaking the Cycle' here on youtube. Excellent advice, from true expert and very wise person in my honest and very picky opinion. All his advice is free of charge, very reasonable, simple and yet truly life changing. I bet my right hand that he is the shyt....so to speak :)

[Salongsberusad]

Please can anyone tell me if there´s a rehabilitation center where you can get treatment that does´nt cost a fortune? I live in Sweden but finding mental care here is like a lottery, all depends on the competence of the therapist you find. I´ve repeated my story over and over from the time i was a teenager and no one could tell me that I suffered from PTSD and treat me for that. No one could identify my mother as a narcissist either... took me 12 years to connect the dots. Twelve years!

[8DanielDag8]

@Salongsberusad

Hi to Sweden, I'm not entirely against therapy but as you said, you have to be lucky to find therapist who knows what she is talking about and not just giving out medication-especially in socialized medicine. In the end it is still just about being very honest with oneself. For very good guidance search 'Breaking the Cycle' here on youtube. It is introduction to self help "course", which is free and the creator is very skilled and authentic. IMHO best think after sliced bread.

[Salongsberusad]

@8DanielDag8 Okey thanks alot, I will make the time for watching that vid and take it in.

[ElbyBeliever]

I used to be very emotionally abused by the other kids of my age,

even when getting into high school, it didn't stop

I had all of these symptoms...But I changed schools, and I barely come near those people again. Things have started to go better, I just need to work on myself now...

But it makes me feel relieved that a channel like this exists, surely because a friend of mine is now both psychically and mentally abused by her father, I'll definetely send her a link to this channel! ;)

[Bebe12232]

I'm only 12 and ive been emotionally abused by my dad my whole life.... I'm starting to get tired of crying every day, now I am going to choose to not see my dad anymore and just my mom cuz now that I'm 12 I can do that

[Salongsberusad]

@Bebe12232 Good for you. It´s very insightful of you to see the situation you´re in, keep your distance to emotional abusers. And good luck!

[LJB85]

emotionally abused all my life...i was always the slowest to laugh in an audience. because i was allowed to laugh at home

[LJB85]

was not allowed to laugh, i meant

[CocoBorrego]

I have developed eye twitches and stutter plus my stomach sours and I vomit. Unless my mom dies, it will never end.

[HipieGirl1786]

I think my friend might be abused. And once when me and my other friends tried asking why her arm was bruised she said "My dog bite me..." when clearly she was bruised and no bite marks were there , I am afraid for her :'(.

[maxwellpassion]

That was beautiful. I'm really thankful for your video I'm going to get emotional help I've been in a depression and had two abusive relationships that I put up with for no reason!!!!!! Cuz I thought I had to cower down to be loved. But no. Not anymore lol.

[aussiechickdiana]

Thanks for your comments. Yes, it's bumpy, but still going ahead!

I am well physically now, and am now working on the emotional-side, which is still 'raw', but getting there too!

Thank Goodness for your site, and YOU too...All the best, and God bless. Keep up the good work. You are sorely needed!

diana <3

[clariselaststrike]

This channel is awesome.  Really good work.

[TheSuzane27]

(Make you feel-correction).

[TheSuzane27]

Difficulty to make a decisions is true. Some people get you feel so emotionally disturbet.. That cannot feel anymore true feeling what you want or should do....

[Jwowwx3]

what if you have your own family member abusing you. Like my sister and i don't get along she has called me a lot bad names she even told me she wishes i was dead. The other day our family got in a fight, and she said don't ever call me that cuz she told me i need help n she said i swear to god ima beat your ass n she ran up in my face yelling at me screamin at me n i was scared i was calliin mi mom name for help n i started crying...so what is that?

[maxwellpassion]

@Jwowwx3 She's psychologically trying to one up you. Get smart and just keep watching more spiritual and psychologically empowering videos. You can still show her love and respect without being abused and walked on! :) You can be a very very very beautifully large human with a big compassionate heart. You don't need to let other people walk on you to be nice to them. It's called hiving love, empowering others, and truely loving others! :D lol XD I'm happy :)

[savannahmusiclife]

this video is bull! you cant just throgh this shit togethr I am a child if berbal abuse! and this video is macking fun of it!

[danielefsot]

UMMM.........I got them all

[vanizorc]

Just to note -- these symptoms are by no means exclusive to physical/emotional abuse. They are very general symptoms that could be the result of a number of other causes.

[lazyfreedom98]

Thanks for posting by the comments and views, your not alone.

[DrZuli]

Here's a few more symptoms: dental and jaw problems from night teeth grinding, jaw unset and "clicking", receding gums, teeth going crooked, high blood pressure, heart attack, heart arrythms (?sp), stroke, chest pains, cancer.

[cherrydarlingxoxo]

Does anyone know the name of the song?

[iliveonce11]

note to all the people who say they are surviving while their counterparts are not..

you still sound bitter... be happy that you emerged out of something bad but you should wish the best for the other person as well.

When you are happy you want to see others happy

[HawClaw]

I've tried TIME and TIME again to explain this to my past partner how mental abuse can PHYSICALLY effect the body. Stating this yet also trying to explain that's it's not the LITERAL physical abuse was a very difficult point to get across. I use to feel all these before (except for my eyes because somehow my dark circles are hereditary). The fact these happens PHYSICALLY, in my opinion, should also be recored as Physical Abuse (if the symptoms are present in that particular case of course).

[aussiechickdiana]

What a wonderful channel..many thanks.

I have just come out of an abusive marriage of 34 years. I am 64 now, and am looking forward to my next life.

It won't be easy starting again, but I'm beginning to look younger, am feeling healthier, and every day I am meeting new people (mainly women), who have been through the same thing...AND they are surviving and doing well, while their 'counterparts' are not!

God bless and good luck to you all. You'ill get there...!! diana

[TheEmotionalAbuse]

@aussiechickdiana Thank you Diana for your admiration. You're most welcome. If you want to look even better try facial Exercises, I'm doing them and I see changes on my face, highly recommended. Good luck 2 u 2

[aussiechickdiana]

@TheEmotionalAbuse Yes, I need those to iron-out the wrinkles and 'frown-lines'; although people are saying I'm getting laughter-lines. Am learning singing so facial exercies will be VERY helpful. Thanks for your well-wishing...di

[clariselaststrike]

@aussiechickdiana Hi aussiechickdiana. Congratulations on the new start in your life. I truly wish you the best.

[KillCandice]

my parents deny the fact they have effected my mental health. if not them then who else did? they now use me being 19 against me. at least once a week " ill throw every bit of your shit in the lawn ill do it i will" but they never do lmao. i laugh at them a lot now. they hate that.

[sflorries]

To heal trauma I sincerely recommend trauma therapy, official name EMDR - "Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing". It's a form of psychotherapy which uses eye movements and/or tapping on points of the hand to literally rewire the brain and help traumas heal. One cannot do it alone, since one is working with behaviour patterns that have been set up since early child hood, or even since birth and pre-birth experiences. The "inner child" needs a hand to hold in the trauma healing process.

[Andrew8483]

I remember my childhood i was a victim of Physical and Emotional abuse to my parents, no days could pass that they wont beat me anywhere in my body, and now i suffered depression that could ruin my life... im 25 now, my heart is full of hatred on them! the only thing i can do is to promise my self, i would not do what they did to me to my future children, coz it really sucks!

[Hawaiiansky11]

This is an irresponsible post. The above are all signs of DEPRESSION, which can be brought on by being abused, but not necessarily.

Physical symptoms of actually being abused are: fearfulness-jumpy, agitated, quick reflexed ("flight" mode). Stress-related disorders, such as high blood pressure, trouble sleeping, stomach and GI issues for which there seems to be no biological cause.

Crying or other outburst that seem to come from "nowhere" to name a few (running out of characters)

[HybridD91]

@Hawaiiansky11 Strange, when my mother was with my stepfather, I developed GI problems (the problems went away when they split) but I'm very jumpy, agitated, quick reflexed, and have hard time sleeping (usually takes me two hours to fall asleep, one if I'm lucky, when I lay down and I wake up every 3 hours or so). That's about it.

[nicolesamsonite]

@Hawaiiansky11 wow, I'm exactly like that! I try to explain to my family why I'm like this, but they just think I'm an asshole... seriously fuck my life

[Hawaiiansky11]

@nicolesamsonite - Then quit wasting your time trying to 'prove' yourself to them. They all have a vested interest in keeping you in your role (The Family A**hole), which keeps them out of that role. Work instead on limiting your time with them and their influence on you. Work on you and surround yourself with friends and family members who DO support you; don't waste one more minute on those who don't. Take care~

[aaaamm123]

i wish... my daddy loved me.

[lemsip]

When I stop laughing I know that I'm in an unhealthy relationship. When I get out then I start laughing out loud at things I would have smiled at before because it's like months of suppressed laughter coming out.

[Iluvrocket]

mom always takes out her anger on me. She's got this facade she puts on for public life, then she comes home and just yells at me for things that aren't even my fault, I don't talk to her about my life anymore, because any action I take she finds ten things wrong with it, even if I already did it and it turned out well. She will not allow me to make a "mistake," she hovers, makes negative comments about my ability or character, and if she doesn't like the way I'm doing it, takes it from my me

[210482fmj]

its important to remember that watching these videos is not going to help or alleivate suffering. In fact thinking about bad things only makes it worse. Try not to think about it. not thinking about it is the only solution. YOu must realzie that nobody is going to care or be able to erase what has happened.

[lemsip]

@210482fmj Absolutely rubbish. Everybody but the abusers need to be aware of what psychological abuse is, what form it takes and how to deal with it if only to help a friend in the same situation. You might not be able to change the past but it's how you deal with what has happened counts. Having come out of an abusive relationship is not the death knell and can make you stronger and more aware so some good can come out of it.

[midz500]

its me....

[TheArchetypeWriter]

this song is creepy...

[laurajdahl]

Don't forget abuse can also cause physical illnesses. Sickness. Unhealthy (or non existent) adult relationships

[TheEmotionalAbuse]

@soni86ful its best when we forgive, thats how we grow

[smartpizza3]

My mom treats me like crap but she treats my 25 yr old brother like hes a baby im depressed and She always calls me a fail but i know that she is the failure

[happycat2010]

@smartpizza3 I know your pain. I was the only girl and right in the middle of four boys. The boys got the praise and the positive attention. I was the one who got picked on and I always heard how proud my parents were of their boys and how I was just pretty much a loser. Thankfully time has healed and my relationship is better.

[SpArK4GrL]

Continued - (He tried to 3 times before, but he got me on the last one) He goes to counsiling. Takes pills. I go to counsiling and so does my mom. I told mine about the coutch thing and she told me she had to tell this to her superviser or whatever. I don't think I was really abused, but idk. I also take depression pills now. I'm kinda myself when I do, but when I forget (Like last night...) I feel like crap (Bored, tired, short tempered, lazy, numb, worthless...) I liked the last slide :)

[SpArK4GrL]

I have all of these exept the hair loss, wrinkles, and no ability to laugh. (I used to anyways...) I think I was mentally abused. My dad never said he hated me, and he never said I was worthless. But he did say I was a horrible child, lazy, a pig, stupid, retarded, stuff like that I guess. He slapped me a few times randomly one summer when it was really bad. And this year he pushed me down the stairs with our coutch - continued

[jerzeytpke]

I cant take the abuse from my family and Im a grown woman. I lost my job had to move into my mothers house and all day long all I hear from her and my brother (whos a big fat baby who never married had kids OR left her or hom) Is your a scummbag your a piece of shit Your a waste of flesh you should kill yourself Im so sick at the moment. If this is family I dont know where else to turn or who to turn to. I am having severe panic attacks depression innsomnia stomach trouble too much to list

[ladyfuschia]

@jerzeytpke Get to a doctor for treatment for you anxiety, and get some loud headphones for when you're in the house!!

[Emilyproulx19749]

my father emotionally abuses me and medically neglects me I'm 16 and he calls me every bad name in the book.

[nyxong24]

You have forgotten the most important of all.... severe anxiety and stress.

[happycat2010]

@nyxong24 Been there myself and I will tell you it is no picnic, there were days that I was CONVINCED that I was going to die, the anxiety was SO SEVERE

[maktorri9]

The last one reeeally applies to me. I have had it all.

[kobraghodsi]

Also, even if your married...STOP making excuses for them! Society tells us we need to work it out with our marriage at whatever cost...through thick and thin. Dont be fooled!!! We live in a new age...things are different now. Stop making excuses for them. If you feel sick all the time or depressed then he isn't the one for you!! Trust me....it's sooo much better with out them. It takes time. At this time you may not have any more friends....MAKE NEW ONES

[kobraghodsi]

Who is this song by???? Note on this video.....Mental abuse signs also comes in the form of Ulcers, Mysterious pains in the body due to stress, lover hides your clothes, doesn't like you telling your friends about the relationship, will let you do things on your own but will give you a look like your abandoning him so you wont do it again or going out just isnt fun anymore. Let me tell you guys....when the majority rules that your boyfriend is a douchebag .HE IS!! ALWAYS TRUST YOUR GUT INSTINCT.

[eljay345]

I had to post three different comments sorry because it wouldn't post as one.

[eljay345]

My parents (Dad now deceased) have always allowed my eldest sister to do and say exactly what she wants now to the point of her totally taking over. She has used my disability as an excuse for not taking control of her own life and still being at home and because Mum knows how she is she has not allowed me to be as independent as I should so my eldest sister can use my disabilty as the excuse that she is still living in Mum's house.

[eljay345]

My eldest sister is never wrong it is always someone elses (first my other sister now me) that cause her to act this way in my mother's eyes. My other sister is living in another country now and I am in a wheelchair. My sister makes us feel exactly like it had on this video.

[eljay345]

My eldest sister is very verbally abusive and has been ever since I can remember. She has a very bad tempered and is very jealous of any attention any one else (especially me) receives because she still sees herself as a small child who craves attention not as an nearly 52 year old adult.My mother is very afraid of her and always has been and so basically allows her to treat her like a senile idiot. and me very badly.

[SylviaPenguin]

@eljay345, well, seems like your parents made a huge mistake letting her do and say what she wanted when growing up. She sounds very spoiled, yet, it is also because she never got so much lines by your parents, maybe? There is often many reasons for why some feel more jealous and are bad tempered.

[TheEmotionalAbuse]

@Trigun12349 no mater how sad u r, u will be happy again I'm sure of that because I've been there ;) I advice you to watch my video Smile & Laugh After Abuse and my other videos. enjoy xox

[ChosonKarate]

My parents fight a lot, and take out their anger on me. It's never physical, but it hurts just as bad. It's been going on for months, but I've never realized I was being "abused." I need help, but I'm too embarrassed to get it. I've talked to friends, and they just think I am complaining. I'm dropping out of school, and I'm joining the military, but i dont want to. I just dont see any other options. Can you give me any advice?

[TheEmotionalAbuse]

@ChosonKarate I think you have to relax to make reasonable decision. dropping from school is the biggest mistake you can ever do and if you did it you will regret it for the rest of your life, now about your parents issue you will have to talk to them and convince them to keep you out of thier bussines. ask them not to pull you into thier fights and .

[TheEmotionalAbuse]

@ChosonKarate explain to them that it is effecting your studying. you will also have to focus on resisting negative energy and ideas. you have to take control over yourself and to become the leader of yourself and of your decisions. because no one will be effected by the consequences but yourself so take control and don't be embarrassed especialy when the price is your future and happiness

[moonspirit1]

@ChosonKarate By joining the military I believe you're only suppressing and prolonging the pain and delaying any healing. You don't want to join the army, honour that. Anytime you stop activity the pain will still be right there. And you're not complaining. You're calling out for help! Bless you

[happycat2010]

@ChosonKarate I went through that too. Don't drop out of school. Do you have a relative or someone you can talk to , I ended up staying with relatives and close friends. eventually my folks got the picture and it improved our relationship.

[MrJivePirate]

@ChosonKarate learn a trade

[sflorries]

@ChosonKarate - it is common for traumatized people to start punishing themselves, it is a protective system, since it is in a sense easier to heal from wounds caused by yourself than by others. However, this often causes greater suffering in the long run. You say that you are too embarrassed to get help, you want to drop out of school and run away. These things just hurt yourself. Your friends are too young/inexperienced to help you, look for professional help. Sending you a hug!

[kisses9917]

@ChosonKarate I was goin thru the same thing. A lot of parents are like that they get into a fight and bring their children in. My mum was always angry of me and my sister, and when we were younger we actually felt guilty, now that I'm older and can think for myself i just can't get close to her no matter how much I try coz I always remember her face and how she used to get mad at me for me just being present. Just remember not to continue that cycle.

[MichelleBrown101]

Is it classified as mental abuse when somebody daily says that you're worthless, that you're lazy and selfish. That you can't do anything right? - That happens to me. Is it physical abuse when they have tried to strangle somebody, swung an axe at somebody, pushed them into a wall. Resulting in a fractured vertebrae, and a fracutured hand - That happened to my mum. All of this was done by my father.

[TheEmotionalAbuse]

@MichelleBrown101 yes clearly it is abuse. and it should never happen to anyone no mater what the reason is. your mother have to stand up for her self and have to tell some one who can protect her from this abuse.

[happycat2010]

@MichelleBrown101 Yes, Michelle that is abuse. Anything that demeans a person's character or makes them feel bad or worthless is considered abuse

[mayla1775]

Here is another intresting YouTube video on this topic - search for: "What Are The Seven Deadly Sins of a narcissist? - Dr. Sam Vaknin"

[nicerackz]

how do you know if things in your past are abuse? and what kind of abuse emotional physical? i have been thinking of seeing a shrink. my parents hit me when i was little and talked down to me and my brother...

[TheEmotionalAbuse]

I love it when you guys ask me questions. To be honest I didn't realize I was being abused until I broke up I was experiencing abnormal symptoms which reflected from emotional abuse & the more I read about abusers the more my x was described so I became aware of my mistakes & flaws. so my answer is research. u also can understand more about verbal abuse by watching my videos. I'm sory for your childhood experience & I recomend talking to my friend Alkistis instead of a shrink,in my Subscriptions

[TheEmotionalAbuse]

@nicerackz you can talk to my friend AlkistisTV she is on Utube and she can help.

[Chrissygirl67]

Wow no wonder I was starting to look bad when I was married.